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12 Habits of Perfectly Organized People



It's true what they say: clutter breeds clutter. There are so many of us who dream of running a less chaotic household or struggle to remember what ouroffice desk looks like. We crave order, yet at the same time resist due to the negative connotations attached to being perfectly organized.

There are many who believe being perfectly organized is like believing in unicorns: it's just not going to happen. There are also misconceptions that being "organized" means being a control freak or a neat freak. That if you prefer to organize the food in your fridge a specific way, you're not being efficient, you're being OCD. That you're not truly enjoying your life because you're focusing on mundane details you "shouldn't" consider important.

I'm here to say that's a huge pile of crap! As someone who's gone from chaotic and spontaneous to organized and efficient, there are so many benefits to the latter this topic could be turned into a self-help book. The top three benefits of being perfectly organized are:

Not being in a permanent state of "catch-up" decreases your stress level by 10,000 percent and increases your self-esteem by the same amount.
You're able to work less and accomplish more.
You always know where your keys are!

By being perfectly organized, you're respecting your most valuable commodity: time. It helps you accomplish all you set out to, both professionally and personally. It gives you the freedom to be exactly who you are and live a life of minimal stress, not to mention how much more enjoyable the present moment becomes.

If you'd like to feel this way too, here are 12 habits of perfectly organized people I've observed, read about, and am currently attempting to execute:

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1. They know who they want to be.

Perfectly organized people have an exact definition of how they want their life to be – from how they want their home to look, to how they want to dress, to how they spend their time – which makes it a lot easier to set goals and feel a sense of accomplishment.


2. They know how to say, "No."
Because they know exactly what they want, it's easier for them to say, "No": when they're offered a work project or invited to a social gathering that doesn't advance their lifestyle in some way, they're able to decline with confidence and aren't easily swayed by societal pressure.


3. They're mindful shoppers.
Just because something's on sale doesn't mean you have to buy it. Perfectly organized people always ask themselves, "Do I really need this?" before every purchase. Not only does this help keep your budget intact, it pushes you away from using instant gratification as a tool to cope with rough patches.


4. They've let go of their perfectionism.
If you try to do everything perfectly, it goes without saying you'll feel like a constant disappointment. Perfectly organized people channel their perfectionist tendencies into their most important tasks – work assignments, remodeling their home, exercising – and with tasks that aren't a priority, they do what they have to do to get the job done.

5. They don't believe in labeling anything "miscellaneous."

Though they don't have much to store due to their minimalist nature, when perfectly organized people do store items, they specifically label and index where everything can be found. Their bills are specifically filed, and their Christmas decorations are specifically cataloged.

6. They separate emotions from possessions.

They don't attach sentimental value to everything they own. For example, I still have my three favorite stuffed animals from when I was a kid, but not my entire collection. (I'm a big kid now!)

7. What they don't need, they don't own.

They don't buy anything until they know it's something they're going to use right away or in the near future. From personal experience, there's no worse feeling than cleaning an item more than you enjoy it. Trust me, you won't miss the dusting. At all.

8. They clean as they go.

Instead of waiting for the dishes to pile or the recycling to take itself out, the perfectly organized carve out chunks of time to maintain their lifestyle. This might sound like a drag, but there's no better feeling than having time off, andnot having to spend it running errands or cleaning, since they're already taken care of.

9. They understand the power of one.

One checking account. One savings account. One credit card. One email address. Perfectly organized people understand that consolidation and simplicity equals more freedom.

10. When it comes to planning, they're all about the details.

Perfectly organized people don't just plan in advance: they plan way in advance, and they plan in detail. Sure, their to-do lists look like scrolls, but it's only because they've broken down each of their tasks into manageable mini-tasks. Not only does this make each goal less overwhelming, it also helps you foresee any potential conflicts that could get in the way of your end result. BAM!

