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Story: The Corn Field - Love and Marriage



A student asks a teacher: What is love?

The teacher said: in order to answer your question, go to the paddy field and choose the biggest paddy
(rice before threshing --- Chawal ki baali)
and come back
,
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.

The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big paddy, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one... but may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.

Later, when he finished more than half of the paddy field, he start to realize that the paddy is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.

The teacher told him, this is love... you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person.



The student asked: What is marriage then?


The teacher said: In order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back.


But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.


The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfied, and came back to the teacher.

The teacher told him, this time you bring back a corn.... you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... this is marriage

Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.
Junaid Tahir 

Story: My Daughter Reminds Me a Great Lesson

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Yesterday morning while getting ready for office I was brushing my teeth. Without realizing my 3 years old daughter standing right behind me I moved a little backwards resulting my body hit her a little. Because my tooth brush was in my mouth so I couldn't say sorry to her. As Hadia has recently learnt about using Thank-you and Sorry for different situations from her school teacher, she was expecting me to say sorry without understanding the fact that while brushing her father can't do so. She waited for me for a little while to apologize which I did not. So her little heart broke and she started crying. I immediately finished my brushing and kissed her and said sorry to her. Very soon she became normal and forgot what has happened a while ago and we had a great breakfast J

Later I pondered that with friends, family and colleagues we often forget to say sorry for our mistakes which results in stiffen relationship causing brawls or complete break-up. While our loved ones give us time and expect our apologetic response, we forget to say sorry or sometimes even ignore the matter altogether considering it a minor one; whereas, it may be critically important for someone. Hence it is important for us to pay attention to this aspect and consider improving our Emotional Intelligence Skills (Managing ours' as well as others' emotions), enhance Empathic Skills and endeavour to develop trust with our loved ones for healthy relationships. 

Employees Feedback Mechanism



 

Employee Feedback has become a highly effective tool for consistent enhancement of departments and companies no matter what kind of business they are running. While there are Gallup® and
Six Sigma® systems in place for several companies in the world, still a lot of SOHOs and SMEs can use free templates to get employee's feedback which can give them an insight to the general and specific issues and the opportunity to improve them.  

 

Thinking on the same lines, I have made this below generic Employee Feedback Template which may be used by mangers, supervisors, team leads and leadership for their staff in order to evaluate at department or company level with regards to professional working, learning & Exposure, Growth and overall environment of the organization. Considering the secrecy/privacy of employees  Online Survey Services such as SurveyMonkey.com can be used where below questions can be copied to receive feedback from your audience. Read their terms and conditions for details.

If you would like to receive MS Excel version of this template which contains dropdown menu and remarks column, please drop me an email at mjunaidtahir @- Gmail and I shall be glad to assist with. Feel Free to provide feedback for improvements

 

 

Working Environment


Question

 Sample Answer

I feel I am contributing to my department's overall mission

Partially Agree

I have the materials and equipment I need to do my job well

Fully Agree

If I do good work I can count on being appreciated

Partially Disagree

I feel I am valued at my department.

Disagree

I feel part of a team working toward a shared goal. (Team members fully in sync for a specific goal)

Partially Agree

"Politics" in our company are kept to a minimum

Fully Agree

I can keep a reasonable balance between work and personal life

Partially Agree

My physical working conditions are good (Laptop, desk, phone etc)

Fully Agree

I am given enough authority to make decisions I need to make

Fully Agree

my department can improve the overall "Working Environment" if we do these things

NOT APPLICABLE

 

 

Learning & Exposure


Question

 Sample Answer

Our Company provides me adequate opportunities to learn and work on new technologies

Fully Agree

The Company provides me adequate opportunities for personal growth (personality development, communication skills)

Partially Agree

The Company provides me adequate training to perform my job.

