Some of us seem to have pretty constant moods, while others' moods are much more turbulent. Dealing with moody people can become tiresome in the long-term.
Some moody people are just struggling with life, while others use moodiness as a tool to manipulate the people around them.It's helpful to know the difference.
Regardless of the source of the moodiness, these tips can help:
- However, some people are simply bullies and use their moodiness to get what they want from others. Read on for strategies for dealing with this type of moodiness.
3. Stay calm. There's no reason to get upset. Nine times out of ten, you've probably done nothing wrong. Others are generally moody for reasons that have nothing to do with you directly. You don't have to solve the moodiness or allow it to make you feel bad.
4. It might be best to consider removing the person from your life. If you're dealing with someone that always seems to dictate the mood around them, they are controlling. If your patience, concern, and advice don't seem to have any effect, and they are making you miserable, consider removing them from your life.
- Any relationship should consist of both people giving and taking. If you're always giving and they're always taking, why are still spending time with them?
6. Learn to ignore the negative mood. Pretend the other person isn't moody at all. Just go about your day as if nothing were wrong. We can't control others, but we can control our reactions to them. With practice, it becomes easier than you think.
7. Address the behavior. Sometimes you can put an end to moodiness by letting them know that you're onto their game. This can be as simple as asking, "I've noticed you're irritable a lot. Why is that?" The last thing a moody person wants is for their moodiness to become a topic in itself. They want to use it as a tool.
Be sensitive to those that are moody due to dealing with a significant challenge in life. Some people simply need sympathy and understanding. Those that use moodiness as a means to manipulate are a different story.
Avoid rewarding these bullies by having some personal boundaries. Don't let their moods affect the choices you make. Learn to act as if there were no moodiness at all. Letting these folks have their way is a huge mistake. You're only encouraging the behavior to continue in the future.