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Leadreship Tip: Recognize Employees Who Step Up

Some of your most valuable employees are those junior staff who act and contribute far beyond their pay grade. Look out for these individuals so you can recognize them, cultivate their talents, and set them up as examples to others. Here are three characteristics to spot:
They focus on results. Because they concentrate on the outcomes rather than the process, they know when to break rules — and it's not to be rebellious
They have strong interpersonal skills. Despite their junior titles, these stars lead through influence. And they gain that sway by connecting with others.
They demonstrate high integrity. They are consistent in their actions and words. When conflicts arise, others look to them over formal leaders for guidance.

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M Junaid Tahir

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Story: The Stone on the Road


 
One day a farmer, walking down the street in a small town came across a large stone in the middle of his path. The farmer complained: "Who could be so careless as to leave such a big stone on the road? Why does someone not remove it?" He went away complaining. 
The next day, the same thing happened with a milkman. He too went away grumbling but left the stone as it was. Then one day, a student came across the stone. Worried that some¬one may fall over it and hurt himself, he decided to push it aside. He pushed long and hard all by himself and eventually managed to remove the stone from the path. He came back and noticed a piece of paper where the stone was kept. He picked the paper and opened it. Inside was written, "You are the true wealth of this nation."

There are two kinds of people - talkers and doers. Talkers merely talk, while doers do. The moral of this story is that if you don't want to get involved you have no right to criticise. Become the change you wish to see in this world.
Service to society is the rent we pay for the space we occupy on this earth

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M Junaid Tahir

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Attitude and emotions - Powerful Lesson

When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don't want it to be done and when we are not able to accept it, we become angry.   
 
However, when someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don't want it to be done – and we are able to accept it – We remain tolerant.
 
When someone has something which we don't have, or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce – and we are not able to accept it – we become jealous.   
 
When someone has something which we don't have or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce and we are able to accept it we get inspired.
 
When Someone is present in our thoughts, but if not physically present and we are not able to accept it – We say 'I am missing you'.   
 
When someone is present in our thoughts, but not physically present – and we are able to accept it – We say 'I am thinking of you'.
 
Then emotional equation is quite simple.
 
Something + Acceptance         =  Positive Emotion
Something + Non Acceptance  =  Negative Emotion
 
So, it is not 'Something' or 'someone' who is making us feel positive or negative, but it is our 'acceptance' or 'non acceptance' of something or someone, which is making us feel positive or negative.    
 
It isn't the world but the quality of our response to the world (acceptance or non acceptance) that determines the quality of our emotions.
 
Next time we feel disturbed with a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing us, we will examine who or what we are resisting (not accepting) that is causing this disturbance in us. We will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.
 
Emotional management begins by stopping to blame that 'something' or 'someone' and starting to take the responsibility to respond to life with 'acceptance' .
 


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M Junaid Tahir

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I am an Ideal Person




Quite often you have thought that:
There is nothing wrong in what I do to others;
My thoughts about myself and others are perfectly logical;
The way I communicate is very sound and reasonable;
So overall I am close to an ideal human being !!!

Right? Wrong. You can be wrong some times. Everyone can be wrong sometimes and if you don't mind, let me say, you can be wrong quite often; several times a day even. It's my polite way of telling you that there is nothing wrong in being wrong as long as you understand your fault and strive to eradicate it. Actually, the sooner you confess this fact, the sooner you will open the doors of self-improvement and pave the way to reach your destination to achieve your life-time goals.

Remember this reality that successful people are those who consistently audit themselves on what they think, what and when they speak and how they act. Such people keep improving their mental horizons and their personality traits and consequently become the 'men of honor' in the eyes of the world. On the contrary, unsuccessful people are those who keep finding faults in others and keep considering themselves as a concrete ideal personality and leave no cushion for improvement.

So in conclusion it's a matter of choice on whether you would like to be a victorious person or a complete disaster. A wise man said that I have learnt the wisdom from fools because I don't do what they do. So the advice here is to keep your mind open all the times; observe others not to find their faults but to improve yourself. One day you will become what you consistently think and what you repeatedly do.

For Muslims there is a Hadith of Prophet Muhammad PBUH which says that you are in loss if your today is not better than yesterday. So take the dosage of wisdom every day by learning something new to keep polishing yourself in order to fulfill your dreams.

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The Power Of Not Looking Back





If you carefully observe the people who are in stress, you will notice that they keep thinking about a specific event, conversation, failure, brawl or hard luck again and again which has happened to them in past. Such people do not have control on their thinking process hence they allow their brain to keep wandering in the past. It's a known fact that bad luck happens to everyone, it's people's attitude and they way of reaction which defines the degree of stress. As stress and happiness are vice versa so more stress results in less happiness or in some cases loss of happiness. Article written by Junaid.Tahir
Always remember that everyone passes through tragic moments in life however 
you will agree that the more you think about bad things happened in the past, the more quantum of stress you add in your brain. 
The chains of negativity and stress around your neck need to be broken and thrown away so as to move on with your life. The fact remains the same that you cannot change the past, neither you can boil the ocean so a wise person would not keep thinking about something which has already happened instead he would learn the lesson from the past and take measures which need to be done in order to prevent such happening in future. A wise man will always focus on the solutions instead of thinking about the problems.  Article written by Junaid.Tahir
I recommend you to take the pen and list down all the issues from your past on a page. You will, eventually, end up with a very limited number of issues which are bothering your mind and adding depression again and again. Now the next step is to split these issues into two groups. One group for which you do have some solution and the other group should contain the issues which are out of control. The worries and sorrows from the second group should be shun away. You need to train your brain not to think of something which is beyond control. Divert your focus on the issues for which you can do something. Do it now because this time will also become past and you would be cursing these moments for taking action at right time.
You may want to read my articles on stress by clicking here 
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11 proven ways to gain unstoppable confidence

 


#1 - KNOWLEDGE IS POWER
Those who know are ultimately much more confident in any arena than those shrouded in ignorance. Use your spare time to read up on the things that interest you, on the things that you are curious about, and build up a solid base of knowledge and critical thinking. The more you know, the more sure of yourself you will be in any situation.

