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Today's Inspiration: Live Your Life

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There is always Another chance
For everything in life,
But the fact is
There is No chance
For Another life
So
Dream it ; Mean it
Live it & Love it

Welcome the Unexpected


Just when "I" thought that "I" control "my" life, that "I" have choices and my destiny is "my own" choosing, something unexpected, out of the blue comes out…
Then "I" may think: "There are some things out of "my" control."

Without beliefs, this becomes an ongoing process of realizations in Life, a process of assimilation of different experiences which all of the sudden, in an unexpected fashion; that "I" will decide to finally look into itself and perhaps inquire into its existence and then into its lack of existence.
That could be labeled as self-realization.
What are some of the distractors preventing us into looking into that "I"?
Beliefs, emotions, moral standards.
To uncover our beliefs is to free our minds.
To uncover our emotions is to clean our hearts.
When the influence of those 2 is minimized through observation; then moral standards as "good and bad" automatically lose their grip. We are ready to be free from "ourselves."
The above is my own journey. It is not something to be found in a book.
Yours, may be different.
When those voices aren't there, it is a world of appreciation and wonder.
What is the "method" to get rid of those voices, you may ask?
To do nothing. :-)
Observe them, appreciate them, laugh through their performance. It is "You" after all.
There is nothing serious about observation. There is nothing "to do."
The unexpected things:
Unexpectedly, I dropped my "i-phone" into my bathtub last night, just to the test the "waterproof" capabilities of that wonderful device… We shall see if it survives… Unexpectedly, my sister is coming to visit me this weekend, so I will be out of touch for a week since I will be enjoying her visit.
Got to love the unexpected!

Story: The Friend Losing Pen Quite Often


JRD Tata had a friend who used to say that he misplaces and loses his pen very often.
He will use only very cheap pens so that he need not worry about losing them. He was worried about carelessness habit.
JRD suggested to him to buy the costliest pen he could afford and see what happens.
He did that and purchased a 22 carat gold Cross pen. After nearly six months JRD met him and asked him if he continues to misplace his pen.
His friend said that he is very careful about his costly pen and he is surprised how he has changed!
JRD explained to him that the value of the pen made the difference and there was nothing wrong with him as a person!
This is what happens in our life.
We are careful with things which we value most.
* If we value our health, we will be careful about what and how we eat;
* if we value our friends, we will treat them with respect;
* if we value money, we will be careful while spending;
* if we value our time, we will not waste it.
*if we value relationship we will not break it.
Carefulness is a basic trait all of us have,we know when to be careful!
Carelessness only shows what we don't value......
Have a wonderful n careful life...

10 Herbs to Alleviate Symptoms of Arthritis (Body Joints Problems)

50 million adults and approximately 300,000 children have been diagnosed with some form of arthritis in the United States, which is a disease characterized by inflamed joints. It's especially common in women or obese people, as opposed to men of a healthy weight. But the elderly or those genetically predisposed to arthritis are at a greater risk of developing the disease. One other risk factor to bear in mind is whether you have had a joint injury in the past. 
 
What are the symptoms?
 
People with arthritis often experience the following symptoms:
 
•    Inflammation
•    Stiffness
•    Swelling
•    Redness
•    Pain  

 
Arthritis may also cause you to feel fatigued and weak and can negatively impact your range of motion and your ability to perform everyday tasks. 

What treatments are available?

While no treatment is available to cure arthritis, treatments are usually aimed at mitigating damage and reducing pain. Herbs and the food that you eat, can greatly affect arthritis. The 10 following herbs can be added to your tea, they can be used to season your food, or used in topical preparations. 
 
1. Turmeric
 
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This is the number one spice to go to when dealing with arthritis. Also known as curcumin, turmeric has been at the forefront of a number of clinical studies, all of which have proven that this spice has powerful antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties. To reap the benefits of turmeric, use it as a mild and flavorful kitchen spice, which you can add to a wide variety of dishes. Turmeric may also be purchased in capsule format and used as a supplement. It's generally advisable to take 400 to 600mg of turmeric three times a day. 
2. Licorice
 
