18 ways to improve your body language

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Continuing from the previous post 6 reasons to improve your body language, here is just a few of many pointers on how to improve your body language. Improving your body language can make a big difference in your people skills, attractiveness and general mood.
There is no specific advice on how to use your body language. What you do might be interpreted in several ways, depending on the setting and who you are talking to. You'll probably want to use your body language differently when talking to your boss compared to when you talk to a girl/guy you're interested in. These are some common interpretations of body language and often more effective ways to communicate with your body.
First, to change your body language you must be aware of your body language. Notice how you sit, how you stand, how you use you hands and legs, what you do while talking to someone.
You might want to practice in front of a mirror. Yeah, it might seem silly but no one is watching you. This will give you good feedback on how you look to other people and give you an opportunity to practise a bit before going out into the world.
Another tip is to close your eyes and visualize how you would stand and sit to feel confident, open and relaxed or whatever you want to communicate. See yourself move like that version of yourself. Then try it out.
You might also want observe friends, role models, movie stars or other people you think has good body language. Observe what they do and you don't. Take bits and pieces you like from different people. Try using what you can learn from them.
Some of these tips might seem like you are faking something. But fake it til you make it is a useful way to learn something new. And remember, feelings work backwards too. If you smile a bit more you will feel happier. If you sit up straight you will feel more energetic and in control. If you slow down your movements you'll feel calmer. Your feelings will actually reinforce your new behaviours and feelings of weirdness will dissipate.
In the beginning easy it's to exaggerate your body language. You might sit with your legs almost ridiculously far apart or sit up straight in a tense pose all the time. That's ok. And people aren't looking as much as you think, they are worrying about their own problems. Just play around a bit, practice and monitor yourself to find a comfortable balance.
1. Don't cross your arms or legsYou have probably already heard you shouldn't cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or guarded. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.
2. Have eye contact, but don't stare – If there are several people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and you'll get used to it.
3. Don't be afraid to take up some space – Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin.
4. Relax your shoulders – When you feel tense it's easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly.
5. Nod when they are talking – nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don't overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker.
6. Don't slouch, sit up straight – but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner.
7. Lean, but not too muchIf you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you're confident in yourself and relaxed lean back a bit. But don't lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant.
8. Smile and laugh – lighten up, don't take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don't be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don't keep a smile plastered on your face, you'll seem insincere.
9. Don't touch your face – it might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation.
10. Keep you head up – Don't keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon.
11. Slow down a bit – this goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don't snap you're neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead.
12. Don't fidget – try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table rapidly. You'll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across. Declutter your movements if you are all over the place. Try to relax, slow down and focus your movements.
13. Use your hands more confidently – instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. But don't use them to much or it might become distracting. And don't let your hands flail around, use them with some control.
14. Lower your drink – don't hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don't hold anything in front of your heart as it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead.
15. Realise where you spine ends – many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore crane the neck forward in a Montgomery Burns-pose. Your spine ends in the back of your head. Keep you whole spine straight and aligned for better posture.
16. Don't stand too close –one of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, don't invade it.
17. Mirror – Often when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person's body language a bit. To make the connection better you can try a bit of proactive mirroring. If he leans forward, you might lean forward. If he puts hands in pocket, you might do the same. But don't react instantly and don't mirror every change in body language. Then weirdness will ensue.
18. Keep a good attitude – last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major difference. For information on how make yourself feel better read 10 ways to change how you feel and for relaxation try A very simple way to feel relaxed for 24 hours.
You can change your body language but as all new habits it takes a while. Especially things like keeping you head up might take time to correct if you have spent thousands of days looking at your feet. And if you try and change to many things at once it might become confusing and feel overwhelming.
Take a couple of these body language bits to work on every day for three to four weeks. By then they should have developed into new habits and something you'll do without even thinking about it. If not, keep on until it sticks. Then take another couple of things you'd like to change and work on them.
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Assalam alaikom brothers & sisters
Hope and fear these two are the components of love for Allah. After realizing the level of our faith, we should not loose our hope and always try to increase it.
As we are already aware the "Sign of Weak Imaan" which we discussed last week, now it's time for us to know the "Ways to Increase Imaan".


