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​Dealing with Angry person!

The proverb says not to make friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man: The warning is very poignant. Angry people are exceptionally difficult to deal with.
However at the same time you cannot avoid an angry person. Perhaps you're married to a person who has a short temper. Maybe one of your children has a short fuse.

Dealing with an angry person is problematic at best. You need to be aware of several things.


Even don't even try. When someone is angry, you won't be able to rationalize with them. It is not something you can do when they are angry.

Angry people don't listen. In most cases they didn't even listen to what the other person had to say. It is with little regard to what the other person was saying.


Anger is a defensive measure that people retreat towards when some fear, conscious or subconscious, is evoked. People will defend an indefensible position out of anger.


Saying nothing may irritate them. Walking away may frustrate them. Trying to calm them down may only make them feel that you are patronizing them.

So how do you calm someone down?

If you can make a person feel that the problem is being addressed, they may calm down. For many people, it takes time to calm down. For others the sudden shock of how irresponsible or embarrassing they must appear to others will help calm them down. It takes a bit of skill, imagination, and ingenuity, but it can work.


Two angry people are like hand grenades threatening each other. Anger only fuels anger. You can't win a fight if you get angry.

Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Try to understand the source of their anger. Shove it aside and try to focus on solutions. Trying to out 'rage' each other is like adding oil to fire. It doesn't put out the fire

6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

Unfortunately, there aren’t many classes in high school or college that teach us how to be successful in long-term relationships and divorce is common. That’s regrettable, because a fulfilling relationship can contribute so much toward enjoying a happy and successful life.
There are many things you can do to strengthen your marriage and help make it last until death do you part. If you want to have the best chance of marital success, it’s a wise idea to learn some of these strategies.

Researchers have shared these tips on how to strengthen marriages and make them last:

1. Have realistic expectations. It’s easy to make it through the early stages of a relationship when everything is new and exciting. But those annoying little habits aren’t quite as cute and endearing ten years into the future. A relationship requires work and energy to grow and thrive.
2. Become good at saying “I’m sorry.” Despite your best efforts, you’ll make mistakes in your marriage. Studies have shown that the people slowest to apologize are the ones most likely to stay single or get divorced.
  • Sometimes you have to decide if you’d rather be correct or happy. Be strong enough to say you’re sorry and move on.
3. It’s okay to argue in a respectful way. The presence of arguing in a relationship doesn’t affect its success as much as how a couple argues. One psychologist claims a 95% success rate for predicting which relationships would fail just by listening to an argument for five minutes!
  • The four factors that make all the difference when you argue are: contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and withdrawing. Avoid these behaviors and your marriage is more likely to survive.
4. Laugh together. Remember the good times you’ve shared. Talk about and relive them. Reminiscing about fun times helps keep couples together.
  • Consider creating some happy, new memories and remind your partner about the great times you’ve already enjoyed. Laughing together strengthens your marriage!
5. You need five good times for each bad one. Research has shown that marriages require at least five positive interactions for each negative one. What is a good interaction? A fun afternoon, a positive conversation, or a good hug. You know what a negative interaction is.
6. You can complain, but avoid criticizing. If your partner’s behavior is bothering you, it’s okay to point it out and ask them to stop. But, avoid attacking your partner. You can say, “It drives me crazy when you throw your dirty socks all over the floor.” But avoid saying, “You’re such a slob. What’s your problem?”
  • Most people can accept that they might be doing something bothersome. However, that’s different from being personally attacked.
A happy marriage is important for you and your children. There are times when we all have to put our own needs aside and do whatever we can to strengthen our relationships. These tips will help you work toward a happy partnership as you give your marriage the time and attention it deserves.

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10 Life Tips !!!

1. Everyone have two Eyes 
   ... But No one has the same View...

2. The most important quality of successful
    people is their willingness to change..

3. Human beings are very strange. 
   They have ego of their knowledge but,
   they don't have knowledge of their ego.

4. People who judge do not matter. 
    People who matter do not judge.

5. Alphabet "O" stands for Opportunity which is
   absent in Yesterday", Available only once in "Today"
   And thrice in "Tomorrow".

6. "Pain is Unavoidable but, 
      Suffering is Optional.."