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Licorice extract has been shown to be quite effective in both the prevention and treatment of chronic, acute inflammatory conditions such as arthritis. It has been shown to reduce the inflammation and damage caused by free radicals in the body. You can add it to your tea by steeping a teaspoon of dried licorice root powder in a mug of boiled water for 10 minutes. You can also take it in capsule form. However, it is advised that you speak to a healthcare professional before taking it in a concentrated form, as it's not suitable for those who have low potassium levels, diabetes, kidney disease, heart disease and/or hypertension. 
3. Stinging Nettle
 
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This surprisingly beneficial herb is good for your overall health and is especially effective in treating arthritis. It's packed with anti-inflammatory properties and delivers a remarkable dose of minerals such as magnesium, calcium and potassium all of which help make your bones stronger and ease your pain. Purchase nettle in its dried herb form, in tea-bags, or take it as a supplement. 
4. Cinnamon
 
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This flavorful and popular spice contains valuable antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties. According to studies, cinnamon extract is very useful in reducing redness, swelling and stiffness in the joints. Cinnamon can be added to your everyday diet in its natural form - you can sprinkle some on toast, in oatmeal or in baked goods. You may also add a teaspoon to a cup of warm tea first thing in the morning alongside a tablespoon of honey. Drink the mix daily on an empty stomach to reap the benefits. 
5. White Willow Bark
 
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This old fashioned remedy contains a chemical known as salicin - a natural analgesic. Originally, aspirin was d from white willow bark. Ingesting this herb in the form of tea, or taking it as a supplement can help relieve the pain of osteoarthritis. It has been found to be especially beneficial for pain in the back, neck, hips and knees.
6. Garlic
 
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Here's a herb you likely use in your everyday cooking. Garlic contains powerful anti-inflammatory properties that have been shown to be helpful in combating the pain and swelling that arthritis causes. To get its beneficial effects, garlic is best eaten raw - aim to eat two to three raw cloves of garlic a day on an empty stomach. Chew them up a bit first, breaking each clove open in order to release their beneficial properties and enabling you to swallow them whole. Alternatively, you can purchase garlic capsules or garlic oil which can be applied topically to painful areas. 
7. Boswellia
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While this herb may not be as well known as others on the list, it has been clinically proven to be very effective in treating inflammatory disease. Aside from reducing inflammation, boswellia acts as a mild natural pain reliever. It does so by increasing the circulation to your joints. Studies have also indicated that it may prevent cartilage loss. Take this herb in the form of a supplement though be sure to speak to a healthcare professional before you do. 
8. Green Tea
 
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This incredible health tonic has long shown success in the treatment of rheumatoid arthritis. Green tea's health benefits can be found in the polyphenols that it contains - it has very powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties, suppressing the immune response and preventing the immune system from attacking the lining of your joints. This popular beverage is widely available in the form of teabags. 
9. Cat's Claw
 
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Available in supplement form, cat's claw has been found to be very effective in relieving the pain of rheumatoid arthritis. It also has positive effects on swelling and inflammation. Aim to take between 250 to 350mg of Cat's Claw per day. 
10. Ginger
 
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This well known aromatic and flavorful herb is very good for easing arthritis pain. It also helps to reduce swelling and inflammation. Ginger can easily be added into your diet and can be used as a fresh ingredient. It can also be purchased dry and used in tea. Ginger oil may also be applied topically to painful areas for relief of swelling and inflammation. To reap its benefits further, after applying the oil, warm the area with a heated compress.

6 Thinking Hats Technique


The six hats represent six modes of thinking and are directions to think rather than labels for thinking. That is, the hats are used proactively rather than reactively.


A summary by Sylvie Labelle
Early in the 1980s Dr. de Bono invented the Six Thinking Hats method. The method is a framework for thinking and can incorporate lateral thinking. Valuable judgmental thinking has its place in the system but is not allowed to dominate as in normal thinking. Dr. de Bono organized a network of authorized trainers to introduce the Six Thinking Hats. Advanced Practical Thinking (APTT), of Des Moines, Iowa USA, licenses the training in all parts of the world except Canada (and now, Europe). APTT organizes the trainers and supplies the only training materials written and authorized by Dr. de Bono.

Organizations such as Prudential Insurance, IBM, Federal Express, British Airways, Polaroid, Pepsico, DuPont, and Nippon Telephone and Telegraph, possibly the world's largest company, use Six Thinking Hats.

The six hats represent six modes of thinking and are directions to think rather than labels for thinking. That is, the hats are used proactively rather than reactively.

