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Principles of Corporate Life

Some things never change. The way we feel about our children, the smile we get when first we smell the earthly aroma after the rain. These feelings rarely change, nor do some core principles of what it means to be human and to be alive. Here are 19 things we should never forget, because they have always been true.

It's Critical Not to be Critical


Have you noticed how some people just seem to find fault in everything? You go out with someone and buy them coffee but the cup is just not big enough (or small enough) or the chairs around the table should be blue instead of green, or the flowers on the table are just not fresh! Some people have the habit of commenting on, and criticizing just about everything. What is it going to take to be positive and to look at the brighter side of life?
No one wants to spend a day with a critical person. If you have tried it you know just how it feels. When someone continues to find fault in you, or the objects around you, or the way you run your life, then you feel as though you want to run from them as fast you can. Commenting on a person’s possessions or circumstances is almost the same as insulting the person themselves.
Criticism is an expression of disapproval and always follows a judgment. It almost implies that our life needs a ‘performance review’ and in this case we have failed… at least in the eyes of the beholder! The fact is that criticism usually tells us more about the critic, than the receiver.
Critics are usually critical of most things and most people, usually because they are unhappy people and want to share their dissatisfaction with everyone else. Unfortunately their complaints will not change the world or other people, and so they will never be happy.
Critics have a time and place to carry out their ‘vocation’, but unsolicited advice, especially when delivered with an air of superiority, never goes down well. Knowing what to say, when, and where, and with whom, is an art. But if we have a tendency to be critical (and who isn’t, from time to time?) then the lesson we really need to learn is how to be happy with ourselves.
It is not our true nature to focus on the sad or bad. Focusing on the faults of the child will never make him or her grow up to be a ‘somebody’. Rather, he will always be seeking the approval of adults or peers even when he is in his rocking chair because that is how he has learned to measure ‘success’.
The soul blooms when there is love, acceptance and acknowledgement. It’s much nicer to be complimented than complained about. Take birthdays as an example; the day when your inbox is filled with good wishes and blessings from all over the world.  How do you feel?
Try taking a few moments every now and then to just see the goodness in all the things around you and all the people in your orbit at any given time. The critic can always find something to complain about in any situation, but it is really simply a point of view which is coming from a deep seated negative attitude, which can be shifted.
Even if you can see that something or someone needs improvement and can benefit from that, just try in that moment to accept the situation or the person… comment later if need be… but in that moment control your emotions, just try to expand your tolerance level, and increase your acceptance level. This very deed may help the other to seek guidance for improvement, or invite comments.  But moreover, you will feel better for keeping a positive vision. You will find your relationships will improve in leaps and bounds.
Anther major aspect to this whole exercise is to master the ability to remain quiet with the mind and the lips for a while, especially when I want to jump in or to react.  If my mind is like any unleashed dog that barks and bites at anything passing by then it means I do not have a grip on my mind or my tongue.
Learning to stay positive is a training we must give to the mind if we are to survive and not get stressed and stained by life. You may, for example, see the dry bare tree and think how ugly it is, but switch your thoughts to how momentous it is that the tree is still standing, and see its majesty instead. Someone may not get you exactly the gift you wanted, but at least they had the thought. Or, you may have a challenge with your colleague at work, but hey, think again, are YOU perfect? And would it really hurt to be co-operative rather than critical?
Treating ourselves more kindly and shifting our vision towards appreciation and gratitude for the people and things around us are the best antidotes for criticism. When I feel a sense of contentment within, then I don’t notice the little things around me that would otherwise bug me. And if I feel content with myself, then I am less likely to feel hurt by the criticism of others. Instead I can send them positive thoughts and good wishes, for they are the ones who are in need!
It’s time… to shift your mindset and take a positive view. Being critical is destructive and unproductive, so for your own good and the good of others… it’s critical not to be critical!

Are you as Ambitious as Steve Jobs, Mara dona and Picasso?

By Junaid Tahir:
Ambition, by definition, is to have strong inner desire in order to achieve something plus the willingness of striving in order to achieve it. The goal can be in terms of wealth, education, job promotion, honour or fame. When you are ambitious you posses great deal of energy inside your brain and heart. This energy acts as fuel to perform all the necessary steps in order to achieve what you want to achieve. You play your 'games' like Maradona; you imagine and paint your 'life portraits' like Picasso and you act like Steve Jobs when it comes to creativity and innovation.

