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Is there something that you've been meaning to get to but just haven't been able to for the longest time? I'm not talking about a specific goal -- just something that you've been meaning to do but haven't been able to. What's the reason? Think about it. Why have you been putting it off for so long? Write it down and you'll discover your excuses. Now do the same thing for some of the goals that you set out to achieve some time ago but just never got around to doing. Or think about a course that you've been meaning to take, a book you want to read, learning something that could change your life, pursuing a hobby, anything. Then list all the reasons that you have for not doing it.
Here are some of the excuses that I hear everyday for people not doing what they want to do:
. I haven't got the time.
· There are just too many things to do.
· I'll start on Monday (does something magical happen on Monday that doesn't happen on any other day? If there is I sure would like to know.)
· First I want to get through this project then I'll get to that.
· My kids are driving me crazy.
· My friends won't understand.
· It just takes too much time.
· I'm going on vacation and will do it when I get back.
· I can't concentrate.
· It's just too much work."
And the list goes on and on and on. In the end you never complete what you wanted to do. Why? Because you've bought into your excuses! You now believe your excuses and thus nothing ever gets done.
So what's your excuse for not creating the changes or improvements you want in your life? More importantly -- how do you get past or eliminate your excuses?
In many cases the most common excuse is time. People always say they don't have time or they will get to it later or they'll wait until they have more time. But what's the reason for creating that excuse. The truth is that it's often really not about time. Let's face it you have 24 hours in a day, you sleep for 8, leaving 16, you work 8 hours or even 10 hours a day that leaves you with 6 or 8 hours a day. Maybe you spend an hour commuting everyday that brings it down to 5 or 7 hours a day. You cook, eat and relax -- does that take 5 or 7 hours everyday. No it doesn't. The truth is that if you just spent even a few minutes to an hour a day working towards your goals you'd achieve them. The real reason is not time. The real reason you're coming up with all of those excuses, even if time is not the determining factor -- is because you're focusing on the process and not the result.
What do I mean? Let's say you wanted to clean up your home. You then start thinking about all the work that you have to do and essentially you focus on the process and not the result which would be to have a clean, tidy home that you can be proud of. If you want to get a new job but don't do anything about it - then it's likely because you're thinking about the process of going through the papers, searching for other opportunities, going on interviews where you may get rejected, and you're not focusing on the result that you want --which is to get a better job so you don't have to work the crazy hours and have more time for yourself.
When you focus on the process you'll come up with excuses for not doing what you really want to do. Why? Because the process is time consuming, it requires work, you have to put in the effort, and everybody wants things done immediately -- we all want results right away. But does a marathon athlete start off by running the New York Marathon. No. Instead he or she trains sometimes for years before running in the New York Marathon. Does a professional football player become a professional football player without training and playing at least in high school? No. Does a successful company generate millions of dollars in profits overnight? No. They all go through what seems like an excruciating and time consuming process to the average outsider who is not involved in the process and not focused on the reward or the result.
Too often I hear people tell me their excuses for not moving forward and achieving their goals and I know the real reason is that they're focusing on the process and not the result.
How To Eliminate The Excuses
If you really want to achieve your goals you have to eliminate the excuses -- get them out of your system. Unfortunately you can't reach in and just yank them out. Your mind has become comfortable with these excuses and they are now a part of your daily thinking and living. The good news is that you can eliminate them by replacing them and you do this by first deciding what you want and why. The why of your quest is very important! I'm not asking you to come up with a noble reason. I want you to be honest with yourself because why this goal is important is really the reason you want to pursue it. So think about it and come up with your reasons for achieving your goals.
Now the next time you find yourself coming up with excuses -- or when those excuses come surging forward when you think about accomplishing something - focus on the reward or the reason for having those goals. Then add to it the understanding that if you don't do it now it will never happen! If you keep living with your excuses, if you continually accept your excuses the changes you want will never happen. If you continue to focus on the process and not the reason the changes will never happen.
When you focus on the reason for achieving those goals you actually start to enjoy the process because you have a result in mind that you want to accomplish. Start to focus on the reason and rewards of your goals. Learn to develop a new way of thinking and living so that your subconscious mind creates the opportunities for you to succeed.
The Final Push
I know some of you may say: "You don't understand my situation. I really don't have the time -- I barely get a moment to breath - let alone do anything else. How can I make the time when there aren't enough hours in the day." We all get the same amount of time - how we use them is up to us. If you don't have the time to make the changes or improvements you want in life then you're really saying they're not important enough. But don't just listen to me - take a look for yourself. Write a list of all the things you do everyday and then see which are so important that they can't be put aside for your goals. And keep in mind -- that if you don't make the time for those improvements you want – nothing changes. Remember the reason for those goals – remember the outcome that you want. Then see if it's important enough to set aside a few minutes.
Remember -- you only get one life and one chance. Make the most of it. Stop defeating yourself, stop limiting yourself. Create all the success you want and deserve in life.
Karim Hajee Creating Power