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Wise Words!

1. Live in your own place to enjoy independence and privacy.2. DO NOT RETIRE FROM LIFE.
3. Don't depend only on your children's promise to care for you when you grow old as their priorities change with time.
4. Expand your circle of friends to include those who will outlive you.
5. Do not compare and expect nothing from others.
6. Do not meddle in the life of your children. Let them live THEIR life not yours.
7. Do not use old age as your shield and justification to demand care, respect and attention.
8. Listen to what others say but think and act independently.
9. Pray and ask for God's forgiveness. He will be Sufficient for you.
10. TAKE GOOD CARE OF OWN HEALTH. Apart from Medical Attention, eat Best Food in the Best Way (you can afford) Try to Do your own Work ...

And finally,
Remember, You are not ALIVE, unless and until you start LIVING!

How to Motivate Yourself

Veechi Shahi

Get out of the rut and fuel the fire in your belly with this guide
Do you find yourself leaning on others to get your work done? Do you hit the gym of your own accord or do you need a trainer or a friend to drag you there? Most people find that they're intrinsically motivated to do some things -to complete a project (driven by their love for their work or a sense of purpose) or to care for a sick child (driven by affection), for instance -but need external incentives, like, for instance, the promise of a reward or a promotion, when it comes to others. What drives you, and how motivated you feel to do anything, may also vary during different phases of your life. For instance, you may recall a time when you felt very passionately about work, but, over the years, this feeling may have faded.
Anxiety, anger issues, personal problems, boredom, depression, addiction (to substances, or even social media) may lie at the root of your waning ambition. So, what can you do to keep ennui at bay and stay motivated day after day?

1 Take a break
It may seem an odd start to this list, but, too often, people spread themselves too thin, and work so hard, they lose sight of what they're working for, in the first place. Every now and again, it's important to disconnect from work, and spend your time engaging in activities that make you happy, things that will serve to remind you of why your work is worth it.

2 A `greater purpose'
Take some time to introspect: are you spending every waking hour chasing the big bucks, or was there a more meaningful reason why you chose this line of work? According to Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs, a motivational theory in psychology, people are motivated to achieve needs in a certain order -before one can get to the top of the pyramid, where one can meet one's self-actualisation needs, one must feel a sense of accomplishment. Find ways to engage with the community and give back to society. This will help you feel fulfilled, which, in turn, will fuel your ambition.

3 Re-connect with yourself
Disconnect from social media and try and turn your attention inwards instead. Stop comparing yourself to others, and be honest with yourself about who you are, where you see yourself in a few years, what your priorities are, and what your life's purpose is.

4 Celebrate little accomplishments
For most of us, life doesn't mean big awards and public attention, but we do manage little accomplishments every day -meeting an impossible deadline, managing to make it through a crazy work day and to still get to your child's PTA meeting on time, finishing a book report even though you have a bad flu.Remember to pat yourself on the back for such things. It will make you feel relevant.

5 Invest in loving relationships
“Life is to be lived, not analysed to death. Feel,“ wrote Jeff Foster in The Way of Rest: Finding The Courage to Hold Everything in Love. Loving relationships can act as a great motivator. When this basic need is fulfilled, you are better equipped to give back to the world.

6 Read about extraordinary lives
Listening to success stories is motivating, but nothing beats the inspiration that comes from hearing about the failures and struggles of an icon, about the journey that made her or him who she or he became. The greatest things in the world have, after all, been achieved by people just like you and I, not by aliens with special powers.

7 Have realistic goals
A huge workload can be overwhelming, and this can serve to demotivate. Having realistic goals and breaking big goals down into smaller ones makes these seem easier to achieve.

8 Take the time to help othersSharing and helping others adds meaning to one's life. Helping your subordinates whenever you can will not only boost your sense of self-worth, it will also make you want to work harder in order to lead by example.

9 Peer pressure
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with, so choose your company carefully. It's possible that your core group includes someone who lacks drive, or your best friend may be a pessimist. They could be bringing you down and sapping your energy. Widen your social circle. It's never too late to make new friends or change your perspective.