7. Never ignore a person who loves and cares
    for you, because one day you may realize 
    that you've lost the moon
    while counting the stars.

8. Sometimes life doesn't give you 
    something you want,
    not because you don't deserve it, 
    but because you deserve more.

9. If the Road is Beautiful then worry
    About the Destination,
    But if the Destination is Beautiful, 
   Then Don't Worry About The Road!

10. Only messages are not life, 
     but .... Our life should be a message to others.

5 Qualities of Remarkable Bosses

5 Qualities of Remarkable Bosses

Consistently do these five things and the results you want from your employees--and your business--will follow. Getty

Remarkable bosses aren't great on paper. Great bosses are remarkable based on their actions.
Results are everything—but not the results you might think.
Consistently do these five things and everything else follows. You and your business benefit greatly.
More importantly, so do your employees.

1. Develop every employee. Sure, you can put your primary focus on reaching targets, achieving results, and accomplishing concrete goals—but do that and you put your leadership cart before your achievement horse.
Without great employees, no amount of focus on goals and targets will ever pay off. Employees can only achieve what they are capable of achieving, so it's your job to help all your employees be more capable so they—and your business—can achieve more.
It's your job to provide the training, mentoring, and opportunities your employees need and deserve. When you do, you transform the relatively boring process of reviewing results and tracking performance into something a lot more meaningful for your employees: Progress, improvement, and personal achievement.
So don't worry about reaching performance goals. Spend the bulk of your time developing the skills of your employees and achieving goals will be a natural outcome.
Plus it's a lot more fun.

2. Deal with problems immediately. Nothing kills team morale more quickly than problems that don't get addressed. Interpersonal squabbles, performance issues, feuds between departments... all negatively impact employee motivation and enthusiasm.
And they're distracting, because small problems never go away. Small problems always fester and grow into bigger problems. Plus, when you ignore a problem your employees immediately lose respect for you, and without respect, you can't lead.
Never hope a problem will magically go away, or that someone else will deal with it. Deal with every issue head-on, no matter how small.

3. Rescue your worst employee. Almost every business has at least one employee who has fallen out of grace: Publicly failed to complete a task, lost his cool in a meeting, or just can't seem to keep up. Over time that employee comes to be seen by his peers—and by you—as a weak link.
While that employee may desperately want to "rehabilitate" himself, it's almost impossible. The weight of team disapproval is too heavy for one person to move.
But it's not too heavy for you.
Before you remove your weak link from the chain, put your full effort into trying to rescue that person instead. Say, "John, I know you've been struggling but I also know you're trying. Let's find ways together that can get you where you need to be." Express confidence. Be reassuring. Most of all, tell him you'll be there every step of the way.
Don't relax your standards. Just step up the mentoring and coaching you provide.
If that seems like too much work for too little potential outcome, think of it this way. Your remarkable employees don't need a lot of your time; they're remarkable because they already have these qualities. If you're lucky, you can get a few percentage points of extra performance from them. But a struggling employee has tons of upside; rescue him and you make a tremendous difference.
Granted, sometimes it won't work out. When it doesn't, don't worry about it.  The effort is its own reward.
And occasionally an employee will succeed—and you will have made a tremendous difference in a person's professional and personal life.
Can't beat that.

4. Serve others, not yourself. You can get away with being selfish or self-serving once or twice... but that's it.
Never say or do anything that in any way puts you in the spotlight, however briefly. Never congratulate employees and digress for a few moments to discuss what you did.

If it should go without saying, don't say it. Your glory should always be reflected, never direct.
When employees excel, you and your business excel. When your team succeeds, you and your business succeed. When you rescue a struggling employee and they become remarkable, remember they should be congratulated, not you.
You were just doing your job the way a remarkable boss should.
When you consistently act as if you are less important than your employees—and when you never ask employees to do something you don't do—everyone knows how important you really are.

5. Always remember where you came from. See an autograph seeker blown off by a famous athlete and you might think, "If I was in a similar position I would never do that."
Oops. Actually, you do. To some of your employees, especially new employees, you are at least slightly famous. You're in charge. You're the boss.
That's why an employee who wants to talk about something that seems inconsequential may just want to spend a few moments with you.
When that happens, you have a choice. You can blow the employee off... or you can see the moment for its true importance: A chance to inspire, reassure, motivate, and even give someone hope for greater things in their life. The higher you rise the greater the impact you can make—and the greater your responsibility to make that impact.

