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Brilliant Advice on How to Reset and Deep Clean Your Life

If your cup is full, you can't pour water in it. That's one of the governing principles of all time. It's impossible to turn the tide of your life and to rewrite your history if you act depending on unsorted issues from your past.
Your life puzzle will continue to form same picture if you continue to use the same elements. It doesn't matter how many times you try to mix them differently.
Use a reset to start a mindful formation of yourself and your new path.
Don't achieve this by searching for new goals, declaring how you see yourself in five years, or by analyzing your mission and purpose. This whole process will be stuck in your old beliefs, which are the ones that take away a whole lot of your energy.
You should start by decluttering your life, both physically and mentally.
Uncontrolled hoarding leads to two things:
  1. Endless repetition of your past. Your life starts to be filled with déjà vu.
  2. Deceleration of life speed. It's when you look at those who are able to do three times as much as you do and can't wrap your mind around the fact how they manage that. Success in life and self-actualization in all spears of life is only possible at full speed.
It makes sense to tidy up your life in three dimensions: past, present, and (don't be surprised) future. Pardon my French, but yes, there is already a pile of shit dumped on your future, and that's something you need to clean as well.
Start with the present. It's the most objective. It's here and now. A full-scale purge of the current moment will vitalize and energize you. Believe me, those are the sensations you will undoubtedly need again.

The main thing is to get rid of all the hanging questions from your to do list.

I'd like to mention that I don't suggest you polish your present all at once like some Cinderella (well, sure it would be useful!) — At first, you need to sort out the mess and bring «unsolved cases» to a close, even if you have to reset them. You have to take out the tasks from a waiting-list and bring them into operation if they have been there for more than a couple of weeks. This will truly invigorate you.
Here are the things to do this weekend to get a good start at re-vamping your life:

1.Throw away trash

Get rid of all the trash. Discard it, give it away, or take it to a foster house. Never use the «I'll put it in this box and maybe someday take it to a church». Actually take it away. Don't leave anything on a waiting-list.
So, what is junk?
It's everything you don't use. Here's the deal: everything you haven't used throughout the year (that's pretty lawful) you have to give away, sell or discard, including:
— Clothes you don't wear.
— Most of the souvenirs apart from those that actually make your house a home (in fact, it's usually a minority of what you own).
— Inutile or outmoded dishes and consumer electronics.

The more you get hold of, the better it is for you. You should understand that literally every small thing is a fraction of your energy. Take a practical view of the situation and bring only delightful things that you can make use of into your new life. When you approach your belongings, ask yourself: «Do I want to keep this energy, or should I let new energy take its place?»
If your cup is full, you can't pour water in it.
You are the one emptying your cup. You can pour in as much as you pour out. If you are greedy, don't be surprised when there's no room for big change.
All in all, a full-scale cleaning is a game called «To what extent am I ready to let new experience into my life?»
The more you throw away, the more ready you are. By the way, this case applies to all the spaces you own, including your office, your summer house, your car, and even your private jet (if you have one). Surprise your colleagues — tidy your desk for real, start a genuine cleaning process!

2. Delete files

​Taking out the trash is just the thick end of the stick. That's time to delete files! How much time do you spend online in front of your computer? This is your space as well, even if it's virtual. It's also a share of your energy.
We are used to storing everything on our computers. Why delete any of it? The hard drive will fit everything.
The same principle applies here: cleaning is a way to let energy loose. Leave only the files you like and value. Why would you keep a film that you didn't enjoy? Why do you save those old useless files? It's a part of you. Do you want to take it with you, even though it's obvious that the more weight you are caring, the slower you go? Or, do you want to make place for something new?
Your work computer needs the after action review as much as your personal PC. Don't forget to do the same with your social media accounts, blogs, and websites.

3. Organize your things

I never was a fan of immaculacy, so I even took time to build creative chaos, sheltering myself behind my propensity for art.
Here is what I've got to say now: balanced order (not frantic, but organized) guarantees that your affairs will go smoothly, especially if it's time to speed things up. You won't be able to switch your speed if chaos prevails on your working desk and in your apartment.

