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You're only a moment away from being more positive and
effective than you've ever been. You're only a moment away
from living life at its highest level. The only thing holding you back is your choice to keep
yourself back. That's a choice you can change right now.
 
You've gone long enough evading and avoiding your best
possibilities. Now it's time to accept that you're
absolutely worthy of the rich, fulfilling life you truly
desire.
 
That life can begin to be yours right now. That life can
start the moment you decide to stop hiding from the unique
beauty of who you truly are.
 
Yes, it will take effort, determination, faith, commitment
and discipline. And every moment of it will be infused with
the irreplaceable joy of knowing you're being true to your
own highest destiny.
 
Go ahead, from where you are, with what you have, and choose
to be an active participant in the unfolding of your best
possibilities. This is your life, this is your day, and this
is when the magic begins.
 
Ralph Marston


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How to Handle Fraudulant Situations

By Junaid Tahir


Ethical values are the treasure of each individual regardless of the financial status. However these values are put on stake when you are pushed by someone for specific immoral goals achievements. In this article, I shall cover the aspects which are to be considered when trapped in such circumstances. The article covers both professional and personal aspects.



First of all you need to ask yourself following questions in order to have thorough analysis of the situation:

1- Who is getting benefit out of it? Consider direct and indirect people involved.

2- Why you (and only you) are being asked/pushed to compromise?
3- What are the short term and long term personal consequences if you compromise?
4- What are the risks/impacts on the project/task if you compromise?
5- What will happen if you don't compromise? 
6- Can you consult some other person for advice?
7- Can you share the risks with other by involving other personnel/department on this task?
8- What does the company policy say? Are your actions in-line with your Job Descriptions?


Now that you have analyzed the situation, here are the guidelines which you need to consider for corrective and preventive actions:


1- Sometimes the matter is not really an ethical issue, it's just a difference of opinion so carefully understand on what you are being asked for. Sometimes you are doing a healthy compromise in the best interest of all stake holders (off course within your ethical values and in line with company policies)

2- If the matter is really critical, consider approaching the Fraud Management Team of your company. In some of the mature companies 'whistle blowing' or 'anonymous reporting' systems are set in place.

3- Seeking advice from your colleagues/close friends broadens your horizon and expose you to more options for consideration. Be careful whom you consider to seek advice. Ask the one who is honest and fair with you and would keep the secret in the long run.

4- Discuss the matter with your manager and document it, if possible. Make records for what you do, there is surely someone to ask later.

5- Define your principles to others quite often and show it time to time so that people know what type of person you are and what your ethical boundaries are. This is required to portray the traits of your personality so that others can develop a mental picture of you in their heads. This will prevent them approaching you for the wrong deeds.

6- Not every ethical issue is to be taken too much seriously, consequently, allowing it to steal your peace of mind. Every problem has several solutions. Keep it cool, stay mentally healthy, analyze the situation based on 8 points mentioned earlier in the post and then do the right act.

7- Sometimes a simple "No" helps. Just say so and put a full stop to the matter. Sometimes this is the most effective tool to use.


Religious approach to handle:


1- Have faith in God and do what your religion expects from you to do. Once done, leave it to God and He will turn the table for you. He is suffice for all your problems provided you have done the 'right'

2- Seek wisdom from God. Pray for the right path and He will guide you.

3- Whatever single deed you are doing is being recorded. You are answerable for what you have been doing during your life cycle. Good deeds result in good outcome not only in this world but also on the Day of Judgment; bad deeds bad results, here and hereafter! Be Honest and be fair. Do your self-audit quite often, in line with religion's principals.

4- Don't analyze the situation on political grounds which might divert your attention from the right path. Remember, Religion comes first. You should consider this filter for All of your problems. Anything which passes from this filter is the right thing to do.


Conclusion: Ethical Values (such as Truth, Honesty, Fairness, Transparency and self discipline) are unique treasure which you possess. Don't lose it at any cost. Your values are defining your character which is leading you towards your destiny. Sine you don't want to be a failure at the end of the day, so you need to stick to the humanitarian principles because the ultimate fact remains the same; 'As you sow, so shall you reap'. A Study confirms that the people who possess high ethical values are more happy than those who are engaged in fraudulent acts even if former earn less than the deceitful people. If you would like to read the types of Wealth, please visit this page 

 About Author: Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger. He writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management.

