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Story: The Hotel Consultant from Japan





The Taj hotel group had invited Mr. Masai Imai from Japan to hold a workshop for its staff.

The staff were very skeptical - the hotel is doing excellent business, this person from Japan has no exposure to hotel industry - what exactly is he going to teach?

But everybody gathered as planned for the workshop in the conference hall sharp at 9 am.

Mr. Masai was introduced to them - a not so impressive personality, nor the English all that good; spoke as if he was first formulating each sentence in Japanese and then translating it into rather clumsy English.

"Good morning! 

Let's start work.


I am told this is a workshop; but I see neither work nor shop.

So let's proceed where work is happening.

Let's start with the first room on the first floor."

Mr. Masai, followed by the senior management, the participants, the video camera crew trouped out of the conference room and proceeded to the destination.

That happened to be the laundry room of the hotel.

Mr. Masai entered the room and stood at the window, "beautiful view!" he said.

The staff knew it; they need not invite a Japanese consultant to tell them this!

"A room with such a beautiful view is being wasted as a laundry room.

Shift the laundry to the basement and convert this into a guest room."

Aa Haa!

Now nobody had ever thought about that!

The manager said, "Yes, it can be done."

"Then let's do it," Mr. Masai said.

"Yes sir, I will make a note of this and we will include it in the report on the workshop that will be prepared." Manager

"Excuse me, but there is nothing to note down in this.

Let's just do it, just now." Mr. Masai.

"Just now?" Manager

"Yes, decide on a room on the ground floor/basement and shift the stuff out of this room right away.

It should take a couple of hours, right?" asked Mr. Masai.

"Yes." Manager.

"Let's come back here just before lunch.

By then all this stuff will have got shifted out and the room must be ready with the carpets, furniture etc. and from today you can start earning the few thousand that you charge your customers for a night."

"Ok, Sir." The manager had no option.

The next destination was the pantry.

The group entered.

At the entrance were two huge sinks full of plates to be washed.

Mr. Masai removed his jacket and started washing the plates.

"Sir, Please, what are you doing?" the manager didn't know what to say and what to do.

"Why, I am washing the plates", Mr. Masai.

"But sir, there is staff here to do that." Manager Mr. Masai continued washing, "I think sink is for washing plates, there are stands here to keep the plates and the plates should go into the stands."

All the officials wondered - did they require a consultant to tell them this?

After finishing the job, Mr. Masai asked, "How many plates do you have?'

"Plenty, so that there should never be any shortage." answered the Manager.

Mr. Masai said, "We have a word in Japanese -'Muda'.

Muda means delay, Muda means unnecessary spending.

One lesson to be learned in this workshop is to avoid both.

If you have plenty of plates, there will be delay in cleaning them up.

The first step to correct this situation is to remove all the excess plates."

"Yes, we will say this in the report." Manager.

"No, wasting our time in writing the report is again an instance of 'Muda'.

We must pack the extra plates in a box right away and send these to whichever other section of Taj requires these.

Throughout the workshop now we will find out where all we find this 'Muda' hidden."

And then at every spot and session, the staff eagerly awaited to find out Muda and learn how to avoid it.

On the last day, Mr. Masai told a story.

"A Japanese and an American, both fond of hunting, met in a jungle.

They entered deep jungle and suddenly realized that they had run out of bullets.

Just then they heard a lion roaring.

Both started running.

But the Japanese took a short break to put on his sports shoes.

The American said, "What are you doing?

We must first get to the car."

The Japanese responded, "No. I only have to ensure that I remain ahead of you."

All the participants engrossed in listening to the story, realized suddenly that the lion would stop after getting his victim!

"The lesson is:

competition in today's world is so fierce, that it is important to stay ahead of other, even by just a couple of steps.

And you have such a huge and naturally well endowed country.

If you remember to curtail your production expenditure and give the best quality always, you will be miles ahead as compared to so many other countries in the world.", concluded Mr. Ma sai.

It is never late to learn.......
Story - The Costly Mobile 
Story - The Family Goes to Village 
Story - The Cow and the Owner
Story - The Unhappy Young Lady 
Story - The Successful Tennis Player
Story - Take Care of Your Rocks
Story - The Girl and the Necklace 
Story - Pencil and Eraser 
Story - The Scholar and the Ferryman 
Story - The Kings Teeth

9 Challenging Riddles!




Give your brain a work out with 
these difficult riddles. 
Our tip - Think outside the box!

