By Junaid.Tahir It is said that decision making becomes easy if you know your Values. Or indirectly saying, your Valu...
By Junaid.Tahir
It is said that decision making
becomes easy if you know your Values. Or indirectly saying, your
Values make it easy for you to make decisions. Not only this, your
Values strengthen your character, portrays the persistency in your personality,
systemize your life and remind you to focus on the things which
matter the most in a way which is defined by the Values you chose to
live by. So, after all, what are Values?
The
Values are the characteristics and the principles which you adopt in
your routine life to live by. For example if a person lives with the
Values of "Being Adaptable" and "Being Optimistic"
then he/she would be more elastic to different situations
(Adaptable) and would be less stressful in tragic situations
(Optimistic). Hence, it would be appropriate to say that your Values
are shaping your present and your future.
Some of the most common values are: Confident, Friendly, Honest, Surprising, Devoted, Adaptable, Honest, Harmonious, Energetic, Optimistic, Caring, Courageous, Forgiving, Generous, Gratitude, Friendly and Empathic. While, all these Values give you benefit in different situations of life; there are some most common yet most powerful Values to adopt by all means. Below are my favorite ones:
1- Being Empathic:
There
is a big difference between Human Being and Being Human. Latter
requires you helping others by all possible means which demands high level of empathy
from you. Empathy is the skill to understand the emotions as well as
needs of people and to treat them according to their emotional
reaction. This skill is closely linked with the emotional intelligence
which is basically analyzing, assessing and managing the emotion of oneself and others. So by developing and practicing this Value not only you resolve someone's conflicts and problems but also win their hearts !
2- Being Committed:
Once
you decide something, you have to make sure you complete it by all
positive and logical and fair means. Once you start living with this
Value, you will make things happen by strictly sticking to your
goals. An indicative to strong commitment is that you start focusing
on the solutions to the problems instead of finding the excuses. You
would know that a weak approach to any task means you are already
half lost it. So living this Value empower your "Can-do-Attitude"
3- Being Optimistic: Positive people are part of solutions instead of complaining,
criticizing, cursing, contradicting, confronting, conspiring and
corrupting. Being positive gives you great flexibility and a sense of
independence because you chose to ignore the negative thoughts
and free up your mind to focus on things which can add value to your
life. Eventually you enhance your productivity by adopting this
Value.
4- Being Gratuitous:
The
stanza says, "When Your Head is on the Pillow, and the day is
almost done; Count God's blessings, Count Them One by One. If you are
reading this article, you are better than billions of people who do
not have even basic necessities such as food to eat, bed to sleep,
clothes to wear and even clean water to drink. Generally speaking, it
is believed that people who have high level of gratitude posses deep
peace of mind
and are high achievers in life. You can practice this Value by
dedicating 5 minutes at the end of each day and being thankful to God
by refreshing the blessings you have including each organ of your body
and several other materialistic/financial blessings. To strengthen
this Value, compare yourself with the people who don't have these
blessings.
5- Being Adaptable:
Stubborn
people suffer from many problems such as stress, wrong decisions,
professional stagnancy, family imbalance and emotional disturbance.
You have to understand that you cannot boil the ocean nor you can
spin the world. So be flexible to the changing situations and adopt
yourself accordingly. Be fair, logical and analytical in judging the
situations and change your strategy to control or mitigate the side
effects. However this does not mean to allow yourself to
'go-with-the-wind"; instead, be concrete on your goal achievement
however be elastic in your approach to reach to the destination.
6- Being Analytical:
Being Analytical means analyzing
any situation from logical, personal, religious, emotional,
financial, needs Vs wants, familial and professional perspectives.
Being analytical gives you the wisdom to see things from wider angle
and consider things from all stake holders' perspective so that your
decisions are healthy and fruitful in the long run and are in the
best interest of yourself, your family and your business.
7- Being Trust-worthy:
Trust
is the permanent certainty and confident expectation from someone
for something. Lack of trust might lead to shattered relations so Trust
is the most critical ingredient for strong relationship; the
relation which can either be between Husband-Wife, Boss-Employee,
Father-Son, Brother-Sister, supplier-customer and so on. You can
adopt and demonstrate this Value by being truthful to others, by
meeting our promises, keeping the secrets and providing fair advises, honest with our loved ones.