The writer is a life and wellness coach.

5 Proven Methods to Encourage Your Child to Play Sports

This article is contributed by Danny from, a blog dedicated to parenting tips, advice, best practices, and great baby products.

Your child won't participate in sports, whether while at school or home. He says he doesn't like to. He doesn't seem to have much interest. And words advising him to engage in sports actively are met with outright resentment. He appears to be too shy to play, or he just isn't active. You are worried, and for a reason because you know sports will help him to develop, both mentally and physically.

So, what do you do?

Don't worry. Because there are ways to help your little one stop resenting sports and develop a different attitude.

The following are proven methods to encourage your child to play in sports.

1. Buy your child sports equipment

You will do this to enable you to know sports that interest him more and also as a motivation tool for him. Because you don't know his best sport yet, you will have to buy equipment for different kinds of games. Keep them all available for him to choose. Avoid making any suggestions. It should come from him. With time, you will notice that particular game he prefers to play the most.

From there, you will then be able to devise ways to further his interest in that sport, or sports, if he is interested in several of them. You can also allow him to invite friends over. More participants mean more fun and in the long run, real interest in the sport.

2. Go to watch sports together

Whenever you get an opportunity, take your child with you to a live sports event. Your child will enjoy the fun and in the process, develop an interest to be like the competitors in the teams.

After some time, wait for him to suggest that you go to the sports. And after an event, initiate a conversation with him about how it was. In other words, talk excitedly about the game.
You can also watch sports on TV. Or you can have sports videos to watch at home. It will make him love games, and the love will manifest itself in him starting to participate in sports.

3. Play with your child often

As a parent, you are your child's number one role model. You child is likely to follow your habits. If you want him to copy sports, do sports. It's as simple as having half an hour to play with him whenever you get a chance, but it must often be. Get a soccer ball and enjoy a game kicking it around. Make it fun and enjoyable. Or you can have any other game provided it's 'his' game not yours. He will enjoy it more if it's his most loved game.

4. Sign him to a sports club

Tell him beforehand, though, about your intentions. Sit down together and go through a list of the available options and select the ones to sign him. Do this together, with him making the selection while you offer suggestions. If you have a family friend with a child of the same age as yours, it would be better to involve them. Your child will get the company of a familiar face, and he will be more confident and more willing to join the club.

5. Allow your child enough free time

Most children do not play because they are not allowed time to. Sometimes they are busy with school assignments to find ample time for games. Or at times they are allowed too much TV that they don't get out of the house to play. The result is likely to be diminished interest for sports. They also become lazy, sometimes just too obese to be active.

allowing your children to play, you inculcate in them the idea that physical activity is fun and pretty much part of day to day life. And it's during these child games that your child will discover a new found talent in a particular sport.

Whatever method you choose to use, avoid the temptation to force sports on your child. Interest should come from within him, or you will risk destroying his ego. The methods you employ ought to rouse his or her interest without you appearing to be too bossy about it.

The methods given in this article are effective at ensuring this happens. You will need to be patient, and understanding, though, because change will not come overnight. Remember, you are responsible for your child's upbringing and whatever you teach him now will be carried to adulthood. 

Convert Your Irritations into a Positive Energy

A psychiatrist was consulted by a man whose marriage and career were both in serious trouble. His problem was his constant irritability and bad temper. He was concerned about this himself, but if any one tried to discuss it with him, he exploded in anger. He constantly told himself that everyone was picking on him and that he had to defend himself against them.

To counter the negative auto suggestion, he advised him to use positive auto suggestion. Several times a day in the morning, noon, and at night prior to sleep he was to repeat to himself.

From now on,I shall grow more humor, joy, happiness,and cheerfulness are now becoming my natural states of mind.

Every day I am becoming more and more lovable and understanding.

I will be center of cheer and goodwill to all those around me, infecting them with my good spirits.

This happy, joyous, and cheerful mood is now becoming my normal, natural state of mind. I am grateful.

