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Gossips and Rumors

Rumor, by definition, is a currently circulating story about a doubtful situation, future event or a past incident. If the rumor is based on true fact then usually it gets clarified very soon since the stake holders clear the doubts of public as soon as possible to get their necks cleaned; though sometimes they tend to hide as their respect is on stake due to the negative post effects of the story whether true or false.  


Generally speaking, rumors are either completely based on false grounds or become fragile because a lot of impurities get mixed when such stories are propagated in the society. In fact the story becomes more impure when more and more people discuss because it is human nature to add some 'spice' in the original story to make it more interesting and worth listening. 

As long as a specific rumor is not directly impacting a person's private life, he/she tends to enjoy it but sometimes some rumors have considerable mental or social consequences. For example, in our company we recently had a rumor that the senior management is going to undergo a major hierarchy changes due to which a high percentage of employees will lose their job due to cost cutting strategy of the new management. A lot of employees started gossiping in office, with their spouse and other family members due to which a ripple effect of stress was generated company-wise and at personnel and familial level. This ripple phenomenon kept on going for a couple of weeks till this morning one of the senior managers commented that most of the rumors are not true except one resignation.

So what should we do if we hear a doubtful news; below are some recommendations:

1-    
Check if the source of the information is authentic. Usually people who talk about other people are inhabit of commenting without being fair. Remember the quote: "Small minds discuss people, Average minds discuss events, higher minds discuss ideas and great minds act in silence" 

2-   Judge the situation fairly. Find the original source of information and ask directly if possible and applicable. 

3-   Discuss the matter with two to three person. If all of them have a different story then most likely the original story is lost or it is completely false. Consider the parts which are common in all stories. This will help extract the original components of the news. 

4-   Don't get too much engaged in rumors however a serious advice is not to ignore the rumors completely. The news might be genuine, hence you must consider the corrective and preventive necessary measures else you may face serious consequences. You must be logical and analytical in your evaluation of the rumor. 

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Quality of Work and The Quality of Worker



My kids wanted me to buy some toys so I took them to a nearby toy store yesterday. This is quite large store with more than 5000 square meters of area having thousands of toys. The toys were nicely placed on shelves. A lot of packed toys were also placed on the floor in nice patterns so as to give the customers more choices of toys to chose from. While kids and parents were enjoying exploring the shop, all of a sudden everyone heard a considerable loud burst noise. Upon my inquiry, one of the staff members told that the main water supply pipe has busted on the first floor of the store having their warehouse too. Within no time everyone noticed that water has started leaking from one corner of the store and moving in all directions feet by feet. Now the challenge was to remove all the toys from the floor so as to avoid them from getting damaged. This was the time of managing the mess but unfortunately the staff was not much efficient on doing so. They were running here and there with no clear plan about handling this situation; eventually they were efforts were seem to be least efficient.  Noticing this, some of the customers ran and brought big shopping trolleys and started putting all the cartoons before it peeped in to the nicely packed toys and cause big damage. Within two minutes most of the toys were moved to trolleys though several toys got damaged.

Observations:
1-     The water pipe may not have been inspected frequently so it busted all of a sudden.
2-    The employees were not properly trained to evacuate the store in emergency conditions.
3-    The employees were not trained enough to manage the toys, packing and other cartoons for such urgent conditions fire/water issues.
4-    Most of the shoppers were only watching this and only 3-4 people took the initiative to help store guys and saved thousands of dollars.  
Comments:
Considering the big picture the lesson here is that the quality of work and quality of worker are directly proportional. No matter how strong policies you put in place, there is a chance of error if the workers are not quality thinkers. So equal importance must be given in selecting the quality resources and then polishing their skills over the course of time. So basically, right selection of resources with right trainings will develop the courage and confidence in them to manage emergency situations like the one in this story.  
If you are a manager, leader or a business man, do you have such policies and procedures in place for corrective and preventive situations?

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Temporary Condition

What you are experiencing right now is a temporary condition. Things will soon be different, so act accordingly.

If life is going well, make the very most of your good fortune. Work to transform it into even more good things.


If life is not going so well, you can take steps right now to change that. Change will most certainly come, so work to make those changes positive, meaningful and enriching.

The way your life is now is not the way your life will always be. Fully enjoy all the good things about this moment while also working to create a positive future.

As good as things are right now, you can make them better. As difficult as things are right now, you can make them better.

