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Seven Truths About Life



Don't let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life. Relationships work best when they are balanced..


Never explain yourself to anyone. Because the person who likes you doesn't need it and the person who doesn't like you won't believe it..


When you keep saying you are busy, then you are never free.When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time. When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow. Will. Never come..


When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices. Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams.Choice is yours..


We make them cry who care for us. We cry for those who never care for us. And we care for those who will never cry for us.This is the truth of life, it's strange but true. Once you realize this, it's never too late to change..


Don't make promises when you are in joy. Don't reply when you are sad.
Don't take decision when you are angry.Think twice, act once..


Time is like river. You can't touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again.

Stress Advice: List down all your worries
Study: Happiness Comes From Respect, Not Money
Success Advice: Be Open To Improvement
Sweeping Statements - Annoying, Irritating and Insulting
The 10 Habits Of Happy Couples
The 7 C's of Happiness
The Echoes of Happiness: Belly Laughs
The Guide to Stress Management for a Happier Life
The Lady and the Salesman
The Last Lecture
The Power of Not Looking Back

The 7 Habits of Seriously Effective Communication Pros

Sometimes clients don’t fully understand, make full use of or give credit to the value added by communications pros. Yet, these individuals work under intense time or performance pressure, a reason why their positions are ranked as among the most stressful jobs. This work can be a balancing act, weighing big-picture and micro decisions, orchestrating operations across teams of many roles and levels.
Yet communications work can be very satisfying. As I’ve watched communications pros at work over the years, I’ve noticed that something more among the real greats. For them, it’s more than a transactional business.
There's a deeper way that these people learn and connect.
They have a real curiosity about life, which results in their leaving a real impact even on the days when the going gets tough. In thinking about the qualities of seriously effective communications people who’ve inspired me, here are a few key points below:
Related: Former Apple and Pepsi CEO John Sculley: Great Marketers Do This

1. Studying people.

Everything in the communications field hinges on understanding how people think and work.
I’ve noticed that the best communications pros are able to “get under the skin” of their target audiences and really relate to their story, their needs. How do they make decisions? What are their aspirations, pains, unrequited goals?
Look at a target audience. Think about the work of these individuals, their day-to-day hopes and frustrations, the things they wish for while driving to work and what they try to make sense of as they drive home.
With closed eyes, imagine being the audience. Or speak to some members of the ideal audience. Ask lots of questions and really learn from their answers. Become a student of people and build an understanding that leads to having a real communications impact.

2. Understanding stories.

Crafting stories is an art form for top communicators. So often people forget that what seems like a whole book is actually just a chapter, part of a longer-term vision being built. Good authors often have the gift of seeing chapters as whole stories, making them complete while knowing they’re only part of a larger arc.
Understanding how stories work -- and how the human mind responds to them -- is the craftt of top communications professionals. Looking for classic heroes, villains, victims and other archetypes, to the structure of timeless human drama and narrative structure will allow for seeing the world -- and work -- in new ways.

3. Mastering the counterpoint.

I’ve often heard people praise excellent communications partners by saying, “She helps me see the big picture” or “He gets me out of my comfort zone.”  A strong devil’s advocate can push others into deeper understanding and prepare them to address unexpected alternatives to the way they see things.
This takes finesse: The idea is to help broaden and strengthen a point of view and not necessarily to change it.
Practice thought tennis. Be the person who makes other people smarter by helping them sharpen their thoughts and expand their view.
Come up with questions (“What would your competition say?” or “What if that never happened?”) that artfully guide people out of their comfort zone. This will elevate the potential impact.
Related: 7 Power Tools of Persuasion  

4. Zooming out. Zooming in.

Communications professionals who can immerse themselves in the bigger picture see a whole different view than those on the ground -- and that’s a huge value when it comes to mapping the right path.
Be the thought partner who can go way up to the drone’s eye view. Look at a situation as part of a bigger picture than someone close to it normally would, mapping it out to a bigger landscape. It’s hard to zoom out while being right in the thick of a situation.

5. Geeking out.  

Those who skim the surface don't do enough to excel.
In helping people grasp something, be curious enough to understand it. Yes, it takes work to really understand, but do that by researching or always asking questions, digging deeper, learning more. Collect the dots that ultimately allow for connecting them (the more dots, the more connections). And that’s key to excellence in communications.

