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Story: The Cow with the Owner

The Teacher was walking through the market place with his students. They saw a man dragging a cow by a rope. Teacher told the man to wait and asked his disciples to surround them. "I am going to teach you something" and continued...

"Tell me who is bound to whom? Is the cow bound to this man or the man is bound to the cow?

The students said without hesitation "Of course the cow is bound to the man!. The man is the master. He is holding the rope. The cow has to follow him wherever he goes. The man is the master and the cow is the slave."

"Now watch this", said the teacher and took a pair of scissors from his bag and cut the rope. The cow ran away from the master and the man ran after his cow. "Look, what is happening", said the Teacher .

 "Do you see who the Master is? The cow is not at all interested in this man. The cow in fact, is trying to escape from this man." This is the case with our mind.

Like the cow, all the non-sense that we carry inside is not interested in us. We are interested in it, we are keeping it together somehow or the other. We are going crazy trying to keep it all together under our control.

The moment we lose interest in all the garbage filled in our head, and the moment we understand the futility of it, it will start to disappear. Like the cow, it will escape and disappear." We can allow disappearing of all the unwanted things from our mind and feel relaxed.
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Story: The Indonesian Judge

An Indonesian judge by the name of Marzuki was sitting in judgment of an old lady who pleaded guilty of stealing some tapioca from a plantation.
In her defense, the old lady admitted to the Judge that she was indeed guilty of the crime because she was poor and her son was sick while her grandchild was hungry.

The plantation manager insisted that she be punished as a deterrent to others.

The judge going through the documents then looked up and said to the old lady, "I'm sorry but I cannot make any exception to the Law and you must be punished accordingly".

The old lady was fined Rp.1 million (USD 100) and if she could not pay the fine then she will be jailed for 2 1/2 years as demanded by the Law.
She wept as she could not pay the fine.

The Judge then took her hat and put in Rp.100,000 into the hat and said, "In the name of justice, I fine all present in the Court @ Rp.50,000 (USD 5.50) each as dwellers of this City for letting a child starve until her grandmother is compelled to steal to feed her grandchild. The Registrar will now collect the fines from all present."

The Court managed to collect Rp 3.5 million (USD 350) including the fine collected from the plantation manager, whereby the fine was paid off and the rest was given to the old lady!
Will we ever see such a thing happening in our courts ?

I've learnt.....that being kind is more important than being right. 

Story: Three Dolls

A sage presented a prince with a set of three small dolls. The prince was not amused.
"Am I a girl that you give me dolls?" – He asked.
"This is a gift for a future king," Said the sage. "If you look carefully, you'll see a hole in the ear of each doll."
The sage handed him a piece of string. "Pass it through each doll." – He said.
Intrigued, the prince picked up the first doll and put the string into the ear. It came out from the other ear. "This is one type of person," said the sage, "whatever you tell him, comes out from the other ear. He doesn't retain anything."
The prince put the string into the second doll. It came out from the mouth. "This is the second type of person," said the sage, "whatever you tell him, he tells everybody else."
The prince picked up the third doll and repeated the process. The string did not come out. "This is the third type of person," said the sage, "whatever you tell him is locked up within him. It never comes out."
"What is the best type of person?" – Asked the prince.
The sage handed him a fourth doll, in answer. When the prince put the string into the doll, it came out from the other ear.
 "Do it again." – Said the sage.
The prince repeated the process. This time the string came out from the mouth. When he put the string in a third time, it did not come out at all.
"This is the best type of person," said the sage. "To be trustworthy, a man must know when not to listen, when to remain silent and when to speak out."

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120+ Articles on Stress Management, Success, Leadership & Wisdom - by Junaid Tahir

Junaid Tahir is a passionate blogger. He writes articles on Leadership, Success, Project Management,  Professional Development, Stress Management, Life Enhancement and general wisdom. His detailed introduction and readers' comments about his work are available here.  Junaid is reachable at mjunaidtahir at gmail dot com for all kinds of constructive feedback. His work has been published in several print media and online portals. Some of the publishers are  WikiHow, Lahore Times, Positive Articles, Dialogue India, The Killer Punch, Quora, Management Reachout Blog, Paradigm Innovations and Milli Gazette. 