The method promotes fuller input from more people. In de Bono's words it "separates ego from performance". Everyone is able to contribute to the exploration without denting egos as they are just using the yellow hat or whatever hat. The six hats system encourages performance rather than ego defense. People can contribute under any hat even though they initially support the opposite view.

The key point is that a hat is a direction to think rather than a label for thinking. The key theoretical reasons to use the Six Thinking Hats are to:
encourage Parallel Thinking
encourage full-spectrum thinking
separate ego from performance

The published book Six Thinking Hats (de Bono, 1985) is readily available and explains the system, although there have been some additions and changes to the execution of the method.

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The following is an excerpt from John Culvenor and Dennis Else Engineering Creative Design, 1995)

There are six metaphorical hats and the thinker can put on or take off one of these hats to indicate the type of thinking being used. This putting on and taking off is essential. The hats must never be used to categorize individuals, even though their behavior may seem to invite this. When done in group, everybody wear the same hat at the same time.

 1- White Hat thinking

This covers facts, figures, information needs and gaps. "I think we need some white hat thinking at this point..." means Let's drop the arguments and proposals, and look at the data base."

 2- Red Hat thinking

This covers intuition, feelings and emotions. The red hat allows the thinker to put forward an intuition without any ned to justify it. "Putting on my red hat, I think this is a terrible proposal." Ususally feelings and intuition can only be introduced into a discussion if they are supported by logic. Usually the feeling is genuine but the logic is spurious.The red hat gives full permission to a thinker to put forward his or her feelings on the subject at the moment.

 3- Black Hat thinking

This is the hat of judgment and caution. It is a most valuable hat. It is not in any sense an inferior or negative hat. The rior or negative hat. The black hat is used to point out why a suggestion does not fit the facts, the available experience, the system in use, or the policy that is being followed. The black hat must always be logical.

 4- Yellow Hat thinking

This is the logical positive. Why something will work and why it will offer benefits. It can be used in looking forward to the results of some proposed action, but can also be used to find something of value in what has already happened.

 5- Green Hat thinking

This is the hat of creativity, alternatives, proposals, what is interesting, provocations and changes.

6-Blue Hat thinking

This is the overview or process control hat. It looks not at the subject itself but at the 'thinking' about the subject. "Putting on my blue hat, I feel we should do some more green hat thinking at this point." In technical terms, the blue hat is concerned with meta-cognition.


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Today's Inspiration: Good Day - Bad Day

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There is no definition for a
GOOD DAY & BAD DAY.
It all depends on
you & your thoughts,
Either you rule the day
or
the day rules you...

Yes, I am Changing


Days slip into weeks, weeks turn into months and
months transform into years.
Calendars are changing and so am I.

Yes, I am changing.

In certain things age has mellowed me down,
in others I have become more aggressive .
Sometimes I find myself acting very wise and
sometimes I just go crazy.
Certain issues will have me speaking vociferously
whereas at others I just shrug and remain silent.
Yes, I am changing.

After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse,
my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself*.
Yes, I am changing.

I just realised that I am not “Atlas"
and the world does not rest on my shoulders*.
Yes, I am changing.


I now stopped bargaining with poor vegetables
and fruits vendors. After all, a few rupees more
is not going to burn a hole in my pocket
but it might help the poor fellow save
for his daughter’s school fees.
Yes, I am changing.

I pay the money to cab driver and walk away
without waiting for the change.The extra money
might bring a smile on his face.
After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me.
Yes, I am changing.

I stopped telling the elderly that they have already
narrated that story many times.After all, the story
makes them walk down the memory lane and relive the past.
Yes, I am changing.


I have learn not to correct people even when I know
they are wrong. After all ,the onus of making
everyone perfect is not on me.
Peace is more precious than perfection.
Yes, I am changing.

I give compliments freely and generously .
After all its a mood enhancer not only for
the recipient but also for me.
Yes, I am changing.

I have learnt not to bother about my creased shirt
or mismatched skirt.
After all, personality speaks louder than appearances.
Yes, I am changing.


Nowadays I don't bother if my eyebrows are not done
or fine lines are showing on my forehead.
After all beauty of my soul outshines the beauty of my face.
Yes, I am changing.

I am learning not to let others make me feel incompetent.
After all I am not only what they see in me.
I might not be good at certain things but I am excellent at others.
Yes, I am changing.

