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Top 35 Life Lessons - From Mother to Daughter


35 Life Lessons, Wisdom and Advice for my Child

Below is a list of 35 of my favorite life lessons, and pieces of wisdom, that I've heard (and not always listened to but usually wish that I had) throughout my life.   This list of advice comes from a wide variety of sources: from my grandparents...to Oprah...to complete strangers who have an unusually great perspective on life.  I'm always thankful to find this advice handy in my memory, and I'd like it to be prevalent in my life.  Most of all, I want this advice to be accessible to my daughter as she gets old - and that is the reason that I created this post.

35 Lessons to Pass On 
To Your Daughter

1.  Don't give someone a "hammer" to hit you over the head with.  
This is a figure of speech.  My grandfather told this to my mom while she was growing up - what it means is to be careful with what you do, say and share with people.  You don't want something that you have done, or said, to one day come back and bite you (or, rather, to come back as the "hammer" (so to speak) that hits you over the head later on down the road).  
2.  Before you speak, picture whatever it is that you are about to say on the chalkboard in front of your classroom with your name underneath it, or on Facebook.  

Do you still want to say it?

3.  Beware of the unintended consequences of gossiping.  
Before you indulge in gossiping about other people behind their back(s), beware of the impression that you may be giving off to the people who are listening to you.  Keep in mind that the person(s) that you are talking to may then start wondering what you say behind her own back and they may re-consider your potential loyalty as a friend.

4.  "You wouldn't care so much about what other people thought of you if you knew how little that they really did." 
Yes. Ok, fine! This piece of advice is quoted from Dr. Phil; and yes, I admit it - I used to enjoy watching "Dr. Phil".  Remember to tell yourself that you would not care what other people thought about you if you truly knew how little that they actually do think about you.  When you're worried about what other people think of you, tell yourself this:  "Other people aren't paying as much attention to me as I am, so I shouldn't worry about every little thing I do."  Most of the time, people are thinking about themselves - not you.

5. Let go of what you can't change, and don't worry about things that you have no control over.


More importantly, learn how to identify what these things look like in your life (e.g., the weather, your test results, etc.), because putting your energy into something that you can't change or control is a waste of time, energy, and sleep; and it will drain you.

6.  You can never be happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself.  
7.  Remember that not everyone is going to like you, and that some people are just mean for no apparent reason.  

Some people get their "psychological jollies" out of making you feel sad and down because then it makes them feel better about themselves. Don't lose sleep over getting "in" with the "cool" crowd.  Exude confidence (not arrogance); remember that you teach people how to treat you; and then, friends will follow from there.
8.  Be kind to other people.
You have no idea what those next to you may be going through in their own lives.  "Don't judge a man until you've walked two moons in his shoes" (this is a quote from a book that I read in 4th grade called "Walk Two Moons"); this means that you cannot judge a man until you've 'walked' at least 2-days (or, rather, "2-moons") in 'his shoes.'  (Walk Two Moons is a great book to read with your child to encourage empathy).

9.  Do not cry at work.  
Crying is perfectly fine, but try not to cry at work (easier said, than done).  If you do cry, DO NOT make a scene.

10.  Remember that there's always someone out there who has it worse than you do.
Any time there is a situation where you don't get your way, remember that there are people in this world that never even had the opportunity.Remember that there's always someone out there who has it worse than you do.

11.  When you're wrong, apologize.  
Apologizing does not always mean that you were wrong and the other person was right. Sometimes it just means that you value the relationship more than your ego. 
12.  Here are the steps to a real apology:

  • Fully acknowledge the offense - acknowledge what you are sorry about.
  • Offer a truthful explanation as to why your behavior occurred   Do not offer an excuse - excuses merely deflect blame.
  • Offer a genuine expression of remorse. Do NOT say, "I'm sorry that you feel that way...." - that is a bogus apology that should be saved only for people who deserve it.
  • Ask what you can do to make things better, and then listen to what they say, and make sure that they know that you are listening.
(These steps were inspired by Oprah's article on The Right Way to Apologize).13.  To be 'wise' means that you are able to admit when you don't know the answer.  