11. They don't procrastinate.

Because of how much respect they have for their time, perfectly organized people don't procrastinate, and they have no reason to: because of their maintain-as-they-go, to-do-list-Zorroing way of life, there's no need to.

12. They believe in quality over quantity.

To perfectly organized people, quantity equals clutter. They'd rather be surrounded by a minimal amount of items, all of which they use, enjoy, and actually have time to take care of properly. Professionally, they'd rather streamline their focus into a specialty where they can thrive, instead of working in more than one area and completing mediocre work.

Do you strive to be perfectly organized? Why, or why not?
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How to Stop the Relationships Blame Game


Most of us have learned defensiveness as a mode of survival. For some of us, this approach manifested itself in our adult minds and continues to control our lives, especially in relationships. Blaming the other person for your misery and continuing in the vicious circle of the "blame game" is not only damaging to the quality of your relationship but also unhealthy for your emotional well-being.

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Step 1 :  Understand how you contributed to the problem. Analyzing the mistakes on your part is the first step to finding a solution. There is really no soul-quenching satisfaction in proving that you are right and he is wrong. As how Louis Nizer puts it, "When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself."7 Qualities of Highly Ethical People

Step 2Take responsibility for all your actions and words. Regardless of how victimized you feel, remember there are two individuals contributing to a relationship. Admit your mistakes, offer ways to correct it and avoid its recurrence.

Step 3 :  Communicate your concerns without assigning responsibility or blame to the other person. Deal with issues in a calm manner instead of letting things fester without taking the time to resolve the issue.

Step 4 :  Remember that you can inspire and motivate someone else to change but the initiation has to come from the other person. Criticizing and complaining, of all tactics, is not going to effect a change. A relationship should never be a power struggle about who is right.
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Step 5Accept the other person entirely instead of having conditions and expectations. Trying to find fault will overshadow the beautiful things that are genuinely a part of your relationship.


Step 6Respect the other person's point of view. Try not to assume that dealing with an issue based on your values and beliefs is the only right way to go about it. Understanding and acknowledging the other person's outlook gives a chance to grow in love.

Don't Change Who You Are To Please Someone Else



You can never be happy as some ones other half unless you can be happy as a whole all on your own.

Never change or fear being yourself, and never compromise in being true to who you are within for the benefit of someone else.


Maintaining integrity throughout your life is key to thriving and living a triumphant life. Only those with real strength, are able to really embody and live as their true selves in every moment. Those who are able to do so live from within first, instead of trying to present an image on the outside to attract others.

The people that are genuine in your life will always recognize when you are living with integrity and will always steer this glorious path.
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They will never ask you to or encourage you to compromise who you are as a person in order to see some sort of gain. Because they understand whatever you gain from doing so wont add any real value or substance to your life.
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$6 billion Company that Started with a Tweet

Here's a tweet Travis Kalanick sent in January 2010. The reply from Ryan Graves happened 3 minutes later. That tweet was worth over a billion dollars.
January 2010 was the month Travis was doing a test run with 3 cars in New York for a mobile app that he and his friend, Garrett Camp, had just created.
They had decided it was time to start a company around the app and, needing to find a General Manager to run it, Travis took to Craigslist and Twitter looking for the right person.
Ryan's reply to Travis came as he was looking for something new. He had some experience at GE, and had worked for Foursquare for a while for free after the company turned him down for a job. He was ready for a new opportunity - and took a chance with this tweet.
Travis replied back, they met, they hit it off, and Ryan joined Travis and Garrett on March 1st as their first hire.
With their new company started, the three of them then invited all their friends to demo the product and they officially launched in San Francisco just 3 months later on May 31st.
That was five years ago.
This week, the team that started with that tweet has built their company, Uber, into a company that is currently valued at over $60 billion (they just announced another funding round of $2 billion this week http://bit.ly/ubers-next-2-billion).
Today, Travis and Ryan are worth over
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$6 billion, and that tweet from Ryan (who today is Uber's Head of Global Operations) began a journey which has made him a billionaire today as well.
How are you using Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Youtube today?
As a wall of content? As a broadcasting tool?
Or, like Travis and Ryan, as a way to find the resources, connections and opportunities you need when you need them?
Depending on how you use it, social media can make you feel apart from everyone, or one step to anyone.
It can overwhelm you, or empower you.
It can be a time waster, or a time saver.
"Never confuse motion with action."
~ Benjamin Franklin
What do you need or who can you help today? It may just be a tweet away.
Of course, there is no promise that one connection or one tweet will result in you making a billion dollars or impacting a billion lives.
But there is no promise it won't either.

