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A Story about Love and affection


I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me.
Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me and said: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolises Love."
This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand carefully open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to possess it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you .
For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free human beings.
Please "Give and don't expect".
"Advise, but don't order".
"Ask, but never demand".
It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those whom you love, and yet an unconditional caring."
We should emulate from children about "unconditional love".
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10 Interesting Thing Happen In Movies :)



  • 1. The ventilation system of any building is the perfect hiding place. No one will ever think of looking for you in there, and you can travel to any other part of the building you want without difficulty.
  • 2. A man will show no pain while taking the most ferocious beating but will wince when a woman tries to clean his wounds.
  • 3. When they are alone, all foreigners prefer to speak English to each other
  • 4. All bombs are fitted with electronic timing devices with large red readouts so you know exactly when they're going to go off.
  • 5. A detective can only solve a case once he has been suspended from duty.
  • 6. If you decide to start dancing in the street everyone around you will automatically be able to mirror all the steps you come up with and hear the music in your head.
  • 7. If someone says, "I'll be right back", they won't.
  • 8. Computer monitors never display a cursor on screen but always say: Enter Password Now.
  • 9. It is not necessary to say hello or goodbye when beginning or ending phone conversations. And none of your friends have to knock when they come for a visit.
  • 10. Even when driving down a perfectly straight road, it is necessary to turn the steering wheel vigorously from left to right every few moments.
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How Beautiful



How beautiful is the Belief, when we belief in the God
How beautiful are the Creatures, when we belief in the Creator
How beautiful is the Motherhood, when we belief in the Sacrifices
How beautiful is the Fatherhood, when we belief in the Battles
How beautiful is the Childhood, when we belief in the Innocence
How beautiful is the Dream, when we belief in the Ambition
How beautiful is the Contentment, when we belief in the Simplicity
How beautiful is the Life, when we belief in the dead
How beautiful is the Love, when we belief in the Care
How beautiful is the Happiness, when we belief in the Sadness
How beautiful is the Relationships, when we belief in the Tender
How beautiful is the Fruit, when we belief in the Farming
How beautiful is the Confidence, when we belief in Our self
How beautiful is the Beauty, when we belief in Our eyes
How beautiful is the World, when we belief in Peace
How beautiful is the Friendship, when we belief in Brotherhood
How beautiful is the Marriage, when we belief in Sharing
How beautiful is the World, when we belief in the Peace

13 SIGNS YOU'RE WASTING LIFE



When you were a kid, did you want to grow up to be an astronaut, a singer or an engineer? If so, how’s that working out for you? Hopefully, it’s going great and you are living the life of your dreams. But for the rest of you who are not, here are 13 signs that you might be wasting your life… but you don’t want to admit it:




1. YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME DOING THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T BE DOING.


Video games. Reality TV. Surfing the ‘net. Stuffing your face with too much food. Drinking too much. And the list goes on. Take a serious look at your life. Where are you spending the majority of your time? And does it serve you well? Is it leading to a better life? Is it laying the foundation for a bright future? If not, then you need to reevaluate your routine activities and make changes.


2. YOU FIND YOURSELF COMPLAINING A LOT.


I know people who are constantly overwhelmed with life, and they never cease to tell me. Are you one of those people? Do you complain about your job, your boss, your salary, your neighbors or your spouse? If you do, then you are doing nothing but exuding negative energy. Negativity doesn’t change things. It keeps you stuck. So change your thoughts and talk about what you appreciate about your life, not what you don’t like.

3. YOU DON’T FEED YOUR MIND.


If you’re not continually growing and learning as a person, then you are stagnant – just like a still pond that doesn’t move and grows green gunk on it. That’s what your mind does if you don’t keep it active and learn new things. Positive challenges in your life will expand your mind, not send it backwards.