This day, this moment, this experience will eventually pass. Give it your best while it is here, and then move forward to something even better.


Ralph Marston - The Daily Motivator

Anger in Consciousness


Anger's going to be part of everyone's life, and that ain't necessarily bad! Being in consciousness, and in the heart, the more healthy is anger likely to be! One question is, 'are you an angry person, or one living a positive life even though occasionally confronted with a situation that evokes some degree of anger, and either to be expressed outwardly, or dealt with inside? 

For the most part, I've  experienced rare moments of anger that were expressed at someone else who pushed the 'envelope', but always while being a 'witness' to my actions. Always measure with awareness and discernment the recipient's 'reception and reaction or response' who allegedly evoked the 'anger' option. Analyze why you have anger coming up. Is it anger that opens up the need to look at what's really going on inside you, and that you need to make positive adjustments to? Is the anger a means to tell you to adjust your focus on a situation or life choice? Do you need to move into a daily meditating practice to let go, and detach from inner seething embers that get triggered in certain situations?

Few are blessed with a smooth, loving childhood, but instead usually one with less love or even unfortunate traumas. A smooth, loving childhood would leave you as an adult with little inner changes to make. Difficult childhoods, of one degree or another, often leave inner love blocked with anger and fears to be dealt with or not. Always, the options of using techniques to detach from embedded angers are available to everyone. The key to managing anger is to be able to stand outside of it, or watch the anger. Nothing wrong with conscious anger, if it's not but a 'wakeup call' to yourself or someone else.

Anger should include compassion for yourself as well as for anyone else. If possible, it's a good thing to be aware of the implications for yourself and others. Meditation techniques are methods that open awareness to smooth over your response-reactions. Having facilitated many types of meditations with hundreds of people over the years thus far, in addition to picking a meditation type, I would recommend including an exercise in allowing laughter for 15 minutes a day for 30 days followed up by a few minutes of (also with eyes closed) being silent, and just being the watcher. Being able to lighten up and experience a sense of humor dilutes feelings of anger. 

Anger is part of your nature, and it's wise to use sparingly, and with awareness while being in the open heart mode as much as possible. Common sense and rational thought with an open heart is best used before the option of anger. Always be letting go of any and all impediments to enjoying the blisses of life's many gifts. Transform anger into an opportunity to raise spiritual consciousness.
Arhata
 


10 Ways To Make Yourself Look And Be Smarter

 

Whether you're trying to survive an intensive college schedule or just want to seem smarter in front of your friends, you can do a lot of things to both look and be smarter. Here are ten simple tricks for boosting your real (and perceived) brain power.

10. Read Faster and Better

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Obviously, one of the best ways to boost your intelligence is to read more! You can read faster (and thus consume more knowledge) by getting your speech mechanism out of the equation. So give your mouth something to do, like eating, humming, or chewing gum to get through that stuff quickly. Then, take some time to absorb and reflect on what you read to keep it in your memory. Whether it'sWar and Peace or just the Wikipedia Random button, you'll be surprised by how much more you learn when you're reading not just fast, but well. Photo by Zitona.

9. Speak Up (and Do It With Expression)

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The more you can contribute to a conversation, a meeting, or other discourse, the smarter you'll come off. Even if it means admitting ignorance or asking questions, you'll still look better than if you stay silent—and you might actually learn something in the process. Expressive speech is key: you can boost your credibility a lot by simply making sure you speak with an engaging tone. Change your pitch and volume as necessary, and try to minimize the number of pauses as you speak. A little confidence goes a long way. Photo by MagneticNorth.

8. Don't Fall Prey to BS

When someone's trying to convince you of something, they can often resort to logical fallacies, appeals to your emotion, and other "workarounds". Learn the most common forms of BS so you can detect them as they come up. By knowing what they are, you'll also be able to avoid dishing out those same fallacies yourself, which can be a big hit to your credibility if someone catches you.Image remixed from Evan Vucci (AP) and Pablo Martinez Monsivals (AP).

7. Focus on What You Know

When engaged in a heated discussion with your friends, you're bound to stumble upon a few holes in your knowledge. It's okay to admit when you don't know something, but if you're feeling particularly self-conscious and want to keep up the appearance of intelligence, the key is emphasizing what youdo know. If you're in an argument, don't stress disagreement so much as agreement—that way, you aren't straying away from things you know about. You're stressing the parts you do know while still taking part in the discussion. Photo remixed from originals by auremar andartenot (Shutterstock).