4. Filter incoming information

A flow of incoming information also needs order and tidying-up. It's food for thought and something your brain functioning depends on. That's the only way to put it. Have you heard of information intoxication? That's a common condition many people suffer from nowadays. They read whatever they find on the net and constantly share quotes of great men, by which a true whisper of their souls is silenced.
Information tends to accumulate; it doesn't go anywhere from the subconscious, that's why we should meticulously filter information. We should let in only what's valuable and start implementing it at once, which will allow it to educate us. Otherwise it'll clutter our channels and create powerful infoglut. This'll cause you to make mistakes on your way, because you won't be able to hear the true whisper of your soul.
That's why I recommend you to do these things today:
  1. Give your friend list a clean.
    Delete all friends whose updates are not sympathetic and inspiring.
  2. Clean your news feed
    Delete or hide those people whose updates get on your nerves, and especially those who post adverse information on world events.
  3. Nail down a list of blogs and websites you are planning to read
My main principle for determining significance of an information source is a feeling of it striking a deep chord in my heart. That's when you read something and you can sense inner feedback, a recognizable feeling of awareness, and an appetite for action.
In no way should you use «I received an email, so I'll subscribe and read it» principle. No. This should be a selection of those resources that fulfill you and make you happy. It should be purged and filled with new resources regularly.

5. Finish all pending business and reset it to zero

It's essential to carry through with all business from your waiting-list. You should change its status to «in process,» start doing it, and get it done; or, reset it to zero. It's better to decide for yourself that at this point you stop doing something than carry the burden with you. You should sense that everything is done, current affairs are in order, and there are no hanging questions. That's the «first speed» to get to a «What do I want from this life» question and move towards intended changes.
In conclusion, I should say that the deep cleaning process for your present includes two key pillars: decluttering on all levels, and harmonization of your affairs.
Tune your channels in such a way that you only receive practical quality information in reasonable quantities, and you'll see how your world transforms.
You can recreate yourself only if you remember not to be held back by your late experiences.
Let the clean-up begin!
​Author: Olesya Novikova

The PMP - How it Ruined Project Management

The PMP - How it Ruined Project Management
Stuart Hamilton

Project Leader
There has always been a class of worker that is paid for their labor, not for their expertise. There is a reason they were called “laborers”. The IT professional used to be part of the workforce where they were highly skilled and earned a premium for their experience. Now employers, often while employing contract IT labor through agencies, look for a few base criteria, and then differentiate only on price. The IT professional might not be digging ditches, but they are now a “laborer”.
There are several reasons for this. The first is the rise in “Certification”. As a Project Manager, I used to earn a healthy consultant’s rate while using my experience as an engineer, to implement complex technical solutions. I had to be able to communicate with the developers, architects, DBAs, Network, Operations, and I could, because I had already served my apprenticeship as a developer and Systems Engineer. I was now the Lead of a group of IT staff, themselves skilled and experienced. Then along came the PMP. About 2007/8 I noticed jobs that needed the PMP qualification. There is value for a young neophyte in Project Management in pursuing the qualification since it would help develop them as a PM. Instead, I (without a PMP) was losing out to being presented for consultant opportunities. Agencies would explain, “We love your 20 year experience, but they will throw us out if we present anyone without a PMP.” They explained that it was better to present a resource with 5 years experience and a PMP, than a 20 year veteran without a PMP. So I begrudgingly got the PMP. It wasn’t that hard, but now I faced the issue of being presented against someone who had little experience in Project Management, or Engineering, or Management. Hey -We both had the PMP so we must be equally qualified, right! And I (no surprise) am more expensive with 20 years experience than someone who has only been out of school for 5 years. I had become a commodity, and when you are an expensive commodity, you are facing a tough road.