6. Venturing out.

Communications isn’t a desk job. Communications pros spend a lot of time on the phone and keyboards. But at the end of the day that’s not where it really happens. Being relevant, connecting with others, developing a sense of what’s really happening -- all of that happens best when someone is out in the real world.
Yes, it can be hard to break free, especially in client-driven work. But the best communications people I’ve known have taken lessons from sports, art and the outdoors and inspiring leaders. They try new things, ask new questions and always keep expanding their comfort zone. I like how Steve Jobs talked about it, somewhat irreverently.

7. Earning trust.

Communications pros earn trust when they're informed (studying people, geeking out, getting out), have a ready tool kit of knowledge and experience (understanding stories, zooming out), have the courage to be honest (mastering the counterpoint) and embody the integrity.
Develop these skills and rise as that go-to person who truly creates an impact at work -- and it's possible to gain a lot of satisfaction to boot.
What would you add to the list?

Buying Sun Glasses

Part 1 of 4: Picking Sunglasses for Protection

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    Protect your eyes! Excessive exposure to UV radiation can cause a variety of problems for your eyes such as cataracts, burns, and cancer.[1]
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    If you want your sunglasses to protect you from these risks, look for pairs that block at least 99% of UVB rays and at least 95% of UVA rays. Also look for the amount of cover the sunglasses provide. Look at how much you can see around the frames, will the sunglasses let in sun from the top or sides?
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    Don't buy sunglasses if they're labeled as "cosmetic" or don't provide any information on UV protection.

    Look for scratch resistance, many lenses have very fragile coatings. If you are spending much money, you want them to last. Fortunately damaged lenses can be replaced for most models.[[1]][2]

Part 2 of 4: Deciding on a Style

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    Sunglasses come in all shapes and sizes! Generally, finding a contrast between your face shape and the frame shape will look good. Eg if you have a round face, more angular frames will work well, and if your face is more square, a rounder softer frame shape will look good. Here are a few popular styles:
    • Mirrorshades - Mirrored coating on surface. Used a lot by police officers in the US. They usually come in an aviator or wraparound shape.
    • Aviators - Teardrop-shaped lens and thin metal frames. Often used by pilots, military personnel, and law enforcement personnel in the US. Good with any face shape, but best with an oval shape.
    • Wayfarers/Spicolis - Popular in the 1950s and 1960s. Worn by Audrey Hepburn in the 1961 movie Breakfast at Tiffany's.
    • Teashades - Popularized by John Lennon and Ozzy Osbourne. They're not very effective at keeping light out of your eyes, though.
    • Wraparounds - Associated with athletics and extreme sports.
    • Oversized - Associated with models and movie stars. Glamorous, darling.
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    Make sure the sunglasses fit properly. Try them on and make sure they don't pinch around your head. The weight should be evenly distributed between your ears and nose, and your eyelashes shouldn't touch the frame or lenses.

    Are you getting these sunglasses for sports? you will want a nice close fit, possibly with rubber grips on the arms. If they are for fishing or use on water, polarization is a must.[2]

Part 3 of 4: Choosing Lens Color Wisely

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    The color of the lenses doesn't just affect your fashion statement, it affects how well you detect contrast and differentiate colors. Some colors enhance contrast, which can be useful; however, this is often at the expense of color distinction, which can cause problems (when you're driving, for example, and need to be able to clearly differentiate the colors of a traffic light). Some sunglasses even come with interchangeable lenses so you can change the color easily, depending on what you're doing.
    • Gray lenses reduce light intensity without affecting contrast or distorting colors.[3]
    • Brown lenses partially enhance contrast by blocking some blue light.[3] Good for snow sports.[4] Also generally good for hunting in bright light, against open backgrounds.[4]
    • Amber/yellow lenses significantly enhance contrast because they block most or all blue light, and that makes them popular among hunters who benefit from that contrast when looking at targets against the sky. They're bad, however, for any activity that requires color recognition (like driving!).[3] Good for snow sports.
    • Red/orange lenses are good for snow sports but only on overcast days.[4] If you're a hunter, orange lenses are good for clay targets against open backgrounds.[4]
    • Violet lenses are good for hunters who need to see clay targets on a green background.[4]
    • Copper sunglasses will mute the sky and grass against a golf ball.[4]
    • Blue and green sunglasses enhance contrast with a yellow tennis ball.[4]

Part 4 of 4: Selecting the Right Lens Material

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    Scratched up sunglasses are useless sunglasses. Lenses made from NXT polyurethane are impact-resistant, flexible, lightweight, and have great optical clarity, but they're expensive.
    • Glass is heavier, expensive, and will "spider" if broken.
    • Polycarbonate is not as scratch-resistant and provides less optical clarity than NXT polyurethane or glass, but it's more affordable.
    • Polyamide is a less used material, which provides glass like optical clarity, without the danger of shattering.
    • There are significant differences in scratch resistance of polycarbonate lenses depending on the hardcoat finish applied during construction.
    • Acrylic is also affordable, but it's the least durable and optically clear.

