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Stress Control :: #1584
By Anonymous from USA.

Color Your Mood 
Research confirms that changing your mood may be as simple as changing the colors around you. Clothing, room decors, even a small colors object like accessories or a handbag will give you benefits. For example:

Blue. Any shade can have a calming effect and creates feeling of serenity.

Green. Brings balance to your mind and smoothes out your hectic day-to-day routine.

Orange. Makes you feel more optimistic. A pick-me-up when you're sluggish.

Red. Increases your energy level and stimulates your heart rate.

Purple. Shades of lilac and violet generate

 
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9 steps to achieve your goals

1 Define your goal
The first step is to define your goal. Perhaps you've always dreamt about running a race or learning a new language? Maybe you're determined to seek a promotion or you simply want to shed a few kilos. Consider everything. What would you do if you had more time? What would you like to accomplish in the future? What do you regret about the past? In the words of motivational speaker Les Brown (www.lesbrown.com), "Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life." Whatever you choose, make sure your goal is specific, achievable and tangible.
2 Set your deadline
A goal without a deadline can be forever postponed, so set a deadline and aim to be as realistic as possible. If your goal is to lose a certain amount of weight for example, count on losing 2 pounds (around one kilo) per week. If you have your eye on that promotion, think about when your next appraisal is scheduled or another opportunity when you will have the chance to shine. Diana Scharf Hunt, author of The Tao of Time (Fireside), summed it up perfectly by saying, "Goals are dreams with deadlines."
True motivation comes from understanding your underlying purpose, so think about what that is. Ensure your goal is something that you really want and not what others want you to do. Ensure also, that the goal you have set is in line with your overall purpose. If your purpose is to get fit, then a weight-loss goal may not be in line with this - it is possible to be slim, but still be unfit. Instead, it should rather be, "To achieve the same fitness levels I had when I was 20".
Determine, and better still, write down, the benefits you expect to enjoy from reaching your goal. Ask yourself what you will achieve from conquering your goal? Defining the benefits will help you to overcome moments of weakness. Evaluate these carefully and your goals will become much more attainable and your motivation increased. Lucy Mackintosh, NLP Coach and founder of The Law of Attraction Group in Dubai (www.lawofattractiondubai.com) says, "Write them on post-it notes and stick them on the fridge, in the car, on a mirror; by never losing sight of the benefits of success, your goal will remain at the forefront of your mind which will only strengthen your resolve."
You must believe your goal is achievable; unless you believe you can 100 per cent reach it, you will have no true motivation. Those who think they can and those who think they can't are both right; the power of positive thinking knows no end. According to Carolyn Mitchell, NLP Life Coach and owner of Blue Sky Life Coaching (www.blueskylifecoaching.ae), "Affirmations are an excellent tool to promote self-belief and assure ourselves of positive outcomes. Begin with fast forwarding to the time when you have achieved your goal. Learn what it feels like [in your mind] to experience what the success of achieving your goal means to you. Feel it or see it for yourself. Once you have learned what success feels like, you simply can't 'unlearn' it. By writing, reading and re-experiencing those feelings of success over and over again you are essentially telling yourself what you want by believing that you already have it."
Now identify your potential obstacles. When suddenly faced with obstacles it can be difficult to remain focused and energetic. They can sap your energy, time and enthusiasm. What may hinder your progress? Old habits die hard and current mindsets can be difficult to shift, but identifying the obstacles will prepare you for the road ahead - forewarned is forearmed after all. "Be perfectly honest with yourself," says Carolyn, "this is the only way to identify all the possible problem areas. And only when you identify these can you develop strategies to minimise them."
7 Seek the Solutions
Think about how you can overcome these obstacles. What in your life needs changing? This is your opportunity to plan your strategies for handling the setbacks. If you consider each obstacle, one by one, you can easily identify a suitable solution; this may mean a change to your usual routine, enlisting the support of a friend or family member or a change to your current mindset. "If you can't find the solution yourself then ask someone who has achieved a similar goal how they did it" says Lucy, "or imagine you are sitting with a role model, a top athlete, for example. Ask them what to do and then put yourself in their shoes and give the advice they would give."
Take time to imagine that you have achieved your goal. What is it like? How do you feel? Excited? Exuberant? How has your life changed? How does it look, feel or sound? Capture that moment in your head and never lose sight of it. Try to make your vision so clear that you can perceive it with all five senses. The clearer the image in your mind, the easier it is to manifest into reality or in the words of Napoleon Hill, author of Think & Grow Rich (Ballantine Books), "What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve."
9 Create your action plan
Create a step-by-step action plan detailing exactly what you need to do to achieve the goal. Remember in step one we identified that goals are the road maps that guide you? Well think of your action plan as the specific directions to get you to your destination, via the quickest and easiest route possible. Depending on the nature of your goal, identify any major milestones necessary to achieve it, then break down each milestone into specific tasks or steps. Sometimes just knowing where to start is hard, in which case enlist the support of others, be it friends, colleagues or a support group. Be prepared to journal the process. Writing things down helps to collate our thoughts, handle potholes and identify and deal with weaknesses. Strive to make progress every day. Every single day. And tell everyone you know about your goal - accountability is a great way to ensure that you do what needs to be done
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What to do when trapped in unethical or fraud situation


