Short Story: Sindu Was Sad but She had a Reason

My wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling daughter eat her food?

I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene. My only daughter, Sindu, looked frightened; tears were welling up in her eyes. In front of her was a bowl filled to its brim with curd rice. Sindu is a nice child, quite intelligent for her age.

I cleared my throat and picked up the bowl. 'Sindu, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this curd rice? Just for Dad's sake, dear'.

Sindu softened a bit and wiped her tears with the back of her hands. 'Ok, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this. But, you should...' Sindu hesitated. 'Dad, if I eat this entire curd Rice, will you give me whatever I ask for?'

'Promise'. I covered the pink soft hand extended by my daughter with mine, and clinched the deal. Now I became a bit anxious. 'Sindu, dear, you shouldn't insist on getting a computer or any such expensive items. Dad does not have that kind of money right now. Ok?'

'No, Dad. I do not want anything expensive'. Slowly and painfully, she finished eating the whole quantity. I was silently angry with my wife and my mother for forcing my child to eat something that she detested.

After the ordeal was through, Sindu came to me with her eyes wide with expectation. All our attention was on her.

'Dad, I want to have my head shaved off, this Sunday!' was her demand.

'Atrocious!' shouted my wife, 'A girl child having her head shaved off?


'Never in our family!' My mother rasped. 'She has been watching too much of television. Our culture is getting totally spoiled with these TV programs!'

'Sindu, darling, why don't you ask for something else? We will be sad seeing you with a clean-shaven head.'

'Please, Sindu, why don't you try to understand our feelings?' I tried to plead with her.

'Dad, you saw how difficult it was for me to eat that Curd Rice'. 

Sindu was in tears. 'And you promised to grant me whatever I ask for. Now, you are going back on your words. Was it not you who told me the story of* *King Harishchandra, and its moral that we should honor our promises no matter what?'

It was time for me to call the shots. 'Our promise must be kept.'

'Are you out of your mind?' chorused my mother and wife.

'No. If we go back on ourpromises, she will never learn to honour her own. Sindu, your wish will be fulfilled.'

With her head clean-shaven, Sindu had a round-face, and her eyes looked big and beautiful.

On Monday morning, I dropped her at her school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Sindu walking towards her classroom. She turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile. Just then, a boy alighted from a car, and shouted, 'Sinduja, please wait for me!' What struck me was the hairless head of that boy. 'May be, that is the in-stuff', I thought.

'Sir, your daughter Sinduja is great indeed!' Without introducing herself, a lady got out of the car, and continued, 'that boy who is walking along with your daughter is my son Harish. He is suffering from... leukemia'. She paused to muffle her sobs. 'Harish could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy. He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates. Sinduja visited him last week, and promised him that she will take care of the teasing issue. But, I never imagined she would sacrifice her lovely hair for the sake of my son!

Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your daughter.'

I stood transfixed and then, I wept. 'My little Angel, you are teaching me how selfless real love is!'

The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for the ones whom they love

Today's Tip: Arrogance and Confidence

Learn to tell the difference between Arrogance & Confidence.

When we are confident we are willing to accept of being wrong.

But when arrogant we believe we can never be wrong and that is the biggest mistake in life..

Today's Inspiration - You Will Make It

No Matter What Happens

No Matter how far you Seem to be away

From where you want to be

Never stop believing that

You will somehow make it…

How to Build Trust to Enrich Relationships

How to Build Trust to enrich relationships

During my recent training on Management, the course of discussion slightly moved to the subject of Building Trust. Our trainer (my mentor as well) draw our attention to some important aspects of building trust. Since the idea of writing this article was originated during the training so I dedicate this article to my teacher, Georgie Collis, as she sowed the seed in my brain to produce this article.

So, before we go in to the details on how to develop trust, let us understand what Trust is. Trust is the permanent certainty and confident expectation from someone for something. Lack of trust might lead to shattered relations so Trust is the most critical ingredient for strong relationship; the relation which can either be between Husband-Wife, Boss-Employee, Father-Son, Brother-Sister, supplier-customer and so on.

Here are some recommended behaviors which you need to demonstrate in order to develop trust:

1-    Being Responsible: ensure you are performing your day-to-day responsibilities and meeting the short-term and long term expectations by your dependents.

2-   Listen: Listen, Listen, Listen. God has given you two ears and one tongue so you listen more and speak less. Effective Listening is a skill; develop this habit. Google it today and learn.

3-   Being Truthful: Be honest and fair. Don't deceive someone. Remember the fact that building trust is tough but it takes seconds to have scratches-in-the-jewel which usually is very hard to recover.

4-   Keeping Promise: your promise is your commitment with someone to do something, so don't break at any cost. In case you couldn't meet your promise, there is always a door for dialogue for re-consideration of things. In case of dialogues be fair, be truthful and be open. Confess the short comings on your end.

5-   Consistent behavior: the ever changing attitude is an indication of your non-predictive personality which is an anti-trust drive. So be consistent in what you speak and what you do.  

6-   Apologizing behavior: Sorry is the best medicine in healing relationship complications. In fact, Sorry and Thanks are the two golden words which my Kindergarten going son has refreshed for me. Use them often and you will see massive improvements in your daily life.
What are your suggestions to develop Trust?