After a month, his wife and his coworkers remarked on how much easier he was to get along with.

The things that drive you crazy are actually giant opportunities. The people who press your buttons are actually your greatest teachers. The issues that make you angry are actually your biggest gifts. Be grateful to them. Love them.

The people or circumstances that take you out of your power have extraordinary value: they reveal your limiting beliefs, fears and false assumptions. The celebrated psychologist Carl Jung once said: "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." Powerful point. The things that irritate, annoy and anger you are entry points into your evolution and elevation as a human being. They are signposts for what you need to work on and the fears you need to face. They are gifts of growth. You can blame the people who trigger you and make it all about them. Or you can do the wise thing and look deeply into yourself to discover the reason for your negative reaction. Use the challenges to grow self-awareness. Because how can you overcome a fear you are not even aware of? And how can you transcend an insecurity you don't even know you have?

As you begin to shed light on your personal weaknesses and take responsibility for them, you actually begin the very process of shedding them. You become stronger. More powerful. You begin to see the world through a different set of eyes.

Khalil Gibran, one of the greatest thinkers, once wrote: "I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet, strange, I am grateful to those teachers who taught me all the wrong things.

In a class I teach for adults, I recently did the "unpardonable." I gave the class homework! The assignment was to "go to someone you love within the next week and tell them you love them. It has to be someone you have never said those words to before or at least haven't shared those words with for a long time."

Now that doesn't sound like a very tough assignment, until you stop to realized that most of the men in that group were over 35 and were raised in the generation of men that were taught that expressing emotions is not "macho."

Showing feelings or crying (heaven forbid!) was just not done. So this was a very threatening assignment for some.

At the beginning of our next class, I asked if someone wanted to share what happened when they told someone they loved them. I fully expected one of the women to volunteer, as was usually the case, but on this evening one of the men raised his hand. He appeared quite moved and a bit shaken.

As he unfolded out of his chair (all 6'2" of him), he began by saying, "Dennis, I was quite angry with you last week when you gave us this assignment. I didn't feel that I had anyone to say those words to, and besides, who were you to tell me to do something that personal? But as I began driving home my conscience started talking to me. It was telling me that I knew exactly who I needed to say 'I love you' to. You see, five years ago, my father and I had a vicious disagreement and really never resolved it since that time. We avoided seeing each other unless we absolutely had to at family gatherings. But even then, we hardly spoke to each other. So, last Tuesday by the time I got home I had convinced myself I was going to tell my father I loved him.
"It's weird, but just making that decision seemed to lift a heavy load off my chest.

"When I got home, I rushed into the house to tell my wife what I was going to do. She was already in bed, but I woke her up anyway. When I told her, she didn't just get out of bed, she catapulted out and hugged my, and for the first time in our married life she saw me cry. We stayed up half the night drinking coffee and talking. It was great!

"The next morning I was up bright and early. I was so excited I could hardly sleep. I got to the office early and accomplished more in two hours than I had the whole day before.

“At 9:00 I called my dad to see if I could come over after work. When he answered the phone, I just said, ‘Dad, can I come over after work tonight? I have something to tell you.’ My dad responded with a grumpy, ‘Now what?’ I assured him it wouldn’t take long, so he finally agreed.
“At 5:30, I was at my parents’ house ringing the doorbell, praying that Dad would answer the door. I was afraid if Mom answered that I would chicken out and tell her instead. But as luck would have it, Dad did answer the door.
“I didn’t waste any time—I took one step in the door and said, ‘Dad, I just came over to tell you that I love you.’
“It was as if a transformation came over my dad. Before my eyes his face softened, the wrinkles seemed to disappear and he began to cry. He reached out and hugged me and said, ‘I love you too, son, but I’ve never been able to say it.’
“It was such a precious moment I didn’t want to move. Mom walked by with tears in her eyes. I just waved and blew her a kiss. Dad and I hugged for a moment longer and then I left. I hadn’t felt that great in a long time.
“But that’s not even my point. Two days after that visit, my dad, who had heart problems but didn’t tell me, had an attack and ended up in the hospital, unconscious. I don’t know if he’ll make it.
“So my message to all of you in this class is this: Don’t wait to do the things you know need to be done. What if I had waited to tell my dad—maybe I will never get the chance again! Take the time to do what you need to do and do it now!”
Dennis E. Mannering