#2 - EXPERIENCE
Uncertainty is the biggest drain on your self-confidence. Succumbing to doubt ensures you will never believe in yourself. The more often you do something, the more certain you become. With certainty comes confidence.

#3 - CARE-FREE ATTITUDE
Try to walk through your day with as easy and care-free of an attitude as you can muster, because someone who is it ease with him or herself is someone who is confident. Build unstoppable confidence by not getting hung up on the petty issues and minor irritations that help wear you down.

#4 - HONEST SELF-ASSESSMENT
Take stock of yourself. Brainstorm for a bit and compose a list of your good qualities and bad, the things you excel at and the things you need to improve upon, and once you have a clear picture of yourself much of the uncertainty that breeds doubt will wash away.

#5 - ANALYZE
Take the time to properly think through every problem, and the confidence in your skills will grow.

#6 - BE THOROUGH
Try to be as complete and thorough at every task you attempt. Completing tasks builds confidence in your ability to always see projects through to their proper conclusion.

#7 - IDENTIFY YOUR LIMITS, AND EXCEED THEM
Once you have assessed yourself, make a list of goals you wish to accomplish, and get to work. You now know your true limits, so the only thing left to do is push beyond them and set your sights on new frontiers.

#8 - BE OPEN TO HELPING OTHERS
Don't close yourself off to friends, acquaintances and coworkers. The more you put yourself out there in business and social situations, the more quickly you will build confidence in your ability to navigate these sometimes tricky waters.

#9 - COMPOSE YOURSELF
Dress well, groom yourself, compose your identity as a person who is well put together, and you will feel confident when meeting new people and doing new things.

#10 - BE DECISIVE
While it is okay to take time to analyze and think situations through, the time comes when you must be decisive and act.Decisive people are confident; not confident people are decisive.

#11 – BE COMPLETE
Know yourself fully, wash away your own doubts about yourself, your identity and your capabilities, and present every aspect of yourself in every situation and you will have no reason to doubt your confidence. Become your full, real self.
A lot of confidence building techniques simply do not work. I've tried everything out there and studied confident people to see what makes them who they are. Continue reading this article for the top 11 traits you can develop to build strong self-confidence that attracts the people, job, and pleasures of life you want.
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Ten Point Program for happy Family



  1. Avoid the next quarrel: Never lose temper at the same time. Don't let the sun set on your quarrels (Never prolong fights if at all started). It is OK to say "I am sorry"
  2. Do not expect perfection from your spouseMarriage is coming together of two imperfect beings. Don't expect wife or husband to like this or that, accept them as they are.
  3. Be a Good Listener:  Think before speaking, it is a good idea to weigh before you speak. You are master of unspoken words but slave of spoken words. Better than listening from ear is listening through mind (with attention) and better than that is listening from heart.
  4. Be a good forgiver: Some people forgive but they keep the memory alive or they forgive conditionally. Forgiveness should be complete and unconditional.
  5. Grow in the spirit of humility: Be humble. Egos bring arrogance which divide and separate people.
  6. Learn the art of appreciation: We all like to be appreciated. Always appreciate in front of others. Never criticize in a company of friends and relatives, you will get opportunities in privacy.
  7. Do not argue: Winning love and friendship is far greater than winning an argument. It is OK to discuss with a open mind. Learn to win love and affection rather than arguments.
  8. Develop healthy sense of humor: Learn to laugh and be cheerful. It is a great tonic for healthy living and being accepted by friends. It is important to laugh with others and NOT at others.
  9. Always lend a helpful hand: You will win over if you have this attitude of offering a helpful hand with or without asking.
  10. Bring GOD back into your home: This is one of the most important one. Have a common time for prayers. It brings families together. Families that pray together stays together

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M Junaid Tahir

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Don't Pursue a Doomed Idea


When it comes to innovation, irrationality can be a blessing. Many a great decision has resulted from people taking risks that didn't make logical sense at the time. But irrationality can also blind innovators to real problems. Here are three ways to seek the right amount of reason:
  • Find a devil's advocate. Look for someone who can poke holes in your thinking and point out when you're being dangerously irrational.
  • Test your hypotheses. Turn your proclamations into experiments. Use them to check your logic.
  • Make resources scarce. An abundance of time, money, or people should accelerate innovation, but it often does the opposite. Set early deadlines, consciously constrain funding, and keep teams lean to pressure-test your idea before you get too far down the road.

Adapted from "In Praise of Irrational Innovators" by Scott Anthony.


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M Junaid Tahir

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See the Big Picture Before Making a Decision

Successful strategic thinkers always have perspective. They consider the potential impact of their actions on those beyond their team or unit. Next time you need to make a big decision, here are three ways to make sure your thinking isn't too narrow:
  • Explore the outcomes. With every idea, ask yourself, "If we implement this idea, how will other units and stakeholders be affected? What might be the long-term ramifications?"
  • Expand your range of alternatives. Gather ideas and concerns from everyone who has an interest in the decision or who will be affected by the outcome.
  • Consider the customer. Look at the decision through your customers' eyes. What will they think and which alternative will they prefer? If you're not sure, think about asking them.

Adapted from the Harvard ManageMentor Online Module: Strategic Thinking.



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M Junaid Tahir

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