Donate Blood and Stay Healthy While Saving Others

As per below article blood donation improves your cholesterol level, blood pressure level, get rid of excess iron, saves someones life, reduce chances of sugar, liver problems etc... so please donate blood every 3 months approximately.

Blood donation, the voluntary act of allowing one's blood to be drawn out of body has many advantages besides giving that wonderful feeling of saving someone's life. Most of the time it is an act of charity, though sometimes many people donate blood for money and other incentives. The blood donated is stored in blood banks, to be subsequently used for transfusion.

No doubt the first and foremost advantage of donating blood is the exalted feeling of saving someone's life. If we donate the little excess blood in our body, it could save someone's life without creating any problem for us. Instead it would help to alleviate some major health problems like heart diseases. Blood donation is an excellent way to get rid of excess iron accumulated in our body due to its over consumption. Excess iron in the body can stimulate the formation of free radicals, which are responsible for causing damage to body cells and tissues. Free radicals are also associated with many diseases like heart diseases and cancer.

Iron overloading is also thought to increase the risk of heart diseases. Besides, iron oxidizes cholesterol, which is harmful for the arteries. Hemo-chromatosis is a genetic disease characterized by excess accumulation of iron in the tissues due to improper metabolism. The disease can cause damage to many organs like pancreas, adrenal glands, etc. It may also cause diabetes, liver diseases and heart diseases. So, donating blood on a regular basis would help you to regulate the level of iron in your body. Studies have shown that donating blood regularly can be beneficial for the heart and circulatory system and can reduce the risk of heart diseases, especially among young people.

Besides, blood donation also burns the extra calories and reduces your cholesterol level. After donating blood, the count of blood cells decreases in our body, which stimulates the bone marrow to produce new red blood cells in order to replenish the loss. So, it stimulates the production of new blood cells and refreshes the system.

Before donating blood, your hemoglobin level will be tested. If it is low, then you will not be allowed to donate blood. Besides hemoglobin, your blood pressure level and body weight will also be checked. In addition, your blood will also be examined for detecting the presence of five diseases, namely, hepatitis B, hepatitis C, Syphilis, HIV/AIDS and malaria. If you are not suffering from these diseases, only then you will be allowed to donate your blood.

There are no major disadvantages of donating blood, except that sometimes one may experience a drop in blood pressure due to hypovolemia (a state of reduced blood volume), which may necessitate cancellation of donation. Sometimes, one may also experience mild nausea or dizziness for a short while. But if you compare the health benefits and mental satisfaction that comes from saving a life, you will feel that benefits of this act of charity is not only restricted to the recipient, but also helps the donor immensely.

How often can one give blood?
Regulations in the United States allow people to donate whole blood once every 56 days. The waiting period between donations can be different for other blood components. For example, donating only platelets in a process called apheresis requires only a 3 day wait before a person can give again. Donating two units of red blood cells through a similar process doubles the waiting period to 112 days.

Filling Love In Your Relationships - Practice These Powerful Small Sentences

There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.
Let me help:
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it.
When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

I understand you:
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship.
And this can apply to any relationship.

I respect you:
Respect is another way of showing love.
Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds
and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

I miss you:Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely
said to each other I miss you. This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted,
needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say I miss you.

Maybe youre right:
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument.
The implication when you say maybe youre right is the humility of admitting, maybe I'm wrong. Lets face it. When you have an argument with someone,
all you normally do is solidify the other persons point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously
damaging the relationship between you.
Saying maybe you're right can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is
understandable to the other person.

Please forgive me:
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes
and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong,
which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I thank you:
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy.
People who enjoy the companionship of good,
close friends are those who dont take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count on me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.
Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship.
It is the emotional glue that bonds people.
Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating you can count on me.

I'll be there:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase
Ill be there. Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things
happen to them and us.We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

Go for it:
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only.
Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to go for it.

I love you:
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person deepest emotional needs.
The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: I love you.Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.

Spiritual - Feeling Signifiact

I have been seeing the videos about the Solar system, our Milky Way; the other Galaxies...The videos invariably emphasize our absolute insignificance. There is actually happiness in the expression of our insignificance, the insignificance of each of us personally, our earth itself, then our solar system, then our Milky Way, then our Galaxy local group...

The Universe is very gigantic compared to any Galaxy, but then there is the new theory of the Multiverse, millions and millions of universes, black holes bigger than galaxies...

You become spell bound, ruminate about the petty politics, the petty mindedness and may be if you have money, just go on seeing many a stunning spectacle---all ultimately emphasizing insignificance and the meaninglessness. The giganticness excludes you; your insignificance dwarfs you mentally.

But suppose you do develop deep deep thinking and adopt the Holistic approach for perception, you then become the Universe; feel as mighty as the Universe. You feel as a part of the Multiverse.

But now...
After the spell of feeling our insignificance, I find myself feeling superior slowly compared to others, because I know while those people do not know. I slowly develop the feeling of class (snobbery), feeling myself apart and superior, with a half concealed smirk which I want to pass off as self confidence. But I ignore the basic fact, that whatever I have seen (not learnt, because learning is experiencing and feeling), is because of advanced technology, revelations without my participation.