Starting Small - Taking Baby Steps In Life



We all put off doing unpleasant chores, difficult tasks, or intimidating projects. The problem is when we put things off, we still have to do them sooner or later and often procrastinating only makes things worse. It's helpful to start by taking baby steps towards doing anything that we feel stressful or fearful about.

Your first step might be to just make a list of the things you want to accomplish. Perhaps a list of house cleaning chores, paperwork, or things you've always wanted to do, but felt apprehensive about, like taking scuba diving lessons, or reconnecting with estranged family.

Another way of getting started is to give yourself a time limit. Again, start small and commit to 20 minutes of housework, for instance, or one hour of studying. You'll probably find that once you start the task, it's not really that bad and you'll be able to give even more time to it. Then reward yourself with an afternoon at the beach or a
​coffee Try to spend some time everyday working on the tasks you want to complete. Finishing them will probably be reward enough, but you can always treat yourself to something special for a job well done.

You may have to take a different approach to things you feel apprehensive about, but again baby steps can get you there. For instance, if you really want to learn to salsa, but are afraid you might look foolish, start by renting a video so that you can practice at home. Your next step might be to try a class at a recreation center or community college rather than hitting a club. When you become familiar with the music and some basic steps, you'll probably find that you enjoy dancing so much that you don't care what you look like. It's also good to remind yourself, that everyone started at the beginning, even if they've been dancing for years.

In approaching people you feel intimidated by, you could start by writing a letter, even if you don't send it. Write down all the things you want to say and rewrite the letter until you feel good about it. After that, you may want to send the letter or you may feel ready to call or talk to the person face to face.

Taking one step at a time can take you a long way towards your goals. If you trip, or fall, just get back up and put one foot in front of the other. You'll probably be there before you know it!



Each one of us is a source of love


 

 

We seek it here, we seek it there, we look for love everywhere! We expect it to come to us, usually through another person. All our conditioning says it is something that happens to us. The mythology of our fables, legends and modern day entertainment industries say it is something we 'fall into'. And yet...and yet real love cannot be acquired, possessed or accumulated. It cannot be known when we think it comes from outside ourselves. The ultimate paradox is we are it. We are love. Each one of us is a source of love that has forgotten that 'love is what I am'. Say it now "I am love". Doesn't feel right does it? That's because its been so long since we knew and experienced ourselves in this true way. And yet we all know that the deepest trust and the purest love is known and experienced only when we give it, not take it. As we give love in whatever way is appropriate, we are the ones to experience it first, on the way out. Falling in love is impossible. It is only infatuation, obsession with an external object which appears to fill a gap in ourselves. As soon as the object or person is remembered when they are not present and when they do not need to be remembered, it is simply attachment which, if sustained, will become a dependency. And attachment and dependency are not love. But you already know that...don't you?

Humor: The 5 Questions


​5 most common questions asked by wives and most common wrong answers:​

1. What are you thinking about?
2. Do you love me?
3. Do I look fat in this?
4. Do you think she is prettier than me?
5. What would you do if I died?

What makes these questions so difficult is that each one is guaranteed to
explode into a major argument if the man answers incorrectly (i.e. tells the truth). Therefore, as a public service, each question is analyzed below,
along with possible responses.

