Dale Carnegie wrote a whole book about how to win friends and influence people.
The sad truth is that I've never read past the second chapter, because in that chapter, Carnegie exhorts us to never criticize, condemn or complain. No criticizing of my own self. No condemning others. No complaining about lousy service or a sore knee.
Think about it. Never criticize, condemn or complain.
Honestly, there are times when I have nothing to say that isn't a criticism or a condemnation or a complaint. Living thisway feels like it may be my life's work. I try, and most of the time I fail.
And then I try again, because on those days when I succeed at this, I am different. I am more productive. More loving. More fun. When I'm not criticizing or condemning or complaining I find and share more joy. More gratitude. More laughter.
Your life will be better if you do.