I have not smelt and spirited the knowledge with personal experience, by using my own senses of smell, hearing and 3D seeing and touching. I happily abandoned them and adopted not even the technology on my own, but just getting informed as a spectator. I have been sitting in front of my desktop computer (I feel superior to those who cannot even sit and just lie with a Lap top) absorbing the messages and spectacles, not noticing that my legs have forgotten the simple things like standing, walking etc.The technology is making my body redundant. To remedy the situation, I take a dozen tablets every day.


The path I adopted to get those degrees was the path of the scientific method, of mathematical reductionism, the result of the totally dethatched and unbiased use of computers by intelligent programming.

I am feeling very superior and happy in my AC room, occasionally glancing at the bulldozers clearing away the unwanted trees and ponds. I am happy that the entire land is metalled with cement, not allowing even a blade of grass to grow. Now I half see the dogs unable to sit on the hot cement, finding nowhere to rest hungrily and finding no dirty water in the dirty pool to drink. From hardware to software to nowhere...

Written by a 90 years old.

Buying A Toto Toilet – A Few Useful Reasons Why You Are Right

While there is no doubt that variety is the spice of life, at time too much of variety could be confusing. This is all the more true when you are buying consumer durables, fixtures and fittings and other such things. When we talk about fixtures and fittings, we ought to bear in mind that our toilets and kitchens are important. They have some of the most critical and vital fixtures and fittings ranging from cookware and kitchenware for the kitchens. It could range from pans, ovens, dishwashers, sauté pans, pots and a host of other such items.

On the other end of the spectrum you also would need to take into account the requirements for your toilet. It needs to be clean, neat and at the same time it also should be good looking and sophisticated. It should have the best of look and feel and at the same time the lighting and other arrangements should also be of the highest order. Hence, at the end of the day, you need to do your research and then decide as to which is the best buy. As far as a quality toilet is concerned, there are quite a few fixtures and fittings that one needs to take into account. One the one hand there are faucets, and water pipes and showers. Yes, we cannot afford to forget the commodes, toilets and washlets which are so very essential. Today, there are dozens of options available in the market but many customers feel that there is something special about Toto Toilet and we need to more about it and find out why it has been able to win the trust and confidence of many people.

It is The Largest Selling
When you are keen on learning a few recommended things on Toto toilet, there are some basic information that you must bear in mind. First and foremost, you must be aware that it is the largest selling toilet brand in the world and has overtaken strong brands like Kohler amongst others. This has been possible because of a number of reasons and cost and value for money are the most important takeaways as far as Toto Toilets are concerned.

It Is Available In Many Colors
You also should bear in mind that when you decide to buy Toto toilets you are not hamstrung for choices. You have them available in different colors ranging from white to ebony, from Sedona white to cotton white and also from bone to colonial white. Hence you could have a toilet color which matches with the overall ambience of your entire toilet and the color combination which you have in mind.

It Has A Number Of Flushing Systems To Offer
Though Toto toilets do not have any vacuum assisted or pressure assisted facilities, they use some of the most advanced and scientific flushing features to choose from. The most famous are the ones which use G-max flushing features. Almost all Toto Toilets use around 1.5 gallons of water per flush and this is quite reasonable and does not waste too much of water.

3 Short Stories -- Mercedes, Romantic Husband and Lovely Kids

Mercedes Car:A guy met one of his school mates several years after school and he could not believe his eyes; his friend was driving one of the latest sleek Mercedes Benz cars. He went home feeling awful and very disappointed in himself. He thought he was a failure. What he didn't know was that his friend was a driver and had been sent on errand (a short journey) with his boss's car!

Romantic Husband:Rosemary nagged her husband always for not being romantic. She accused him for not getting down to open the car door for her as her friend Jane's husband did when he dropped her off at work. What Rosemary didn't know was that Jane's husband's car had a faulty door that could only be opened from the outside!

3 lovely kids:Simpson's wife went to visit one of her long time friends and was very troubled for seeing the 3 lovely kids of her friend playing around. Her problem was that she had only one child and have been struggling to conceive for the past five years. What she didn't know was that one of those kids who was the child of her friend had sickle cell and had just a year to live; the other two are adopted!

Life does not have a universal measuring tool; so create yours and use it. Looking at people and comparing yourself with them will not make you better but bitter. If you know the sort of load the chameleon carries, you wouldn't ask why it takes those gentle strides. So, enjoy what you have and be grateful for it. 
Pass to everyone on ur list to learn from other mistake! Not all that glitters are gold, live and be happy with what you have, everyone is going through one thing or the other. Food for thought!!

