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A Happy Human has these Qualities? What about you?




1. A Happy Human stops trying to change others, but instead focus on changing self.

2. A Happy Human is one who accepts people for who they are.

3. A Happy Human is one who understands that everyone is right in one's own perspective.

When Mistakes are Ok?

4. A Happy Human is one who learns to "let go".

5. A "Happy Human is one who is able to drop expectations from every relationship and gives for the sake of giving.

6. A Happy Human is one who understands that whatever we do, we do it for our own peace.

7. A Happy Human is one who stops proving to the world, how intelligent one is.

Win People to Your Way of Thinking

8. A Happy Human is one who does not seek approval from others.

9. A Happy Human is one who stops comparing with others.

10. A Happy Human is one who is at peace with oneself.

Wise Quotes from the book "Lift me Up" by Ron Kaufman

11. A Happy Human is one who is able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and is able to let go of one's wants.

12. A Happy Human is one who stops attaching "happiness" to material things.


Winners Vs Losers


Story of Naeem - Unbreakable




"Why is everyone here so happy except me?"

"Because they have learned to see goodness and beauty everywhere," said the Master.

"Why don't I see goodness and beauty everywhere?"

"Because you cannot see outside of you what you fail to see inside."
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UNBREAKABLE

My friend Naeem had a serious motorcycle accident and lost the use of his left hand.
"Fortunately I'm right handed," he told me as he adroitly served me a cup of tea. "It's amazing what I can do with just one hand."

Despite the loss of his fingers, he learned to fly an airplane in less than a year. But one day, while flying over a mountainous region, his plane had engine problems and crashed. He survived, but was paralyzed from head to foot.

I visited him in the hospital. He smiled at me. "Nothing that happens is really of any importance," he said. "What matters is what I decide to do now!"

I was dumbfounded. I thought my friend was just pretending, and that as soon as I left he would start crying and regretting his situation. That might have been what he did on that day, but he wasn't finished yet. Life still had some fine surprises in store for him.

He met the woman of his life during a conference for handicapped people. He invented a system of digital writing that responded to voice commands. And he sold hundreds of copies of a book that he wrote about developing the new system.

On the back cover he wrote this short note: "Before becoming paralyzed, I could do a million different things. Now I can only do 990,000. But what sensible person would worry about the 10,000 things he can no longer do, while there are 990,000 things left?"



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Garden, Grass and Garbage


There is a garden near the place I live. My kids enjoy playing there. The garden service team trims the grass every 3-4 weeks. When the grass is trimmed it looks so lively, lovely and fresh. Kids enjoy and spend more time in the garden. After 2 weeks or so, the grass starts getting taller and turning yellow. This makes the garden unattractive. Also I noticed that the day grass is trimmed and someone throws a cigarette box or any other garbage it looks extremely bad however when the grass is taller and someone throws something, it's hardly visible.

If I consider the grass as human brain and the grass as negative thoughts and cigarette box as stress then I learn a very good moral from this analogy. Let me explain this: When I don't have any negative thoughts and stress I have a beautiful, powerful and fresh mind offering great services to the society, family and all humanity. However if I have negative thoughts (and in turn negative behavior) I start becoming the point of concern for the society, family, friends and colleagues. And when I have too many negative thoughts, I start nourishing roots of stress even if I don't know about it, just like the cigarette box not visible when grass is tall. Hence it is recommended to 'trim the grass' quite often. In my analogy, trimming the grass means to throw away unnecessary thoughts  and clean the mind from such garbage. When I have a clean mind (like trimmed grass), I can easily identify the roots of stress (cigarette box in trimmed grass) and easily handle the situation with my analytical skills eventually making my life more beautiful.  

Relationship Advice: Be Kind to One Another



Unbelievably, kindness is often over simplified. Even good relationships can lack acts of kindness. This refers to Do unto others… Simple acts of kindness can have huge impacts on a relationship. As an example, if your husband is out working on the car on a hot summer day, make a thermos of ice-cold tea and take it to him. If your spouse has been working at the computer all day, walk up behind him/her and massage him/her shoulders and neck. You get the idea!!!