In the eyes of his or her employees, a remarkable boss is a star.
Remember where you came from, and be gracious with your stardom.

Jeff Haden learned much of what he knows about business and technology as he worked his way up in the manufacturing industry. Everything else he picks up from ghostwriting books for some of the smartest leaders he knows in business. @jeff_haden

5 Things That Really Smart People Do

Don't get in the way of your own learning. Here are five ways to step aside and continue to increase your smarts.

Most people don't really think much about how they learn. Generally you assume learning comes naturally. You listen to someone speak either in conversation or in a lecture and you simply absorb what they are saying, right? Not really. In fact, I find as I get older that real learning takes more work. The more I fill my brain with facts, figures, and experience, the less room I have for new ideas and new thoughts. Plus, now I have all sorts of opinions that may refute the ideas being pushed at me. Like many people I consider myself a lifelong learner, but more and more I have to work hard to stay open minded.
But the need for learning never ends, so your desire to do so should always outweigh your desire to be right. The world is changing and new ideas pop up everyday; incorporating them into your life will keep you engaged and relevant. The following are the methods I use to stay open and impressionable. They'll work for you too. No matter how old you get.

1. Quiet Your Inner Voice

You know the one I am talking about. It's the little voice that offers a running commentary when you are listening to someone. It's the voice that brings up your own opinion about the information being provided. It is too easy to pay more attention to the inner voice than the actual speaker. That voice often keeps you from listening openly for good information and can often make you shut down before you have heard the entire premise. Focus less on what your brain has to say and more on the speaker. You may be surprised at what you hear.

2. Argue With Yourself

If you can't quiet the inner voice, then at least use it to your advantage. Every time you hear yourself contradicting the speaker, stop and take the other point of view. Suggest to your brain all the reasons why the speaker may be correct and you may be wrong. In the best case you may open yourself to the information being provided. Failing that, you will at least strengthen your own argument.

3. Act Like You Are Curious

Some people are naturally curious and others are not. No matter which category you are in you can benefit from behaving like a curious person. Next time you are listening to information, make up and write down three to five relevant questions. If you are in a lecture, Google them after for answers. If you are in a conversation you can ask the other person. Either way you'll likely learn more, and the action of thinking up questions will help encode the concepts in your brain. As long as you're not a cat you should benefit from these actions of curiosity.

4. Find the Kernel of Truth

No concept or theory comes out of thin air. Somewhere in the elaborate concept that sounds like complete malarkey there is some aspect that is based upon fact. Even if you don't buy into the idea, you should at least identify the little bit of truth from whence it came. Play like a detective and build your own extrapolation. You'll enhance your skills of deduction and may even improve the concept beyond the speaker's original idea.

5. Focus on the Message Not the Messenger

Often people shut out learning due to the person delivering the material. Whether it's a boring lecturer, someone physically unappealing, or a member of the opposite political party, the communicator can impact your learning. Even friends can disrupt the learning process since there may be too much history and familiarity to see them as an authority on a topic. Separate the material from the provider. Pretend you don't know the person or their beliefs so you can hear the information objectively. As for the boring person, focus on tip two, three, or four as if it were a game, thereby creating your own entertainment

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5 Bodily Odors You Need to Pay Attention to!

One of the most embarrassing things that an individual can suffer with is a bad body odor of some description. Although our first instinct is usually to get rid of the odor by gargling, wiping or spraying in order to mask the stench, there could be a greater underlying problem than is immediately obvious. Here are five odors that you should definitely take notice of:

If your breath in the morning is bad enough that it makes your partner send you to brush your teeth as soon as you wake up, then you could be dealing with sleep apnea. This is especially true if you brush and floss religiously before going to bed each night.

Sleep apnea is a chronic disorder that makes you stop and start breathing periodically throughout the night. This makes your mouth dry, and allows bacteria to breed more easily in your throat. Some of these bacteria even produce a sulphurous gas that makes your breath smell of rotten eggs. If you suspect that you might have sleep apnea, be sure to get a sleep test.
Lactose intolerance arises from the body not producing enough lactase, which is an enzyme that breaks down lactose in the small intestine. When there isn’t enough lactase present, the small intestine sends the lactose in the food you ate straight to your colon, where it ferments and creates a foul odor. Some 65% of all people have problems digesting dairy, so check with your doctor to see if you need to make dietary changes.