How Strange It Is !!!

How Strange It Is !!!

We wish to earn lots of Money,
but we have the best of time only when we have just 10 bucks in the pocket.!!

How Strange It Is !!!

We wish to wear high Brands,
but we feel most comfortable in payjamas.!!

How Strange It Is !!!
We wish to dinner at 5 star hotel with elite people,
but we enoyed a lot with friends at street food.!!

How Strange It Is !!!
We wish to own big cars go for a long drive,
yet we talk our heart out only while walking down a long road.!!

Life is Simple Indeed…
We make it complex by running after what never gives us Joy.!!
For when you achieve the Bigger ones, You can Smile Say,

“I have Lived A Lot.!!”
The number 1 rule of life is to bring simplicity in each domain of life including eating, living, buying, clothing, relationships and so on

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The Seven Step Plan For Success
The Story Of Two Wolves
The Unclassified Laws of Etiquette
The Words I select to speak
Three Options to Consider to Fight Stress
Time Does Not Stop !!!
Tips For Better Life
Tips to Stay Relaxed
Top 10 Reasons to Smile

Story: The Park Bench

The park bench was deserted as I sat down to read
beneath the long, straggly branches of an old willow tree. 
Disillusioned by life with good reason to frown,
for the world was intent on dragging me down.

And if that weren't enough to ruin my day,
A young boy out of breath approached me, all tired from play.

He stood right before me with his head tilted down and said 
with great excitement, "Look what I found!"

In his hand was a flower, and what a pitiful sight,
with it's petals all worn, not enough rain, or to little light.
Wanting him to take his dead flower and go off to play,
I faked a small smile and then shifted away.

 But instead of retreating he sat next to my side
 and placed the flower to his nose and declared
 with overacted surprise, "It sure smells pretty and it's beautiful, too.
 That's why I picked it; here it's for you."

The weed before me was dying or dead.
Not vibrant of colors, orange, yellow or red. 
But I knew I must take it, or he might never leave.
So I reached for the flower, and replied, "Just what I need."
But instead of him placing the flower in my hand, 
he held it mid-air without reason or plan. 
It was then that I noticed for the very first time
that weed-toting boy could not see: he was blind.

I heard my voice quiver, tears shone like the sun 
as I thanked him for picking the very best one. 
You're welcome, he smiled, and then ran off to play, 
unaware of the impact he'd had on my day.
I sat there and wondered how he managed to see 
a self-pitying woman beneath an old willow tree. 
How did he know of my self-indulged plight?

Perhaps from his heart, he'd been blessed with true sight. 
Through the eyes of a blind child, at last I could see the problem was not with the world; the problem was me.
And for all of those times I myself had been blind, I vowed to see the beauty in life, and appreciate every second that's mine. 

And then I held that wilted flower up to my nose 
and breathed in the fragrance of a beautiful rose. 
And smiled as I watched that young boy, another weed in his hand about to change the life of an unsuspecting old man.

Author unknown

Story - The Worms
Story - Stay Sharp
Story - Bad Temper
Story - Donkey in the Well
Story - The Black Telephone
Story - Judging Others Based On Their Looks
Story - The Red Light Signal
 Story - The Dubai Beach and the Car Battery Issue
Story - The Mother, the daughter and the map
Story - The Stone Soup
Story - Honest Abe
Story - Coffee and Cups
Story: Ahmed and Aisha - The Couple


10 Tricks to Appear Smart in Meetings :)



The Law of the Garbage Truck

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was really friendly.
So I asked, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'

This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

 The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so..... 'Love the people who treat you right. Forgive the ones who don't.'

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!

Story: Chicken, Chicken, Chicken
Story: The Woman and the Parrot
Story: My Father and the Burnt Biscuit
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Story: Two Brothers
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Story: The Manager And The Worker
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Story: The Mountain Principle

Story: The Cute Student Counts the Apples

A teacher teaching Maths to seven-year-old Laiq asked him, "If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?"Within a few seconds Laiq replied confidently, "Four!"
The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three).  She was disappointed.  "Maybe the child did not listen properly," she thought.  She repeated, "Laiq, listen carefully.  If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?"