Ethical values are the treasure of each individual regardless of his/her financial wealth. However these values are put on stake by pushing someone for specific immoral goals achievements. In this article, I shall cover the aspects which are to be considered while trapped in such circumstances. The article covers both professional and personal aspects.

First of all you need to ask yourself following questions in order to have thorough analysis of the situation:
1-    Who is getting benefit out of it?
2-   Why you (and only you) are being asked/pushed to compromise?
3-   What are the short term & long term personal consequences if you compromise?
4-   What are the risks/impacts on the project/task if you compromise?
5-   What will happen if you don't compromise?  
6-   Can I consult some other person for advice?
7-   Can I share the risks with other by involving other personnel/department on this task?
8-   What does the company policy say? Are my actions in-line with Job Descriptions?

Now that you have analyzed the situation, here are the guidelines which you need to consider for corrective and preventive actions:

1-    Sometimes the matter is not really an ethical issue, it's just a difference of opinion so carefully understand on what you are being asked for. Sometimes you are doing a healthy compromise in the best interest of all stake holders (off course within your ethical values and in line with company policies)
2-   If the matter is really critical, consider approaching the Fraud Management Team of your company. In some of the mature companies 'whistle blowing' or 'anonymous reporting' systems are set in place.
3-   Seeking advice from your colleagues/close friends broadens your horizon and expose you to more options for consideration. Be careful whom you consider to seek advice. Ask the one who is honest and fair with you and would keep the secret in the long run. 
4-   Discuss the matter with your manager and document it, if possible. Make records for what you do, there is surely someone to ask later.  
5-   Define your principles to others quite often and show it time to time so that people know what type of person you are and what your ethical boundaries are.  This is required to portray the characteristics of your personality so that others can develop a mental picture of you in their heads.  This will prevent them approaching you for the wrong deeds.
6-   Not every ethical issue is to be taken too much seriously, consequently, allowing it to steal your peace of mind. Every problem has several solutions. Keep it cool, stay mentally healthy, analyze the situation based on 8 points mentioned earlier in the post and then do the right act. 
7-   Sometimes a simple "No" helps. Just say so and put a full stop to the matter. Sometimes this is the most effective tool to use.

Muslim's approach to handle:
On top of the already explained aspects, a Muslim needs to understand the following as well:
1-    Have faith in Allah and do what your religion expects from you to do. Once done, leave it to Allah and He will turn the table for you. He is suffice for all your problems provided you have done the 'right' 
2-   Seek wisdom from Allah. Pray for the right path and He will guide you.
3-   Whatever single deed you are doing is being recorded. You are answerable for what you have been doing during your life cycle. Good deeds result in good outcome not only in this world but also on the Day of Judgment; bad deeds bad results, here and hereafter! Be Honest and be fair. Do your self-audit quite often, in line with Islamic Principles. Insha'Allah you won't regret for any of your deeds if done within Islamic boundaries. 
4-   Don't analyze the situation on political grounds which might divert your attention from the right path. Remember, Islam comes first. You should consider this filter for All of your problems. Anything which passes from this filter is the right thing to do.