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Kindness means looking at the other person's situation and seeing what you can do or add to that situation to make it better or easier. This is a way to validate your respect for each other. Kindness will go a long way in a relationship.

Worries and Prayers

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Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout.

Do you know why a Car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the Rear view Mirror is so small?
Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. Look Ahead and Move on.

Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.

All things in life are temporary. If going well, enjoy it, they will not last forever. If going wrong, don't worry, they can't last long either.
Old Friends are Gold! New Friends are Diamonds! If you get a Diamond, don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a Base of Gold!

Often when we lose hope and think this is the end,
however, in actual it should be, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!

A blind person asked a wise person "Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?" He replied: "Yes, losing your vision!"

WORRYING does not take away tomorrows' TROUBLES, it takes away today’s' PEACE.

Story: Chuan and Jing


by Ahmed. Chuan and Jing joined a wholesale company together just after graduation. Both worked very hard. After several years, the boss promoted Jing to sales executive but Chuan remained a sales rep.

One day Chuan could not take it anymore, tender resignation to the boss and complained the boss did not value hard working staff, but only promoted those who flattered him.

The boss knew that Chuan worked very hard for the years, but in order to help Chuan realise the difference between him and Jing, the boss asked Chuan to do the following. Go and find out if anyone is selling water melon in the market?

Chuan returned and said yes. The boss asked how much per kg?
Chuan went back to the market to ask and returned to inform the boss the price is $12 per kg.

Boss told Chuan, I will ask Jing the same question?

Jing went, returned and said, boss, Only one person selling water melon.
Price is $12 per kg, $100 for 10 kg, he has inventory of 340 melons.
On the table 58 melons, every melon weighs about 15 kg, bought from the South two days ago, they are fresh and red, good quality.

Chuan was very impressed and realised the difference between himself and Jing.
He decided not to resign but to learn from Jing.

My dear friends, a more successful person is more observant, thinks more and understands in depth. For the same matter, a more successful person sees several years ahead, while we see only tomorrow.
Think! how far have you seen ahead in your life?
How thoughtful in depth are you?
 

Don't Take Life Seriously


Don't just have career or academic goals
set goals to give you a balanced, successful life.

Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships,
mental peace are all in good order.

There is no point of getting a promotion on
the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving
a car if your back hurts. Sh
opping is not enjoyable
if your mind is full of tensions.

Don't take life seriously. Life is not meant to be taken seriously,
as we are really temporary here. We are like a
prepaid card with limited validity. If we are lucky,
we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just
2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so
worked up?

It's OK, score low in couple of papers, take leave from work,
fight a little with Your spouse...

It's ok... We are people, not programmed devices..! "Don't be
serious, enjoy Life as it comes"
 
 

Check Your Actions To Judge Your Personality


Your conduct is more convincing than your language. Here are some small things which we do that determines our personality. If you pass in all these nine actions then you are said to have a good personality. Check it now!






























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Worrying Creates More Problems



A man having stomach pain went to his doctor. The doctor asked if he was having trouble in his personal life or at his job.

The man explained that he was worried about some incidents that had happened at work with his boss and his co-workers. Was there something the man could do to change what had happened? ''No,'' responded the man. ''But it continues to bother me." The doctor said, ''There is nothing you can do about the past. Close the chapter and move on. You are upsetting yourself and your stomach over something you cannot change.'' The doctor prescribed some medicine, and advised him to forget the past to help expedite the cure of his stomachaches.

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The next patient was a woman with migraine. She explained that she was afraid of making a wrong decision about her future. Sensing that this was causing her headaches, he told her, ''If you make a decision that turns out all right, there is nothing to worry about. If you make a decision that turns out wrong, you still have the option to rectify matters. No decision is irreversible. Make a list of your options; make a counter-plan for each option and then act. Analyse the situation, and then act. Then take each step as it comes.''

People either worry about a past that they cannot change, or they worry about a future that has not yet happened. Many worry over problems they anticipate or fears that never materialise. Many of our stress-related illnesses are due to problems that we face mentally, psychologically or emotionally. What is certain is that there are always going to be problems.