My dad taught me this:  don't pretend to know the answer to something if you don't.  Saying, "I don't know," is far better than pretending and potentially having people notice that you are B.S.ing - trust me, this will make you look like a much bigger idiot than simply not knowing the answer.  If you don't know the answer, but still want to contribute to the conversation, then you can say, "Well, if I had to make an educated guess, it would be....".

14.  If you need help, then you need to ask for it.  
I learned this lesson the hard way at my first job out of college.  

15.  Never be friend to a person who is rude to waiters, or mean to animals.
16.  Learn how to laugh at yourself.  
You're going to look like an ass at some (actually, many) point(s) in your life.  You will look like less of an ass if you're able to laugh at yourself about whatever it is that you did.

17.  Remember that there is always something to be thankful for.

18.  Never try to solve problems at night.  
All problems seem worse at night, and everything seems like a bigger deal when you are tired.  Go to sleep.  The problem will probably not be as big of a deal in the morning.   (If you're tired and you've been drinking, you're probably wrong anyway about whatever it is that you're saying/arguing about - so again, just go to sleep, and deal with it in the morning!).  

19.  When you have a crisis and feel like your life is over, remember this advice that my grandfather used to say to my mom:  
  • 1 month from now, you won't be hurting as badly.  
  • 6-months from now, you probably won't even be thinking about it.  
  • 5-years from now, you might not even remember it.

20. What we see depends mainly on what we look for. So focus on where you want to be - not on where you don't want to go.

My first time snowboarding was a nightmare - I skipped the "Bunny Hill" and arrogantly decided to start my first snow-boarding experience at the top of Vail mountain (a terrible idea for a first-time snow-boarder), and despite my extreme fear of running into a tree as I went down the Blue Diamond ski slope, I still found myself, time and time again, tangled up in the trees on the side of the mountain, struggling to get out of the white powder and back on the smoother snow trail.   Then, a wise man in a blue snow-suit gave me wonderful words of advice, "Keep your eyes focused on where you want to go (which was the chair lift) – and not on where you don't want to go (which was the trees at the side of the mountain). Before he pointed this out to me, I had been so focused on not running into the trees on the side of the mountain that my eyes were literally focused on that stupid forest.  So then, I took his advice, and I changed my focus and kept my eyes on the chair-lift at the bottom of the mountain.  And guess what?   It worked.  This new mentality magically re-programmed my body and brought me to the chairlift (with no stops at the stupid trees).  Don't get me wrong: I still fell on my butt a lot on my way to the chairlift, but that was way better than ending up wrapped around the trunk of a pine tree under a pile of snow!  I think this advice is a great analogy that can cross-over to our real, everyday life.  Keep your focus on where you want to be - not your fears.






21.  Never try to figure to out how you should solve a problem; focus on what you want the end result to be and then make decisions that you will help you get there.  (Thank you, Dad.)

22.  If you can't sleep, fake it.  
This advice was given to me by my daughter's pediatrician (a woman that I never thought I would be quoting) the day that my daughter was born.  Her pediatrician was emphasizing to me the importance of sleep for moms with a newborn.   The reason she said this is because I had just expressed to her that I didn't know if I could follow the advice that I had been given to "sleep when the baby sleeps" (which is, by the way, the most annoying advice EVER because 100+ people told me this after my baby was born).  I didn't understand how I would ever be able to change my sleep schedule, let alone be able to sleep sporadically throughout the middle of the day (as newborns nap every 2 hours).  But guess what? This advice is great (at least for me).  Even if you can't fall asleep, "faking it" is the next best thing because resting has adds a considerable amount of value to the recharging of your mind and body too.  The dishes can wait.

23.  If you're having trouble solving a problem after repeated attempts, then try a different approach.  
According to some references, the definition of "insanity" is "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."  Try going about it in a different way.

24.  If you don't have time to do it right the first time, then when are you going to have time to do it over?  
Don't rush through an important task.  Don't "half-ass" it.   If it's difficult to do now, then it's going to be even more annoying to go back and fix later.

25.  Surround yourself with people who build you up.  
Surround yourself with people who see greatness within you, even when you don't see it yourself.