Conclusion: Ethical Values (such as Truth, Honesty, Fairness, Transparency and self discipline) are unique treasure which you possess. Don't lose them at any cost. Your values are defining your character which is leading you towards your destiny. Sine you don't want to be a failure at the end of the day, so you need to stick to the humanitarian principles because the ultimate fact remains the same; 'As you sow, so shall you reap'. A Study confirms that the people who possess high ethical values are more happy than those who are engaged in fraudulent acts even if former earn less than the deceitful people. If you would like to read the types of Wealth, please visithttp://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/2012/01/what-is-real-wealth-how-to-acheive.html

Article Reference: 0011-mjunaidtahir-paradigm wisdom-09Feb12- Compromising on Ethical Values - what to do when trapped


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Leadership Vision - A Critical Personality Trait for true leaders






The young boy asked the old man, "why a fast running horse is better than the slow running horse"? The old man said, "it has developed the habit to produce more power so that it can run up to ten times faster than the slow horse" The youngster said, "and what if the horse is running in the wrong direction"? The old man smiled and said, "then definitely it has the appropriate factor to waste his efforts ten times quicker than the slower horse" The young man said, " and what if other horses are following him too" The older man said, "off course it will mislead all those horses too!" "Then why all other horses follow the faster one" "Because that attracts them but all that glitters is not gold sometimes"Article written by Junaid.Tahir

Associating this analogy with our daily life, you notice that you are surrounded by mixture of slow and fast pace personalities. Some of them are really genuine leaders and some of them are being followed blindly. Overall, here is the summary of the concept of Visionary Leaders which I suggest you to ponder:


1-   If you have a slow attitude towards life (slow running horse) then you must develop the habit to produce more power in your character. You must be aware of your real goals. You must develop analytical skills,Empowered RelationshipsProactive approach and other personality traits such as Commitment, Courage, Communication Skills, Focus, Competence and Passion.  
2-  If you have a faster response to life and  quick decision making then you must audit yourself on whether you are heading in the right direction? Not having clear goal will take you nowhere regardless of your speed and efficiency. Remember, Only hard work doesn't guarantee the success. , the vision and strategy are the most important ingredients of the success which is acheived through consistent, productive and effective efforts in the right direction. 
3-  Are you following a leader? Are you sure you have a true leader? Are you sure you will not end up on the blocked road? Remember, U-turns are always possible before the dead end but consequences of U-turn will be more harsh if you don't evaluate the situations on time and delay it to the eleventh hour. 

While you ponder about the concept of Vision in Leaders, you may want to read these personality building articles too:

1-     Effective Decision Making
2-    Resolving Conflicts Effectively
3-    Developing Stable Personality 
4-    Becoming Implosive Personality 
5-    Effective Anger Management
6-    Being strong in Tragic Moments 


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Unmask the Three Thieves of Peace

By: Guy Finley

(Excerpted from "Let Go and Live in the Now" -- Red Wheel/Weiser, 2004: 450 words) 

Following is a list for special Self-study to help get you started up the path of spiritual freedom. After a careful review of these peace stealing conditions, take time to make a list of your own. Keep it simple. Use casual observations of yourself and others around you to be a spiritual detective. 

1. One of the first thieves of our peace is spending time thinking about what others are thinking about us. Can we see that the only reason we are concerned with what others may be thinking about us is due to an imagined fear that they may have some power to take away what we are clinging to for our equally imagined peace? Let go! No one has the power to take peace away from you. It isn't theirs to give! 

2. Another thief of peace is building a "case" against anyone for any reason. No one can steal our peace, so finding fault with another for how we feel is like falling asleep under the sun and then blaming it for the burn we get! Drop whatever you have been tricked into resenting and watch peace return to take its place. 