Fully Agree

My department can improve the overall "Learning & Exposure" for all team members if these steps are taken

NOT APPLICABLE

 

 

 




 




 

 

Management (Direct or Indirect reporting)


Question

 Sample Answer

My manager develop strategies and long term plans

Fully Agree

My manager thinks in terms of big picture and how the pieces fit together

Partially Disagree

My manager makes bold moves and takes risk

Partially Disagree

My manager Creates positive working relations within the team members

Fully Agree

My manager encourages open discussions and ideas

Disagree

My manager conducts regular meaningful dialogues

Fully Agree

My manager develops talent by coaching and providing challenging works

Fully Agree

My manager clearly communicates the actions to do in order to achieve goals

Fully Agree

My manager endeavors building strong cohesive team

Disagree

My manager shows enthusiasm

Partially Disagree

My manager easily makes tough decisions

Partially Disagree

My manger takes responsibilities for the problems that occur in his team.

Partially Disagree

My manager quickly understands the complex problems

Partially Disagree

My manager stays focused and does not get distracted.

Disagree

My manager considers employees weakness and strengths while assigning tasks.

Fully Agree

My manager treats me fairly

Partially Disagree

My manager treats me with respect

Fully Agree

My manager handles my work-related issues satisfactorily

Partially Disagree

I like these things about my manager

NOT APPLICABLE

I think, my manager might consider these angles to improve.

NOT APPLICABLE




 




General


 Category

 Sample Answer

Timing of the Industry and timing of the company are inline

Fully Agree

My salary is fair for my responsibilities

Partially Disagree

My last performance appraisal accurately reflected my performance

Partially Agree

I'm satisfied with the benefits package (salary, leaves, medical )

Partially Agree

I believe my job is secure

Partially Disagree

Overall, I am satisfied with the company as an employer

Partially Agree

The Company should do the following in order to increase my job satisfaction level.

Not Applicable

How long I plan to stay with the company

More than 1 year













Humor: Story of Rat Statue


An Indian tourist walks into a curio shop in San Francisco.

Looking around at the exotica, he notices a very lifelike, Life-sized bronze statue of a rat. It has no price tag, but is so striking he decides he must have it.

He takes it to the owner: "How much for the bronze rat?"
"Twelve dollars for the rat, one hundred dollars for the
Story, “says the owner.

The tourist gives the man twelve dollars.
"I'll just take the rat, you can keep the story."
As he walks down the street carrying his bronze rat,
He notices that a few real rats crawl out of the alleys
And sewers and begin following him down the street.
This is disconcerting; he begins walking faster.
But within a couple blocks, the herd of rats behind
Him grows to hundreds, and they begin squealing.

He begins to trot toward the Bay, looking around to see that the rats now numbered in the MILLIONS, and are still Squealing and coming toward him faster and faster.

Concerned, even scared, he runs to the edge of the Bay And throws the bronze rat as far out into the Bay as he Can. Amazingly, the millions of rats all jump into the Bay After it, and are all drowned.

The man walks back to the curio shop.
"Ah ha," says the owner, "You have come back for the story?"
"No," says the man, "I came back to see if you have a statue of an Indian Congress  Politician in bronze!!



Junaid Tahir 
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How to Be Strong in Tough Time




By Junaid Tahir
When I was in my 12 grade, my elder sister, a teacher by profession, sent me a post card having these lines. "Don't be afraid of problems. Meet them, greet them, treat them and you will surely defeat them" So I dedicate this article to my sister for teaching a wonderful lesson of life; the life which is tougher than a teacher. Because the teacher teaches first and then takes the test whereas life puts us in test and then teach a lesson. These lessons come in different tastes (mostly bitter J) because of the unavoidable circumstances such as Financial Issues, Marital issues, Clash due to difference of opinion, Accidents and Mistakes done by us. In such situations following points can be considered in order to cope up:

