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10 Signs Someone Is Smarter Than You


Unless you think you're the smartest, who doesn't want to be smarter? Of course I want to be smarter too, so I try to find out who's the real smart guy that maybe I can learn from. James Gardner has got me an answer on Quoraabout whether someone's smart or not.

Here are the signs of smart people:

  1. They don't talk as much as you do, because they know they got smart by listening.
  2. They know lots of things other than what they're specialised in. Theirs is the gift of a broad mind, constantly fed with the stimulant of being interested in what everyone else is doing.
  3. They juggle home, work and personal interests with dexterity and never fall back on the tired old refrain about "work life balance". And when they're juggling, they somehow manage to seem 100% engaged with what they're doing, on all fronts simultaneously, even though you know they're taking appropriate steps behind the scenes to make sure their lives are perfectly, serenely balanced.
  4. They probably do social media. Not always, but probably. It is not only another chance to listen, but one they use to ensure they can feed their brains with things they otherwise won't have come across.
  5. Even when things go very badly wrong, they'll be smiling. Smart people never get ruffled because their smart brains present them with alternatives faster than the bad stuff can happen.
  6. They know they are usually the smartest person in the room, but they don't spend their time dwelling on that. Instead, they take it as a personal challenge to see if they can make everyone else the smartest person in the room too.
  7. If they are managers, they will make every effort to get people smarter, more connected and more popular than them in their teams. They're not threatened because they know that smartness is synergistic. They also make sure that their smart people get to look smarter than them for the same reason.
  8. They have hidden skills that never get rolled out until they're needed. They don't have any need to show their full capabilities for reasons of proving they're better than others.
  9. They may or may not have expensive educations. You'd never know just by being with them unless you had their CV in front of you.
  10. They never, ever, under any circumstances, make you look stupid, even though it would be easy to do so. They've learned through bitter experience that the only thing that happens when you make someone look bad is you look bad yourself.

Now you should know who the smart people are. If you want to be the smart one, let me give you this extra advice from Steve Jobs "Stay hungry. Stay foolish."

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10 Best Moments in Life :)

1.     To wake up and realize it is still possible to sleep "10 min".
2.     To finish your last exam
3.     To get a phone call saying class is cancelled.
4.     To see an old friend again and to feel that things have not changed.
5.     To touch the fingers of newly born child.
6.     Walking alone on a silent road at night and thinking of some good old days memories.
7.     Riding the cycle/bike on a highway while it's raining.
8.     Sitting alone but you are still smiling cause you know someone is watching you.
9.     -The calm You feel inside when you Are near to Almighty God
10.   And the last one is "right now" while reading this message there was constant smile on your face


The Charles Schulz Philosophy !!!

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip.

You don't have to actually answer the questions. ......Just ponder on them....
Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4 Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.



~Did you know the answers to all questions? Probably not!!!

The point is........!
none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.
These are no second-rate achievers.
They are the best in their fields.
But the applause dies......{!!!}
Awards tarnish....... {!!!}
Achievements are forgotten.... {!!!}

Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners !
 

Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school {?}
2. Name three{3} friends who have helped you through a difficult time{?}
3. Name five{5} people who have taught you something worthwhile{?}
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special {??!!}
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.... {Hmmmmm ???}

Easier?

The lesson....?

The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials..
the most money...
or the most awards…
They are simply the ones who care the most!!

Pass this on to those people who have either made a difference in your life,
or whom you keep close in your heart~

Slow Down Therapy


Slow down;You are not responsible
for doing it all yourself, right now. God is there!

Remember a happy, peaceful time in your past. Rest there.
Each moment has richness that takes a lifetime to savor.

Set your own pace. When someone is pushing you, it's OK to
tell them they're pushing.

Take nothing for granted: watch water flow, the corn grow,
the leaves blow, your neighbor mow.

Taste your food. God gives it to delight as well as to
nourish.

Notice the sun and the moon as they rise and set. They
are remarkable for their steady pattern of movement, not
their speed.

