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Story:​ Charity wrapped in Dignity!

She asked him, "How much are you selling the eggs for?"

The old seller replied to her, "Rs.5/- for one egg, Madam."

She said to him, "I will take 6 eggs for Rs.25/- or I will leave."

The old seller replied, "Come take them at the price you want. May God  bless us, and maybe this is a good beginning because I have not yet sold to anyone."

She took it and walked away feeling she has won. She got into her fancy car and went to pick her friend, and invited her to a restaurant.

She and her friend sat down and ordered what they like. They ate a little and left a lot of what they ordered.

Then she went to pay the bill. The bill was Rs.1,200/-. She gave him Rs. 1,300/- and said to the owner of the restaurant: "Keep the change."

This story may seem normal to the owner of the restaurant. But it is very painful for the eggs' seller.

Flash
Why do we always show that we have the power when we buy from the needy and the poor? And we are generous with those who do not need our generosity ?

Every time a poor child comes to me to sell something simple, I remember a tweet from the son of a rich man who said, "After every prayer my father used to buy simple goods for very expensive prices, even though he did not need them. Sometimes he used to pay more for them. I used to get concerned by this act and I told him about it. Then my father told me: 'It is a charity wrapped with dignity, my son.'"

Compare these two stories of social hypocrisy.

The first one is disappointing and the second one is inspiring.

_May God enlighten our vision_.

Hackers Can Now Take Over Your PC Using Images on Social Media

As security firms across the oceans try to curb down cyber attacks every day, new forms of exploitation appear just as quickly.

A new sort of ransomware has been uncovered by the security firm Check Point, which comes in the form of image files downloaded through our social networks.

Cheekily dubbed "ImageGate" by the company, the new malware exploits the way networks such as Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter handle images. The hacker only has to trick the user into downloading an infected image file from these networks, after its completion, there is little that can be done to prevent the ransomware from taking over the user's PC.
"The attackers have built a new capability to embed malicious code into an image file and successfully upload it to the social media website.
The attackers exploit a misconfiguration on the social media infrastructure to deliberately force their victims to download the image file. This results in infection of the users' device as soon as the end-user clicks on the downloaded file."
The malware was first uncovered while Check Point was researching on Locky ransomware programs. This type of program targets the user via phishing attacks mainly and upon gaining access to the system, encrypts the user's data before demanding some sort of ransom.
In this particular instance, things are less black and white and it appears on the internet in the form of benign images which you so commonly see on Facebook and Twitter. There is apparently no protection right now for this kind of a threat.
The best course of action is to check whether the image is actually viewable online. If say a file has already been downloaded in your computer with an unknown format, it is best not to open it.
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Story: My Husband Does Not Make Me Happy

During a class at Fresno Pacific University, a speaker asked one of the spouses in the audience:
"Does your husband make you happy?"
 
At this moment, the husband stood up straighter, showing complete confidence. He knew his wife would say yes, because she had never complained about anything during their marriage.
 
However, his wife answered the question with a resounding "No." "No, my husband does not make me happy."
 
The husband was baffled, but his wife continued:
"My husband never made me happy, and he does not make me happy. I am happy."
"Whether I am happy or not is dependent not on him, but on me. I am the only person on whom my happiness depends.
 
I choose to be happy in every situation and every moment of my life, for if my happiness depended on another person, thing or circumstance, I would be in serious trouble. Everything that exists in this life constantly changes: the human being, the riches, my body, the climate, my boss, the pleasures, the friends, and my physical and mental health. I could quote an endless list.
 
I need to decide to be happy regardless of anything else that happens. Whether I own a lot or a little, I am happy! Whether I'm going out or staying home alone, ​​I'm happy! Whether I am rich or poor, I am happy!
I am married, but I was already happy when I was single.
I'm happy for myself.
I love my life not because my life is easier than anyone else's, but because I have decided to be happy as an individual. I am responsible for my happiness.
When I take this obligation from my husband and anyone else, I free them from the burden of carrying me on their shoulders. It makes everyone's life much lighter.
 
Never give anyone else the responsibility to control your happiness. Be happy, even if it's hot, even if you're sick, even if you do not have money, even if someone has hurt you, even if someone does not love you and even if you do not value yourself.

Story: Arthur Ashe - Someone dying of AIDS


by Arthur Ashe. 
The legendary Wimbledon Player who was dying of AIDS, which he got due to Infected Blood he received during a Heart Surgery in 1983!

He received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: 

"Why did God have to select you for such a bad disease?" 

To this Arthur Ashe replied: 

50 Million children started playing Tennis, 

5 Million learnt to play Tennis, 

500 000 learnt Professional Tennis, 

50 Thousand came to Circuit, 

5 Thousand reached Grand Slam, 

50 reached Wimbledon, 

4 reached the Semifinals, 

2 reached the Finals and 

when I was holding the cup in my hand, I never asked God 

"Why Me?" 

So now that I'm in pain how can I ask God 

"Why Me?" 

Happiness keeps you Sweet! 

Trials keep you Strong! 

Sorrows keep you Human! 

Failure keeps you Humble! 

Success keeps you Glowing! 

But only, Faith keeps you Going!

Sometimes you are not satisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming of living your life.

A child on a farm sees a plane fly overhead dreams of flying. but, a pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse & dreams of returning home.

That's life!

Enjoy yours... If wealth is the secret to happiness, then the rich should be dancing on the streets.