Maslow Motivation Theory for Success

The Hierarchy of Needs

The Maslow motivation theory is one of the best known and most influential theories on workplace motivation.
Psychologist Abraham Maslow first developed his famous theory of individual development and motivation in the 1940's. He suggested that human beings have a hierarchy of needs. That is, that all humans act in a way which will address basic needs, before moving on to satisfy other, so-called higher level needs.
Maslow represented this theory as a hierarchical triangle. This shows how basic needs must be met before one can "climb" the hierarchy, to address more complex needs.
For example, first one must meet the basic, physiological need for food, water and warmth. After that the focus would be on the need to be safe, then the need to belong to social groups, and so on up the hierarchy.
The important thing to recognize is Maslow's contention that one's sense of well-being. i.e. the 'feelgood factor' increases as the higher level needs are met.
Do you want to know the essentials of Maslow Motivation Theory in a minute? This is one of our Manage in a Minute pages. These contain essential tips on fundamental management topics.
No fuss or side-tracks, they get straight to the point. Here, in a series of bullet points which can be read in a minute (ish!)., are some essentials ways to understand motivation in the workplace.

Maslow Motivation Theory:

the Hierarchy of Needs

The Maslow motivation theory is typically represented by 5 steps:
  • Physiological needs – such as hunger, thirst and sleep
  • Safety needs – such as security, protection from danger and freedom from pain.
  • Social needs – sometimes also referred to as love needs such as friendship, giving and receiving love, engaging in social activities and group membership.
  • Esteem needs – these include both self-respect and the esteem of others. For example, the desire for self-confidence and achievement, and recognition and appreciation.
  • Self-actualization – This is about the desire to develop and realize your full potential. To become everything you can be.
Maslow Motivation Theory
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

Maslow believed that human beings have a strong desire to reach their full potential. In his own words:
"a man's desire for self-fulfilment, namely the tendency for him to become actually in what he is potentially: to become everything that one is capable of being…."

Understanding Maslow's Needs Hierarchy

To understand Maslow's thinking it's worth noting some of his main assertions:
  • Broadly, as one set of needs is met, the next level of needs become more of a motivator to an individual.
  • A satisfied need is not a motivator.
  • Only unsatisfied needs motivate an individual. We have an innate desire to work our way up the hierarchy, pursuing satisfaction in higher order needs.
  • Self-actualization stimulates a desire for more due to what Maslow explained as "peak experiences".
If you have the time, you may like to read more on this topic, for example about peak performance and flow. Or you may find it useful to look at the detailed discussions in some of our related articles on Workplace Motivation.

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Health: How to Increase Sperm Count Naturally!

A low sperm count is something that troubles many men nowadays. Stressful lifestyles, nutritional deficiencies, and chemical poisoning via pollutants in the environment and toxins in our food, are to blame.

Much can be done to improve low sperm counts. However, if the cause is radiation and chemical poisoning that has damaged your genes before birth, then not a lot can be done. For example, in Vietnam, since the war, many men have found that they have fertility issues as their parents had been exposed to 245T or Agent Orange,

However, if you were born healthy and your low sperm count is simply due to a stressful lifestyle, then you have a good chance of being able to restore your health and improve your sperm count. Here's how!

Exercise Regularly
Exercising not only improves your confidence and physical performance, but it may also raise your testosterone levels. Studies have shown that men who exercise regularly have higher testosterone levels and better semen quality than those who are inactive.

However, you should avoid too much exercise as this might have the opposite effect and potentially reduce testosterone levels. So, if you rarely exercise, but want to improve your fertility, becoming more active should be one of your top priorities.

Relax and Minimize Stress
Stress might reduce your sexual satisfaction and decrease your fertility. Researchers believe that the hormone cortisol may be partly to blame here. The reason for this is because prolonged stress raises levels of cortisol, which has strong negative effects on testosterone. When your cortisol levels go up, your testosterone levels go down.

While severe, unexplained anxiety is usually treated with medication, milder forms of stress can be alleviated by using a number of relaxation techniques. Stress management can be as simple as taking a walk in the countryside, meditating, exercising, or spending time with close friends.

Get Enough Vitamin C

Oxidative stress occurs when levels of reactive oxygen species (ROS) reach harmful levels in the body. This happens when the body's own oxidative defences are overwhelmed because of disease, old age, environmental pollutants, or an unhealthy lifestyle.

ROS are constantly being produced in the body, but their levels are kept in check in healthy people. High levels of ROS may promote tissue inflammation and injury, increasing the risk of chronic disease. There is also some evidence that oxidative stress and high levels of ROS can lead to infertility in men.

Adequate intake of antioxidants, such as vitamin C, can help to counteract some of these harmful effects. There is also some evidence that vitamin C supplements can improve semen quality.

A study of infertile men showed that taking 1,000-mg vitamin C supplements twice a day for up to two months increased sperm motility by 92% and sperm count by more than 100%. It also reduced the proportion of deformed cells by 55%.

To increase your vitamin C intake, you should make sure you eat bell peppers, kale, pineapples, broccoli, oranges, Brussels Sprouts, mango, and kiwi.

Get Enough Zinc
Zinc is an essential mineral that is found in high amounts in animal foods such as meat, eggs, fish, and shellfish. In fact, adequate zinc intake appears to be one of the cornerstones of male fertility.

Studies have shown that low zinc status or deficiency is associated with low testosterone levels, poor quality sperm, and an increased risk of male infertility. Also, it has been found that taking zinc supplements increases testosterone levels and sperm count in those who are low in zinc.

