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Story: The Law of Potatoes

There is a very interesting and quite applicable law in the book: “Tough times never last, but tough people do”!

If we are facing challenges in life or problems or difficulties, law of potatoes will be helpful for us. It is said that: “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

Roert Schuller says that people are like Potatoes!. Farmers have to ‘categorize’ potatoes after the harvest.

Potatoes come in different sizes i.e. small, medium and large. Hence, if a farmer intends to get maximum value after sales, potatoes need to be arranged based on their sizes before shipping them to the market.
In order to ship potatoes to the market, potatoes are to be put into different bags based on their categories, after which they are loaded into trucks. This is the method that most of the potato farmers use in order to get maximum amounts from sale of potatoes. 

However, there was one farmer who was different. He never sorted his potatoes i.e. he never categorized them according to their size but always managed to get maximum sales!

How is that possible?  Can you get maximum sales without sorting out potatoes as per their sizes?

So, one of the farmers went to this person and asked him “What is your secret? How can you earn maximum without sorting or categorizing potatoes according to their size?”

He said, “It’s simple. I just load up the wagon with potatoes and take the roughest road to town from my village. During the long trip, the little potatoes always fall to the bottom".

The medium potatoes land in the middle, while the big potatoes rise to the top. So, the categorization is done based on the rough road”

This is the law of potato: Difficulties of life are there to make us better and not bitter.

It is a law of life. Big potatoes rise to the top on rough roads, and tough people rise to the top in rough times. When we face difficulties in life, we need to remember that every season in life will pass. We can be happy in life, no matter what.

After night, there is morning. There is sun rise after every sunset. Likewise, after every period of difficulty, there is peace. We need to remember:

Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do!

We would highly recommend to read this small 120 page book (Tough time never last, but tough people do) to every one who is facing difficulties in life.

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Story: My Son Came to Me in Kitchen

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.
He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told,

How we treat our loved ones, young and old.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken.

I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake in bed,

  My conscience small voice came to me and said,
"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."
By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.
"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."
I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway."
I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.

But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?
Behavioral Contractions !!!

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Story: Living for Others


My wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling daughter eat her food?'

I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene. My only daughter Sindu looked frightened.

Tears were welling up in her eyes. In front of her was a bowl filled to its brim with Curd Rice. Sindu is a nice child, quite intelligent for her age. She has just turned eight. She particularly detested Curd Rice. My mother and my wife are orthodox, and believe firmly in the 'cooling effects' of Curd Rice! I cleared my throat, and picked up the bowl.

'Sindu, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this Curd Rice? Just for Dad's sake, dear.

Sindu softened a bit, and wiped her tears with the back of her hands.

'OK, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this.

But, you should...' Sindu hesitated. 'Dad, if I eat this entire curd Rice, will you give me whatever I ask for?'....

Oh sure, darling'.... 'Promise?'......... 'Promise'.

I covered the pink soft hand extended by my daughter with mine, and clinched the deal.

'Ask Mom also to give a similar promise', my daughter insisted.

My wife put her hand on Sindu's, muttering 'Promise'. Now I became a bit anxious.

'Sindu dear, you shouldn't insist on getting a computer or any such expensive items. Dad does not have that kind of money right now. OK?'

'No, Dad. I do not want anything expensive'.

Slowly and painfully, she finished eating the whole quantity.

I was silently angry with my wife and my mother for forcing my child eat something that she detested. After the ordeal was through, Sindu came to   me with her eyes wide with expectation. All our attention was on her.

'Dad, I want to have my head shaved off, this Sunday!' was her demand.

'Atrocious!' shouted my wife, 'A girl child having her head shaved off? Impossible!' 'Never in our family!' my mother rasped.

'She has been watching too much of television. Our culture is getting totally spoiled with these TV programs!'

Sindu darling, why don't you ask for something else? We will be sad seeing you with a clean-shaven head.'

'No, Dad. I do not want anything else', Sindu said with finality.

'Please, Sindu, why don't you try to understand our feelings?'

I tried to plead with her.

'Dad, you saw how difficult it was for me to eat that Curd Rice'.

Sindu was in tears. 'And you promised to grant me whatever I ask for.

Now, you are going back on your words. Was it not you who told me the story of King Harishchandra, and its moral that we should honor our promises no matter what?'

