Proven Ways to Get Along Better with EVERYONE

1. Before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself 3 things: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
2. Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully.
3. Never miss the opportunity to compliment or
say something encouraging to someone.

4. Refuse to talk negatively about others;
Don't gossip and don't listen to gossip.

5. Have a forgiving view of people.
Believe that most people are doing the best they can.

6. Keep an open mind; Discuss, but don't argue.
(It is possible to disagree without being disagreeable. )

7. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000
before doing or saying anything that could make matters worse.

8. Let your virtues speak for themselves.
9. If someone criticizes you,
see if there is any TRUTH to what is being said;
If so, make changes;
If there is no truth to the criticism,
ignore it and live so that no one will believe the negative remark.

10. Cultivate your sense of humor;
Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.

11. Do not seek so much to be consoled, as to console;
Do not seek so much to be understood, as to understand;
Do not seek so much to be loved as to love.

Islamic: Check yourself against these qualities


SOME OF THE HUMAN QUALITIES ALLAH, THE ALMIGHTY LOVES

"Say (O Muhammad to mankind): "If you (really) love Allah, then follow me (i.e. accept Islamic monotheism, follow the Quran and the Sunnah), Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
(Quran: 3:31)

Ø        Patience
Ø        Justice and Dealing with Equity
Ø        Putting Trust in Allah
Ø        Perfection of One's Work
Ø        Rescuing
Ø        Being Kind and Gentle to Others
Ø        Kindliness
Ø        Repentance
Ø        Piety
Ø        Good-doing
Ø        Body Purification
Ø        Humility of the Rich
Ø        Belief and Work
Ø        Reflection of Allah's Grace
Ø        Magnanimity
Ø        Virtuosity
Ø        Loftiness
Ø        Justice
Ø        Strength
Ø        Love for the Sake of Allah
Ø        Forgiveness
Ø        Continuous Performance of Righteous Deeds
Ø        Loving and Visiting Believers
Ø        Exhortation and Advising
Ø        Love of Virtuous Deeds
Ø        Good Manners and Conduct


All above titles are explained by a Hadees below:-

Patience
"And Allah loves as-Sabirun (the patient)."
(Quran: 3:146)

Justice and Dealing with Equity
"Be just: that is nearer to piety; and fear Allah."
(Quran: 5:8)

Putting Trust in Allah
"Certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
(Quran: 3:159)

Perfection of One's Work
The Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves that if one does a job he perfects it."

Rescuing
Abu Ya 'la Dailami and Ibn Asakir narrated: Abu Hurairah and Anas Ibn Malik said: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves rescuing the one who needs rescue."

Being Kind and Gentle to Others
Baihaqani narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah is kind and gentle (to others)."

Kindliness
"Aisha narrated: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves kindliness in all matters."
(Bukhari)

Repentance
"Truly, Allah loves those who turn unto him in repentance."
(Quran: 2:222)

Piety
"Verily, then Allah loves those who are al-Muttaqun (the pious)."
(Quran: 3:76)

Good-doing
"Truly, Allah loves Al-Muhsinun (the good-doers)."
(Quran: 2:195)

Body Purification
"And Allah loves those who make themselves clean and pure [ i.e. who clean their private parts with dust (which has the properties of soap) and water from urine and stools, after answering the call of nature]."
(Quran: 9:108)

Humility of the Rich
Muslim narrated: Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas said: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves the believer who is pious and rich, but does not show off."

Belief and Work
Al-Tabarani narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves the slave who believes and acquires a career (or work)."

Reflection of Allah's Grace
Al-Tirmidhi narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves from amongst his slaves, the one who has a sense of zeal or honor."

Magnanimity
Al-Hakim narrated: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Allah is All-Generous and He loves generosity in sale, purchase and judgment."

Virtuosity
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves the slave-believer who is poor but virtuous enough to refrain from begging though he has many children."
(Muslim and Ahmed)

Loftiness
Al-Tabarani narrated: the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves lofty matters and superiority and hates inferior matters."

Justice
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves that you be just toward your children even when kissing them."
(Ibn Al-Najjar)

Strength
Muslim narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "The strong believer is better and more loved by Allah than the weak one, but they are both good."

Love for the Sake of Allah
Al-Tabarani, Ibn Ya'la, Ibn Hibban and Al-Hakim narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "If two men love each other for the sake of Allah, the stronger in love to his brother will be more loved by Allah."

Forgiveness
Ibn Iday narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah is All-Forgiving and He loves forgiveness."

Continuous Performance of Righteous Deeds
Bukhari and Muslim narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "The best loved deeds to Allah are the ones that are continuous even if they are not very many."

Loving and Visiting Believers
Malik narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah said: My love is due to those who meet for My sake, visit one another and make any effort for My pleasure."

Exhortation and Advising
Abdullah, the son of Imam Ahmed narrated: It was said: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "The best loved slaves to Allah are those who exhort their slaves."