Reduce Exposure to Toxins

Poor quality sperm is believed to be caused by exposure to xenoestrogens – endocrine disruptors, a category of toxic chemicals that make hormones less effective. You might not be able to totally avoid these, but you can certainly minimize the impact that they can have on your health.

Some of the common sources of endocrine disruptors are herbicides, pesticides, plastics, chlorinated water, industrial pollutants, canned foods, synthetic medicine, commercial deodorants, dairy products, and soy milk.

You should also avoid foods that are high in sugar at all costs. Sugar is toxic and its consumption depletes many nutrients in your body. It can also cause a hormonal imbalance and suppress your immune system.

You need to eat foods that are high in antioxidants as these will neutralize toxins and free radicals that find their way into your body. The best sources of antioxidants are colorful, organic fruits and vegetables – eat them raw or juice them!

Herbal Remedies
The herbs found below may be effective for healing male infertility. They help to increase blood flow to the sexual organs and strengthen libido with no side effects. When taking these, you might also find that they help to improve erections and sexual desire.

You'll need to take these aphrodisiac herbs for at least three months before you experience their benefits. Don't take them within three hours of taking medication.

• Ashwagandha: This root extract can drastically increase sperm count, semen volume, and sperm motility. It also helps to improve overall health, increases vitality and calms the nerves. Mix ½ a teaspoon of ashwagandha powder to a glass of carrot juice and drink it twice a day.
• Maca root: The black variety of maca root is helpful for improving sperm production and motility. Start with ½ a teaspoon a day and gradually increase up to 1-3 teaspoons a day. Divide the portion into two doses daily. You can add it to a glass of water, juice, or a smoothie.
• Korean ginseng: Helps to increase testosterone levels, sperm count, and motility. Take 1-3 capsules of Korean ginseng daily for at least three months.
• Garlic: Is a natural aphrodisiac that increases sperm production and improves blood circulation to the sexual organs. Simply eat 2-3 cloves of crushed garlic a day, swallowing it with a glass of water.

Other Helpful Tips
Lose excess weight: Obesity is associated with fertility. If you are infertile and obese, weight loss should be one of your main goals!

Stop alcohol intake: Avoid alcohol consumption as this might reduce your testosterone levels and impair semen quality.

Get enough sleep: Getting enough sleep is vital when it comes to maintaining your health. Restricted or excessive sleep has been linked to poor semen quality.

Avoid eating too much soy: Soy is rich in isoflavones, which are associated with lower semen quality.

Snack on walnuts: Eating a lot of anti-oxidant rich foods, such as walnuts, seem to help fertility issues.

10 Steps To Finding Your Passion

10 Steps To Finding Your Passion
Understanding Your Path

1. Before passion can be revealed, perspective must be sought. In order to listen to your heart, day-to-day stresses, fears and confusions must be put aside because that which is safe is not always satisfying to the spirit.

2. Search for clues in your past. It is easy to forget the paths you dreamt of trekking as a child, an adolescent or a young adult, and the activities that truly intrigued and excited you. Ask yourself: What did I dream of becoming? What gave me the most joy?

3. Understand your uniqueness and know yourself well, but never stop questioning.
Your passion lives in the activities you love as well as your greatest talents. As you grow, these can change.

4. Fostering your self-confidence will provide you with the courage to seek out fresh experiences and to take risks. Your own fears, criticisms, and self-imposed limitations are often the most difficult obstacles to overcome.

5. Acknowledge epiphanies. Often, life-changing experiences come suddenly, and your passion may be revealed through momentous events or moments of quiet awareness as you contemplate changes that never seemed possible.

6. Be patient but when you find your imagination captured, act.
Open your mind to new ideas. Finding your passion can begin by taking up a hobby or attending a lecture series.

7. Charles Dickens wrote, "All of us have wonders hidden in our chests, only needing circumstances to evoke them." By delving deeper into what you enjoy, you create circumstances that will lead you to your true passion.

8. Recognize that positive change can be stressful and even frightening.
Learn to thrive on new experiences and your passion will soon reveal itself.

9. In the search for passion, failure is always a risk. Don't let it stop you. If you possess the ability to rebound from disappointments, to try again and again, you will never truly fail.

10. Finding and believing in your passion is only the first step. When you have found the path that will bring you joy, remember that you will have to work toward it. Never lose site of your goals.

Short Story: The Angry Man

An old man lived in the village. The whole village was tired of him; he was always gloomy, he constantly complained and was always in a bad mood. The longer he lived, the viler he became and more poisonous were his words. People did their best to avoid him because his misfortune was contagious. He created the feeling of unhappiness in others.

But one day, when he turned eighty, an incredible thing happened. Instantly everyone started hearing the rumor: “The old man is happy today, he doesn’t complain about anything, smiles, and even his face is freshened up.”

The whole village gathered around the man and asked him, “What happened to you?”

The old man replied, “Nothing special. 60 years I’ve been chasing happiness and it was useless. And then I decided to live without happiness and just enjoy life. That’s why I’m happy now.”

Moral of the story: Don’t chase happiness. Enjoy your life.