3. Strong-smelling urine
Should you have just eaten asparagus or been out for a few alcoholic beverages, then it’s perfectly normal to have urine that smells a little. However, if you’ve done neither of those things and your urine has a strong, nasty smell, then it could mean that you have a urinary tract infection.
Diabetic ketoacidosis occurs when the body runs low on insulin, resulting in a spike in blood sugar. This is more common in people with Type 1 diabetes than in people who have Type 2 diabetes. When the body doesn’t have enough energy, it breaks down fatty acids for fuel. One of those acids is called acetone, which gives your breath a fruity smell.
It’s understandable to have smelly feet after a long run without socks on during a hot summer afternoon, but it’s a whole other matter if your feet stink constantly, regardless of any deodorizations you take. Constantly smell feet are a sign of athlete’s foot.

Athlete’s foot is caused by a combination of fungus and bacteria that eats away at the skin between your toes and on your feat. What’s worse is that athlete’s foot can be spread to other parts of the body. Athlete’s foot can be cleared up easily with medications such as Lotrimin or Tinactin. If you have it, just make sure you take care of it as soon as you can, because it could lead to more complicated skin conditions such as cellulitis.

Story: The Stranger

A few years after I was born, my Dad met a stranger who was new to our small town. From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with this enchanting newcomer and soon invited him to live with our family. The stranger was quickly accepted and was around from then on.

As I grew up, I never questioned his place in my family. In my young mind, he had a special niche. My parents were complementary instructors: Mom taught me good from evil, and Dad taught me to obey. But the stranger... he was our storyteller. He would keep us spellbound for hours on end with adventures, mysteries and comedies.

If I wanted to know anything about politics, history or science, he always knew the answers about the past, understood the present and even seemed able to predict the future! He took my family to the first major league ball game. He made me laugh, and he made me cry. The stranger never stopped talking, but Dad didn't seem to mind.

Dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions, but the stranger never felt obligated to honor them. Profanity, for example, was not allowed in our home - not from us, our friends or any visitors. Our long time visitor, however, got away with four-letter words that burned my ears and made my dad squirm and my mother blush.

My Dad didn't permit the liberal use of cigarettes but the stranger encouraged us to try it on a regular basis. He made cigarettes look cool, cigars manly, and pipes distinguished.

He talked freely (much too freely!) about sex. His comments were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive, and generally embarrassing.

More than fifty years have passed since the stranger moved in with our family. He has blended right in and is not nearly as fascinating as he was at first.  Still, if you could walk into my parents' den today, you would still find him sitting over in his corner, waiting for someone to listen to him talk and watch him draw his pictures.

His name?.... We just call him 'TV.'
He has a wife now....we call her 'Computer.'
Their first child is "Cell Phone".
Second child "I Pod"

How to Tell If Your Phone has Been Hacked?