The Best Jobs For Your Personality Type

America's biggest companies have been operating on the assumption for decades that certain personalities correspond to certain jobs, and one of the main tools they've used is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality test.
It assigns people one of 16 personality types based on how they measure themselves against four criteria

To determine five of the best jobs for every personality, we consulted one of the most popular personality guides based on the Myers-Briggs system, "Do What You Are,
The job lists aren't meant to be definitive, but rather serve as a fun way to see how certain occupations attract a particular kind of person.
Figure out which type suits you best, and then check out the charts below.

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Story: The Answer is D

Imagine You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. 
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 80 km an hour in a 60 kmph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and paying a $60 traffic fine, you arrived at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye. 
After arriving at the office 30 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the traffic policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your wife kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good a day you are having. Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret:
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel till it fall off? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive.
Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it! You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Channel your energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why vent out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to read, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
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14 Methods To Dramatically Increase Your Self-Confidence

By Mike Ward on February 21, 2017

Few things are more detrimental than low levels of self-confidence. When you aren't confident in yourself, you don't take risks, don't enjoy life and usually end up stuck in places you don't want to be. Low self-confidence often lies beneath the surface, sabotaging you in ways you aren't aware of. On the flip side, high levels of self-confidence can produce exponential results in your life. When you believe in yourself and your abilities, you take smart risks, achieve important goals and develop meaningful relationships with those around you. Of course, this raises the question: how can you increase your levels of self-confidence?

In this post we're going to lay out 14 simple ways you can dramatically increase your self-confidence. By implementing these methods, you'll see a significant boost in the way you see and carry yourself.

Take Care Of Your Appearance
Obviously, yet perhaps most importantly, it's essential to take care of your appearance. Shower and shave on a regular basis without being obsessed; take time everyday to make yourself presentable to the world. These simple, small actions can have a dramatic effect on your levels of self-confidence. Neglecting your personal appearance also has an exponentially negative effect on your self-confidence. Always looking like you just rolled out of bed after working the graveyard shift will make you feel like you just rolled out of bed and kill your productivity.

Take Care Of How You Dress
Similar to the above point, dressing nicely improves how you feel about yourself. We don't necessarily believe in the mantra of dressing for success, but there certainly is value in dressing with care. This doesn't mean you need to spend thousands of dollars on an outfit, it simply means that you wear things that make you feel good about yourself and ready to tackle your goals. As Jerry Seinfeld said, wearing sweatpants everyday is a sign that you've given up on life. Don't give up on life.

Make Time For Exercise
Those who exercise regularly experience greater levels of energy during the day which leads to increased self-confidence and productivity. Exercise has incredible benefits, such as boosting your mood, decreasing levels of depression and helping you maintain your weight. If you want to feel better about yourself, you should make time for at least 30 minutes of exercise 3 times per week. You don't need to run a marathon, you just need to get your heart rate elevated and your muscles moving. As you find yourself getting into shape, you'll also see a rise in your self-confidence.

Pinpoint Your Gifts, Strengths and Talents
Those who lack self-confidence tend to focus on and obsess over their weaknesses and failings. One way to improve the way you feel about yourself is to spend some time identifying the ways God has gifted you. What are you good at? What have you done that has resulted in success? What subjects did you succeed in at school? What have people told you that you’re good at? These things don't need to be profound. Maybe you're good at organization or with numbers and spreadsheets. Maybe you have a big capacity to help those in need or the ability to plan effectively for the future. These are all gifts and you should spend time focusing on these rather than your weaknesses.

Be Thankful For Who You Are
Once you've identified your gifts and abilities, be thankful for who you are. Too many people lament who they're not, wishing they could be someone else. They wish they had a better personality or were funnier or had more business skills. Instead, spend time being grateful for exactly who you are. You have many admirable qualities and you should spend time focusing on these rather than who you wish you were.