Quit planning how you're going to use what you know, learn,
or possess. God's gifts just are; be grateful and their
purpose will be clear.

When you talk with someone, don't think about what you'll
say next. Thoughts will spring up naturally if you let them.

Talk and play with children. It will bring out the unhurried
little person inside you.

Create a place in your home...at your work...in your heart...
where you can go for quiet and recollection. You deserve it.

Allow yourself time to be lazy and unproductive. Rest isn't
luxury; it's a necessity.

Listen to the wind blow. It carries a message of yesterday
and tomorrow -- and now. NOW counts.

Rest on your laurels. They bring comfort whatever their size,
age, or condition.

Talk slower. Talk less. Don't talk. Communication isn't
measured by words
.

Give yourself permission to be late sometimes. Life is for
living, not scheduling.

Take time just to think. Action is good and necessary, but
it's fruitful only if we muse, ponder, and mull.

Make time for play -- the things you like to do. Whatever
your age, your inner child needs re-creation.

Watch and listen to the night sky. It speaks.

Listen to the words you speak, especially in prayer.

Learn to stand back and let others take their turn as
leaders. There will always be new opportunities for you
to step out in front again.

Divide big jobs into little jobs. If God took six days to
create the universe, can you hope to do any better?

When you find yourself rushing and anxious, stop. Ask
yourself "WHY?" you are rushing and anxious. The reasons
may improve your self-understanding.

Take a day off alone; make a retreat. You can learn from
monks and hermits without becoming one.

Pet a furry friend. You will give and get the gift of now.

Work with your hands. It frees the mind.

Take time to wonder. Without wonder, life is merely existence.

Sit in the dark. It will teach you to see and hear, taste and
smell.

Once in a while, turn down the lights, the volume, the
throttle, the invitations. Less really can be more.

Let go. Nothing is usually the hardest thing to do -- but
often it is the best.

Take a walk -- but don't go anywhere. If you walk just to
get somewhere, you sacrifice the walking.


Count your friends. If you have one, you are lucky. If you
have more, you are blessed. Bless them in return.

Count your blessings - one at a time and slowly.

When your head is on the Pillow
And the day is almost done
Count God's blessings
Count them one by one !

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14 Great Reasons To Get Motivated And Stay Motivated

Why should you bother to spend your valuable time to learn how to get motivated and stay motivated?
Here´s why.
Your quality of life will change dramatically when you take charge of how motivated you feel in any given moment.
Family and friends will respect you more and see you in a whole new light. And deadline frenzy will be a thing of the past.
There are several good reasons to learn the secrets to getting motivated and staying motivated.
What Learning How To Get Motivated And Stay Motivated Can Do For You

  • 1. Earn the respect of your boss and colleagues. As a dependable and productive member of the team people will appreciate you and seek your valuable advice on important matters.
  • 2. Understand what motivates you and enjoy greater success. When you discover your unique motivation blueprint getting ahead will never be a mystery again. You can fire up your motivation engine whenever you choose to.
  • 3. Save money by getting things done on time. You will eliminate those late fees, fines and charges that procrastinators waste their hard earned money on.
  • 4. Enjoy a more harmonious home life. Imagine hearing praise and gratitude for all the little things you get done around the house. You will enjoy a satisfying feeling of accomplishment at the end of each evening.
  • 5. Feel in charge of you life. As you get more done with ease you will have order where you used to have chaos. You will know what you want and feel compelled to move ahead and get it.
  • 6. Start new projects with enthusiasm and stay motivated over time. When you can see things through to completion you will have renewed confidence in your ability to succeed.
  • 7. Stay motivated in the face of challenges and negative people. Setbacks and unsupportive colleagues or friends will make you even more determined when you know how to stay motivated.
  • 8. Avoid the criticism, endless nagging and moaning of those around you. When you easily and effortlessly get things done you give people little reason to criticize you. In fact they are likely to give you more freedom to do things your way.
  • 9. Stop things getting any worse. When you know how to be highly motivated in a matter of seconds, you can turn around situations you have neglected in the past.
  • 10. Develop leadership skills and positively affect those around you. Your drive and enthusiasm will touch everyone you deal with. People will turn to you for leadership and guidance.
  • 11. Eliminate problems while they are small. You will deal with potential problems and concerns sooner rather than later. This habit alone will put you back in control.
  • 12. Put an end to regrets. Become the kind of person who jumps on opportunities. And enjoy the excitement and passion you feel when you are giving 100%.
  • 13. Move ahead quickly in your career. When you can calmly and efficiently get your work done, you position yourself for more responsibility and a higher salary.
  • 14. Feel fantastic about yourself. As a motivated self-starter your self-esteem will soar. You will accomplish much more, have greater success and live a full life.
*** Motivation is an essential life skill and you can discover how to be motivated and stay motivated. ***