  1. Recite and ponder on the meanings of the Quran. Tranquility then descends and our hearts become soft. To get optimum benefit, remind yourself that Allah is speaking to you. People are described in different categories in the Quran; think of which one you find yourself in.
  2. Realize the greatness of Allah. Everything is under His control. There are signs in everything we see that points us to His greatness. Everything happens according to His permission. Allah keeps track and looks after everything, even a black ant on a black rock on a black moonless night.
  3. Make an effort to gain knowledge, for at least the basic things in daily life e.g. how to make wudu properly. Know the meanings behind Allah's names and attributes. People who have taqwa are those who have knowledge.
  4. Attend gatherings where Allah is remembered. In such gatherings we are surrounded by angels.
  5. We have to increase our good deeds. One good deed leads to another good deed. Allah will make the way easy for someone who gives charity and also make it easy for him or her to do good deeds. Good deeds must be done continuously, not in spurts.
  6. We must fear the miserable end to our lives; the remembrance of death.
  7. Remember the different levels of Akhirah, for instance when we are put in our graves, when we are judged, whether we will be in paradise or hell.
  8. Make dua, realize that we need Allah. Be humble. Don't covet material things in this life.
  9. Our love for Subhana Wa Ta'Ala must be shown in actions. We must hope Allah will accept our prayers, and be in constant fear that we do wrong. At night before going to sleep, we must think about what good we did during that day.
  10. Realize the effects of sins and disobedience- one's imaan is increased with good deeds and our imaan is decreased by bad deeds. Everything that happens is because Allah wanted it. When calamity befalls us- it is also from Allah. It is a direct result of our disobedience to Allah.
Wa ssalam alaikom wa rahmato Allah wa barakato

Backup Gmail Inbox Into Your Hard Drive

Backup Gmail Inbox Into Your Hard Drive

Backup Gmail Inbox Into Your Hard Drive

Posted: 07 Dec 2010 08:50 AM PST

gmail backup e1291736137698 Backup Gmail Inbox Into Your Hard DriveAn email Inbox contains everything of a internet user from personal emails to professional emails and even more than that. So what it case if it is deleted permanently accidently, got hacked or just got lost without any reason? If you are a Gmail user then there is a great solution for you.

Like Downloading your entire Facebook history into your hard drive, you can also download and keep the backup of your entire Gmail Email Inbox to avoid the risk of your emails getting lost. The application allows you to create backup copies of the messages in your Gmail account and also restore it later in case if needed.

Gmail Backup is all that freeware to backup your Entire Gmail Inbox into your hard drive without any pain. You should activate IMAP on your Gmail account to make this application run.

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You can download Gmail backup for absolutely free. It is available for both Windows and Linux platforms. Linux users should install wxPython package to make this freeware run on Linux.

After installation just open the application and configure the options to start download. Enter your full email address in the Gmail Login field and password in the Gmail password field. Select directory for your backup and select the time period of which you want to download emails. Then click 'Backup' button and let the download began.

Backup Gmail not just only got feature to download your entire Gmail Inbox but also allows you to restore your downloaded Inbox later. It means you can also migrate your Gmail Inbox to different Gmail account easily.

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Futuristic landline phone.

The latest design of the futuristic land line phones has been launched on the various web sites. These attractive futuristic designs are amazingly reviving the opulence of the traditional desk phones. The designs of this futuristic phone have been prepared by the Ronny Sauer, A German designer. These designs are named as hello tomorrow. These designs are embedded with the clear display of the receiver. A person can easily see the pictures of these attractive phones online.

These designs of the futuristic desk phones are equipped with all the functions of the mobile phones. A person can get the more information about these futuristic desk phones online. These futuristic desk phones are present in a very sleek design. A person can easily access all the functions on these attractive futuristic phones. These futuristic desk phones are present with the adjustable interface to enhance a person.