 Stop Complaining Start Achieving
 Story of two wolves
 Story  My Limited Thoughts 
 Establish Effective Documentation Management System
 6 Cs to Avoid in Life
 Heart Body Mind and Soul
 10 Analogies for a Great Leader
 Story: The Dog In the Well 
 The Excellent Employee
 Story: Small Deeds Huge Impact 
 Feel Good Factors
 Who Are Consultants  What Qualities Do They Possess?
 9 Rules for Staying Positive
 Key Terms to Understand for Total Quality Management
 Process Excellence and Process Governance  
 Effective Delegation Process in Management
 10 Steps to Ensure Continuous Improvement
 The Role of Management Consultants
 Story: Correct it or Prevent it  The Choice is Yours
 7 Qualities of Great Spirits
 How to Reduce Business Costs
 Ensuring Kids Safety at Home
 No Tobacco Day
 Dialogue with David  The Person in Stress
 Employee Feedback System
 Quality of Work and the Quality of Workers
 An Approach to Become a Successful Entrepreneur
 Story: The Cute Girl and the Toffee
 What Is Real Wealth – How To Achieve
 Need Success? Work On Your Thoughts
 The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective Muslims
 How To Develop Analytical Skills
 Understanding Ripple Effect In Multiple Dimensions
 Compromising Ethical Values  What To Do when Trapped
 How To Be Strong in Hard Moments?
 Use Proactive Approach to Uplift your future
 How To Build Trust To Empower Relationship
 Criticism – The Creativity Killer?
 Hard work Will Guarantee My Professional Growth
 Effective Communication for Strong Influence and Healthy Relationship
 The Cricket Experience and The Touting Culture
 Do You Judge People Fairly?
 Ask yourself  "WHY"
 Junaid met with an Accident but still mentally strong
 Benefits Of Being Organized And How To Be Organized?
 WorkLife Balance Of A Newly Married Friend
 How To Respond In Tragic Moments?
 The Concept of Virtual Diaper – Treatment of Ethical Diseases
 15 Ways To Find New Job
 10 Tips To Fight Depression
 Employees Are Like Batteries – 5 Techniques To Recharge Them
 Sugar Coated Person Or A Genuine Human Being?
 Story – Carelessness in Medicines Usage
 Three Options To Fight Stress
 Reducing The Gap Between Potential and Performance
 Islamic: Do I Really Know what is Halal and What is Haram?
 10 Tips On How To Manage Emails Effectively
 Are You A Responsible Citizen?
 9 Tips To Make Effective Decisions
 The Power Of Not Looking Back
 Sweeping Statements  Annoying, Irritating and Insulting
 8 Ps of Vision and Strategy
 Do You Keep People Happy
 Garden Grass and Garbage
 How Happy Is Your Organization
 Are you as ambitious as Steve Jobs, Picasso and Maradona?
 Great Use of 200 rupees
 Islamic Article: Cleaning the Inner You
 Don’t Feed a Man a Fish; Teach How to Catch It
 The New Manager's Fundamentals
 Conscience  Your Great Companion
 Experiencing Others' Pain
 Story of Mr Ferrari and Mr Lamborghini
 Reasons for Negative Thoughts And Stress – How to Avoid Them
 Learn To Differentiate Between Urgent and Important 
 Islamic Article: Count Them One By One
 Ethical Issues in Organizations – How to Handle When Trapped
 Am I Corrupt? A Self Audit Article
 6 Tips For Resolving Conflicts
 Frequent Mood Swings Indicate Your Unstable Personality
 Story: Mr Educated and Mr Wisdom
 Top Ten New Year Resolutions
 Do You Treat People Fairly?
 The Seven Super Powers You Must Posses
 Most Popular Interview Questions for Managers
 The Seven Qualities of Highly Ethical People
 Islamic: Tracking your daily prayers with this simple Excel File
 8 Points to Remember for Buying a Sofa Set
 Islamic: 9 Lessons Refreshed from Umra
 The Lady and the Salesman
 Eighteen Ways to Make Your Parents Feel Great 
 Rumours  The Spices you enjoy may harm you too
 Story  Manage Your Appearance
 The Guide to Stress Management
 The Dubai Beach and the Car Battery Issue
 Zoom In and Zoom Out
 Begin Your Leadership Journey
 The Family Picnic and the Traffic Violation
 Shielding Yourself From Negativity
 How to Evaluate Managers
 Story: From Stress to Strength
 How to Overcome Fear
 Ten Tips To Simplify Your Life and Improve Your Happiness Index
 Are You An Explosive Personality or the Implosive One?
 How To Develop Good Habits and Get Rid of Bad Ones?
 What Happens When Luxuries Become Routines?
 My Role To Resolve Energy Crisis
 Enhancing Self Confidence in Children
 Giving The Right Advice
 Story  Borrowing the Pen 
 Everyone is unique  The Real Life Analogy
 Spreading False Information
 Arguing with Emotionally Hyper Minds and Idiots
 Six Tips for Anger Management
 Story: My Daughter Reminds Me a Great Lesson
 7 Tips to Attain Peace of Mind
 Which Smart Phone is the Best
 Improve Your Excel Database Management Skills
 Story: Chicken, Chicken, Chicken
 Vision  A Critical personality Trait of Leaders
 Six Techniquest to develop Empathic Skills
 Keep the Engine Running
 I am an Ideal Person

