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Success Advice: Talk About It

Talk About It.
Talking about your goals for success not only keeps them in the front of your mind but also keeps up your excitement level. In addition, it adds in an element of accountability. Think about it, you go around telling everyone that you are going to be a masseuse, those people are going to be expecting, and anxious to see you succeed. By talking about your goals, you are creating a motivational system - a system of accountability. Remember not to show off too much else people may make fun of you so spread the news to your closed ones...


Success Advice: Be Open To Improvement

Be Open To Improvement.
Sometimes, people get into the habit of thinking they have the answers needed. You need to accept that you do not have all the answers and more importantly, be open to recommendations from other people. That does not mean you have to agree or even follow those suggestions, but it does mean to listen. You never know when someone will have an idea that will make things easier and more functional, ultimately helping you arrive at your goal more efficiently.


Success Advice: Self push

Little Red Engine.
Do you remember the story of the caboose that was desperately trying to make it over a very large hill? He kept telling himself repeatedly, I think I can, I think I can. When you start feeling overwhelmed or defeated, tell yourself aloud these same words. While it may seem a little awkward at first, stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself, I think I can, I think I can. You might even change the words to, I know I can!


6 Tips for Resolving Conflicts

By Junaid Tahir: 
Resolving conflicts whether in office, in friends community or at home is a challenge. The situation sometimes get worst when nobody shows the flexibility on his/her stance. The below tips might help when you have been assigned (Or you assign it to yourself) to resolve  the conflict.

1-    Be fair regardless of your relation with different parties. Sometimes your closed one can be wrong. Hence make up your mind to be transparent and fair throughout. Judge people fairly.
2-   Empathetic Listening is very important. Listen to all parties carefully. Put yourself in their shoes to understand their stance.
3-   Carefully analyze the statements from each party. List down the pros

Ten Signs Of Good Manners



  1. Little arguing;
  2. Listening well;
  3. Avoiding searching for shortcomings;
  4. Covering mistakes;
  5. Finding excuse;
  6. Patience when annoyed;
  7. Blaming one's own self;
  8. Seeing one's own faults rather than other people's faults;
  9. Having a beaming face with the young and the old;
  10. Saying kind words to those who are below and above one (with regards to religious knowledge, righteousness, social status, and so forth)."
How many of them do you have? Audit yourself NOW.

Humour: Stung by a bee :)


Patient : Please doctor, help me !  I have been stung by a bee.

Doctor : Don't worry ! I'll put some cream on it.

Patient : You'll never find the bee. It must be miles away by now.

Doctor : No ! No ! Please understand. I'll put some cream on the place you were stung.

Patient : Oh! It happened in the garden where I was sitting under a tree.

Doctor : u #$%&!  I mean in which part of the body did the bee sting ?

Patient :  It stung me on my finger.

Doctor : Which one?

Patient : How am I to know? All the bees look the same to me

Doctor : u #$%&!u #$%&!u #$%&!u #$%&!


Story: The Pond of Milk

Once there was a king who told some of his workers to dig a pond. Once the pond was dug, the king made an announcement to his people saying that one person from each household has to bring a glass of milk during the night and pour it into the pond. So, the pond should be full of milk by the morning. 2- Be honest in your actions regardles of thinking about others. Your honesty is related to your character.

 After receiving the order, everyone went home. One man prepared to take the milk during the night. He thought that since everyone will bring milk, he could just hide a glass of water and pour inside the pond. Because it will be dark at night, no one will notice. So he quickly went and poured the water in the pond and came back.

 In the morning, the king came to visit the pond and to his surprise the pond was only filled with water! What has happened is that everyone was thinking like the other man that "I don't have to put the milk, someone else will do it."
The article can have so many differnet conclusions, here are a couple of them:

1- when it comes to help poor people, do not think that others will take care of it. Rather, it starts from you, if you don't do it, no one else will do it.So, change yourself to the way of God to serve Him and that will make the difference.

The Power Of Not Looking Back




By Junaid Tahir
If you carefully observe the people who are in stress, you will notice that they keep thinking about a specific event, conversation, failure, brawl or hard luck again and again which has happened to them in past. Such people do not have control on their thinking process hence they allow their brain to keep wandering in the past. While It's a known fact that bad luck happens to everyone, it's people's attitude and the quantum of reaction which defines the degree of stress. Since stress and happiness are vice versa so more stress results in less happiness or in some cases loss of happiness. Article written by Junaid.Tahir

Always remember that everyone passes through tragic moments in life however 
you will agree that the more you think about bad things happened in the past, the more magnitude of stress you give birth to.    Hence the chains of negativity and stress around your neck need to be broken and thrown away so as to move on with your life. 

