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Ways to Change Your Thoughts When You Cannot Change Anything



​Sometimes changing your life situation isn’t possible – or simply not possible soon enough. You can’t restructure your entire lifestyle in an instant. You can’t make someone else change against his or her will. And you certainly can’t erase the past. So what choices do you have left?

Change your perception, belief or opinion about your life situation. Doing so will help you change your attitude and ultimately allow you to grow beyond the problems and barriers you can’t immediately control. This, of course, takes practice, which is precisely why we’re co-hosting a live training event titled “Think Better, Live Better” – to guide you step-by-step through mental strength training exercises that make real progress possible, even in the face of unchangeable adversity.

Let’s be honest, we all get stuck with some bad habits that we emotionally default to when we’re not mindfully focused on the right things. Bad habits like people pleasing, reacting with a victim mentality, succumbing to needless worry, spending time with toxic people, or indulging in negative self talk are all patterns that need careful attention and renovation.

It’s time to break up with the faulty patterns of thinking, reacting and behaving that are holding you back!

There’s nothing wrong with being open about struggling with your faults, venting on occasion, and yes, even complaining every now and then. But you have to remember that your words and thoughts, especially the ones you repeat daily, are the foundation you cast your future upon.

When you think about something repeatedly, you begin to personally identify with it, and your inner identity gradually becomes your outer reality.

Your positive, productive thoughts can help create a brilliant, vibrant reality – one where opportunity, happiness and gratitude resides – while your most worrisome fears and foulest words and thoughts can foster a lifetime of darkness, hatred and hopelessness.

The choice is yours.

Choose wisely! Choose your words and your thoughts carefully, with the finest and most positive of intentions. Be conscious of what you are saying to yourself, how you are interacting with others, and what you are asking life for on a daily basis.

Your health, your happiness, your present and your future depend on it.

The bottom line is this: You can’t control the reality of yesterday, or even the reality of today to a certain extent, but you CAN control how you think, react and respond to everything, in the hopes of drafting a better blueprint for all your tomorrows. Here are two ways to do just that...

1. Surrender your worries and embrace acceptance.

Realize that, somewhere within us all, there does exist a supreme self who is eternally at peace. Because inner peace does not depend on external conditions; it’s what remains when you’ve surrendered your ego and worries.

Peace can be found within you at any place and at any time. It’s always there, patiently waiting for you to turn your attention toward it. Peace of mind arrives the moment you come to peace with what’s on your mind. It happens when you let go of the need to be anywhere but where you are, physically and emotionally.

This acceptance of the way things are creates the foundation for inner harmony. The need for something to be different in this moment is nothing more than a worry, and worries simply lead you in circles. Remember, the same part of you that longs for peace is the part of you that experiences peace. It is not complicated to achieve and is as close as your next thought. (
from the “Adversity” chapter of our book)

2. Practice mindful gratitude.

What you must realize is that you don’t really need more; you just need to appreciate what you have. It’s a beautiful and bittersweet way of thinking all at once. If you don’t have what you want now, you don’t have what you want, but you still have enough.

Be thankful for what is, and also be thankful for what has not yet come to you. For that means there are still many possibilities available. Find peace in the thought that you can’t ever have it all or know it all either. You are always just a fraction of the whole. For if you weren’t, there would be nothing more to experience. Value what you know, and also value the countless things you don’t yet understand. For in what you don’t understand, there is the joy of growth.

Life will always be incomplete and a bit asymmetrical. Realize this and embrace it. Be happy and sad at the same time, be hungry and thankful at the same time, be nervous and excited at the same time, and be OK with it. (
from the “Happiness” chapter of our book)

And of course, if you're struggling with either of these points, know that you are not alone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and live a life free of headaches and heartache. This is precisely why Marc and I wrote our book, “1,000 Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently.” The book is filled with short, concise tips on how to do just that. And believe it or not, I’m currently in the process of re-visiting and re-reading some of our own material this month, just to center my mind on these positive principles and keep myself on the right track. If you’re interested in following along with me and making positive changes in your life this Summer, or if you simply want to read (or listen) our book at your leisure, I’m going to extend an unbeatable bonus offer to you for the next 24 hours (offer ends tomorrow at midnight PST)...
 

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