Murphy's Law says that if anything can go wrong, it will. There does not seem to be anyone who has not experienced problems in life. Every time we solve one problem, a new one springs up. After a while we begin to wonder if there will be a time in life when we can be free of problems.

Nobody said that life was going to be easy or that everything was going to be perfect. The question is, how do we handle our problems? Do we face them as a challenge and try to solve them, or do we fret and worry about them? We compound our problems by worry and fretting because this added stress can make us physically sick.

The pressures of life are so great that they affect us physically and mentally. We find that people undergo anxiety, fear, depression and phobias. Offices of psychiatrists, psychologists and therapists are filled with normal, everyday people who cannot cope with life's struggles.

If our mind is positive and happy, we may feel physically better than when our mind is troubled and anxious. Our mental state can cause stress-related illnesses.

Studies have shown that when we are angry or emotionally upset, chemicals released in our body prepare us for ''fight or flight''.

We need to find some acceptable way to prevent the mental, emotional and physical effects of stress which are making us ill.

Meditation has numerous benefits for our physical and mental well-being. It is safe, effective and does not cost anything. Once we learn how to meditate, we carry within us a ready remedy which we can use at any time and any place.
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Criticism - The Creativity Killer ?

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By Junaid Tahir
  Ideally speaking, Criticism is the act of analyzing someone or something (such as an article, video, book, product  service etc) with the intention of improving personnel, product or services. However in the day to day life, you will meet so many people criticizing with the negative intentions. For example they do this to defame, discourage and demotivate others. So it is usually used in negative sense although criticizing does not necessarily means to find fault. In this article I shall give my comments in two categories. First, when you are being criticized and second when you are criticizing:

1-  When you are being criticized:
a)    Take it positive. There is  a chance that your well wisher has rightly drawn your attention to something for which there is a dire need for improvement. If this is the case, be grateful to the person who helped you identified the aspect of improvement and move towards the corrective actions.
b)   There is a chance that the criticism is being done just to depress you. Analyze is carefully. If required, seek advice from some friend or colleague about this negative feedback. If feedback meant to be good, see point-1 else shun it right way not allowing you to disturb your peace of mind.


2-  When you are criticizing someone/something:
a)    Always remember that negative criticism results in generation of negative energies so try to criticize in a positive and encouraging manager. Do not become the 'full-stop' for someone's creativity.
b)   Whenever you are about to criticize; ask yourself whether your intention is to help assist the person or you are just going to spread negativity which will consequently result in corrosion on someone's creative skills.
c)    If you really want to criticize someone, do it in an encouraging way. Try to give your comments in multiple groups so that the person understands your feedback and segregate it easily so that he can transform your suggestions in to corrective actions.
d)   Remember the fact that the act of complaining is taking criticism to the next level which is even more damaging and dangerous. So try to remain inside the limits of criticism instead of complaints.

Having said that, there are bad mouthed people who are in habit of constant criticism, regardless of their mental comprehension of things. Be aware of them. They are polluting not only themselves but the environment as well and ultimately impacting you, your product, your skills and/or your services. They are spreading negativity. 
 
Closing my article with the famous quote that says "Instead of criticizing others, become the change you wish to see in the world"

Story: Waiting For Him

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A nurse took the tired, anxious soldier to the bedside.
"Your son is here," she said to the old man.


She had to repeat the words several times before the patient's eyes opened.. Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young soldier standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The soldier wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man's limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement...

The nurse brought a chair so that the soldier could sit beside the bed. All through the night the young soldier sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man's hand and offering him words of love and strength. Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the soldier move away and rest awhile. He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the soldier was oblivious of her and of the night noises of the hospital - the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.

Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.

Along towards dawn, the old man died. The soldier released the now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.

Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the soldier interrupted her.
"Who was that man?" he asked.
The nurse was startled, "He was your father," she answered.
"No, he wasn't," the soldier replied. "I never saw him before in my life."
"Then why didn't you say something when I took you to him?"
"I knew right away there had been a mistake, but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just wasn't here. When I realized that he was too sick to tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how much he needed me, I stayed."