Although some lucky people seem to be born highly motivated, if you are of at least average intelligence you can learn how to be motivated. No matter how unmotivated you have been up to now.
The secret to being motivated is to discover the motivation blueprint that is right for you.

About the Author:
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report, the 5 Step Motivation Report. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at:
http://www.getmotivatedstaymotivated.com/special.htm


Junaid Tahir 
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

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Active Listening


Listening is one of the most important skills you can have. How well you listen has a major impact on your job effectiveness, and on the quality of your relationships with others.

  • We listen to obtain information.
  • We listen to understand.
  • We listen for enjoyment.
  • We listen to learn.

Given all this listening we do, you would think we'd be good at it!

In fact most of us are not, and research suggests that we remember between 25 percent and 50 percent of what we hear. That means that when you talk to your boss, colleagues, customers or spouse for 10 minutes, they pay attention to less than half of the conversation. This is dismal!

Turn it around and it reveals that when you are receiving directions or being presented with information, you aren't hearing the whole message either. You hope the important parts are captured in your 25-50 percent, but what if they're not?

Clearly, listening is a skill that we can all benefit from improving. By becoming a better listener, you will improve your productivity, as well as your ability to influence, persuade and negotiate. What's more, you'll avoid conflict and misunderstandings. All of these are necessary for workplace success!

Tip:
Good communication skills require a high level of self-awareness. By understanding your personal style of communicating, you will go a long way towards creating good and lasting impressions with others.

About Active Listening

The way to become a better listener is to practice "active listening." This is where you make a conscious effort to hear not only the words that another person is saying but, more importantly, try to understand the complete message being sent.

In order to do this you must pay attention to the other person very carefully.

You cannot allow yourself to become distracted by whatever else may be going on around you, or by forming counter arguments that you'll make when the other person stops speaking. Nor can you allow yourself to get bored, and lose focus on what the other person is saying. All of these contribute to a lack of listening and understanding.

Tip: 
If you're finding it particularly difficult to concentrate on what someone is saying, try repeating their words mentally as they say them – this will reinforce their message and help you stay focused.

To enhance your listening skills, you need to let the other person know that you are listening to what he or she is saying. To understand the importance of this, ask yourself if you've ever been engaged in a conversation when you wondered if the other person was listening to what you were saying. You wonder if your message is getting across, or if it's even worthwhile continuing to speak. It feels like talking to a brick wall and it's something you want to avoid.

Acknowledgement can be something as simple as a nod of the head or a simple "uh huh." You aren't necessarily agreeing with the person, you are simply indicating that you are listening. Using body language and other signs to acknowledge you are listening also reminds you to pay attention and not let your mind wander.

You should also try to respond to the speaker in a way that will both encourage him or her to continue speaking, so that you can get the information if you need. While nodding and "uh huhing" says you're interested, an occasional question or comment to recap what has been said communicates that you understand the message as well.

Becoming an Active Listener

There are five key elements of active listening. They all help you ensure that you hear the other person, and that the other person knows you are hearing what they say.