I walk away from people who don't value me.
After all, they might not know my worth, but I do.
Yes, I am changing.


I remain cool when someone plays dirty politics
to outrun me in the rat race.
After all I am not a rat and neither am I in any race.
Yes, I am changing.

I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions.
After all it's my emotions that make me human.
Yes, I am changing.

I now tell people if I like them.
After all ,there is nothing wrong in liking someone.
Yes, I am changing.

I have learnt that its better to drop the ego than
to break a relationship.
After all, my ego will keep me aloof whereas
with relationships I will never be alone.
Yes, I am changing.

I demand for whatever is due to me.
After all, accepting injustice is almost as bad as doing injustice.
Yes, I am changing.

I've learnt to live each day as if it were the last.
After all, it might be the last .
Yes, I am changing.

I am doing what makes me happy.
After all, I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to me.

AND I'M LOVING THE NEW ME

6 Types of People Build Your Mental Toughness

As the saying goes, "It gets lonely at the top."   There are many reasons that one feels isolated and at times lonely when they have reached the pinnacle of success.    For one thing, everyone wants to be your friend; but since you can't make time for everyone – only a select few get invited into the circle.   What's my point?  Accepting success and failure once you have reached the highest levels of success requires the same mental toughness it took to get there.   As has been proven throughout history, the higher you climb the more quickly the nay-sayers want to bring you back down.   Envy and adversity become the most common invaders you must manage – and all the while you need to remain  mentally tough,  and not allow the noise to cloud your mind and control your actions.
Mental toughness defines the leadership game.    You need wide-angle vision to continuously navigate the terrain that awaits you with each big decision you make and vision you cast.   The tension points of leadership can be extremely exhausting and pressure-packed.   Nevertheless, the leadership journey must continue and your demeanor must appear unfazed as if it were business as usual.
Mental toughness is acquired over time
.   To be mentality tough means that risk is your best friend, that innovation comes second nature and that you have grown accustomed to anticipating crisis and managing change.   Mental toughness is also a by-product of experiencing failure and knowing how to rebound.    As Rick Newman noted in his book, Rebounders, "Setbacks can be a secret weapon. They often teach vital things you'll never learn in school, on the job or from others."

As I have learned from my own experiences, mental toughness begins when you can separate your emotions and remain focused on what matters most.  And this is never more true than when you are being ambushed by one of the following six negative members of your audience:

1.       The Doubters
These are the skeptics who want you to fail and believe your ideas have no merit.  They are the pessimistic ones waiting on the sidelines – wanting things to go wrong and salivating to witness your hardship.
2.       The Leeches
These are the people who lack creativity and originality.  Leeches will stay close to your every move just  so they can steal your ideas.   They enjoy asking you lots of questions and are aggressive in requesting one-on-one time to pick your brain for wisdom that they can use for their own personal benefit.    The sibling  of the leech is the loafer, and you can learn more about both types here.
3.       The Critics
These are the people who are always finding ways to disrupt your confidence by telling you that your vision is wrong.  They are quick to inform you that your knowledge of the marketplace is not realistic as they attempt to throw your thinking off kilter.   The critics are a legitimate challenge because they possess valid insights of the landscape you are competing in – yet they lack the hands-on battle wounds to justify their criticisms.   They are the prototypical "know-it-alls" who believe that they are always right and that their "written credentials"  allow them to have a voice in the matter.
4.       The Envious
These are the people who wish they had your courage, but instead waste their energy by poking fun at your efforts to create impact.    Envious people make your job more difficult as they attempt to slow down your execution by trying to convince themselves and others that your work isn't important.   Most envious people are those  who wish they were more like you, and thus remain bitter because they don't trust themselves enough to be unique in their own ways. Because we live in a dog-eat-dog world, envious people would rather find joy in making your life difficult rather than using their valuable time to make a difference in the world.   Read more about how envy destroys careers here.
5.       The Victims
Victims believe they haven't had a good break in life and thus feel that something is owed to them for their misfortune.  They would rather spend their time trying to make you feel sorry for them.  They are quick to ask for favors, but slow to reciprocate.   They are the manipulators and want others to feel their pain – though they are rarely motivated to take initiative. 
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6.       The Noise

These are the voices that are drowning in mass confusion and just want to be heard.   They are loud and obnoxious and crave attention.   Unlike the victims, they have no real ambition and live with no purpose
Leadership is a journey of mental toughness.  Without it, you can't effectively think, act and innovate.  You can't motivate or inspire the best in others.   If you can't handle the aforementioned six types of people, you should think carefully if you are ready to assume a leadership role.  It's a mandatory responsibility that is not outlined in the job description
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Story: The New Car and The Watchman

​An engineer in a car manufacturing company designs a world class car. The owner is impressed with the outcome and praised him a lot. 
 
