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Understanding Misunderstandings

Most people don't understand themselves or others. we need to make time for this. We get too impatient. Very often, because we are not willing to take this time, misunderstandings continue.
We don't take time to listen to someone quietly and try to understand them. Then we start inventing things about them, because we simply haven't taken the time to understand.

Samsung App that can stop kids holding phones too close to their faces

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Samsung has developed an app called Safety Screen which forces users, especially young children, to hold their mobile devices at an ideal viewing distance from their eyes.
The free app, available on Android only, runs in the background and uses facial recognition software to determine when a smartphone or tablet is held too close the eye.
When this happens, a "friendly" animation (pictured on the right) pops up and the screen is shut down. The screen comes back on again when the device is returned to the minimum recommended safe distance, which is around 25cm but varies depending on the size of the screen being observed. 
The app allows parents to set a password that can prevent children from deactivating the app.
Tarek Sabbagh, head of the IT and mobile division at Samsung Gulf Electronics, told Business Insider that Samsung would like to see the technology deployed on as many mobile devices as possible, adding that the South Korean tech giant "will explore developing an iOS version" of the app.
According to the Vision Council, an organisation that aims to champion better sight, there is an increase in short sightedness that scientists attribute to a mix of genetic and environmental factors, including increasing near-range activities such as the use of phones and tablets, and decreasing exposure to natural light through outdoor activities.
Safety Screen was built by Samsung engineers working in the United Arab Emirates. Samsung said the app has received 16,000 downloads across the Middle East and North Africa region since it was launched two weeks ago. The company did not have any worldwide numbers to share.

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Technology: An Overview of Cloud Computing

We have been using cloud computing for ages, in one form or another. It comprises of services and data bases that are accessed through web or any private network. It is basically a paradigm where a large pool of systems is connected in private or public networks to provide infrastructure for application, data and file storage.
This technology has decreased the cost of computation, application hosting, content storage and delivery. Cloud computing has proven to be a practical approach to experience direct cost benefits and also has the ability to transform a data center from a capital-intensive setup to a variable priced environment.

Models for Cloud Computing

Services that Cloud Providers offer can be categorized into three groups:

Software as a service (SaaS)

It offers a complete application to the customer as a service on demand. Highly scalable internet based applications are hosted on the cloud and are offered as services as the end users. SaaS is offered by companies such as:
  • Amazon Web Services
  • CA Technologies
  • Salesforce
  • Windows Azure
  • Open Stack etc.

Platform as a Service (PaaS)

In this group, a layer of software or development environment is encapsulated and is offered as a service upon which other higher levels of service can be built. It provides freedom to the customer to build his/her own applications that can be run on provider's infrastructure. Some prominent PaaS Cloud Computing Companies are
  • Concur Technologies
  • Cisco
  • Google
  • Ariba
  • Unisys etc.
Here, the platforms are used to design develop, build and test applications are provided by the cloud infrastructure.

Infrastructure as a service (IaaS)

It provides basic storage and computing capabilities as standardize services over the network. The customer typically deploys his own software in the infrastructure. Some prominent IaaS Cloud Companies are
  • Amazon (EC2)
  • GoGrid
  • Microsoft
  • HP
  • AT&T
  • RackSpace etc.
It is a pay per use model which offers services like storage, database management and compute capabilities on demand.

Understanding the Public, Private & Hybrid Clouds

Cloud Computing is based on the cloud location and they can be further classified as:

Public Cloud

It includes third parties that deliver superior economies of scale to customers, give each individual client an attractive "low-cost'. With limited configuration, all customers typically share the same infrastructure pool. The benefit of Public Cloud is that they are larger than an enterprise cloud and thus provide the ability to scale seamlessly on demand.

Private Cloud

Private clouds are built exclusively for a single enterprise and they aim to address concerns on data security. The benefit of private cloud is that they offer greater control which is typically lacking in public clouds.

Hybrid Cloud

Both public and private cloud models come under the Hybrid Cloud. It is capable of providing on-demand externally provisioned scale. This enables service providers to utilize third party cloud providers in a full or partial manner and thus increasing the flexibility of computing.

The Advantages and Disadvantages of Cloud Computing

Presently, companies of all sizes have begun to adapt to Cloud Computing and this technology is evolving like never before. This trend is expected to grow and develop even further in the coming few years.