I came here tonight to find Mr. D'costa as his Son was Killed in the recent blast today, and I was sent to inform him. By the way, what was this Gentleman's Name?
The Nurse with tears in her eyes answered, Mr. D'costa

​ Mind Your Language!


Your tongue (tone) can make or break any relationship.
Meaningful relationships are priceless pearls in our lives. It takes years, hard labor, tolerance and patience to build any relationship. But one harsh word or wrong choice of words or wrong tone can break what you have taken years to build – RELATIONSHIPS.Our tongue, this boneless two inch piece of flesh in our mouth, can be our best friend or worst enemy. 'An arrow or word, once out, cannot be retrieved'. Think before you ink. Harsh and unkind words help no one, least of all you.

Sequence of such outbursts may start with 'harmless negative thoughts of seemingly no consequence' getting converted into spoken words, thus endorsing and stamping what has come to your mind to start with.

In fact, it's a long sequence. Thought into words, spoken words getting converted into actions, repeated action into habits, bad or good habits become our character, good or bad, and finally, our character leading to our destiny. This is unstoppable. So, the best is to root out all negative thoughts or shun negativity from our mind to start with, which ultimately becomes our destiny.

Change the way you think, change the way you speak, have trust in God and in God, you will find everything, explicit faith which makes everything possible, hope which makes things work fine, harmony and meaning in our relationships, peace which will make a serene and tranquil setting for you in life and love, which makes everything beautiful.

Thus life cannot be lived bett
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er if you control that two inch boneless piece in our mouth.

13 Techniques to Help you Build Good Relationships


Sometimes we strike a wrong chord with someone, or feel uncomfortable to ask somebody about something.
Today, Bright Side will tell you the techniques which can help you build good relationships with anybody.
  1. If the answer doesn't suit you — for example, the person you are talking to left something unsaid, wasn't clear, or lied — don't ask again. Instead, simply look silently and attentively into his or her eyes. This technique will get him or her cornered, and the person will be forced to continue his or her thoughts.
  2. If someone yells at you, make an effort to keep calm, staying absolutely impassive. The first reaction of a loudmouth is usually anger, which your behavior can provoke, but it will quickly subside. Then the next reaction will fade in — the sense of guilt for his or her defiant and aggressive behavior. Most likely, the insulter will be the first to ask for forgiveness.
  3. If you know that a person is going to criticize you (make comments or blame you), gather your courage and try to sit or stand beside him or her. In this case, the person will relent and say less negative things about you, than if you were at a distance.
  4. Eating meals is always associated with peace and security, so we eat at home, surrounded by our own walls, more often. That's why, if you're really worried, just chew some gum. It will trick your brain making the impression that you are eating and there is nothing to worry about, so you will feel more confident and relaxed after a while.
  5. An old and proven method being used by many students in exams. They imagine that a professor is their good and close friend, so they feel calmer, and it becomes easier for them to find right answers to the questions. This technique is effective in other situations as well. Try it before an important job interview!
  6. If everyone in a group starts laughing at once, everybody instinctively looks at the person who they like most, or with whom they want to get closer. Therefore, observe everyone's eyes after a successful joke — you will learn a lot.
  7. Meeting someone, express a little more joy than usual towards the person. For example, smile sincerely or try to say his or her name gently and warmly. Over time, you will start referring much better to this person, and the pleasure of meeting will be sincere.
  8. If your work is connected to people, it's possible to «force» them to behave more politely and kindly. Put a mirror behind your workplace, so your interlocutors will always see their reflections. As a rule, people always try to look their best in a mirror and don't want to see themselves as evil nor harmful. So, they will smile more for sure!
  9. If you want to catch the attention of a person you like, stare at something directly behind his or her shoulders. Once you realize that you had caught the person's sight, quickly look into his or her eyes and gently smile. It works flawlessly!
  10. In fact, we can control our stress. When you are very worried, you begin breathing deeper, and your heart starts pounding faster. Try to force yourself to breathe calmer and balance your heartbeat. Trust us — it's in your power.
  11. In order to woo a person in your first meeting and get his or her sympathy, try to specify the color of his or her eyes when you meet. Eye contact always works effectively.
  12. Initially, raise the bar while declaring any requirements or terms. Most likely, a person won't agree to them, and refuse. However, he or she would definitely agree on the actual terms that you would offer later. People tend to cave in to your smaller request if they have denied you something bigger before.
  13. People are drawn to those who are confident in themselves and their actions, so just show that you know what you are talking about (even if it's not so).
Our mimicry is closely related to our emotions: we raise our eyebrows when we are touched and squint our eyes while crying. Conversely, our facial expressions affect our internal state, too. If you make a face similar to your crying face, it's likely that tears will want to come out on their own. Use this ability with benefit — smile! Smile for no reason, and after a few seconds, your smile will become real and sincere!  brightside.me  -
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Procrastination -- A Fancy Word For Laziness?




Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you sat down to do an important task only to then realize that your clothes needed ironing? Or that your computer data collection was in need of some serious reorganizing? And then there's this fascinating documentary on bird migration on YouTube that you just can't put off watching any longer. And since you'll be watching a video might as well go ahead and make something to eat to go with it, right?
Fast forward a few hours and it's already late. With your important task remaining as unfinished as the sky is blue.
Sound familiar? Then congratulations, you like millions of other people, have experienced procrastination.
But what exactly is procrastination? Many people view it as nothing more than a fancy word for laziness, or lack of self-discipline. Yet, for procrastinators, it is a powerful and often uncontrollable force. Something that wastes valuable time, causes missed deadlines, poor academic and work performance. Worst of all, it contributes to emotional stress, anxiety and guilt. In most serious cases it can greatly hamper a procrastinator's quality of life. A sad truth backed up by a 1997 study conducted by Dianne Tice and Roy Baumeister of Case Western Reserve University.

The Science Behind Procrastination

So what causes us to procrastinate? Let's take a look at what science has to say on the subject.
Psychologists often view procrastination as an extreme form of coping mechanism. It kicks in when we experience anxiety or dread in relation to a future task. And so to avoid these negative feelings we direct our attention to something else.
Many experts see procrastination as a result of a conflict sparked between two parts of the human brain when faced with a difficult task. The limbic system, the unconscious part of our brain that contains the pleasure center. And the prefrontal cortex, our "thinker" and decision-maker. When the former prevails, which is often the case, it results in us putting off today's task for tomorrow. Needless to say, tomorrow never comes.
Timothy Pychyl, a psychology professor at Carleton University, in Ottawa, puts it into simpler terms. The prefrontal cortex, unlike the limbic system, does not function automatically. It has to be actively focused on the task. The moment you're not engaged enough the limbic system takes over. Which, in turn, makes you focus on whatever brings immediate pleasure.
Another interesting theory suggests that the reason procrastination is so difficult to deal with might be tied to our perception of time and the difference between how we see our present and future selves. So even though we know that a year from now we will be the same person we are today, most of us lack any sort of empathy or emotional connection to that future version of ourselves. And so we "delegate" important tasks to our future selves without realizing that present us and future us is the same person. And that person will have to suffer the consequences.
Several scientific studies support this theory. Such as the one conducted by Hal Hershfield, a psychologist at UCLA Anderson School of Management. He took fMRI scans of people's brains as they were asked to think about themselves in the present, a famous person, and then themselves in the future. He discovered that people use different parts of their brain when processing information about their present and future selves.

Learning to Deal with Procrastination

Now that we have a better idea about the nature of procrastination, what can we do to control it or at the very least learn to reduce the negative impact it can have on our lives?
Well, it is generally suggested that maintaining a positive outlook and being kinder to ourselves can have a visible positive effect.
And curiously enough, one of the best things we can do is to forgive ourselves for procrastinating. Yes, as naïve as it may sound, it is surprisingly effective - as evidenced by one of Dr. Pychyl's studies where students who reported forgiving themselves for procrastinating on studying for one exam ended up procrastinating less for the next. The reason this works is because procrastination is tied to several negative feelings, such as anxiety and guilt, which forgiving oneself can help alleviate.
But by far the most useful advice Pychyl gives us is to stop waiting until we're in the right mood to perform a certain task. We need to realize that our belief that our emotional state has to match our current task is extremely counterproductive. Ignore how you feel about doing something and just do it.