1. Pay Attention

Give the speaker your undivided attention, and acknowledge the message. Recognize that non-verbal communication also "speaks" loudly.

  • Look at the speaker directly.
  • Put aside distracting thoughts.
  • Don't mentally prepare a rebuttal!
  • Avoid being distracted by environmental factors. For example, side conversations.
  • "Listen" to the speaker's body language.

2. Show That You're Listening

Use your own body language and gestures to convey your attention.

  • Nod occasionally.
  • Smile and use other facial expressions.
  • Note your posture and make sure it is open and inviting.
  • Encourage the speaker to continue with small verbal comments like yes, and uh huh.

3. Provide Feedback

Our personal filters, assumptions, judgments, and beliefs can distort what we hear. As a listener, your role is to understand what is being said. This may require you to reflect what is being said and ask questions.

  • Reflect what has been said by paraphrasing. "What I'm hearing is," and "Sounds like you are saying," are great ways to reflect back.
  • Ask questions to clarify certain points. "What do you mean when you say." "Is this what you mean?"
  • Summarize the speaker's comments periodically.

Tip: 
If you find yourself responding emotionally to what someone said, say so, and ask for more information: "I may not be understanding you correctly, and I find myself taking what you said personally. What I thought you just said is XXX; is that what you meant?"

4. Defer Judgment

Interrupting is a waste of time. It frustrates the speaker and limits full understanding of the message.

  • Allow the speaker to finish each point before asking questions.
  • Don't interrupt with counter arguments.

5. Respond Appropriately

Active listening is a model for respect and understanding. You are gaining information and perspective. You add nothing by attacking the speaker or otherwise putting him or her down.

  • Be candid, open, and honest in your response.
  • Assert your opinions respectfully.
  • Treat the other person in a way that you think he or she would want to be treated.

Key Points

It takes a lot of concentration and determination to be an active listener. Old habits are hard to break, and if your listening habits are as bad as many people's are, then there's a lot of habit-breaking to do!

Be deliberate with your listening and remind yourself frequently that your goal is to truly hear what the other person is saying. Set aside all other thoughts and behaviors and concentrate on the message. Ask questions, reflect, and paraphrase to ensure you understand the message. If you don't, then you'll find that what someone says to you and what you hear can be amazingly different!

Start using active listening today to become a better communicator, improve your workplace productivity, and develop better relationships.


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Thought for the Day - Ability Judgement

Everyone is a genius but if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree,
it will live its whole life believing that it is a stupid.
 
Friends, let others judgement not define you.
 
Be so rich that you can buy the most expensive things you desire.
But be so expensive that no riches on the earth can buy you.

Story: The Kindness of Poor Farmer

His name was Fleming, and he was a poor Scottish farmer. One day, while trying to make a living for his family, he heard a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. He dropped his tools and ran to the bog.

There, mired to his waist in black muck, was a terrified boy, screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad from what could have been a slow and terrifying death

The next day, a fancy carriage pulled up to the Scotsman's sparse surroundings. An elegantly dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming had saved.

'I want to repay you,' said the nobleman. 'You saved my son's life.'

'No, I can't accept payment for what I did,' the Scottish farmer replied waving off the offer. At that moment, the farmer's own son came to the door of the family hovel.

'Is that your son?' the nobleman asked.

'Yes,' the farmer replied proudly.

'I'll make you a deal. Let me provide him with the level of education my own son will enjoy If the lad is anything like his father, he'll no doubt grow to be a man we both will be proud of.' And that he did.

Farmer Fleming's son attended the very best schools and in time, graduated from St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in London, and went on to become known throughout the world as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming, the discoverer of Penicillin.

Years afterward, the same nobleman's son who was saved from the bog was stricken with pneumonia.

What saved his life this time? Penicillin.

The name of the nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill .. His son's name?

Sir Winston Churchill.

Someone once said: What goes around comes around.