Todays Inspiration: Thinking and Acting


Problems in life is because
We Keep THINKING without ACTING..
Solution to all Problems
Are in your hands…

Shrot Story for Kids: The Hungry Lion

Moral Stories
It was an incredibly hot day and a lion was feeling very hungry.He crawled out of his den and searched here and there, but he could only find a small hare. He caught the hare, but with some hesitation as he knew the hare wouldn’t fill him up.
As the lion was about to kill the hare, he spotted a deer coming his way and thought, “Instead of eating this small hare, let me eat that big deer.”

So he let the hare go and went after the deer, but it vanished in the forest. The lion now had nothing to eat as the hare was also long gone.

Moral of the story: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

Why Fathers are neglected in Old Age?

Why Fathers are neglected in Old Age?
Vijay B Mansukhani

In the lifetime of Family Settings, there are 3 Dispensations of Power.*

The 1st is the first 25 years in the life of the family
(Father, Mother Children) where power indisputably rests with the Father.

The 2nd is after the kids have grown started working when the power shifts to the Mother.

The 3rd is when the Kids move out of the Family house or start their own Families* When the Power moves to the Children.

We'll start from the 1st Dispensation. Total dominance of the father. He is the Lion of the Tribe of his House. The boss!

During this dispensation, the father rules with an iron fist. He barks orders determines what does or does not happen.

The father often vents out corporal punishment to the recalcitrant children. They grow to fear him more than they love him.

The father is the provider for the family everyone is aware of that fact with all attendant consequences.

Then the 2nd Dispensation sets in. The children have finished school and have started working. Power shifts to the mother.

When the children start earning their own money, for some reason, it's their mothers they decide to look after. They are closer to her.

While the father was in charge, he was busy with the business of providing. He didn't have much time to be a friend to the children.

They spent more time with their mum and invariably grew closer to her. They also see their mum as co-victims of the father's tyranny.

The mother takes centre stage at this point.
She is the first to know what's happening with the children she has advantage.

Should any of the daughters give birth, she is the one that goes for babysitting and the children spoil her with gifts.

At this stage, the father is wishing for some bond with the children like they have with their mother, but that boat has sailed.

Because the mother doesn't rely much on the father for her needs at this stage, she is less likely to tolerate his lordship. Friction.

Then the 3rd and last dispensation. Power has shifted to the children. They are self-sufficient, live on their own have own families.

More often than not, whenever there is a quarrel between father mother, the children side with the mother.Years of joint- victim hood at play.

Children have been known to come to the house to warn their father not to 'disturb' their mother. Next thing, extended visitations.

Woe beside the father if his finances are precarious at this stage. You will be humbled by force. The gang-up is real.

This causes most men to fall ill develop different complications. By the time the forces are arrayed against you, you will think well. Stroke, Hypertension, High-Blood Pressure. The man has a large family but no relationship with them in later life. Troubling thought!

Lesson for Men:
Dear men, while the power lies with us, let us wield it with posterity in mind. It won't be with us forever. With the way you are treating your wife now, how will she treat you when power shifts to her? What relationship do you have with your family? Loving dad or despotic, tyrannical provider? Remember, the children always side with their mother. Aim to do enough to at least get a fair hearing in future moments of family strife.

Invest (time, efforts, finances) wisely for the future so that you won't have to beg to be taken care of if despite your best efforts, you find yourself alone.



Advice to Mothers:
There Is No Manual On How It Works.

Factors To Consider When Buying A Massage Chair

Factors To Consider When Buying A Massage Chair

Like any other product, a great massage chair also has a few defining features that makes it a good or a bad buy. If the buyer considers all these points at the time of buying a massage chair, there are higher probabilities they will get a model that will last them a lifetime without developing petty issues from time to time.

Different Factors To Consider When Buying A Massage Chair

1. Features
When we say features, it does not mean that the massage chair should be loaded with features. What is important is actually the quality of features it has. More than that, it is wise to ensure that the features included in a massage chair do justice the price quoted for it.

There are certain features in a massage chair like the remote control or the control panel that can take some time getting used to it.

2. PriceThe pricing of massage chair is divided into different tiers. Choosing a particular price tier would mean you are selecting a few features and dropping others. So when you are out to buy a massage chair, it is important to consider its price since it will directly affect the class of features it will have. But if you are fortunate you might find features of a higher tier at the pricing of a lower tier too.

3. ComfortThere are a lot of things that come together to make a massage chair comfortable. It should have a high quality material, great design and top in class massage functions. Any of these missing will take away the comfort from it. It should not just be comfortable to sit but also during the entire massage process.

4. SizeThe size of a massage chair is an important factor since it affects its ability to rotate or recline around for 360 degrees. There is no use of buying an extra large massage chair from a cramped area. What is important is to check that the massage chair can perform all the functions they are looking for and it is appropriately sized for them.

5. DurabilityLike any other product durability is an important factor to consider when buying massage chair. Since a massage chair has a number of movable parts, they are more prone to breaking. It is advisable to read the reviews of the product and confirm about its durability before you buy it.