1-    Confess that you have a situation which you need to face in order to fix. Yes, this is very important factor. I know a lot of people, trying to convince themselves that nothing is wrong, though stress keeps building at the back of their heads. Consequently, 
the stress explodes all of a sudden resulting in extreme outcomes. So the foremost thing is to tell yourself that you have to address the issue, instead of ignoring it.  
2-   Consider if the problem is something you should be really bothering about? Ask yourself whether it is not going to impact you if not addressed? If not, simply disregard it and be happy. However, if your brain think about the problem again and again then consider point-1 J
3-   Chose your attitude… Consider the wow approach. To learn about it please follow the linkhttp://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/2012/01/wow-approach.html 
4-   Consider if there are other people having same problem. If yes, check what they are doing to handle the situation. Search on internet, visit online answering services such as yahoo or wikihow. 
5-   Consider if you can breakdown the problem in smaller problems and fix each problem one by one. If you would like to develop analytical skills please read http://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/2012/02/how-to-develop-analytical-skills.html 
6-   Remember, if we cannot laugh again and again on the same joke, you shouldn't be worrying on the same issue again and again. Control your thoughts. You might want to read more on this athttp://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/2012/01/need-success-work-on-your-thoughts.html
7-   Don't allow people to make your life miserable. No one is in-charge of your happiness except you so ignore negative comments and suggestions. Please read my articlehttp://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/2012/01/reasons-for-negative-thoughts-stress.html 



Conclusion: A wise man is the one who learns from other's mistake. If you really want to be strong, you need to develop strong observation skills. You need to closely study people on how they behave at stressful situations. So keep observing and keep learning new horizons of inner power at the cost of others' experiences J.

Finally, don't give up. The successful and optimist people find solutions in nearly all kind of circumstances. So it's your choice either to be successful or to be a loser!

Story of Two Wolves


You might have heard the story about the two wolves. If not, here is the refresher.
The old man told his son that a battle between two wolves inside each one of us goes on all the times. First wolf is the Evil character wolf; it produces germs of anger, envy, sorrow, greed, arrogance, stress, lies and tension in our minds. Whereas, the second one is Good character wolf; it generates the energy for hope, peace, happiness, truth, generosity and ethics in our mind, heart and soul. The son asked, so who wins the battle? The old man replied, the one which you feed more!

The story has a superb driving force motivating us to do our self audit. The question is that which wolf we feed daily and how much? If we surround ourselves in negative character people, do back biting, leg pulling, learning tricks to deceive people and talk pessimist events or ideas then definitely we are strengthening the Evil Wolf. On the contrary, if we spend our times with nice and positive people, read good books, focus on solutions, and assist people in resolving their problems then we are encouraging the Good Wolf to overcome the Evil one. In the long run, the Wolf represents our character because eventually our character gets moulded either in to a Good Wolf or Evil Wolf.

How to Develop Interpersonal Communication Skills






Often, problems arise when this coordination is co-opted by one party's ignorance or incompetence at a given element. But do not fear. Here are nine quick tips to improving your interpersonal communications skills that will get you in the game right away.

#1 - ALWAYS ADDRESS PEOPLE BY NAME
This is the quickest, clearest skill to develop to let your conversation partner know you regard them as more than a sounding board. Something as simple as using their name will allow a much greater path toward mutual communication.


#2 - BE READY TO ADAPT ON THE FLY
Learn to read the tells of your conversation partner and how to tailor what you need to say to optimize effectiveness as the conversation progresses. This skill will serve you well.

#3 - MAKE YOUR CASE EXPLICITLY
To improve your interpersonal communication skills, get to the point of what you wish to say and do not rely on implication to get your message across. Don't make more work for your counterpart.

#4 - DON'T LEAVE THINGS OUT
Include everything you need to say and all of the supporting facts and data to make your points.

#5 - DON'T JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS
The easiest way to improve your interpersonal communication skills is to avoid jumping to premature conclusions about your counterpart or what they are trying to say.

#6 - AVOID ASSUMPTIONS
Also, avoid making assumptions as best as you can, as most often they are wrong, and work to inhibit communication. "Begin challenging your own assumptions," said Alan Alda. "Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won't come in."

#7 - OWN YOUR SPEECH
Use "I" and "me" and "mine" qualifiers as often as you can to mark your words as your own, and foster a sense of competency in your counterpart.

#8 - STRIVE FOR CLARITY
Always be clear in interpersonal communication and do not rely on hope that the other person understands "the gist" of what you were trying to say. Be clear and be direct.

