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​ HEALTH: 12 Signs of Vitamin D Deficiency



Amy Goodrich

1. Muscle and Bone Weakness:

Vitamin D is important for bones, muscles and teeth. Weakened bones, teeth, or muscles may be a sign that you are not getting enough of it.

2. Feeling Blue Or Sad:

Researchers have found that woman with low levels of vitamin D are more likely to be depressed or struggle with deep feelings of sadness.

3. Great Pain Sensitivity:

People who struggle with chronic pains often have inadequate vitamin D levels.

4. Chronic Gum Disease:

People with lower levels of vitamin D are more vulnerable for swelling, reddening, and bleeding of gums.

5. High Blood Pressure:

Vitamin D is important for your heart too. When you don't get enough of it, you'reblood pressure may rise.

6. Fatigue and Sleepiness:

People with lower levels of vitamin D lack the energy during the day and may have a constant feeling of fatigue.

7. Mood Swings:

Vitamin D plays a role in serotonin production. This "feel good hormone" has a major impact on our mood.


8. Decreased Endurance:

Studies have shown that athletes with lower vitamin D levels preform less and have lower energy levels compared to other athletes.

9. Overweight:

Vitamin D is a fat-soluble vitamin, stored in our fat cells. People who are overweight or obese therefore need more vitamin D.

10. Gut Issues:

People who struggle with fat absorption (ex. Crohn's, celiac and non-celiac gluten sensitivity, and inflammatory bowel disease), may have lower vitamin D levels as well.

11. Head Sweater:

Excessive head sweating is a common, early sign of vitamin D deficiency.

12. Allergies:

Adequate vitamin D can reduce allergies. A study done on 6000 individuals showed that people with low vitamin D levels are more susceptible to allergies.

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​HEALTH: How Often Should You Poop?



 

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How Often Should You Poop? When It Comes To Weekly Bowel Movements, It's More Of A Range Than Magic Number.



The frequency of your bowel movements should only become a concern when they suddenly change.


There are two types of poopers in this world: Type A has their pooping down to a science. They go every day at the same time and usually (if they can help it) in the same toilet. Then there's Type B. This group heeds nature's calls less frequently with no real ritual to its toilet habits. So, which of these two is the healthier option? Both.

It's All Relative

Poop, or as it's also known, feces, is actually around 75 percent water. According to the University of Massachusetts, the remaining parts are made from a mixture of dead bacteria that helped us to digest our food, living bacteria, protein, indigestible fiber, and waste materials from the liver and intestines.

Exactly how often you poop is relative to the individual. The average individual poops about once a day, releasing around one ounce of excrement per 12 pounds of body weight, meaning that a 160-pound person will produce just under a pound of poop a day. Although once a day may be the average, that does not necessarily make it the norm. As reported by Live Science, gastroenterologists agree that anything in the range of three times a day to three times a week is normal as long as the feces is neither too hard nor too loose.

The frequency and amount that you poop is based on a combination of your personal dietary habits. For example, it's been said that Asians have far more frequent bowel movements than individuals in Western countries, such as the U.S. Live Science reported that this difference in bathroom habits is an effect of the high-fiber diet favorited by many in the East.

Pooping is your body's way to get rid of waste buildup, but some individuals have taken up colon cleansing in an effort to increase this toxin removal. In actuality our body is perfectly equipped to rid itself of its own waste and colon cleansing does little, if any, good. Good bacteria in our digestive tract help us break down our foods and maintain homeostasis. But when we colon cleanse, we also clean these necessary bacteria away. On top of this, colon cleansing can up your chances of seriously injuring your rectal muscles, and may even lead to a blood infection. Regularly taking laxatives without a doctor's advice is also likely to cause similar long-term effects.

Time For Concern

The only time the frequency of your bathroom habits should cause you worry is if they suddenly change. For example, if you go from pooping every other day to going twice a day you may need to be concerned. The most common cause for a change in bathroom habits is a change in diet and lifestyle. For example, Everyday Health reported that most individuals find they are less consistent with their pooping on the weekends or on vacation, which is when they're probably less strict with their eating and exercising.

Menstruation can also cause irregularity in some women's bathroom habits. Prostaglandins are hormones released by the female body to signal the beginning of the shedding of the uterus lining. As reported by Popular Science, some women produce more prostaglandins than others, and the stray hormones may make it to the bowels. Here, they have a similar effect but instead of stimulating the uterus to expel waste, they stimulate the bowel.

Progesterone, another hormone involved in the female menstrual cycle, can also influence a woman's bowel movements, PopSci reported. Low levels of progesterone can stimulate the bowels, which is why some women may get diarrhea right before their menstrual period.

Suddenly using the bathroom less frequently than normal may be a sign of something as minor as dietary and exercise changes or something more serious, such as irritable bowel disease or colorectal cancer. Depression is also a common cause of constipation. If left unaddressed for too long, extreme constipation can lead to an impacted bowel — a treatable but extremely unpleasant health condition.

When it comes to bathroom habits, your own intuition should be the first reference you turn to. As long as your bathroom trips don't cause pain or discomfort you are most likely in the clear. Your digestive system works all day and every day, so slight hiccups are to be expected. But if either constipation or diarrhea lasts for longer than weeks at a time, it may be time to seek medical assistance.