3. And last but not least, another common thief of peace is trying to measure ourselves. For instance, have you ever noticed how, most of the time, we cannot have a conversation with someone without walking away and measuring our own performance? Even walking through a supermarket we wonder whether people are looking at us or not, and then we act accordingly. Step out of these mental movies; their producer is the misery of self-measuring. Let go because you know that it's impossible to be self-conscious and also be at peace. 

There are many other ways in which our peace is stolen, such as when we find ourselves caught up in the excited anticipation of something, good or bad, coming our way or in the endless comparison of our lives to those of others -- friends and strangers alike! Hoping to find a sense of peace in any form of comparison or anticipation is like waiting for a dark, overhead thundercloud to rain sunlight. We must aim to be this honest with ourselves in each moment. 

For extra benefit, and as a way to amplify the impact of these lessons, take a piece of paper and write down on the top of it: "Known or Possible Suspects Who Are Stealing My Peace." Thenmake a list of those thoughts, feelings, habits, or beliefs you have that you think need closer observation. This simple exercise will help you to exorcise those inner thieves that are intent on stealing your contentment.

Following is a list for special Self-study to help get you started up the path of spiritual freedom. After a careful review of these peace stealing conditions, take time to make a list of your own. Keep it simple. Use casual observations of yourself and others around you to be a spiritual detective.

Guy Finley is Founder and Director of the Life of Learning Foundation, devoted to helping people realize their True Relationship with Life. Guy is the author of over 30 books and audio albums that have sold over a million copies in 15 languages worldwide, and is on the faculty of the Omega Institute, the nation's largest and most trusted holistic education provider. For more information about Guy Finley and Life of Learning call (541) 476-1200 or visit http://www.guyfinley.com.

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Four principles of spirituality


The First Principle states:
"Whomsoever you encounter is the right one"
This means that no one comes into our life by chance. Everyone who is around us, anyone with whom we interact, represents something, whether to teach us something or to help us improve a current situation.

The Second Principle states:
"Whatever happened is the only thing that could have happened"
Nothing, absolutely nothing of that which we experienced could have been any other way. Not even in the least important detail. There is no "If only I had done that differently…, then it would have been different…". No. What happened is the only  thing that could have taken place and must have taken place for us to learn our lesson in order to move forward. Every single situation in life which we encounter is absolutely perfect, even when it defies our understanding and our ego.

The Third Principle states:
"Each moment in which something begins is the right moment"
Everything begins at exactly the right moment, neither earlier nor later. When we are ready for it, for that something new in our life, it is there, ready to begin.


The Fourth Principle states:
"What is over, is over"
It is that  simple. When something in our life ends, it helps our evolution. That is why, enriched by the recent experience, it is better to let go and move on.


think it is no coincidence that you're here reading this.
If these words strike a chord, it's because you meet the requirements and understand that not one single snowflake falls accidentally in the wrong place!
Be good to yourself.
Love with your whole being.
Always be happy.

Shielding Yourself From Negativity

By Junaid Tahir

Shielding yourself from negativity will help you in many ways such as strengthening your thought process for better personality development, focusing on solutions instead of problems and attaining peace of mind in nearly all kind of tough circumstances.
The intention of staying away from negativity is not to ignore the tough realities, rather to change your focus on things which matter most so as to change these tough circumstances. For example, keep worrying about joblessness will not bring you a new job. Instead, Focusing on applying for jobs, developing interviewing skills, reading personality development articles, refreshing your knowledge will definitely improve your probability of getting new job.

Focus is very important tool to shield yourself from negativity. Remember the fact that what you focus on, increases. Which means if you focus on negative things, you will end up having negative personality. On the contrary, if you focus on finding solutions to the problems, you will be successful; sooner or later. Your focus decides the direction of your thoughts; your thoughts give birth to actions. These consistent actions become your habits and eventually make your overall personality.

