- The power to succeed or fail is yours alone.
- You alone have the responsibility to shape your life.
- Nothing and no one can deny you greatness once you understand this.
- There's no one on earth to stop you but yourself.
- No one on earth can cheat you out of ultimate success but you.
- More powerful than all the success slogans ever written is the realization that everyone has but one boss on earth.
- That boss is you.
- Picture yourself vividly as winning, and that alone will contribute immeasurably to success
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The Master chuckled and then asked the young man to take another handful of salt and put it in the lake. The two walked in silence to the nearby lake and when the apprentice swirled his handful of salt into the lake, the old man said, "Now drink from the lake."
As the water dripped down the young man's chin, the Master asked, "How does it taste?" "Good!" remarked the apprentice. "Do you taste the salt?" asked the Master. "No," said the young man.
The Master sat beside this troubled young man, took his hands, and said, "The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains the same, exactly the same. But the amount we taste the 'pain' depends on the container we put it into. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things..... Stop being a glass. Become a lake!"
Dr. Randy Pausch died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book 'The last lecture" before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind…
In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan , and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow. May you be blessed by his insight.
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over-do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. Whatever good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.
While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with,
people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.
Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you
Creative thinking is thinking that looks way past the obvious. In creative thinking you look for things that at first are not so evident.
As usual, you might be wondering what does this have to do with Leadership? A lot!!! Leaders recognize and understand the importance of creativity in their environments. Great leaders nurture and foster creativity in their teams. That's why it's so important that leaders are creative themselves.
In the book Organizing Genius by Warren Bennis there's a quote that took my attention:
How to Become a Creative Thinker
Here is a list of skills you should work with to help you develop creative thinking:
Remember, Be Alert, Be A Leader
• But you must have a clear idea of the problem or the goal you want to reach.
• All you have to do is know where you're going.
• The answers will come to you of their own accord.
• Don't procrastinate when faced with a big difficult problem, break the problem into parts, and handle one part at a time. Remember, the Impossible can always be broken down in to possibilities.
• If you can get up the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed.
• It's the job you never start that takes the longest to finish.
• Don't worry about what lies dimly at a distance, but do what lies clearly ahead.
• Your biggest opportunity is where you are right now.
• When you begin you are half done.
|M Junaid Tahir|
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A man of confidence appreciates the success of the others and shares his happiness with them.
Whereas a man of ego discourages and humiliates others and feels jealous of the success of others
"Why did you take all this time to come? Don't you know that my son's life is in danger? Don't you have the sense of responsibility?"
The doctor smiled and said:
"I am sorry, I wasn't in the hospital and I came the fastest I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you'd calm down so that I can do my work"
"Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??" said the father angrily
The doctor smiled again and replied: "I will say what Job said in the Holy Bible "From dust we came and to dust we return, blessed be the name of God". Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by God's grace"
"Giving advice when we're not concerned is so easy" Murmured the father.
The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, "Thank God! Your son is saved!"
And without waiting for the father's reply he carried on his way running. "If you have any question, ask the nurse!!"
"Why is he so arrogant? He couldn't wait some minutes so that I ask about my son's state" Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.
The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: "His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son's surgery. And now that he saved your son's life, he left running to finish his son's burial."
NEVER JUDGE ANYONE because you never know how their life is and as to what is happening or what they're going through.
Different people have different ways to spend their lives. As a result, simplifying life would carry a different meaning for each one of us.
I wouldn't be wrong if I assume that most of us want to spend time with their loved ones, do work that they really like to do, have time for hobbies, spend less time finding important stuff and just be happy. And if we are not able to accomplish most of the above, we need to look at and simplify a few things in our lives.
1. Figure Out What's Really ImportantFiguring out what's really important to you, what makes you happy and what are the goals for your life is the first step towards the simplification you aim to achieve.
It's only when you know what's really important, you can prioritize your tasks accordingly and get things done without being stressed.
2. Analyze Your Current RoutineSpend a day analyzing how you have been spending your days. What is your daily routine like? Has it helped with your work? Has it helped your health? Are you able to take time out for family and friends? Have you been prioritizing tasks according to what's really important? Is the routine designed accordingly?
If any of these are out of whack, it's time to change the routine.
3. Overcome Information OverloadAlthough most of the information we consume every day may appear to be "life-saving" at first glance, it's actually avoidable. I've talked about tips for managing information overload and managing your RSS feeds before here at WorkAwesome.
Susan offered tips on managing email overload. Did you read and implement the steps suggested? If you haven't yet, it's time you get started with them.
4. Simplify Household TasksMost people don't realize that household chores, if not done productively, could easily take up a significant chunk of your time. It's important to simplify them.
What are the chores you do every day? Which of them have to be done every day? How do you organize your household in a way that it eliminates many chores? These are some questions you need to answer.
5. Get Rid of Things You Don't UseTake a look at that old bookshelf that has piles of books gathering dust. You never read any of them twice. Heck, you didn't even read some of them once! Don't you think you are better off distributing them to someone who could benefit from reading them?
The same can be applied to your DVDs, CDs, gadgets et al. Either sell them or give them away. Simplify.
6. Don't Buy Things You Might Not UseThe reason you had that enormous collection of books or DVDs in the first place was because you bought them thinking they'd be of great help. Turns out you were wrong.
So, from now on, only buy things you are likely to use — and use often. When it comes to books and movies (unless you are a voracious reader or a movie buff) you can borrow or rent them instead of buying each new thing that comes out.
7. De-clutter and Organize Your Home & WorkplaceYes, de-clutter. De-clutter your desk, de-clutter your desktop, de-clutter your workspace. Just get started on cleaning up the mess that's surrounding you.
