A big part of who you become in life has to do with who you choose to surround yourself with. Sometimes luck controls who walks into your life, but you decide who you let stay, who you pursue, and who you let walk back out.
Ultimately, you should surround yourself with people who make you a better person and let go of those who don't. Here are some warning signs you're in the presence of the latter:
They only make time for you when it's convenient for them.
Being in a relationship with someone who overlooks your worth isn't loyalty, it's stupidity. Never beg someone for attention. Know your self-worth, and move on if you must
They hold your past against you.
Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy and serves no purpose in creating a better day today. If someone continuously judges you by your past and holds it against you, you might have to repair your future by leaving them behind.
You feel trapped.
If you want to be a part of someone's life, all the open doors and windows in the world won't make you leave. If someone has closed them all in an effort to trap you into something you don't want to be a part of, it's time to find the strength to kick down the door.
They discredit your dreams and abilities.
People will throw all sorts of assumptions your way about what is possible and what is impossible. Look beyond the presumptions and mental limitations of others, and connect with your own best vision of how YOUR life can be. Life is an open-ended journey, and what you achieve comes from what you expect to achieve and what you work to achieve.
They have lied to you more than once.
When you keep someone in your life who is a chronic liar, and you keep giving them new chances to be trusted, you have a lot in common with this person – you're both lying and being unloving to you. Bottom line: Those who avoid the truth and tell you only what you want to hear do so for their own benefit, not yours. Don't put up with it.
Their negativity is rubbing off on you.
Positive things happen when you distance yourself from negative people. Doing so doesn't mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.
They are excessively envious of what you have.
A little bit of envy is OK, but when someone is excessively envious of what you have, there's a good chance what they really want is to take it from you.
They motivate you to be judgmental or hateful.
Truth be told, no human being is superior. No faith, race, size or shape is inferior. All collective judgments about others are wrong. Only judgmental hypocrites make them.People who motivate you to judge or hate others are as bad as bad company gets. Avoid them at all costs.
They want you to be someone else.
Spend time with people who see you the way you are, and not as they wish to think you are. Spend even more time with those who truly know about you, and who love and respect you anyway..If someone expects you to be someone you're not, take a step back. It's wiser to lose relationships over being who you are, than to keep them intact by acting like someone you're not.