The fact remains the same that you cannot change the past, neither you can boil the ocean so a wise person would not keep thinking about something which has already happened instead he would learn the lesson from the past and take measures which need to be done in order to prevent such happening in future. A wise man will always focus on the solutions instead of thinking about the problems.  Article written by Junaid.Tahir

So here is what I recommend: 
Take a pen and list down all the issues bothering you right now. You will, eventually, end up with a very limited number of issues causing depression back and forth. Now the next step is to split these issues into two groups. One group for which you do have some solution and the other group should contain the issues which are out of control. The worries and sorrows from the second group should be shun away. You need to train your brain not to think of something which is beyond control. Divert your focus on the issues for which you can do something. Do it now because this time will also become past and you would be cursing these moments for taking action at right time.

You may want to read my articles on stress by clicking here

About Author: Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management. His articles can be read Here

You Are The Results Of Yourself - Powerful words

  ....Pablo Neruda

Don't blame anyone, never complain of anyone or anything
Because basically you have made of your life what you wanted.
Accept the difficulties of edifying yourself
And the worth of starting to correct your character.
The triumph of the true man arises from the ashes of his mistakes.
Never complain of your loneliness or your luck.
Face it with courage and accept it.
Somehow, they are the result of your acts and
It shows that you'll always win.
Don't feel frustrated of your own failures, neither unload them to someone else.

Interview Tips for Project Managers


In this current economy we have a lot of individuals looking to either reposition themselves within various industries – including as PMs – or PMs looking for new work due to layoffs, etc. I thought this might be a helpful time to re-visit that list and provide what I consider to be some of the key questions that were discussed on that thread over the course of several months.

Some key suggested questions include:
  • How do you handle non-productive team members?
  • Tell me about a situation where your loyalty was challenged. What did you do? Why?
  • Give me an example of

Joke: Describing Wife :)


A wife asked her husband to describe her.
He looked at her, then said, "You're A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K".
She asks, "What does that mean"? He said, "Adorable, Beautiful, Cute Delightful ,
Elegant, Foxy, Gorgeous, Hot". She smiled and said, "Oh, that's sweet,
but what about 'I, J, K'"? He said, "I'm Just Kidding' ".
His eye is still swollen, but it will get better ...!!

Story: Self appraisal

A little boy went into a drug store, reached for a soda carton and pulled it over to the telephone. He climbed onto the carton so that he could reach the buttons on the phone and proceeded to punch in ten-digits (phone numbers).
The store-owner observed and listened to the conversation:
Boy: 'Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn?
Woman: (at the other end of the phone line): 'I already have someone to cut my lawn.'
Boy: 'Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price of the person who cuts your lawn now.'
Woman: I'm very satisfied with 
the person who is presently cutting my lawn.

Boy: (with more perseverance): 'I'll even sweepyour curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will have the prettiest lawn in all of Palm beach, Florida.'
Woman: No, thank you.
With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver.
The store-owner, who was listening to all this, walked over to the boy.
Store Owner: 'Son... I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like to offer you a job.'
Boy: 'No thanks'.
Store Owner: But you were really pleading for one.
Boy: No Sir, I was just checking my performance at the job I already have. I am the one who is working for that lady, I was talking to!'

For Beginners: Some Tips to improve your English



  1. Sign up for a regular English tip on several websites.
  2. Read a book you've already read
  3. Read a book with lots of dialogue.
  4. Read English language magazines.
  5. Take a one week intensive course.
  6. Teach your children or friends some English.
  7. Say or think what you are doing in English as you do your daily tasks.
  8. Watch English language news.
  9. Watching English children's TV programmes.
  10. Read English children's books.
  11. Make your own vocabulary and read it several times daily

Story: The Power of Positive Talk


I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.
One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy,was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.
I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did fall. My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image.

In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something.
The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that.
For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball. My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win.
I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career. If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue.
Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words. Notice when you or other people use them.
   Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
   Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
   Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
   Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener..
   Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
   Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen implies guilt
  Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
 Ø Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.


Example-1:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"* *

Example-2:
Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid.

Old Story with Good Lesson



A mouse looked through the crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife open a package... "What food might this contain?" The mouse wondered - he was devastated to discover it was a mousetrap.
Retreating to the farmyard, the mouse proclaimed the warning.  "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" 
The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said,  "Mr. Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern to you but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it."
The mouse turned to the goat and told him "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!"  The goat sympathized, but said, "I am so very sorry, Mr. Mouse, but there is nothing I can do about it. "
The mouse turned to the cow and said, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!"  The cow said, "Wow, Mr. Mouse.  I'm sorry for you, but it's no skin off my nose. But wish you well; be assured you are in my prayers "
So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer's mousetrap-- alone.
That very night a sound was heard throughout the house -- like the sound  of a mousetrap catching its prey. The farmer's wife rushed to see what was  caught.   In the darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught.  The snake bit the farmer's wife.
The farmer rushed her to the hospital  and she returned home with a fever. Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard  for the soup's main ingredient.  But his wife's sickness continued, so friends and neighbors came to sit with her  around the clock. To feed them, the farmer  butchered the goat.  The farmer's wife did not get well; she died.
So many people came for her funeral, the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide enough meat  for all of them. The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in
the wall with great sadness.