While trying to bring out the car from the manufacturing area to the showroom, they realized that the car is 2 inches taller than the entrance.

The engineer felt bad that he didn't notice this one before creating the car. The owner was amazed on how to take it outside of the manufacturing area. The painter said that they can bring out the car and there will be a few scratches on top of the car which could be touched up later on. The engineer said that they can break the entrance, take the car out, and later re-do it.

The owner was not convinced with any ideas and felt like it is a bad sign to break or scratch. A Watchman was observing all the drama & slowly approached the owner.  He wanted to give an idea if they had no problem. They wondered what this guy would tell them that the experts could not give. The watchman said "The car is only a few inches taller than the entrance so, Simply release the air in the tyre, the height of the car will sink and can be easily taken out"...

Everyone clapped!!!

Flash:
Don't analyze the problems only from an expert point of view alone. There is always a layman's outlook that gives an alternate solution at a given point of time.

Ten Uncomfortable Deeds That Will Pay Off Forever


Dr. Travis Bradberry
T.S. Eliot was clearly onto something when he asked, “If you aren’t in over your head, how do you know how tall you are?” The very act of stepping outside of your comfort zone is critical to your success and well-being.
Our brains are wired such that it’s difficult to take action until we feel at least some stress and discomfort. In fact, performance peaks when we’re well out of our comfort zone. If you’re too comfortable your performance suffers from inaction, and if you move too far outside of your comfort zone you melt down from stress.
Peak performance and discomfort go hand in hand. Stepping outside of your comfort zone makes you better, and it doesn’t have to be something as extreme as climbing Mount Everest. It’s the everyday challenges that push your boundaries the most, none of which require a flight to Nepal. Step out of your comfort zone and embrace these challenges.

Get up early. Unless you’re a morning person, getting up earlier than usual can take you way out of your comfort zone. However, if you get up well before you have to start getting ready for work, it’s worth it. It gives you an opportunity to collect your thoughts and mentally prepare yourself for the day ahead, rather than just dashing from one activity to another. It also gives you the opportunity to eat a good breakfast and exercise, both of which have well-known health benefits.

Accomplish an “impossible” goal. Few things compare to the exhilaration of accomplishing something that you didn’t think you were capable of. These achievements fall so far outside of your comfort zone that they seem impossible. Maybe it’s running a marathon or giving a keynote speech at a convention. These accomplishments are worth every bit of suffering you endure to achieve them because once you finally do it, you feel invincible and carry that triumph with you forever.

Meditate. It’s easy to get stuck in your comfort zone when you’re so busy that you don’t slow down enough to really think about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Meditation is a great way to break this cycle and also happens to be very good for your brain. Harvard neuroscientist Sara Lazar found that meditation creates important physical changes in your brain. It increases brain density in areas responsible for self-control, focus, problem-solving, flexibility, and resilience. Best of all, these changes are lasting.

Focus on one thing at a time. Focusing completely on a single task is a big risk—the risk of failing at something to which you’ve given your all. That’s why it’s so uncomfortable. The alternative—multitasking—is a real productivity killer. Research conducted at Stanford confirms that multitasking is less productive than doing a single thing at a time. The researchers found that people who are regularly bombarded with several streams of electronic information cannot pay attention, recall information, or switch from one job to another as well as those who complete one task at a time. When you try to do two things at once, your brain lacks the capacity to perform both tasks successfully. When you spread yourself too thin and chase after every bright, shiny thing that catches your eye, you’re missing out on an important opportunity for personal growth.

Volunteer. It would be great if everyone volunteered for purely altruistic reasons, but we all have demands on our time and have to set priorities. The problem is that after a long workday, volunteering can get pushed down somewhere below watching “epic fail” videos on YouTube. Volunteering is a powerful experience that feels good and expands your network at the same time. Have you ever met anyone who made volunteering a priority and wasn’t changed for the better by the experience? Neither have I.