10 Painful Truths We Forget EveryDay

10 Painful Truths We Forget Every Day





Sometimes the truth can hurt, so will these painful truths today.

The main reason we read this is because we need to appreciate things more now than ever. Things are changing every minute, and we might not be able to adapt if we don't know couple of generally painful truths.

I remind myself of these every day, and I must confess these are some of my personal motivational factors when I usually don't have a tiny bit of power to work.

1. Time is limited Before you say "I know it" you might take a look over your life again. However old you are, looking back on your life experiences you'll notice that it has no 'time' in the formula. Everything seems like it happened yesterday.

So appreciate every minute you spend. Most cancer survivors and people who were tiny step away from losing their life begin to know how important is to live well and appreciate things we already have around us. I was chatting with a cab driver few months back and what he said startled me: "Well, son, time is passing really fast, you know. My father yesterday told me: (around 80 something years old man) 'It was like yesterday I was in the army.' This life sure as hell passes fast."
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary." -Steve Jobs

2. You live the life you create When you go out and see all the vibrant things, cars, people, animals, birds around you, endorse that they have massive impact over our life. That's why we are together in one world.

And the paradox is, that neither of those things can affect you, as long as you don't react upon it. The point is, that every person creates a world on his own derived by his/hers decisions and actions.

When we think that everything happens to us, it's what really happens. It's our reaction that gives life to bad things that happen to us. It is what we give to thereticular cortexthat will dictate the things we see in front of us. Every mistake and happiness is made by your choice. Sometimes our ignorance causes trouble, but we need everything we can acknowledge to get peace of mind and live the best life we create.

Watch more on things you do, and give credit to. Those things dictate your future, and sometimes they are the most destructive, or the best things for you. Choose wisely.

3. Busy and productive are two different things

 
This guymakes hell of a fortune by being busy for 160 hours a month. Being busy doesn'tnecessarily makes you productive.


Success doesn't come from busyness. It comes from productivity + best use of time. Sometimes it can be 3-4 hours a day. Over-busy people are scattered everywhere. They have no aim, nor balance in their life. We should never forget that life is not about work, money and burdening ourselves with baloney things and forget that this is actual life.
[Tweet ""Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.""] Allow yourself to have balance in all things you do. When the scale goes to one thing, we loose from another. Of course everything takes sacrifice, but not for so long to make us forget how to live.

So get productive, not busy. Do not jointhe top 5 regrets people had on their deathbed.
4. Thinking and doing are two separate worlds They are two different worlds because it's the disparity between success and failure, and living and dying. They are so close, and yet so far. This may be the number one painful truth we forget.

Imagine how many things would be done if you just started doing things, instead of wondering and thinking. The first thing we should do to keep on the thorny road is action. Without action you will create a state where you'll be mind-shackled. Without applying the thoughts in the physical words, we create a state of self-prison. We create a person inside our head that doesn't allow any thoughts to go through the hands and legs.

If you want to do things, you must apply your thoughts in the physical world. It's not the stupid people are not full of doubts, as Charles Bukowski says; it is the ones that don't do. People are genius. Just think of how many successful ideas you have through the day. And you won't believe that 99% of them with action can become real. As soon as you chose to switch your mind to the next one, without taking action for the previous one, you create a chain reaction of successful ideas gone forever.
5. Failure is part of success
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." -Thomas Edison I've learned that it seems like life is playing with us sometimes. It gets you to the ground, with your head, in the mud and tells you:

"This is the bottom, it's the worst it can happen. This is how people feel sometimes, and even worse than this. You can be here your whole life, complaining how life happens to you, or you can go wash your face, and start taking things in your hands." How do we know what's success, when we don't know what is failure? Almost in everything we have to grasp both sides to understand the whole.

Dare to make mistakes, and fail hundreds of times, until there's no gap in your actions that will give you another fail on the road.
6. Self-love has big role in your life Every day should begin with waking up, going to the bathroom, and looking in the mirror. That masterpiece you see every day, is what is going to change the world!

We are piece of art, everyone of us. Art has no rules, or how it should be. Every negation of it, can only harm the way we think. No one can love you if you don't love yourself. Even if they do for a given time, they will raise a white flag. We do need support to love ourselves, but once we start doing it ourselves.
"The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore." ― C. JoyBell C.

7. Some people should be removed and nothing else People around us, especially the ones we contact with, play crucial role in how we live our life. They can be the biggest blessing or the biggest mistakes we have. Jim Rohn says that "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." It looks pretty true to me.

Toxic environment is invisible cage. Even a whole society and circle of people can be toxic. If you belong to a toxic environment you will spend your life being unproductive, switching from failure to failure. Then you may think "you're an introvert." No, you are person who is in the wrong environment. You are individual who still haven't found his/hers soul mates.

This can be a hardest task. You've spent years with people with whom you'll have to cut the cord in a day. It's never easy to let go of habits, even if you're aware they are not bringing any growth. Step aside and let it pass through. Then you will be obsessed with the person you really are. You willactivate your gut feelingand you will attract every tiny positive achievement. The right people will come, financials will flow, and happiness will surround you. Everything changed because you let go of people polluting your life. I encourage you to think about it.


8. Forgive before you get an apology Holding grudges rents a place in your head and keeps you busy with something that shouldn't last a second in your life.

Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got. Life is all about experiences, positive or negative. They are all part of the life lessons. When you forgive someone you promise yourself not to hold the irreversible past against your present self. You deserve peace of mind because of you and no one else.
9. Every second changes everything It's one of the beautiful facts that motivates us to take risks. If we don't take risks, things still change, every second. And risking might benefit us every way possible.

Everything rushes in our lives, and yet life is so short. The most interesting part is that it is one second that changes life. One second can be the reason we succeed, start accumulate happiness, or fell in love. It's just a tiny fraction of time that gives so much meaning to an average span of 80 years.

When we learn to appreciate one second in our day, we'll learn to appreciate everything we say, do, and think. We will appreciate our whole life.
10. Your possessions is not who you are As the world circles, it has made us think that we need a lot more than we actually need. It has became a massive materialistic competition.

An average person watches TV, read papers,watch the bullcrap news, while everything an average human does is to think like most people. When you are like the rest, your uniqueness is assassinated. Our regular pattern of life is what makes us think that possessions should be put before everything. People kill, screw best friends, ramshackle businesses because of money.

When people realize how powerful is the spirit, the inner self, thoughts, emotions, and the brain itself, is when we realize that stuff is really a funny thing. If you put your mindset on the money, not putting it in the process of making them, I guarantee you'll never have them. Money is a tool. Don't let them possess your spirit.

What do you think you can add to the list? Is there any painful truth in your life you often forget? Image:source one,source two

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11 Easy Ways To Boost Your Confidence




BY ROBERT LOCKE

Are you overwhelmed by negative thoughts and past failures? If you are, then it is difficult to feel confident. My father's advice always was, "Look on the bright side." I did not rea
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lize that was such good advice until about 30 years later! Here are 11 easy ways to boost your confidence if you are feeling glum and pessimistic.

1. Focus on positive thoughts.

Looking on the bright side means focusing on the positive aspects of your life. Focus on your good health, achievements, talents, and experience.Research has shown that when elderly Canadians were convinced that their health was poor, they were much more likely to end up in hospital than those who were convinced their health was excellent. Time to dismiss all those negative thoughts!

2. Use the power of mantras.

Thoughts need to be verbalized and this is how the power of mantras, repeated to yourself, can work. Perhaps you are dogged by critical comments, desolate because of insults or crippled by setbacks? How on earth can you boost your confidence with all that going on? Many experts believe that when we repeat mantras, we can boost confidence. Try a few of these for yourself:
  • "What others say is a reflection of them, not me."
  • "The only approval I need is my own."
  • "I am good enough."
  • "I look great."
  • "I can succeed in this."

3. Sit up straight.

There are now posture corrector apps which can be attached to your lower back to remind you to sit up straight with head lifted and shoulders back. The experts tell us that when we slouch, this affects our whole outlook on life. One study showed that those who sat upright were much more optimistic about their prospects in careers and their relationships. Those who were slouching were way down the list as regards confidence. Stop slouching!

4. Learn from setbacks.

Maybe you think that there are far too many setbacks and this has ruined your confidence in getting that dream job or getting a great figure. You may be thinking that your weight loss program is useless because you will never achieve your goal. The secret here is think of a setback or failure as feedback. It is telling you what to adjust and how to continue on the road, using a slightly different approach.
"Life's problems reveal who we really are"- Unknown

5. Think of expectations rather than fantasies.

If you fantasize too much and visualize lots of success, happiness and wealth, there may be a shock coming. Research now suggests that positive expectations are a much safer route to take to boost your confidence. After all, dreaming is part of a fantasy. Expectations are based on past experiences. Studies show that people with realistic expectations were doing better at getting the dream job or finding a partner.

6. Choose 5 things you can easily do.

Maybe you are a great jogger or cook? Perhaps you are kind and compassionate? Whatever it is, choose 5 of these things that you are really good at and always make you feel great afterwards. This is a great confidence booster and an even better one is to tick them off your list at the end of the day.

7. Seek out positive leisure time.

This is where you have to make an effort to avoid toxic company and also exposure to bad news. We are surrounded by disasters and every time we log on, there is news about some catastrophe, There is very rarely good news. This can drag us down into doom and gloom. The solution to boost confidence is to dedicate more time to physical activity, watching funny videos and above all, enjoying the company of positive friends and colleagues.

8. List your achievements.

You need to constantly remind yourself of what you achieved in your life so far. This often gets overshadowed by problems and worries. These can cloud your vision and make your goal seem impossible. A good idea is to keep a list of your successes near your computer to remind yourself. There is nothing wrong with self-promotion. This is a great confidence booster. The great thing about being self-confident is that you can inspire others to be like that too. Spread the good news!