It was time for me to call the shots.
'Our promise must be kept.'
'Are you out your mind?' chorused my mother and wife.

'No. If we go back on our promises, she will never learn to honor her own.

Sindu, your wish will be fulfilled.'

With her head clean-shaven, Sindu had a round-face, and her eyes looked big and beautiful.

On Monday morning, I dropped her at her school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Sindu walking towards her classroom. She turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile. Just then, a boy alighted from a car, and shouted, 'Sinduja, please wait for me!'

What struck me was the hairless head of that boy.
'May be, that is the in-stuff', I thought. 'Sir, your daughter Sinduja is great indeed!' Without introducing herself, a lady got out of the car, and continued,' that boy who is walking along with your daughter is my son Harish. He is suffering from... ... leukemia.' She paused to muffle her sobs.

Harish could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy. He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates.

'Sinduja visited him last week, and promised him that she will take care of the teasing issue.

But, I never imagined she would sacrifice her lovely hair for the sake of my son! Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your daughter.'

I stood transfixed. And then, I wept. 'My little Angel, you are teaching me how self-less real love is!'

*The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for the ones whom they love.*
Love Touch And Inspire your FRIENDS "The life is short, the vanities of world are transient but they alone live who live for others; the rest are more dead than alive”

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Money , Experience & Happiness

My dear readers, Experience has shown that:
You will never know what the total cost of your education was, but for a lifetime you will recall and relive the memories of schools and colleges. Few years from now, you will forget the amount you paid to settle the hospitalization bill, but will ever cherish having saved your mother's life or the life you get to live with the just born. You won't remember the cost of your honeymoon, but to the last breath remember the experiences of the bliss of togetherness. Money has no memory. Experience has. No denying that anything that's material cost money, but the fact remains the cost of the experience will be forgotten, but the experience never.
  So, what if it's economic recession?
Let it be, but let there not be a recession to the quality of your life. . You can still play with your children, if not on an international holiday, at least in the local park. It doesn't cost money to lie down or to take a loved one onto your lap.
  Nice time to train the employees, create leadership availability and be ready for the wonderful times when they arrive. Hey! Aspects like your health, knowledge development and spiritual growth are not economy dependent.
  Time will pass…economy will revive… currency will soon be in current…and in all this, I don't want you to look back and realize you did nothing but stayed in gloom.
  Recession can make you lose out on money. Let it not make you lose out on experiences…

If you are not happy with what you have, no matter how much more you have, you will still not be happy.
  Make a statement with the way you live your life: How I feel has nothing to do with how much I have.
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Self-Esteem -- What You Think About Yourself

By Ms. Aymen Qundeel

Self-esteem can be defined as the way we feel about ourselves. In other words, it can be our self-concept that is reinforced by others evaluation about us. Our mind keeps on thinking all the time. A collision of ideas, thoughts and things occurs sometimes consciously as well as unconsciously.

All the time, we convey unconscious self-appraisals of others and they respond to them accordingly. This is all about our self-esteem. It is one of the vital elements of character building. Many factors contribute in the formation of it but self-esteem acts like a protrusion where the other elements ascend or else descend. Thus, the character grows accordingly. At this stage, the two poles of character come to lime light which shows high self-esteem and low self-esteem. Now a cross comparison has been shown for further elaboration of them.

As we know, success propagates success and failure begets failure. Our self concept is directly proportional to our productivity. People with high self-esteem always do constructive work. They optimize their productivity both in quality and quantity. On the other hand, people with low self-esteem laments over previous defeats. They present a heap of justifications for not being wrong. They slur upon others. In this way, they consume their productive hours viciously. A destructive pattern comes into being which shows their argue unnecessarily. They also start manifesting their stubborn nature which demonstrates their selves as self-conceited persons. So, it can be said that they are true followers of fatalistic approach. They take no initiatives. They just sit and wait for things to happen. They assume that everything is predestined and their efforts would be ended in smoke. The sole motto of their life looks busy and do nothing. As a result, they populate their hard ego. Their own negative thinking proofs that their prophecy is true.

Whereas, people with high self-esteem are flexible in nature. It does not mean to have a massive ego in them. They irrigate their conscience with bare reality. They get ready to admit their flaws. They don’t defend their wrong doings by screaming at all. They build strong convictions silently. Moreover, they try hard to compensate. That's why they have a tendency to tolerate. As a result, their actions become the embodiment of a realistic approach. So, a constructive spectrum forms and it generates new avenues of optimism.