It offers the following advantages:
Cost efficiency
It is probably the most cost-efficient method to use, maintain and upgrade.  In terms of finance, the traditional desktop software costs companies a lot and adding up the licensing fee for multiple users can prove to be very expensive. On the other hand, Cloud Computing can significantly lower the company's IT expenses.
Unlimited Storage Capacity
Cloud gives almost unlimited storage capacity for storing information.
Quick Deployment
Once opting for cloud computing gives the advantage that the entire system becomes fully functional in a matter of few minutes.
Information from anywhere
Cloud users can access the information more easily and from anywhere, where there is availability of internet connection.
Backup and Recovery
Backing up and restoring the data in cloud computing is much easier than storing the same on any physical device.


Cloud Computing is undoubtedly beneficial for mid-size to large scale companies, it is not without its downsized specifically for smaller businesses. Small businesses need to be aware of these aspects before adapting to this technology. The main risks that are involved in Cloud Computing are as follows
Security is a major issue in cloud computing, businesses should be aware of the fact that they will be submitting their company's sensitive information to a cloud service provider. Therefore they are required to choose the most reliable cloud service provider.
Vulnerable to attacks
Companies are vulnerable to hack attacks and threats while storing information in the cloud. Therefore there are always chances of stealth of delicate information about the companies.
Dependent on Internet Connection
There can always be a possible downtime as small businesses depend on their internet connection while using cloud computing.
By using a cloud computing vendors services, it often relates to locking the business into using their proprietary applications.
By these few drawbacks, it does not mean that Cloud Computing is not beneficial at all. Owners of the small businesses have different needs and different comfort levels and it may be more advantageous to use cloud computing for certain applications.
Clould Computing can prove to be a great asset to companies if it is understood and used properly and can be an opportunity for small businesses to stabilize the efforts implied by IT management.
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Determined and Purified Thoughts

Determined Thought

Determined thoughts disperse the clouds of negative situations. A lot of negative situations are bound to come our way, resulting in grief, pain and disappointment. At the time, such difficulties feel insurmountable and seem to last forever.
I need to recognise that the difficulties I face are like passing clouds. These clouds that gather around me at times, are only temporary - sooner or later they will fade away. Understanding that no problem lasts forever will help me develop the determination I need to work on my problems. I will then be able to face any situation with ease.

15 Qualities You Need to Develop Mental Toughness

We all reach critical points in our lives where our mental toughness is tested. It might be because of a toxic friend or colleague, a dead-end job, or a struggling relationship.
Whatever the challenge, you have to be strong, see things through a new lens, and take decisive action if you want to move through it successfully.
It sounds easy. We all want good friends, good jobs, and good relationships.
But it isn't.
It's hard to be mentally tough, especially when you feel stuck. The ability to break the mold and take a bold new direction requires that extra grit, daring, and spunk that only the mentally toughest people have.
It's fascinating how mentally tough people set themselves apart from the crowd. Where others see impenetrable barriers, they see challenges to overcome.
When Thomas Edison's factory burned to the ground in 1914, destroying one-of-a-kind prototypes and causing $23 million in damage, Edison's response was simple: "Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up. Now we can start fresh again."
Edison's reaction is the epitome of mental toughness--seeing opportunity and taking action when things look bleak.
There are habits you can develop to improve your mental toughness. In fact, the hallmarks of mentally tough people are actually strategies that you can begin using today.

1. Emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the cornerstone of mental toughness. You cannot be mentally tough without the ability to fully understand and tolerate strong negative emotions and do something productive with them. Moments that test your mental toughness are ultimately testing your emotional intelligence (EQ).
Unlike your IQ, which is fixed, your EQ is a flexible skill that you can improve with understanding and effort. It's no wonder that 90 percent of top performers have high EQs, and that people with high EQs earn $28,000 more annually (on average) than their low-EQ counterparts.
Unfortunately EQ skills are in short supply. TalentSmart has tested more than a million people, and we've found that just 36 percent of these are able to accurately identify their emotions as they happen.