You will focus on positive things only if you have a germs-free mind; the mind free from pessimism and free from negativity. So how to achieve this state of mind? Below are some tips:

1-     On your smart phones, download wisdom quotes and other personality enhancement applications from relevant app libraries / stores and read them often. Keep trying new applications every week.
2-    'Like' Facebook pages such as Positively Positive, Wisdom quotes, Positive thoughts etc to start receiving daily dose of wisdom.
3-    Stay away from negative souls. They are consistently polluting your brain. Check if you are surrounded by such people who criticize things all the times. If yes, change your company.
4-    If you notice that a discussion is going negative more and more, try changing the topic towards something exciting, healthy and fruitful.
5-    If your family members are negative and you do not have a choice to leave them, then you must program yourself to deal with such consistent negative situation. For example, upon a disheartening comment from your brother  you can say "OK brother, you have a great point" Say it then laugh inside your heart and shun the comment immediately. This skill requires some practice but once properly implemented, will generate a powerful impact on your personality.  
6-    Keep telling yourself that you can make things happen. Believe in yourself and you will see that your subconscious mind will find out a way to make things happen actually.

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The Author of this article, Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management. His personal blog can be read at Here


Health: Symptoms and treatment of Wisdom Teeth

You need to get your wisdom tooth extracted", advises the dentist. Your fears have come true and these words sends shivers down your spine. No one enjoys their teeth being pulled out by a dentist. Wisdom tooth is a common dental problem that needs extraction at times. One needs to know all about the wisdom teeth coming in symptoms as it will help you get dental attention sooner, if needed. Let us learn all about the signs of wisdom teeth coming in by going through information in the paragraphs below.

What is a Wisdom Teeth

A wisdom tooth is one of the four teeth that are part of third set of molars. They are the final set of teeth that tends to grow in late teens and early twenties. They are called wisdom teeth as they appear at an age when a person is said to have been matured enough and gained some wisdom in life. A person can grow four wisdom teeth and it is very much possible to have more. If one does grow more than four wisdom teeth it is called supernumerary teeth.

How to Tell if Wisdom Teeth are Coming In

Many times a person tends to get a vague feeling that something is just not right in the mouth. This feeling may be due to wisdom teeth coming in. There are a few signs of this happening that make you aware these teeth will soon make an appearance. Some of these signs are:
  • Rounded gum formations in the area where your teeth end. These rounded formations occur due to the teeth within that are pushing themselves upwards trying to break free from gum wall.
  • Pain and tenderness in the gums and around the jaw
  • Frequent headaches
  • Swelling and redness of the gums
  • Unpleasant taste in the mouth
  • In rare cases, one may suffer from swollen lymph glands in the neck
  • Problems when opening the mouth wide open
Most of the time, there are no symptoms experienced. This is because the teeth are in perfect alignment with the other teeth as well as jaw line. However, if the wisdom teeth do not grow in properly they lead to many unpleasant symptoms and the condition may culminate into teeth removal.

Symptoms of Impacted Wisdom Teeth Coming in
Impacted wisdom teeth coming in symptoms are an indication that the teeth are not coming trough normally. This means the wisdom teeth is affecting other teeth as they do not have enough room to grow. They can even be coming in side ways. The impacted wisdom teeth are divided into different categories, based on the alignment of the tooth. This includes:
  • Mesioangular impaction: This the most common form of wisdom teeth eruption and it means the tooth is angled forward towards the opening of the mouth.
  • Veticle impaction: This is when the tooth does not completely erupt out of the gum line.
  • Distoangular impaction: This is the opposite case of mesioangular impaction where the tooth is angled backward towards the throat.
  • Horizontal impaction: Very rarely observed, this is a condition when the tooth is angled at 90 degrees sideways and growing into the roots of the second molar.
The wisdom teeth coming in swelling is an indication it is infected and needs medical help. When one suffers from the pain associated with impacted wisdom teeth coming in, he or she is required to undergo tooth extraction. The following are symptoms of impacted wisdom teeth that is infected:
  • Swelling of the gums around the teeth
  • Bleeding of gums
  • Impacted wisdom teeth pain in the jaw
  • Headaches
  • Bad breath
  • Tooth decay or other gum diseases
  • Jaw stiffness
  • Severe pain and irritation in the area where the tooth is trying to come out in an awkward angle
How is a Painful Wisdom Tooth Treated?
When one suffers pain from wisdom teeth infection, one may have to visit the dentist for further treatment. The common treatment for this condition is wisdom teeth removal. A dentist will give the patient local anesthesia and cut through the gum. Then once he reaches the tooth, it will be broken in pieces and removed. The cut will be stitched using self dissolving stitches. One may suffer from slight bleeding, pain and swelling for the next few days after the surgery. If the post-operative symptoms do not resolve in the next 5 days, you will have to visit the dentist again. One may suffer from serious companions like dry socket that needs medical help.