Professional Tip: Creating SMART Goals

Creating S.M.A.R.T. Goals

Specific: A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished than a general goal. To set a specific goal you must answer the six "W" questions:
*Who:      Who is involved?
*What:     What do I want to accomplish?
*Where:    Identify a location.
*When:     Establish a time frame.
*Which:    Identify requirements and constraints.
*Why:      Specific reasons, purpose or benefits of accomplishing the goal.
EXAMPLE:  A general goal would be, "Get in shape." But a specific goal would say, "Join a health club and workout 3 days a week."

Measurable - Establish concrete criteria for measuring progress toward the attainment of each goal you set.
When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued effort required to reach your goal.
To determine if your goal is measurable, ask questions such as……
How much? How many?
How will I know when it is accomplished?

Attainable/Achievable – When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin to figure out ways you can make them come true. You develop the attitudes, abilities, skills, and financial capacity to reach them. You begin seeing previously overlooked opportunities to bring yourself closer to the achievement of your goals.
You can attain most any goal you set when you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps. Goals that may have seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them. When you list your goals you build your self-image. You see yourself as worthy of these goals, and develop the traits and personality that allow you to possess them.

Realistic- To be realistic, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. A goal can be both high and realistic; you are the only one who can decide just how high your goal should be. But be sure that every goal represents substantial progress.
A high goal is frequently easier to reach than a low one because a low goal exerts low motivational force. Some of the hardest jobs you ever accomplished actually seem easy simply because they were a labor of love.

Timely/Time bound – A goal should be grounded within a time frame. With no time frame tied to it there's no sense of urgency. If you want to lose 10 lbs, when do you want to lose it by? "Someday" won't work. But if you anchor it within a timeframe, "by May 1st", then you've set your unconscious mind into motion to begin working on the goal.
Your goal is probably realistic if you truly believe that it can be accomplished. Additional ways to know if your goal is realistic is to determine if you have accomplished anything similar in the past or ask yourself what conditions would have to exist to accomplish this goal.

T can also stand for Tangible – A goal is tangible when you can experience it with one of the senses, that is, taste, touch, smell, sight or hearing.
When your goal is tangible you have a better chance of making it specific and measurable and thus attainable.
Please also see Goal Setting -Powerful Written Goals In 7 Easy Steps!