Overcoming Procrastination: Quick Tips

On a more practical level, there are several useful tips that anyone affected by procrastination could greatly benefit from:
  1. Break down your task into several smaller ones that are easier to accomplish.
    Even small and incremental progress can make you feel better about the task and yourself, reducing your desire to procrastinate.
  2. Do the most difficult thing first.
    Our willpower is not unlimited, so by tackling the biggest task while the energy is still there, you increase your chances of success overall.
  3. Solicit support from friends or family.
    Tell a friend or a family member about a task you're trying to get done. When you're committed and accountable to someone else besides yourself, you are a lot more motivated to actually follow through with it.
  4. Lock yourself into something.
    Sign up for language courses or a gym membership with a non-refundable deposit, creating an obligation that would be difficult for you to back out of.
  5. Eliminate all distractions.
    If you get pulled away from the task at hand way too easily, there are several useful productivity software tools that could help:
    • Freedom is a popular application that blocks all access to the Internet, social media and apps for an allotted period of time;
    • LeechBlock (for Firefox), StayFocusd and Strict Workflow (for Chrome) are Internet browser extensions that block certain websites perpetually or during specified time periods;
  6. Keep track of the time you spend on things throughout the day.
    Set up a timesheet with a list of your daily, weekly and monthly tasks. Put down the amount of time that you spend on those tasks, as well as the time that you actively spend on everything else to avoid them. You might find the results quite eye-opening, if not shocking! Use that information to fuel your motivation and the desire to work on your productivity.

Summary

Procrastination is a complex phenomenon that is rooted in human psychology and physiology. It is something that is largely beyond our control. So we should stop blaming ourselves and instead focus on things that we actually can do to overcome it. It is not going to be easy, but having a more productive and fulfilling life is a worthy goal to strive for.   ----- Source:actitime

Story: The Kids' Race

An Anthropologist proposed a game to the African tribal children.
​​He placed a basket of sweets near a tree And made the children stand 100 meters away.
Then announced that whoever reaches first would get all the sweets in the basket.
When he said 'ready steady go!'
Do you know what these children did?
They all held each other's hands, ran together towards the tree, divided the sweets equally among themselves, ate the sweets and enjoyed it.
When the Anthropologist asked them why they did so, They answered 'Ubuntu' which meant - 'How can one be happy when the others are sad?'_Ubuntu in their language means -
_'I am because we are!'

A strong message for all generations!!!  Let all of us always have this attitude and spread happiness wherever we go.
Let's have a Ubuntu Life " I AM BCOZ WE ARE "

Best Ways of Using Google's Search Options!


Google is probably the most popular search site on the web, used for finding just about everything we need on the internet. It's quick, easy and simple to use, and most of the time we find what we need in the first one or two result pages. But what if I told you that you're not really using Google as you should? It turns out that Google has a few special tricks that will make your life a whole lot easier: 

1. Remove words from your search results
Let's say you are looking for bread recipes but you don't want any with "yeast" as an ingredient. All you need to do is type your desired search terms normally and then add a minus sign (-) followed by the words you want excluded without a space. It should look like this in the search bar: bread recipes -yeast.
2. Look up related words and synonyms
This is a simple way for finding out other ways for saying something if you want to use the same word twice in one sentence, and you don’t want it to sound weird. In the Google search bar put a tilde mark (~, normally located next to the 1 key on the top left of the keyboard) in front of the search term you want to find synonyms for.
3. Google can help you define a word
Type "define:" (with both " marks) followed by the word, and Google will take you straight to the definition. Use this to catch anyone trying to cheat on Scrabble and get fast definitions for words you don’t know.
4. Search for the exact order of words
If you are looking for the origin of a quote or a song you can only remember one line from, this is the just what you need to find what you are looking for. Simply put your search phrase inside quotation marks and search.
5. Search for items in a specific price range
If you are looking for something to buy but you don't want Google to show you all the price options, simply use this handy little trick. First type in your term, let's say phone, and after that type the lowest and highest prices you're willing to pay with two periods (..). The end result should look like this: Phone 100$..200$. The more accurate the item you are looking for will be, the better results you will get.
6. Limit your search to a website
If you once read a good article on a site and you can't remember its name and how you got there, it's very easy to find it again.
 