So, the next time you hear someone is facing a problem and think it doesn't concern you, Remember that when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk.  We are all involved in this journey called life. We must keep an eye out for one another  and make an extra effort to encourage one another because directly or indirectly we might have to suffer!!!

Drop all negative references of your past


One of the most severely limiting beliefs that many of us have is that the person we were yesterday is the person we have to be today.
If you can see how ridiculous and self-defeating this belief is, you can make an instant shift toward success. What prevents us from tapping into this potential is our own mental ties to the past.
Letting go of your past is like taking a set of heavy chains from around your neck.

For Freshers: What is PMP Certificate


Carrie Thomas received a B.B.A. in marketing from St. Edward's University. Her professional experience is focused in marketing coordination. She has been writing for approximately two years in various capacities. Her published work resides with Demand Studios.

A Project Management Professional (PMP) certificate recognizes an individual's ability to lead and direct projects. With a PMP certification it is understood that an individual will be knowledgeable in industry jargon, competent in the processes of project management, and up to date in industry guidelines, processes and general news. A PMP certification is a globally-recognized credential.

  1. Eligibility Requirements

    • To obtain a PMP certificate you must have either a high school diploma, five years of project management experience and 35 hours of project management education or a bachelor's degree or equivalent, three years of project management experience and 35 hours of project management education.

    Project Management Education

    • The 35 hours of project management education must be obtained through an approved education provider listed on the Project Management Institute's web page.

    • Once eligible, you must fill out an application through the Project Management Institute, take a multiple choice exam, pay a fee (around $500 American) and keep up with credential maintenance every few years.

    Application Process Timeframe

    • For a PMP certification, it takes most people to complete the application in entirety takes around eight hours. If you mail your application, the process will take a little longer compared to the online application. If applying online, there is an application check list which you can follow in the PMP certification handbook.

    Project Management Institute Membership

    • You can also become a member of the Project Management Institute. This membership does not require that you are PMP certified, but offers newsletters, networking, volunteer opportunities, seminars and project management related educational materials. Obtaining a PMI membership is a way to further educate and become involved in the project management environment. Yearly membership fees are under $200

Thought for the day - Second Thought


Sometimes in life it's very important how a person behaves with you rather than what's that person's image in the society.
Always give a second thought before judging someone.

After all it's the same sun which hardens clay, melts the snow

How Do You Want To Be Remembered


When you die, you will be shown as a birth date, a death date and a dash between.
Live your life so that people will remember the dash, not the numbers 


Words of Knowledge :: #452
By Gary Smith from Logansport, IN USA. 

 


M Junaid Tahir


Read my blog : http://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/

 

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Be Willing to Learn



Many of us are reluctant to learn from the people closest to us—our authorities, colleagues, staff and friends. Rather than being open to learning, we close ourselves off out of embarrassment, fear, stubbornness, or pride. It's almost as if we say to ourselves, "I have already learned all that I can [or want to learn] from this person; there is nothing else I can [or need to] learn."
It's sad, because often the people closest to us know us the best. They are sometimes able to see ways in which we are acting in a self-defeating manner and can offer very simple solutions. If we are too proud or stubborn to learn, we lose out on some wonderful, simple ways to improve our lives.

Remain open to the suggestions of . Ask senior devotees and authorities, "What are some of my blind spots?" By this simple process you end up getting some good advice. It's such a simple shortcut for growth, yet almost no one uses it. All it takes is a little courage and humility, and the ability to let go of your ego. This is especially true if you are in the habit of ignoring suggestions, taking them as criticism.

Pick something that you feel the person whom you are asking is qualified to answer. Sometimes the advice we get usually prevents us from having to learn something the hard way

9 Tips To Make Effective Decisions



By Junaid Tahir
Its true that you are the product of your own thoughts and decisions. Whatever you decide on daily basis, whatever you do in your routine life is directly or indirectly linked to your future. That means you are making the foundation of your destiny with your decision and actions in your routine life. So by looking at the bigger picture, it is right to conclude that decision making is critically important for your success and achievements of lifetime goals.  Given below is the list of insightful factors which you need to considere while making decisions.  Article written by Junaid.Tahir

1.     Consider the short term and long term consequences: Whether the decision is materialistic or a sensitive family matter.  You have to consider short terms and long terms benefits.

Story of appreciation



One young man academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the Young Man's academic achievements were excellent all the way,
from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score good grades.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the Young Man answered "None."

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?"
The Young Man answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees."
The director asked, "Where did your mother work?"
The Young Man answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner."
The director requested the Young Man to show his hands. The Young Man showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?"

The Young Man answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me."

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning."

The Young Man felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The Young Man cleaned his mother's hands slowly.
His tear fell as he did that.
It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the Young Man realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the Young Man quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the Young Man went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the Young Man's eyes, asked: "Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The Young Man answered, "I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes."

The Director asked, "Please tell me your feelings."

The Young Man said,
Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not be the successful me today.
Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, "This is what I am looking for to be my manager."

I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of
others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.