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Tech: Performance Test of My Internet Connection


It’s one thing to just hit up SpeedTest.net to get a rough idea of your internet connection speed, but what if you want to conduct more extensive testing over time to see if you’re really getting your money’s worth from your ISP?

The Question
KronoS is in an interesting position: he has access to his old internet connection and his new internet connection for a period of time. During this period he wants to test them out:
Right now I’m in the process of possibly switching from a Cable provider to a DSL provider. I have both connections live, and before I cancel one or the other, I’m wanting to do some exhaustive testing of the internet connection. I have three major questions:
  1. What are some approaches that I can quantitatively test the speeds (both up and down) and quality of my internet connections (ping, time connection is down, etc,.)?
  2. Are there other consideration that should be taken when testing an internet connection?
  3. Are there any tools that can do this automatically and capture results?
Overall, I’m looking to compare the two connections over multiple periods of time such as peak hours (1600 – 2100 in my area), and with different loads such as streaming movies, uploading files, etc,.
What’s the best method for quantitatively measuring different aspects of the data connections?

The Answer

Dennis offers the following battery of tests to try out:
The Broadband Tests and Tools from DSLReports.com include a simple speed test, as well as long- and short-term line quality tests:
1. Speed Tests
Test your maximum upload speed and download speed from several geographically distributed locations.
Java, Flash and iPhone speed test (100% browser) available.
2. Smokeping
Intensively monitor an IP address for 24 or more hours to review packet loss and/or excessive latency variability — from three different US locations

3. Line Quality – Ping Test

Test latency, jitter and packet loss to your IP address, including identification of any problems en-route to you.
The speed test requires Flash or Java; the other two require that your IP is pingable.
In the absence of a specialized tool for long-term speed tests, you could use a command-line network retriever (e.g. Wget or Wget for Windows) and download uncompressable test files with a shell/batch script.
The nearest test files to Arizona I could find are from speedtest.dal01.softlayer.com (Dallas, TX) and speedtest.sea01.softlayer.com (Seattle, WA).

5 Reasons Why You Should Never Compare Your Kids with Others

Comparison is the death of joy - Mark Twain

The words cruise out of our mouths inadvertently. "Look at him/her, she is so much better than you" or "Why can't you be more like him/her?". Why do we compare our children with others? As much as we want to refrain from it, we end up doing it. Is it an inevitable human trait or can we resist the impulse if we try?
Well, "comparison" is counter-productive for anyone. But it is all the more debasing for children. Children are tender beings and they do not take too well to negative criticism. And if the criticism involves telling them how others are better than they are in some way, then it is all the more painful. This does not mean that we shouldn't point out their mistakes and help them improve, but anything beyond this is overkill.
Every child is different. In the present age, where competition has spread its tentacles in every walk of life, it is crucial to teach our kids to be grounded. And comparing them at each step will just not help. They should be taught to better themselves with each day, not to be better than their counterparts.
"To constantly harangue them about how much better others are will do nothing but lay the foundation for an inferiority complex."
It is natural to want to know where our children stand amidst others, in this world of ranks and percentages and where everyone is bidding for that coveted seat in a top school or university. But to constantly harangue them about how much better others are will do nothing but lay the foundation for an inferiority complex. Here are some reasons why we should not compare our children with others.
1. It will cause self-doubt
If we are told by someone that we are not good at something and that there are others out there who are excel at it, slowly but steadily self-doubt will grow. Our children will be left wondering if they can ever be good enough. Our job as parents is to encourage them at every step they take, not remind them of who else is ahead.
2. Jealousy will take root
If you keep comparing your child with an apparent paragon of virtue, he or she may begin to suffer from pangs of extreme jealousy. It can be a neighbourhood kid, a classmate, a cousin and so on. Jealousy is not a very healthy feeling to harbour and the poor child will be tormented by jealousy which could all to easily turn into hatred, and perhaps even aggression.
3. It will breed negativity
When others are always being built up and the child torn down, he or she could become negative - why even try if you can never measure up, after all? Rather than embracing new tasks and challenges with a positive spirit, the child's assumptions about himself and the outcomes of what he or she does will be negative. Negativity is not at all good for a person's well being. We all want to raise children who are positive and who spread happiness around.
4. It will damage the parent-child relationship
If you tell your child time and again that the neighbour's kid is better than her, she will eventually start despising you. Children are emotionally vulnerable. They may not be able to see the bigger picture and that you are concerned for them. Instead, they will feel that you are not on their side.
5. They will grow into jittery and nervous adults
Parents who compare their kids at the drop of a hat will eventually make their kids nervous and jittery. The child may become excessively focused on pleasing the parents (and others) and will constantly feel they are not meeting expectations. They will lose their natural confidence and autonomy.
Parenting is the most difficult job in the world and there is no such thing as the "ideal parent". But, we are the first teachers of our children. We are the ones they look up to and we are the ones they come to when they are low. So, it is our duty to strive to put our best foot forward, to let our kids grow each day in a positive environment. Let us tell them every day how special they are.
A version of this blog first appeared here.