Wisdom teeth generally makes an appearance between 17 to 24 years of age. It is not surprising to observe wisdom teeth at a later age as well. It may be a very painful condition for some. However, it only affects 35% of the adults, so there are chances you may never develop this condition ever. Even if you do, there is a strong chance that the wisdom teeth do not cause big trouble for you.
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5 Step Approach to Managing Anger


If something happens that makes you feel angry (like not being allowed to go to a party until you clean your room), this approach can help you manage your reaction.It is called a problem-solving approach because you start with the problem you are mad about. Then you weigh your choices and decide what you will do.
Each step involves asking yourself a couple of questions, then answering them based on your particular situation. Let us take the example from the start of this article: Your mom has just told you to clean your room or stay home. You really want to go to that party. The red-hot anger starts building. Here is what to do:

1) Tune in to your feelings (self-awareness). Start by noticing what you are angry about and why. Put into words what is making you upset so you can act rather than react.

Ask yourself: What is got me angry? What am I feeling and why? You can do this either in your mind or out loud, but it needs to be clear and specific. For example: "I am really angry at Mom because she wont let me go to the party until I clean my room. It is not fair!" Your feeling is anger, and you are feeling angry because you might not get to go to the party.

Notice that this is not the same as saying, "Mom is so unfair to me." That statement does not identify the specific problem (that you can not go to the party until you clean your room) and it does not say how you are feeling (angry).

2) Stop and think (self-control). This is where you stop for a minute to give yourself time to manage your anger. It is also where you start thinking of how you might react - but without reacting yet.

Ask yourself: What can I do? Think of at least three things. For example, in this situation you might think:

(a) I could yell at Mom and throw a fit.
(b) I could clean my room and then ask if I could go to the party.
(c) I could sneak out to the party anyway.

3) Consider your options (think it through). This is where you think about what is likely to result from each of the different reactions you came up with.

Ask yourself: What will happen for each one of these options? For example:

(a) Yelling at your mom may get you in worse trouble or even grounded.

(b) Cleaning your room takes work and you may get to the party late (but hey, arriving late may add to your mystique). With this option, you get to go to the party and your room is clean so you don not have to worry about it for a while.
(c) Sneaking out may seem like a real option in the heat of anger. But when you really think it through, it is pretty unlikely you would get away with being gone for hours with no one noticing. And when you do get caught - look out!

4) Make a decision (pick one of your options). This is where you take action by choosing one of the three things you could do. Look at the list and pick the one that is likely to be most effective.

Ask yourself: What is my best choice? By the time you have thought it through, you are probably past yelling at your mom, which is a knee-jerk response. You may have also decided that sneaking out is too risky. Neither of these options is likely to get you to the party. So option (b) probably seems like the best choice.

Once you choose your solution, then it is time to act.

5) Check your progress. After you have acted and the situation is over, spend some time thinking about how it went.

Ask yourself: How did I do? Did things work out as I expected? If not, why not? Am I satisfied with the choice I made? Taking some time to reflect on how things worked out after it is all over is a very important step. It helps you learn about yourself and it allows you to test which problem-solving approaches work best in different situations.

Give yourself a pat on the back if the solution you chose worked out well. If it did not, go back through the five steps and see if you can figure out why.