Nevertheless, low self-esteem holders hanker after their idealistic world in which they soak their emotions into darkness. Their pessimism thrones at their hearts. Finally, they become victims of dejection. Melancholic and sardonic humor get circulated in their blood. They always bewail about themselves. They have not even least concern about others feelings. They are echoes of the words and become more touchy. There touchy attitude is signifying cactus approach. This is the reason they cannot develop good relationships. They are self-centered and invest loyalties to gain something. Actually, they want to take a leave from their responsibilities. They personify distracting tendency.

On the opposite side, high self-esteem holders do not fall prey to disappointments. They rehabilitate and become more sensitive to other person needs. They value every acquaintance. They try hard to sustain them at any cost without personal motives. This thing is the progression of the caring and sensitive attitude.

It is another aspect of their personality. They forge a post and burn like a midnight oil to establish their good will. They never compromise about their good character. But the others advertise themselves by bragging in order to gain cheap reputation. They are gossips mongers in true sense. When there is a real need to talk, they resist and feel themselves alone in the crowd. They are haunted by fears and loneliness becomes their fate. They may not know what they can do. This is the picture of lack of confidence that gives birth to insufficiency of motivation. They seek motivation from outside. Generally, an external source of motivation is inconsistent. Such people fed up from their routines. That's why the persistency and consistency evaporate from their nature.

Unlikely, other people have reserve personality. They seem to prefer being alone. They value their time and make it more valuable by fruitful discussions. They are blessed with the latent capacity to defend their own words. It becomes the permanent part of their nature. They manifest consistency. They are internally driven that consolidates their confidence level. They set the trends and formulate their own standards. They are more prone to challenges. They take them as an adventure. Thus, they act according to a systematic strategy. The depth of their determination depends upon the swiftness of their progress. They opt the formula to Do or Die.

They have extrinsic quality to receive both appreciation and criticism. They have molded their characters. This feedback accelerates their rate of assertiveness. On the contrary, the low self-esteem holders take challenges as a new hurdle. They are premised that it is their unalterable fate. They never think that every lock has a key. They have no faith in commitments. Their lives revolve around probabilities. They always expect appreciation over their ridiculous actions even. They cannot digest criticism and have cynical approach. This adds aggression that ends in worse results. They nominate themselves rebels having fragile ego.

In a nutshell, every man draws some boundaries for different things. He can’t grow beyond the boundaries of self-concept. It is always up to his ability of self-analysis. If he thinks he is positive, everything seems to be hailing. If he thinks he is negative, nature seems to be against him. It is very simple because the more you extend your border, the more your vision will be broaden.

 an is one of the biggest blessings of Allah for any Pakistani. Whatever we have today it’s all because of Pakistan, otherwise, we would have nothing. Please be sincere to Pakistan.

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7 Ways You Should Treat Your Employees!

Rhonda Knisley
How well do you treat your employees?  Do you treat your employees well on a daily basis, only when they do a good job, or not at all?

Hopefully you are one of those individuals in management who treats your employees well all the time.  There are those that don’t ever treat their employees well and those who do it inconsistently.   It makes me wonder how a manager or supervisor can lose site of the fact that the employees are one of the key elements in the operation of the organization.

Most organizations realize the value of its employees and do many positive things to keep employees engaged.  Managers and supervisors should carry on that same momentum, but many of them don’t.  It’s a puzzle to me why they wouldn’t continue to promote employee engagement within their departments when it’s a management philosophy.

It is easy to tell which supervisors and managers promote employee engagement in their departments by the way the employees act.  The departments where no extra effort has been dedicated to the employees reflects minimal interaction and there is no positive energy in the room.  Employees work individually, and productivity is low. When the supervisor or manager dedicates time and training to his or her employees, you can feel the positive energy as soon as you enter the department.  The atmosphere is upbeat, the employees are working individually and in teams and have ongoing interaction with their supervisor or manager.  Productivity is obvious
So if you are not treating your employee’s right, here is 7 ways that might help you improve!

  • Build a rapport with your employees – get to know who they are.

  • Conduct weekly meetings with your employees – keep them updated on what is going on in the department and the organization.  Ask for their input and answer their questions honestly.

  • Define your expectations – employees need to know what you expect and what your limitations are.