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Your phone is not as private as you think it is, and we have yet to be able to purchase a phone that cannot be hacked. To reduce the potential risks, bear in mind the following tips, teaching you how to recognize a phone that has been hacked, as well as how to protect your phone from malevolence.
1. How your phone can be hacked
• The easiest way for hackers to take possession of your phone is through apps such as Spy Phone App, Spyzie, Theonespy, or Spyera.
• It can also occur through an unprotected Wi-Fi network in a cafe or airport.  When you log on to public Wi-Fi, you actually share all your traffic with everyone around you.
• There is also a risk of all your data being revealed and transferred when charging your phone via an unknown USB (even if on an airplane or a car).
• Hacking can also take place through SMS phishing, which happens when you receive a message with a link saying that it is, for instance, your bank statement, a money transfer, or your photos. When you click on the link and download the file, all your phone contents are revealed to the hackers.
• It is also possible for hackers to read your text messages, listen to your phone calls and track your cell phone locations with the help of Signalling System SS7 - used by the majority of telephone stations all over the world.
2. How to recognize that your phone has been hacked
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• You may notice that your phone has suddenly started to run out of juice very quickly. This can happen when an unknown app is running inside your phone.
• Noticing that your phone gets warm, even if you hadn't made a call, is a sign that there is an unknown app running.
• Your phone reboots itself. You may see it switch off, dial numbers or start applications. Unless your system has broken down, it could be tapping.
• You may also notice new unknown phone numbers in your recent calls.
• You are unable to switch off your device. Instead your phone starts opening different apps, increasing the lighting and so on.
• You may also experience noises, or echo during calls, which you haven't had before.
• When unfamiliar apps pop up on your phone, or a strange message is sent to numbers in your address book, you've likely been hacked.
3. I’ve been hacked, what do I do?
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• If you've been hacked, the first thing you should do is reset your passwords. Starting with your email account, followed by your financial and other critical accounts. Resetting your email passwords first is important because all other accounts are typically sent to your email.
• If you're locked out of your account or blocked from accessing it, most Web services have steps in place so you can get back in. For instance, Facebook has a system where you can use a trusted source, such as a friend to help you take back your account. Be sure to search each service's help section for specific instructions.
• It is also important to let your contacts know that you've been hacked , reporting the issue to the site. Also, run a scan of your computer or mobile device using a trusted, and up-to-date antivirus program.
• Should you experience identity theft, order a copy of your credit reports, and file an initial fraud alert with the three major credit bureaus: Equifax, Experian and TransUnion. Then contact your local police and report the identity theft, and request new cards from your bank and credit card companies. Be sure to continue to monitor your monthly statements for any unusual activity.
• As such, there is no way to completely eliminate the risk of hack attacks and other cyber crimes. The important thing to do is to safeguard and arm yourself by protecting your phone and minimizing damage. 
4. How to protect your phone
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• If you receive a message with a link and you cannot see the full URL, do not open it.
• When charging your phone through an unknown computer, choose the setting, 'only charging'.
• Never use the 'remember passwords' function.
• Switch off your automatic connection to public Wi-Fi networks and choose them manually instead.
• Be sure to also avoid networks with suspicious names such as freeinternet, or wififree. Always choose networks that are protected with a password, especially if you are in a cafe.
• Never make an online purchase or transfer money on public Wi-Fi networks.
• Add a password to your phone.
• Run a mobile anti-virus software, protecting your device from the inside out with comprehensive security software. McAfee Movile Security is free for both Android and iOS, and this will help to protect your device and its data from hackers.
• Be sure to keep your phone updated as this will help defend against updated threats.
• Check your credit card statements regularly, ensuring that there are no suspicious payments.

Smart Resume Submission

Playing Résumé RouletteBy Richard H. Beatty, Author of "The Ultimate Job Search"

Considering the hundreds (if not thousands) of candidates applying for a single Internet job posting, how does the average job seeker compete and ensure an employer sees their résumé?

You need to know both the game and the right cards to play, if you are going to beat the odds and stand a chance of winning at 'résumé roulette.'

As most seasoned job seekers know, a high percentage of employers no longer manually process résumés but instead rely on applicant-tracking systems (or some form of résumé-screening software) to do initial résumé screening for them. By loading a number of specific words or phrases, known as "keywords," into the system, the employer's software package then electronically scans each résumé in search of these same preloaded terms, and may even "score" the application based upon the number of times the desired keywords appear in each applicant's résumé.

Repetitive use of these important keywords will often cause the software to select a given résumé for employer review over thousands of others submitted. Those lucky enough to choose the right keywords will have their résumés rise to the top of the stack, while those lacking the magical terms will quickly sink to the bottom. Choose the right words, and you're a winner; choose the wrong words, and you're dead in the water!

So, what is a job seeker to do? How does one win in this hit-or-miss game of 'résumé roulette?' Is it possible to win? Is it even worthwhile playing?

The answer is yes! You can't afford not to play, if you are going to wage a successful job-search campaign.

Review of several recent surveys suggests that Internet job postings are now the No. 1 source for landing a job, accounting for an estimated 33 percent of the market. This is followed by networking/employee referral standing at about 25 percent, and headhunters at about 12 percent. So, the Internet needs to be a key component of your overall job-search strategy.

