How to be an Agent of Change!



Decision making and change is very important

Understands the importance of change to create a happy vibrant life. Constantly adapt and shift approach to problem to get a solution. Have ability to counter any negative thoughts with new and improved ways of thinking. Also you must become comfortable with yourself as an all thinking all changing comes.

Every challenge you overcome results in adapting, changing and growing. We are all part of a process of change. A mature attitude to change is important for personal success.

Start with an honest appraisal of self. You know what your strengths and weaknesses are. Be honest about everything. Become more than just an ordinary person. Do not accept limitations in life.

We are all prone to doing from time to time an immoral or antisocial manner that can affect the view of our own self image. Accept what you need to change. Learn from your mistakes and act in a constructive way.

The key is to become constructive in your approach to change.

Take personal responsibility for your behaviour. It is up to you to take ultimate responsibility for your actions. You are less likely to start blaming others for your misfortune, and will look instead to positive action.

If you are willing to work hard and practice on your new skills, you will find it easier to accept yourself. Integrating self-acceptance into your life should be a daily process. If you think unhappy thoughts you will tend to feel unhappy and vice-versa. If you use abusive or harsh language to describe, then you are heading towards feeling very emotionally unhappy. And the more likely you are to believe it. Change how you think and feel about yourself.

People often call themselves losers, idiots, and good for nothings, simpletons, or imbeciles because of certain events or actions they have been involved in or done. This does not get to the heart of the problem and is very self-destructive. stop with negative labeling and name calling.

To move on in life in a way that contributes to the kind of world you would like to live in, assume personal responsibility and keep working hard on self-acceptance.

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Story: While Shopping in Louisiana

 
I went to Walmart today in Marksville and I was third in line. There was an older woman checking out, a middle aged couple behind her, and I was next. Well I noticed the woman checking out had almost every basic item you could need: shampoo, tooth paste, tooth brush, hair brush, sleepers, basic clothes, bread etc. I didn't think anything of it but as she was almost done (her total was over $150) the man in front of me asked her Are you sending this stuff to flood victims?'
 

And the woman said, 'Actually sir, I am a flood victim, I lost everything I own and didn't have time to even grab my purse. There is water up to my roof. I'm staying here with my daughter until I can figure things out.'
And just like that, the man handed the cashier his credit card and paid for the woman's things. She cried, his wife cried, and then I cried. It was so touching to see someone be so selfless, especially in this trying time for Louisiana! Pay it forward.

 

Knowledge Or Ego?

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Human beings are very strange.
They have ego of their knowledge but,
they don’t have knowledge of their ego.

3 Cs to Avoid in Life

Peace of mind is something that we all crave for. We cannot achieve this state without putting effort. After all, peace of mind is not something that can be procured by spending money or by force. The mind needs to be balanced and in equilibrium before it can reach that state. For the mind to be balanced, we have several 'dos' and 'don’ts' to follow. Given below are three 'don’ts' which go a long way to achieve that state. They are described as the three Cs.

Criticizing: The first C is criticizing. It is one of the most natural talents that we all have. Our minds seem to be tuned to find fault and spot blemishes. Many a times, we see problems where none exist. It is as if our minds have the uncanny knack of identifying a problem. At the same time, our tongues are eager to let others know of our 'superiority' in being able to articulate those problems. When we criticize thus, unnecessarily, we are unknowingly building resistance as well as enemies. These lead to unwarranted arguments and attempts to prove a point. Moreover, our minds which get clouded in negativity refuse to let us reach the state of equilibrium.

Complaining: The other C is similar to the first C and yet more damaging. Complaining is taking criticism to a higher level and almost results in condemning others. As long as it is constructive in nature and comes with intent to resolve and rectify, it is still bearable. What takes the cake is complaining which sounds like whining. It is other extreme of appreciating. It creates a huge negative whirlpool from which we are unable to extricate ourselves. We also carry the feelings of hurt and annoyance in our minds which prevents us from experiencing bliss.

Comparing: Another C which we seem to be unable to avoid is the comparison bug. It is almost like a virus which is in the air. Many of us are comparing all the time - ourselves with those around us. It could be about anything - wealth, friends, physique, job, dogs, appliances etc. It gives us momentary pleasure when we see others in a worse situation than us and also give us sleepless nights when we see others enjoying more than us. Comparison is a never ending maze where people get lost and unable to recover their bearings. It is a method of inventing joy / sorrow out of nothing.