9. Count your blessings.

My father also said this! Look at what you have now. You are in a comfortable space, you have enough food to eat, and you can even read my article! Did you know that happiness is made up of 90% of how you actually view your life? The other miserable 10% make up the actual circumstances. Too often, when you are not self-confident, you tend to concentrate on this tiny percentage.
Every single day, make sure you list all the things you have to be grateful for. Your list will probably be quite long. That will make you feel happier straightaway and also boost your confidence

10. Keep taking risks.

Imagine that you have had negative feedback or that you have screwed up at work. These things happen all the time and your confidence takes a battering. The worst possible thing you can do is to crawl back into your shell and decide to keep a low profile. Head down and work away without taking any risks. This is not a good way to recover. We need to keep taking risks and keep moving forward to achieve success. That is the best recipe to get back your confidence. Retirement is not an option yet!
"If you're going through hell, keep going." – Winston Churchill
11. Forget perfectionism.
We all strive to be the best, the nicest, the most successful. The list goes on and on. But recognizing that perfectionism is simply not achievable can be a great recipe to boost confidence. Nothing wrong with excellence but perfectionism will ensure we spend too much time comparing ourselves to others all the time. That is not healthy at all and can ruin our confidence as we observe their successes. The best way forward to self-confidence is to stop beating ourselves up for our mistakes and our faults.

Humor: A concerned husband






A very cranky old woman was arrested for shoplifting at a grocery store.
 

 

She gave everyone a hard time, from the store manager to the security guard to the arresting officer who took her away,
 

complaining and criticizing throughout the process.


 

When she appeared before the judge, the judge asked what she had stolen from the store.
 

The lady defiantly replied, "Just a stupid can of peaches."


 

The judge then asked why she had done it.
 

She replied, "I was hungry and forgot to bring any cash to the store."


 

The judge asked how many peaches were in the can.
 

She replied, "Nine, but what do you care about that?"


 

The judge patiently said, "Well, ma'am, because I'm going to give you nine days in jail -- one day for each peach."
 

As the judge was about to drop gavel, the lady's long suffering husband raised his hand and asked if he might speak.


 

The judge said, "Yes, what do you have to add?"


 
The husband said, "Your Honour, she also stole a can of peas.

How To Stand Out In A Job Interview - Content Loop


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Job-seekers have the wrong idea. They think that they're supposed to go to a job interview and sit quietly and meekly in their chair like a mouse.

They think that you get a gold star if you answer the interviewer's questions correctly. You get nothing. Interviewers immediately forget you when you don't make them think!
You have two goals at a job interview. The first one is to get the interviewer thinking and off the script. The second goal is to ask smart questions about the company's Business Pain — the reason they're taking the time to interview people in the first place!

How do you get the interviewer off the script? This story lays it out. Any open-ended question gives you a great keyhole to move the conversation away from the lame interview script and into a substantive discussion about pain and solutions.

Once you're off the interview script, even for a few moments, you can start to ask questions about the Business Pain behind the job ad.

Let's say it's a job for an HR Coordinator. When do companies hire HR people? Only when they have to! No one has extra HR people hanging around just for fun.

Interviewer: So, tell me about your experiences in HR.

You: For sure! Can I ask you a quick question about this job, so that my remarks will be relevant?
Interviewer: Sure.

You: Is this a new position, or are you replacing someone?

Interviewer: It's a new position.

You: Ah! What led you to decide to hire someone new?

Interviewer: Well, our HR team including me is very busy with our programs — training programs, benefits programs and so on. We need someone to deal with the employees day to day.

You: Why is that?

You will keep asking Pain Questions until you have a great understanding of what is bugging the company enough to plunk down a full-time salary plus benefits to make the problem go away. Better yet, your intelligent questions will make the interviewer think.
You'll make him or her really stop and tell you what's going on in the department.
Most job-seekers don't ask any questions until the very end of the interview, and then they're likely to ask a standard question like "Can you please tell me about the health plan?"

You can do better than that! You're going to demonstrate through your questions (not your answers!) that you understand a lot about the specific kind of Business Pain facing your possible next employer. In this case, it's employee relations pain.

The employees are lining up to talk to people in HR but those people aren't available. That's bad!
What happens when employee needs go unadressed? People get upset. They complain to their managers, or they quit. Morale tanks. You know that movie! Most people do.

Can you stand out at your next interview by digging in to understand what your next boss is up against? Try it!

This article was written by Liz Ryan from Forbes and was legally licensed through the NewsCred publisher network.

Weak Managers



Much has been written about the secrets of good management and few will argue that the best managers are inspired, visionary, dedicated, industrious, energetic, energizing and display integrity, leadership, common sense and courage. So where is it that managers commonly fail or falter and lose their precious foothold on the corporation's top rungs? The following, from the career experts at bayt.com, are ten of the most basic management traps and tips to avoid them: 


Weak managers set weak goals
As a manager your role is to get specific jobs completed by employees in the most optimal, efficient and innovative manner and in order to do that, you need to set clear objectives. Successful managers set SMART goals - goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-based. They are able to communicate these goals clearly, simply and concisely to their employees so that none are vague or uncertain about expectations. By all means reach for the stars in your objectives but to do so without supplying employees with the training, resources, flexibility and freedom they need to accomplish their goals and a schedule of regular supervision and feedback is to set them (and yourself) up for failure.

Weak managers micro-manage - effective leaders inspire
The days of command and control organizations are long over - today's managers recognize that in order to leverage their skills and maximize their team's output they need to adopt a flexible approach and 'lead' their teams to excellence rather than closely supervise, instruct and control them. The best leaders communicate to their employees a vision and ignite in them the fire, motivation and desire to work towards making this vision a reality. Good leaders unleash their employees to innovate and achieve optimal solutions by communicating top-level goals and objectives and a suggested blueprint for success then leaving the employees to determine how to get there most optimally while ensuring they have the aptitudes, training, resources and work environment necessary to achieve superior results. While a program of regular feedback and supervision is essential, managers should ensure that their management style is not repressive, meddling or overly overbearing. The golden rule is to communicate the 'what' and the 'why' of the work that needs to be done and leave the employees to determine the 'how' without burdening them with strict instruction manuals or prescribed rules and patterns that are largely redundant and inconducive to speed, creativity, progress and innovation.

