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Humor: Stung by Bee :)

Patient : Please doctor, help me !  I have been stung by a bee.

Doctor : Don't worry ! I'll put some cream on it.

Patient : You'll never find the bee. It must be miles away by now.

Doctor : No ! No ! Please understand. I'll put some cream on the place you were stung.

Patient : Oh! It happened in the garden where I was sitting under a tree.

Doctor : u #$%&!  I mean in which part of the body did the bee sting ?

Patient :  It stung me on my finger.

Doctor : Which one?

Patient : How am I to know? All the bees look the same to me

Doctor : u #$%&!u #$%&!u #$%&!u #$%&!

M Junaid Tahir
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Behavioral Contradiction

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.
He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.
But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.
While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,
"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."
By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.
"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."
I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway."
I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?

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Wise Thoughts - My Emotional Management

When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don't want it to be done and when we are not able to accept it, we become angry.

However, When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don't want it to be done - and we are able to accept it- we remain tolerant.

When someone has something which we don't have, or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce- and we are not able to accept it – we become jealous.

When someone has something which we don't have, or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce and we are able to accept it we get inspired.

Then emotional equation is quite simple.

Something + Acceptance = Positive Emotion
Something + Non Acceptance = Negative Emotion

So, it is not 'something' or 'someone' who is making us feel positive or negative, but it is our 'acceptance'  or 'non acceptance' of something or someone, which is making us feel positive or negative.

It isn't the world but the quality of our response to the world that determines the quality of our emotions. Next time we feel disturbed with a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing us, we will examine who or what we are resisting (not accepting) that is causing this disturbance in us. We will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.

Emotional management begins by stopping to blame that 'something' or 'someone' and starting to take the responsibility to respond life with 'acceptance'

source: unknown

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Be willing to apologize

Whenever you are in some service – or when you are taking risks, making things happen, interacting with others, or in the public eye – you are bound to make mistakes. At times you are going to use bad judgment, say something wrong, offend someone, criticize unnecessarily, be too demanding, or act selfishly. The question isn't whether you will make these mistakes – we all do. The question is, can you admit to them? If so, the question becomes, can you apologize?

Many people never apologize. They are either too self-conscious, self-righteous, stubborn, or arrogant to do so. The unwillingness to apologize is not just sad; it is a serious mistake as well. Almost everyone expects others to make mistakes and with a humble and sincere apology, almost everyone is willing to forgive. However, if you are a person who is either unable or unwilling to apologize, you will be branded a difficult person to work with. And over time, people will avoid you, speak behind your back, and do nothing to help you.

The ability to apologize, to admit mistakes, is a beautiful human quality that brings people closer together and helps us succeed. By simply acknowledging our humanness and saying "I am sorry" when appropriate, we bond with others and increase their trust in us. Obviously, you must never apologize as a tool of manipulation, to try to get a response like this or to get something out of it.

When you apologize from your heart, you keep most of your existing doors open. Occasionally, you may even open doors that had previously been closed.
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Six Etiquettes of Learning

1. Asking questions in a good manner.
2. Remaining quiet and listening attentively.
3. Understanding well.
4. Memorizing.
5. Teaching.
6. Acting upon the knowledge and keeping to its limits."

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6 Ways to Make People Like You.

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile
. Make people Smile/Laugh.

3. Remember that a person's name is to that person.
the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely. 

Wise Quotes from the book "Lift me Up" by Ron Kaufman

Chapter-1: Everyday wisdom:

1.     Thought is the original source of all wealth, all success, all material gain, all great discoveries and inventions and of all achievement. – Claude Bristol

2.     The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.   – William James

3.     Great People talk about ideas, average people talk about events; small people talk about other people. – Anonymous

4.     You can tell whether a person is clever by his answers, you can tell whether a person is wise by his questions. – Mahfouz Naguib

5.     Going to work for a big company is like getting on a train. Are you going at sixty miles an hour or the company is going at  sixty miles an hour and you are just sitting? – Paul Getty

6.     The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. – Marcus Aurelius

7.     A wise man never knows all, a fool knows everything – African proverb

8.     None of us is as smart as all of us. – Japanese proverb


Chapter-2: Profound Wisdom:

1-     More mistakes, more experience. More experience, less mistakes.

2-     If you are patient in moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. – Chinese Proverb.

3-     Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking.  – Jackson Brown.

4-     Information applied gives knowledge. Knowledge applied yield wisdom. Wisdom applied brings success.

5-     To the man who only has a hammer, everything looks like a nail. – Abraham Maslow (the world we see is the reflection of who we are)

6-     Speak to open the minds of others, listen to open your own.