These three Cs are best avoided and conscious efforts taken to prevent ourselves from getting entrapped here. It would be a good idea to ask one of our close spiritual friends to help us in the process. If someone were to remind us each time we use these Cs, it will help us tremendously in making course corrections. Over time, we might become habituated to completely avoid them and progress towards the much coveted state of peace in our minds.

​7 Tips to Strengthen Your Intuition





When we have a big question or an important decision to make, many of us look outside of ourselves for the answers. Yet we often neglect to consult the most important authority of all: our own intuition.
Your subconscious mind is the source of your hidden genius and will always provide you with the knowledge you need to move forward in the right direction. This is true for all people, not just those who consider themselves to be psychic or highly intuitive.
Consider this: have you ever been thinking about someone – and out of the blue the phone rings and that exact person is on the line? Or have you ever felt like someone is watching you – and when you turn around you see someone staring at you from some distance away?

These are just two common examples of your intuition at work. Just like memory, critical thinking, and intellect, your intuition can strengthen and use to create success and become the best possible version of yourself.

Here are seven tips on how to develop your intuition and leverage it to make wiser, more soul-inspired decisions for your life.

1. Recognize when your intuition speaks
First of all, in order to be able to use your intuition, you must able to recognize it when it speaks to you. Intuition usually isn’t loud or demanding – it’s subtle and communicates in different ways for different people.

Your intuition might speak to you as a hunch, a thought, or in words. You may even be able to enter into a dialogue with your intuition to get more information and clarity.

You may receive intuitive messages through your emotions, such as feelings of uneasiness or confusion when your inner wisdom is steering you away from something – or feelings of euphoria and profound peace when you’re being guided down a path that will lead you to greater personal joy and abundance.

Sometimes intuition messages are simply a deep sense of knowing and certainty. If you’ve ever felt that you knew something to be true in the depths of your heart or soul, chances are it was a message from your intuition.

2. Deepen your intuition through meditation
In order to access your intuition, you need to deepen your connection to it – and meditation is an excellent tool for this. Regular meditation will help you clear your mind of distractions and teach you how to better recognize the subtle impulses from within.

I recommend you set aside time each day to meditate on your own, or use guided meditations.

It doesn’t have to be long – even 10 minutes a day will yield powerful results and will make it much easier for you to notice your intuition when it speaks to you through words, images, emotions, or physical sensations.

3. Dedicate time to listen to your intuition each day
Life is busy, and in the rush to cross off items on our daily to-do lists, it’s easy to forget to stop and tune into our higher intelligence. But your most valuable wisdom comes when you are most open to receiving it.

That’s why I encourage you to devote time every day – multiple times a day, if necessary – to consciously give your intuition center stage. This is especially important when you’re being asked to make any important decisions. Be sure to take some time to sit with your intuition and look inside yourself for the answers before you choose which path to take.

4. Ask questions
Receiving wisdom from your intuition shouldn’t be a passive experience. Get specific about the information you need and what kind of answers you’re looking for. The more clearly you pose your questions to your innate wisdom, the clearer the answers will be.

5. Write down your answers
Intuitive messages are subtle and can fade from your conscious mind very quickly unless you take action to record them. In fact, neuroscience research indicates that intuitive insights not captured within 37 seconds will likely never be recalled again.

Journal writing is a highly effective way to access your intuition and capture its wisdom. I suggest you make a regular practice of journaling for just five or ten minutes a day – you’ll be amazed at the clarity of what comes through!

6. Take immediate action
The Universe rewards those who take action – and so does your intuition. When you act on the information you receive from your inner source of wisdom, you open the channel between your subconscious and conscious mind even wider and will receive more intuitive messages that are stronger and easier for you to hear and act on.
7. Trust yourselfThe more faith you demonstrate in your intuition, the greater the results will be.

Whether you want to make better decisions, solve problems faster, or create winning plans for your life, you will achieve your goals faster and more effectively when you tune into your intuition and listen to what your inner wisdom has to say.
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Trusting your intuition is all about trusting yourself – and the more trust you place in yourself, the more success you will have.