Riddles

1. A man buys a used car. 
He finds a beautiful Buick for $9,500, 
but he buys it without paying a dime. 
How does he buy it?

 2. If you have two twins, 
three triplets and four quadruplets, 
how many people do you have?

3. What is the coolest letter 
in the alphabet?

4. A truck driver is going opposite of 
the traffic on a one-way street. 
A police officer sees him but doesn't 
stop him. Why doesn't the police officer
 stop him?

5. Which creature walks on four legs 
in the morning, two legs in the afternoon, 
and three legs in the evening?

6. What work can one never finish?

7. A man who lives on the tenth floor 
takes the elevator down to the first floor 
every morning and goes to work. 
In the evening, when he comes back, 
on a rainy day, or if there are other 
people in the elevator, he goes to 
his floor directly. 
Otherwise, he goes to the seventh floor and
 walks up three flights of stairs to
 his apartment. 
Why?

8. A man is pushed out of an airplane, 
without a parachute. 
How was he able to survive? 

9. Lives without a body, hears without ears, 
speaks without a mouth, to which 
the air alone gives birth. 
What is it?



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ANSWERS:
Ans.1- If he is paying $9500, 
he won't need any dimes.

Ans.2 - 9. Two twins are 2 people, 
three triplets are 3 people, and four 
quadruplets are 4 people. 2 + 3 + 4= 9.

Ans.3 - 'B' because it is always surrounded by AC. 

Ans.4 - He was walking.

Ans.5 -Man. He crawls on all fours as 
a baby, then walks on two feet as an 
adult, and then walks with a cane as an old man.

 Ans.6 - An autobiography.

Ans.7 - The man is short of stature. 
He can't reach the upper elevator buttons,
 but he can push on it with his umbrella
 on a rainy day. 

Ans.8 - The airplane was on the runway.

Ans.9 - An echo. 


  

What's Your Riddler Rank?

0:  Back to riddle school with you! 
Next time, try and think a bit more 
outside the box, we know you can do it!

1-3: You're a novice riddler, 
who still misses most but is starting to
 grasp the basics of riddling. 

4-6: You're a riddler in the making, 
no doubt about it! 
Your ability to think outside the conventional 
answers is quite impressive, good for you!

7-9: Are you some kind of super riddler? 
How did you DO that??
 We take our respective hats off 
before your mighty riddling powers, and
 can only hope you can teach us your clever, 
clever ways.


Amazing Advice from Scholar





"A friend will not (literally) share your struggles, and a loved one cannot physically take away your pain, and a close one will not stay up the night on your behalf...
so look after yourself, protect it, nurture it...


and don't give life's events more than what they are really worth...

Be certain that when you break, no one will heal you except you, and when you are defeated no one will give you victory except your determination...your ability to stand up again and carry on is your responsibility...

Do not look for your self worth in the eyes of people; look for your worth from within your conscious...if your conscious is at peace then you will ascend high...and if you truly know yourself then what is said about you won't harm you.

Do not carry the worries of this life... because this is for God..and do not carry the worries of sustenance because it is from God...and do not carry the anxiety for the future because it is in the Control of God...

Carry one thing: How to Please God. Because if you please Him, He Pleases you, fulfills you and enriches you.

Do not weep for a life that made your heart weep...just say "oh God...compensate me with good in this life and the hereafter".

Sadness departs with prayers...happiness comes with a sincere prayers...God Does Not forget the good you do...nor does He Forget the good you did to others and the pain you relieved them from...Nor Will He Forget the eye which was about to cry but you made it laugh...

Live your life with this principle: Be good even if you don't receive good...not because of others' sake but because God Loves the good doers".