26.  If you're ever having trouble making conversation with other people, ask them about themselves.  
People like talking about themselves (and/or their kids).

27.  Only eat french fries that are hot and crispy and fresh.  
My dad (who is kind of a health nut) instilled this idea in me growing up; I'm not a health nut, but I appreciate the logic behind this - if you're going to eat something that's bad for you, then do it right and make sure it tastes good!  When you place your order, give the server a big smile and ask if you can wait for a fresh batch of french fries.  If I'm going to get fatter from something - it better taste good.

28.  The best time to relax is when you don't have time for it.
29.  Always bring chap-stick and a bottle of water to a job interview.  
Nothing is worse than a dry mouth and/or chapped lips when you're trying to talk someone into hiring you.

30.  The Middle School (aka, Junior High) and High School phases suck for most girls.  Remember that Middle School and High School are just short phases of your life.
The Middle School and High School crowd can be just plain mean.  The social torture that many of us experience during our awkward Middle School and High School phases seems like a very cruel "right of passage" before we enter the best part of the rest of our lives - young adulthood.   The "college phase" is so much better - if not the best.

31.  Writing down your worries on paper before a big exam or a big presentation at work can help you relieve anxiety and help you perform better.

32.  Never reply when you are angry.  Never make a promise when you are happy.  Never make a decision when you are sad.

33.  If you don't want anyone to find out, don't do it.

34.  Happiness is a choice - a choice to live your life with a certain state of mind.  
Happiness usually doesn't just come to you - at least not after childhood ends.  You often have to fight for happiness.  Remember that you are in charge of how you feel.  Think happy.  Be happy. 
  • "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." Mahatma Gandhi
  • "It is only possible to live happily ever after on a daily basis." Margaret Bonanno
  • "Mistakes will be made. Failure will occur. You pick yourself up and carry on."  - Elizabeth Gilbert.

35.  Follow your passion for your career.  

101 Common-Sense Rules for Leaders


Boost your management skills by getting back to the basics — here are some common sense tips for leading an effective team.

By Inside CRM Editors

Management is all about connecting with the people on your team. So how do you effectively manage a team? With common knowledge, of course. These are a few back-to-basics rules that will help you develop management skills that really matter.


Body Language

Like it or not, your body speaks volumes, even when you are silent. Here's how to express an attitude that's appropriate for a leader.
1. Stand tall.
Keeping your shoulders back and holding yourself up to your full height will give you an air of confidence.

2. Take your hands out of your pockets.
Putting your hands in your pockets is often seen as a sign that you have something to hide.

3. Stand with your arms crossed behind your back.
This will help you adjust your posture, and it leaves your hands in a position that is open and not intimidating.

4. Make eye contact.
Always look directly into the eyes of the people you are speaking with. This shows you're interested and also gives you a sense of confidence.

5. Sit up straight.
Even if you're at an 8 a.m.meeting and feeling tired, it's important to sit up straight in your chair. Slouching makes you look disinterested and can give off an unwanted air of laziness.

6. Face the person you're talking to.
This shows you are interested and engaged in the conversation.

7. Shake hands firmly.
For many, a handshake is a reflection of the person you're shaking hands with. You don't want to come across as unsure or overbearing, so make sure yours is professional and confident.

8. Always smile.
Smiles are contagious and will make others feel positive when you're around.

9. Look your best.
You don't have to be model perfect every day, but you should dress appropriately and neatly. Clothes can have a big impact on the way you're perceived.

10. Walk confidently.
Keep your head up and take even strides.



Meeting Deadlines

No one will be happy if your team has to rush around at the last minute to complete a project. Follow these tips to make deadlines less stressful for everyone.


11. Only promise what you can realistically deliver. Don't create deadlines that you know you can't meet. By only promising what you know you can do, you'll be able to finish on time.

12. Set clear goals.
Once you know what you need to accomplish, it helps to know how and when you want to do it. Put your goals down on paper and make sure everyone on your team gets a copy.

13. Organize a team.
Many of your employees will have unique strengths and training that can make them great assets to certain projects. Pick a team that has the right skills to carry out the job.