So how can one win at this game of 'résumé roulette?' Here are some tips from my new book, "The Ultimate Job Search," that you can use to stack the deck in your favor:
Study Employment AdsStart by searching job sites for your desired position. Print out several of the resultant job listings and lay them side-by-side on your kitchen table. With a highlighter in hand, read through each of these ads and highlight all nouns and noun phrases which represent the key qualifications (skills and competencies) being sought by the employer. (Note: These are all potential keywords.)

Once this process is completed, list the same highlighted nouns and noun phrases contained in each job posting on a separate sheet of paper. Then, as these same skill areas are repeated from ad to ad, simply place a checkmark behind that keyword.

Now review your list. Obviously, those keywords having the greatest number of checkmarks are the skills and competencies most employers are seeking when filling your target position. You might consider these a sort of "universal set" of keywords that most employers consider important to job success. Thus, you will want to be sure to incorporate these important terms repeatedly throughout your résumé document. This will substantially improve your résumé's odds of being selected for further consideration by the employer.
Job DescriptionsA similar analysis can be conducted using job descriptions. In order to gather a sampling of appropriate job descriptions, simply conduct an Internet search by inserting both your target job title and the words "job description" in the search box of any major search engine.

By highlighting important keywords and tabulating the results contained in these job descriptions, as you have done with Internet job postings, you will have identified a universal set of keywords that needs to be skillfully incorporated into your résumé. It may also be a good idea to compare this list with those previously identified through Internet job-posting analysis, as a means of further prioritizing your keyword list.

Intelligent use of keywords in your résumé can help take the guesswork out of 'résumé roulette.' It's no longer just a hit-or-miss proposition.

Richard H. Beatty is a leading career author and internationally known consultant with considerable hands-on experience in human resources and staffing. His 14 career books -- including
"The Interview Kit,""The Perfect Cover Letter," "The Résumé Kit," "The Five-Minute Interview, 175 High-Impact Résumés," and "175 High-Impact Cover Letters" (all Wiley) -- have sold more than 1 million copies worldwide. His newest release, "The Ultimate Job Search" (JIST, (c)2006), can be found at your local bookstore or online at

7 Things Your Back Pain Is Trying to Tell You!

Pain is our body's way of telling us that something is wrong. In the case of back pain, the root cause may be obvious - you may have been involved in a car accident, or lifted a box that was too heavy. Though it may also seem like a mystery. Nevertheless, if you dig a little, the root cause of your back pain could also be sorted out. So if you're unsure about why you are in agony, one of these 7 possible causes may be it:

1. You're feeling stressed
It should come as no surprise to learn that stress can cause tight muscles and knots in your neck and upper back. Anxiety may also cause you to have back spasms too. If you suspect that stress is causing you back pain, try to incorporate some relaxation techniques such as meditation and deep breathing into your routine. A weekly yoga class, or an intensive stretch will help reduce lower back pain. 
2. You're hooked on technology
Hunching over a phone or tablet for several hours a day can cause what has now been termed, 'text neck'. Having a slumped neck and rounded shoulders adds an additional 60 pounds of weight on your spine, which can inadvertently change your posture and cause back pain. To prevent this from happening, try keeping your phone at eye level instead. 
3. You're not sitting properly
Just as looking down at your smartphone can cause back problems, sitting down all day can wreck havoc on your spine too. Poor posture can cause lower back pain by increasing the amount of pressure or tension on the bones, joints, ligaments, and spinal discs. Improve your sitting posture by keeping your forearms parallel to the floor, your head in line with your torso, your feet flat on the floor or resting on a foot rest, your back fully supported and thighs parallel to the floor. 
4. You have a muscle imbalance elsewhere in your body
Everything in your body is interconnected. Your back pain may be stemming from tight hamstrings or weak abdominals. If other muscle groups are weak, it can cause the muscles of the back to do more work than they should to keep the spine upright or moving correctly. Try working with a physical therapist to identify and correct the specific imbalances that are over-taxing your back.
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5. You have a bulging or ruptured disc
The disks between your vertebrae help cushion the spine and act as shock-absorbers. Over time, however, they can flatten or rupture due to natural aging, certain movements, or a family history of disc disease. While it doesn't always cause pain, when it does, it can be hugely uncomfortable. If a bulging disc is the culprit, doctors often prescribe over-the-counter medicine, hot and cold packs, and physical therapy. 
6. Something more serious is going on
Pancreatitis, ulcers, or even a kidney infection could cause pain that radiates into the back. It may also be a result of an infection, osteomyelitis - an infection of the spine. Most back pains tend to resolve on their own in six weeks - but if yours has gotten worse then be sure to see a physician, particularly if it is accompanied by fever, numbness in the rectal area, and loss of bowel or bladder control. 
7. You just had a baby
Statistics show that almost 80% of new moms suffer from lower back pain as a result of the stress placed on the body during pregnancy. Another cause may also be due to the habits that result from caring for a young baby, such as holding a baby on one side of the body, or hunching while nursing - which can lead to muscle imbalance, affecting the natural curve of your spine. Are you a new mom? Try be aware of maintaining good posture by alternating muscle groups so you're not constantly rocking, swaying, or bouncing your baby on one side. 