Some wise quotes
I am an Ideal Person
The Power Of Not Looking Back
Story: The Power of Positive Talk
Islamic Wisdom: Do I really know what is Halal and what is Haram?
6 Habits of True Strategic Thinkers
Gandhi's top 10 fundamentals for change
Wisdom Series - 2
Wisdom Series - Quotes

Motivating the Unmotivated Child


By James Lehman, MSW

Getting into the back-to-school routine can be hard for everyone in the house. In the morning, parents are faced with groggy kids who won't get out of bed and get ready for school no matter how much you nag, bribe and scold. Homework time can be even worse, with nightly fights and accusations echoing off the walls of your home. So how can you get your child to be more motivated? The important thing to remember is this: your child is motivated—they're just motivated to resist you. Keep reading to find out how you can turn this negative motivation into a positive one.


Q: When a child becomes unmotivated and won't get out of bed, do homework or participate in activities, what is he trying to tell the parent through this behavior?

James:
When we're talking about kids not getting out of bed, not doing their homework or school assignments or not wanting to get involved in family activities, it's important for parents to realize that there is motivation in the child. But the motivation is to resist. The motivation is to do things their way, not yours, and to retain power.
When people feel powerless, they try to feel powerful by withholding. A child or teenager who feels very powerless will stay in bed, not go to school, avoid homework, sit on the couch and withhold overall involvement because it gives them a sense of being in control. To the parent, the behavior looks completely out of control. But the child sees it as the only way to have power over what's going on around him.
"You have to have the courage to let him experience the natural consequences of his behavior."
The child who uses resistance to control lacks both social skills and problem solving skills. It's important to define the difference between the two. Social skills are how to talk to other people, how to be friendly, how to feel comfortable inside your own skin and how to deal with people's kindness. Problem solving skills are the skills that help kids figure out what people want from them, how to give it, how to deal with other people's behavior, expectations and demands. Problem solving skills are needed to help a child handle being criticized in class. Many times the real reason kids don't want to do their homework is because they're simply lazy about the work or they don't want to be criticized in class and held accountable for their work.
I want to be clear about this point: everyone is motivated. The question is, motivated to do what? If a child looks like he's not motivated, you have to look at what he's accomplishing and assume that this is what he's motivated to do. So part of the solution is getting him to be motivated to do something else. To assume that the child is unmotivated is an ineffective way of looking at it. He is motivated. He's simply motivated to do nothing. In this case, doing nothing means resisting and holding back to exercise control over you.
You'll see it when you ask your child a question and he doesn't answer, but you know he heard you. What's that all about? That's a child withholding an answer to feel powerful. When he says, "I don't have to answer you if I don't want to," you see it as a lack of motivation. He sees it as a way to win control over you.


Q: As parents, we tend to respond to this unmotivated behavior by coaxing, arguing and screaming at the child. Or you just give up and do the child's tasks for him because you don't see another way. It doesn't work, but it's all you can do, it seems.

James:
Very often these kids are motivated by a power struggle. They find different ways to have that struggle with their parents. The job of the parents in this case is to find other ways for the child to solve the problem that's inherent in the power struggle. But if parents don't have those other ways, then they just get locked into the power struggle.
If you're fighting day after day with a kid who won't get out of bed, you're never going to solve that problem. Because even if he gets out of bed, then he won't brush his teeth. And even if he brushes his teeth he won't comb his hair. Or he won't wear clean clothes or he won't do his homework. If continually resisting is how a child tries to solve the problem of authority, then parents will have a hard time until they teach the child how to solve that problem appropriately.
The first step in teaching kids the problem solving skills they need is to understand how they think and realize that these kids are not helpless victims. They're simply trying to solve problems, but the way they're solving them is ineffective, inefficient and distorted. You have to deal with this distorted attempt for control in a systemic way. To give a simplistic solution like taking away his phone or taking away his TV does not deal with the problem. It won't work. You have to look at the whole comprehensive picture.


Q: So how can parents deal with this behavior more effectively, without screaming, arguing or "overdoing" for the child?