14. Delegate tasks.
Spread work among your employees in a way that doesn't leave anyone overburdened while also allowing the project work smoothly.

15. Create milestones.
Creating milestones for you and your team will help you keep track of your progress and also give you a sense of accomplishment as you reach each milestone.

16. Keep communication open.
Keeping everyone in touch with the status of the project is key to making sure it's completed on time.

17. Do it right the first time.
Planning ahead will help prevent you from delivering a substandard product. Having to redo something for a client costs money, and, more than likely, future business opportunities.

18. Stay organized.
Staying organized will help keep you from wasting time chasing down important documents and information.

19. Make sure expectations are clear.
Be sure that each member of your team knows what their specific responsibilities are. This will save time and prevent tasks from being overlooked.

20. Create a plan.
Compile your goals and milestones into a comprehensive plan for attacking any project you are given. This way, you can make sure you're staying on schedule and that all of your employees will be clear about how and when things should be done.



Getting Along with Employees

A happy office is a productive one. Everyone will be more cheerful if you follow these simple rules.
21. Don't make your employees come in on days they're normally not scheduled to work or call them while they're on vacation.
A surefire way to make employees resent you is to invade their personal time for nonpressing work. Unless you have something that absolutely has to be done, let time away from work stay that way.

22. Don't play favorites.
Playing favorites can bias your judgment and impair your leadership abilities. Treat your employees equally.

23. Give credit when it's due.
Don't take credit for your employees' ideas or hog their limelight. This action not only fosters resentment but also makes you seem untrustworthy.

24. Don't micromanage.
While it's fine to keep up with what your employees are working on, don't constantly look over their shoulders.

25. Never discuss employee matters with their co-workers.
This kind of gossip always gets back to the person and will make you look unprofessional.

26. Don't interfere with employees' work.
If your employees are getting work done, don't stress about how it gets done. Even if it's not being done they way you'd do it, it's best to let employees use their best judgment.

27. Don't push unreasonable deadlines.
You don't want to spend all of your time at the office, and neither do your employees.

28. Keep your promises.
Barring some catastrophic event, you should always keep promises you make to employees, especially about pay and benefits.

29. Keep work about work.
Don't require employees to run your personal errands. Take care of your own personal business or hire an assistant.

30. Reward hard work.
Make sure your employees feel valued for the work that they do. Employees will be more willing to put in extra effort if they know it's noted and appreciated.

31. Provide motivation.
Sometimes employees need a morale boost. Provide them with encouragement to get a project rolling.



Manage Yourself

Being a good manager isn't just about what you can encourage other people to do, it's also about managing your own performance.
32. Be accessible.
Don't hole up in your office all day — come out and visit with your employees. Let them know that they can always come to you with problems and concerns.

33. Be open to constructive criticism.
It may not always be what you want to hear, but listening to constructive criticism gives you the chance to learn and grow from your mistakes.

34. Accept responsibility.
Part of being the boss is accepting responsibility for the mistakes of all that you manage, not just your own.

35. Know there's always room for improvement.
No matter how good you think you are, your job can always be done better. Always be willing to learn.

36. Improve your skills.
Learning is a lifelong process. You're never too old to take a class or ask a co-worker to help you improve your knowledge.

37. Explain things simply.
Don't use big words or technical jargon just to sound smart and impress others. Your employees will understand and perform better if you explain simply and clearly what you need.

38. Instruct rather than order.
You may be the boss, but you don't have to be bossy. You'll have more success if your requests are more tactfully delivered.

39. Include your staff in your plans.
Don't make your work top secret; let your employees know what's going on and how they are expected to contribute.

40. Know your subordinates' jobs.
You don't want to be caught with inferior job knowledge.

41. Be flexible.
It's fine to be firm in what you expect, but allow for flexibility in how it gets done.

42. Get regular feedback.
Your employees and superiors can give you valuable feedback on how to improve your performance. Use this to your advantage.

43. Know your limitations.
You can't be everywhere doing everything all at once. Know the limits of your time and abilities and say no to things you know you can't do.



