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Our Qualities are like Ice

God has amazing principles of abundance. Any normal human being can get exposed to such principles by exerting positive efforts with pure intention into the right perspective. Extensive scholarly studies clearly portray that the root level principle of abundance and spirituality is to love and serve the creatures of God. His creatures are not limited to Humans only. A bird in your window, the cat in your house, the stray dogs and every single breathing thing, including trees is creature of God. God multiplies His blessings when someone loves His creatures.

Spirituality is usually taken as a complex, not-easy-to-understand thing whereas in my opinion you are already a spiritual person: 

1- when you do things purely for the sake of God, without any greed. 2- when you serve His creatures without any expectation (money, respect or any other benefit) .
3- when you have a big heart to offer your serices whenever and wherever required, no matter big or small.
4- when you want to add value into someones life.
5- when you want to resolve someone's unhappy situation.

On the contrary, some of us are self-centered people, not concerned about others feelings and needs. We should understand that all the God-given blessings and qualities we have, are ​like ice. While the ice is melting (as the age factor), the coolness of ice should not be limited to ourselves instead our ice should cool down someone's 'hot jug'. When we distribute what we have, God multiplies His blessings and adds more! When we surprise others, God surprises us. Needless to mention that God's surprises are far beyond the level of our comprehensions.

The crux of this article is to make a concrete committment to ourselves to spread small happiness from today and start the great journey towards an awesome blessed life!

Things to do:
I will put genuince efforts in the following domains:
1- serving my family, relatives and friends with the best intention.
​2- adding value to the lives of orphans, widows and poors.
3- expanding my horizon to serve the society with time, money and efforts.
4- Encouraging my fellow beings and bring them to the journey of spiritualism. 
 

6 Techniques to develop Empathic Skills


By Junaid Tahir: Empathy is the skill to understand the emotions of people and to treat them according to their emotional reaction. This skill is closely linked with the emotional intelligence which is basically analyzing, assessing and managing the emotion of oneself and others. So by developing and practicing this skill not only you resolve someone's problems but also win their hearts.
Before you take the deep dive of empathic and Emotional Intelligence concepts, you must understand that human psychology is complex in its nature. Every soul on earth is unique; its uniqueness is dependent on several social, personal, financial and familial and circumstantial factors. Hence in order to understand the emotions of someone the above mentioned baselines have to be remembered all the times because this will prevent you imposing your personal thoughts and conclusion on someone for any given situation and hence helps you understand their unique perspective.

Now that you have concrete understanding on above concept, learn below techniques to build and enhance your empathic skills:
 (article written by Junaid.Tahir)
1.     Put yourself in their shoes. Involve yourself deeply in the situation in which the person is trapped. Try to evaluate/quantify the level of stress the person is in. Ask questions to understand more but remember not to bombard the person with so many questions as you might cause more stress adding fuel to the fire. Learn the concept "Seek First to understand then to be understood"® by  Stephen R covey
2.    Develop Stong Observatory Skills:  Observing behaviors is the most important expertise while developing empathic skills. During the conversations try to read the person's mind however avoid instant judgment and conclusion. Be fair and slow in judging people. Avoid being reactive or explosive. Constantly observe the person during your conversation and try to find the most important 'point of concern' which matters the most to the person. This will help understand the problem deeply and might also help you reaching the root of the issue.
3.    Develop Analytical Skills: Analysis means to consider the situation from different angles and reaching to the root of the problem. This involves considering financial, technical, emotional, professional, logical and mental aspects of the situation. Also sometimes analytical skills require you to breakdown the given problem into smaller problems and then focus on the solution to each problem separately.
4.    Handling the situation: Think what would you and how would you do if trapped in such tragic situation. Think if the person can follow the same methodology to fix the problem? Remember, every soul is unique so you must examine it according to the nature of the person and the circumstance the person is in. For example, you would handle a rich person trapped in the debt differently as compared to a poor person and differently for educated and less educated persons.
5.    Effective Communication: Nearly all other skills are dependent on your Effective Communication skills. No matter how genius you are, you won't add value if you fail to express yourself properly and effectively. You can read my article on how to improve your Communication skills.
6.    Follow up: Don't leave the person alone once you have helped by either giving advice or by fixing the problem. Follow up after adequate amount of time as the situation might have aroused again.