  • Provide work related training for the employees so they can learn new things and improve their skill set.

  • Acknowledge your employees, show your appreciation for doing a great job – have lunch brought in, make sure you always tell them thank you.

  • Make sure your employees understand they can come to you – whether they have questions, a problem or suggestions, let them know you are always ready to hear what they have to say.  Open communication is of the utmost importance.

  • Be spontaneous and do things to show your appreciation and say thank you for being a great employee.  Be creative and have special days like“Casual Day Friday” and have “Appetizer Afternoon” … you get the idea.

The simplest things mean a lot, too.  People want to feel appreciated and showing that you are invested in your employees and their well being lets them know you have faith and trust in them.  Once your employees know you have trust and faith in them, you will see that they will begin to have the same with you.  When you have happy employees, it makes things so much easier.   When you have a positive and happy work environment, you have employees who are productive and want to do the best job they can.

You goal is to be there for you employees.  By showing your support, maintaining open communication, and acknowledging and showing your appreciation, you become a supervisor or manager that employees want to work with.

There are lots of things you can do for your employees.  These 7 suggestions are ones I think are important.

I’d like to know what some of your suggestions are, so please feel free to share your comments.
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HEALTH: Always hungry? 12 reasons you need to take it more seriously!

excessive hunger

Mita Majumdar
You just had a sumptuous breakfast. Within half an hour you get the urge to eat, so you wolf down a pack of chips. Within minutes you are hungry again. You raid the fridge for the leftover cake from yesterday’s party, finish it, and then you are hungry again! And this is not the first time this is happening with you. It has become a regular affair. You are worried that you will put on weight, and rightly so. You think – What could be causing your hunger? And more importantly what could suppress your excessive hunger?

Feeling excessively hungry is normal if you have overdone it in the gym or jogged an extra mile. And if you are pregnant, of course, you will have an increased appetite. You may also tend to eat more when recovering from an illness.  But excessive hunger can be a symptom of different diseases too. The scientific community terms it hyperphagia or polyphagia.

Notice how you have excess desire for food when you are stressed out? Persistent stress and anxiety is a definite trigger for excessive hunger. Whenever we are stressed the brain is triggered to produce corticotropin-releasing hormone (CRH) and adrenaline, which suppress appetite. But if stress persists, the adrenal glands release the hormone cortisol, which increases appetite. If the stress is prolonged, cortisol may stay elevated causing excessive hunger.

Mental health disorders such as bipolar disorder and manic depression associated with an imbalance of chemicals in the brain, hormonal deficiencies, and genetic factors can increase your desire for food enormously. Bipolar disorder is characterized by severe mood swings, very high energy levels and impulsiveness. Depression, on the other hand, is characterized by overwhelming persistent feelings of sadness, low energy levels, and difficulty concentrating. (Read: Bipolar disorder: Symptoms, causes, diagnosis and treatment)

Eating disorders like bulimia cause excessive hunger. Bulimia involves binge eating, which means uncontrolled overeating or eating much larger amounts of food than you normally would within, say, less than two hours. This phase of binge eating is followed by purging or self-induced vomiting. A similar eating disorder is compulsive overeating or binge eating. This disorder starts gradually as in a child who turns to food when upset and over time he learns that food.

At times, excessive hunger might also be tell-tale sign of a worm infestation in the intestine. These worms, for example, tapeworm, can live for a long period of time without being detected by you. These parasites rob the body of all essential nutrients leaving you with undesired fats and sugars. You start feeling uncontrollably hungry and tend to overeat. Read 10 tips to prevent hunger pangs and cravings at nights

Hypoglycemia or low blood sugar is another reason why you feel excessively hungry. Hypoglycemia symptoms such as hunger, fatigue, headache, cold sweats, confusion and mild tremors can be caused by over-exercising and not eating enough carbohydrates, starvation dieting, and alcohol addiction. In these cases, the hypoglycemia is short termed, and blood sugar levels are restored when you eat. But if you have liver disease, the hypoglycemia becomes chronic and you have the urge to eat all the time. This is because the body usually produces sugar in the liver to avoid blood sugar levels falling. And if you have a liver disease, your liver won’t be able to produce sugar.