Boosting Productivity

Getting the most out of your day can be difficult with a busy schedule, but you can use these tips to help you maximize your time in order to be better available to employees.
44. Get the most out of meetings.
Be organized and prepared for meetings to increase effectiveness and time savings.

45. Focus your energy on things that matter.
Don't let trivial tasks take time away from things that are really important.

46. Identify your time-stealers.
Everyone has little things that detract their attention and make them lose focus. Figure out what these are and work to eliminate them, if only for a few hours a day.

47. Be punctual.
Being on time is a big deal. Never keep people waiting for appointments or meetings if you can help it.

48. Respond to your correspondence within a reasonable amount of time.
You don't have to be chained to your inbox, but make sure you respond to emails within a few hours whenever possible.

49. Do only what is necessary.
There are times when going above and beyond works, but doing so on a daily basis can derail your progress on more important issues. Get the key things done first, then see if you have time for additional things.

50. Stick to schedules and routines.
While they may not be the most exciting things, schedules and routines can help streamline and improve your productivity.

51. Organize and manage your schedule.
Use any tools and utilities you have at your disposal to prioritize your day and keep track of what you need to get done.

52. Plan more than you think you can do.
While this may sound stressful, it can actually be a great motivator. If you manage to get everything done, you'll enjoy a great sense of achievement.

53. Get to work early on occasion.
Sometimes an uninterrupted half hour in an unoccupied office can help you get key things done or allow you to plan your day before there are any distractions to slow you down.

54. Know that sometimes stress is good.
While too much of anything, especially stress, can be bad, sometimes a little stress can be the motivation to get you moving, allowing you to get more done.

55. Do your least favorite tasks first.
Get your most tedious and least desirable tasks out of the way earlier in the day. After that, everything else will be a breeze.



Managing Finances and Resources

Whether you're a business owner or a manager, staying on top of tangible items is vital to success. These tips can help you keep track.
56. Set up a realistic budget.
While it's good to be optimistic, don't plan for more spending than you know you can afford. Make sure you plan for emergencies and contingencies as well.

57. Save costs where they matter the most.
Don't just pinch pennies for the present. Make sure your savings will pay off in the long run. Compromising on quality might cost you later on in repairs and replacements.

58. Spend only when it's necessary.
Don't spend if you don't need to. Every bit you save goes toward your profit.

59. Find alternative sources of finance.
Sometimes even successful businesses need a little help. Business loans and investors can help you through leaner times.

60. Stay true to your contracts.
Not only will you gain the respect of your clients, you'll also avoid legal battles that can be a serious financial drain.

61. Make sure employees are well compensated.
Employees deserve to be rewarded for hard work. Make sure yours are well compensated for their time and they'll be more productive and happier to come to work.

62. Learn to do more with less.
Quality is much more important than quantity, so make what you have count.

63. Assign equipment wisely.
While it might be nice for every employee to have a PDA, budgets often don't allow for such conveniences. Make sure the employees that need tools the most have access to them.

64. Invest in solid technology.
This doesn't always mean the latest technology, but what your office needs to do work effectively.

65. Update when necessary.
Using obsolete equipment and programs can really slow you down. Update when it makes sense so you won't get left behind by competitors.

66. Don't be wasteful.
Every sheet of paper, paper clip and pen is a cost on your budget. Use materials wisely and don't waste them out of haste or carelessness.



Communicating with Clients

Whether you're a business owner or a manager carrying out a project, one thing is always the same: The client is dominant voice in decision-making. Learn to communicate with them effectively and you'll set a good example for the people you supervise.
67. Remember that the customer is the boss.
At the end of the day, your job is to make the customer happy. Act accordingly.

68. Differentiate your products.
Don't get lost in a sea of products and services like yours. Make sure you stand out from your competitors.

69. Retain customers as much as you recruit new ones.
While you always want to bring in new business, it's very important to maintain relationships with loyal customers.

70. Provide effective channels of communication.
Make sure your clients can contact you easily and quickly if they have a problem, concern or question. They can also provide a valuable source of feedback.

71. Maintain customer data.
Use this data to make your customers feel special by remembering occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. It's also helpful for keeping track of purchasing preferences.