Strong Feelings means strong character?

 
 
Strong feelings do not necessarily make a strong character.  The strength of a man is to be measured by the power of the feelings he subdues not by the power of those which subdue him

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sub·due verb (used with object), -dued, -du·ing.

1. to conquer and bring into subjection: Rome subdued Gaul.
2. to overpower by superior force; overcome.
3. to bring under mental or emotional control, as by persuasion or intimidation; render submissive.
 

The Ripple Effect





When you throw a stone into a pond, you'll see a splash and hear a specific sound generated by the touch of stone with the water. You will notice circles rippling out from the point where stone hit the water. The stone touched the water only once however the number of waves was more than that. Did you also noticed that you did one simple act of throwing a stone but it resulted in several waves generation in all directions travelling to a large distance? This is what we call Ripple Effect.
If you closely observe your day to day life, you will notice that most of your acts are generating ripples in the society since a lot of people are getting affected either positively or negatively. If you are doing a positive act, the ripple effect is going to be positive. For example, if you help your friend or colleague, there is a most likely chance that he will help you and others when he finds you or others in any crisis. Hence I believe that positive acts result in positive ripples and negative effects generate negative ripples. Since this article is going to be read by all kind of intellectuals so I will summarize some basic example of positive and negative ripples. Article written by Junaid Tahir (mjunaidtahir at gmail dotcom)
1-    When you share some inspiring article/video/story with your friends through email, Facebook, Google Plus, blog, website or any other online media, it will have a positive impact on hundreds of lives; Just to elaborate, if you have sent this article by email to 100 friends and only 20 of those share the same information with their colleagues/friends then this article will reach and inspire another 20*100 = 2000 people. This won't stop here since these 2000 people are going to share that with another thousands of people so the article consequently touches millions!
2-   When you work on some humanity service project (for example, giving some money for charity on monthly basis, opening an orphan house, installing water tanks in areas where water is not available to drink, visiting hospitals to help poor people etc) you are generating an unstoppable ripple effect. Hundreds of people will get inspired by you and start doing the same (more or less) acts.
3-   When you want to show your driving 'skills' and 'thrills' by bad or speedy driving while your friends or family members are with you, you are encouraging them to do the same when they are given a chance. These friends will probably do the same and encourage more people for this bad act. Down the road in 6 month you might become the root cause of rash driving for 100+ people or more!

This paragraph is for Muslims only: If we closely think, the positive ripples can become a source of Sadqa Jaria which is extremely required after your death. If you have done something similar to Point-1 and Point-2, these deeds will keep sending you the Hasanat (currency of Aakhirah) in your after-death-bank-account. Always remember that dollars, pounds or euros wont help you on the day of Judgment, the thing which will help you is your acts of kindness and their usage by the society. If you inspire and convince more and more people for any good deed (by your words or by doing the task actually) you are basically ensuring your share in the Hasanat which they is going to do (while their share will not be impacted). 

Conclusion: Positive Acts of kindness can bring magical results on earth. Everyone need to understand the concept that all of his/her acts are generating ripples in the society which are either improving or polluting the society.
Do you audit yourself on how much pollution or prosperity you are contributing to the society?

The Frogs - Good Analogy

A Chinese farmer came into town and asked the owner of a restaurant if he could give him a million frogs. The restaurant owner was shocked and asked the man where he could get so many frog ! The farmer replied, 'There is a pond near my house that is full of frogs - millions of them. They all croak all night long and they are about to make me crazy!' So the restaurant owner and the farmer made an agreement that the farmer would deliver frogs to the restaurant, five hundred at a time for the next several weeks.

The first week, the farmer returned to the restaurant looking rather sheepish, with two scrawny little frogs. The restaurant owner said, 'Well... where are all the frogs?' The farmer said, 'I was mistaken. There were only these two frogs in the pond. But they sure were making a lot of noise!

( Next time you hear somebody criticizing or making fun of you, remember, it's probably just a couple of noisy frogs. Also remember that problems always seem bigger in the dark. Have you ever laid in your bed at night worrying about things which seem almost overwhelming like a million frogs croaking? Chances are pretty good that when the morning comes, and you take a closer look, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.)
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