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6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

Unfortunately, there aren’t many classes in high school or college that teach us how to be successful in long-term relationships and divorce is common. That’s regrettable, because a fulfilling relationship can contribute so much toward enjoying a happy and successful life.
There are many things you can do to strengthen your marriage and help make it last until death do you part. If you want to have the best chance of marital success, it’s a wise idea to learn some of these strategies.

Researchers have shared these tips on how to strengthen marriages and make them last:

1. Have realistic expectations. It’s easy to make it through the early stages of a relationship when everything is new and exciting. But those annoying little habits aren’t quite as cute and endearing ten years into the future. A relationship requires work and energy to grow and thrive.
2. Become good at saying “I’m sorry.” Despite your best efforts, you’ll make mistakes in your marriage. Studies have shown that the people slowest to apologize are the ones most likely to stay single or get divorced.
  • Sometimes you have to decide if you’d rather be correct or happy. Be strong enough to say you’re sorry and move on.
3. It’s okay to argue in a respectful way. The presence of arguing in a relationship doesn’t affect its success as much as how a couple argues. One psychologist claims a 95% success rate for predicting which relationships would fail just by listening to an argument for five minutes!
  • The four factors that make all the difference when you argue are: contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and withdrawing. Avoid these behaviors and your marriage is more likely to survive.
4. Laugh together. Remember the good times you’ve shared. Talk about and relive them. Reminiscing about fun times helps keep couples together.
  • Consider creating some happy, new memories and remind your partner about the great times you’ve already enjoyed. Laughing together strengthens your marriage!
5. You need five good times for each bad one. Research has shown that marriages require at least five positive interactions for each negative one. What is a good interaction? A fun afternoon, a positive conversation, or a good hug. You know what a negative interaction is.
6. You can complain, but avoid criticizing. If your partner’s behavior is bothering you, it’s okay to point it out and ask them to stop. But, avoid attacking your partner. You can say, “It drives me crazy when you throw your dirty socks all over the floor.” But avoid saying, “You’re such a slob. What’s your problem?”
  • Most people can accept that they might be doing something bothersome. However, that’s different from being personally attacked.
A happy marriage is important for you and your children. There are times when we all have to put our own needs aside and do whatever we can to strengthen our relationships. These tips will help you work toward a happy partnership as you give your marriage the time and attention it deserves.
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the flowers that fall,
It’s always busy
making new flowers.
LIFE is not about
What we Lost,
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What we can still grow….

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This is Why You're Always Hungry!




 

It’s one thing if you notice an increase in appetite if you’ve been exercising hard or if you’re pregnant, but if you always feel hungry for no obvious reason, then something’s definitely up. Figuring out why you can’t stop sticking food in your mouth is important, as excess hunger can create physical or mental health issues. Below are 10 possible reasons for your insatiable hunger.
 
1. You’re Dehydrated
According to Alissa Rumsey, RD, spokesperson for the American Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics, “mild dehydration is often masked as feelings of hunger, when really your body just needs fluids.” This confusion happens in the hypothalamus, the part of the brain which is responsible for both appetite and thirst. When you’re dehydrated, wires get crossed in the hypothalamus, leading you to grab a bag of chips instead of a bottle of water. Therefore, if you’re feeling hungry and you know that you haven't drunk much that day, drink a glass of water and wait 15-20 minutes to see if your hunger subsides.
2. You’re a Restless Sleeper
By the time you have woken up after a poor night of sleep, two hormones linked to appetite have already begun conspiring against you. Rumsey states that “too little sleep can lead to surging levels of ghrelin, a hormone that stimulates appetite, as well as decreased levels of leptin, a hormone that causes feelings of fullness.” After poor sleep, you’re more likely to have serious fatigue and brain fog. Therefore, your body, desperate for a shot of energy, triggers cravings for sugar carbs even if you’re not actually hungry. You should always aim for 7-8 hours of sleep a night to ensure that your energy levels and hunger hormones are kept on track.
 
3. You’re a Stress Case
Stress has a sneaky way of making you more voracious. When you’re tense, your system increases the production of the stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol. Elevated levels of these hormones trick your body into thinking it’s under attack and needs energy, so your appetite starts raging. Being stressed also reduces the levels of the brain chemical serotonin, and that will make you feel hungry when you’re not.
 
4. You Load up on Starchy Carbs
 
Maggie Moon, RD, a Los Angeles-based nutritionist, states that “simple carbs, the kind found in sugary, white flour foods like pastries, crackers, and cookies, spike your blood sugar levels quickly, then leave them plunging soon after.” That plunge causes intense hunger for more sugary carbs, and the vicious cycle continues. Therefore, you can prevent fluctuating blood sugar levels by simply avoiding simple-carb foods as often as possible. You can get your carb fix by eating almonds, chia seeds, apples, and pistachios.
 
5. You Drink Too Much Alcohol
That pre-dinner glass of wine that’s meant to whet your appetite before the food arrives does exactly that, stimulating a feeling of hunger. A study that was published in the journal Appetite, backs this up, finding that people were more likely to consume foods high in calories after drinking alcohol. To add to this, because booze dehydrates you, it can trick you into thinking you need some food when all you really need is some water. This effect can be offset by eating before you drink.
 
6. You’re Not Eating Enough Fat
Just like protein, unsaturated fat is also linked to feelings of fullness. Rumsey states that “when you’re satisfied after a meal, you’re more likely to listen to your hunger cues and not eat again until you are truly hungry.” This heart-healthy, brain-boosting kind of fat can be found in the form of oils, nuts, seeds, and avocados. Experts recommend that adults limit their fat intake to 20-35% of their total daily calories.
 
7. You Skip Meals
When you skip a meal and your stomach has been empty for too long, it produces an increase in the production of the hunger hormone ghrelin. Which ramps up your appetite. When you finally give in to your body’s desires, you’re more likely to binge eat. Therefore, as a general rule, you should try not to go more than 4-5 hours between meals. Even if you hate breakfast, you should try to eat something small.
8. You Need to Eat More Protein
 
This may sound counterintuitive, but piling your plate with more food – specifically lean protein and healthy fat – will keep hunger pangs at bay. “Not only does protein stay in your stomach and produce feelings of fullness, it’s been shown to have an appetite-suppressing effect,” says Rumsey. You should aim for around 46 grams of protein per day, which is the RDA for women between the ages of 19 and 70. For men, it’s 56 grams per day.

9. You Inhale Your Food
When you wolf down your food, your stomach might be full, but your brain hasn’t had enough time to register that fullness. When your brain is still in the dark, it keeps your appetite high, and you continue to eat. Therefore, you should try to eat your food slowly, savoring each bite and enjoying a good meal. Then, you should wait about 20 minutes before deciding whether you really need another portion. This is how long it takes for that fullness signal to reach your brain.
 
10. You’re on Certain Meds
The drugs that you’re taking to treat a certain health condition can also drive you to raid the fridge. Antidepressants such as Paxil and Zoloft, as well as corticosteroids such as Prenisone, are known to affect appetite, says Rumsey. If you’re on prescription medication and feel hungry after a normal-sized meal, talk to your doctor to see if it’s possible for you to change to another drug.

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