Don't Compare Yourself To Others
Comparing yourself to someone else is a sure-fire way to tank your self confidence. Whether you're comparing your appearance or your circumstances or your personality, the result will inevitably be unhappiness and a lack of joy. Social media doesn't help us in this regard. Everyday we're confronted with pictures and status updates of people's lives. We can tend to feel like they have it better than we do or that other people are simply better than us. One way to improve your self-confidence is to simply spend less time on social media. Theodore Roosevelt nailed it when he said, "Comparison is the thief of joy." It truly is. Stop comparing yourself to others and you'll see a significant increase in your self- confidence.

Develop the Habit of Gratitude
Many of the most high achieving people in the world have developed the habit of gratitude. When you practice gratitude it takes your mind off of things that tend to sap your self-confidence and puts your focus on all the good things in your life. Practicing gratitude on a daily basis will quickly begin to boost your self-confidence. Take a few moments at the beginning or end of each day to write out three things you're grateful for in a gratitude journal. Date each entry so that as time passes you can go back and see all the wonderful things that have happened to you. These points of gratitude don't need to necessarily be profound. In fact, being grateful for small blessings is one of the cornerstones of joy.

Shape Your Self-Image
Simply put, your self-image is the way you see yourself. It encompasses all thoughts you have about who you are. A positive self-image increases your self-confidence while a negative self-image dramatically decrease is it. Thankfully, your self-image is not set in stone. You can shape it by regularly working to shape the way you think about yourself. A simple way to develop a positive self-image is to spend more time focusing on your strengths than on your failures. Also, as noted above, spending time being grateful for what you've been given will also foster a positive self-image.

Work Toward Positive Thinking
When we say positive thinking, we don't mean repeating silly mantras to yourself like, "I feel good. I feel great. I feel wonderful." We simply mean maintaining a positive outlook on life and working toward having more positive thoughts. Replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts can significantly increase your self-confidence and allow you to achieve goals you previously thought impossible. As soon as you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, immediately replace those with positive self-talk. For example, if you're running and you feel like you simply can't go any further, tell yourself, "I can do this! Just one more mile!" These simple positive thoughts can give you a boost of energy and self-confidence.

Act Positively
In addition to thinking positively, actually taking positive actions can be hugely helpful. As the saying goes, you are how you act. If you begin acting positively, you'll soon find yourself thinking positively and feeling positively. Talk with people in a positive way and act energetic. Act the way you want to be. Our minds and hearts follow our bodies. Soon you'll find yourself thinking and feeling the same way.

Be Generous and Kind
This may sound trite and even a bit silly, but acts of kindness have a powerful effect on your self-confidence. If you're regularly selfish and unkind, you'll find your self-image beginning to plummet. As noted above, your feelings often follow your actions. If you are regularly generous and kind, you'll begin to feel like a kind and generous person. Now, to be clear, you should be kind and generous because it's the right thing to do. However, a side benefit is that it will also increase your self-confidence.

Prepare Well and Then Trust Your Preparations
If you have an important event coming up, take the necessary time to prepare thoroughly. If you have a test, set aside the hours you need to study. Once you've prepared thoroughly, trust your preparations. You did what you needed to do and you can't do anything more. Adequate preparation significantly increases self-confidence. For example, if you have an important meeting, read the agenda, think of appropriate questions and then go to the meeting. You'll feel confident knowing that you've done what you need to do.

Build A Positive Support Network
Unfortunately, many people are critical and enjoy tearing others down. These people will drain your self-confidence incredibly quickly. They'll leave you doubting yourself and feeling like you can't do anything well. It's important to develop a network of friends and colleagues who support you and your efforts. This doesn't mean that they don't ever give constructive feedback, but it does mean that they're committed to your good and want to see you succeed. If possible, don't spend excessive time around negative people as they will suck your energy and self-confidence.