These five steps are pretty simple when you are calm, but are much tougher to work through when you are angry or sad (kind of like in basketball practice when making baskets is much easier than in a real game when the pressure is on!). So it helps to practice over and over again.

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Story of Naughty Students: The Coin in the Shoes

A young man, a student in one of our universities, was one day taking a walk with a professor, who was commonly called the students' friend, from his kindness to those who waited on his instructions. As they went along, they saw lying in the path a pair of old shoes, which they supposed to belong to a poor man who was employed in a field close by, and who had nearly finished his day's work.

The student turned to the professor, saying: "Let us play the man a trick: we will hide his shoes, and conceal ourselves behind those bushes, and wait to see his perplexity when he cannot find them."

"My young friend," answered the professor, "we should never amuse ourselves at the expense someone. But you are rich, and may give yourself a much greater pleasure by means of the poor man. Put a coin into each shoe, and then we will hide ourselves and watch how the discovery affects him."

The student did so, and they both placed themselves behind the bushes close by. The poor man soon finished his work, and came across the field to the path where he had left his coat and shoes. While putting on his coat he slipped his foot into one of his shoes; but feeling something hard, he stooped down to feel what it was, and found the coin. Astonishment and wonder were seen upon his countenance. He gazed upon the coin, turned it round, and looked at it again and again. He then looked around him on all sides, but no person was to be seen. He now put the money into his pocket, and proceeded to put on the other shoe; but his surprise was doubled on finding the other coin. His feelings overcame him; he fell upon his knees, looked up to heaven and uttered aloud a fervent thanksgiving, in which he spoke of his wife, sick and helpless, and his children without bread, whom the timely bounty, from some unknown hand, would save from perishing.
The student stood there deeply affected, and his eyes filled with tears.

"Now," said the professor, "are you not much better pleased than if you had played your intended trick?"

The youth replied, "You have taught me a lesson which I will never forget. I feel now the truth of those words, which I never understood before: 'It is more blessed to give than to receive.'"

Author unknown, retold by Artin Tellalian

How to Develop Good Habits And Get Rid of Bad Ones






I often emphasize on the concept that our thoughts give birth to our actions; our repeated actions develop our habits; our habits transform our character and our character leads us to our destiny. I am writing article to focus on the Habit part in general and Habit Development Process in particular.

In my opinion, there are four major influential factors which are the baseline of our Habits Development Process. These are:
a)    The way of Brought up
b)   Education & Vision
c)    Interests
d)   Social Circle

All these factors influence us with different weight at different phases of our life. However, all of our habits are more or less linked back with one (or more) of these four factors.

Let us learn how to develop new habits, how to improve existing good habits and how to get rid of bad habits.  Article by Junaid.Tahir

Strengthening Existing Habits:
When it comes to strengthening of any habit you need encouragement and feedback from others. So ask for the feedback from your closed ones. Sometimes you need self encouragement to keep the spirit high. So, if you are good at something, you need to tell it to yourself quite often so that this can give you inner confidence to strengthen that habit. For example, if you give charity sometimes but you want to make the habit of giving 5% of your salary each month then you need to encourage yourself several times in a month until you develop this habit in a concrete manner. Article written by Junaid.Tahir

Shunning Bad Habits:
If you have a bad habit such as being extravagant, being reactive or short tempered or a smoker then you need to start the mind purification process. When your mind is free from impurities, it starts working on fruitful things. You need to stay away from such companies where you mind is being polluted. For example, if you have the habit of leg pulling, back biting then you really need to work on your surroundings (closed friends, negative acquaintances, polluted souls etc) which are triggering your habit. So Once you have a clean company then you can concentrate on how to improve your personality. You need to list down the side effects of your bad habits and memorize them and repeat them on daily basis. Commitment, Focus and Self-motivation are the keys in getting rid of your bad habits.

Developing New Habits:
As mentioned above, concentrate on the four aspects for the development of new habits. You can study books in your domain, study the characteristics of highly effective people, observe your mentors closely. Self encouragement is equally important.  

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what are your thoughts on improving your habits and getting rid of bad ones?



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M Junaid Tahir

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