Question #1: What are you thinking about?
The proper answer to this, of course, is: "I'm sorry if I've been pensive, dear.
 I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent
woman you are, and how lucky I am to have met you."

This response obviously bears no resemblance to the true answer,
which most likely is one of the following:
a. "Football."
b. "Golf."
c. "How fat you are."
d. "How I would spend the insurance money if you died."

Perhaps the best response to this question was offered by Al Bundy,
who once told Peg, "If I wanted you to know what I was thinking,
 I would be talking to you!"

Question #2: Do you love me?
The proper response is:
"Yes!" or, if you feel a more detailed answer is in order, "Yes, dear."

Inappropriate responses include:
a. "Oh yeah, sh*tloads."
b. "Would it make you feel better if I said yes?"
c. "That depends on what you mean by love."
d. "Does it matter?" e. "Who, me?"

Question #3: Do I look fat?
The correct answer is an emphatic: "Of course not!"

Incorrect answers are:
a. "Compared to what?"
b. "I wouldn't call you fat, but you're not exactly thin."
c. "A little extra weight looks good on you."
d. "I've seen fatter."
e. "Sorry, what did you say? I was just thinking about how
 I would spend the insurance money if you died."

Question #4: Do you think she's prettier than me?
Once again, the proper response is an emphatic: "Of course not!"

Incorrect responses include:
a. "Yes, but you have a better personality."
b. "Not prettier, but definitely thinner."
c. "Not as pretty as you when you were her age."
 d. "Define pretty."
e. "Sorry what did you say? I was just thinking about
 how I would spend the insurance money if you died."

Question #5: What would you do if I died?
A definite no-win question.
(The real answer, of course, is "Buy a Ferrari and a boat.")

So work, work, work. And work sincerely


Work!!!
God created man to work.Work is man's greatest duty. Man is nothing. He can do nothing. Achieving nothing; fulfilling; nothing without working. Work is man's most dependable function.

If you are poor - Work.
If you are rich - Work.
If failures discourage you - Work.
If success encourage you - Work.

You have been burdened with unfair responsibilities - Work.
You have been entrusted with deserving responsibilities - Work.
You have not been paid fairly - Work.
You have been paid handsomely - Work.

When dreams are shattered - Work.
When faith falter - Work.
When future appears bleak - Work.
When hope seems dead - Work.

Work is the greatest stress - buster.
Work is the mightiest morale - booster.
Work is a best boredom - beater.
Work is the equally effective disease - fighter.

If you neglect your work, You invite worry, fear, doubt & debt.
Work is the greatest for all the problems.

So work, work, work. And work sincerely.

Avoid Losing Control in Tough Situations

There will always be someone to disagree with you at every turn. You want to stay calm, but you find yourself feeling irritated, angry, and anxious. You feel like you're losing control. Does this sound familiar?

Fear of Losing Control? Keep your cool by employing these techniques:

1. Avoid reacting automatically. We've all been there. The conversation goes to a ridiculous place that lacks credibility. You might automatically say something like, "That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard!"
  • If you can stay in tune with your feelings, you'll identify when you're "heating up" and can avoid damaging reactions.
2. Develop canned responses to controversial subjects. For example, if you hang out with certain friends who consistently bring up political views opposite of yours, avoid getting involved in the conversation.
  • Decide in advance what you'll say if someone brings up a contentious subject. For example, you could say something like, "I prefer to discuss something other than politics today."
3. Use diversion to avoid emotionally-loaded topics. If someone mentions a delicate topic, change the subject. "Hey, did you see the NFL game last night?" or "Have you guys tried the new Mexican restaurant downtown?" Your friends will notice your lack of interest in the topic at hand.
4. Make an exit. If you're fairly certain you're about to lash out in anger, immediately exit the situation. When you're in a group, you can quietly leave. If it's just you and one other person, you can excuse yourself to use the restroom or make a phone call.
5. Share brief, honest feelings. Depending on the setting and situation, you could state something like, "I'm too upset to discuss this now." This tells the other person how you feel, so hopefully they will refrain from pushing the issue.
6. Use history to your advantage. If you and a particular co-worker have had negative interactions during previous projects, chances are that the same thing will happen again.
  • Recognize that history often repeats itself and avoid unnecessary debates. Minimize contact and maintain your positivity in any necessary exchanges with that co-worker.
7. Accept others for who they are. Of all these suggestions, this point may be the toughest to accomplish. Realize that each individual is unique and they're entitled to their own opinion, which may be different from yours.
  • Sometimes, it best keeps the peace when you agree that it's all right to disagree. Each person has their own opinion based on their own life experiences and point of view. Each one is "right" in his own way.
  • Another way to look at some situations: you may view your brother-in-law as stubborn, but there's little you can do to change that. You lack the power to change his mind, but you can control your own temper and reaction.
The power to keep your cool, regardless of the situation, lies within you. If you put these steps into practice, you'll be able to control your temper in most circumstances. Difficult situations are a part of life and they'll continue to happen. But now you're armed and ready to maintain your cool.
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Time to Delete These Apps from Your Phone

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There are millions of apps available for download just for iOS alone. All of them are supposed to make your life easier, more convenient, more fun – but do they really? Or, at least, do we really need all the apps that an average modern person has installed? Here are some telltale signs that may give an insight on how you can declutter your phone and, by extension, your life.


1. Check How Much Energy and Space It Uses

Even the most inconspicuous apps sometimes turn out to be eating up your phone's battery and free space like crazy. If you feel that their usefulness doesn't justify these excesses, feel free to remove them immediately. iPhones don't boast holding a charge for a long time as they are, and every app that drains energy forces you to recharge them more and more often.

2. You Haven't Used This App in a Month

If you haven't opened the app in question a single time within a month, chances are you won't do it ever again. And even if you will, this fact shows that you can just as well do without it. If you want to see the list of essential apps that can actually improve your life without eating up your time and money, you may find it at this website – it will save you quite a lot of time and effort you'd otherwise waste scoring the AppStore for useful apps.
  

3. It Is More Fuss than It Is Worth

By definition, apps are supposed to make our life more convenient, save our time, make certain tasks easier and in general increase our efficiency. However, quite often what we get as a result is quite different from what is advertised. Many apps tend to use up more of our time and effort than they save, which is especially funny in case of time-tracking and efficiency apps that are supposed to force us use time more responsibly. If you feel that an app demands too much of your attention without providing visible returns for it, it may be better to get rid of it.

4. Apps That Waste Your Time

There are apps that waste your time inadvertently, due to poor design or your own addiction to efficiency tracking. And there are apps that are created for the specific purpose of wasting your time, distracting you and turning using them on a regular basis into habits. All these little games, puzzles, social media apps and suchlike don't do you any good – they just leech out your time and attention, not to mention battery charge and free space.

5. Apps That Duplicate Each Other

Sometimes you download a whole lot of similar apps to see which one you will like best, but then cannot settle upon any one of them. As a result, you have a number of apps you either don't use at all or use sparingly, sitting uselessly on your phone. So look closely at all the apps you have installed and check if some of them have the same features, or are used for similar purposes. If you find those, decide here and now which ones you are going to use and which ones go to the dustbin.
Deciding whether you need an app or don't may be tricky – sometimes an app should sit on your phone for quite a while for you to understand whether you are going to use it or not. But when it comes to decluttering your phone and your life, less is usually better than more – so if you are not sure, better delete the app in question and be through with it.