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Humor: The Rich Rat

​A rat swallowed a diamond and the owner of the diamond contracted a man to kill the rat. 
When the rat hunter arrived to kill the rat there were more than a thousand rats bunched up and one sitting by itself away from the pack. He killed the one by itself and that was the exact one that had swallowed the diamond. 
The amazed owner of the diamond asked: How did you know it was that rat?
He responded: "Very easy.... When idiots get rich they don't mix with others!!!"

Using Wifi to Monitor Bugs and Insects

In Brief
A new device developed by Delta Five brings a new level of technology to pest control. The device lures in bed bugs and captures them while taking a picture and notifying the user of their presence. It provides an excellent solution for high risk areas like hotels. 
A new Wi-Fi enabled system developed by Delta Five could revolutionize how the service industry deals with unwanted bug problems. Its new Automated Insect Monitoring (AIM) device is a small, three-inch box that hooks up to existing Wi-Fi and constantly monitors the space around it using internal cameras, which are activated whenever they detect motion. In other words, it'll be able to see when an insect enters the device. The insects are lured into the device using heat, vapors, pheromones or other substances that are odorless and will not intrude on a guests' vacation by being in the same room with them. Once an insect enters the box, a picture is taken and is immediately sent to a provided email or phone number.

As CNBC reports, this device could help hotel chains, cruise ships, homes and offices, among other public places, detect insects and bed bugs before they become an issue, which could be huge for hotel chains that could lose customers over bed bug issues. Normally, hotels have to hire exterminators or dogs to find and eradicate bed bugs, but this could keep the pesky insects from spreading while also saving hotels a lot of money thanks to early detection. It's also great news for consumers as well, who will hopefully sleep tight and never have to worry about letting the bed bugs bite again.
Source: futurism

12 Surprising Benefits Of Learning A Second Language

Why should you consider learning a second language? What will it really do for you? Here are 12 surprising benefits.

12 Surprising Benefits Of Learning A Second Language

Why should you learn a second language?

There are several obvious reasons. It’s fun and it allows you to communicate with people from other countries. If you’re going to travel abroad, you probably need at least basic language skills.

But there are a number of other surprisingly powerful benefits from learning a second language. Most people are unaware of these benefits.

If you need yet another reason to study a second language, pay attention. You’re about to discover 12 surprising benefits of studying a second language.

BENEFIT #1: It Forces You To Think Deeply

Learning a second language forces you to think in new ways. You’re forced to grapple with grammar rules, word meaning, prefixes, suffixes, and a host of other new challenges. This sustained thinking develops your ability to think deeply, express concepts in new ways, and solve problems from new angles. Learning a second language teaches to you to think in ways you’ve never traditionally done.

BENEFIT #2: Your Ability To Switch Between Tasks Is Increased

Switching between tasks can be hugely challenging if you’re not used to it. It requires disengaging from one activity, switching to a new mindset, and then fully engaging in a different activity.
When you learn a second language, you become much more proficient at switching between tasks and the toll on your productivity is significantly minimized.

BENEFIT #3: Your Brain Becomes More Resistant To Dementia and Alzheimer’s


Believe it or not, learning a second language can significantly delay the onset of brain diseases like Alzheimer’s and dementia. This has been proven in several multilingual studies.

Alzheimer’s is one of the leading killers in the United States and is a terrible disease. It is, essentially, a slow death. Being able to delay the onset of Alzheimer’s for even a year is significant, but for 4.5 years is an enormous benefit.

BENEFIT #4: Memory Is Significantly Improved

Memory is, in many ways, like a muscle. It is strengthened by working out. One unfortunate downside of the internet is that it has significantly weakened our memories. We can simply search for whatever we want with zero need to remember anything.

Learning a second language forces you to work your memory on a regular basis. It forces you to think hard about things and to store things in your short term and long term memory.

The Journal Of Experimental Psychology reported that bilingual children consistently outperform monolingual children in tasks requiring working memory.

If you find your memory slipping, making the effort to learn a second language can be a huge step in the right direction.