Set Small, Yet Achievable Goals
Achieving small goals is a fantastic way to feel good about yourself and set up future successes. Set goals for yourself that you know you can achieve, yet will also stretch you in some ways. If you want to get in shape, don’t immediately decide that you want to run a marathon. Set a goal of running two miles. Once you reach that goal and feel good about your progress, up your goal to three miles and so on. This incremental progress will be surprisingly powerful. It will motivate you to keep going and stretching yourself.

Conclusion: Self-confidence isn't everything, but it is hugely important. It determines what levels of success you achieve and how much joy you have in your life. It can raise or lower the quality of your treasured relationships. Thankfully, your levels of self-confidence aren’t set in stone. You can give yourself a boost, a shot in the arm if you will. By following these simple, yet powerful methods, you'll find yourself much more self-confident than before. -

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Today's Inspiration: Control or Can't Control

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When you can’t control
What’s happening
Control the way you respond to
what’s happening ..
That’s where your power is..

"Thanks for reminding me"

    When I wake up in the morning I ached
in places I never ached before.
    If I felt this way when I was young,
I might have called in sick.
    Now it is where I begin and end my day.
    I just discovered that a friend of mine is
dying from cancer.  Now my aches are little to
complain about.
    "Thanks for reminding me, God how blessed
I am."

    I keep my cell phone in my pocket and 
somewhere in my travels I pulled it out to 
use it and must have dropped a twenty dollar
    I was angry.
    Then in the grocery store I watched a young 
mother pay for her child's milk with all
the change she had in her pocket.
    I reached out and paid for it instead.
    "Thanks for reminding me, God."

    While washing my 2007 Honda Fit the other
day I discovered that someone had "keyed"
the side of my car with a deep two foot scratch.
    It's not a new car.  Still, I was angry
that someone would do that.
    When I left the car wash I passed a man 
changing a tire on an old beat up van. It
was rotted out in spots and it appeared 
the spare he was using was worse than the
    His family stood by the side of the road.
    "Thanks for reminding me God." I remember 
those days.  I may never have another 
brand new car, but I still have a good one.

    I made an appointment to speak to my 
psychologist because I was facing new
challenges and needed help.
    While I was sitting in the waiting room I 
met a mother and her son.  She told me
his father had died recently and he was 
struggling with the loss.
    My problems suddenly seemed trite.
    "Thanks for reminding, God."

    I met a long time friend in the mall today.    
We talked about high school and he told me 
about all the people he spends time with 
from our class.
    I felt bad because no one calls me.  I 
said, "You know you always have been one 
of the most popular guys."
    He didn't believe it.
    I went on to list all of his positive traits
and big accomplishments in his life.
    He paused for a moment and said, "Funny, I 
never saw myself that way. I always felt like 
a loser. Truthfully, I never heard that 
growing up."
    I remember he had a hard life as a teen.
    Then he said, "Thanks for reminding me."
Take a look at your own life.
Then take a look around.
If you made a list of all the good things
You'd be surprised at what you found.
 "You might not be wealthy and you need to work on your health,  
but you are alive, Bob!"
   "Thanks for reminding me, God."

Comparison with Others


Comparing yourself with others will leave you vulnerable on three counts: you'll either feel inferior, superior or impressed. All three of these states are dangerous because they all disregard the underlying principle of our true connection with each other - mutual love and regard, based on independently generated self-esteem.
To protect yourself from this vulnerability, make sure that your attention remains turned within, towards the spiritual experience of pure pride. Staying centred in your elevated self-respect will help you remain undisturbed by others around you.
Keep asking yourself, "Who am I?" "How would my spiritual personality respond to this event or person?" this will help to centre you further, and allow you to enjoy the successful efforts of others.

Selling More: What Is In It For Me?

"What is in it for me?"​

"What is in it for me?" This is a spine chilling question and I used to see it as a selfish question as a BDM. Then I began to think about it more & more, and I discovered that I would never make a decision unless I knew exactly "what was in it for me". Why would I buy a house in this neighborhood, why would I give you my hard earnt money to invest in shares and why should I work for you?