72. Segment your customers.
Not all customers are alike. Divide your customers into groups that allow you to provide attention and services that meet each customer's unique needs.

73. Provide effective after-sales services.
Don't let contact fall off after the work is complete. Make sure your client stays happy.

74. Listen attentively.
Pay attention to exactly what clients are asking for to help you better meet their needs.

75. Don't be afraid to say you don't know.
It's OK not to know the answer to every question. It's better to say you don't know and get back to a customer than to try to bluff your way through a conversation and have to backtrack later.



Keep Up with Change

There is no way to stop the world from changing, so follow these tips to keep up and ahead of the game.
76. Don't fight change.
You can't stop markets, trends and technology from changing, so learn to go with the flow.

77. Adopt a predictive managerial style.
Don't wait for things to happen to make a move. Anticipate problems and provide contingency plans.

78. Test your contingency plans.
Waiting for disaster to strike is a dangerous way to find out if your emergency plans will hold. Test them out from time to time to fine-tune them and make sure they're still relevant.

79. Identify the positives.
Even the most negative changes can have positive aspects to them. Being able to identify and maximize them can help make adapting less painful.

80. Be quick to adapt.
Learn to adapt to changing situations quickly and be able to change plans on the spur of the moment if the situation requires it.

81. Stay tuned to external factors.
Your business is affected in many ways by outside factors. Keep abreast of these so you can anticipate any sudden market changes that would affect how you need to manage.

82. Put in place a Research and Development plan.
Encourage innovation and creativity to stay ahead of the demand for newer and better products and services.

83. Keep an eye on the competition.
Don't let the competition get the best of you. Keep up-to-date with what they're doing and use it to your advantage in managing your business.


Resolving Problems

Whether problems are internal or external, they can make your management duties a nightmare if you don't handle them correctly. Here's how to stay on top of them.
84. Stand up for employees.
If other departments or managers are bearing down hard on your employees, stand up for them.

85. Fix what's broken.
Don't waste time placing blame. Take care of fixing the problem before dealing with any possible repercussions.

86. Manage and control your emotions.
Don't let anger or frustration affect your problem resolution. If you are emotionally invested in a situation, cool down before discussing it or bring in an outside mediator.

87. Learn when to step in.
Some problems might resolve themselves if you just let them be, but you need to be aware of times where you'll need to step in and take control of a situation.

88. Take the blame.
If you've made a mistake, fess up. It'll give you more time to work on fixing the problem instead of talking your way out of taking the rap.

89. Get the facts first.
Before you pass judgment on a situation, make sure you have the whole story. Listen to employees and refrain from questioning anyone's integrity without first ensuring that you've gathered all the data.

90. Rise above the crisis.
Learn to separate yourself from the problem and rise above the fray. You'll be able to think more clearly and make a better decision on how to rectify the issue.

91. Don't ignore problems.
A small problem can easily snowball and become something much more difficult to fix.

92. Try to depersonalize problems.
Let employees know that the problem isn't with them but with their actions. Don't make it personal.



Go Above and Beyond

Managing people isn't just about getting the job done. To truly be a great leader, sometimes you need to go above and beyond what the job calls for.
93. Lead by example.
You can talk until you're blue in the face, but the best way to get a point across is to be the model to emulate. Let employees follow your lead.

94. Get your hands dirty.
Sometimes you need to show your employees that no one's above doing unattractive tasks.

95. Make a difference to your employees.
Don't just be a generic manager — stand out as a leader and role model for your employees.

96. Gain your employees' trust and respect.
You'll have a much easier time managing employees when they respect your rules and boundaries and trust your leadership.

97. Be empathetic to personal problems.
Whether it should or not, what happens outside of work can have a big affect on the quality of work produced. Be sensitive if employees have personal issues that keep them from concentrating on work.

98. Be unique as a manager.
Every position demands something different and you should be proud to be adept at your particular role rather than trying to emulate other managers.

99. Remember that ethics matter above all.
Be honest and reliable in all of your business and personal relationships.

100. Be on the lookout for new ideas.
You never know where your next great inspiration will come from.

101. Get to know your employees.
Learn more than just their names. Get to know your employees' family backgrounds, likes and dislikes. Doing so will make you more personable.