Health: Protein Injection Which Could Replace Knee Surgery


By SARA MALM – September 3

A single injection of protein harvested from a patient's own blood may replace the need for knee surgery for osteoarthritis sufferers.
The new 20-minute procedure sees blood drawn from the patient's arm, separated in a centrifuge, after which part of the fluid is then injected into the arthritic knee.

The surgeon who brought the treatment to the UK believes it can stop the need for keyhole surgery for osteoarthritis of the knee altogether.
Osteoarthritis is the most common type of arthritis, particularly affecting people aged 65 and over.

The degenerative condition affects the cartilage – the joint's connective tissue – causing pain, stiffness and inflammation.

A trial study in the Netherlands published earlier this year showed that 85 per cent of patients had little to no pain in their knee six months after new procedure, which is called the NStride Autologous protein injection.
A further, larger, study based on work in Italy, Austria, Belgium and Norway, which has seen similarly positive results, is due to be published later this month.
About 55ml of blood is taken from a vein in the patient's arm, mixed with an anticoagulant and centrifuged at high speed for 15 minutes, causing the blood to separate into three layers – a yellow blood plasma; a red blood cell concentration; and a 'platelet-rich plasma', a solution comprising platelet cells and some white blood cells.

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Stop Begging People to Stay. Let them Go



To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did. 
There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this!
When people can walk away from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you,
loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you,
you can't make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person,
it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you've got to know when people's
part in your story is over so that you
don't keep trying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over.
Let me tell you something.
I've got the gift of good-bye.
It's the tenth spiritual gift,
I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful,
and I know whatever is meant for me to have
will come to me when it's time for it to.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something
that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life,
then you need to..JUST LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ..
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth...
If someone has angered you ...
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge ..
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction...
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or
talents..
If you have a bad attitude...
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...
If you're stuck in the past and doors keep opening up for change...
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help
themselves..
If you're feeling depressed and stressed..
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling
yourself and nothing works, take your hands off it and LET IT GO!!.

Let the past be the past.
Forget the former things.

Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then
LET IT GO!!!


Important: The above approach should not be considered for blood relationship (father, mother, brother, sister)... we must put a lot of efforts not to lose these relations...


Respect Your Parents - 35 Ways


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1. Put away your phone in their presence.
2. Pay attention to what they are saying.
3. Accept their opinions.
4. Engage in their conversations.
5. Look at them with respect.
6. Always praise them.
7. Share good news with them.
8. Avoid sharing bad news with them.
9. Speak well of their friends and loved ones to them.
10. Keep in remembrance the good things they did.
11. If they repeat a story, listen like it's the first time they tell it.
12. Don't bring up painful memories from the past.
13. Avoid side conversations in their presence
14. Sit respectfully around them.
15. Don't belittle/criticize their opinions and thoughts.
16. Avoid cutting them off when they speak.
17. Respect their age.
18. Avoid hitting/disciplining their grandchildren around them.
19. Accept their advice and direction.
20. Give them the power of leadership when they are present.
21. Avoid raising your voice at them.
22. Avoid walking in front or ahead of them.
23. Avoid eating before them.
24. Avoid glaring at them.
25. Fill them with ​your​ appreciation even when they don't think they deserve it.
26. Avoid putting your feet up in front of them or sitting with your back to them.
27. Don't speak ill of them to the point where others speak ill of them too.
28. Keep them in your prayers always possible.
29. Avoid seeming bored or tired of them in their presence.
30. Avoid laughing at their faults/mistakes.
31. Do a task before they ask you to.
32. Continuously visit them.
33. Choose your words carefully when speaking with them.
34. Call them by names they like.
35. Make them your priority above anything.

*Parents are treasure on this land and sooner than you think, that treasure will be buried.* *Appreciate your parents while you still can.*

Sense of Security!


Imagine what you could do in your life, - for yourself - your family - for other people. How could you master your relationship with money?

There are many people that are financially wealthy. They have lots of money but they live in fear of losing it. You probably know some people like that. Inspite of having sufficient money they seems to be not enjoying fully.

Once I understood how money is really created and how it flows into and out of our lives, I never feared losing it. I learned how to develop a trust in the "flow". If I lost the wealth I have right now, it would bother me certainly I may be in depression. I would probably be upset for a few days, but I know with certainty I could create it again and I can have stable life. To me this confidence is real freedom.

