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Professional Tip: Creating SMART Goals

Creating S.M.A.R.T. Goals

Specific: A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished than a general goal. To set a specific goal you must answer the six "W" questions:
*Who:      Who is involved?
*What:     What do I want to accomplish?
*Where:    Identify a location.
*When:     Establish a time frame.
*Which:    Identify requirements and constraints.
*Why:      Specific reasons, purpose or benefits of accomplishing the goal.
EXAMPLE:  A general goal would be, "Get in shape." But a specific goal would say, "Join a health club and workout 3 days a week."

Measurable - Establish concrete criteria for measuring progress toward the attainment of each goal you set.
When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued effort required to reach your goal.
To determine if your goal is measurable, ask questions such as……
How much? How many?
How will I know when it is accomplished?

Attainable/Achievable – When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin to figure out ways you can make them come true. You develop the attitudes, abilities, skills, and financial capacity to reach them. You begin seeing previously overlooked opportunities to bring yourself closer to the achievement of your goals.
You can attain most any goal you set when you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps. Goals that may have seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them. When you list your goals you build your self-image. You see yourself as worthy of these goals, and develop the traits and personality that allow you to possess them.

Realistic- To be realistic, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. A goal can be both high and realistic; you are the only one who can decide just how high your goal should be. But be sure that every goal represents substantial progress.
A high goal is frequently easier to reach than a low one because a low goal exerts low motivational force. Some of the hardest jobs you ever accomplished actually seem easy simply because they were a labor of love.

Timely/Time bound – A goal should be grounded within a time frame. With no time frame tied to it there's no sense of urgency. If you want to lose 10 lbs, when do you want to lose it by? "Someday" won't work. But if you anchor it within a timeframe, "by May 1st", then you've set your unconscious mind into motion to begin working on the goal.
Your goal is probably realistic if you truly believe that it can be accomplished. Additional ways to know if your goal is realistic is to determine if you have accomplished anything similar in the past or ask yourself what conditions would have to exist to accomplish this goal.

T can also stand for Tangible – A goal is tangible when you can experience it with one of the senses, that is, taste, touch, smell, sight or hearing.
When your goal is tangible you have a better chance of making it specific and measurable and thus attainable.
Please also see Goal Setting -Powerful Written Goals In 7 Easy Steps!

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Story: The Cow with the Owner

The Teacher was walking through the market place with his students. They saw a man dragging a cow by a rope. Teacher told the man to wait and asked his disciples to surround them. "I am going to teach you something" and continued...

"Tell me who is bound to whom? Is the cow bound to this man or the man is bound to the cow?

The students said without hesitation "Of course the cow is bound to the man!. The man is the master. He is holding the rope. The cow has to follow him wherever he goes. The man is the master and the cow is the slave."

"Now watch this", said the teacher and took a pair of scissors from his bag and cut the rope. The cow ran away from the master and the man ran after his cow. "Look, what is happening", said the Teacher .

 "Do you see who the Master is? The cow is not at all interested in this man. The cow in fact, is trying to escape from this man." This is the case with our mind.

Like the cow, all the non-sense that we carry inside is not interested in us. We are interested in it, we are keeping it together somehow or the other. We are going crazy trying to keep it all together under our control.

The moment we lose interest in all the garbage filled in our head, and the moment we understand the futility of it, it will start to disappear. Like the cow, it will escape and disappear." We can allow disappearing of all the unwanted things from our mind and feel relaxed.

Ask Yourself "Why?"

A Colleague of mine commutes from her home to office daily through a bus service which is shared by several other professionals of multiple offices in vicinity. The bus drops her to the office one hour earlier than her official timings. In the evening, it picks her up from office around 50 minutes after she packs up her work so overall two additional hours on daily basis are wasted causing additional tiredness. Also she has to wake up early morning in order to catch the bus which is earlier than her required schedule so she is sacrificing her sleep too.