2. Confidence.

"Whether you think you can, or think you can't--you're right." --Henry Ford
Mentally tough people subscribe to Ford's notion that your mentality has a powerful effect on your ability to succeed. This notion isn't just a motivational tool--it's a fact. A recent study at the University of Melbourne showed that confident people went on to earn higher wages and get promoted more quickly than others did.
True confidence--as opposed to the false confidence people project to mask their insecurities--has a look all its own. Mentally tough people have an upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish because their confidence inspires others and helps them to make things happen.

3. The ability to neutralize toxic people.

Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. Mentally tough people control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their emotions and don't allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos. They also consider the difficult person's standpoint and are able to find common ground and solutions to problems. Even when things completely derail, mentally tough people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.

4. Knowing how to embrace change.

Mentally tough people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness. They look for change that is lurking just around the corner, and they form a plan of action should these changes occur.
Only when you embrace change can you find the good in it. You need to have an open mind and open arms if you're going to recognize, and capitalize on, the opportunities that change creates.
You're bound to fail when you keep doing the same things you always have in the hope that ignoring change will make it go away. After all, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

5. Saying no.

Research conducted at the University of California in San Francisco showed that the more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression. Mentally tough people know that saying no is healthy, and they have the self-esteem and foresight to make their noes clear.
When it's time to say no, mentally tough people avoid phrases such as "I don't think I can" or "I'm not certain." They say no with confidence because they know that saying no to a new commitment honors their existing commitments and gives them the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
The mentally tough also know how to exert self-control by saying no to themselves. They delay gratification and avoid impulsive action that causes harm.

6. Knowing that fear is the No. 1 source of regret.

Mentally tough people know that, when all is said and done, they will lament the chances they didn't take far more than they will their failures. Don't be afraid to take risks.
I often hear people say, "What's the worst thing that can happen to you? Will it kill you?" Yet, death isn't the worst thing that can happen to you. The worst thing that can happen to you is allowing yourself to die inside while you're still alive.
It takes refined self-awareness to walk this tightrope between dwelling and remembering. Dwelling too long on your mistakes makes you anxious and gun shy, while forgetting about them completely makes you bound to repeat them. The key to balance lies in your ability to transform failures into nuggets of improvement. This creates the tendency to get right back up every time you fall down.

7. Embracing failure …

Mentally tough people embrace failure because they know that the road to success is paved with it. No one ever experienced true success without first embracing failure.
By revealing when you're on the wrong path, your mistakes pave the way for you to succeed. The biggest breakthroughs typically come when you're feeling the most frustrated and the most stuck. It's this frustration that forces you to think differently, to look outside the box, and to see the solution that you've been missing.

8. … Without dwelling on mistakes.

Mentally tough people know that where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you fixate on the problems that you're facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress, which hinders performance. When you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy, which produces positive emotions and improves performance.
Mentally tough people distance themselves from their mistakes, but they do so without forgetting them. By keeping their mistakes at a safe distance, yet still handy enough to refer to, they are able to adapt and adjust for future success.

9. Refusing to let anyone limit your joy …

When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction is derived from comparing yourself with others, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When mentally tough people feel good about something they do, they won't let anyone's opinions or accomplishments take that away from them.
While it's impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don't have to compare yourself with others, and you can always take people's opinions with a grain of salt. Mentally tough people know that regardless of what people think of them at any particular moment, one thing is certain--they're never as good or bad as people say they are.

10. … And not limiting the joy of others.

Mentally tough people don't pass judgment on others because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don't need to take other people down a notch to feel good about themselves.
Comparing yourself with other people is limiting. Jealousy and resentment suck the life right out of you; they're massive energy-stealers. Mentally tough people don't waste time or energy sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they measure up.
Instead of wasting your energy on jealousy, funnel that energy into appreciation. When you celebrate the success of other people, you both benefit.

11. Exercising.

A study conducted at the Eastern Ontario Research Institute found that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more socially, intellectually, and athletically competent. They also rated their body image and self-esteem higher. Best of all, rather than the physical changes in their bodies being responsible for the uptick in confidence, which is key to mental toughness, it was the immediate, endorphin-fueled positivity from exercise that made all the difference.