The result in hiring cheap, inexperienced PMs has now degraded the profession. You can’t assign leadership of a complex project to a “green bean” with a PMP, so instead of hiring an experienced PM, you dumb down the job requirement. The duties of a PM have switched from someone who identifies and solves your problems, and lead solutions, to someone who can maintain the project schedule, arrange meetings, and track actions on spreadsheets.  The Project Manager is now a low level functionary, so I have been struggling to give myself a more accurate title. I thought about calling myself a System Integrator, since that is often used by the Big 4 as they trundle in their high priced consultants, since the perception is that only a Big 4 company has the expertise to deliver on complex projects. Unfortunately, behind the curtain of the Senior Partner of the Big 4, is a school bus filled with eager, intelligent newbies, who can carry your water, but don’t expect them to identify and solve problems. To be fair to them, they just haven’t had the advantage of experience or maturity to develop enough wisdom to know how to be insightful or versatile. In the new paradigm, if they are called ‘Project Managers”, what can I call myself to try and highlight the difference in quality? Project Director perhaps, a nod to the fact that I have operated at Director or VP level ? Maybe “Program Manager” since there is a connotation that a Program is bigger than a project. Unfortunately, the Program manager has suffered the same degradation in responsibilities and now is responsible for managing the Methodology.

The Curse of the Methodology:  Instead of having the PM work out what needs to be done and then the PM taking care of it, (all behind the scenes), there emerged methodologies (PMP or otherwise) that try to ensure that the PM follows the menu of daily activities. Don’t get me wrong, a lean methodology to enforce good governance is a good thing, but on my last engagement, every project (big or small) had to lodge a minimum of 21 documents, and often as many as 40. These documents are lengthy, repetitive, and take weeks of the PM and other team members to fill out. Then they all go into the archive where they will never be read. I even heard the head of the PMO complain that they thought a step was common sense until the inexperienced PMs kept missing it, so they instead developed another document and checklist to try and generate the activity. Instead of tackling the symptom, they should be tackling the illness – inexperienced (but certified!) PMs. The most important part was that the documents were completed, not that they were read or were useful. The document load got so great, they even developed a portal to keep track of all the documents that were submitted. The documents were poor quality since everybody knew they weren’t useful, so the PMO then started layering multiple signoffs for each document by individuals or committees. The number of people needed to deliver on simple projects now mushroomed, all dependent on the paperwork mill. It was not in anyone’s interest to challenge this since the PMO and the governance committees were dependent on this activity for their existence at the company. Reduce the burden on the project, and you would have to let go 75% of the non-productive overhead.

And this is just my story. It could be said for all the IT profession. When you hire a developer, you look to see if they have specific experience in a particular language. They do, but when they arrive, they are only as useful as the direction you can give them, and since the PMs themselves are equally inexperienced, the product is inadequately formed. The experienced developer (who would have intuitively known and guided the Product manager what was best for the product development) is him/herself trying to differentiate on experience but losing on price to the cheapest commodity.

The solution for these problems is for hiring managers to rise up, reject the cheapest candidates presented by the vendor management system, and explain that they need experienced assistance from IT professionals.  You should expect more of your IT professional and then make sure you get candidates who can meet those expectations; don’t dumb down all these professions. In the end, you get what you pay for, and I’m still the cheapest insurance against failure you can get.

Tim Christensen, PMP, ITIL
Sr. Consultant at Blue Slate Solutions

​Very well written and a spot-on description of the perils of credentialing. I see scores and scores of PMPs with limited, at best, real PM skills. They think PM is filling out a form, writing meeting agendas and minutes and compiling a weekly report. PM is about looking 2 feet ahead and 2 months ahead and sometimes 1 year ahead all at the same time. It's not about PowerPoint slides, Outlook Calendars, and nifty lists and tables in Word. PM is about coalescing talent, focusing on priorities, consoling the client(s), and keeping an eye on risks...I do believe the proliferation in PMP credentials has dumbed down the profession, and ultimately, weakened the certification. PMI has been almost singularly focused on revenue, membership and promotion of their credentials. They have tossed quality to the side.