#9 - RESPOND, DON'T REACT
This is perhaps the most crucial skill to learn in improving your interpersonal abilities. Respond thoughtfully and carefully to others, do not "react" because reaction is most often an unthinking (and disrespectful) activity.

You can improve your communication skills by adhering to each of these 9 tips throughout your social and work life.

Communicating with people, though outwardly may seem an easy task, is actually an incredibly nuanced and difficult thing when you examine the nuts and bolts of all of the moving parts that happen beneath the surface of interpersonal interaction. In this article are nine quick tips to improving your interpersonal communications skills that will get you in the game right away.
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What Happens When Luxuries Become Routines


When the luxuries of your life become your routines, the power of crisis survival gets reduced dramatically. On the contrary, a simple life style strengthens your inner abilities to fight all kind of tragic circumstances of your life. 

To elaborate this theory let us consider this example that if I take my son to a high end costly restaurant EVERY weekend then over the course of some months, it will become his routine to enjoy this treat. In fact this will no more be luxury for him, instead it will become his need. Now God forbid, for any reason, I am unable to take him to such restaurants then surely he is going to miss this luxury of eating out and/or soon would start complaining about it and/or get embarrassed or would emotionally be disturbed. Now if I apply this basic example to multiple luxurious habits (such as buying toys, video games, clothes too often or fulfilling all the wishes swiftly) then imagine what would happen to the psychology of my kid at the time of financial crisis? Indeed he will get dishearten, distracted and emotionally disturbed. He might feel that his blessings have been snatched from him all of a sudden. His overall personality and character would definitely be impacted !!!  (Article written by Junaid.Tahir)

Well, The purpose of all this elaboration is not asking you to deprive your loved ones from their rights but to reduce these luxury routines from your life. And in order to do that let us take the same eating-out example again. So if you ate out on last weekend, then this week you can eat home-made food. The money which  you were about to spend on eating out, you can buy some fruits or milk or anything for the guys working on the nearby petrol pump or the workers at a nearby construction project or simply encourage your children to give this money to any charity project. 
This mechanism has multiple advantages;
1-    You are helping less fortunate community members to enjoy the blessings. 
2-   You are raising your child with high ethical values
3-   You are adapting simple life style hence improving your strength to fight well during crisis.
4-   By eating home-made food you are adapting a healthy life style because its fresh, its less fatty, less control and have hygienic ingredients. Consequently you are helping yourself staying away from Heart and other several diseases.
5-   You are spreading happiness in your community. In fact, you are generating ripples of happiness and consequently adding high impact on society. Article written by Junaid.Tahir If you would like to adapt simplicity in your life, please do read my article here 
Eating out example is just for the sake of elaboration; in fact the concept can be applied in several domains of life.

Reducing the Gap between Potential and Performance




First of all let us understand what is Potential and what is Performance. Potential is the ability to execute or accomplish something whereas Performance is the actual work done during specific timelines. This actual amount of this work would either be equal or less than the Potential. For example, a mason has the capability (potential) of laying 1000 bricks a day, however he lays 800 bricks (Potential). In this example, there is a gap of 200 brick which should have been laid by the mason in the ideal scenario.
So let us review some factors which
 need to be considered in order to reduce the gap between Potential and Performance. The analysis can be applied to different scenarios such as office employee, domestic work or even for self audit.

1-    Stress at work: Managers need to closely observe if any specific employee is disturbed due to any reason (either personal or office politics or any other office stress). The manager needs to discuss it in person so as to reduce or fix the stressful situation. If there are ethical issues, its manager responsibility to take necessary actions for the employees trapped in ethical issues.
2-   Skills development: The saw needs to be sharpen now a then. Read this nice storyto understand the concept in detail. 
3-   Fair payment: Employee needs to be paid fairly which should be in accordance with their capabilities. Also, the level of embarrassment increases if different employees are not treated evenly. 
4-   Health: Fair amount of rest should be offered to employees in case they are sick. The performance will definitely be degraded if an employee is pushed to work beyond his health limits.
5-   Team work: Encourage all team members to work for a common goal. Associate awards with accomplishment of tasks. 