Story: Attachment in Detachment

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When my daughter, the older of my two, wed and left home, I felt a part of me gone.
I specially dedicate this post to my friends, who are totally dependent on their children's lives, to nurture their own selves emotionally.
Please develop your own interests, hobbies etc, however mundane they seem to be..

Strong or Weak Personalities


Some people have strong personalities, in that people either hate them or love them.. they have very distinct personalities that basically say.. this is who i am.. either love it or leave it... they are confident in who they are and really dont allow other people to shape their thinking. They have their opinions on issues and let them be known, without trying to curry favor with the "crowd"....They are aware of what they like and what they don't like... They don't seek to control other people.. their only focus is mastery of self..
Other people have weak personalities.. in that they are more easily influenced and seek the approval of the crowd.... they need others to "take charge" and responsiblity in various situations.. they strive to be loved by all because rejection can be crumbling to their self esteem.. They seek to keep up with the Joneses when the Joneses don't even know they live in the same neighborhood..

Now by strong personalities I don't mean people who are boorish and want to control other people.. by weak personalities i don't mean wallflowers that everybody can run roughshod over... I dont mean that at all.. the outlook is telling

Example: A person with a strong personality is asked in front of a few people why they have no children... They respond that they are not married or  Strong Personality responds "I don't want to be a baby mother".... A listener with a strong personality may respond "oh okay.. well to each his own".. a listener with a weak personality may respond "oh you so stuck up bytch! looking down on people that got kids because they ain't married!" ... why the disparity.. because the strong personality listener is aware that each person has their own desires for their own life and isn't offended because their perception of their own situation is not affected by other people.. the weaker personality feels as if they were personally slighted because they may have their own issues about being perceived as a "baby-mother"

So... why do weaker personalities always seem to be offended by others with strong personalities?? What kind of personality do you think you have? Do you find yourself wanting to "put people in their place" when they talk about doing something that you may feel is out of your reach/budget or giving an opinion about something? Do you care very little for what other people do with their own lives as long as they don't desire to leech your bank accounts or waste your time? Are you percieved as "looking down on people" because your opinions are not geared towards becoming a crowd favorite? Do you feel people look down on you because they express realities different from your own?

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After work, is what determines your future!

After work, is what determines your future! Spend one hour per day doing these 5 things and your life will change forever!


You finish work at 6 pm, go to bed at 12 midnight.
Within these six hours, how do you spend them?
Watching TV?
In fact, the activities you do between 6 am and 12 midnight,
the importance of it is beyond your imagination.
Too many people believe that,
your career is determined by the 8 hours of hard work and effort you put at work,
and your future and career progression depend on the boss and the company.
But the reality is that for most people, this thing, you are on your own…..

Read on…

“Cultivation”, it’s forever dependent by yourself.
If you found yourself not progressing in life,
you cannot blame and put the responsibility on your company for not grooming you.

1. What you do every night is important

My major in college was marketing, but I expect to become a designer.
So I practiced day and night,
picking up some freelance work to improve my design skills.
It took me a long time.
When I became a boss, I no longer need to involve myself in design work,
So I went back to the Marketing field.
Every day, when my children are sleeping,
I began learning to gain more knowledge, this again took me a long time,
But I begin to realise my returns.