Humor: Laws of Life

💮 Law of equality :
The time taken by a wife when she says I'll get ready in 5 minutes is exactly equal to the time taken by husband when he says 'I'll cal you in 5 minutes!

💮 Law of Queue:
If you change queues, the one you have left will start to move faster than the one you are in now.

💮 Law of Telephone:
When you dial a wrong number, you never get a busy tone.😅

💮 Law of Mechanical Repair:After your hands become coated with grease, your nose will begin to itch.

💮 Law of the Workshop:
Any tool, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible corner.😐

💮Bath Theorem:
When the body is immersed in water, the telephone rings.

💮 Law of Encounters:
The probability of meeting someone you know increases when you are with someone you don't want to be seen with.

💮 Law of the Result:
When you try to prove to someone that a machine won't work, it will.

💮 Law of Bio mechanics:
The severity of the itch is inversely proportional to the reach.

💮 Theatre Rule:
People with the seats at the farthest from the entry arrive last. 😅

💮 Law of Coffee:
As soon as you sit down for a cup of hot coffee, your boss will ask you to do something which will
last until the coffee is cold. 😩

💮 Law of Proposal : (for bachelors of 92)
After you accept a proposal you will get a better one...😜

💮 Law of getting late
When you reach early for something it will never start on time😜😉

💮 Law of exam
If you didn't read a page which is of least importance, first question will be from that page only. 😜😜😝

Story: Mothers Are To Be Honored

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One young man academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the Young Man's academic achievements were excellent all the way,
from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score good grades.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the Young Man answered "None."

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?"
The Young Man answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees."
The director asked, "Where did your mother work?"
The Young Man answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner."
The director requested the Young Man to show his hands. The Young Man showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?"

The Young Man answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me."

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning."

The Young Man felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The Young Man cleaned his mother's hands slowly.
His tear fell as he did that.
It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the Young Man realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the Young Man quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the Young Man went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the Young Man's eyes, asked: "Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The Young Man answered, "I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes."

The Director asked, "Please tell me your feelings."

The Young Man said,
Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not be the successful me today.
Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, "This is what I am looking for to be my manager."

I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of
others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.
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Message of the Day - Respect the Women

Respect the Women because:
You can feel her INNOCENCE in the form of a daughter
You can feel her CARE in the form of a sister
You can feel her WARMTH in the form of a friend
You can feel her PASSION in the form of a beloved
You can feel her DEDICATION in the form of a wife
You can feel her DIVINITY in the form of a mother
You can feel her BLESSING in the form of a grandmother
Yet she is so TOUGH too
Her heart is so TENDER... So NAUGHTY...
She is a WOMAN..
And she is LIFE..!!!
To all the wonder woman those man who
thinks that a woman is weak, who
disrespects her, abuses her, beats her up
pass dirty comments if any passes by him.
They somewhat forget that the one who gave
birth to a non-deserving creep like him is also
a woman..!

Positives in Negatives or Negatives in Positives

'Positives in Negatives' or Negatives in Positives : it's our perspective
A young woman was sitting at her dining table, worried about taxes to be paid, house-work to be done and to top it all, her extended family was coming over for festival lunch the next day. She was not feeling very thankful at that time.
As she turned her gaze sideways, she noticed her young daughter scribbling furiously into her notebook.
“My teacher asked us to write a paragraph on “Negative Thanks giving” for homework today.”
said the daughter.
“She asked us to write down things that we are thankful for, things that make us feel not so good in the beginning, but turn out to be good after all.”
With curiosity, the mother peeked into the book. This is what her daughter wrote:
  • “I’m thankful for Final Exams, because that means school is almost over.
  • I’m thankful for bad-tasting medicine, because it helps me feel better.
  • I’m thankful for waking up to alarm clocks, because it means I’m still alive.”
  • It then dawned on the mother, that she had a lot of things to be thankful for!
She thought again…
  • She had to pay taxes but that meant she was fortunate to be employed.
  • She had house-work to do but that meant she had a shelter to live in.
  • She had to cook for her many family members for lunch but that meant she had a family with whom she could celebrate.