I believe with above techniques you can improve your Empathic Skills. I also recommend studying these character building articles which directly or indirectly improve your Emotional Intelligence Skills:
1.     Anger Management
2.    Compromising on Ethical Values
3.    Resolving conflicts
4.    Avoid Frequent Mood Swings
5.    Attaining Peace of Mind
 Article written by Junaid.Tahir 



Junaid Tahir, an engineer, a project manager and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management and life enhancement subjects at his personal blog. His personal Google Group can be joined here. He is reachable at mjunaidtahir@gmail.com for any kind of suggestions and comments.

How Many Lives Did You Touch



 
 
 
HOW MANY LIVES DID YOU TOUCH?
By Debbie Preuss
 
How many lives did you touch today?
As you went on your busy way
Did you touch family or friend?
Was there a relationship to mend?
 

Did you smile at the stranger on the street?
Or tip the waiter where you eat?
Did you touch your co-worker's heart today?
Tell me, did you stop to pray?
 

Did you help someone, or meet a need?
Was there someone hungry, you helped to feed?
Did you speak an encouraging word?
When people talked, did they feel you heard?
 

Did you remember the driver on the bus
Is just another one of us?
Family and strangers are all the same
Each one of us, has a name.
 

Tell me, did you share God's love?
Or take the time to look above?
Did you lift someone to God's expectation?
Did you move out of your comfort zone?
 

Today may be the only touch you had
Was it for the good or bad?
Reach out to others while you can today
The golden rule, please obey .
 

For tomorrow just may be too late
To touch others, or change their fate
So as you go on your busy way
See how many lives you can touch today ...

Laugh, Appologise and Let Go





Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.

Laugh when you can, apologize when you should,

and let go of what you can't change.
 

Do You Talk This Way?



Talk to *Mother* _lovingly,_
Talk 2 *Father* _respectfully,_
Talk 2 *Brothers* _heartfully,_
Talk 2 *Sisters* _affectionately,_
Talk 2 *Children* _enthusiastically,_
Talk 2 *Relatives* _empathetically,_
Talk 2  *Friends* _jovially,_
Talk 2 *Officials* _politely,_
Talk 2 *Vendors* _strictly,_
Talk 2 *Customers* _honestly,_
Talk 2 *Workers* _courteously,_
Talk 2 *Politicians* _carefully,_
Talk 2 *GOD* _silently,_

Talk to *WIFE* ~no no~ .. *KEEP QUIET & LISTEN ONLY...!!!*

​What are the types of Happiness?

Essentially, happiness can be divided into 3 categories:
1.) Physical happiness;
2.) Mental happiness;
3.) Spiritual happiness.
 
 
In order for us to fill our lives with these three types of happiness, we first must learn the steps to achieve them. The following is a brief summary of these steps.

1. For Physical Happiness:a. Regular and proper diet.
b. Regular and proper rest.
c. Regular and proper exercise.
 
2. For Mental Happiness:a. Minimize expectation.
b. Minimize ego/pride.
c. Minimize negative thoughts.
 
3. For Spiritual Happiness:
a. Recognize your soul (as a separate entity from the body).
    Do not live in the past. ( Free yourself of past memories and experiences.
    Do not worry about the future. ( But, plan for the future)
    Free yourself of any attachments and hatred
b. Help all living beings without any expectations.
c. Meditate regularly and surrender to the Almighty Lord
d. Never blame anybody.


 
 

Logo, Business Card and Trade Mark

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Establishing your business?
 
Your smile is your logo,
your personality is your business card,
how you leave others feelings
after an experience with you
becomes your trademark.

Today's Inspiration: Stand Alone !

Image result for tree and seed


If you stand for a Reason

Be prepared to Stand alone

like a Tree,

If you fall on the ground

Fall as a seed that grows back

To fight again…

Short Story: Why Are You Unlucky

Professor Richard Wiseman, a psychologist says he has discovered the answer.

He says: Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently
experienced ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers
asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.

Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research.
Over the years I interviewed them, monitored their lives and had them take
part in various experiments.

I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether their disparity in luck
was due to differences in their ability to spot opportunities.
I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them
to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside.
I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying…

“Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50.”

This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was
more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face,
but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.

Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety
disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected. As a result, they miss
opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else.
They go to gatherings intent on finding their perfect partner and miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs.

Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there
rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed
that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles.
They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient, “never say die” attitude that transforms bad luck into good.
 
So, here are four tips for becoming lucky:
 
  • Listen to your gut instincts – they are often right.
  • Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine
  • Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
  • Visualize yourself being lucky before an important meeting or phone call.
 
Remember that the happiest people in the world are not those who
have no problems, but those who learn to enjoy things that are less than perfect.
 ~ Professor Richard Wiseman, University of Hertfordshire

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