4. YOU HAVE A LOT OF NEGATIVE SELF-TALK.


Self-talk can make or break your life. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t… either way, you’re right.” If you tell yourself that you’re not smart enough to get that promotion or start a business, then you’re right. If you tell yourself you’re too exhausted to put effort into changing your life, then you’re right. Whatever you tell yourself becomes your reality. So closely monitor what you say to yourself, because you will find that your life matches your thoughts.

5. YOU FEEL UNINSPIRED.


Do you have a passion for anything? I know a lot of people who think they don’t have a passion. But that’s never the case. There has to be something that you enjoy doing. So you need to rediscover what excites you, and then do more of it.

6. YOU DON’T PLAN FOR YOUR FUTURE.


While it’s always great to live in the “now” and “be in the moment,” sometimes you need to look ahead to see where you want to go. If you don’t have a goal or a plan, then you are like a boat that is wandering aimlessly in the ocean hoping to end up somewhere good. But you can’t do that. You have to make a step-by-step guide to get where you want to go. Just like a GPS gets you to a destination, you need your own inner GPS to guide you.

7. YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME WITH PEOPLE WHO DON’T CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR GROWTH.


It’s easy to get stuck hanging out with people who are not making you feel like a better person. But if you keep doing that, then you will stay stagnant or get pulled down with them. I like to call them “Energy Vampires.” They suck the life out of you and give you nothing positive in return. Instead, go find growth-oriented people to be around.

8. YOU’RE ADDICTED TO YOUR PHONE.


Sure, cell phones are super cool gadgets that can leave us entranced when we use them. While that’s fun, think about all the time you are wasting with your phone. Even worse, think about all the relationships that might be affected. Maybe you’re texting or searching the internet while you’re having dinner with your spouse or kids. If you are, you’re missing out on meaningful time you can spend with your loved ones – or time you could devote to making a plan for your future.

9. YOU SPEND MONEY ON THINGS THAT DON’T MATTER.


There is a difference between a “need” and a “want.” I’m sure we all learned that in kindergarten. However, in today’s society, we have blurred the lines quite a bit (see #8… the cell phone). In fact, I know people who can’t pay their mortgage, but still have the fanciest gadgets on the planet. If you stop to think about it, there is very little that we actually need. Food, water, shelter and love are some of those things. All the rest are just bonuses. So look at what you’re spending your money on and see if you can make adjustments. Maybe you can use the money you save to invest in your future.

10. YOU DON’T GET ENOUGH SLEEP.


I’m not a medical doctor, but I have read enough books to know how vitally important sleep is. I could write 20 pages on it. But I obviously don’t have enough room in this short article. Sleep is crucial for good health. If you’re too busy to get enough sleep or if you simply have a bad habit of staying up until the wee hours of the morning, you should re-evaluate your habits.

11. YOU’RE NOT TAKING CARE OF YOUR BODY.


Not only is sleep essential to your health, so is food and exercise. I know I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. But eating a balanced, healthy diet and moving your body around truly does have more positive effects other than weight loss. It affects your mental attitude and overall well-being. So take a look at your diet and level of activity. You might find that making a few small changes will greatly improve your life.

12. YOU DON’T LEAVE YOUR COMFORT ZONE.


I know how easy it is to live in a comfort zone. In fact, when I go to a familiar restaurant, I always order the same thing. Not because I’m afraid to try something new, but because I like the food I normally order. But that’s not the kind of comfort zone I’m talking about. I’m talking about taking a risk that will improve your life. And keep in mind, there is a difference between a “risk” and a “calculated risk.” Any risk has the possibility to be deadly, but a calculated risk is one in which you’ve weighed all options and thus come up with a good, sensible plan of action.

13. YOU’RE LIVING A LIFE YOU DON’T LIKE.


The way I measure success is by someone’s level of happiness. Are you happy? If not, then you should change something! Even a feeling of contentment or satisfaction doesn’t tell you that you’re living life to the fullest. Life should be exciting! So if you’re not enjoying life, take a look at some of the changes you can make to get you to a better place.