"Why don't you use metro (train) service as it is luxurious, punctual, cheap and convenient" 
" I have never used Metro in my life"
" but metro is cheap compared to monthly 500 dirhams you are paying for the bus"
"No I don't use taxis and metro as this is my life rule"
"Change the rule and start using it; a lot of professionals including senior executives are using metro"
"No, I never used Metro"
"Your life will be more easy, what's the point in not using it"
" No, I blah, blah, blah... I won't use it" 
"Come on, try this tomorrow for one day only. I won't ask you after that"
"Ok, if you insist, I will"

After some days…
"Mr Junaid, that was a wonderful suggestion you gave me. My life is much more relaxed now. I am very thankful to you as it saved my time, efforts and money"
"You are welcome J"

Do you have such kind of baseless paradigms and principles in your life? Do you have a stubborn approach when it comes changing your habits? Are you afraid of trying new things? Do you like the status quo? If yes, unfortunately you don't deserve a better life style then! However, If you believing in making things happen and believe in continuous improvement think otherwise, below is what i recommend:

Whatever you do in life, ask yourself on why are you doing this? What benefit I am getting out of it? What alternates can I consider in order to improve what I do? Who can I seek support from? Is there another best way to do this? Should I completely stop doing this altogether? Do you apply 5 Whys Formula for your routine tasks/projects?

Some suggested articles:

120+ Articles on Stress Management, Success, Leadership & Wisdom - by Junaid Tahir

Junaid Tahir is a passionate blogger. He writes articles on Leadership, Success, Project Management,  Professional Development, Stress Management, Life Enhancement and general wisdom. His detailed introduction and readers' comments about his work are available here.  Junaid is reachable at mjunaidtahir at gmail dot com for all kinds of constructive feedback. His work has been published in several print media and online portals. Some of the publishers are  WikiHow, Lahore Times, Positive Articles, Dialogue India, The Killer Punch, Quora, Management Reachout Blog, Paradigm Innovations and Milli Gazette. 