So I began to look at how I approached each client and I discovered that I had the ABC (Always Be Closing) approach to sales. This works well but is extremely difficult to continue because of your goal driven attitude and people tend to pick up on this after a while. So I began to change my "pitch" and focus on what I could give the client for nothing. Things like competitors names, services we could provide at a lower cost, and free customized reports for each of the departments. 

This was not an easy pivot for me but I managed it and now I work for a fantastic company where its core belief is to provide a service that does not cost the stakeholders a dollar. In fact a key benefit of our proposal is that we provide the stakeholders a share of the profits. 
Recently I have had several Owners' Corporation companies approach me and ask permission to be able to add our information to a proposal they were sending a developer. They let me know that the key reason they were adding Freedom Internet to their proposal was because the developer asked "What is in it for me?". They found when adding key no costs benefits to a proposal they were more likely to get the contact.

I helped them with the information and asked them to especially focus on the following;
  • Apartments with pre-installed internet will support higher apartment pre-sales.
  • System installed at zero cost to the developer
  • Free Wi-Fi supplied in common areas
  • Free internet plan for the building management, connecting CCTV, digital screens
I'm happy to say that this type of approach was a win, win, win for everyone involved. The owners' committee company received the contract the developers saved 20K (approx.) because they did not have to install an internet backbone and Freedom Internet won because we were able to place our service into these buildings. 

So my point in all this is don't be afraid of the question "What is in it for me?" because we all as this question all the time and we can use it to help us. I now place this question front and center whenever approaching potential new clients.
​Source: LinkedIn

Things Going Well or Things Going Wrong


If they are GOING WELL, ENJOY them,


If they are going wrong, don't WORRY,


The Lady and the Banker

An old lady handed her cheque to a bank teller and said,
“I would like to withdraw ₹500..”

The female teller told her, “For withdrawals less than ₹5,000, please use the ATM”.

The old lady then asked, “Why?” The teller irritably told her, “These are rules. Please leave if there is no other matter. There is a queue behind you.” She then returned the card to the old lady.

The old lady remained silent. But she returned the cheque to the teller and said, “Please help me withdraw all the money I have.”

The teller was astonished when she checked the account balance. She nodded her head, leaned down and said to the old lady, “My apologies Granny, you have ₹3.5 billion in your account and our bank does not have so much cash currently. Could you make an appointment and come again tomorrow?"

The old lady then asked, “How much am I able to withdraw now?”

The teller told her, “Any amount up to ₹300,000.”

The old lady then told the teller that she wanted to withdraw ₹300,000 from her account. The teller did so quickly and handed it to the old lady respectfully. The old lady kept ₹500 in her bag and asked the teller to deposit the balance of ₹299,500 back into her account. The teller was dumbfounded.

The moral of this story is that rules are inflexible but we humans can be flexible when the situation requires us to be. We should not treat people based on their looks or how they are dressed. Rather, we should treat everyone with respect. And never be too quick to judge a book by its cover.

How to Mindfully Use Technology?

Put Your Phone Away:
An Addict’s Guide to Unplugging
Earlier this year, at a concert in Italy, Adele paused in the middle of her set to ask a fan: “Can you stop filming me? Because I’m really here in real life, you can enjoy it in real life, rather than through your camera.”

In recent years, the relentless smartphone user has overtaken that tall guy wearing a hat standing in front of you as the most common concert pest. So much so that Apple recently filed for a patent on a technology that would disable iPhone cameras at concerts and other large events.1 Of course, some of this has to do with preventing unauthorized recording, but it is also likely an attempt to – in Adele’s words – make people “enjoy it in real life.”2

This phenomenon is far from limited to concerts. People everywhere are glued to their smartphones at both appropriate and inappropriate times. Lately, it seems everywhere you turn, someone is attempting to catch a Pokemon. Recently, State Department spokesman John Kirby called out a news reporter for playing the popular game “Pokemon Go” during a briefing. Unfortunately, the reporter was unsuccessful in catching anything. Some view the game, and smartphones in general, as a safety issue. In the wake of the game’s release, the city of Toronto even considered passing a ban on texting while walking, though this was eventually abandoned.3

Technology addiction is seemingly widespread these days. You may even find yourself wondering if you are addicted. In our modern interconnected world, it can appear impossible to escape the Internet.