However this does not mean that if you do not have expertise as those of Maradona or Pablo Picasso or Steve Jobs, you cannot be ambitious. The purpose of mentioning these personalities is that the level of energy you should be striving for should be as that of such personalities. You should not limit the size of your dreams. People who aim high, achieve high. It doesn't matter who you are; what matters is what you want to be. 

So if you are ambitious, check yourself against these qualities:
1- Do you have a concrete goal. Have to your tried writing your short term and long term goals on a piece of paper. Trust me, it helps a lot. Even I suggest writing it on a paper and paste it somewhere in your room so that you keep looking at it multiple times a day. 
2- Do you have solid vision on how you are going to achieve it?  Have you thought what actions do you need to perform? Have you arranged the resources in order to move ahead?
3- Are you a genuine ambitious person having burning desire to achieve? Know this story? Once a young man asked Socrates the secret to success. He took the young man to the river and ducked him into the water. The boy tried hard to take his head out but Socrates was strong enough to hold him there for some more seconds. Then later Socrates asked him what was the most important thing he wanted when the head was in water? They boy said, "Oxygen and I was too desperate to have it". Socrates said, "this is the level of burning desire which you must possess for your goals. When you have it, you will succeed"
Remember, failing to plan is planning to fail. So the core advice of this article is to have a Analytical thinking, concrete action plan, fearless mind-set, positive thought process and consistent attitude in order to convert your ambitions into realities. Develop the power of now and start behaving the person you want to be.

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About Author: Junaid Tahir, a Project Manager and a passionate blogger writes articles on wisdom, stress management, leadership and life enhancement subjects. His articles can be read Here
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Story: Eating Cookies At Airport

Imagine you're in Airport. While you're waiting for ur flight, u notice a shop selling cookies. U buy a box, put them in ur traveling bag n search for a seat so u can sit down n enjoy ur cookies. Finally u find a seat next to a gentleman. U reach down into ur traveling bag n pull out ur box of cookies. As u do so, u notice that de gentleman starts watching u intensely. He stares as u open de box n his eyes follow. Just then he reaches over n takes one of ur cookies from the box, n eats it! You're little surprised at this.  Not only does he take one cookie, but he alternates with u. Now, what's ur immediate impression of this guy? Crazy? Greedy? U both continue eating de cookies until there's just one left. To ur surprise, the man reaches over n takes it. But then he does something unexpected. He breaks it in half, n gives half to u. After he's finished he gets up, n without a word, he leaves. U think to urself, "Did this really happen?" You're left sitting there dumbfounded n still hungry. So u go back to de kiosk n buy another box of cookies. U then return to ur seat n begin opening
ur new box of cookies. when suddenly u glance down into ur traveling bag. Sitting there in ur bag is ur original box of cookies..still unopened. Only then u realize that when u reached down earlier, u had  reached into the other man's bag, n grabbed his box of cookies by mistake. Now wat do u think of the man? Generous? Tolerant? You've just experienced a profound paradigm shift. You're seeing things from a new point of view. Is it time to change ur point of view? Now, think of this story as it relates to ur life. Seeing things from a new point of view can be very enlightening. Think outside de box. Don't settle for the status quo. Be open to suggestions. Things may not be what they seem. Unless n until, one realizes abt the fact n external factors. Every Point has THREE Sides; Your Side, My Side and The Right Side. To understand either the Other's Side or the Right Side, one needs to leave His Side...

Health: Move More

Make it a daily challenge to find ways to move your body. Climb stairs if given a choice between that and escalators or elevators. Walk your pet; chase your kids; toss balls with friends, mow the lawn. Anything that moves your limbs is not only a fitness tool, it's a stress buster. Think 'move' in small increments of time. It doesn't have to be an hour in the gym or a 45-minute aerobicclass or tai chi or kickboxing. But that's great when you're up to it. Meanwhile, move more. Thought for the day: Cha, Cha, Cha…. Then do it!

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Top 10 Enticing Fruits

Did you know that right fruit can enhance your love making and increase your libido? Fruits are nature's candy. They are a perfect substitute for cakes, cookies, and candies.
There's something very sensual about taking a bite of a fruit that has a firm exterior, and experiencing the explosion of sweet succulent juice released in your mouth. Virtually every fruit is packed with vitamins and nutrients.
It is no doubt, healthier to eat the whole fruit because its fiber is extremely healthy for the digestive system. Try freezing fruits such as grapes or strawberries and eat them as delicious dessert treats. They will take longer to eat, and their frozen consistency makes eating them feel like eating a popsicle.