Today's Inspiration: Live Your Life

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There is always Another chance
For everything in life,
But the fact is
There is No chance
For Another life
Dream it ; Mean it
Live it & Love it

Welcome the Unexpected

Just when "I" thought that "I" control "my" life, that "I" have choices and my destiny is "my own" choosing, something unexpected, out of the blue comes out…
Then "I" may think: "There are some things out of "my" control."

Without beliefs, this becomes an ongoing process of realizations in Life, a process of assimilation of different experiences which all of the sudden, in an unexpected fashion; that "I" will decide to finally look into itself and perhaps inquire into its existence and then into its lack of existence.
That could be labeled as self-realization.
What are some of the distractors preventing us into looking into that "I"?
Beliefs, emotions, moral standards.
To uncover our beliefs is to free our minds.
To uncover our emotions is to clean our hearts.
When the influence of those 2 is minimized through observation; then moral standards as "good and bad" automatically lose their grip. We are ready to be free from "ourselves."
The above is my own journey. It is not something to be found in a book.
Yours, may be different.
When those voices aren't there, it is a world of appreciation and wonder.
What is the "method" to get rid of those voices, you may ask?
To do nothing. :-)
Observe them, appreciate them, laugh through their performance. It is "You" after all.
There is nothing serious about observation. There is nothing "to do."
The unexpected things:
Unexpectedly, I dropped my "i-phone" into my bathtub last night, just to the test the "waterproof" capabilities of that wonderful device… We shall see if it survives… Unexpectedly, my sister is coming to visit me this weekend, so I will be out of touch for a week since I will be enjoying her visit.
Got to love the unexpected!

Story: The Friend Losing Pen Quite Often

JRD Tata had a friend who used to say that he misplaces and loses his pen very often.
He will use only very cheap pens so that he need not worry about losing them. He was worried about carelessness habit.
JRD suggested to him to buy the costliest pen he could afford and see what happens.
He did that and purchased a 22 carat gold Cross pen. After nearly six months JRD met him and asked him if he continues to misplace his pen.
His friend said that he is very careful about his costly pen and he is surprised how he has changed!
JRD explained to him that the value of the pen made the difference and there was nothing wrong with him as a person!
This is what happens in our life.
We are careful with things which we value most.
* If we value our health, we will be careful about what and how we eat;
* if we value our friends, we will treat them with respect;
* if we value money, we will be careful while spending;
* if we value our time, we will not waste it.
*if we value relationship we will not break it.
Carefulness is a basic trait all of us have,we know when to be careful!
Carelessness only shows what we don't value......
Have a wonderful n careful life...

10 Herbs to Alleviate Symptoms of Arthritis (Body Joints Problems)

50 million adults and approximately 300,000 children have been diagnosed with some form of arthritis in the United States, which is a disease characterized by inflamed joints. It's especially common in women or obese people, as opposed to men of a healthy weight. But the elderly or those genetically predisposed to arthritis are at a greater risk of developing the disease. One other risk factor to bear in mind is whether you have had a joint injury in the past. 
What are the symptoms?
People with arthritis often experience the following symptoms:
•    Inflammation
•    Stiffness
•    Swelling
•    Redness
•    Pain  

Arthritis may also cause you to feel fatigued and weak and can negatively impact your range of motion and your ability to perform everyday tasks. 