If I rely on my working hours to gain skills,
then I will never have become a creative director and a product manager,
or like today, teaching MBA students on Marketing.
What I rely on, is myself giving myself “lessons”.
And the most successful people I knew, walked the same path as I am.
I have a friend who is a History graduate,
but he is interested in technical sales,
In the day, he does telemarketing, at night he learns how to code,
Finally, he became the vice president of sales in a startup company.
Now, he’s a CTO.
I have another friend, he received a degree in political science.
But he’s very interested in entrepreneurship.
he learnt a lot of knowledge on how to start up a company,
eventually, he founded a company and sold it,
Now he has reaped the rewards.

For them, what they do between 6 pm till 12 midnight,
is what determined their future.
Clearly, we need to balance life and work.
If you have a wife and children, every night, you have to stay with them.
Even if you are single, you also need a reasonable allocation of time to go to the gym, to meet with friends, or be alone to meditate and so on.
Of course, watching TV, playing games is good sometimes.
But there are things you do not need to do.
For example, watching the new season of a Netflix drama,
14 hours per week watching television (This is the average amount of time watching television).

The time spent playing the game Candy Crush.

Or spending time stalking your high school alumni on Facebook,
it does not seem to be good.
So what should you do?

2. Read more, anything will do!

My college mentor was born in Alabama,
A poor African family.
He was admitted to West Point Military Academy, and he became the first person in the family to go college.
Before going to Havard for his MBA, he’s a trained officer.
When I met him, he has already developed his career in the city of Colorado Springs.

I asked him, what’s his biggest success?
He replied, because he kept the habit of reading,
and he never stopped.
He believed that if you want to get what you want in life,
knowledge is the key.
He often asked his interviewees what book are they reading now,
the excellent ones can give an answer immediately.
Reading can give you a good headstart,
this is often what your peers cannot obtain.
Compared to others,
you are more likely to know other industries strategies and tactics,
and that may be helpful to your company.

You can transfer your knowledge within the organization,
create new possibilities for your company.
Moreover, your conversation topics will become more interesting.

Anthony Robbins said:
“If you spend one hour a day to learn about a topic,
a year later, in this regard,
the knowledge you gain will be more than 99.999% of the world’s people.”
Even if you have 30 minutes every night,
each week you can easily read a book.
You may not be an expert, but I promise,
you’ll know more than what your peers know.

3. Do some projects

You can apply the knowledge learnt to real work scenario,
this is only an ideal state.
If your company did not give you this opportunity,
create opportunities for yourself.
You can do some volunteer projects. They can bring you fame.
Working with a team,
you’ll understand how things work.
In the practical application of the industry,
and how it ultimately affect actual customers.
You’ll learn how to perform the task and meet deadlines,
and get feedbacks on what you are doing,
and benefit from it.

When you are not strong enough, these experience may not have any value to you.
But you are still a novice.
these experiences are far more valuable than the miserable pay you are getting.
If you can really convince others of your pockets of fruits of labour,
Then go try it. But do not let these private jobs affect your work.

4. Actively build your connections

In your career path,
a strong network of connections will make everything accelerate.
If you have not set up your own personal connections,
you’ll need to divide a portion of your time to do this.
A strong network of relationships, can enable you:
  • contact smart friends, and learn their opinions
  • get information and knowledge that are difficult to obtain
  • help the company look for more potential partners
  • or income generating opportunities
Go get to know your work colleague or boss…..

If you are an entrepreneur,
your network connections will be your early customers,
your staffs are a source of capital
rather than go home, or going to a bar,
you should find some inner circles.
There are many small groups which are highly relevant to your career.
You should try to integrate into these circles.
Every week, you can drink coffee together with new friends,
go drinking or have breakfast.

You can also look into everyone’s career developments on LinkedIn.
And establish a network with mentors in those professional industries.
They may be your next job employer, who knows?
Your connections will be your most powerful asset in the workplace.
Since you have time to watch “The Voice of China”,
you have time to build a social network.