Practice public speaking. You’ve likely heard that the majority of people fear public speaking more than death. In fact, 74 percent of Americans have glossophobia (the fancy word for a fear of public speaking). So, yes, it’s a challenge. It’s also worth it. Whether you’re addressing five people around a table or an audience of five thousand, becoming a better public speaker can be a huge boon to your career.

Talk to someone you don’t know. Unless you’re an extreme extrovert—or a politician—talking to new people probably makes you at least somewhat uncomfortable. Do it anyway. Social interaction is good for your mood (even when you don’t like it), expands your network, exposes you to new ideas, and boosts your self-confidence.
Bite your tongue. Sure, it can feel so good to unload on somebody and let them know what you really think, but that good feeling is temporary. What happens the next day, the next week, or the next year? It’s human nature to want to prove that you’re right, but it’s rarely effective. In conflict, unchecked emotion makes you dig your heels in and fight the kind of battle that can leave you and the relationship severely damaged. When you read and respond to your emotions, you’re able to choose your battles wisely and only stand your ground when the time is right. The vast majority of the time, that means biting your tongue.

Say no. Research conducted at the University of California, Berkeley showed that the more difficulty that you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression. Saying no is indeed a major challenge for many people. No is a powerful word that you should not be afraid to wield. When it’s time to say no, avoid phrases such as I don’t think I can or I’m not certain. Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them. When you learn to say no, you free yourself from unnecessary constraints and free up your time and energy for the important things in life.

Quit putting things off. Change is hard. Self-improvement is hard. Scrounging up the guts to go for what you want is hard, and so is the work to make it happen. When things are hard, it’s always easier to decide to tackle them tomorrow. The problem is that tomorrow never comes. Saying you’ll do it tomorrow is just an excuse, and it means that either you don’t really want to do it or that you want the results without the hard work that comes along with it.

Bringing It All Together

Staying in your comfort zone means stagnation. Just as an oyster only makes a pearl when it’s irritated by a grain of sand, no one has ever accomplished anything remarkable when comfortable.
What do you do to move out of your comfort zone? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below, as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and the cofounder of TalentSmart,

Character Vs Reputation

Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.

It's Critical Not to be Critical

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Have you noticed how some people just seem to find fault in everything? You go out with someone and buy them coffee but the cup is just not big enough (or small enough) or the chairs around the table should be blue instead of green, or the flowers on the table are just not fresh! Some people have the habit of commenting on, and criticizing just about everything. What is it going to take to be positive and to look at the brighter side of life?
No one wants to spend a day with a critical person. If you have tried it you know just how it feels. When someone continues to find fault in you, or the objects around you, or the way you run your life, then you feel as though you want to run from them as fast you can. Commenting on a person’s possessions or circumstances is almost the same as insulting the person themselves.
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Criticism is an expression of disapproval and always follows a judgment. It almost implies that our life needs a ‘performance review’ and in this case we have failed… at least in the eyes of the beholder! The fact is that criticism usually tells us more about the critic, than the receiver.
Critics are usually critical of most things and most people, usually because they are unhappy people and want to share their dissatisfaction with everyone else. Unfortunately their complaints will not change the world or other people, and so they will never be happy.
Critics have a time and place to carry out their ‘vocation’, but unsolicited advice, especially when delivered with an air of superiority, never goes down well. Knowing what to say, when, and where, and with whom, is an art. But if we have a tendency to be critical (and who isn’t, from time to time?) then the lesson we really need to learn is how to be happy with ourselves.
It is not our true nature to focus on the sad or bad. Focusing on the faults of the child will never make him or her grow up to be a ‘somebody’. Rather, he will always be seeking the approval of adults or peers even when he is in his rocking chair because that is how he has learned to measure ‘success’.
The soul blooms when there is love, acceptance and acknowledgement. It’s much nicer to be complimented than complained about. Take birthdays as an example; the day when your inbox is filled with good wishes and blessings from all over the world.  How do you feel?
Try taking a few moments every now and then to just see the goodness in all the things around you and all the people in your orbit at any given time. The critic can always find something to complain about in any situation, but it is really simply a point of view which is coming from a deep seated negative attitude, which can be shifted.
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Even if you can see that something or someone needs improvement and can benefit from that, just try in that moment to accept the situation or the person… comment later if need be… but in that moment control your emotions, just try to expand your tolerance level, and increase your acceptance level. This very deed may help the other to seek guidance for improvement, or invite comments.  But moreover, you will feel better for keeping a positive vision. You will find your relationships will improve in leaps and bounds.
Anther major aspect to this whole exercise is to master the ability to remain quiet with the mind and the lips for a while, especially when I want to jump in or to react.  If my mind is like any unleashed dog that barks and bites at anything passing by then it means I do not have a grip on my mind or my tongue.
Learning to stay positive is a training we must give to the mind if we are to survive and not get stressed and stained by life. You may, for example, see the dry bare tree and think how ugly it is, but switch your thoughts to how momentous it is that the tree is still standing, and see its majesty instead. Someone may not get you exactly the gift you wanted, but at least they had the thought. Or, you may have a challenge with your colleague at work, but hey, think again, are YOU perfect? And would it really hurt to be co-operative rather than critical?
Treating ourselves more kindly and shifting our vision towards appreciation and gratitude for the people and things around us are the best antidotes for criticism. When I feel a sense of contentment within, then I don’t notice the little things around me that would otherwise bug me. And if I feel content with myself, then I am less likely to feel hurt by the criticism of others. Instead I can send them positive thoughts and good wishes, for they are the ones who are in need!
It’s time… to shift your mindset and take a positive view. Being critical is destructive and unproductive, so for your own good and the good of others… it’s critical not to be critical!