James:
I think parents should avoid giving the behavior power. When you yell at your child for lack of motivation, you're giving the resisting behavior power. I understand that parents get frustrated and yell. The point I want to make here is that it won't solve the problem. If you're yelling or arguing with this child over these issues, you're giving him more power in the struggle, and you don't want to do that. Leave the choices really clear for the child. Use "I" words. "I want you to get up out of bed and get ready for school." "I want you to do your homework now." Then leave the bedroom. If the kid doesn't do it, then there should be consequences. There should be accountability. If the kid says, "I don't care about the consequences," ignore it. Telling you he doesn't care gives him a sense of being in control and a sense of power.
I would give consequences, and I don't care if the kid doesn't like it. If you don't get out of bed, you shouldn't be doing anything else. You shouldn't get to play video games. You shouldn't spend four hours in front of the TV. If you're too sick to go to school, you shouldn't be going out of the house. Those limits should be set and followed through.
I would always tell parents in my office that you have to have the courage to let him experience the natural consequences of his behavior. It takes a lot of courage to step back and say, "Okay, you're not going to do your homework, and you're going to get the grades that reflect that." But in these cases, it can help to let the child experience the natural consequences of resistance. You don't let the kid watch TV. You say, "Homework time is from six to eight. And if you don't want do your homework in that time, that's fine. But you can't go on the computer, you can't play games and you can't watch TV. If you choose in that time period not to do your homework, that'll be your choice. And if you fail, that'll be your choice."
Along with the plan to let him experience the natural consequences of his decision, build in rewards for success, if he does make the right decision. If my son failed a test, there was no punishment. But if he passed, there was a reward. It was very simple. We rewarded A's and B's. We didn't take anything away for C; we just didn't reward it. So my son strived to have A's all the time. So with kids who resist, it's important to have a rewards system as well as a consequence system.
Remember, natural consequences are an important part of life. That's why we have speeding tickets. A speeding ticket is a natural consequence. If you go too fast, the policeman stops you and gives you a ticket. He doesn't follow you home to make sure you don't speed anymore. He lets you go. It's your job to stop and take responsibility. If you don't, you're going to get another ticket fifteen minutes later. Natural consequences help people take responsibility, and they can be used to help kids take responsibility for things like going to school, participating in class and doing homework.
So when you're interacting with a kid who appears unmotivated, remember that screaming, bargaining and doing things for him will not work. When you're looking at this child, you have to remember, he is motivated. He's just motivated to do something different than what you want him to do. He's motivated to resist you. So the more power you put into it, the stronger his resistance gets. We don't argue with kids because when we argue with them, we give them power. Focus on making that behavior powerless and give the consequences that you can give so that there's accountability.
I created The Total Transformation Program to help parents manage and change this behavior. It offers parents a comprehensive solution for changing resistance and teaching the child responsibility accountability.

Read more: empoweringparents

​ 5 Recommendations to develop our personality



To develop your personality, you have to spend five days to have these five experiences to really blossom in your life.

You can develop your personality with these five experiences.

You have to sincerely play these five roles:

1. The first role which I would recommend to you is to be a School Teacher.


To teach lessons to children who are not learning, you need a lot of patience. Being a nursery or primary school teacher, even for one day, you will see how you have to increase your patience.

2. Be a Gardener or spend a day with a Farmer.

If you are sowing the seeds, if you are watering the plants,
you will know how you must care for water, earth and the environment. You will have a feeling for the environment. You will value food and you will not waste food.

You know, what we do?
We bring so much food, and we put it in the fridge and, after a few days in the refrigerator, we throw the food. We are wasting millions and millions of tons of food every day. We should not waste food. This we will learn if we spend one day being a farmer or a gardener.

3. You should spend a day in the mental hospital.

Whatever people talk in the mental hospital, you don't mind.
If they scold you,
if they blame you,
if they curse you,
will you mind?

You don't mind because you are aware that this person is mentally sick. You know that many people are outside the hospital, but that does not mean they are mentally well. So, in life, you come across people who blame you for nothing, who are jealous or angry, who say things that make no sense. Then, you know, you will have the patience to deal with them with a smile. You will not take the garbage inside and spoil your mind.

So one day if you spend in a mental hospital, you will know how to save your mind. You will stop being a football of others' opinions.

4. One day you must go to a prison. Maybe it is shocking to you.

You don't have to do a wrong thing to go to a prison. Just go visit a prison, spend a little time with the prisoners.

You will understand what compassion is.

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What helplessness is.
Those people made a mistake without awareness.. And are now paying the price.
From them you learn to be mindful of your actions.

5.

​Visit a hospital. ​
There are terminally ill people in the hospital.

One day with them, and you will realize how precious life is.
And you will start valuing health. You will eat better, you will exercise. You will do all that is needed to be more vibrant in your life.