Type-2 diabetes, too, can make you feel hungry constantly. Okay, it is easy to understand why you feel so hungry when you have low blood sugar, but how on earth do you feel hungry when you are overloaded with sugar? That’s what diabetes is all about, isn’t it? Interestingly, high blood sugar does cause hunger, even though you do not need more food. This is because every cell in your body relies upon insulin to get the sugar from the blood. If there is not enough insulin, or if it isn’t working properly, sugar piles up in the blood but it can’t get into the cells where it is needed. So the cells send the signal to the brain to get more food. And because this is happening all the time, you tend to feel hungry constantly. (Read: Diabetes – Symptoms, causes, diagnosis, treatment and complications)

Certain medications such as corticosteroids, cyproheptadine, and tricyclic antidepressants are known to cause hyperphagia.

Food craving is a common physical symptom of premenstrual syndrome (PMS). The syndrome occurs during the second half of the menstrual cycle and goes away within 1 – 2 days after the period starts. Other symptoms include bloating, headache, diarrhoea or constipation and breast tenderness. Mood swings, fatigue, and sleep problems too occur during this time. (Read: Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) – tips to deal with it)

Excessive hunger is also associated with Hyperthyroidism and Grave’s disease, an autoimmune disease affecting the thyroid. The thyroid functions to increase the metabolic rate, so an overactive thyroid shows symptoms of hyperactivity, insomnia, or constant hunger that is unsatisfied by eating. Incidentally, you don’t gain weight here by all the eating; instead you lose weight since you burn calories at a much faster rate because of overactive thyroid.

Genetic disorders such as Prader-Willi syndrome (PWS) are sometimes responsible for excessive hunger. The disorder is characterized by excessive appetite with progressive obesity, short stature and mental retardation. PWS is the most common genetic form of obesity, but why it causes excessive hunger is not yet fully known. Researchers think it may due to the presence of high levels of the appetite hormone called ghrelin that could be responsible. High levels of ghrelin appear to make high-calorie foods look more appealing, so it is not difficult to guess why a person with PWS, who has 3-fold higher levels, tends to eat more and become fat.

Chromosomal abnormality, again a gene disorder can cause excessive hunger. It is well known that an imbalance between energy intake and energy expenditure results in obesity. And a part of the brain, called hypothalamus, regulates these two factors.  Hypothalamus contains numerous small nuclei that produce hormones responsible for body temperature, hunger, mood regulation, and other autonomic body functions. One of these nuclei (paraventricular nucleus PVN) is responsible for regulating hunger. When PVN malfunctions because of structural defect, you feel excessive hunger and overeat.

Adverse intrauterine environment has been found to be the precursor to excessive hunger. Researchers from the University of Auckland, New Zealand, proposed a very interesting cause for hyperphagia. They found that excessive hunger to be a consequence of ‘fetal programming’. It is based on the theory that if there are adverse conditions in the uterus of the mother, say malnutrition, metabolic and hormonal changes occur in the fetus to adapt itself to the intrauterine conditions. If these adaptive responses persist even after the baby is born, it leads to metabolic, cardiovascular and endocrine disorders.

Emotional support from family and friends and sometimes counseling may be required to deal with excessive hunger. Contact your doctor if you have persistent increase in appetite. Failure to seek treatment can result in serious complications and permanent damage.
Source: TheHealthSite

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Story: The Man In Trouble

A man was caught and thrown into a pit (A big hole on earth) of about "40 feet" deep, just because he was a stranger. He struggled trying to get out of the pit,but the more he tried, the weaker his muscles became. He said to himself, "I don't know how to get myself out of this. Maybe I should just die instead of enduring these miserable struggles and pains."
Just then, he heard a voice screaming, "Help! Help!! Help!!!" The shouts were coming from another pit, which was 10 feet more deeper than the one he was in.
He thought to himself, "Wow, so there is somebody else like me trapped here too". Listening carefully, he heard some cracking and sand dropping from the wall of the pit of the other victim. Immediately he summed up his courage and with his last bit of strength, started crawling little by little until he made it out of his pit.
That pain you think you are passing through, there are people worst off than you. Always say something sweet to yourself. Always smile at your
pains. Let them be; they are just there for a while and also to challenge you. Today may be your darkest hour, but your joy will come in the morning. Try to encourage yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror, beat your chest and say, "I can make it and I can stand the test of time."
*Always try to face your worst fear because nothing GOOD comes easy. You must be UNCOMFORTABLE to get to your COMFORT ZONE.

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