5. The CHANGE of your LIFE starts TONIGHT

6 pm to 12 am, you go home, though physically and mentally tired,
you are free to do anything and do not have to take orders from others.
During this time,
you can switch off like switching off your computer at your workplace, switch off your brain.
But you can also do something,
make you smarter, stronger, have a wider network of people.
From the start tonight, take an hour a day to do these things,
I guarantee that after a year,
your career, and life will change.

No More Self Doubt!


Many people comment that what we want is not within our reach. The question is, do you believe this and can you alter your dreams or goals?
 
Throughout the centuries, so-called significant or important  people have told people of various walks of life that they have no chance to succeed. But they had success marvelously.

In a lot other cases, many people cower from these kind of comments and start to believe that they cannot succeed, or that they do not have the intelligence or to accomplish a goal or a dream.
 
If you choose to believe these types of negative comments, you are engaging in what is often called a self-doubt, or, in other words, you start to believe what others say about you. If you do adopt as real or true what others have said about you, this means you have given control of your life, your destiny, to the opinions, thoughts and failings of others.
"You are the only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life." Les Brown
 
The biggest challenge to succeed is not your ability; but belief in yourself.
Many of your friends and acquaintances doubted your ability to be a business owner, or suggest that you should just forget about business idea and keep in job telling you that jobs were hard to come by. But if you did not want to totally give up idea. And, while continued to have confidence about what you really wanted to do, your goal will totally supported by a new business acquaintance.
 
New business acquaintance give you encouragement, make time available whenever you needed questions or suggestions, or just to talk about business issues. And, though you had all the right plans and ability to succeed, you remained your own worse obstacle. You should continue even though struggling with self-doubt.

You will conquer more issues around developing your business; you conquer your own apprehension, your own self-doubt. You succeeded because you did not listen to the naysayers; you succeeded because you overcame the greatest obstacle - your own belief in yourself.

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No More Self Doubt!


Many people comment that what we want is not within our reach. The question is, do you believe this and can you alter your dreams or goals?
 
Throughout the centuries, so-called significant or important  people have told people of various walks of life that they have no chance to succeed. But they had success marvelously.

In a lot other cases, many people cower from these kind of comments and start to believe that they cannot succeed, or that they do not have the intelligence or to accomplish a goal or a dream.
 
If you choose to believe these types of negative comments, you are engaging in what is often called a self-doubt, or, in other words, you start to believe what others say about you. If you do adopt as real or true what others have said about you, this means you have given control of your life, your destiny, to the opinions, thoughts and failings of others.
"You are the only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life." Les Brown
 
The biggest challenge to succeed is not your ability; but belief in yourself.
Many of your friends and acquaintances doubted your ability to be a business owner, or suggest that you should just forget about business idea and keep in job telling you that jobs were hard to come by. But if you did not want to totally give up idea. And, while continued to have confidence about what you really wanted to do, your goal will totally supported by a new business acquaintance.
 
New business acquaintance give you encouragement, make time available whenever you needed questions or suggestions, or just to talk about business issues. And, though you had all the right plans and ability to succeed, you remained your own worse obstacle. You should continue even though struggling with self-doubt.

You will conquer more issues around developing your business; you conquer your own apprehension, your own self-doubt. You succeeded because you did not listen to the naysayers; you succeeded because you overcame the greatest obstacle - your own belief in yourself.

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Transform Your Looks, Habits, Personalities

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Always try to represent yourself
As a HAPPY Person
Because initially
It becomes your LOOK
Gradually It becomes your HABIT
And
Finally it becomes your PERSONALITY

Act in this Moment



Let yourself see the potential value in this moment. Open yourself to the opportunities in this day.

You are immersed in a sea of abundance, and it is up to you to make meaningful value out of it. You have the power to make a positive difference, so allow yourself to do so.

Take a moment to consider all the good and powerful possibilities that are within your reach right now. Remind yourself of what a shame it would be to let those possibilities go unfulfilled.

This is a day that's like no other, and a day that will never be here again. It's a day that can add enormous value to your life and your world, but only if you make use of it while it's here.

Breathe in deeply, and fill your awareness with a fresh, invigorating sense of possibility. Feel your useful, beneficial power, and make the choice to immediately engage that power.