6. Get Some Exercise

A healthy body means a healthy brain. So, in between all the reading and mind-expanding, make sure you're leading a healthy physical life, too. That means eating right and getting regular exercise. A number of studies. have shown links between regular activity and intellecual capacity, productivity, and creativity. Will spending all day at the gym make you smarter? Not quite, but sitting around all day will not only kill you, but hinder your brain from being at its absolute best.

5. Talk to Yourself

While mumbling to oneself is often looked at the behavior of a crazy person, a recent study showed that talking out loud to yourself can help give you a temporary cognitive boost when trying to find something. The theory behind it: when you give yourself verbal labels to a task you're performing, you focus better on the task at hand at any given moment. So when you feel the need to open your mouth, don't fight the urge—it might help you get things done faster.Photo by atomicjeep.

4. Learn a Second Language

People who know a second or third language are often perceived as smart by others, but research shows that it can actually make you smarter, too. If you know a second language, you're able to adapt to and switch between certain mental tasks better than those that only know one, so if you want to give your brain a real boost, learning a new language is a real (and useful!) way to do so. It's not actually hard to do, either: all you need is this simple four step method to learn in just a few months.

3. Do Things the Hard Way

Technology really has made our lives easier (after all, that's what Lifehacker's all about), but sometimes it's worth doing things the hard way. Take GPS navigation, for example: it's great that you can essentially never get lost, but if you rely on it too much, you'll never truly learn your way around. Instead, wean yourself off your GPS dependency and actually learn your way around town, develop a sense of direction, and learn to navigate using your brain. Doing things the hard way can help keep your brain sharp, so don't be afraid to forgo the easy stuff once in a while. Photo by Ramunas Geciauskas.

2. Know What Won't Make You Smarter

There's a lot of work going into researching what makes us smarter—much of which we've mentioned here—but it's also important to know what won't make you smarter. Check out our list of nine stubborn brain myths that just won't die to see just a few examples, like "the internet is making us dumber" (it isn't, if you use it properly), "listening to classical music makes children smarter" (unlikely), or that "brain games make you smarter" (don't waste your time). The less time you spend on silly myths, the more time you can spend actually expanding your brain, so get these out of your system now. Photo by Igor Nazarenko (Shutterstock).

1. Just Believe You Can Be Smarter

The last step? Just believe you can be smarter. Studies have shown that this simple belief can actually make it true. That isn't to say you should be pompous: you need toassume you aren't that great yet, which will leave you open to learning new things and asking new questions—the exact sort of things that can make you smarter. But it'll never happen if you believe your intelligence is somehow fixed, so once that roadblock is gone, you may find you're much freer to pursue the level of intelligence you want. If you're having trouble doing that, it may be time to recalibrate your reality—attitude is everything. Title image remixed from Alberto Zornetta (Shutterstock) and Petr84(Shutterstock).

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Junaid Tahir 
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

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Do We Perform Our Duties Towards Our Parents

The parents nowadays are quite worried about the behavioral changes in their children due to several socio-economical reasons. The gap between parents and the younger generations, is increasing day by day due to which the family bonding is getting weaker and weaker. They have forgotten the countless efforts and sacrifices made by their parents throughout their lives.

                                     
Since  birth we ate the  food provided by them -  many lakhs of times!!! Our  household expenses,  maintenance, educational needs,  daily coaching etc., was attended by them free of cost.  All our requirements  under the sky, from childhood till we started earning our own income, was provided by them at their cost, despite their financial conditions and ability,  until we became  independent  to enjoy and survive in this world. The services of our parents cannot be listed as it will run to volumes.  All that we can do in return is  our moral and spiritual responsibility to take care of them now when they are helpless

 
 