If any of these 13 points sounded like you, don’t despair. You can make changes. But the first change you need to make is getting rid of the idea that you can’t do it. Many times, your biggest obstacle is your own thought process. So start there. Change your thinking – then change your life!
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Thought for the Day -- The King Was Once A Baby



Every king was once a helpless baby and every great structure was once a blueprint. Its not where you are today, but where you will reach that counts.

Future is unforeseen. Today's small assets can be tomorrow's valuable diamond. Have a thoughtful look at the things in front before beginning this gifted day.

10 commandments of listening




• Stop talking .. You cannot listen while talking
• Give the speaker the chance to speak
• Listen to perceive .. Not to object
• Do not interrupt the speaker
• Put yourself in the speaker's boots.. This will help you assess the   situation
• Be patient .. Give the speaker enough time

• Keep calm .. Angry people will look for mistakes
• Don't argue .. Be open and accept criticism
• Ask questions .. This shows interest and provides clarification
• Avoid prejudice..

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5 Ways to Advance Your Career


As we begin the new year, there may be unique opportunities for you to advance your career, either at your current organisation or with a new employer. You would not want these opportunities to pass you by.
Here are five recommendations on how you can grab opportunities in the workplace:
  • Be a leader. As organizations begin to restart projects, they'll need individuals to lead these initiatives. Volunteering for these assignments can be a good way to demonstrate your ability to assume more responsibility, gain visibility and build new skills.

    When opportunities arise, let your manager know about your interest in them. Even if the project in question isn't the right one for you, he or she may have other projects lined up that are better suited to your abilities. Just be careful not to get in over your head. Volunteering for extra duties when your plate is already full can cause your performance to suffer and even lead to burnout.

  • Ask for training and development opportunities. Think about how you'd like your career to progress and in which areas you might need to build new skills. For example, if you are an accountant, you might want to pick up leadership and management skills so that you might be considered a worthy candidate should the opportunity arise.

    In a recent survey conducted by Robert Half, 41 per cent of CFOs surveyed across Australia and Asia indicated that leadership skills are one of the three most valuable skills for finance and accounting professionals in today's business environment. Companies may have more funds to invest in training and professional development opportunities in the new year, so be sure to approach your manager first. Make a case for how a particular course, seminar or conference will help you and benefit the company. If few internal opportunities exist, be proactive and seek out training programmes through local educational institutions, professional associations or online providers.

  • Find a mentor. Getting to the next step can be easier with advice from someone who is already there. Before identifying a mentor however, make sure you are clear about what your professional goals are and what you hope to gain from the relationship. These factors will determine whom you tap on for assistance. For example, if you hope to earn a promotion, you might look to a manager within your firm who has risen through the ranks. If you're interested in switching careers, you might seek the counsel of a networking contact who has moved from IT to sales. Ask friends, family and members of your professional network for recommendations.

  • Network. Networking is an important component of any job search. But even if you're not looking for a position with a different firm, keep in mind that it still pays to grow your network, especially inside your organisation. Expanding your base of contacts can help you identify valuable allies and establish connections that make it easier to secure resources and support. And networking can help you move up the career ladder. Making sure you are well known throughout the company could increase your chances of securing one of these opportunities.
     
  • Keep up with new trends. Those who are best able to advance their careers have their finger on the pulse of the field so that they can identify and take advantage of new trends. Stay up to date of developments in your area of specialisation by reading industry publications, online articles and blogs. You may also consider joining a professional organisation. These groups often feature speakers and thought leaders speaking about new developments and trends. Your research will also help you keep tabs on areas of job growth – or contraction – within your industry so you can determine how much promise your current career path has. Think about both the short term and the long term so that you will always find yourself in the right place – ahead of the curve
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Annoying, Irritating and Insulting Sweeping Statements


by Junaid.Tahir

Sweeping statement is the term used when you give conclusive or decisive comment about  something or someone. You may not know but you give sweeping statements several times a day and if you don't mind let me say that most of the time you are wrong J 

You might have said to your colleagues that this manager has no sense of management whereas if someone asks you to give a ten minutes non-stop lecture on management, you may not be able to deliver it because you too may not have real in depth knowledge of the domain. So, instead of saying "no sense of management" you could more precisely say that you don't agree to "this particular aspect of management" of that person and then elaborate your observations. The later approach in this example is not a sweeping statement instead it is a specific focal point of your point of view. 