Pomegranate- Best know for boosting sex drive, pomegranate helps the body produce (NO) or nitric oxide which helps to open up blood vessels and increase blood flow which is great news for the libido. During a study into the benefits of pomegranate on lowering blood pressure and reducing the the risk of heart disease.
Scientists found that drinking pomegranate juice can actually increase sex drive. A number of couples were given pomegranate juice to drink then asked to perform some erotic activities and couples who drank the pomegranate juice showed elevated levels of sexual interest.

An apple a day has been said to elevate moods and work as an antidepressant. An apple has multiple symbolic meanings, many of which are sexual. Erotic associations linked apples to female breasts, while the core of an apple cut in half has often been compared to a woman's vagina. According to folklore, the apple is one of many foods believed to possess aphrodisiac powers.

Banana has a pleasing, phallic shape; they are rich in the potassium and B vitamins necessary for sex hormone production. Additionally, the high content of chelating minerals and an enzyme called bromelain in bananas is said to aid in boosting male erectile efficiency. So eat banana, and then drive your lover bananas! Again, bananas are mood enhancers and can serve as mild sedatives because they contain tryptophan. It relaxes us, improves our mood and makes us feel happy, which is why people suffering from depression get a boost after eating bananas.

Raspberries, strawberries, cherries, and other berries are sweet and delicious. The perfect foods for seductive hand-feeding, they are also high in vitamin C and make a sweet light dessert. Dip them in a small amount of light or fat-free whipped cream and lick them slowly for further sensual pleasure. In Asia, goji berries are known as a strong sexual tonic. They increase testosterone levels, which stimulates libido in both men and women. Furthermore, they improve overall stamina, mood and wellbeing, all of which are vital for an optimum sex life.

Mangos are exotic, flavorful, and juicy. The mango is an extremely healthful fruit, loaded with vitamins A and C. It is ideal for dieting because its high fiber content makes it filling. It also works as a gentle laxative or diuretic. The slippery mango, is a fruit that inspired a verse in the Kamasutra--"Sucking The Mango"--as a technique to please the lingam.

This yummy fruit has served as an aphrodisiac in China, and as a holiday treat in many cultures. Oranges are loaded with vitamin C. In fact over 100 percent of the recommended daily allowance of vitamin C is contained in a single orange. Oranges provide other benefits, including important amounts of potassium, magnesium, and phosphorus. Anthocyanins, which give blood oranges their red hue, may be helpful in preventing some cancers. All varieties of oranges boast a significant amount of fiber, vitamin A, and folate. They also have only about seventy calories each..

Passion Fruit-
Of course, passion fruit on this passion-filled diet is a natural. Passion fruit is a perfect food for hand feeding your lover.

Peaches - Well know for its seductive shape. The crease in the fruit resembles the lips of the woman's vagina. Peaches also contain vitamins and minerals that contribute to your health and well-being. Low in calories-one cup of sliced peaches has only 60 calories-and composed of 80 percent water, peaches are a great weapon for waist-watching singles. Plus, the fiber found in peaches acts as a mild laxative, making sure irregularities do not come in between you and your love life.
Pears-Pears are a very appropriate fruit for a diet in which you are working as a pair! This fruit has a lovely, phallic shape and is filled with minerals. Very low in calories and sodium and full of fiber, pears are a great supplement to a weight loss diet. The pear also contains a lot of potassium, which is critical, together with calcium, to the process of bone formation. It is also important for the proper regulation of liquids in the body and for the well-being of the nervous system.

- A glass of fresh pineapple juice is especially vitalizing. For aphrodisiac effect, eat sliced pineapples with chili powder or mix with honey. A small glass of the fruit's juice taken daily promotes energies of love. Rich in vitamin C, pineapples are used in homeopathic treatment for impotence. Add a pineapple spear to an occasional sweet drink for a tasty prelude to an evening of passion.

Watermelon is rich with citrulline, an amino acid that helps improve blood flow to the heart and genitalia, as well as to the rest of the body. Citrulline is highly effective at relaxing blood vessels, producing an effect similar to drugs like Viagra. Result: Increased blood flow to your sexual organs.

Be creative with your menu and take your love life to new heights.
Ref: The Ultimate Diet by Kerry Mccloskey - MSN

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