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12 Life Lessons My Mother Taught Me.


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My mother was the smartest person I've ever known, not because she had a fancy job or a high level of education, but because of her life experience. When I was a little kid she used to share her thoughts, ideas and life lessons with me. I can honestly say I would not have been the person I am today without her wisdom.
In an effort to save her words and pass them on to my children, I have written down her snippets of advice and thoughts on life. A few years after my project was done she passed away in her sleep. Today, I want to share some of her inspiring words with you, I hope they will help you as much as they helped me:
Breathe in the future, breathe out the past.

No matter where you are or what you're going through, remember there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Never expect, assume, or demand anything, just do your best, control what you can, and let go of what you can't.

Others should accept you for who you are.
Speak your truth even if your voice shakes and you know it won't be well received. You are something beautiful and unique so if you hold that back, the whole world gets a bit less amazing. Walk your path confidently and proudly, don't expect anyone else to understand your journey.

You are not who you used to be, and that's OK.
People go through many ups and downs in life and it changes them, you are no different. Your perspective has changed, your likes and dislikes have changed, your political views may have changed, and that is all normal. When people accuse you of changing just replay by saying:  "Of course I've changed. That's what life is all about. I'm still the same person, just stronger and wiser."

Everything that happens helps you grow.



Take everything life throws at you as an opportunity to improve yourself. Whatever happens, hold on to hope. Learn from everything and don't be afraid to make the same mistake twice, 3 times, or as many times as necessary.
Life should be simple.
Focus on one thing at a time. You don't have to do everything, and you don't need to do something every second of your life. Breathe, be present, and do your best, it's the most anyone, including yourself, could ever hope for.
 
Educate yourself to be happy, not to be rich.
There is a big difference between knowing the price of things, and knowing the value of things. In the end, you will come to realize that the best days are the days when you don't need anything special to make you smile.

Always be positive.

Your misery or unhappiness is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude. Smile at those who want to hurt you, show them that they can't take away your happiness from you. Your will power is stronger than you know.

Pay close attention to those you care about.
When people say "I'm okay," you need to look them in the eyes, hug them tight, and reply, "I know you're not". Don't be too upset if some people only seem to remember you when they need you, only be upset if they are not there when you need them.

Learn how to let go of people.
Some people are bad for you, some people need to do things on their own, and some people might need you to teach them a hard lesson. It's not easy to say goodbye when you don't have to but you know you need to, but it's for the benefit of both sides.

Sometimes getting results means stripping yourself of people that slow you down.

As much as you might love them, some people can make it a lot harder for you to reach your goals. Almost everyone will encounter such a person during their life. As you find out who you are and what you want, you realize that people you've known forever don't see things the way you do. Keep the wonderful memories you had with them, but move on to achieve your happiness.

"I can't believe I did that", is much better than, "I wish I did that."
Don't live your life trying to impress others, live it so you'll impress yourself. If you know you will regret not doing something, just do it. It's that simple.

If you can't find your happy ending, maybe it's time to look for a new beginning.

We all fail from time to time, it's just a part of life. Don't be stubborn and just accept it. The strongest people out there are the same people who have fought the toughest battles, lost, and moved on to a new beginning.

The Humble Garlic Helps Your Body Heal Itself

9 Ways The Humble Garlic Helps Your Body Heal Itself

    Eat garlic raw before breakfast to maximize the health benefits
    Garlic is a pungent-flavored plant bulb used to flavor food when cooked. It is also known as the 'Stinking Rose' and is used in herbal medicine to combat a number of diseases and ailments. When garlic cloves are crushed, chopped or chewed a compound known as allicin is produced and it is this which aids the human body. Heating or drying the cloves stops the production of allicin so to get the most our of the garlic, eat it raw mixed with something palatable like chopped tomatoes and pepper in a salsa or with plain yogurt as a kind of dip. 
   