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Show Gratitude to People Who Love You



1. Share a specific example of something they did for you and how it made a difference in your life.
2. Do something little but thoughtful for them—like clean up after dinner!
3. Give a long, intimate hug; or if you know they don't like hugs, stick out your hand for a handshake to cater to their preferences and make them smile.
4. Tell them you're there if they have anything they want to talk about—and let them know they have your full attention.
5. Give them something of yours that you think they would enjoy, and let them know specifically why you want them to have it.
6. Invite them to do something you know they've always wanted to do.
7. Encourage them to try something you know they want to try, but haven't yet because they're scared.
8. Offer to do something you know they don't enjoy doing, like organizing their closet or mowing their lawn.
9. Compliment them on a talent, skill, or strength that you admire.
10. Look them straight in the eyes and say, "You make the world a better place

Who Will You Chose to be - Drive 1 or Driver 2?

Driver 1 drives the Corolla. He paid it off already, has a 2 bedroom house paid for, makes 300K per year and has no debt/credit to pay, saves handsome amount and sleeps happily.
Driver 2 drives the Merc Benz. He has 3 Years left to pay it off, has a 4 bedroom house with hundreds of thousands left to pay, makes 200K per anum and has poor credit, lot of debt to pay, sleeps with a lot of stress each night 
Sadly many people would choose to be driver 2 because of what it looks like in spite of the reality that driver 1 is more wealthy. Amazon founder Jeff Bezos is a good example of driver 1. Your circumstances will never change until the way you think changes.

6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage


6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage


Unfortunately, there aren't many classes in high school or college that teach us how to be successful in long-term relationships and divorce is common. That's regrettable, because a fulfilling relationship can contribute so much toward enjoying a happy and successful life.
There are many things you can do to strengthen your marriage and help make it last until death do you part. If you want to have the best chance of marital success, it's a wise idea to learn some of these strategies.

Researchers have shared these tips on how to strengthen marriages and make them last:

1. Have realistic expectations. It's easy to make it through the early stages of a relationship when everything is new and exciting. But those annoying little habits aren't quite as cute and endearing ten years into the future. A relationship requires work and energy to grow and thrive.
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2. Become good at saying "I'm sorry." Despite your best efforts, you'll make mistakes in your marriage. Studies have shown that the people slowest to apologize are the ones most likely to stay single or get divorced.
  • Sometimes you have to decide if you'd rather be correct or happy. Be strong enough to say you're sorry and move on.
3. It's okay to argue in a respectful way. The presence of arguing in a relationship doesn't affect its success as much as how a couple argues. One psychologist claims a 95% success rate for predicting which relationships would fail just by listening to an argument for five minutes!
4. Laugh together. Remember the good times you've shared. Talk about and relive them. Reminiscing about fun times helps keep couples together.
  • Consider creating some happy, new memories and remind your partner about the great times you've already enjoyed. Laughing together strengthens your marriage!
5. You need five good times for each bad one. Research has shown that marriages require at least five positive interactions for each negative one. What is a good interaction? A fun afternoon, a positive conversation, or a good hug. You know what a negative interaction is. 
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6. You can complain, but avoid criticizing. If your partner's behavior is bothering you, it's okay to point it out and ask them to stop. But, avoid attacking your partner. You can say, "It drives me crazy when you throw your dirty socks all over the floor." But avoid saying, "You're such a slob. What's your problem?"
  • Most people can accept that they might be doing something bothersome. However, that's different from being personally attacked.
A happy marriage is important for you and your children. There are times when we all have to put our own needs aside and do whatever we can to strengthen our relationships. These tips will help you work toward a happy partnership as you give your marriage the time and attention it deserves.
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Convincing Your Boss to Make You a Manager

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Are you, or is someone you know, an individual contributor who wants to move into a management role, either with your current organization or a new one? But, how can you sell yourself as a manager when you've never actually been one?

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The basic fact is that every manager originally lacked professional management experience; and yet, of course, many people end up as managers. The chasm between individual contributor and manager can be crossed, but only if you can effectively demonstrate and describe your management skills.
So how do you begin making the transition?
First, ask yourself whether you really want to move up. A certain proportion of the people who do their jobs well eventually get promoted into management, but some actually find that they miss their individual contributor roles and dislike managing other people. A management title or salary can be appealing, but in the long run, management may not be the professional role that you really want. If you're convinced that it is what you want, or that you at least want to try it, then get to work convincing other people that you're ready for it.