Feeling Fearful? Read these most common 6 Wrong Thoughts You May Have





Fear is one of the major blocking obstacles against your success. You tend to compromise with your circumstances and prefer to continue your status quo condition because you are afraid of making decisions. Since you lack in courage you cannot move forward in your life with liberty.

On the other hand successful people are those who take risks in life. Successful people understand that taking risks will lead them experience new horizons in their field, will give them more vision and more confidence,  give them wisdom and success by exposing them to more and more challenges and consequently help them achieve their dreams. Such people keep taking new risks in order to achieve what they want to achieve. Whenever there is a doubtful situation they take the next baby step in order to determine whether it is fine to move ahead. In case they fail, they take one step back and re-determine their direction using their analytical skills. 


So if you would like to live a successful life, you must defeat your fears. The reasons for being under the clouds of fear might be because of several doubts or unanswered questions in your mind.  In this article, I have compiled and answered a few of such queries in order to boost your confidence level:

Question-1: Do I have enough info in making this decision?
Answer: You may or may not have the full information as of now. However you can gather all the facts by consulting the right professionals, by reading books, by discussing with your friends and well-wishers, by posting your questions to online forums, by studying the market and by taking advice from experienced people. Once you have collected all the information, write it on a piece of paper; positive points on one side and negative points on another side. Now read them slowly with full focus. Once done, you are all set for making the decision.

Question-2: What if I fail?
Answer: Consider the worst case scenario as this gives you inner strength and makes you prepare for it. However if the worst case as per your thinking is a serious disaster then reduce your risks by reducing your goals, your investment, energies, efforts etc. Change some of the points from your original plan and re-asses the worst case.

Question-3: Do I have the capability to do it:  
Answer: See if you can learn it by reading, training, counseling or brain storming. Believe in your inner powers. List down the capabilities required for a specific task and start polishing yourself in each domain one by one. This might take some time but once you learn and polish your skills you will be able to make wonders in your domain.


Question-4: What will people say?  
Answer: People will comment any way. It's your life and you have all the authority to do what you want to do in order to achieve what you want to achieve. Don't worry about social factors, instead focus on your plans and decisions. Evil social factors will die their death one by one once you start producing the results. Strengthen your thoughts, avoid the unnecessary criticism and you will be able to set new trends in your domain.

Question-5: Is anyone else afraid of same thing? 
Answer: Yes everyone is afraid of failures but only bold people make bold moves to accomplish things. Remember, common people see things while they are happening whereas smart people make things happen.

Question-6: What If I am trapped in tragic Situation:
Answer: To overcome a tragic fearful situation is to think of a genius person and imagine how he would have acted under the same condition. You will definitely get a new idea to try.


Closing my article by emphasizing one more time to throw your fears away, convert your risks into new opportunities, execute your plans and live like an independent and prosperous soul. Your inner confidence, your guts and your will power can make things happen. If others can do it you can do it too so believe in the power of now and go ahead and grab the success.

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