Weak managers are afraid of hiring/cultivating strong leaders
Strong leaders/managers have the self-confidence to hire the best people, take them to new levels and cultivate in them all the qualities needed to make them in turn effective leaders of the future. Weak leaders replicate themselves in their hiring decisions and hire mediocre players, mistakenly believing that an employee with more skills, acumen or industry knowledge than themselves will ultimately undermine them or make them look bad. The best managers are characterized by an ability to stimulate their employees to superior performance and through coaching, training, feedback as well as by example, inspire in them all the qualities needed to make effective managers. A good manager helps employees achieve their full potential and constantly raises the bar so that employees never stop learning, innovating and growing. Coaching, training, career planning and programs for ongoing growth and development of key staff are high on the priority lists of the best managers.

Weak managers belittle their employees
Bosses who favour the archaic 'tough' management style where employees are singled out for public reprimand and negative feedback is plentiful while recognition and positive reinforcement are scarce will fail to win the loyalty, respect and commitment of their teams over the long run. Without an inspired, fired up, self-confident employee base these managers set themselves and their teams up for failure. Effective leaders by contrast, respect their employees and give them regular feedback with intelligent constructive criticism and loudly laud special accomplishments in both public and private, while communicating any negative feedback ONLY in private and focusing such criticism strictly on the job performance, not the person's character. Strong leaders recognize and reward a job well done. These leaders inspire their teams to perform at their best and are able to elicit from them a high degree of loyalty and a 'hunger' to raise the bar and continuously excel. In such organisations, employees are not afraid to challenge their boss's ideas or upset the status quo in the interest of innovation and excellence and are encouraged to take risks to elevate the business to a new level. The autocrats and bureaucrats on the other hand sap their employees' self-confidence, drive and energy with their overbearing management style and fail to induce in them any motivation to raise the bar or excel.

Weak managers have obsolete skills-strong leaders constantly reinvent themselves

In today's knowledge-driven economies and highly competitive environment, skills, training and education rapidly become obsolete and effective managers know that they must constantly re-educate themselves and update their skills to maintain an edge. While over-confident managers with an inertia to further education fall by the wayside, good managers regularly take an honest inventory of their skills and abilities and upgrade their technical knowledge and soft skills wherever appropriate. They encourage their teams to do likewise with sound career planning and performance appraisal programs and an emphasis on training and self-education.

Weak managers have poor communication skills
Good communication includes cultivating and maintaining open channels of communication with the team and others in the organisation, giving constructive, intelligent feedback, eliciting ideas through brainstorming sessions or otherwise, articulating the company vision and mission in no uncertain terms, setting clear objectives and listening attentively with an open-mind to employees grievances, suggestions and any other issues. Effective leaders have an open-door policy that welcomes input, suggestions and feedback from employees and recognize that good ideas and the next best idea/process/innovation can come from anywhere. Strong leaders listen; weak leaders talk. Strong leaders pay attention to their employees and encourage them to express professional opinions and ask for more responsibility; weak leaders think they are above such open-door policies. Employees who are not listened to and are not made to feel important or respected as professionals or individuals are unlikely to innovate or express any exciting new ideas that can move a company forward.

Weak managers blame
Everybody makes mistakes and strong leaders protect their good people from taking the fall when they err. Good bosses recognize that the occasional slip-ups are inevitable and can be learning opportunities and are ready to take personal responsibility when the team makes a misstep. A good boss realizes that his most promising employees want to succeed, will grow as a result of their mistakes and are unlikely to repeat the same mistakes. They do no set their people up as a negative example for the rest of the organization nor point fingers when the going gets tough. Good bosses are personably accountable for their actions as well as the actions of their subordinates and do not allow a culture of blame to permeate the organisation.

Weak managers take full credit for their team's accomplishments
While weak leaders usurp all the credit for a job well done by their teams, the strongest leaders will give the full credit to the team as a whole or the team member responsible for the project. Strong leaders motivate, energize and inspire by giving credit where credit is due and being generous with reward and recognition wherever appropriate. Strong leaders publicly thank their employees for a job well done and recognize that a motivated, successful, energized team will reflect directly on the boss.

Weak managers thrive on bureaucracy
Weak leaders are fond of, augment and live well with the layers and bureaucratic shackles that tie an organisation down; strong leaders remove them. Today's effective leaders recognize that in order to compete they must operate like a small company with a high level of speed, responsiveness and flexibility. They realize that to maintain their edge in today's marketplace their organization needs to be responsive to changing market conditions and remove the shackles, boundaries, layers, clutter and obsolete policies, procedures and routines that get in the way of the freedom and free flow of people, resources and ideas.