 Stop Complaining Start Achieving
 Story of two wolves
 Story  My Limited Thoughts 
 Establish Effective Documentation Management System
 6 Cs to Avoid in Life
 Heart Body Mind and Soul
 10 Analogies for a Great Leader
 Story: The Dog In the Well 
 The Excellent Employee
 Story: Small Deeds Huge Impact 
 Feel Good Factors
 Who Are Consultants  What Qualities Do They Possess?
 9 Rules for Staying Positive
 Key Terms to Understand for Total Quality Management
 Process Excellence and Process Governance  
 Effective Delegation Process in Management
 10 Steps to Ensure Continuous Improvement
 The Role of Management Consultants
 Story: Correct it or Prevent it  The Choice is Yours
 7 Qualities of Great Spirits
 How to Reduce Business Costs
 Ensuring Kids Safety at Home
 No Tobacco Day
 Dialogue with David  The Person in Stress
 Employee Feedback System
 Quality of Work and the Quality of Workers
 An Approach to Become a Successful Entrepreneur
 Story: The Cute Girl and the Toffee
 What Is Real Wealth – How To Achieve
 Need Success? Work On Your Thoughts
 The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective Muslims
 How To Develop Analytical Skills
 Understanding Ripple Effect In Multiple Dimensions
 Compromising Ethical Values  What To Do when Trapped
 How To Be Strong in Hard Moments?
 Use Proactive Approach to Uplift your future
 How To Build Trust To Empower Relationship
 Criticism – The Creativity Killer?
 Hard work Will Guarantee My Professional Growth
 Effective Communication for Strong Influence and Healthy Relationship
 The Cricket Experience and The Touting Culture
 Do You Judge People Fairly?
 Ask yourself  "WHY"
 Junaid met with an Accident but still mentally strong
 Benefits Of Being Organized And How To Be Organized?
 WorkLife Balance Of A Newly Married Friend
 How To Respond In Tragic Moments?
 The Concept of Virtual Diaper – Treatment of Ethical Diseases
 15 Ways To Find New Job
 10 Tips To Fight Depression
 Employees Are Like Batteries – 5 Techniques To Recharge Them
 Sugar Coated Person Or A Genuine Human Being?
 Story – Carelessness in Medicines Usage
 Three Options To Fight Stress
 Reducing The Gap Between Potential and Performance
 Islamic: Do I Really Know what is Halal and What is Haram?
 10 Tips On How To Manage Emails Effectively
 Are You A Responsible Citizen?
 9 Tips To Make Effective Decisions
 The Power Of Not Looking Back
 Sweeping Statements  Annoying, Irritating and Insulting
 8 Ps of Vision and Strategy
 Do You Keep People Happy
 Garden Grass and Garbage
 How Happy Is Your Organization
 Are you as ambitious as Steve Jobs, Picasso and Maradona?
 Great Use of 200 rupees
 Islamic Article: Cleaning the Inner You
 Don’t Feed a Man a Fish; Teach How to Catch It
 The New Manager's Fundamentals
 Conscience  Your Great Companion
 Experiencing Others' Pain
 Story of Mr Ferrari and Mr Lamborghini
 Reasons for Negative Thoughts And Stress – How to Avoid Them
 Learn To Differentiate Between Urgent and Important 
 Islamic Article: Count Them One By One
 Ethical Issues in Organizations – How to Handle When Trapped
 Am I Corrupt? A Self Audit Article
 6 Tips For Resolving Conflicts
 Frequent Mood Swings Indicate Your Unstable Personality
 Story: Mr Educated and Mr Wisdom
 Top Ten New Year Resolutions
 Do You Treat People Fairly?
 The Seven Super Powers You Must Posses
 Most Popular Interview Questions for Managers
 The Seven Qualities of Highly Ethical People
 Islamic: Tracking your daily prayers with this simple Excel File
 8 Points to Remember for Buying a Sofa Set
 Islamic: 9 Lessons Refreshed from Umra
 The Lady and the Salesman
 Eighteen Ways to Make Your Parents Feel Great 
 Rumours  The Spices you enjoy may harm you too
 Story  Manage Your Appearance
 The Guide to Stress Management
 The Dubai Beach and the Car Battery Issue
 Zoom In and Zoom Out
 Begin Your Leadership Journey
 The Family Picnic and the Traffic Violation
 Shielding Yourself From Negativity
 How to Evaluate Managers
 Story: From Stress to Strength
 How to Overcome Fear
 Ten Tips To Simplify Your Life and Improve Your Happiness Index
 Are You An Explosive Personality or the Implosive One?
 How To Develop Good Habits and Get Rid of Bad Ones?
 What Happens When Luxuries Become Routines?
 My Role To Resolve Energy Crisis
 Enhancing Self Confidence in Children
 Giving The Right Advice
 Story  Borrowing the Pen 
 Everyone is unique  The Real Life Analogy
 Spreading False Information
 Arguing with Emotionally Hyper Minds and Idiots
 Six Tips for Anger Management
 Story: My Daughter Reminds Me a Great Lesson
 7 Tips to Attain Peace of Mind
 Which Smart Phone is the Best
 Improve Your Excel Database Management Skills
 Story: Chicken, Chicken, Chicken
 Vision  A Critical personality Trait of Leaders
 Six Techniquest to develop Empathic Skills
 Keep the Engine Running
 I am an Ideal Person

Story: Three Dolls

A sage presented a prince with a set of three small dolls. The prince was not amused.
"Am I a girl that you give me dolls?" – He asked.
"This is a gift for a future king," Said the sage. "If you look carefully, you'll see a hole in the ear of each doll."
The sage handed him a piece of string. "Pass it through each doll." – He said.
Intrigued, the prince picked up the first doll and put the string into the ear. It came out from the other ear. "This is one type of person," said the sage, "whatever you tell him, comes out from the other ear. He doesn't retain anything."
The prince put the string into the second doll. It came out from the mouth. "This is the second type of person," said the sage, "whatever you tell him, he tells everybody else."
The prince picked up the third doll and repeated the process. The string did not come out. "This is the third type of person," said the sage, "whatever you tell him is locked up within him. It never comes out."
"What is the best type of person?" – Asked the prince.
The sage handed him a fourth doll, in answer. When the prince put the string into the doll, it came out from the other ear.
 "Do it again." – Said the sage.
The prince repeated the process. This time the string came out from the mouth. When he put the string in a third time, it did not come out at all.
"This is the best type of person," said the sage. "To be trustworthy, a man must know when not to listen, when to remain silent and when to speak out."