With these five days what would be the outcome?

I guess from these five days you will become
More Vibrant,
More Alive,
More Loving,
Compassionate and Active.

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How to Keep People Happy? 
8 Tips for Better Relations 
6 Tips for Anger Management
Conscience - My Great Companion
6 Cs to Avoid in Life
6 Tips For Resolving Conflicts
Top Ten New Year Resolutions
Do I Treat People Fairly?
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Health: 5 Natural ways to increase Fertility




Dr. Roopadevi


With changes in lifestyle, longer working hours, lesser time to rest, more eating out and increased stress in day to day life, more and more women are faced with the problem of drop in fertility. What is fortunate is that fertility can be revived with certain changes in lifestyle and diet.

Here are some tips for the same.

1. Maintaining A Good Body Weight - A lot of women these days are being diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome which lowers fertility, while making one put on a lot of weight. To improve fertility, what is very important is to stay fit. Exercise is known to have more effect on fertility that even diet. Remember not to overdo it, your goal needs to be to stay fit and not thin. Overdoing might make you weak which might pose problems for your health. Being underweight and overweight both can be a problem.

2. Giving Up Smoking or Alcohol - If you are a smoker, or you drink - quit both. When trying to restore your fertility, it is important that you stay fit. Since passive smoking is harmful too, it is advised that your partner quits as well. Avoid caffeine as well as it is known to affect fertility.

3. Nourish Your Body - Include protein, zinc, vitamin C and iron in your diet as they affect your menstrual cycles. Remember to have a balanced diet and do not forget to eat vegetables, lentils, dairy products and meat.

4. Relieve Yourself Of Stress - In most cases, infertility is caused by stress and depression. The need of the hour in such situations is to calm down and relax your system. Yoga and meditation are the best ways to calm down, increase strength in the muscles, and control breathing.

5. Become Happy And Active - Reading, taking up hobbies, talking to close friends, taking long walks, watching comedy movies and other activities which make you feel good about yourself need to be encouraged.





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Humor: Woman in the Court


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A very cranky old woman was arrested for shoplifting at a grocery store.

She gave everyone a hard time, from the store manager to the security guard to the arresting officer who took her away, complaining and criticizing throughout the process.

When she appeared before the judge, the judge asked what she had stolen from the store.

The lady defiantly replied: - "Just a stupid can of peaches."

The judge then asked her why she had done it.

She replied: -  "I was hungry and forgot to bring any cash to the store."

The judge asked: - "Just how many peaches were in the can."

She replied: - "Nine, but what do you care about that?"

The judge patiently said: - "Well, ma'am, because I'm going to give you nine days in jail -- one day for each peach."

As the judge was about to drop his gavel, the lady's long suffering husband raised his hand and asked if he might speak.

The judge said: - "Yes, what do you have to add?"

The husband said: -  "Your Honor, she also stole a can of peas."





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Story – The Soap Box
Story - The Touching Farewell 

How to Be Mature




Maturity is when you stop trying to change people, and instead focus on changing yourself.

Maturity is when you accept people for who they are.

Maturity is when you understand that everyone is right in their own perspective.

Maturity is when you learn to "let go".

Maturity is when you are able to drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.

Maturity is when you understand that whatever you do, you do for your own peace.

Maturity is when you stop proving to the world how intelligent you are.

Maturity is when you focus on positives in people.

Maturity is when you do not seek approval from others.

Maturity is when you stop comparing yourself with others.

Maturity is when you are at peace with yourself.

Maturity is when you can differentiate between "need" and "want, and you can let go of your wants.

Maturity is when you stop attaching "happiness" to material things.

If any one of these qualities are still missing in you, then you can know for yourself that you are not fully mature as yet.



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Some Selective Quotes
Nice Thoughts
7 Great Values to Live By
Story: The Wise Farmer of China
 

The Secret Behind Lasting Happiness

By
~ 5 min read

heartIs happiness something we are born with or something we need to chase after? Is it bestowed upon us or is it something we must deliberately pursue?
Chasing happiness is like chasing a rainbow. We're never going to catch it. And waiting for it to fall into our lap is as effective as waiting for a miracle to happen. Especially if our genes are not on our side.