What treatments are available?

While no treatment is available to cure arthritis, treatments are usually aimed at mitigating damage and reducing pain. Herbs and the food that you eat, can greatly affect arthritis. The 10 following herbs can be added to your tea, they can be used to season your food, or used in topical preparations. 
1. Turmeric
This is the number one spice to go to when dealing with arthritis. Also known as curcumin, turmeric has been at the forefront of a number of clinical studies, all of which have proven that this spice has powerful antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties. To reap the benefits of turmeric, use it as a mild and flavorful kitchen spice, which you can add to a wide variety of dishes. Turmeric may also be purchased in capsule format and used as a supplement. It's generally advisable to take 400 to 600mg of turmeric three times a day. 
2. Licorice
Licorice extract has been shown to be quite effective in both the prevention and treatment of chronic, acute inflammatory conditions such as arthritis. It has been shown to reduce the inflammation and damage caused by free radicals in the body. You can add it to your tea by steeping a teaspoon of dried licorice root powder in a mug of boiled water for 10 minutes. You can also take it in capsule form. However, it is advised that you speak to a healthcare professional before taking it in a concentrated form, as it's not suitable for those who have low potassium levels, diabetes, kidney disease, heart disease and/or hypertension. 
3. Stinging Nettle
This surprisingly beneficial herb is good for your overall health and is especially effective in treating arthritis. It's packed with anti-inflammatory properties and delivers a remarkable dose of minerals such as magnesium, calcium and potassium all of which help make your bones stronger and ease your pain. Purchase nettle in its dried herb form, in tea-bags, or take it as a supplement. 
4. Cinnamon
This flavorful and popular spice contains valuable antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties. According to studies, cinnamon extract is very useful in reducing redness, swelling and stiffness in the joints. Cinnamon can be added to your everyday diet in its natural form - you can sprinkle some on toast, in oatmeal or in baked goods. You may also add a teaspoon to a cup of warm tea first thing in the morning alongside a tablespoon of honey. Drink the mix daily on an empty stomach to reap the benefits. 
5. White Willow Bark
This old fashioned remedy contains a chemical known as salicin - a natural analgesic. Originally, aspirin was d from white willow bark. Ingesting this herb in the form of tea, or taking it as a supplement can help relieve the pain of osteoarthritis. It has been found to be especially beneficial for pain in the back, neck, hips and knees.
6. Garlic
Here's a herb you likely use in your everyday cooking. Garlic contains powerful anti-inflammatory properties that have been shown to be helpful in combating the pain and swelling that arthritis causes. To get its beneficial effects, garlic is best eaten raw - aim to eat two to three raw cloves of garlic a day on an empty stomach. Chew them up a bit first, breaking each clove open in order to release their beneficial properties and enabling you to swallow them whole. Alternatively, you can purchase garlic capsules or garlic oil which can be applied topically to painful areas. 
7. Boswellia
While this herb may not be as well known as others on the list, it has been clinically proven to be very effective in treating inflammatory disease. Aside from reducing inflammation, boswellia acts as a mild natural pain reliever. It does so by increasing the circulation to your joints. Studies have also indicated that it may prevent cartilage loss. Take this herb in the form of a supplement though be sure to speak to a healthcare professional before you do. 
8. Green Tea
This incredible health tonic has long shown success in the treatment of rheumatoid arthritis. Green tea's health benefits can be found in the polyphenols that it contains - it has very powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties, suppressing the immune response and preventing the immune system from attacking the lining of your joints. This popular beverage is widely available in the form of teabags. 
9. Cat's Claw
Available in supplement form, cat's claw has been found to be very effective in relieving the pain of rheumatoid arthritis. It also has positive effects on swelling and inflammation. Aim to take between 250 to 350mg of Cat's Claw per day. 
10. Ginger
This well known aromatic and flavorful herb is very good for easing arthritis pain. It also helps to reduce swelling and inflammation. Ginger can easily be added into your diet and can be used as a fresh ingredient. It can also be purchased dry and used in tea. Ginger oil may also be applied topically to painful areas for relief of swelling and inflammation. To reap its benefits further, after applying the oil, warm the area with a heated compress.