Chapter-3: Insightful Wisdom:

1-     Thoughts have power, thoughts are energy. You can make your own world or break it by your own thinking – Susan Taylor

2-     The commentator makes a  noise, the activists makes a difference.


Chapter-4: Acquiring Wisdom:

1-     I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow. – Woodrow Wilson.

2-     The ability to focus attention on important things is a defining characteristic of intelligence. – Robert Shiller

3-     What we see depends mainly on what we look for. – John Lubbock

4-     Being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a Viewing Point – A higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides. – Thomas Crum

5-     Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something. – Plato (Speak only when your words improve the silence)

6-     Half of being smart is knowing what you are dumb about. – Solomon Short. (The other half is finding someone smart about it who can help you)

7-     The difference between a smart man and a wise man is that smart man knows what to say and wise man knows when to say and whether or not to say. – Frank Garafola.

Knowing and unknowing

He who knows not, and knows not he knows not, he is a fool, shun him. 

He who knows not, and knows he knows not, he is simple, teach him. 

He who knows, and knows not he knows, he is asleep, awaken him.

He who knows, and knows he knows, he is wise follow him.

By Neo from USA.

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Become Less Reactive and More Responsive

In life, we have essentially two psychological modes that we are in most of the time: reactive and responsive. The reactive mode is the one that feels stressful. In it, we feel pressured and are quick to judge. We lose perspective and take things personally. We're annoyed, bothered, and frustrated.

Needless to say, our judgment and decision making capacity is severely impaired when we are in a reactive state of mind. We make quick decisions that we often regret. We annoy other people and tend to bring out the worst in them. When an opportunity knocks, we are usually too overwhelmed or frustrated to see it. If we do see it, we're usually overly critical and negative.

The responsive mode, on the other hand, is our most relaxed state of mind. Being responsive suggests that we have our bearings. We see the bigger picture and take things less personally. Rather than being rigid and stubborn, we are flexible and calm. In the responsive mode, we are at our best. We bring out the best in others and solve problems gracefully. When an opportunity comes our way, our mind is open. We are receptive to new ideas.

Once you are aware of these two drastically different modes of being. You will begin to notice which one you are in. You'll also notice the predictability of your behavior and feelings when you are in each mode. You'll observe yourself being irrational and negative in your reactive mode and calm and wise in your responsive state of mind.

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How to Overcome Fear of Making Decisions

By Junaid Tahir:
Fear is one of the major blocking obstacles against your success. You tend to compromise with your circumstances and prefer to continue your status quo condition because you are afraid of making decisions. Since you lack in courage you cannot move forward in your life with liberty.

On the other hand successful people are those who take risks in life. Successful people understand that taking risks will lead them experience new horizons in their field, will give them more vision and more confidence,  give them wisdom and success by exposing them to more and more challenges and consequently help them achieve their dreams. Such people keep taking new risks in order to achieve what they want to achieve. Whenever there is a doubtful situation they take the next baby step in order to determine whether it is fine to move ahead. In case they fail, they take one step back and re-determine their direction using their analytical skills. 

So if you would like to live a successful life, you must defeat your fears. The reasons for being under the clouds of fear might be because of several doubts or unanswered questions in your mind.  In this article, I have compiled and answered a few of such queries in order to boost your confidence level:

Question: Do I have enough info in making this decision?
Answer: You may or may not have the full information as of now. However you can gather all the facts by consulting the right professionals, by reading books, by discussing with your friends and well-wishers, by posting your questions to online forums, by studying the market and by taking advice from experienced people. Once you have collected all the information, write it on a piece of paper; positive points on one side and negative points on another side. Now read them slowly with full focus. Once done, you are all set for making the decision.

Question: What if I fail?
Answer: Consider the worst case scenario as this gives you inner strength and makes you prepare for it. However if the worst case as per your thinking is a serious disaster then reduce your risks by reducing your goals, your investment, energies, efforts etc. Change some of the points from your original plan and re-asses the worst case.

Question: Do I have the capability to do it:  
Answer: See if you can learn it by reading, training, counseling or brain storming. Believe in your inner powers. List down the capabilities required for a specific task and start polishing yourself in each domain one by one. This might take some time but once you learn and polish your skills you will be able to make wonders in your domain.

Question: What will people say?  
Answer: People will comment any way. It's your life and you have all the authority to do what you want to do in order to achieve what you want to achieve. Don't worry about social factors, instead focus on your plans and decisions. Evil social factors will die their death one by one once you start producing the results. Strengthen your thoughts, avoid the unnecessary criticism and you will be able to set new trends in your domain.

Question: Is anyone else afraid of same thing? 
Answer: Yes everyone is afraid of failures but only bold people make bold moves to accomplish things. Remember, common people see things while they are happening whereas smart people make things happen.