So where can we find happiness? The answer is nowhere. Happiness is not a destination to be found.
Lasting happiness is a conscious effort. A choice. A decision. It is something we create every day through each one of our actions.

What determines how happy we are?

Research studies have found there are three main factors that account for our happiness level:

1. Genetics
It's true that for some people it's just naturally easier to be happy than for others. Research shows that genetics account for 50% of our happiness. We are each born with a biological "happiness set point" that we can't change.
But this is not destiny carved in stone. It is just a predisposition. Nothing more. It makes it a bit more challenging (if the wind didn't blow in our favor), but not impossible.
Genetics do influence how happy we can be but do not determine how happy we become.

2. Life Circumstances
Our life circumstances influence our happiness only to a very small extent. Surprisingly, factors like marital status, income, and occupation represent only 10% of our happiness level.
We can assume that getting married or having more money will make us happier. Just like being victims of trauma would make us unhappier. Research has found though that is not completely true.
Good or bad events, even extreme ones (like winning the lottery or losing a loved one) do affect our well-being. But only temporarily. Once we get used to them (and we always do), our level of happiness returns to where it was before.

3. Intentional Activity
So where does the other 40% of our happiness come from? The activities we choose to engage in. This is the most promising way not only to boost our happiness but also to maintain it.
Our choices have the final say on our well-being. What we decide to do every day is what determines how happy we'll be.
Isn't that a great discovery! It means that happiness can be built through our efforts. That everyone has the opportunity to create a life full of joy and satisfaction. But also that happiness derives from a conscious and daily effort.

How can we create lasting happiness?
We can start by these 5 (scientifically proven) practices:

Engage in Positive Self-Reflection
It's easy to get caught up in our flaws and forget all our virtues. Shame is like that. It quickly contaminates our self-image like a grey cloud over a clear blue sky.
But to be happy in life we first need to be happy with ourselves.
Appreciating all that's good within us. Accepting all that is not. And loving ourselves regardless.
When we replay our highest moments the world around us just lights up. Instead of dwelling on our shortcomings, we need to celebrate our successes. Choosing to remember what's worth remembering. And letting go of those not-so-proud moments.

Learning to laugh at ourselves also does wonders. It takes a heavy burden off our shoulders. And helps us see ourselves in a more positive way. When we start having fun with ourselves we start to see life through a different lens.

Avoid Social Comparisons
As social beings we tend to compare ourselves with others. And usually do it with people who we believe are better off than we are.
To be happy we need to realize that we are each unique in our own way. That we're not better or worse than anybody else. That we are just different. And that nobody's journey is comparable to ours.
We each have special gifts that nobody else has. We just need to know what they are.
Realizing that we're extraordinary in our own way saves us from the "never enough" trap.
Because if we keep comparing our accomplishments with those of others, we'll always end up yearning for more. And this insatiable longing to outshine the rest will deprive us of the peace and contentment our soul needs for true happiness and satisfaction.

Be Optimistic
Our thoughts and ways of viewing the world determine our level of well-being. It is not what happens to us but rather our interpretation of it what makes the difference.
If we see an event as a life-ending catastrophe we have no control over then it will be. But if we see it simply as another curveball life throws at us and consciously choose how to react to it, then it won't threaten our whole existence.

Having faith and hoping for the best makes us happier. The easiest way to suffer is by worrying incessantly about everything that could go wrong.
It is when we're lighthearted that happiness blooms.

We must carefully choose the way we think and what we focus on. By changing the attitudes of our mind we can change our well-being in a heartbeat.

Pursue Meaningful Goals
Happiness is not only about feeling positive emotions but also about experiencing a high satisfaction with our life. Pleasure and meaning are both necessary for lasting well-being.
To be happy we must learn to enjoy the moment but also to work towards goals we find intrinsically rewarding. Happiness must combine both present and future gain.

When we pursue important personal goals we give our life a purpose. We become happier emotionally and more satisfied with our lives.
It's easy to get lost if we don't know where we're headed. Or to become frustrated if we know where we want to go but don't do anything to actually get there.
Structuring our pathway to strive for our dreams gives us a sense of control and motivates us to lead a meaningful life to enjoy more long-lasting happiness.