Some thoughts on eating



The Liver is the most sensitive, disciplined and dynamic organ of the body, which is activated when we are awakened and takes rest and is rejuvenated only when we sleep at night. Through out the day our liver is taking care of our physical, emotional, intellectual, moral and spiritual health by adjusting multiple sensors and correcting  thousands and thousands of cellular chemicals. So you can well imagine how important is the optimum functioning of the liver to stay healthy. By strictly following the diet correction rules of the SLIMS Program you will energize your liver, and it is going to handle your biochemical individuality by doing certain adjustments resulting in improvement in your individual problem areas within 2 - 4 weeks.

·         Correction of meal timings according to the rules of the 24 hours body clock rhythm. The most important meals are breakfast and dinner, and we have to be very careful regarding their timings, breakfast should be taken as early as possible after waking up and breakfast time finishes at 9a.m. If an early breakfast is not possible then a pre-breakfast of foods rich in antioxidants like dates, figs, nuts, raisins, prunes or honey water should be taken within 10 minutes of waking up. Adrenal glands and the Liver are the important organs which are activated within the first 10 min. of  waking up, and they need starter foods. Then from 9 a.m. – 4 p.m. body's intellectual or mental functions are dominant, so avoid heavy lunch and replace it with small portions of various snacks.. From 4 p.m. – 9 p.m. the body is again in digestive mode so dinner should be eaten during this time. Between all three major meals there should be an interval of minimum four hours. The Liver is rejuvenated or repaired every night  between 1 a.m. – 3 a.m. and therefore do not eat any thing during this time. 

·         Balanced food combinations are essentially required for the control of insulin levels as well as balanced or neutral blood ph and therefore for the prevention of disease.  Simple and complex carbohydrates cannot be mixed. Simple carbohydrates are digested within half an hour whereas complex carbohydrates take three and a half hours to digest. Therefore all fruits, desserts, juices or soft drinks should be taken either half an hour before the meal or three and half hours after the meals. This precaution can save you from repeated reactive hypoglycemic shocks and various hormonal imbalances, and protect you from future diabetes, cardiac problems, obesity, chronic indigestion and other serious degenerative disorders like cancers. Another important combination is of combining food groups, i.e. acidic, alkaline and neutral foods especially fruits, vegetables and nuts together in a single helping  to keep the blood ph neutral, which is essential for normal function of the liver.

·         Correct water intake is very essential. Before excretion water goes through a complex water metabolism and hence should be taken with care. Avoid cold or chilled water, it is liver toxic. 4-6 glasses of water in winters and 8-10 glasses of water should be taken in summers,  it should be taken half an hour before or one and half hours after a meal.

·         Temperature of foods and liquids taken is extremely important. You cannot combine warm meals and chilled drinks at the same meal. It puts extra load on your stomach and Liver because food needs to be brought close to body temperature before digestion.

·         Avoid repetition of foods, because after  few days, excess of one food starts accumulating toxic metabolites in our system, and the healing value of food starts decreasing and side effects start increasing. Repetition of foods exhaust liver detoxification process.

·         Avoid all processed or un-natural foods (dead foods), especially bran products, Skim milk, white flour and hydrogenated oil products, foods with artificial sweeteners, and all other man made and genetically modified foods like broiler chicken. Focus on natural foods ( living foods). The chemicals of artificial food overburden liver and kidney functions.



Article: what is proactiveness



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Look up proactive in Wiktionary, the free dictionary.

Proactivity is being anticipatory and taking charge of situations.

In Organizational Behavior and Industrial/Organizational Psychology, proactive behavior (or proactivity) by individuals refers to anticipatory, change-oriented and self-initiated behavior in the work place. Proactive behavior involves acting in advance of a future situation, rather than just reacting. It means taking control and making things happen rather than just adjusting to a situation or waiting for something to happen. Proactive employees generally do not need to be asked to act, nor do they require detailed instructions.

Proactive behavior can be contrasted with other work-related behaviors, such as proficiency, i.e. the fulfillment of predictable requirements of one's job, or adaptivity, the successful coping with and support of change initiated by others in the organization. In regard to the latter, whereas adaptivity is about responding to change, proactivity is about initiating change.