7. Search for a GIFA GIF is a type on animated picture file looping over and over like a very short (mostly poor quality) video. Finding GIFs is as easy as using the Google images search. Go to Google Images, type what you are looking for, click "Search tools" and "Type". A small drop down list will appear, select "Animated" and search. The results you'll get might look like normal pictures at first, but press on any of them and you will see their animation.
8. Setting a timer
Not really a search option, but still a very useful feature if you want to remind yourself to take a break or to take something out of the oven. Type "set timer for" into the search bar and you will see the Google timer as your first result. Enter the time you want in hours, minutes or seconds, and start the timer. Google will start beeping when the time runs out.
9. Do math
This one is really straight forward, type in an equation in the search bar and Google will give you the answer on its calculator. If possible, you can copy-paste the equation to the search bar to make your life easier.
10. Search for a file type and not just a website
If you are looking for a Word file, a PowerPoint presentation or something similar this will make your search faster and much more accurate. Enter your search terms followed by "filetype: PPT". PPT is the file type for PowerPoint, DOC is for most Word files and if you are looking for other kinds of files, just Google their file type initials.
11. Convert currency
Much like doing math for you, Google can also tell the value of different currencies and help you prepare for that trip abroad. Type the name of the currency you own, add "to" and type the name of the currency you want to get in return. Keep in mind that many places trading with foreign coin take a commission and Google can't calculate that.     
12. Search for something you forgot
If a part of your search is unknown or forgotten, you can use Google to fill in the blanks. Enter your search terms using asterisks (*) as stand-ins for the unknowns. It can also be used to answer simple question such as searching for: When you are in Rome be sure to visit *.
 

8 Steps to Anger Management for Kids


8 Steps to Anger Management for Kids
Do your kids make you feel like an ogre when you set limits? Does the word "no" kick off whining, yelling and protests?  How many times have you heard your nine-year-old say something like: "That's not fair! Brandon's mom lets him watch Sons of Anarchy!"  Or does this sound familiar:  "Jessica's dad lets her stay out 'til 10 on school nights! Why can't you?"
"It's important to help your child look at what was happening and what they were thinking that triggered their angry response."
It can be hard to know sometimes if the limits you set are reasonable or not, especially when your kids are howling that "everyone else is allowed to do it!"On top of that, how do you know that the limits you set even work? Whether you are just beginning to set limits, or are adjusting your limits to match your child's unique needs and developmental changes, here are some tips to make setting limits, and feeling confident about those limits, easier.
  1. Start from your values. Be clear about the values you want to instill in your family. If eating dinner together at home is important, make that an expectation. If treating people fairly is essential, make sure your limits support that. Knowing that your limits are based on your values helps during those times when your child pushes back and says you're the worst parent in the world. You'll find it easier to resist giving in to that argument.
  2. Communicate the limits. Try saying to your child something like, "Things are going to change, and you can expect that dad and I will deal with your behavior differently." Or, "Now that you're older, we need to have some rules about going to parties."  Then let your child know the limits and the consequences for either following or not following the rules. Be clear and specific. This is not a one-time event, but rather a process that will likely take repeated refresher discussions along the way.
  3. Monitor how your child responds. What did your child do? Not immediately, because change is a process and takes time, but over time.  Are you able to observe some improvement in behavior, even if it's slight? For instance, you set curfew for your teen, and at first he didn't seem to care.  But when you started to take the car keys away, he began to come home closer and closer to the curfew.  Now he is routinely coming in on time.