12. Getting enough sleep.

It's difficult to overstate the importance of sleep to increasing your mental toughness. When you sleep, your brain removes toxic proteins, which are by-products of neural activity when you're awake. Unfortunately, your brain can remove them adequately only while you're asleep, so when you don't get enough sleep, the toxic proteins remain in your brain cells, wreaking havoc by impairing your ability to think--something no amount of caffeine can fix.
Mentally tough people know that their self-control, focus, and memory are all reduced when they don't get enough--or the right kind--of sleep, so they make quality sleep a top priority.

13. Limiting caffeine intake.

Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine triggers the release of adrenaline, the source of the fight-or-flight response. The fight-or-flight mechanism sidesteps rational thinking in favor of a faster response to ensure survival. This is great when a bear is chasing you but not so great when life throws you a curve.
When caffeine puts your brain and body into this hyper-aroused state of stress, your emotions overrun your behavior. Caffeine's long half-life ensures you stay this way as it takes its sweet time working its way out of your body. Mentally tough people know that too much caffeine is trouble, and they don't let it get the better of them.

14. Not waiting for an apology to forgive.

Mentally tough people know that life goes a lot smoother once you let go of grudges and forgive even those who never say they're sorry. Grudges let negative events from your past ruin today's happiness. Hate and anger are emotional parasites that destroy your joy in life.
The negative emotions that come with holding on to a grudge create a stress response in your body, and holding on to stress can have devastating consequences (both physically and mentally). When you forgive someone, it doesn't condone their actions; it simply frees you from being their eternal victim.

15. Being relentlessly positive.

Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time, and you'll see that it's just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies, and environmental disasters. It's easy to think the world is headed downhill fast.
And who knows? Maybe it is. But mentally tough people don't worry about that because they don't get caught up in things they can't control. Instead of trying to start a revolution overnight, they focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power--their attention and their effort.

Bringing it all together.

Mental toughness is not an innate quality bestowed upon a select few. It can be achieved and enjoyed.
What else makes people mentally tough? How many of these 15 qualities describe you? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.

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The GROW Model for Success

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As a leader, one of your most important roles is to coach your people to do their best. By doing this, you'll help them make better decisions, solve problems that are holding them back, learn new skills, and otherwise progress their careers.
Some people are fortunate enough to get formal training in coaching. However, many people have to develop this important skill themselves. This may sound daunting but, if you arm yourself with some proven techniques, practice, and trust your instincts, you can become a great coach.
The GROW Model is a simple yet powerful framework for structuring your coaching or mentoring sessions. We'll look at how to apply it in this article.

About the Model

GROW stands for:
  • Goal.
  • Current Reality.
  • Options (or Obstacles).
  • Will (or Way Forward).
The model was originally developed in the 1980s by performance coach Sir John Whitmore, although other coaches, such as Alan Fine and Graham Alexander, have also helped to develop it.
A good way of thinking about the GROW Model is to think about how you'd plan a journey. First, you decide where you are going (the goal), and establish where you currently are (your current reality).
You then explore various routes (the options) to your destination. In the final step, establishing the will, you ensure that you're committed to making the journey, and are prepared for the obstacles that you could meet on the way.


In its traditional application, the GROW Model assumes that the coach is not an expert in the client's situation. This means that the coach must act as a facilitator, helping the client select the best options, and not offering advice or direction.
When leaders coach their team members, or act as mentors to them, this may or may not apply. On one hand, it's more powerful for people to draw conclusions for themselves, rather than having these conclusions thrust upon them. On the other hand, as a team leader, you'll often have expert knowledge to offer. Also, it's your job to guide team members to make decisions that are best for your organization.

How to use the Tool

To structure a coaching or mentoring session using the GROW Model, take the following steps:

1. Establish the Goal

First, you and your team member need to look at the behavior that you want to change, and then structure this change as a goal that she wants to achieve.
Make sure that this is a SMART goal: one that is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound.
When doing this, it's useful to ask questions like:
  • How will you know that your team member has achieved this goal? How will you know that the problem or issue is solved?
  • Does this goal fit with her overall career objectives? And does it fit with the team's objectives?

2. Examine the Current Reality

Next, ask your team member to describe his current reality.
This is an important step. Too often, people try to solve a problem or reach a goal without fully considering their starting point, and often they're missing some information that they need in order to reach their goal effectively.
As your team member tells you about his current reality, the solution may start to emerge.
Useful coaching questions in this step include the following:
  • What is happening now (what, who, when, and how often)? What is the effect or result of this?
  • Have you already taken any steps towards your goal?
  • Does this goal conflict with any other goals or objectives?