Practice Gratitude
Taking the time to count our blessings is life awakening. It helps us realize how fortunate we are.
Sometimes we tend to focus so much on what we don't have that we forget all that we do have. Even if we're going through a bad situation, there is always something that we can be grateful for.
When we practice gratitude we appreciate our life more. We start to value all the little things that can give us more happiness than we give them credit for.

We savor the joyful moments. We find awe in everyday wonders. We begin to see the magic in what we usually perceive as ordinary.

It doesn't mean we settle. Or that we stop fighting for more. It just means that we allow ourselves to be happy with what we have today while we continue to pursue that which will make us happier tomorrow.

At the end of the day, only you can determine what actions and attitudes will make you happier. You can find these through trial and error experiments or by asking yourself insightful questions.
What matters is that you realize that lasting happiness is possible. You just need to cultivate it. Every living day.

Happiness is not a destination, but a never-ending journey we must consciously choose to embark on.


9 Rules for Staying Positive
9 Tips To Make Effective Decisions
Act in this moment
Analyzing Your Thoughts
Are You An Explosive Personality Or The Implosive One?
Are You Explosive or Implosive? It’s important to Know
Arguing with Emotionally Hyper Minds

Advice from the Old



As we grow older, and hence wiser,

  • We slowly realize that wearing a $300. or $30.00 watch- - - - - - they both tell the same time...
  • Whether we carry a $300 or $30.00 wallet/handbag - - - - - - -the amount of money inside is the same;
  • Whether we eat of $300 meal or $10  - - - - - - - - - -  - -the hang over  is the same; Whether the house we live in is 300 or 3000 sq.ft. - - - - - - - - loneliness is the same.

You will realize, your true inner happiness does not come from the material things of this world.
Whether you fly First, Business or Economy class, if the plane goes down - - - - - - --you go down with it...

Therefore.. I hope you realize, when you have mates, buddies and old friends, brothers and sisters, who you chat with, laugh with, talk with, talk about north-south-east-west or heaven earth, .... That is true happiness!!
 

4 Undeniable Facts of Life

  1. Don't educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be Happy. So when they grow up they will know  the value of things not the price.
  2. Best awarded words in London ... "Eat your food as your medicines, Otherwise you have to eat medicines as your food."
  3. There is a big difference between a human being and being human. Only a few really understand it. You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die.In between, You have to manage! If you just want to Walk Fast, Walk Alone!  But if you want to Walk Far, Walk Together!

Six Best Doctors in the World
  1. Sunlight
  2. Rest
  3. Exercise
  4. Diet
  5. Self Confidence
  6. Friends
Maintain them in all stages of Life and enjoy healthy life. 

18 Lines of Wisdom




1. Always keep your words soft and

 sweet, just in case you have to eat them.



2. Always read stuff that will make

you look good if you die in the middle of it.



3. Drive carefully.

It's not only cars that can be

 recalled by their maker.



4. If you can't be kind, at least

have the decency to be vague.



5. If you lend someone $20, and

 never see that person again,

it was probably worth it.



6. It may be that your sole purpose

 in life is simply to serve as a

warning to others.



7. Never buy a car you can't push.



8. Never put both feet in your mouth

at the same time, because then you

 don't have a leg to stand on.




9. Happiness comes through doors

 you didn't even know you left open.




10. When everything's coming your way,

 you're in the wrong lane.



11. Birthdays are good for you;

the more you have, the longer you live.



12. Ever notice that the people who

 are late are often much jollier than the

 people who have to wait for them?



13. If ignorance is bliss, why aren't

more people happy?



14. You may be only one person in

the world, but you may also be

 the world to one person.



15. Some mistakes are too much

 fun to make only once.



16. Don't cry because it's over.

Smile because it happened.



17. We could learn a lot from crayons:

Some are sharp,

Some are pretty,

Some are dull,

Some have weird names

and

All are different colours,

But they all have to learn to

live in the same box.


18. A truly happy person is one

who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.



Some Selective Quotes
Nice Thoughts
7 Great Values to Live By
Story: The Wise Farmer of China
Some Quotes from My Personal Diary
Two Things, Two Places, Two Times
Great Wisdom from China
Story: The Law of Potatoes
Enlightened Perspective from Andy Rooney
Wise Thoughts - My Emotional Management