Act in this moment, on this day, with love, purpose and passion. And capture the unique value that this day offers for all of life.
Ralph Marston - The Daily Motivator

How to Overcome Negativity for Good


It's difficult to control the words people use on us and some people get their kicks by saying hurtful things. Here are some of the few things you can do to keep your happiness and prevent negative words from ruining your day.

 
1. If someone tries to offend or belittle you, do not participate in his or her game. If you do not participate in the game, he or she will leave you, since t takes two to play the game.
2. Tell yourself that you are going to stay calm, happy and positive, no matter what people say or do. Repeat these words often, until your mind accepts them unconditionally.

3. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Don't assume someone is trying to offend or hurt you. Sometimes, they might be just joking or maybe they are having a bad day.

4. Pause briefly and think, before reacting instinctively or getting emotional. Maybe people are not referring to you? Don't jump to conclusions, without thinking first.

Remember; while you can't control what people say, your reaction is your sole responsibility. Have a great Week.


James Idayi emotional-detachment.com


If you are dealing with a lot of negativity in life OR would like to know how to handle negative event OR have questions, please feel free to send us an email at questions@emotional-detachment.com.
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What Other People Think Of You Is Thier Own Concern

Always know that what other people think of you is their own concern, not yours. Do what you know is right, and fully accept that others will think what they will think.

By caring so much about receiving validation from others, you prevent yourself from getting it. Instead, share your real value with those around you and that value will be clear for all to see.

How to Create the Ultimate Habit of Happiness

Do you think happiness is a state that only a few can achieve?

I think Happiness is your birth right, it is available to each and every one of us.

But if this is true why does it elude so many?

It eludes so many of us because our habits don't support a life of harmony and happiness. I have heard it said that our collective habits determine the quality of our lives, in that case we need to ensure that our habits are positive and help us work towards creating an overall habit of happiness

There are many constructive habits that will help bring us more joy

  1. The Act of Gratitude
    Any time you spend giving thanks and appreciating all that you have in life is time that will be misery free. It is very difficult to feel low or depressed when feeling grateful.
  2. Doing what you love
    Spending each day doing what you love will ensure a more meaningful life. According to Scott Dinsmore, of Live Your Ledgend, in his TEDX talk
    How to Find and Do Work You Love 80% of people work in jobs they don't enjoy.
  3. Exercise
    Exercise has a multitude of benefits, health, well being, mood, increases energy and helps you to sleep better. Fit people are more productive and generally happier.
  4. Living in the Moment
    Practicing the art of mindfulness is another sure-fire way to be happier. Living in the moment eradicates any future worries or past regrets.
  5. Helping others
    Another tried and tested manner to create more happiness, giving is just as powerful as receiving. Those who live helping others have a greater sense of purpose and live more meaningful lives.
  6. Nurturing Positive Thoughts
    So many people forget that their thoughts are within their own control and allow negative thoughts to overtake their minds. If you want to live a happy and successful life you cannot afford a negative thought.
  7. Smiling
    Apparently smiling releases serotonin, a chemical that makes us happy. Smiling even when we don't really feel it will have the same effect.

While we know that all of these things contribute to our overall happiness why are so many of us still going around miserable?
Source: How to Create the Ultimate Habit of Happiness

Build Your Self-Confidence with These Fun Activities

Build Your Self-Confidence with These Fun Activities

Self-confidence helps us believe that we can handle whatever task or challenge comes our way. We could all use a little more of that. However, it’s easy to get bogged down with reading and acquiring information. Many people are too busy planning, and lack the confidence, to take action. Planning is important, but if you fail to implement your plan, you won’t see results.