3. Explore the Options

Once you and your team member have explored the current reality, it's time to determine what is possible – meaning all of the possible options for reaching her objective.
Help your team member brainstorm as many good options as possible. Then, discuss these and help her decide on the best ones.

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By all means, offer your own suggestions in this step. But let your team member offer suggestions first, and let her do most of the talking. It's important to guide her in the right direction, without actually making decisions for her.
Typical questions that you can use to explore options are as follows:

4. Establish the Will

By examining the current reality and exploring the options, your team member will now have a good idea of how he can achieve his goal.
That's great – but in itself, this may not be enough. The final step is to get your team member to commit to specific actions in order to move forward towards his goal. In doing this, you will help him establish his will and boost his motivation.
Useful questions to ask here include:
  • So, what will you do now, and when? What else will you do?
  • What could stop you moving forward? How will you overcome this?
  • How can you keep yourself motivated?
  • When do you need to review progress? Daily, weekly, monthly?
Finally, decide on a date when you'll both review his progress. This will provide some accountability, and allow him to change his approach if the original plan isn't working.

Tip 1:

A great way to practice using the model is to address your own challenges and issues. By practicing on your own and getting yourself "unstuck," you'll learn how to ask the most helpful questions. Then, write down some stock questions as prompts for future coaching sessions.

Tip 2:

The two most important skills for a coach are the ability to ask good questions and the ability to listen effectively.
Don't ask closed questions that call for a yes or no answer (such as "Did that cause a problem?"). Instead, ask open ones, like "What effect did that have?" Be prepared with a list of questions for each stage of the GROW process.
Use active listening skills and let your "client" do most of the talking. Remember that silence provides valuable thinking time: you don't always have to fill silence with the next question.


You're helping a team member, Julie, achieve her goals using the GROW Model.
Julie says that she would like a promotion to team leader within the next two years. This is a SMART goal – it's specific, measurable, attainable (as she already has one year of experience, and there are several team leader positions in her department), relevant (both to Julie's overall career aspirations and the team's mission), and time-bound.
You and Julie now look at her current reality. She's in an entry-level position, but she already has some of the skills needed to be team leader. You brainstorm the additional skills that she'll need in order to be successful in a team leader role: She needs more experience of managing other people, and experience dealing with overseas customers. She also needs to continue performing well in her role, so that she'll be considered for a promotion when one is available.
You then both review her options. To get the experience she needs, she could lead a small team on a small project. She could also spend time in the overseas team.
Finally, you establish the will. As her manager, you offer to let her lead a small team on a minor project. If she performs well, she can take on additional projects with more responsibility in the future. Julie must also approach the overseas team to arrange to spend time in that department, and continue performing well in her current role. You agree to review her progress in three months' time.

Key Points

The GROW Model is a simple four-step process that helps you structure coaching and mentoring sessions with team members.
GROW is an acronym that stands for:
  • Goal.
  • Current Reality.
  • Options (or Obstacles).
  • Will (or Way Forward).
You can use the model to help team members improve performance, and to help them plan for and reach their longer-term career objectives.
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Silly Things That Make You Less Likeable

Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few—the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It's easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likeable is under your control, and it's a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ).
In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over 500 descriptions of people based on their perceived significance to likeability. The top-rated descriptors had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive (innate characteristics). Instead, the top descriptors were sincerity, transparency, and capable of understanding (another person).
These adjectives, and others like them, describe people who are skilled in the social side of emotional intelligence. TalentSmart research data from more than a million people shows that people who possess these skills aren't just highly likeable; they outperform those who don't by a large margin.
Likeability is so powerful that it can completely alter your performance. A University of Massachusetts study found that managers were willing to accept an auditor's argument with no supporting evidence if he or she was likeable, and Jack Zenger found that just 1 in 2000 unlikeable leaders are considered effective.
I did some digging to uncover the key behaviors that hold people back when it comes to likeability. Make certain these behaviors don't catch you by surprise.