BENEFIT #6: Intelligence Is Increased

This sounds like infomercial hype, but there is legitimate scientific researching backing this benefit. It turns out that learning a second language has been shown to raise overall intelligence levels and reading levels.

This has broad implications. If you just want to be generally smarter (and who doesn’t?), you should consider learning a new language. And, if you or your child struggles with reading, adopting a second language can be a powerful boost.

No, learning a second language won’t turn you into a genius, but it can up your overall intelligence levels.

BENEFIT #7: Decision Making Skills Are Improved


One of the biggest hindrances to making good decisions is biases. Our biases cloud our judgment and can lead us to choose poorly when presented with a multitude of options.

Learning a second language has been shown to reduce our “heuristic biases”, which is one of the key factors in decision making. In other words, when we are presented with a series of choices, we are less reliant on our inherent (and often faulty) biases. Instead, we are able to choose based more on logic than gut feelings.

Heuristics are the series of simple rules we use to evaluate decisions. These consist of mental shortcuts that focus on a single issue of a complex problem and ignore other factors. For example, when asked if more English words begin with “K” or have “K” as the third letter, we instinctively choose the first option because it’s easy to think of words that begin with “K”. In reality, there are three times as many words with “K” as the third letter, demonstrating that our heuristics are helpful but often misleading.

Learning a second language forces you to think more carefully through problems, which in turn reduces your vulnerability to your instinctive, heuristic biases.

If you regularly find yourself making poor choices, learning a second language could be a lifesaver.

BENEFIT #8: Your Primary Language Skills Are Improved

One of the side benefits of learning a second language is that your primary language skills are also improved. Studying a second language forces you to think through things like vocabulary, conjugation, conversation, idioms, and a host of other things that we rarely think about when speaking our primary language.

Often, a person learning a second language becomes much more attuned to the nuances of the first language. They pick up on subtle things they never would have seen before and often develop a deeper understanding of the language.

While this may not be high on your language priority list, it certainly is a significant benefit.

BENEFIT #9: Increased Skill In Other Subject Matters

Interestingly, studying languages seems to increase other academic abilities such as mathematics. Studies have shown that individuals with a second language tend to perform better on standardized testing like the SAT.

If you want to improve your mathematical ability, one surprising way to do it may be by learning a second language.

BENEFIT #10: Deeper Understanding Of Other Cultures


We often fail to realize how much our language influences our view of the world and other people. Immersing yourself in a foreign language opens new vistas and viewpoints. It allows you to understand other perspectives and embrace views other than your own.

Additionally, when you spend months learning about another culture, it’s difficult to be prejudiced against that culture. Suffice to say, one way to increase compassion and inclusiveness in the world would be to have everyone study a second language.

BENEFIT #11: Increased Career Options

We are increasingly living in a multicultural world. Companies open offices overseas, and remote jobs with foreign companies are being created. The need for bilingual individuals is greater than ever.

Learning a second language can, in many ways, double the number of career options available to you. You literally expand your job pool by multiple countries. Additionally, learning a second language can allow you to climb the career ladder faster. Positions within your company that were previously unavailable suddenly are within reach.

BENEFIT #12: Better Concentration Skills

Learning a second language has been shown to significantly improve a person’s ability to concentrate, particularly in environments with many stimuli (think school, dorm, etc.). The reason for this may surprise you. When speaking, bilinguals are constantly juggling two languages in their heads. The primary language is activated and the secondary language must be suppressed.

In other words, knowing two languages increases a person’s ability to concentrate on one thing and ignore irrelevant information.

If you struggle with concentration, consider learning a second language!


Learning a second language is beneficial on so many levels. It increases your intelligence, improves your understanding of the world, and opens up new career options for you. It improves your cognitive skills and helps you be more sympathetic to other cultures.

Frankly, this is one of those subjects that has very little downside and tremendous upside. In addition to the benefit of learning a second language, you become a much more rounded person.

Do you see the power of a second language? Now’s the time to get started learning one.