This freedom that comes from knowing you will never be without the flow of money into your life is more valuable than having wealth alone, because it is something that cannot be taken away.

When you have this freedom you do not have to live in fear of what is going to happen. You will have a sense of certainty about your future. This is what most people require. This is what everybody should develop to continue to have good productive life.

The Health of a Group or a Team


Suppose there are twenty friends, who approve of each other, who are very happy with each other.
 
Then even the most meaningless joke will evoke happy laughter. All get the happy relaxed face, the enjoyment of benign synergy, everyone listening to the other and smiling not at what one actually hears, but smiling in anticipation. The health of a society can be gauged on the basis of the prevalence of groups that collectively laugh and where one finds the members of the group whose faces wear a smile.
 
On the other hand suppose the members are basically disapproving of each other. Then even the funniest joke creates only a tepid reluctant smile. The smile will vanish instantly. In such a group manufacture of any grievance, becomes very easy and one finds agitations,vandalism,destruction,riots,the use of imagination for vituperation, never answering a question straight but changing the topic, hogging all the time for own outburst passed off as discourse...
 
The dominant fear in such societies is the fear of disapproval. As a result one never talks openly, but only tactfully.
 
Now where does one find the carefree smile? We find it mainly in communities that live in nature, where nature is blooming and prospering.
 
And where do we find people who are neurotic, diabetic, suffering from BP, always anxious, unable to sit relaxed but only in hurry. It is in our industrialized societies where people get imprisoned in the concrete jungles with pollution spewing vehicles, sounds of people quarrelling or marketing and bargaining...all propelled by only one emotion---anxiety as a hormonal system. And we call this advancement and development!!!!!!!
 
The deception called development is made acceptable by what is called the increase in economic growth, now a euphemistic adjective is also added to this phrase---the JOBLESS growth, a euphemism for the loot of livelihoods and nature. In this model of development, millions of employees become redundant,forests,rivers,lakes,beaches,the flora and fauna, get extinguished permanently...the very capacity or faculty of smile vanishes. Blind anger, in search of some reason to explode for venting, lies, below the surface. When the people lose livelihoods, and when they are not even allowed to save by tax on fake income with the term income itself left undefined, giving the power to damn any receipt as income, when loot becomes politics...,it is the road to anarchy and social depression.
 
Can we destroy our geography and prosper? We desperately need the blooming forests, rivers, the flora and fauna, to create livelihoods, to create the songs, dances, music,...the sense of happy belonging. Development or profit must mean profit to the environment, to the ecosphere, to the society and most unimportantly to the trader. Our system of accounting and book keeping must change to the holistic model.
YM

These Quotes from Children’s Books Are Surprisingly Wise








 


These inspiring words come from an unlikely source: children's books. Many important and profound life lessons are found in literature for the young ones. As children, we were so entertained by the stories, characters, and colorful illustrations that we never realized or understood the deeper messages these stories were teaching. Looking at them from adult eyes one can appreciate all the wise words these stories have to offer.
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From Winnie the Pooh, by A.A. Milne
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From Horton Hears a Who, by Dr Seuss
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From Charlotte's Web,  by E.B. White
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From Peter Pan, by J.M. Barrie
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From The Twits, by Roald Dahl
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From A Light in the Attic, by Shel Silverstein
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Technology Will Replace Many Professionals

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Faced with the claim that AI and robots are poised to replace most of today's workforce, most mainstream professionals — doctors, lawyers, accountants, and so on — believe they will emerge largely unscathed. During our consulting work and at conferences, we regularly hear practitioners concede that routine work can be taken on by machines, but they maintain that human experts will always be needed for the tricky stuff that calls for judgment, creativity, and empathy.
Our research and analysis challenges the idea that these professionals will be spared. We expect that within decades the traditional professions will be dismantled, leaving most, but not all, professionals to be replaced by less-expert people, new types of experts, and high-performing systems.
We conducted around 100 interviews, not with mainstream professionals but with leaders and new providers in eight professional fields: health, law, education, audit, tax, consulting, journalism, architecture, and divinity. Our focus was on what has actually been achieved at the cutting edge. We also immersed ourselves in over 800 related sources — published books, internal reports, and online systems. We found plenty of evidence that radical change in professional work is already under way.