Love of Virtuous Deeds
Ibn Abi Al-Dunya narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "The best loved slaves to Allah are those who are made to love virtue and loving virtuous deeds is made lovely to them."

Good Manners and Conduct
Al-Tirmidhi narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "The best loved by me and the nearest to me on the seats on the Day of Resurrection are those who have the best manners and conduct amongst you, who are intimate, are on good terms with others and are humble, and the most hated by me and who will be on the furthest seats from me are those who are talkative and arrogant."

Love of Allah is the basis of worship that should be directed to Him alone. Any other love should be for His sake too. The real love of Allah is to do whatever He ordained and to abandon whatever He forbade, in addition to following the Prophet's Sunnah.

Whoever obeys someone or something other than Allah and His Messenger, or follows any saying other than theirs, or fears other than Allah or seeks the pleasure of other than Allah, or puts his trust in other than Him, does not love Allah, nor does he love His Messenger. Muslims should also love one another and wish the best for one another. Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said:

"One will not be a true believer unless he loves for his brother what he loves for himself."
(Bukhari, Muslim, Nasa'i, Ahmed and Ibn Majah)

Imam Malik and Imam Ahmed narrated: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah said: My love is due to those who love one another for My sake."

8 Qualities of Successful Person

1. Burning DesireThe motivation to succeed comes from the burning desire to achieve a purpose. Napoleon Hill wrote, "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve." A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results.
2. Commitment
Integrity and wisdom are the two pillars on which to build and keep commitments. This point is best illustrated by the manager who told one of his staff members, "Integrity is keeping your commitment even if you lose money and wisdom is not to make such foolish commitments."
3. Responsibility People with character accept responsibilities. They make decisions and determine their own destiny in life. Accepting responsibilities involves taking risks and being accountable which is sometimes uncomfortable.Responsible people don't think that the world owes them a living.
4. Hard work Success is not something that you run into by accident. It takes a lot of preparation and character. Everyone likes to win but how many are willing to put in the effort and lime to prepare to win? It takes sacrifice and self-discipline. There is no substitute for hard work.
5. Character Character is the sum total of a person's values, beliefs and personality. It is reflected in our behavior, in our actions. It needs to be preserved more than the richest jewel in the world. To be a winner takes character. George Washington said, "I hope I shall always possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most valuable of all titles, the character of an honest man."
6. Positive believing/ThinkingPositive believing is a lot more than positive thinking. It is having a reason to believe that positive thinking will work. Positive believing is an attitude of confidence that comes with preparation. Having a positive attitude without making the effort is nothing more than having a wishful dream.
7. The Power of persistence
The journey to being your best is not easy. It is full of setbacks. Winners have the ability to overcome.Persistence means commitment and determination. There is pleasure in endurance. Commitment and persistence is a decision. Athletes put in years of practice for a few seconds or minutes of performance.
Persistence is a decision. It is a commitment to finish what you start. When we are exhausted, quitting, looks good. But winners endure. Ask a winning athlete. He endures pain and finishes what he started. Lots of failures have begun well but have not concluded anything. Persistence comes from purpose. Life without purpose is drifting. A person who has no purpose will never persevere and will never be fulfilled.
8. Pride of performance
In today's world, pride in performance has fallen by the wayside because it requires effort and hard work. However, nothing happens unless it is made to happen. When one is discouraged, it is easy to look for shortcuts. However these should be avoided no matter how great the temptation. Pride comes from within, which is what gives the winning edge.
Pride of performance does not represent ego. It represents pleasure with humility. The quality of the work and the quality and the worker are inseparable. Half-hearted effort does not produce half results; it produces no results.
Excellence comes when the performer takes pride in doing his best. Every job is a self-portrait of the person who does it, regardless of what the job is, whether washing cars, sweeping the floor or painting a house.

Eleven Great Ways to Reduce Stress

by Dr S. Tamer

(NaturalNews) Stress is a big challenge in life nowadays. The sources of stress are many and the helpful ways to reduce stress are also plentiful. Common symptoms of stress include skin problems, impotence, stomach ulcers, high blood pressure, fatigue, insomnia and frustration.

We don't need to set a time to reduce stress, we need to incorporate some strategies in our daily life routine to prevent stress and reduce its effect on the body.

Here are 11 simple steps we can easily take to reduce stress:

1. Define your goals: we must define our life goals and begin to achieve these goals; this action will support us against stress because we will feel that we know what our life purpose is and why, and that we control our own lives.

2. Take control of your diet: we can use simple ways in our diet plans to reduce stress by avoiding some stimulants such as coffee, tea and sugar and we can use chamomile tea as an alternative because of its calming and relaxing effect. We need to eat slowly in a calm environment to allow our digestive system to work well. We can use honey as an alternative to sugar but in small amounts (one or two spoonfuls per day).

3. Take hot baths regularly: after a very busy day or when we feel that we need to relax (I do this three times a week). You can take a hot bath by sitting in warm to hot water and the water level should be above the waist, using lavender oil can also enhance this relaxing experience.