Advanced Features In A Massage ChairThe advanced features in any massage chair are almost like their USP. Most of the buyers would buy a massage chair only if it has advanced features. Preset programming is a popular advanced feature that is available in almost all kinds of massage chairs today. The feature helps you to choose your favorite massage at the required speed and for a pre-set time.

If you are living in Australia and looking for a
massage chair Melbourne, you can find a number of brands and their different variants easily.

12 Ways You Screw Up Your Own Relationship And Don't Even Know It!

Strong, and delicate. Easy, yet difficult. Simple - but oh so complicated! Relationships are all this and more. While it takes equal amounts of hard work, support, love and dedication to make a relationship work, when it comes to messing up, it doesn’t always take two to tango! Certain mistakes repeated over and over again by just one of the partners can screw up a perfectly happy relationship. Wondering how? Read on…

1. Trust does not figure in your scheme of things
Trust can either make or break a relationship – it is the foundation on which it survives. This is one aspect in all relationships that is complex and yet the simplest, hardest but also the easiest – its presence brings immense happiness and its absence turns into a lifetime of suspicion, frustration and heartbreak. If you want your relationship to stand strong through the trials of time, don’t just ‘say’ you trust your partner, prove it. Quit snooping, doubting, excessive questioning, and wanting to know every detail of his/her every waking minute. If you find yourself sulking when your partner refuses to share their email password or phone lock code, ask yourself how good the relationship is. If you can’t bring yourself to kick these habits and trust, let go of this relationship that makes you edgy and takes away your peace of mind. It won’t survive too long without trust anyway.

2. The communication becomes increasingly clouded
One of the biggest problems in relationships is the obsession that your partner should “just know” what’s on your mind. Bad news! Mind reading is a super power not everyone is born with. Stop assuming that the person you are with must magically know what you are thinking – speak out loud and communicate clearly about issues that bother you. Sure, it could lead to some conflict, but it would be healthy, conclusive conflict with a definitive outcome, and you will find yourself in a healthier and more positive relationship.

3. You take your partner for granted, a little too oftenIt is very easy to take the people we love for granted and assume they are always there for us. We do it all the time – with our friends, family, especially in our relationships, and this ruins everything. To keep your bond fresh and alive, treat each day with your partner like a new one, making him/her feel like they are wanted and special.

Communicate clearly with each other. Go the extra mile once in a while, throw in unexpected surprises. Doing little things to make him/her feel like they matter can prevent your relationship from being gnawed on by boredom and stagnancy.

4. You suffer from the “I” syndrome
A lot of people suffer from the “I” syndrome. This is an obsessive repetition that “I” did this, “I” did that, “I” sacrificed this and that… and “you” did nothing. Really? Remember, everything has two sides, and if the relationship has come this far, there must be SOMETHING your partner did right too. The minute you stop acknowledging and appreciating that, your relationship is going to start going downhill.

5. You involve others in your problems
Nothing could be more damaging to a relationship than involving a third party in your problems. If you want to keep your bond strong and sacred, do not go on a whine trip to others who are most likely going to have biased opinions anyway. Talking to others makes your partner feel low and demeaned, besides the fact that the person being spoken to will see your previously ‘perfect’ partner in a totally different light, no matter how fair they show themselves to be.

It also makes it look like your relationship is not strong enough to be sorted out between the two of you. Involving third parties creates a permanent crack in your relationship, as well as the relationships between the involved third parties and your partner. It also drives your partner to a stage where he/she will always be on pins and start shying away from being honest with you.

If you do feel like discussing your relationship problems with someone other than your partner, the best option is to approach a completely unbiased and unattached individual like a professional relationship counsellor, who will give you objective advice.

6. Giving ultimatums has so become your thing
Do you throw an ultimatum at your partner each time you quarrel? Well, ultimatums do not work - they are juvenile and only create negativity and suppressed frustration. Most people in relationships threaten to leave if things don’t go their way. 

Your partner may do what you say to keep the peace, but there will be underlying resentment in their mind. It is always better to talk things out and reach a reasonable agreement rather than threatening to walk out. And if you feel like your relationship is just not working despite your best efforts, it’s best to leave rather than stay based on conditions. Love is and should be unconditional.

7. You begin losing your individuality
It’s not cool to depend on your partner to complete you. We complete ourselves, and if we can’t, nobody else can either. Each time you plan and base things as per your partner’s likes, dislikes, and convenience, a little bit of your individuality dies a silent death. 

Of course, relationships are all about adjustments and compromise, and everyone must make some, but don’t make a habit of it. Keep a 50/50 balance. Apart from living for others, you also need to learn how to own your own life. Celebrate your uniqueness, embrace your individuality, and only then can you, as a couple, celebrate your differences. This won’t just empower and liberate you, but your partner will also respect you a lot more – win-win!

8. You don’t give enough space
Just like you need your individuality, you also need to respect your partner’s. Being in a relationship does not mean being stuck together 24/7 – it means giving each other sufficient space to be on their own and do what they enjoy doing - not always with you.

When you give each other a healthy amount of space, you are actually breathing new life into your relationship and you both will enjoy and appreciate each other’s company more. The bonus – you’ll have new and different things to talk about too!