There are more monthly visits to the WebMD network, a collection of health websites, than to all the doctors in the United States. Annually, in the world of disputes, 60 million disagreements among eBay traders are resolved using "online dispute resolution" rather than lawyers and judges — this is three times the number of lawsuits filed each year in the entire U.S. court system. The U.S. tax authorities in 2014 received electronic tax returns from almost 50 million people who had relied on online tax-preparation software rather than human tax professionals. At WikiHouse, an online community designed a house that could be "printed" and assembled for less than £50,000. In 2011 the Vatican granted the first digital imprimatur to an app called "Confession" which helps people prepare for confession.
   We believe these are but a few early indicators of a fundamental shift in professional service. Within professional organizations (firms, schools, hospitals), we are seeing a move away from tailored, unique solutions for each client or patient towards the standardization of service. Increasingly, doctors are using checklists, lawyers rely on precedents, and consultants work with methodologies. More recently, there has been a shift to systematization, the use of technology to automate and sometimes transform the way that professional work is done — from workflow systems through to AI-based problem-solving. More fundamentally, once professional knowledge and expertise is systematized, it will then be made available online, often as a chargeable service, sometimes at no cost, and occasionally but increasingly on a commons basis, in the spirit of the open source movement. There are already many examples of online professional service.

The claim that the professions are immune to displacement by technology is usually based on two assumptions: that computers are incapable of exercising judgment or being creative or empathetic, and that these capabilities are indispensable in the delivery of professional service. The first problem with this position is empirical. As our research shows, when professional work is broken down into component parts, many of the tasks involved turn out to be routine and process-based. They do not in fact call for judgment, creativity, or empathy.

The second problem is conceptual. Insistence that the outcomes of professional advisers can only be achieved by sentient beings who are creative and empathetic usually rests on what we call the "AI fallacy" — the view that the only way to get machines to outperform the best human professionals will be to copy the way that these professionals work. The error here is not recognizing that human professionals are already being outgunned by a combination of brute processing power, big data, and remarkable algorithms. These systems do not replicate human reasoning and thinking. When systems beat the best humans at difficult games, when they predict the likely decisions of courts more accurately than lawyers, or when the probable outcomes of epidemics can be better gauged on the strength of past medical data than on medical science, we are witnessing the work of high-performing, unthinking machines.

Our inclination is to be sympathetic to this transformative use of technology, not least because today's professions, as currently organized, are creaking. They are increasingly unaffordable, opaque, and inefficient, and they fail to deliver value evenly across our communities. In most advanced economies, there is concern about the spiraling costs of health care, the lack of access to justice, the inadequacy of current educational systems, and the failure of auditors to recognize and stop various financial scandals. The professions need to change. Technology may force them to.

Richard Susskind is IT Adviser to the Lord Chief Justice and Chair of the advisory board of the Oxford Internet Institute

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Story: Chicken, Chicken, Chicken

By Junaid Tahir

Colleague Faisal is a person who prefers to stay alone. He is kind of introvert person who does not mingle well with people. On Sunday noon time, he opens his lunch box and eats fried chicken which makes him feel good. On Monday noon, he opens the lunch box and eats fried chicken again. This time he does not like it as much as he did yesterday. On Tuesday, at lunch time, he opens the lunch box and finds fried chicken which he eats but this time I can feel irritation in his mood. Well, next comes the Wednesday, and guess what, he has fried chicken in his lunch box. He is annoyed to see fried chicken on fourth consecutive day but eats it without saying any words of complaint. On Thursday, just before the lunch break I converse:

"Most likely, you have fried chicken today"

"Yes"
"Why don't you ask your wife to give you something else for food which can keep your body healthy"
"I am unmarried, I pack my lunch myself"

"What !!! XoYz%*&%$O %$##  !@#%% "

Flash:This story might look strange but this is how we give mental food to our brains on daily basis. If we co-relate this story with a bad event of the past which we remember again and again, we are giving a special food called "Stress" to our mind on daily basis. Considering the fact that eating fried chicken on daily basis can lead our cholesterol levels towards danger zone causing chronic heart disease, can't we just think with common sense that giving stress to our brain and heart we are seriously impacting our body developing Sugar, High Blood Pressure, Heart blockage, Asthma, Anxiety and God know how many other diseases in the long run !!!
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So the choice is yours. Either we keep feeding your brain the germs of
negativity and stress  OR develop the power of not looking back and start living in today. Remember the fact that life never stops. People who live in their past, stop living on earth – or simply die soon. So we must exert our energies to bring something positive and fruitful today which can bring happiness in our life or in our loved ones' lives. About the problems we should develop the MGTD attitude: which means Meet them (confess the situation with no fear), Greet them (think positively), Treat them (focus on solution) and finally Defeat them (do practical things for eradication).