Make things look clean and simple around you. This is an important step in simplifying your life.
8. Go PaperlessIf you look around you, most of the clutter is constituted by paper in one or form or another. So going paperless not only makes your work easier and saves you time, it also significantly reduces workspace clutter.
I understand that a few tasks need paper. But try to use latest tools and software as much as possible to get things done.
9. Delegate and Get HelpNo matter how organized you are — and how easily you can get things done — if your work grows, you are bound to get overwhelmed if you are doing it all alone. And that's not just for your work, but for everything else in your life.
Delegating tasks to others who can do it better than you, collaborating with friends in various aspects of life, seeking help from someone who knows it better…all this helps to keep you sane and carry on with life without getting stressed and frustrated.
10. Disconnect OftenLast, and probably the most important step in simplifying your life – disconnect often. Disconnect from what? From anything that has you connected all day. It could be the internet for one, a cellphone for another. For someone, it might be a musical instrument which he just can't stop playing for hours.
Take a few hours off every week, and a day or two off every month from what you do every day. Stay disconnected…stay abandoned. Spend time with yourself, with something you like to do but can't find time for, with someone you love but don't have time for, with nature. Take time out and thank the universe for the life and the opportunities you've got.
When I was in grade school I really enjoyed lying. Not the white lies you tell your mom when you ate cookies that you weren't supposed to. I'm talking about the elaborate lies you tell friends to make yourself appear to be better than you are. I remember convincing my friends in 3rd grade that my father was the President of Coca Cola. I remember convincing my friends in 5th grade that I had gone deaf in one ear. That was a lot of fun. As I got older, my lying continued. I enjoyed people's reactions to my seemingly amazing life. When I was 15 that all changed. I met someone I really looked up to (he was 17). He became a mentor for me as I began my foray into the astral world. He's the one who helped me raise my vibration so the "ookie spookies" wouldn't bother me. He's the one who put me on the path of honesty and integrity. And he did it by hurting me so badly that I changed instantly. Here's what happened.
In my usual fashion, I told him lies just like I had been telling other people. I made up elaborate stories to get him to be more interested in me because I wasn't sure the truth would be enough to make him want to continue working with me. But he knew me so well, probably better than I knew myself. One day he told me, "I can't talk to you on the phone anymore because I can't see your eyes and so I'm not sure when you're lying to me." That really shocked me. One, because I didn't know he knew I had been lying to him sometimes, and two, because he was willing to end our friendship over those lies. I vowed in that moment that I would never lie to him again. It was a hard transition for me to make because I was used to exaggerating stories and experiences to get attention. But for him, and for his wise counsel, I made a pact with myself never to tell even one single white lie to him again. In time, his trust in me was rebuilt and we enjoyed a great friendship and relationship.
That's how I learned the value of honesty. I decided that I would honor the truth. I decided that the truth was powerful and strong, and that lies merely created a false foundation that could crumble at the slightest poking. I realized that I felt more powerful when I told the truth. I felt like I was helping to build reality instead of creating a false Matrix-like reality. As Merlin said in the movie, Excalibur, to Arthur, "When a man lies, he murders some part of the world." It's true. Every lie you tell alters the universe and makes it unreal.
In my 20′s, I had a friend who was a pathological liar. Her life was based on lies and the elaborateness of her lies would put my early days to shame. We discussed honesty a lot, and I told her that I couldn't trust that she was telling me the truth since she told me so often of the lies she was telling other people. In a way, I did to her what my mentor did to me. I told her that I couldn't be her friend unless I knew I could trust her. She asked me how to be honest all the time. My answer was simple:
Never do something you will have to lie about later. If you have to lie about it, you shouldn't be doing it.
After all, if you feel good about what you're doing, why would you lie about it? Don't we lie when we are ashamed of who we are or what we've done?
In many organizations, most employees don't have a clue about what's going on. Information is power, and some managers use information — in particular, the control of information – to ensure that they're the most knowledgeable and therefore the most valuable individuals in an organization. Some managers shy away from social situations and naturally avoid communicating with their employees — especially when the communication is negative in some way. Others simply don't make efforts to communicate information to their employees on an ongoing basis, letting other, more pressing business take precedence by selectively "forgetting" to tell their employees.
The health of today's organizations — especially during times of change — depends on the widespread dissemination of information throughout an organization and the communication that enables this dissemination to happen. Employees mustbe empowered with information so that they can make the best decisions at the lowest possible level in the organization, quickly and without the approval of higher-ups.
To some of your employees, you're a resource. To others, you're a trusted associate. Still others may consider you to be a mentor, while others see you as a coach or parent. However your employees view you, they all need your time and guidance during the course of their careers. Managing is a people job — you need to make time for people. Some workers may need your time more than others. You must assess your employees' individual needs and address them.
Although some of your employees may be highly experienced and require little supervision, others may need almost constant attention when they're new to a job or task. When an employee needs to talk, make sure that you're available. Put your work aside for a moment, ignore your phone, and give your employee your undivided attention. Not only do you show your employees that they are important, but when you focus on them, but you also hear what they have to say.
1- Next time you hear somebody criticizing or making fun of you, remember, it's probably just a couple of noisy frogs.
2- Problems always seem bigger in the dark. Have you ever laid in your bed at night worrying about things which seem almost overwhelming like a million frogs croaking? Chances are pretty good that when the morning comes, and you take a closer look, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.
Muhammad Amjad is a good friend of mine and I always spend quality time with him. Today, while we were discussing different personality traits from Anger Management perspective, he introduced me to the concept of Explosive and Implosive Personalities. So here is the summary of what we discussed:
|M Junaid Tahir|
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