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Then find out what's needed to achieve a management position in your organization and strive to resemble that management candidate. Start by showing management capability with the tasks you're already doing as an individual contributor. Consider Eric, a young man who has been very successful in a tech company he recently joined. He quickly decided that he needed to create a dialogue with upper management to assure that he could work his way up to a management position as promptly as possible. He asked:
  • What are the requirements needed to advance?
  • What are the skills that I'll need to demonstrate?
  • How can I best demonstrate them?

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By asking these questions, he was viewed as a serious contender for a higher role and learned what was most valued in his company. He realized that part of his efforts would hinge around how well he managed himself. He would need to be proactive about setting his own agenda, so the people managing him wouldn't have to. He found that his boss could then become the person who approved, rather than directed, a number of his initiatives.
Eric showed that he was taking the bigger picture into consideration in how he approached his work. He treated each assignment as if he was the project manager, showing that he could "own the project". He over-communicated with his colleagues and his boss. By taking a proactive approach, he would not be seen as a passive participant, but as someone who could make things happen.
By actively showing what he could do, Eric was swiftly promoted to a management position that has developed and grown, much to his satisfaction and that of his company. He did this by making sure that the powers-that-be observed his efforts and were fully aware that he was ready to advance.
So what, exactly, should you say to your manager and when should you say it? Put in an early request for those watching you to be aware of your ambition so they can see it enacted. You can say things like:
  • "I'm ready to move ahead in the organization" or "I will be ready soon."
  • "I'm enjoying what I do and I look forward to taking on more."
  • "I'd like to be a candidate for the manager position that's coming up."
  • "I've only been here for two years, but I've learned a lot and I want to keep learning and growing."
Notice that each of the sentences above takes an upbeat and confident approach to staking your claim. Readiness, a positive lookout, self-knowledge and willingness to learn are the main themes. These kinds of pronouncements don't guarantee that you'll gain traction on your goals, but it can make their achievement far more likely than if you don't speak up. Your current manager — or a potential hiring manager — is busy; you want them to be alerted to your professional abilities and desires.
How else can you boost your case for becoming a manager? You can procure and share endorsements: "Jane and Joe will tell you that I organized a way for us to attack the Jones account and that it worked well for us all." You can discuss your eagerness to help solve problems: "I'm glad that I was able to find a new way for us to handle the volume of online queries," or "I'd like to help the group brainstorm about making the upcoming event really productive." These messages focus on taking the lead, helping others, and solving problems for the organization.

New Manager's Fundamentals – Some Critical Points
There will no doubt be other extenuating circumstances that factor into your chances of moving into a management role. If there's currently someone in the position that you'd like, and he or she is not moving any time soon, you can acknowledge that reality, express your interest in moving up some day and, meanwhile, enrich your current job so that you're in training for a larger role when the time comes.
If your boss or mentor is someone who has strong beliefs about employees needing a long tenure in an entry level role, or a particular academic or training credential that you don't have, acknowledge it; for example: "I know that you value a longer stay at my level, but because of the current expansion of the business, I've been able to jump into a lot more projects more quickly than I would have otherwise." And, of course, you can often move up the ranks more quickly by looking outside of your current organization.

My Boss is Taking Credit for my Work
As you contemplate the management role you'd like to obtain, review your own experiences in managing a goal, a group, or a process and the insights and skills the experience has given you. Lay out very clearly what you have learned about managing, inside or outside of a professional setting. State the additional management skills that you look forward to learning, and your plan to learn them. Make the pitch, and demonstrate that you are the upcoming management talent that the organization needs.




Anna Ranieri, MBA, PhD is an executive coach, career counselor and speaker - Source HBR