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7 Ways to Build Effective Social Skills



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Do you feel awkward in conversations with people? Are you having a difficult time of pinpointing why? Do feel it's impossible to forge lasting and meaningful connections with other kids and adults, no matter the situation? If your answer to any of these questions is "yes", then you need to look at how you attempt to interact with others, and see how your social skills can be improved to get you out there and interacting with people in no time. Here are seven proven tips to improve your social skills and get you out there.

VALIDATE YOUR OWN EMOTIONS Many of the problems that come with poor social skills is the mistaken understanding that we look to others to validate our own emotions and worth. This is incorrect. You and you alone are responsible for the state of your own emotions, no matter what awful things someone might say to you. Be a mature adult (or kid) and take responsibility.

DON'T TRY TO THINK LOGICALLY ABOUT SOCIAL INTERACTIONS People are not rational creatures, they are rationalizing creatures. Most awkward social interaction stems from one person attempting to logically interpret the actions or emotions of the other person, when logical simply doesn't apply. Stop trying to be logical, and much if not all of the frustration you feel will melt away.

AVOID CRITICIZING OTHERS
Socially awkward people often have a problem with learning their mental filter, and controlling their compulsion to say whatever crosses their mind, positive or negative. Learn to control your need to criticize others. Criticism is a bad verbal communication habit.

TALK LESS ABOUT YOURSELF AND MORE ABOUT OTHERS
Social interaction would be easy if everyone simply wanted to talk about the other person. Alas, it rarely works that way. Learn to be interested in other people, and find the best ways to get them interested in learning about you, without volunteering to do it for them.

FOCUS OUTWARDLY
Try to become more of an 
extrovert if you're introverted(even though biologically this is impossible), in all facets of your life, and shift your focus away from yourself and towards the needs of others.

STOP BLAMING OTHERS
Along the lines of the previous point, do not blame others for your own ability to communicate or interact socially. You alone are responsible for fostering 
good social skills in yourself.

AVOID NEGATIVITY
No one likes to be around negative people, and nothing inhibits social interaction or growth more quickly than your own negative attitude. Try to keep the condemnations and complaints to a minimum in any and all conversations.
Social skills can be tough for kids and adults. In this article are seven proven tips to improve your social skills and get you out there socializing well with others.
Follow the seven tips for effective social skills and you'll be easily making friends in no time. You can also learn about a helpful resource called Elite Social Control.

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