Weak managers are divorced from their teams
Effective managers genuinely care about their employees and take the time to get to know them and to understand their strengths, weaknesses, what makes them tick and their goals and ambitions. They also take the time to learn something about their personal life. While weak managers will maintain an outdated aloofness and a formal distance from their teams, exceptional managers are able to bring out the best in every employee and win their loyalty and respect by understanding their unique needs, motivations and abilities and showing the team that they are important and personally significant. Strong managers are team players and through their constant involvement with their teams communicate to them that they are there for them and supportive of them. Effective managers by building a supportive work environment, build a camaraderie and team spirit that enthuses and excites the team to new levels of performance.


Written by Sharon

Failure is Imagination




Failure is just a word, an accusation by someone being a failure at seeing the good in what they judged and condemned. Accepting the word 'failure' as a condemnation of yourself is 'self-torture'. Failure is a 'bully' word that has permeated the mindset of infinite undeserving people who are psychologically molested by the words of others without consideration of why it's a disingenuous label that serves no one.

Once I knew a man who was seemingly extremely successful, by societies standards, in everything he did, until one day his wife left him for a far less successful co-worker. Over the next few months, and in fact several years, he inflicted great emotional pain on himself to the point of losing all his assets, as well as his drive to accumulate more great wealth. Truth be known, he had lived in self entitlement with the air of being superior to everyone. I finally convinced him, though he thought for the longest time that I was nuts, that because of his 'alleged misfortune' he for the first time,  had an open opportunity to find the spiritual wealth within himself through the path of 'intentional suffering'. He has since accepted his position as a spiritual opportunity, and not failure. Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. People will come and go, that's life!

The ego creates failure by saying:
    "I'm not good enough."
    "No one likes me."
    "He shouldn't treat me that way."
    "The future holds nothing for me."
    "I can't do anything right." "I fail at everything I
     try to do."
    "I'm useless."
    "Problems at work are all my fault."
    "My partner needs to change for me to be          happy."
    "I know I'm going to get fired."

''I have loved. I have lost and I have changed. It has been difficult but I have learned so much from it. I have learned that people can hurt you so deeply and not even worry about you. I learned that good people can change in a minute when their hearts have been broken. I've met great people, but mean people as well. But the most important thing I have learned is that every person in this world is strong enough to let go . Pe

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ople come and go and that's life ! The most important thing is to stand up and realize that you deserve something better than a person who gives up on you.'' — Unknown

Imagination is a double edged sword that can be positive or used negatively, and destroy you! You are perfect underneath, it's just that you have avoided seeing it for what you've been gullible enough to accept as you being what you see on the outer. To be free is to be free  of perceptions that are negative. Failure is a useless word, seek the joy within!

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Humor: English Language Upgrade



English spelling had some room for improvement and has accepted a 5- year phase-in plan that would become known as "Upgraded-English".

In the first year, "s" will replace the soft "c". Sertainly, this will make the sivil servants jump with joy.
The hard "c" will be dropped in favour of "k". This should klear up konfusion, and
 keyboards kan have one less letter.

There will be growing publik enthusiasm in the sekond year when the
 troublesome "p

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h" will be replace
d with "f". This will make words like fotograf 20% shorter.

In the 3rd year, publik akseptanse of the new spelling kan be expekted to
 reach the stage where more komplikated changes are possible.

Governments will enkourage the removal of double letters which
have always ben a deterent to akurate speling.

Also, al wil agre that the horibl mes of the silent "e" in the
 languag is disgrasful and it should go away.

By the 4th yer people wil be reseptiv to steps such as
replasing "th" with "z" and "w" with "v".

During ze fifz yer, ze unesesary "o" kan be dropd from vords kontaining "ou" and
 after ziz fifz yer, ve vil hav a reil sensi bl riten styl.

Zer vil be no mor trubl or difi

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kultis and evrivun vil find it ezi TU understand
 ech oza. Ze drem of a united urop vil finali kum tru.

Und efter ze fifz yer, ve vil al be speking German like zey vunted in ze forst plas.

If zis mad you smil, pleas pas on to oza pepl.



Worrying About Future?



Because none of us have many years to live, and we can't take along anything when we go, so we don't have to be too thrifty...  Spend the money that should be spent, enjoy what should be enjoyed, donate what you are able to donate, but don't leave all to your children or grandchildren, for you don't want them to become parasites who are waiting for the day you will die!!
Don't worry about what will happen after we are gone, because when we return to dust, we will feel nothing about praises or criticisms.  The time to enjoy the worldly life and your hard earned wealth will be over!
Don't worry too much about your children, for children will have their own destiny and should find their own way.  Don't be your children's slave.  Care for them, love them, give them gifts but also enjoy your money while you can.  Life should have more to it than working from the cradle to the grave!!

Don't expect too much from your children. Caring children, though caring, would be too busy with their jobs and commitments to render much help.  Uncaring children may fight over your assets even when you are still alive, and wish for your early demise so they can inherit your properties and wealth.  Your children take for granted that they are rightful heirs to your wealth; but that you have no claims to their money.
50-year old like you, don't trade in your health for wealth by working yourself to an early grave anymore...   Because your money may not be able to buy your health...   When to stop making money, and how much is enough (hundred thousands, million, ten million)?Out of thousand hectares of good farm land, you can consume only three quarts (of rice) daily; out of a thousand mansions, you only need eight square meters of space to rest at night.  So, as long as you have enough food and enough money to spend, that is good enough. You should live happily.
 