Why Do We Get Addicted?

In general, technology addiction works similarly to other forms of addiction. Receiving a text message or a Facebook notification activates the reward centers in our brains. When someone likes a post we’ve made, we feel good. This is natural. Self-determination theory states that feeling connected to a group is a basic human need and essential to our well-being.4
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Social media is no doubt a valuable tool that can help us achieve this connectedness with others. But its widespread availability to us anytime, anywhere can also lead to overuse as we find ourselves constantly chasing this feeling. Fear of missing out is now such a common experience that its popular online abbreviation (“FOMO”) was added to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary earlier this year.

Are You Addicted?

The CAGE questionnaire is a very simple quiz commonly used to assess alcoholism.5 Here I have adapted it to apply to technology addiction:
  1. Have you ever felt you needed to cut down on your technology usage?
  2. Have people annoyed you by criticizing your technology usage?
  3. Have you ever felt guilty about your technology usage?

The original CAGE questionnaire also includes a fourth question about “eye-openers” – or needing to drink first thing in the morning. Checking your phone in the morning probably isn’t as strong of an indicator of addiction as morning drinking, but nevertheless, 35 percent of people report that their smartphone is their first thought each morning.6
Even if you don’t think that you’re addicted to technology, answering yes to any of the questions above is an indicator that now might be a good time to rethink your relationship with technology.

Phantom Vibration Syndrome

Addiction often has associated physical symptoms as well and, in a way, technology addiction does, too. Have you ever felt your phone vibrating in your pocket, only to pull it out and discover you had imagined it? Or do you sometimes think you hear your phone ringing when it’s not? If so, you’re far from alone. A recent study found that nearly 90 percent of U.S. college students had experienced this phenomenon known as “phantom vibration syndrome.”7
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Mindful Technology Use

Modern technology is, of course, a good thing. But it should not control your life. Being able to mindfully use technology and finding the right balance is important. Buddhist author, teacher, and avid social media user Ethan Nichtern suggests putting your smartphone in “airplane mode” for one hour per day to allow yourself to focus on other things.8 Nichtern also suggests only accessing social media sites from a desk and following predetermined time limits for web browsing sessions.9 These ideas may sound difficult – even radical. If so, this may be an indicator of just how much your devices control you.
It’s also a good idea to try to avoid multitasking with technology, as doing so increases stress. Try to limit the number of tabs you have open in your web browser at one time. Resist the temptation to use multiple devices at one time (computer, phone, TV, etc.). If you find it hard to set limits for yourself, there are numerous apps (Freedom10 is one example) that you can download to limit your web browsing time. Of course, you can always just use a good old-fashioned kitchen timer.
It is also important to limit your screen time before bed. Technology use has been proven time and time again to have a negative impact on our sleep. We need time to clear our heads before sleeping. The Internet keeps us overstimulated and doesn’t allow us to decompress. The blue light of digital screens has also been shown to disrupt our natural sleep rhythms. Try reading a book, taking a bath, journaling, or any other relaxing, nondigital activity in the hour before sleep.
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Here’s something that’s important to remember amid all this talk of technology addiction: iPhones, social networking sites, cameras, Adele concerts, and Pokemon are all good things. Mindfulness is the key here. Maybe just take a couple of snapshots at your next concert. Maybe you only need to check Twitter twice per day instead of every fifteen minutes. Maybe you don’t really need to catch Pokemon at your next State Department briefing or when crossing a busy city street. After all, it’s not whether you use these technologies, but how you use them. Rethinking your technology use can make you happier, better rested, and more productive. And you wouldn’t want to miss out on that!
With files from Jesse Markway. Jesse is a St. Louis-based freelance writer and musician, writing songs about everything from baseball to dogs.
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