 

10 Powerful Habits That Will Boost Your Intelligence


To stay healthy, your brain needs exercise just like your muscles do. Spending a few minutes doing mental exercises will not only help strengthen your thinking but also improve your memory and even calm your mind. So today Bright Side brings you 10 habits that can help you expand your brain and exercise your mind.

1. Observe

Seeing is not the same as observing. Observing involves analyzing what you see. When observing, you will notice all the things that you have overlooked for a long time. Absorb what is around you, and do not stop imagining.
This article will help you develop your powers of observation.

2. Learn

If you open your mind and never stop learning, your brain will get used to wanting to know more and never stop that process. Embrace any opportunity you have to learn something from people who have a broader knowledge in certain areas.
This article will tell you about the surprising benefits of learning a new language.

3. Listen

When listening to the sounds around you, you absorb a part of the world. If you go for a walk down the street, pay attention to what other people are talking about in order to learn how they think.
You can also practice this habit by listening to new music.

4. Experiment

If you do not step out of your comfort zone and begin to experiment with new things, you may miss something that can change your life or your mind. Search for courses that catch your attention, and learn about a field you don't know much about.
This article will help you find the courage to get outside your comfort zone and take a step forward.

5. Expand

Never stay with your first acquired knowledge. Question things. Gradually your knowledge will grow, and your brain will get used to not settling for one piece of information.
These insightful books will help you expand your mind and look at our world through different eyes.

6. Talk

Learn from the people around you. Share the information you've stored in your brain over the years with a person who has done the same. Express your ideas, and develop new thoughts from the blending of your knowledge.

7. Exercise

The body and mind are one unit. If one is not in its best condition, the other could pay the consequences. Take 20 minutes a day to perform different exercises to oxygenate your mind.
Start now by trying to solve these riddles.

8. Meditate

If you start to watch your mind, how it behaves, and what it releases when you meditate, you'll get to know a little more. This break point can be revealing for your brain, and you'll feel how your mind relaxes.
This article will tell you about six super effective mental gymnastics techniques.

9. Analyze possibilities

Try to think outside the box, and always look for many possible answers rather than the most logical one. Never stop exploring ideas and generating possibilities and solutions.
Here's a test of your imagination and creative thinking.

10. Play with your mind

There is nothing wrong with taking your mind to unlikely places. When creating a universe in your head where everything is possible, you exercise your brain — even your sense of humor could have a very positive change.
Part of the secret of the effectiveness of these methods is to implement them every day — without tiring the brain, of course. Listen, observe, and take advantage of the world that you live in.

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The Power of Trust



Trust is largely an emotional act, based on an anticipation of reliance. It is fragile, and like an egg shell, one slip can cut it. It is fundamentally important in the healthy functioning of all of our relationships with others. It is even tied to our wealth: trust is among the strongest known predictors of a wealth –low levels tend to be poor. Low levels of trust are poor because the inhabitants undertake too few of the long-term investments that raise incomes. 
Oxytocin, a hormone and neurotransmitter, increases our propensity to trust others. When we are brought up in a safe, nurturing and caring environment, our brains release more oxytocin when someone trusts us. Experiences of stress, uncertainty and isolation interfere with the development of a trusting disposition and decrease oxytocin levels. 
Many leaders receive feedback that others don't find them trustworthy. But being trustworthy, in someone's eyes, is based on their own perceptions. Indeed, people don't automatically trust leaders these days. Trust needs to be earned through diligence, fidelity and effort.
If lack of trust is an issue which causes you concern, what can you do to manage perceptions of trust? Here are a few quick tips:
  • The leaders who work most effectively, it seems to me, never say 'I.' accept responsibility and don't sidestep down. This is what creates trust.
  • View promises you make as an unpaid debt.
  • Keep talking about what matters. “Tell three times is true."
  • Your reputation is like a brand. What you want to be known for. Brand is trust.
  • Be known as a truth teller in your organization. This preserves trust, as your people know that you did not lie, and, they understand that even though you have more information, strategic imperatives prevent you from sharing.
  • Earn the trust of your customers by insisting that everyone observes the "five pillars of trust":
  • Keep your promises.
  • Be willing to help.
  • Treat customers as individuals.
  • Make it easy for customers to do business with you.
  • Ensure that all physical aspects of your product or service give a favorable impression.
  • The more time you spend with people, the more the level of trust increases.