Every family has its own problems.  Just do not compare with others for fame and social status and see whose children are doing better, etc., but challenge others for happiness, health, enjoyment, quality of life and longevity...
Don't worry about things that you can't change; because it doesn't help and it may spoil your health.  You have to create your own well-being and find your own place of happiness.  As long as you are in good mood and good health, think about happy things, do happy things daily and have fun in doing, then you will pass your time happily every day.   One day passes without happiness, you will lose one day.  One day passes with happiness, and then you gain one day.
In good spirit, sickness will cure; in a happy spirit, sickness will cure faster; in high and happy spirits; sickness will never come.  With good mood, suitable amount of exercise, always in the sun, variety of foods, reasonable amount of vitamin and mineral intake, hopefully you will live another 20 or 30 years of healthy life of pleasure.
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10 Highly Effective Study Habits


By John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
~ 9 min read


Students/professionals grapple with many issues in their lives, and because of all of the competing things for your attention, it's hard to concentrate on studying. And yet if you're in school, you have to do at least a little studying in order to progress from year to year. The key to effective studying isn't cramming or studying longer, but studying smarter. You can begin studying smarter with these ten proven and effective study habits.

1. How you approach studying matters
Too many people look at studying as a necessary task, not an enjoyment or opportunity to learn. That's fine, but researchers have found that how you approach something matters almost as much as what you do. Being in the right mindset is important in order to study smarter.
Sometimes you can't "force" yourself to be in the right mindset, and it is during such times you should simply avoid studying. If you're distracted by a relationship issue, an upcoming game, or finishing an important project, then studying is just going to be an exercise in frustration. Come back to it when you're not focused (or obsessed!) by something else going on in your life.
Way to help improve your study mindset:
  • Aim to think positively when you study, and remind yourself of your skills and abilities.
  • Avoid catastrophic thinking. Instead of thinking, "I'm a mess, I'll never have enough time to study for this exam," look at it like, "I may be a little late to study as much as I'd like, but since I'm doing it now, I'll get most of it done."
  • Avoid absolute thinking. Instead of thinking "I always mess things up," the more objective view is, "I didn't do so well that time, what can I do to improve?"
  • Avoid comparing yourself with others, because you usually just end up feeling bad about yourself.

2. Where you study is important
A lot of people make the mistake of studying in a place that really isn't conducive to concentrating. A place with a lot of distractions makes for a poor study area. If you try and study in your dorm room, for instance, you may find the computer, TV, or a roommate more interesting than the reading material you're trying to digest.
The library, a nook in a student lounge or study hall, or a quiet coffee house are good places to check out. Make sure to choose the quiet areas in these places, not the loud, central gathering areas. Investigate multiple places on-campus and off-campus, don't just pick the first one your find as "good enough" for your needs and habits. Finding an ideal study place is important, because it's one you can reliably count on for the next few years.

3. Bring everything you need, nothing you don't
Unfortunately, when you find an ideal place to study, sometimes people bring things they don't need. For instance, while it may seem ideal to type notes into a computer to refer back to later, computers are a powerful distraction for many people because they can do so many different things. Playing games, going online, IM'ing, surfing the Web, and answering emails are all wonderful distractions that have nothing to do with studying. So ask yourself whether you really need a computer to take notes, or whether you can make do with the old-fashioned paper and pen or pencil.
Don't forget the things you need to study for the class, exam or paper you're focusing on for the study session. Nothing is more time-consuming and wasteful than having to run back and forth regularly because you forget an important book, paper, or some other resource you need to be successful. If you study best with your favorite music playing, make sure your iPod is with you.

4. Outline and rewrite your notes
Most people find that keeping to a standard outline format helps them boil information down to its most basic components. People find that connecting similar concepts together makes it easier to remember when the exam comes around. The important thing to remember in writing outlines is that an outline only words as a learning tool when it is in your own words and structure. Every person is unique in how they put similar information together (called "chunking" by cognitive psychologists). So while you're welcomed to copy other people's notes or outlines, make sure you translate those notes and outlines into your own words and concepts. Failing to do this is what often causes many students to stumble in remembering important items.
It may also be helpful to use as many senses as possible when studying, because information is retained more readily in people when other senses are involved. That's why writing notes works in the first place – it puts information into words and terms you understand. Mouthing the words out loud while you copy the notes before an important exam can be one method for involving yet another sense.

5. Use memory games (mnemonic devices)
Memory games, or mnemonic devices, are methods for remembering pieces of information using a simple association of common words. Most often people string together words to form a nonsense sentence that is easy to remember. The first letter of each word can then be used to stand for something else – the piece of information you're trying to remember. The most common mnemonic device example is "Every Good Boy Deserves Fun." Putting the first letters of every word together – EGBDF – gives a music student the five notes for treble clef.
The key to such memory devices is the new phrase or sentence you come up with has to be more memorable and easier to remember than the terms or information you're trying to learn. These don't work for everyone, so if they don't work for you, don't use them.
Mnemonic devices are helpful because you use more of your brain to remember visual and active images than you do to remember just a list of items. Using more of your brain means better memory.