If you are in habit of giving sweeping statements, you may, at some point in time spoil your relationship with someone permanently especially when you give sweeping statement to the person face to face by annoying and irritating severely. Because when you give sweeping statement you are missing a whole lot of detailed aspects of the subject and may emotionally kill the person.

Also when you give sweeping statement it's not about them only, it's about you as well because it indicates the fact that you are not careful in your thinking. Which means you have a zoom-out attitude when it comes to observing people whereas zoom-in (high level) and zoom-out (detailed micro level) approaches are required to be used according to the situation.

Some other examples of sweeping (sometimes insulting) statements:
1- A man argues with his house wife "what exactly you do at home all day long?"  (in Urdu, tum sara din kerti kia ho aakhir?)
2- This whole nation or country is arrogant/corrupt. 
3- Mom to her child "you never do good work" (Urdu: Tum nay to kabhi koee acha kaam kia hi nahi")
4- when you say to your colleague, "you have no idea about it, so leave it to me"

So the bottom line is that instead of being judgmental and passing the remarks instantly one must strive to understand things fairly prior to giving remarks and then use appropriate words and an effective way of communication to describe ones stance in order to improve the situation, not in order to harm it by any mean.

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About Author: Junaid Tahir, a Project Manager and a passionate blogger writes articles on wisdom, stress management, leadership and life enhancement subjects. His articles can be read Here
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Want To Be Successful ? Read These Tips





"Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success."


Few tips to be success

·       To respond is positive, to react is negative.
·       Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
·       Work at something you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent.
·       Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
·       Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
·       Be forgiving of yourself and others.
·       Be generous.
·       Have a grateful heart.
·       Persistence, persistence, persistence.
·       Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
·       Commit yourself to constant improvement.
·       Commit yourself to quality.
·       Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationship with people you love and respect.
·       Be loyal.
·       Be honest.
·       Be a self-starter.
·       Be decisive even it means you'll sometimes be wrong.
·       Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
·       Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.
·       Take good care of those you love.
·       Don't do anything that wouldn't make your Mom proud.







Before You Respond to that Email, Pause



Someone sends you an email message or a text, and you’re unsure how to respond.  It’s about a complex negotiation, or a politically sensitive situation. Or maybe it’s just from a person who unnerves you.
For a moment, you pause. But for most of us, most of the time, that pause doesn’t last long. Instead we react, feeling the need to immediately craft a response. And often we then hit “send” without fully thinking. The result: an awkward or incomplete message that causes the recipient to pause, then react, often starting or continuing a cycle of miscommunication and misunderstanding.
Yes, people today expect and want an instantaneous reply to any message. We often accommodate them because delay feels like a violation of modern-day social norms.
But there are many times when we should not immediately reply.  And the truth is, we usually know them when they come. That’s what that initial pause is about. The key is to heed it.
There is a simple two-step method to making the pause work for you. First, buy yourself some time to think. Second, follow the four simple C’s of effective communication that help determine how best to respond in terms of the context, content, channel, and contact.