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Story: The Costly Mobile

An incident once took place when a student of Knowledge was taking a walk with his teachers in one of the gardens of their school. During this walk, the student decided to address a problem he was facing and seek its remedy from his teacher. He began to tell his teacher, 'I have a spiritual ailment; I am habitual of talking ill of others and mentioning matters about them behind their backs.'

The teacher carried on walking for a moment and then asked him, 'do you have a mobile phone?' The student answered affirmatively and took out his phone to show his teacher. The phone was one of the latest models on the market and he had just purchased it recently.
Upon seeing the phone and the student's attachment to it, he asked the student to throw the phone in a nearby mud patch and trample upon it. Whilst astonished by the teacher's request, the student questioned, 'how can I throw this phone on the floor? It has cost me a lot of money and is worth a lot to me.'

The teacher replied to him with the following words of wisdom, 'So too is the respect and honour of your brother/friend as sanctified and valuable as this in the eyes of God. How can it be easy for you to trample upon this honour and respect with such ease?'

The student realised how he had never understood nor appreciated the true value of a human being; and from that day on wards he never failed to compare the respect of his brothers to all those items which were the most valuable to him.
Source: Zain

Story: The Crow, Peacock and Parrot

A Crow was absolutely satisfied in life.

But one day he saw a swan...
This swan is so white and I am so black...crow thought.

This swan must be the happiest bird in the world.

He expressed his thoughts to the swan.
"Actually," the swan replied,

"I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors.
I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation."

The crow then approached the parrot.
The parrot explained,
"I lived a very happy life—until I saw a peacock.
I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors."

The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him.

After the people had left,
The crow approached the Peacock..

Dear Peacock,
You are so beautiful.
Every day thousands of people come to see you.
When people see me,
they immediately shoo me away.
I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.

The peacock replied,
I always thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet.
But because of my beauty,
I am entrapped in this zoo.

I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow is the only bird not kept in a cage.

So for past few days I have been thinking that if I were a crow,
I could happily roam everywhere.

That's our problem too.

We make unnecessary comparison with others and become sad.

We don't value what God has given us.
This all leads to the vicious cycle of unhappiness.

Value the things God has given us.

Learn the secret of being happy and discard the comparison which leads only to unhappiness..

Humor: Bill, Jim, and Scott

Bill, Jim, and Scott were at a convention together and were sharing a large suite on the top of a 75-story skyscraper. After a long day of meetings they were shocked to hear that the elevators in their hotel were broken and they would have to climb 75 flights of stairs to get to their room. Bill said to Jim and Scott, let's break the monotony of this unpleasant task by concentrating on something interesting. I'll tell jokes for 25 flights, and Jim can sing poetry for 25 flights, and Scott can tell sad stories the rest of the way. At the 26th floor Bill stopped telling jokes and Jim began to sing poetry. At the 51st floor Jim stopped singing and Scott began to tell sad stories. "I will tell my saddest story first," he said. "I left the room key in the car!"

Entertainment Jokes :: #17258

How to Raise Happy Kids: 10 Steps

…happiness is a tremendous advantage in a world that emphasizes performance. On average, happy people are more successful than unhappy people at both work and love. They get better performance reviews, have more prestigious jobs, and earn higher salaries. They are more likely to get married, and once married, they are more satisfied with their marriage.
So looking at the science, what really works when it comes to raising happy kids?