    For younger kids, it may be helpful to have a chart or calendar where behaviors are recorded.  Kids often like to participate in this activity, especially if they get to put the sticker on the chart for behaving correctly. For older kids, charting behavior helps them get a better perspective on their ability to change over time.  Even if they had a terrible day yesterday, they can see that they've been doing so much better during the past few weeks, and so there's hope for continued success.
  4. Be matter-of-fact. Try not to personalize the misbehavior. If your child starts to feel the power to "hurt" you with his misbehavior, this can easily lead to manipulative behavior. Instead, focus on the behavior and your child's need to change. Help them understand that the misbehavior is hurtful to them and worth changing. If you are angry, wait to talk with your child until your anger has cooled.  You can say, "I'm not ready to talk with you right now.  I'll talk with you when I am. Just wait".
  5. Be prepared. Do you sometimes just react to your child's misbehavior, handing down whatever punishment happens to come to mind?  Instead, try sitting down and calmly thinking about what behavior you are trying to target.  Then you can think more clearly about what consequence would be most effective in promoting change.  Develop a list of meaningful consequences in a quiet moment. You know your kids best, what they hold near and dear. Consequences are most impactful when your child really cares either about avoiding the loss of something (computer time, going to her friends overnight, the car, the concert) or about gaining something (time with dad, a hiking trip with friends, an overnight, the car, a concert).

    Remember, it's important for both parents to share any plan that is developed and be on the same page, or at least be willing to support each other in the process.
  6. Consequences need time limits. You need to set limits and impose consequences that allow your child to grow and change. Part of this is setting limits with appropriate timeframes. Younger kids have a very different sense of time than adults. A weeklong consequence for a six-year-old may feel never-ending to her, where your 10-year-old can more easily feel like there's some light at the end of the tunnel. If you ground your teen for the rest of his life, (while you may definitely feel that way at the time) he will immediately know that you are setting a limit you can't hold him to.

    For some kids, it's helpful to set limits in small increments so they can experience success. "If you are able to make it through this evening without fighting with your brother, you will earn back 20 minutes of computer time tomorrow night." Having do-able steps is especially important for kids with moderate to severe behavior problems as they can often experience failure and feelings of defeat.
  7. Monitor yourself. Watch that you're not falling into old patterns of screaming and yelling or ignoring misbehavior. It's difficult for us, too, as parents to change.  Keep at it.
  8. Start limit setting early.  It's much harder to begin setting limits for the first time when your child is a teenager whose "job" it is to push back on limits, especially those set by parents. But remember, you can start any time.
  9. Change doesn't happen overnight. When things don't seem to be working, try looking for the little changes you can observe in your own behavior—even if they aren't yet impacting your child. Did you make a plan and stick with it? Did you make a decision and hold firm? Were you able to tell your child what you expected of him without screaming and yelling? If you did any of these things, you are making progress.

    There may be relapses by you or your child. You may get "lazy" about follow-through; or your child who was doing so well playing at recess gets into a fight. Keep small set-backs in perspective, and try thinking one day at a time. It may also be time to review your limits and consequences and see if they need adjusting.
  10. Don't look for validation from your child. If you're looking for validation from your kids, you're giving them too much power. Their job is not to be your friend, or to thank you for setting limits to help them control their behavior. Part of being a parent is setting limits, teaching better behaviors, and coaching your children as they begin to use those improved behaviors. This is a hard job, and at times you can feel pretty alone. Talk to other parents who you trust. Discuss the problems with your partner, and support each other in the changes. Talk with a teacher or guidance counselor who understands your child and some of the unique challenges he or she presents.
Parents often feel that by setting limits, they will lose their child's love. Just the opposite is true. Kids need limits, and count on parents to set those for them to keep them safe and help them grow. Setting limits is an act of love.
As you start setting and holding your children to more consistent limits, you might feel that you are being overly strict.  Aiming for consistency may also feel rigid to parents who are used to a looser household. Remember that limit-setting is just one part of effective parenting and needs to be paired with teaching and coaching. Children aren't going to change their behavior simply due to limits.  Kids also need parents to teach better problem-solving skills and to coach them as they try out the new skills and behaviors. They may never say thank you, but setting limits is one of the best gifts you can give your child.

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