Buying Time
There are a few practical ways to buy some time when you get a message where your gut tells you not to respond or where you are not sure how to respond.
  • The non-response response “Got your message.”  This is meant to serve as an acknowledgement but really is only filler. It may aggravate someone in the midst of a negotiation or other serious exchange.
  • The expectation-setter “Got it.  Lot on the plate today, I’ll get back to you tomorrow afternoon.”  This is often a good middle ground.  It provides an immediate response of acknowledgment and resets the timetable.
  • The confident pauseDon’t respond. Really. Just don’t. Pausing for at least 24 hours is a pretty good rule of thumb. Not responding is its own kind of response, which can often work to your advantage.
Once you’ve bought yourself some time, you soak in the information from the message and think of what the best response might be. There are four C’s that have served as a useful checklist for me to use during that pause time before I respond to a difficult message: context, content, contact, and channel.
The Four C’s of Effective Communication
  1. Context – Having the right situational context is key. Who are the relevant parties to the conversation or discussion thread? Are there relationships and inter-dependencies and previous conversations that I’m not aware of?  Do I fully understand what is at stake?  In the multi-party transactions in which we often get involved in venture capital, sending out a quick response to even a simple query can backfire if the timing is wrong or the information out of date. Sometimes you can even answer a specific question in a technically correct manner, but be practically incorrect because you’ve failed to appreciate the bigger picture.
  2. Content – The message needs to be delivered in clear manner with the right tone and style for the occasion. Having the right content means checking facts and being consistent with past discussion threads. If there is one thing that I have seen kill a negotiation or productive progress in a discussion, it is inconsistency of message, which both confuses others and diminishes your credibility. Get the facts and your message points straight in your head, then focus on delivering them in the clearest, most understandable, most consistent manner possible.
  3. Contact – Are you even the right person to respond? It happens often: we are asked something and fail to realize that we might not be the best person to respond. Consider if someone else might be more knowledgeable or better suited in style to respond, especially in a crisis (where it is usually best to have only a single point of contact). There is a reason why terrorist and hostage negotiations are not conducted over Google Docs. And even in an open and collaborative everyday work culture, there are many times when deferring to someone else is the right answer.  Also, consider if the person on the other side who is asking a question or provoking a discussion is the right contact person as well. And always — always! — be wary of “reply all” and judicious with the cc function.
  4. Channel – Just because someone contacts you by email or text does not mean you have to respond by that channel. Email and text lend themselves to misinterpretation and misunderstanding. They are often likelier to prolong or inflame a debate than to resolve it. As I’ve written before, sometimes it’s much more effective and efficient just to pick up the phone or meet up in person. Email is great for transmitting factual information — a spreadsheet of a business model, for example, or a summary of a prior discussion. But when there are issues to resolve, talking usually works better.
As the pressure grows to respond quickly, the value of pausing and thinking is growing too. We all should work toward developing better, saner norms of communication amid the explosion of channels available to us. But that will take time and thought to get right.  In the interim, we just need to stop being so damned trigger-happy with that send button.

Anthony Tjan is CEO, Managing Partner and Founder of the venture capital firm Cue Ball, vice chairman of the advisory firm Parthenon, and co-author of the New York Times bestseller Heart, Smarts, Guts, and Luck (HBR Press, 2012). http://blogs.hbr.org/

Health: Top 10 Vitamins



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1. Vitamin A : Vitamin A can be found in most dairy products. It helps to keep your vision healthy, as well as your skin and mucous membranes. It also serves as an important antioxidant.

2. Vitamin D : Vitamin D comes from milk, and from the sun. It is essential for strong bones and teeth.

3. Vitamin E : Vitamin E comes from most vegetables and whole grains. It is an antioxidant that aids in forming healthy blood cells, and it is essential for the immune system, the skin, and the lungs.

4. Vitamin K : Dark green leafy vegetables are full of Vitamin K. Vitamin K is especially helpful in blood clotting when you have a cut or when you have surgery.

5. Vitamin C : Vitamin C is found in most fruits and fruit juices. It is an antioxidant and is essential for a strong immune system.

6. Vitamin B1 : B1 comes from grains, and is important for the conversion of food to energy.

7. Vitamin B6 : Found in whole wheat, B6 helps to convert food to energy.

8. Vitamin B12 : Vitamin B12 is found in dairy products. It helps to produce healthy cells, and turns carbohydrates to energy.

9. Vitamin B2 : B2 can be found in meats and fish, and it aids the chemical processes in the body.

10. Vitamin B3 : B3 is found in dairy products. It not only converts food to energy, but is also important for a healthy brain

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