  1. Give them enough money understanding their requirements without their indicating  same.
  2. Share time with them to laugh and smile.
  3. Be polite and dont try to control their actions, but politely give your views slowly and softly.
  4. While walking keep pace with them as due to age, they may be slow and  stay behind them. Give them respect.
  5. Look after  their needs,  just  asking   "shall I bring water, some biscuits, a fruit  etc.,? Should i bring tea for you? Are you hungry, baba" etc
  6. Observe their health condition closely and take  them for periodical check ups. Sensitive parents will not ask you to do this and that.
  7. Check whether they take their mdicines timely and remind, dont talk about the cost of the medicine and value!!
  8. Take them out where they would like to go, and organise it to their satisfaction.
  9. Go from time to time to public places, parks, restaurants of their choice etc.,
  10. Respect their preferences and  likes. Dont force your views and preferences.]
  11. They dont demand respect, they deserve it
  12. When  elders arrive or depart, open the door with respect.
  13. Go shoping and watch they select and dont comment on their choices.. Your choices certainly will differ with theirs and you cannot thrust it on theirs.
  14. Daily wish them before you go out and return home visiting them in their rooms.
  15. Explain your children the importance of the grand parents and cultivate the habit so that you will be respected when they become grown up!!!
  16. When you come back to home, visit them first in their room.
  17. Don't criticize their friends and their manners, dresses etc., and talk ill of them.  They have not come to see you,or care for your views,  which please remember. 
     
  18. In any matter of discussions where the views of yours and the parents  differ try to follow their views as much as possible finding a compromising solution without hurting  feelings. Remember their sacrifices and time,  and you owe them immeasurably which they never asked for. Going their way with your supporting ideas would be ideal patiently and politely.
  19. Disposal of old parents to old age homes, and separate care homes is a crime unpardonable.   Rememer their hardship and difficulties in bringing you up and putting up with your tantrums and obstinacies  unmindfully. Dont be ignorant..
  20. At the dinner table, first serve food to them and then to others
A word to parents also  --  Please it is requested not to mention how much troubles and sufferings you had in bringing up your children in front of them or talk about the money you spent on their studies and maintenance etc. You will agree that This is not settlement of account matter.  Love begets love. 


 

Junaid Tahir 
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Story About a Father And His Son

An 65 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 38 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.


The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"
 The Son replied "It is a crow".
 After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"
 The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".
 After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, what is this?"
 At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow".
 A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, "What is this?"
 This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary:-

"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So, if your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents. From today say this aloud, "I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me. They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".

Say a prayer to God, "I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.


 

Junaid Tahir 
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Garden, Grass and Garbage




By Junaid Tahir

There is a garden near the place I live. My kids enjoy playing there. The garden service team trims the grass every 3-4 weeks. When the grass is trimmed it looks so lively, lovely and fresh. Kids enjoy and spend more time in the garden. After 2 weeks or so, the grass starts getting taller and turning yellow. This makes the garden unattractive. Also I noticed that the day grass is trimmed and someone throws a cigarette box or any other garbage it looks extremely bad however when the grass is taller and someone throws something, it's hardly visible.

If I consider the grass as human brain and the grass as negative thoughts and cigarette box as stress then I learn a very good moral from this analogy. Let me explain this: When I don't have any negative thoughts and stress I have a beautiful, powerful and fresh mind offering great services to the society, family and all humanity. However if I have negative thoughts (and in turn negative behavior) I start becoming the point of concern for the society, family, friends and colleagues. And when I have too many negative thoughts, I start nourishing roots of stress even if I don't know about it, just like the cigarette box not visible when grass is tall. Hence it is recommended to 'trim the grass' quite often. In my analogy, trimming the grass means to throw away unnecessary thoughts  and clean the mind from such garbage. When I have a clean mind (like trimmed grass), I can easily identify the roots of stress (cigarette box in trimmed grass) and easily handle the situation with my analytical skills eventually making my life more beautiful.  

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Pay the price for success



Success has a price, and today you have the golden opportunity to pay that price. Choose to do so, and valuable, unique, new fulfilling success is yours. 

Though the price you must pay for success is significant, it is never a burden. Willingly, joyfully and enthusiastically pay that price, and true success will fill your life. 


To pay the price of success, you must engage your effort, your creativity, your resourcefulness and a whole lot of other strengths, skills and abilities. What's truly beautiful is that when you pay the price of success, it actually ends up paying you back many, many times over. 

If you're trying to avoid paying the price of success, you're running away from your best possibilities. Stop, turn around, step up, do what must be done, and taste the sweet fulfillment that's waiting for you. 

Success has a very steep price, and one of life's greatest joys is the experience of paying that price. Don't ever cheat yourself out of the opportunity to feel that joy. 

Success has many benefits, and one big benefit is in the price you must pay. Pay that price, every chance you get, and enjoy the immense rewards of doing so.