Organizations typically spend considerable energy and effort in team building initiatives, including workshops, retreats, and adventure type experiences. While all of these have their place, if organizations want to increase collaboration and enhance teamwork, they need to start with trust. It's the benchmark of healthy team relationships, it's a very simple process. It's all about individual behaviors. Do individuals behave in a trustworthy manner or not? There is only a pass or fail here. And what are these behaviors? We all instinctively know them, but sometimes we need to remind ourselves of what they are.
Trust is power. It's the power to inspire and influence. It's the glue that bonds us to each other, that strengthens relationships
George Washington said, "I can promise nothing but purity of intentions, and, in carrying these into effect, fidelity and diligence."
 

Helping Your Child with a Bully

Helping Your Child with a Bully
Bullying among children has always been common. While it was once largely tolerated as a part of childhood, experts now consider it to be a serious problem. The challenge is determining how much to involve yourself. Too little or too much involvement can have negative repercussions.
Ideally, you'll involve yourself just enough to get your child through it. Overreacting can create even more challenges at school and waste an opportunity to teach your child to be more self-reliant.

Bullying can take several forms:

1. Physical. Physical bullying includes behaviors such as hitting, kicking, pushing, and tripping.
2. Psychological. This type of bullying centers around embarrassing the child socially.
3. Verbal. Verbal bullying involves teasing and taunting.
The effects of bullying can be serious and result in violent behavior, poor grades, drug abuse and mental health issues.
There are many signs to suggest a child might be bullied. These include a change in behavior, ripped clothes or bruises, a change in school performance, and a change in the willingness to go to school.

Consider these steps to help your child deal effectively with a bully:

1. Get the whole story. Most kids are reluctant to share things with their parents. It might take some time. Let your child know that you want to help.
2. Encourage your child to tell the bully to stop. Whether bullying occurs in a school setting or in the workplace, the first thing that will be asked is, "Have you told them to stop?" It might seem like a moot point, but it's an important first step.
3. Contact the child's teacher and principal. Schools are frequently burdened with long processes that must be followed in these situations. The sooner you can get the ball rolling, the sooner real action can take place.
4. Request a copy of the school's bullying policy. By knowing the rules, you can make the best possible choices about how to move forward.
5. If your child is being physically bullied, consider contacting the local police. This is probably more appropriate for high school-aged children than for those in elementary school. But it's not a bad idea to generate some paperwork and a pattern of behavior if the school isn't cooperating. You can be sure the school will take things seriously if the police show up.
6. Encourage your child to seek assistance at the time of the bullying. If the bully is able to get away with the behavior, it's likely to continue.
7. Strengthen your child's self-esteem and self-confidence. Many children suffer from confidence and self-esteem issues that attract bullies. Most bullies are looking for a victim. Helping your child feel better about himself will repel many bullies.
8. Create some rules around your child's use of technology. Ensure your child is using the internet and cell phone in an appropriate manner. If your child is being bullied online, your immediate reaction might be to take away their internet access. This can be a mistake. Your child will be much less likely to share any future incidents with you.
9. If your child is being cyber-bullied, report it to the appropriate cell phone, internet provider, and websites. These companies are far more likely to respond to your concerns that at any other time in the past.
Avoid under or overreacting and be sure to get the entire story. Seek out the assistance of your child's teacher and principal to get the school administration involved in a timely manner.

Helping your child with a bully is practically a rite of passage for parents. No matter how wonderful your child might be, there's always that one kid that seems to take pleasure in making their life miserable. View it as an opportunity to help your child grow and develop.
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