6. Practice by yourself or with friends
The old age adage, practice makes perfect, is true. You can practice by yourself by testing yourself with either practice exams, past quizzes, or flash cards (depending what kind of course it is and what's available). If a practice exam isn't available, you can make one up for yourself and your classmates (or find someone who will). If a practice or old exam from a course is available, use it as a guide – do not study to the practice or old exam! (Too many students treat such exams as the real exams, only to be disappointed when the real exam has none of the same questions). Such exams help you understand the breadth of content and types of questions to expect, not the actual material to study for.
Some people enjoy reviewing their materials with a group of friends or classmates. Such groups work best when they're kept small (4 or 5 others), with people of similar academic aptitude, and with people taking the same class. Different formats work for different groups. Some groups like to work through chapters together, quizzing one another as they go through it. Others like to compare class notes, and review materials that way, ensuring they haven't missed any critical points. Such study groups can be helpful for many students, but not all.

7. Make a schedule you can stick to
Too many people treat studying as the thing to do when you get around to it or have some spare time. But if you schedule study time just as your class time is scheduled, you'll find it becomes much less of a hassle in the long run. Instead of last-minute cramming sessions, you'll be better prepared because you haven't put off all the studying into one 12-hour marathon. Spending 30 or 60 minutes every day you have a class studying for that class before or after is a lot easier and will allow you to actually learn more of the material.
You should study regularly throughout the semester for as many classes as you can. Some people study every day, others put it off to once or twice a week. The frequency isn't as important as actually studying on a regular basis. Even if you just crack open a book once a week for a class, it's better than waiting until the first exam in a massive cram session.
Scheduling is even more important if you're going to be a part of a study group. If only half of your members are committed to a study group for every meeting, then you need to find other study group members who are as committed as you are.

8. Take breaks (and rewards!)
Because so many people view studying as a chore or task, it's human nature to avoid it. If, however, you find rewards to help reinforce what you're doing, you may be pleasantly surprised by the change you may find in your attitude over time.
Rewards start by chunking study time into manageable components. Studying for 4 hours at a time with no breaks is not realistic or fun for most people. Studying for 1 hour, and then taking a 5 minute break and grabbing a snack is usually more sustainable and enjoyable. Divide study time into segments that make sense and work for you. If you have to digest a whole textbook chapter, find sections in the chapter and commit to reading and taking notes on one section at a time. Maybe you only do one section in a sitting, maybe you do two. Find the limits that seem to work for you.
If you succeed in your goals (such as doing two sections of a chapter in one sitting), give yourself a real reward. Perhaps it's saying, "I'll treat myself to some good dessert tonight at dinner," or "I can buy a new tune online," or "I can spend an extra 30 minutes gaming for every 2 sections of a book chapter I read." The point is to find a reward that is small but real, and to stick to it. Some may view this as absurd, since you're setting limits you can easily ignore. But by setting these limits on your behavior, you're actually teaching yourself discipline, which will be a handy skill to have throughout life.

9. Keep healthy and balanced
It's hard to live a balanced life while in school, I know. But the more balance you seek out in your life, the easier every component in your life becomes. If you spend all of your time focusing on a relationship or a game, you can see how easy it is to be out of balance. When you're out of balance, the things you're not focusing on – such as studying – become that much harder. Don't spend all of your time studying – have friends, keep in touch with your family, and find interests outside of school that you can pursue and enjoy.
Finding balance isn't really something that can be taught, it's something that comes with experience and simply living. But you can work to try and keep your health and body balanced, by doing what you already know – exercise regularly and eat right. There are no shortcuts to health. Vitamins and herbs might help you in the short-term, but they're not substitute for real, regular meals and a dose of exercise every now and again (walking to class is a start, but only if you're spending an hour or two a day doing it).
Look at vitamins and herbs as they are intended – as supplements to your regular, healthy diet. Common herbs – such as ginkgo, ginseng, and gotu kola – may help you enhance mental abilities, including concentration, aptitude, behavior, alertness and even intelligence. But they may not, either, and you shouldn't rely on them instead of studying regularly.

10. Know what the expectations are for the class
Different professors and teachers have different expectations from their students. While taking good notes and listening in class (and attending as many of the classes as you can) are good starts, you can do one better by spending some time with the instructor or professor's assistant. Talking to the instructor early on – especially if you foresee a difficult course ahead – will help you understand the course requirements and the professor's expectations. Maybe most students in the class are expected to get a "C" because the material is so difficult; knowing that ahead of time helps set your expectations, too.
Pay attention in class. If the instructor writes something on the whiteboard or displays it on the screen, it's important. But if they say something, that's important too. Copy these things down as they're presented, but don't zone out completely from what the instructor is also saying. Some students focus on the written materials without regard for what the instructor is saying. If you write down only one aspect of the professor's instructions (e.g., just what they write down), you're probably missing about half the class.
If you get a particularly bad grade on a paper or exam, talk to the instructor. Try and understand where things went wrong, and what you can do in the future to help reduce it from happening again.
Don't forget to learn!
Studying isn't just about passing an exam, as most students look at it as. Studying is an effort to actually learn things, some of which you might actually care about. So while you'll have to take your share of classes that have little or nothing to do with your interests, you should still look for interesting things to take away from every experience.
By the time you'll realize what a great opportunity school is, you'll be well into the middle of your life with a lot of responsibilities – children, mortgages, career pressures, etc. Then most people have neither the time nor energy to go back to school. So take the time to learn some stuff now, because you'll appreciate the opportunity later on.
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