Try these activities and boost your confidence today:

1. Try getting specific. Are you confident in your ability to brush your teeth, tie your shoes, and drive a car? Probably so! You likely have more self-confidence than you realize.
  • List some situations where you’d like to feel more self-confident. Some examples might include dating situations, public speaking, meeting new people, being more assertive at work, or dealing with conflict.
2. Create a self-confidence blueprint. Take a few minutes and jot down about a half-page of notes regarding the specific situation where you desire greater self-confidence. How would you act? How would you look to others? How would you feel? Think about your body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, and breathing.
  • Ensure that you define and understand what self-confidence looks like to you. It’s difficult to accomplish “it” if you’re unsure what “it” is.
3. Everything is easier in hindsight. Imagine that you’ve already been through the situation in question. Visualize yourself being incredibly self-confident. Put in as much detail as possible. See yourself acting in accordance with the criteria you listed in the previous step.
  • Do this visualization at least once a day until it’s 100% believable to you. Then you can try out your newfound self-confidence during the situation in question. Avoid expecting perfection and focus on personal growth.
4. Get physical. Attempt to sit, walk, talk, and act like a confident person. Intentionally try to take on the physical characteristics of someone that’s brimming with self-confidence. Smile and stand up straight. Use good eye contact.
  • Before you realize it, this will become a habit. Your current physicality is merely a poor habit. Form a new, positive habit of using confident body language.
5. Stretch yourself. Come up with a list of activities that will stretch your confidence muscles. It can be little tasks that you find slightly uncomfortable. As they become more comfortable, you can concentrate on more difficult tasks.
  • Suppose you have a fear of approaching beautiful women. You could start out by going to the mall and saying “Hello!” to 25 beautiful women that pass by. The next day, you could ask 25 beautiful women for directions. The following day you can compliment 25 beautiful women, and so on.

Building self-confidence requires action

Take some time each day to work on your self-confidence. There are few things that will have a greater positive impact on your life than increasing the level of confidence you have in yourself.
Create an action plan and stick to it. Self-confidence can be very easy to build if you make the effort. A little work can result in huge rewards.
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Boost Your Mood in 7 Days Without Medications


Boost Your Mood in 7 Days Without Medications

It can be difficult to turn things around when you’re in a cranky mood. Sometimes, life throws you a curve ball, and it affects you for a prolonged period of time. Moodiness can wreak havoc on your relationships. It can also make it challenging for you to be productive. Therefore, it’s a good idea to try and change your mood as soon as possible.
If you’re interested in achieving a mood shift, you can achieve it without any medications or gimmicks. And the best part is that you can do it in just seven days.

Consider these quick fixes for boosting your mood:

1. Start exercising regularly. Exercise is extremely underrated! It’s good for physical fitness, mental wellness, and peace of mind. Working out regularly helps to release your “feel good” hormones. As a result, you automatically start to experience happier feelings.
  • If you’re inactive now, start simple with something like walking. Perhaps you can take a walk around your neighborhood and enjoy the beauty of nature. Something like that has a way of automatically elevating your mood.
  • Try to do some form of exercise each day. Think of it as one of your essential activities, like eating or showering.
2. Be “scent-sational.” You’d be surprised about the impact simple things can have on your mood. For example, consider your sense of smell. By being in an environment where pleasurable scents exist, your mood is automatically elevated.
  • Lavender is a scent that promotes relaxation. Place a few droplets in your bath water or burn lavender-scented incense while reading.
  • What are some of your favorite scents? Identify those smells that you can tie to positive feelings. Is it the aroma of fresh-baked bread or pastries? If so, start baking more often!
3. Spend quality time with family. Surround yourself with whomever you consider to be family. It doesn’t have to be blood relatives. Family consists of those who have your best interests at heart. Having loved ones nearby helps to boost your mood tremendously.
  • For at least four of these seven days, reserve time for your “family.” It could be an hour each day just chatting on the phone or meeting for a cup of coffee.
  • Sharing your feelings with your loved ones can help lift the weight off your shoulders. Sometimes that’s the best way to get past an undesirable mood.
4. Take up a new hobby. Learning something new is a great distraction for a sour mood. Focus your energies on something other than what might be upsetting you. Pretty soon, you’ll realize your mood is positive more often than it’s negative.
  • Choose something that engages your mind and body. Getting your brain and hands involved helps you to be more focused and engaged in whatever you’re doing. For example, take up knitting or start building model airplanes.
  • Try a hobby that aligns with your passion and gets your creative juices flowing.

Boosting your mood isn’t rocket science.

Although it’s easy to wallow in negative feelings, that’s unhealthy and counterproductive. Follow these strategies for one week and you’ll feel the difference!
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