    After crushing fresh garlic, let it sit at room temperature for 10 minutes to gain the most benefit from the allicin produced, as this is the optimum time for this compound. Make sure to consume two or three cloves at a time to help your body heal itself from the inside, and eat the garlic as soon as it is ready because allicin starts to break down after roughly an hour or so. Eating the garlic on a completely empty stomach, before breakfast, is reported to give the best results of all so consume it before doing anything else each morning.
    Just before you start eating garlic, make sure you are not allergic to it as there are some people who are very sensitive to it. Some of the side effects are harmless enough, like suffering from increased stomach gas, but others are more serious such as skin rashes and trouble with breathing. If you suffer from these things, seek proper medical advice and stop consuming raw garlic.
    How to use garlic as a natural detoxifying foodstuff
    Raw garlic contains sulphur which helps our bodies get rid of unwanted toxins. The way it does this is by stimulating the liver to make detoxifying enzymes which filter the bad toxins from the bloodstream. Detoxing gives you the feeling of wellbeing and lightness and it helps the digestive system to work efficiently.
  
    Some people make detoxing part of their routine by setting aside time once a month or every few weeks to change their diet for the health benefits. Raw garlic can be used alongside other detoxifying ingredients like apple, beetroot, carrot and parsley in a smoothie or a salad dish. Garlic also cleanses the gut and kills parasites and bad bacteria in the intestine which helps balance the digestive systems and ensure everything is working as well as it should.
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You Get What You Give




Over Come Your Fear
Laugh Out Loud,
Break The Silence
Speak To The Crowd


Feel The Joy
Taste The Wind
Breath The Stars
Just Imagine

Know Someone's Sadness
Heal Somebody's Pain
Listen Closely
Receive The Same

Make A Promise
Give from The Heart
Take And Return
End And Restart

Rise From bottom
Soar From Deep
Smile And Rest
Desire And Seek

Thirst For The Truth
Look For The signs
Believe In Your Heart
Believe In Almighty

Stay Healthy
Love And Live
Remember You Get.......
Whatever You Give

10 Coffee-Making Techniques From All Over The World




You will be surprised to know that your favourite coffee is made in the most strange ways across the world. Don't believe us? In different parts of our extremely diverse globe, people add salt, cheese and even elephant poop to their coffee. Read on as we take you through the details of these weird coffee combinations.

1. Coffee with citrus

Citrus in coffee helps to cure migraine as it lessens the warmth of the coffee. You can find this drink in Sao Paulo, Brazil, and Italy. In the latter, it is known as Espresso Romano.

2. Coffee with eggs

In this coffee, they use an entire egg. Eggshells included. If you add eggshells to boiling hot coffee, you'll get a non-bittler, non-acidic, thick cup of coffee. Egg coffee is a delicacy in Vietnam.

3. Coffee with salt

In Scandinavia, Hungary, Turkey, Siberia and a few other colder regions, they add a pinch of salt to black coffee and claim that it reduces the bitterness of the drink.

4. Coffee with butter

For ages, Singaporeans have been adding butter to their coffee. According to them, it adds to the aroma and makes coffee even richer. The name of the drink is Kopi Gu You.

5. Coffee with peppercorns

For Moroccans, a cup of coffee is incomplete without a pinch of peppercorn. In fact, it is normal to have spices such as cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg and cloves in their coffee.

6. Civet Coffee

The coffee beans used in this coffee are made up with a civet cat's excreta. Eww, right? But it's a popular beverage in Indonesia.

7. Thailand's elephant poop coffee

Believe it or not, this coffee drink is really popular in Thailand. Undigested coffee beans are taken from elephant dung and turned into an exotic c
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offee.

8. Coffee with cheese

In Sweden, cheese is added to a steaming cup of coffee and later eaten when it becomes soft. This coffee beverage is common among Hispanics too.

9. Charcoal coffee

In Indonesia, hot charcoal is poured into the concoction of coffee, hot water and sugar. Why? To balance out the coffee's acidity. Another name for this sort of coffee is Kopi Joss.

10. Carajillo

Carjillo is a Spanish beverage. It includes brandy, whiskey, rum, and anisette mixed with coffee. Sounds like an addiction overdoes, don't you think?



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