Conclusion: Improving happiness index and loyalty factor to the company will improve throughput. Think from each members' perspective that when he/she wakes up in the morning, what he thinks before coming to office. Is he enthusiastic about coming to office or just coming for time pass? Is he/she a motivated and a highly engaged employee? Remember, employees are like batters you need to charge them consistently for best performance. 


How to Develop Analytical Skills





By Junaid Tahir 

In our day to day life whether official, personal or social, we have to deal with complications. Some situations are easy to handle with but other are complex which snatch the peace of mind because our brain gets stuck on how best to handle such state of affair. This is where our Analytical Skills help us. The prime purpose for the Analysis of any given situation is to get to know the root cause(s) of the issue, to forecast the impact and to plan corrective/preventive actions strategy. So basically analytical skill is to visualize a given situation, task, project or issue from several angles in order to breakdown it into smaller steps.
Below are different situations where our analytical skills are required. I shall give advises in each category accordingly:

1)    When Summarizing Large Amount of Data: In this situation, I highly recommend using Pivot Tables feature of MS Excel in order to generate reports. The Pivot Reports feature allows us playing with the data in several ways to generate multi-dimensional reports. We can breakdown large amount of data in different sheets to apply Pivot Reports separately as well. Youtube is a very good source of videos for learning this skill. Pivot table can also generate reports for Trends and Forecast in two to three dimensions.

2)   When  Resolving Conflicts in Office: In this case, listen to all parties which are having difference of opinion. List down the positive and negative input factors and after-effects based on feedback from individuals. Make it in tabular format and review this with your manager to see which one is the best option to go for. Then call for a meeting to elaborate the overall picture based on your fair analysis and convince personnel for the option which is in the best interest of the company. Read me detailed article here 

3)   When Being Assigned a large project: in this case you need to make a high level agenda (High Level Project Deliverables) and then start working on WBS (Work Breakdown Structure) and then assign each task to relevant resource. While making WBS you can have a meeting with your Team Leads and other stake holders. You can consider Fishbone diagram to analyze the inputs of any task. 

4)   When Resolving a Technical issue: The advice here is to consult the product guide to see the possible root causes, consult the SME (Subject Matter Expert) for opinion or consult the Lesson Learnt Register. For all kind of issues resolutions, I always recommend two things. First is to take corrective action to fix the issue, Second is to take Preventive Action (fix the root cause permanently) so that the issues do not pop up again. Six Sigma's DMAIC is another recommended way for analyzing and improving.You may want to get Six Sigma documents by dropping me an email at mjunaidtahir-at-gmail-dot-com

5)   When purchasing something: Let us take the example of mobile phone. When you want to purchase a new mobile you need to ask yourself: do I need touch screen, do I need wifi, do I really need to purchase new mobile, what is my budget? do I need 5MP camera, do I need iphone or Android, do I need 4 inch screen or less? What other specs do I need to consider. So Basically you are analyzing your demands to come up with the right mobile which is to be purchased. Read my article on how to buy the best phone here

6)   When handling family conflicts: Being a sensitive subject, this is something where you need much more than analytical skills; For each family member involved in the conflict, you have to have sense of feelings, emotions study, stress absorption power, age factor, relationship level and convincing power so in my opinion this is the most difficult part of practicing your analytical skills. You have to consistently guide everyone about 'forgive and forget' policy. You have to calmly listen to each party and take adequate time to analyze all aspects (as mentioned a couple of lines back) vigilantly before concluding something on the brawl. 



Conclusion: Analytical skills can make your life easier in almost all aspects of decision making or problem solving, however, it's not only the matter of considering all the options and the inputs, its matter of considering the weight of each option as well. For example, for a given situation you have two options having equal number of advantages or disadvantages so in order to conclude in such situation you have to consider the weight of each option. While doing your analysis you might want to consider the difference between Urgent and Important things. If that is the case please read my article