Humble-bragging. We all know those people who like to brag about themselves behind the mask of self-deprecation. For example, the gal who makes fun of herself for being a nerd when she really wants to draw attention to the fact that she's smart or the guy who makes fun of himself for having a strict diet when he really wants you to know how healthy and fit he is. While many people think that self-deprecation masks their bragging, everyone sees right through it. This makes the bragging all the more frustrating, because it isn't just bragging; it's also an attempt to deceive.

Being too serious. People gravitate toward those who are passionate. That said, it's easy for passionate people to come across as too serious or uninterested, because they tend to get absorbed in their work. Likeable people balance their passion for their work with their ability to have fun. At work they are serious, yet friendly. They still get things done because they are socially effective in short amounts of time and they capitalize on valuable social moments. They focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers, remembering what people said to them yesterday or last week, which shows people that they are just as important to them as their work is.

Not asking enough questions. The biggest mistake people make in conversation is being so focused on what they're going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what's being said. The words come through loud and clear, but the meaning is lost. A simple way to avoid this is to ask a lot of questions. People like to know you're listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that not only are you listening but that you also care about what they're saying. You'll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking questions.

Emotional hijackings. My company provides 360° feedback assessments, and we come across far too many instances of people throwing things, screaming, making people cry, and other telltale signs of an emotional hijacking. An emotional hijacking demonstrates low emotional intelligence. As soon as you show that level of instability, people will question whether or not you're trustworthy and capable of keeping it together when it counts.
Exploding at anyone, regardless of how much they might "deserve it," turns a huge amount of negative attention your way. You'll be labeled as unstable, unapproachable, and intimidating. Controlling your emotions keeps you in the driver's seat. When you're able to control your emotions around someone who wrongs you, they end up looking bad instead of you.

Whipping out your phone. Nothing turns someone off to you like a mid-conversation text message or even a quick glance at your phone. When you commit to a conversation, focus all of your energy on the conversation. You'll find that conversations are more enjoyable and effective when you immerse yourself in them.

Name-dropping. It's great to know important and interesting people, but using every conversation as an opportunity to name-drop is pretentious and silly. Just like humble-bragging, people see right through it. Instead of making you look interesting, it makes people feel as though you're insecure and overly concerned with having them like you. It also cheapens what you have to offer. When you connect everything you know with who you know (instead of what you know or what you think), conversations lose their color.

People are averse to those who are desperate for attention. Simply being friendly and considerate is all you need to win people over. When you speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, people are much more attentive and persuadable than if you try to show them that you're important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are more attracted to the right attitude than who you know.

Gossiping. People make themselves look terrible when they get carried away with gossiping. Wallowing in talk of other people's misdeeds or misfortunes may end up hurting their feelings if the gossip ever finds its way to them, but gossiping is guaranteed to make you look negative and spiteful every time.

Having a closed mind. If you want to be likeable, you must be open-minded, which makes you approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is unwilling to listen. Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace, where approachability means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people's eyes. This doesn't require that you believe what they believe or condone their behavior; it simply means that you quit passing judgment long enough to truly understand what makes them tick.

Sharing too much, too early. While getting to know people requires a healthy amount of sharing, sharing too much about yourself right off the bat comes across wrong. Be careful to avoid sharing personal problems and confessions too quickly. Likeable people let the other person guide them as to when it's the right time for them to open up. Over-sharing comes across as self-obsessed and insensitive to the balance of the conversation. Think of it this way: if you're getting into the nitty gritty of your life without learning about the other person first, you're sending the message that you see them as nothing more than a sounding board for your problems.

Sharing too much on social media. Studies have shown that people who over-share on social media do so because they crave acceptance, but the Pew Research Center has revealed that this over-sharing works against them by making people dislike them. Sharing on social media can be an important mode of expression, but it needs to be done thoughtfully and with some self-control. Letting everyone know what you ate for breakfast, lunch, and dinner along with how many times you walked your dog today will do much more harm than good when it comes to likeability.

Bringing It All Together

When you build your awareness of how your actions are received by other people, you pave the way to becoming more likeable.
What other things make people less likeable? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below, as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.
AUTHOR: Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0,

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In 1879, Procter and Gamble's best seller was candles. Yes, they made candles...
But the company was in trouble. Thomas Edison had invented the light bulb, and it looked as if candles would become obsolete. Their fears became reality when the market for candles plummeted since they were now sold only for-special occasions.