Proactivity is not restricted to extra role performance behaviors. Employees can be proactive in their prescribed role (e.g. by changing the way they perform a core task to be more efficient). Likewise, behaviors labeled as Organizational citizenship behavior (OCB) can be carried out proactively or passively. For example, the altruistic OCB s can be proactive in nature (e.g. of offering help to co-workers in anticipation, even before they ask, is an example of a proactive action. Other OCBs concerned with the compliance with rules and expectations might even be incompatible with proactivity.

The use of the word proactive, sometimes also written pro-active was limited to the domain of experimental psychology in the 1930s[1]. Oxford English Dictionary (OED)[2] credits Paul Whiteley and Gerald Blankfort, citing their 1933 paper discussing proactive inhibition as the "impairment or retardation of learning or of the remembering of what is learned by effects that remain active from conditions prior to the learning".[3] The 1946 book Man's Search for Meaning brought the word to the wider public domain. The author, Austrian existential neuropsychiatrist Dr. Viktor Emil Frankl, used the word proactive to describe a person who took responsibility for his or her life, rather than looking for causes in outside circumstances or other people. Frankl stressed the importance of courage, perseverance, individual responsibility and awareness of the existence of choices, regardless of the situation or context.[4]

Much of this theory was formed in Nazi concentration camps where Frankl lost his wife, mother, father and family, but decided that even under the worst circumstances, people can make and find meaning.

Alain Paul Martin observed that Frankl's original idea was gradually reduced to a binary opposition between the reactive (wrong and bad) and the proactive (right and good) options. Restricting choice solely to the reactive and proactive options can impede the freedom of choice and risk to severely hamper innovation and creativity

Some beautiful quotes from the book "Lift me Up - Words of Wisdom" by Ron Kaufman


Chapter-1: Everyday wisdom:

1.     Thought is the original source of all wealth, all success, all material gain, all great discoveries and inventions and of all achievement. – Claude Bristol

2.     The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.   – William James

3.     Great People talk about ideas, average people talk about events; small people talk about other people. – Anonymous

4.     You can tell whether a person is clever by his answers, you can tell whether a person is wise by his questions. – Mahfouz Naguib

5.     Going to work for a big company is like getting on a train. Are you going at sixty miles an hour or the company is going at  sixty miles an hour and you are just sitting? – Paul Getty

6.     The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. – Marcus Aurelius

7.     A wise man never knows all, a fool knows everything – African proverb

8.     None of us is as smart as all of us. – Japanese proverb



Chapter-2: Profound Wisdom:

1-     More mistakes, more experience. More experience, less mistakes.

2-     If you are patient in moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. – Chinese Proverb.

3-     Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking.  – Jackson Brown.

4-     Information applied gives knowledge. Knowledge applied yield wisdom. Wisdom applied brings success.

5-     To the man who only has a hammer, everything looks like a nail. – Abraham Maslow (the world we see is the reflection of who we are)

6-     Speak to open the minds of others, listen to open your own.


Chapter-3: Insightful Wisdom:

1-     Thoughts have power, thoughts are energy. You can make your own world or break it by your own thinking – Susan Taylor

2-     The commentator makes a  noise, the activists makes a difference.


Chapter-4: Acquiring Wisdom:

1-     I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow. – Woodrow Wilson.

2-     The ability to focus attention on important things is a defining characteristic of intelligence. – Robert Shiller

3-     What we see depends mainly on what we look for. – John Lubbock

4-     Being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a Viewing Point – A higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides. – Thomas Crum

5-     Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something. – Plato (Speak only when your words improve the silence)

6-     Half of being smart is knowing what you are dumb about. – Solomon Short. (The other half is finding someone smart about it who can help you)

7-     The difference between a smart man and a wise man is that smart man knows what to say and wise man knows when to say and whether or not to say. – Frank Garafola.






Informative: Instant Heart Rate Application for Android & Iphone





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This app constantly evolves and in process improves on ease of use and adds new features.

