Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others'
affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our
way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic. This thinking
denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence
of God. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human
beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act
the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind
your own business and you will keep your peace.
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill
feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us.
We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep,
hypertension etc. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing
of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Life is too
short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and march on. Love
flourishes in giving and forgiving.
Don’t Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody
without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in
power, but no sooner than you are powerless; they will forget your
achievement and will start finding faults in you. Their recognition is
not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
Don’t Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind.
You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but
sometimes they get promotions; you do not. There are several examples
like these in everyday life. Remember everybody's life is shaped by
his /her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. Nothing will
be gained by blaming others for your misfortune; it will only take
away your peace of mind.
Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are
you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As
you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you,
will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every
day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and
accidents that are beyond our control... If we cannot control them or
change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn
to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in
terms of patience, inner strength and will power.
Don’t Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of
carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations.
You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities.
Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer and
meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is
the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself,
your mind will tend to become peaceful. Your mind will not be easily
disturbed as it was before. You may think that this will interfere
with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your
efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less
Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. Keep your mind occupied in
something positive, something worthwhile. Do something that holds your
interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind.
Your interests, like social work or religious work, may not always
earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and
Don’t Procrastinate and Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?"
You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future
happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It
does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your
mistakes and succeed the next time. Learn from your mistakes, but do
not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined
to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?