We generally complain about the negative things in life but we fail to look at the positive side of it.
What is the positive in your negatives? Look at the better part of life today and make ur everyday a great day.
Be happy and blessed always.

​Best Things to Say to Someone Who’s Depressed

​​It is most tempting, when you find out someone is depressed, to attempt to immediately fix the problem. However, until the depressed person has given you permission to be their therapist (as a friend or professional), the following responses are more likely to help.

The things that didn’t
make me feel worse are words which 
1) acknowledge my depression for what it is (No ‘it’s just a phase’) 
2) give me permission to feel depressed (No ‘but why should you be sad?’)

Here is the list from contributors to a.s.d.:

1. “I love you!”
2. “I Care”
3. “You’re not alone in this”
4. “I’m not going to leave/abandon you”
5. “Do you want a hug?”
6. “I love you (if you mean it).”
7. “It will pass, we can ride it out together.”
8. “When all this is over, I’ll still be here (if you mean it) and so will you.”

Most Positive Virtues for Great Life

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1. Have a firm handshake. 
2. Look people in the eye. 
3. Don't expect life to be fair.
4. Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people. 
5. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard. 
6. Keep secrets. 
7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday. 
8. Always accept an outstretched hand. 
9. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. 
10. Wave at the children on a school bus. 
11. Avoid sarcastic remarks. 
12. Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery. 
13. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out. 
14. Lend only those books you never care to see again. 
15. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have. 
16. When playing games with children, let them win. 
17. Give people a second chance, but not a third. 
18. Be romantic. 
19. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know. 
20. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems. 
21. Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for our convenience, not the caller's. 
22. Be a good loser. 
23. Be a good winner. 
24. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret. 
25. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go. 
26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born. 
27. Keep it simple. 
28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose. 
29. Don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river. 
30. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets 
31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did. 
32. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them. 
33. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you. 
34. Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you. 
35. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes. 
36. Begin each day with some of your favourite quotes. if you don't have, find some.
37. Once in a while, take the scenic route. 
38. Send a lot of cards. Sign them, 'Someone who thinks you're terrific.' 
39. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice. 
40. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m. 
41. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job. 
42. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later. 
43. Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you. 
44. Become someone's hero. 
45. Marry only for love. 
46. Count your blessings. 
47. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home. 

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A Father's Great Advices to his Daughter

v  You are not better than anyone, and no one is better than you.

v  It’s not the quantity of friends that matter, It’s the quality.

v  You can tell a lot about someone by their shoes.

v  Make sure yours are always polished.

v  When people talk to you, listen to them.

v  Live to eat, not the other way around.

v  People remember how you make them feel. Never forget that.

v  Don’t gossip. Except with me. I love that stuff.

v  Go with your gut. It’s very rarely wrong.

v  Go to university, attend with confidence, and have fun. But get good grades. A degree will take you places.

v  Take responsibility for your actions and apologize when you’re in the wrong.

v  Don’t be afraid to fail.

v  Repeat after me: I Can Accomplish Anything.

v  Don’t take yourself too seriously.

v  Never judge people you don’t know unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.

v  Don’t let a day go by without Praying to Lord.

v  Always bring your own dessert when you go to Gran and Grandad’s for dinner.

v  Learn how to say “NO”.

v  Read lots of books.

v  When it comes to relationships, don’t settle quickly. Wait for the one that takes your breath.

v  Rules are made to be broken. Except mine.

v  I’ve always got your back.

v  If you’re not comfortable talking about it, you shouldn’t be doing it.

v  Always have something that’s just for you, be it writing, reading crafting, or something equally awesome. And make time for it. It’ll do wonders for you.

v  Never lose your sense of humor.

v  Even when I’m gone, I’ll always be with you.

v  Everything is going to be okay.

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