Step 1: Get Happy Yourself

The first step to happier kids is, ironically, a little bit selfish.
How happy you are affects how happy and successful your kids are — dramatically.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Extensive research has established a substantial link between mothers who feel depressed and "negative outcomes" in their children, such as acting out and other behavior problems. Parental depression actually seems to cause behavioral problems in kids; it also makes our parenting less effective.
And this is not merely due to genetics.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
…although the study did find that happy parents are statistically more likely to have happy children, it couldn't find any genetic component.
So what's the first step to being a happier you? Take some time each week to have fun with friends.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Because laughter is contagious, hang out with friends or family members who are likely to be laughing themselves. Their laughter will get you laughing too, although it doesn't even need to in order to lighten your mood. Neuroscientists believe that hearing another person laugh triggers mirror neurons in a region of the brain that makes listeners feel as though they are actually laughing themselves.
More scientific methods for increasing your happiness here.

Step 2: Teach Them To Build Relationships

Nobody denies learning about relationships is important — but how many parents actually spend the time to teach kids how to relate to others?
(Just saying "Hey, knock it off" when kids don't get along really doesn't go far in building essential people skills.)
It doesn't take a lot. It can start with encouraging kids to perform small acts of kindness to build empathy.
This not only builds essential skills and makes your kids better people, research shows over the long haul it makes them happier.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Multiple sclerosis (MS) patients who were trained to provide compassionate, unconditional positive regard for other MS sufferers through monthly fifteen-minute telephone calls "showed pronounced improvement in self-confidence, self-esteem, depression, and role functioning" over two years. These helpers were especially protected against depression and anxiety.
More on creating good relationships here.

Step 3: Expect Effort, Not Perfection

Note to perfectionist helicopter parents and Tiger Moms: cool it.
Relentlessly banging the achievement drum messes kids up.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Parents who overemphasize achievement are more likely to have kids with high levels of depression, anxiety, and substance abuse compared to other kids.
The research is very consistent: Praise effort, not natural ability.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
The majority of the kids praised for their intelligence wanted the easier puzzle; they weren't going to risk making a mistake and losing their status as "smart." On the other hand, more than 90 percent of growth mind-set-encouraged kids chose a harder puzzle.
Why? Dweck explains: "When we praise children for the effort and hard work that leads to achievement, they want to keep engaging in that process. They are not diverted from the task of learning by a concern with how smart they might — or might not — look."
More on praising correctly here.

Step 4: Teach Optimism

Want to avoid dealing with a surly teenager? Then teach those pre-teens to look on the bright side.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Ten-year-olds who are taught how to think and interpret the world optimistically are half as prone to depression when they later go through puberty.
Author Christine Carter puts it simply: "Optimism is so closely related to happiness that the two can practically be equated."
She compares optimists to pessimists and finds optimists:
  1. Are more successful at school, work and athletics
  2. Are healthier and live longer
  3. End up more satisfied with their marriages
  4. Are less likely to deal with depression and anxiety
More on how to encourage optimism here.

Step 5: Teach Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is a skill, not an inborn trait.
Thinking kids will just "naturally" come to understand their own emotions (let alone those of others) doesn't set them up for success.
A simple first step here is to "Empathize, Label and Validate" when they're struggling with anger or frustration.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Molly: "I am SO SO SO MAD AT YOU."
Me: "You are mad at me, very mad at me. Tell me about that. Are you also feeling disappointed because I won't let you have a playdate right now?"
Molly: "YES!! I want to have a playdate right NOW."
Me: "You seem sad." (Crawling into my lap, Molly whimpers a little and rests her head on my shoulder.)
Relate to the child, help them identify what they are feeling and let them know that those feelings are okay (even though bad behavior might not be).
More on active listening and labeling (and how hostage negotiators use this) here.

Step 6: Form Happiness Habits

We're on step 6 and it might seem like this is already a lot to remember for you — let alone for a child. We can overcome that with good habits.
Thinking through these methods is taxing but acting habitually is easy, once habits have been established.
How do you help kids build lasting happiness habits? Carter explains a few powerful methods backed by research:
  1. Stimulus removal: Get distractions and temptations out of the way.
  2. Make It Public: Establish goals to increase social support — and social pressure.
  3. One Goal At A Time: Too many goals overwhelms willpower, especially for kids. Solidify one habit before adding another.
  4. Keep At It: Don't expect perfection immediately. It takes time. There will be relapses. That's normal. Keep reinforcing.
More on developing good habits here.