Laiq had seen the disappointment on his teacher's face.  He calculated again on his fingers.  But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make the teacher happy.  His search for the answer was not for the correct one, but the one that will make his teacher happy.  This time hesitatingly he replied, "Four…"

The disappointment stayed on the teacher's face.  She remembered that Laiq liked strawberries.  She thought maybe he doesn't like apples and that is making him loose focus.  This time with an exaggerated excitement and twinkling in her eyes she asked, "If I give you one strawberry and one strawberry and one strawberry, then how many you will have?"

Seeing the teacher happy, young Laiq calculated on his fingers again.  There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher.  She wanted her new approach to succeed.  With a hesitating smile young Laiq enquired, "Three?"

The teacher now had a victorious smile.  Her approach had succeeded.  She wanted to congratulate herself.  But one last thing remained.  Once again she asked him, "Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?"
Promptly Laiq answered, "Four!"

The teacher was aghast.  "How Laiq, how?" she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.

In a voice that was low and hesitating young Laiq replied, "Because I already have one apple in my bag."

"When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you expect don't think they are wrong.  There maybe an angle that you have not understood at all. You will have to listen and understand, but never listen with a predetermined notion."

7 Power Skills that Build Strong Relationships !!!

A strong, healthy relationship is one in which the partners show respect and kindness toward each other. The relationship forms a rewarding and enduring bond of trust and support. Here are seven power skills by Steve  Brunkhorst that will help you form stronger alliances and bring more closeness, authenticity and trust to your relationships.

1. Relax Optimistically

If you are comfortable around others, they will feel comfortable around you. If you appear nervous, others will sense it and withdraw. If you are meeting someone for the first time, brighten up as if you've rediscovered a long-lost friend. A smile will always be the most powerful builder of rapport. Communicating with relaxed optimism, energy and enthusiasm will provide a strong foundation for lasting relationships.

2. Listen Deeply
Powerful listening goes beyond hearing words and messages; it connects us emotionally with our communication partner. Listen to what the person is not saying as well as to what he or she is saying. Focus intently and listen to the messages conveyed behind and between words.

Listen also with your eyes and heart. Notice facial expressions and body postures, but see beneath the surface of visible behaviors. Feel the range of emotions conveyed by tone of voice and rhythm of speech. Discern what the person wants you to hear and also what they want you to feel.

3. Feel Empathetically
Empathy is the foundation of good two-way communication. Being empathetic is seeing from another person's perspective regardless of your opinion or belief. Treat their mistakes as you would want them to treat your mistakes. Let the individual know that you are concerned with the mistake, and that you still respect them as a person. Share their excitement in times of victory, and offer encouragement in times of difficulty. Genuine feelings of empathy will strengthen the bond of trust.

4. Respond Carefully
Choose emotions and words wisely. Measure your emotions according to the person's moods and needs. Words can build or destroy trust. They differ in shades of meaning, intensity, and impact. What did you learn when listening deeply to the other individual? Reflect your interpretation of the person's message back to them. Validate your understanding of their message.

Compliment the person for the wisdom and insights they've shared with you. This shows appreciation and encourages further dialogs with the individual. A response can be encouraging or discouraging. If you consider in advance the impact of your emotions and words, you will create a positive impact on your relationships.

5. Synchronize Cooperatively
When people synchronize their watches, they insure that their individual actions will occur on time to produce an intended outcome. Relationships require ongoing cooperative action to survive and thrive.

As relationships mature, the needs and values of the individuals and relationship will change. Career relationships will require the flexibility to meet changing schedules and new project goals. Cooperative actions provide synchrony and build trusting alliances. They are part of the give and take that empowers strong, enduring relationships.

6. Act Authentically
Acting authentically means acting with integrity. It means living in harmony with your values. Be yourself when you are with someone else. Drop acts that create false appearances and false security.

When you act authentically, you are honest with yourself and others. You say what you will do, and do what you say. Ask for what you want in all areas of your relationships. Be clear about what you will tolerate. Find out what your relationship partners want also. Being authentic creates mutual trust and respect.

7. Acknowledge Generously
Look for and accentuate the positive qualities in others. Humbly acknowledge the difference that people make to your life. Validate them by expressing your appreciation for their life and their contributions. If you let someone know that they are valuable and special, they will not forget you. Showing gratitude and encouragement by words and actions will strengthen the bonds of any relationship.

Don't forget to acknowledge your most important relationship: the relationship with yourself. Acknowledge your own qualities, and put those qualities into action. You cannot form a stronger relationship with others than you have with yourself. You will attract the qualities in others that are already within you.