Question: What If I am trapped in tragic Situation:
Answer: To overcome a tragic fearful situation is to think of a genius person and imagine how he would have acted under the same condition. You will definitely get a new idea to try.

Closing my article by emphasizing one more time to throw your fears away, convert your risks into new opportunities, execute your plans and live like an independent andprosperous soul. Your inner confidence, your guts and your will power can make things happen. If others can do it you can do it too so believe in the power of now and go ahead and grab the success.

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Junaid Tahir is a UAE based Telecommunications Manager. He is a passionate blogger and write articles on wisdom, stress management and leadership. His 90+ articles are available at his personal blog
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Correct Calculation

We cannot simply accept that part of the scripture we like, and reject what we don't like, and still expect to get the result. If you miss one point, there is a mistake in your calculation. Regardless of what you add or subtract after that, the mistake is already in the calculation, and everything that follows will also be faulty.

For example, a hen lays eggs with its back part and eats with its beak. A farmer may consider, "The front part of the hen is very expensive because I have to feed it. Better to cut it off."But if the head is missing there will be no eggs anymore, because the body is dead. Similarly, if
we reject the difficult part of the scriptures and obey the part we like, such an interpretation will not help us. We have to accept all the injunctions of the scripture as they are given, not only those that suit us

Comments Junaid Tahir; 
This concept is applicable to so many scenarios of our professional life. We focus on easy things or easily resolvable matters and ignore the difficult things. We do not consider the fact that easy matters may not be the most important ones instead the ignored one may have the big negative impact hence it is highly recommended to meet the problems, greet the problems, treat the problems and then defeat the problems.

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Tech Knowledge: Terms to Know When Choosing a Projector

By Dustin Checketts
The adage, "larger than life," defines perfectly the world of projectors. Designed to fully immerse you in your movie-watching or board room experience, a projector illuminates and captivates. There are three technologies behind today's projectors:

DLP Projectors

Digital Light Processing uses small mirrors to reflect different measures of light through a color wheel to create a stunning image on your screen. The use of mirrors creates a smooth, crisp image without the "screen-door effect", but is susceptible to the "rainbow effect". The rainbow effect is caused when only one color can be displayed on the screen at a time, and can be seen as an uneven overlapping of colors on the screen.

LCD Projectors
Liquid Crystal Display technology shines light through a polarized liquid crystal wafer that allows or disallows light to pass through it to create an image. By shining a light source through an object, the absence of light creates a "screen-door effect" that looks as though you're watching the television from behind a screen door. This effect is most prevalent in LCD projectors, making some text and fine details difficult to read or see.

LCoS Projectors
Liquid Crystal on Silicon combines the best of both LCD and DLP technologies. Three LCD lamps are reflected off mirrors, each one passing through its own color wheel, to simultaneously project an image using all three colors at once on the screen. In doing so, LCoS eliminates both the "screen-door effect" from LCDs and the "rainbow effect" from DLPs.

Beyond Technology: Other Considerations for Projectors

Apart from the technologies, there are several other features to consider that will help narrow your front-projection buying options: resolution, brightness, contrast ratio, aspect ratio, portability, noise, and connectivity.

is the measure of pixels used to create an image. The higher the resolution, the sharper the image will become and the larger the image can be made while still providing a clear image.

is a non-standardized measure (in lumens) of the lamp's strength. Generally, projectors with less than 1000 lumens are dim and should only be used rooms where the lighting can be controlled. Projectors of 1000-2000 lumens offer enough light for business or classroom use, and projectors over 2000 lumens can illuminate a wall or screen in a well-lit room. This also varies by the projector's throw distance (distance from screen or wall) and can be controlled on the unit as a television's brightness can.

Contrast Ratio
is a measure of the projector's ability to produce deep blacks and bright whites and is not standardized. Typically, a higher the contrast ratio is better. Keep in mind that these measurements vary dramatically from manufacturer to manufacturer.

Aspect Ratio
is the projectors supported format. The ratio 4:3 appears as more of a square like standard televisions, while 16:9 is more rectangle, or "widescreen". With the increase in high definition content, more and more displays are supporting the widescreen format.

is an important consideration if a projector is to be shared within an office or will be carried with you as you travel. Most projectors will include a simple cover or storage case to keep the unit free from dust and other harmful particles.

Noise is a consideration most overlook. Projectors generate a lot of heat and must be cooled by a fan and good chassis design. Nothing is worse than trying to talk over noisy hardware or hearing the hum of a fan throughout your cinema experience.

Connectivity is a vital component to picking out a projector. Make sure the projector you seek supports the mediums you wish to use. This could include: S-VGA, DVI, RCA, Component, S-Video, or HDMI.

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