Step 7: Teach Self-Discipline

Self-discipline in kids is more predictive of future success than intelligence — or most anything else, for that matter.
Yes, it's that famous marshmallow test all over again. Kids who better resisted temptation went on to much better lives years later and were happier.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
…preschoolers' ability to delay gratification–to wait for that second marshmallow–predicts intelligence, school success, and social skills in adolescence. This is at least in part because self-discipline facilitates learning and information processing. In addition, self-disciplined kids cope better with frustration and stress and tend to have a greater sense of social responsibility. In other words, self-discipline leads not just to school success and sitting nicely at the dinner table but to greater happiness, more friends and increased community engagement.
What's a good way to start teaching self-discipline? Help kids learn to distract themselves from temptation.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
One way to do it is to obscure the temptation–to physically cover up the tempting marshmallow. When a reward is covered up, 75 percent of kids in one study were able to wait a full fifteen minutes for the second marshmallow; none of the kids was able to wait this long when the reward was visible.
More on increasing self-discipline here.

Step 8: More Playtime

We read a lot about mindfulness and meditation these days — and both are quite powerful.
Getting kids to do them regularly however can be quite a challenge. What works almost as well?
More playtime.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Most kids already practice mindfulness — fully enjoying the present moment — when they play. but kids today spend less time playing both indoors and out… All told, over the last two decades, children have lost eight hours per week of free, unstructured, and spontaneous play…
Playtime isn't just goofing off. It's essential to helping kids grow and learn.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Researchers believe that this dramatic drop in unstructured playtime is in part responsible for slowing kids cognitive and emotional development… In addition to helping kids learn to self-regulate, child-led, unstructured play (with or without adults) promoted intellectual, physical, social, and emotional well-being. Unstructured play helps children learn how to work in groups, to share, negotiate, resolve conflicts, regulate their emotions and behavior, and speak up for themselves.
No strict instructions are necessary here: Budget more time for your kids to just get outside and simply play.
More on the power of playing (for kids and adults) here.

Step 9: Rig Their Environment For Happiness

We don't like to admit it, but we're all very much influenced by our environment – often more than we realize.
Your efforts will be constrained by time and effort, while context affects us (and children) constantly.
What's a simple way to better control a child's surroundings and let your deliberate happiness efforts have maximum effect?
Less TV.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
…research demonstrates a strong link between happiness and not watching television. Sociologists show that happier people tend to watch considerably less television than unhappy people. We don't know whether TV makes people unhappy, or if already unhappy people watch more TV. But we do know that there are a lot of activities that will help our kids develop into happy, well-adjusted individuals. If our kids are watching TV, they aren't doing those things that could be making them happier in the long run.
More non-television happiness activities are here.

Step 10: Eat Dinner Together

Sometimes all science does is validate those things our grandparents knew all along. Yes, family dinner matters.
This simple tradition helps mold better kids and makes them happier too.
Via Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents:
Studies show that kids who eat dinner with their families on a regular basis are more emotionally stable and less likely to abuse drugs and alcohol. They got better grades. they have fewer depressive symptoms, particularly among adolescent girls. And they are less likely to become obese or have an eating disorder. Family dinners even trump reading to your kids in terms of preparing them for school. And these associations hold even after researchers control for family connectedness…
More on the power of family dinners here.

Sum Up

Here are the ten steps:
  1. Get Happy Yourself
  2. Teach Them To Build Relationships
  3. Expect Effort, Not Perfection
  4. Teach Optimism
  5. Teach Emotional Intelligence
  6. Form Happiness Habits
  7. Teach Self-Discipline
  8. More Playtime
  9. Rig Their Environment For Happiness
  10. Eat Dinner Together
We're often more open to new methods when it comes to work and careers, but ignoring tips when it comes to family is a mistake.
The most important work you and I will ever do will be within the walls of our own homes.
- Harold B. Lee
I hope this post helps your family be happier.