Ask yourself: What thoughts and behaviors will attract the kind of relationships I desire? What is one action I could take today that would empower my current relationships?

Write down all the qualities or behaviors that you desire for your relationships. Select the power skills that will attract those qualities. Keep a journal of the actions you take and the progress you make. By turning these skills into lifelong habits, you will build relationships that are healthy, strong and mutually rewarding.

source: unknown

Story: Marbles and Sweets

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of
marbles. The girl had some sweets with her. The boy told the girl that
he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl

The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave
the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had

That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn't sleep as
he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way
he had hidden his best marble.
Moral of the story: If you don't give your hundred percent in a
relationship, you'll always keep doubting if the other person has
given his/her hundred percent.. This is applicable for any
relationship like love, friendship,etc. , Give your hundred percent to
everything you do and live peacefully.


Story: The Mother, the daughter and the map :)

A Mother was reading a magazine and her cute little daughter every now and then distracted her.
To keep her busy, she tore one page on which was printed the map of the world.
She tore it into pieces and asked her to go to her room and put them together to make the map again.

She was sure her daughter would take a lot more time and probably whole of day to get it done.
But the little one came back within minutes with perfect map.

When she asked how she could do it so quickly, she said,
"Oh Mom, there is a man's face on the other side of the paper. I made the face perfect to get the map right." she ran outside to play leaving the mother surprised.

Moral : Perhaps there is always the other side to whatever you experience in this world.

This story indirectly teaches a lesson.That is:
Whenever we come across a challenge or a puzzling situation, Look at the other side...
Will be surprised to see an easy way to tackle the problem or an acute difficulty.

Self Reliance

People often boast of being self-dependent. More the riches the more is this confidence of being self-reliant. Their contention is that they can manage every situation and attain all comforts and luxuries of life with the resources they have accumulated with their individual effort. But the saying goes that an individual with no utility and with no needs stands isolated and is almost a non-entity to the society at large.
Society has thus come into being on the basis of utility, mutual dependence and cooperation. In the context of totality of needs, no man can ever be completely self-reliant. It is mutual dependence that is at the root of any group of people. In fact in our present scenario everything is connected with everything else. No man can move even a single step in life without the support of others. Have you ever been conscious that when you move in whatever direction of life, shades of thousands of individuals are accompanying you? Even a small drop of potable water in your glass implies the collective effort of so many people.
Every movement of human activity implies the collaboration of innumerable people. Even a person like Robinson Crusoe had society with him when he thought of building for him a castle or starting agriculture even before he could tame Friday to look after some of his socio-biological needs. All his wisdom and skills were the result of social living.
The most salient feature of a society is ‘mutual cooperation and consideration.’ Wherever this fundamental is ignored many difficulties and problems arise. If we try to analyze the problems of our present times we shall find that poverty, unemployment, unrest etc. are not as terrific as the lack of mutual cooperation. Ironically man enjoys the bliss of social living yet he disregards the principle of inter-dependence.
We have often criticized people like the King Shah-Jahan, who is said to have chopped off the hands of all those artisans who built the Taj Mahal for him. But are we sure we too, even in the present day world, are not doing the same, though in a different way?  Our present day life is seriously suffering from a serious lack of mutual consideration and reciprocity.
It may not be surprising to many professionals today that those who really execute many of their plans and accomplish the projects successfully stand totally ignored. Two things are vital for any creation i.e. intelligence (craft) and execution (labour). In our present-day world of professionalism a man of intelligence can earn millions without putting in any physical effort. But the people who really and practically execute what intelligence dictates are denied the basic necessities of life. And yet we aim at attaining the ‘maximum pleasure of the maximum people’ and boast of our humanitarian goals!
This great imbalance has vitiated the very nature of society that was created with so sincere and hard efforts over thousands of years. Naturally when the essential nature and fundamentals stand corrupted problems are bound to rise and damage its very texture.    

Source : BK Ved Guliani

Humor: It all began with an iPhone

It all began with an iPhone...

April was when our son celebrated his 17th birthday, and we got him an iPhone. He just loved it. Who wouldn't? 


I celebrated my birthday in July, and my wife made me very happy when she bought me an iPad.                                
Our daughter's birthday was in August so we got her an iPod Touch.                                 


My wife celebrated her birthday in September so I got her an iRon.                                 


It was around then that the fight started...

I explained that the iRon can be integrated into the home network with the iWash, iCook and iClean. (This inevitably activates the iNag reminder service.)

I should be out of the hospital next week!


                            PS. iHurt.