4. Aromatherapy: in the office you can use aromatherapy to relax and avoid stress. One of the best ways is to use lavender oil on a source of heat and take in the scent; this is a great way to relax during the day when you need it the most.

5. Exercise: This is one of the important things you can do which will reduce stress and bring happiness. When we exercise, our brains release substances which bring feelings of happiness and relaxation; we need engage in some exercise regularly such as walking, dancing or swimming.

6. Breathing techniques: Yoga, meditation and Tai Chi all use deep breathing techniques. To meditate, simply sit with closed eyes and concentrate on your breathing. Breathing deeply regularly is great for health and from there, you can learn various other breathing techniques to gain enhanced benefits.

7. Relaxation techniques and self hypnotherapy: we can easily do this after the hot bath to relax even more, simply sit or lie down in a comfortable place with your eyes closed, imagine there is a spot light above your head and concentrate on it, then concentrate on your body part by part and try to relax the body and feel the relaxation deepening -- you can also use a self hypnotherapy audio tape to help in this process.

8. Massage: this is a great way to reduce stress, I do this when other ways fail, I feel better after receiving a massage. You can get a professional massage or you can simply ask your partner to massage you.

9. Spiritual healing: prayers and the act of helping others are very important components for happiness and stress reduction. You will feel calmer and have a sense of inner peace.

10. Talking through your problems: talking about your feelings acts as a releasing mechanism and you will soon find that talking about your problems with your partner or best friend may help the solution to the problem come to light and will help to release blocked emotions.

11. Multivitamins: I take a Vitamin B complex regularly to decrease stress and this has been a great help in my stress reduction.

I hope that you find these suggestions helpful, my hope in sharing this information with you is that you can benefit from it. Reading about this is not enough to reduce stress, you must take action.


About the author

M.B.B.C.H, Physician, D.H.P. , D.C.M.T, S.N.H.S Dip. (Nutrition),
S.N.H.S Dip. (Herbalism), I.R.F member, Reiki master,
Member of the Royle Institute of Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy,
Member of the Complete Mind therapists Association,
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Keys to Happiness


 

Keys to Happiness
 
 
Happiness is the only goal on earth that all people without exception are seeking to attain.  Believers and unbelievers alike seek to be happy, but each party is using different methods.
However, only believers can achieve genuine happiness.  All forms of happiness attained without a firm belief in God, the Almighty, are mere illusions.
The following are tips for the attainment of happiness:
1.    Know that if you do not live within the scope of today, your thoughts will be scattered, your affairs will become confused, and your anxiety will increase.  These realities are explained in the following hadith:
"When you are in the evening, do not expect to see the morning, and when you are in the morning, do not expect to see the evening." (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
2.    Forget the past and all that it contained.  Being absorbed in things that are past and gone is sheer lunacy.
3.    Do not be preoccupied with the future because the future is in the world of the unseen; do not let it bother you until it comes.
4.    Do not be shaken by criticism; instead, be firm.  Be sure that in proportion to your worth, the level of people's criticism rises.  Also, make good use of criticism in discovering your shortcomings and faults, and let it drive you toward self-improvement.
5.    Have certain faith in God and perform good deeds; these are the ingredients that makeup a good and happy life.
6.    If you desire peace, tranquility, and comfort, you can find it all in the remembrance of God.
7.    You should know with certainty that everything that happens, occurs in accordance with the divine decree.
8.    Do not expect gratitude from anyone.
9.    Train yourself to be prepared for the worst eventuality.
10.  Perhaps what has happened is in your best interest, even though you may not comprehend how that can be so.
11.  Everything that is decreed for the believer is the best for him.
12.  Enumerate the blessings of God and be thankful for them.
13.  Remember that you are better off than many others.
14.  Relief comes from one hour to the next.  Indeed, with each difficulty there is relief.
15.  In both times of hardship and ease, one should turn to supplication and prayer, either patiently contented or thankful.
16.  Calamities should strengthen your heart and reshape your outlook in a positive way.
17.  Do not let trivialities be the cause of your destruction.
18.  Always remember that your Lord is Oft-Forgiving.
19.  Assume an easy-going attitude and avoid anger.
20.  Life is bread, water, and shade; so do not be perturbed by a lack of any other material thing.
"And in the heaven is your providence and that which you are promised." (Quran 51:22)
21.  Most evil that is supposed to happen never occurs.
22.  Look at those who have more afflictions and be grateful that you have less.
23.  Bear in mind the fact that God loves those who endure trials with steadfastness, so seek to be one of them.
24.  Constantly repeat those supplications that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us to say during times of hardship.
25.  Work hard at something that is productive, and cast off idleness.
26.  Do not spread rumors and do not listen to them.  If you hear a rumor inadvertently, do not believe it.
27.  Know that your malice and your striving to seek revenge are much more harmful to your health than they are to your antagonist.
28.  The hardships that befall you atone for your sins, if you endure with patience.
Description: Some of the means for achieving happiness.
By Ayed Al-Qarni
Published on 23 Mar 2009 - Last modified on 02 Apr 2009