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Resting heart rate

The resting heart rate (HRrest) is a person's heart rate when they are at rest, that is lying down but awake, and not having recently exerted themselves. The typical healthy resting heart rate in adults is 60–80 bpm[2], with rates below 60 bpm referred to as bradycardia, and rates above 100 bpm referred to as tachycardia. Note however that conditioned athletes often have resting heart rates below 60 bpm. Cyclist Lance Armstrong had a resting HR around 32 bpm, and it is not unusual for people doing regular exercise to get below 50 bpm. Other cyclists like Miguel Indurain[3] and Alberto Contador[citation needed] have reported resting heart rates in the mid-20s, with American marathoner Ryan Hall at 29.

Musical tempo terms reflect levels relative to resting heart rate; Adagio (at ease, at rest) is typically 66–76 bpm, similar to human resting heart rate, while Lento and Largo ("Slow") are 40–60 bpm, which reflects that these tempi are slow relative to normal human heart rate. Similarly, faster tempi correspond to heart rates at higher levels of exertion, such as Andante (walking: 76–108 bpm) and the like.



Data Entry Forms in Excel

Make Awesome Data Entry Forms by using Conditional Formatting + Data Validation (chandoo.org)

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Posted: 07 Feb 2011 12:42 AM PST
Last week we saw a really cool holiday request form made by Theodor.
This week, we will learn how to combine conditional formatting and data validation to create an awesome data entry form.

First see a demo to understand what I mean:

Data Entry forms with Conditional Formatting & Data Validation - Demo

How to create such a data entry form?

Very simple, just grab a cup of coffee (or your favorite fried-nuts-crushed-and-brewed-with-hot-water) and follow my lead.

Step 1: Set up Data Validation

Assuming you need to gather some inputs, like shown above. First thing to do would be setting up data validation rules in a cell so that your users can specify the type of data they are entering. For eg. they can choose card or paypal or other as payment mode and depending on that, enter further details.
To do this, just select the cell and go to Data > Validation. Choose "List" as the rule and give values.
Data Validation Criteria for our form

Step 2: Add conditional formatting rules.

Now, based on the selected value, we need to highlight a set of cells.
Assuming all the data to be gathered in cells C4:G4,
Select first two cells (C4:D4), go to Home > Conditional Formatting > New Rule
Here, we need to tell Excel to highlight the C4 and D4 if the type of payment is Card.
So choose the CF rule type as "Use a formula to determine which cells to format" and the check if $B4 is "card".
Conditional Formatting Rules to highlight cells based on payment mode
Tip: We need to use $B4 since we want Excel to check column B even if we are applying formatting to C4 or D4. Read more.

Step 3: Add Conditional Formatting rules to other cells (E4:F4, G4)

Using the same logic.

Step 4: Bask in glory!

That is all. There is no step 4. We are done. Finish the coffee or whatever you mixed with hot water. Just save the file and send it to your customer, vendor or boss. Bask in glory as there will be fewer data entry mistakes and more awesome.

Home work: Get Creative and do more

You can use some creativity and make the data entry form even more awesome. For example, you could show a tick mark when the data entry is complete. Also you could highlight only when the cell is blank (ie if the data is already entered, there is no point highlighting)
See what I came up with:
Data Entry form - Advanced Example
I am not going to tell you how to do the above. That is for you to figure out.

Download Excel Files

Click here to download the excel file with the data entry form example. Play with it to understand how to make similar forms. Become awesome!
And if you can not solve the homework problem, download this file and examine it.

How do you make your data entry forms awesome?

I love data validation. It makes the whole process of gathering valid data dead simple. Also, it is an excellent way to change month or other settings in dashboards. (example 1, 2, 3)
What about you? How do you use Data Validation and other excel features to make your input forms both simple and awesome? Please share your experiences and ideas using comments. Go!

Learn More About Data Validation & Conditional Formatting:

As I said earlier, I really love data validation, conditional formatting features of Excel. They are quite powerful and very useful when working with lots of data. We have very good information about these features on chandoo.org. Start with the below articles to learn more.
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