The outlook appeared to be bleak for Procter and Gamble. However, at this time, it seemed that destiny played a dramatic part in pulling the struggling company from the clutches of bankruptcy. A forgetful employee at a small factory in Cincinnati forgot to turn off his machine when he went to lunch. The result?

A frothing mass of lather filled with air bubbles. He almost threw the stuff away but instead decided to make it into soap. The soap floated. Thus, Ivory soap was born and became the mainstay of the Procter and Gamble Company.

Why was soap that floats such a hot item at that time?

In Cincinnati, during that period, some people bathed in the Ohio River. Floating soap would never sink and consequently never got lost. So, Ivory soap became a best seller in Ohio and eventually across the country also.

Like Procter and Gamble, never give up when things go wrong or when seemingly unsurmountable problems arise. Creativity put to work can change a problem and turn it into a gold mine.......

Necessity is mother of inventions..

opportunity knocks, but once only.. be prepared to seize it !

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​12 Basic and Easy Steps to Burn Fat

Many people use all the resources and advice that have at their disposal to eliminate those extra kilos that his body has yet to succeed in its aim only have to implement some habits to lose weight fast.
According to a study by Cornell University, making small, consistent changes in our eating habits, promotes sustainable weight loss and the development of healthy practices.
 Follow these steps to look better!
Researchers clarify that only should pay attention to the things that work for everyone, and if in fact it is constant in adopting new habits. To achieve the figure you've always wanted, just follow these steps.
  1. Warm water: According to Teresa Cheung, author of the lemon juice diet, states that drinking a glass of warm water with lemon juice helps eliminate body fat. In addition, Ann Louise Gittleman, author of "Fat Flush for Life", states that this drink keeps the body hydrated, improves digestion and increase levels of vitamin c.
  2. Coconut oil: The Coconut Research Center details that this oil increases metabolism, making it easier to burn calories. In addition, the Sports Science Unit, School of Medical Sciences, University Sains Malaysia, said that coconut water has less acidity, calories, so it is a drink that hydrates you after exercise.
  3. Protein at breakfast: Include them in your diet is essential, and that give you a feeling of satiety throughout the day, according to Food Navigator-USA. Choosing this type of product quality is much better than carbohydrates, which only fill you with energy, but its effect on satiety passes quickly.
  4. Schedule your food: According to a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, the frequency of food intake is related to burning fat, i.e., people who eat smaller portions more times a day accelerate weight loss.
  5. Drink green tea: Research published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition notes that this drink is rich in catechins, which increase the thermogenic effect on the body, i.e., increase body temperature to accelerate fat burning.
  6. Practice exercise: According to a study published in the Journal of Obesity, if you practice high-intensity exercise several times a week, it is easier to burn fat, especially if it is aerobic movements.
  7. Do not eat too much at dinner: According to Dr. Mark Hyman, ideally have dinner two hours before going to bed, as the satisfied feeling not only prevents a good rest, but your metabolism slows down and cannot properly process food.
  8. Eliminate sugars: According to specialists Nutrition Authority, you must remove the starchy foods and sugar, and favoring insulin secretion, which slows fat burning and increases the feeling of hunger.
  9. Drink plain water: Satisfy your thirst with natural water, this way you eliminate toxins from your body.
  10. Use smaller plates: It will give you a feeling that you have a large portion of food and have a greater satiety, according to a study by Cornell University.
  11. Sleep well: Sleep deprivation is associated with weight gain, so watch your night hours, according to research published in the American Journal of Human Biology.
  12. Relax: Stress increases the production of the hormone cortisol, which promotes the accumulation of fat in the abdomen, according to a study published in Obesity Reviews.
 Destroy the barriers!
In research published in the Journal of Medical Internet Research highlights that the common barriers that prevent people make these changes are inadequate advice, lack of time, holidays and food intake by emotions.  In this way, the scientists detail that for people looking to lose weight and acquire a healthy lifestyle, it is best to start with relevant and feasible for each person advice.
Do not hesitate to ask for help from specialists and combine exercise, this way you will get the weight you want in a safe and healthy way.

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