9. You glorify arguments and lose focus on the solutions
A lot of us get into the habit of arguing for the sake of winning the argument, with an increasingly diminishing focus on getting to the root of the problem and figuring out a solution. 

Holding on to the past, bringing up past fights, assuming things, mudslinging, playing blame games, giving the silent treatment – these are things to try and refrain from if you’re looking at working out your relationship. Sure, shout out and vent at times, but also learn to go beyond that and minimise such outbursts in future.

10. You don’t say it enough
When you love someone, say it at every given opportunity. Sure, your actions may speak volumes about your love, but words said out loud have a different impact altogether. It makes your partner feel special, appreciated, and cared for. Tell your partner how much you love, appreciate, trust and respect them. This also proves that you don’t take each other granted. Prove your love in actions, but don’t forget to reiterate it with words.

11. You use social media as a punching bag
Social media is supposed to be for entertainment – not a punching bag for relationship woes. Throwing hints on social networking channels that there is trouble brewing in your relationship is a sure fire way to piss off your partner, not to mention how it makes your self-respect and dignity take a hit. Rambling on social media could put the “rambler” in a catch 22 situation - while venting is damaging, making tall claims about the relationship is not wise either. Several studies have shown that excessive social media expression is inversely proportional to how happy a couple is – the happiest couples are the quietest, and the ones constantly making a show have undercurrents of trouble in the relationship. After all, what’s great just is - it does not need show, proof and external validation. So when it comes to social media, let the silence sing through!
12. You forget how to let go and have fun
It is only natural for us to feel like life is mundane, monotonous, boring and like a rut. But don’t let this feeling seep into your relationship.

Make a genuine effort to have fun with your partner – behave childlike, laugh, be silly, plan an offbeat holiday together. Do whatever it takes to introduce freshness, romance, passion and laughter back into your relationship, because each time you do, you’re re-introducing a fresh dose of renewed love back into it. As someone rightly said, ‘Love is being stupid together’.
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9 Asian Diets You Should Take Up Now!

In Asia, diet is all about creating wellness, because Asian people believe that doing so is the best way to ensure their health. If you decide to incorporate these habits into your diet, you’re highly likely to see an improvement in your overall health. Here are 10 Asian dietary practices that are excellent ways of ensuring wellness:

1. Limit drinks, especially cold ones

It’s normal in the western world to have a cold glass of water or perhaps a soda with a meal, but changing this habit can help to create better digestion. It’s much better to drink green tea or another hot tea 30 minutes before a meal to support enzymatic activity and enhance your digestive abilities, and then have something to drink 30 minutes after a meal, rather than during.

2. Lots of soup

Soup is highly nutritious, as well as filling. Most Asian soups are made with bones or vegetables, so they are full of vitamins and minerals. Examples are bone broth, vegetable or miso soups that are easily absorbed into the body.. What’s more is that the warm temperature of soup can improve the entire digestive process.

3. 3:1 ratio of vegetables to meat

The Asian diet places emphasis on the importance of eating three times as many vegetables as meat. The usual meat and potato western diet does not leave much room on the plate for that many vegetables to be incorporated into a meal, but a little thing that you can do to make it healthier is to switch out regular potatoes for sweet potatoes. Other great additions you can make are bitter vegetables such as radishes and radicchio.

4. Small plates and chopsticks
Changing up your plates and serving bowls for smaller ones is a great way to eat smaller portions. Using chopsticks also makes it easier to avoid shovel eating techniques. If you’re an inexperienced chopstick user, chopsticks are guaranteed to slow down your rate of consumption and give your stomach time to communicate with your brain that it’s full and that it’s time to stop eating.

5. Rice combinations
Black, red or purple rice varieties are nutritionally denser than white or brown rice. In Asia, rice is eaten to supplement a meal, rather than being the main course itself. Being a carbohydrate, it’s converted into sugar when being digested, dramatically upping your glycemic index. This is a good source of fast energy, but bad if you want to avoid blood sugar fluctuations, or if you are diabetic.

6. Not eating dessert every night
If you really must have dessert, make sure that you have fruit. It’s nutritious and delicious, and commonly served as a dessert in Asia. Sugary cakes, cookies and ice cream should be saved for special occasions only.

7. Seafood
It’s a well-known fact that seafood is very healthy, and it has been a part of diets around the world for millennia. We’ve all heard about the healthy oils that are found in fish, but Asian culture has always done better at continuing to incorporate fish as part of the local diet.

8. Healthier snacks
In Asia, people tend to snack on seaweed, nuts, dried fruit and seeds as opposed to chips, cookies and other unhealthy snack foods that are more common in the west. In fact, they’re easy to find in almost every market. The one thing you have to watch out for if you decide to start snacking the Asian way is to be wary of the salt content in nuts.

9. Food temperatures to go with seasons

Not much consideration is given to the energetic temperature of foods in the west relative to the seasons. This simple rule of thumb dictates that cooling foods should be eaten in hot weather, and warming foods should be eaten in cold weather. Hot soups and stews are for winter, whereas the likes of celery, melons and cold salads are for summer. Every food has an energetic temperature and accordingly, has an effect on the body.

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