But only poor kids do that. 

If power ensures security, then VIPs should walk unguarded. 
But those who live simply, sleep soundly. 

If beauty and fame bring ideal relationships, then celebrities should have the best marriages.

Live simply, be happy! Walk humbly and love genuinely! 

A Beautiful Message not just to read and forward but to apply practically in our personal life.

10 Universal Truths We Have to Remember


More than once in our lives are we faced with a situation where hardships seem to fill our day, and everything feels bleak and hopeless. It is during those times that it is important to remember these ten undeniable truths:
1. Pain helps you growWhat doesn’t kill you – makes you stronger. The old saying encapsulates this truth but forgets to mention one thing; To be able to overcome pain, you must embrace it and allow it to pass over you. If you try to ignore the pain, you’ll end up losing a part of yourself, a part that is very difficult to reconnect with later. Accept the hardship, explore your pain, and once the waves of sadness die down, you will be given a new lease on life.
2. Fears are an illusionFears will only get stronger if you let it. You are always in control of your fear, so don’t let it control you back. Fear can serve you, by keeping you alert in dangerous situations, but unless physical harm may come to you or your loved ones – you must let fear know who’s boss.
3. Nothing lasts foreverLove, pain, troubles, success – it is all transitory. Take joy in the good times, and accept the bad times, for they, too, shall pass.
4. Struggles are nothing more than steps on the way to successWhen you’re pursuing your dreams, remember that patience does not mean inaction. Patience means staying on track, and using each struggle as a stepping stone to realizing your dreams. It’s not going to be easy, but it will always be educating.
5. “Good” and “bad” depend on your outlookLife is a billion shades of gray, some darker, some lighter, but it’s never black or white. You may think that something you’re doing is good, but if you end up tossing and turning in bed, unable to sleep, it means that your conscious doesn’t necessarily agrees. People aren’t bad, but they can do bad things. Always try and understand why the person opposite you is doing what they’re doing. They are also going through a struggle you may not be able to see.
6. Change only that which you can changeYou are the sum of your experience, and you cannot change that. You can, however, change your perspective of those experiences. Try looking at “bad” experiences from another point of view, and you might realize that they weren’t all that bad to begin with.
7. Treat yourself with kindnessAccepting yourself and knowing you’re doing your best is good enough. If you have a tendency of self-deprecation, consider how you’d feel if someone else told you these things. Be good to yourself and you’ll start to feel a difference. Remember to forgive yourself.
8. Nothing truly great is instantIf you could have everything you wanted instantly, you’d lose your drive to grow, and things that don’t grow end up decaying and dying away. Practice patience, and enjoy the ride.
9. Remember: Life’s an adventureTake risks, it’ll make you more creative, and give you more confidence. Even if you fail a couple of times, get up and try again. Get out of your comfort zone and you just might find true happiness…
10. Have humilityHumility can bring the understanding that problems are not as difficult as you perceive them to be. Being overconfident is as bad as being paralyzed with fear – but knowing yourself and what it is that you’re capable of will give you a sense of ownership over your accomplishments, yet keep you humble and provide you with clarity.
 

Are you Reactor, Organizer or Commoner?





  Being Proactive means to plan and align things in advance by foreseeing future risks, problems or challenges. Having said that, there are three kind of people on earth.


Category-1 is those who strategize things as they have the visualization to portray the future. So they organize things in advance in order to avoid any possible set back. I call these people as 'Organizers'.

Category-2 is those people who have the reactive methodology to handle things. That means whenever a situation arises they react accordingly. I call these people as 'Reactors'. Although there can be good Reactors but the majority of them are bad Reactors since most of the situations do not give them the luxury of taking a U-Turn for going back to neutral to start again.

Category-3 is Commoners. These people do not have control on their lives. They are the product of their circumstances. They automatically flow with the wind; no matter where the wind takes them to. Of course, the first category is the best one as they have a proactive approach to life. So coming back to the track to understand the concept of pro-activeness in more details. Here are some points:



1.     Proactiveness is the vision and ability to align the tasks well in advance to avoid mishaps.


2.    Proactiveness is to foresee the possible problems and work on the contingencies in parallel with the master plan. It is strongly recommended to execute your contingencies before they execute themselves at the required time, because you never know whether your contingency plan is going to be successful or not. Hence be sure about it by testing the contingency in advance specially when the risk factor is high.


3.    Proactive people have the analytical skills to understand any situation in detail so that they can see low level risks and plan accordingly. (You may want to review my article on analytical skills here.



Considering a Tree analogy, I would refer 'The Organizers' as 'The Roots', 'The Reactors' as 'The Branches' and 'The Commoners' as 'The leaves'. Always remember the fact that when the wind blows, its leaves which are impacted at first place. So its Leaf's responsibility to stick to the Tree if they need to live. For Tree, it does not matter if any of the leaf is broken due to strong wind (circumstances).  Which category you belong to? Please share your thoughts.

14 Psychological Tricks to Try Today


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Get a group of friends together and hold up $1 bill for auction. Tell them that whoever makes the highest bid will win the bill, but anyone who makes the second-highest bid will have to honor their bid. Now, sit back and watch as the bid goes from a couple of cents to as much as $5. Your friends will quickly forget the value of the dollar, as long as they “don’t lose”. When the bid gets close to a dollar, the second highest bidder will overbid on the bill, thinking it’s better to lose 10 cents, rather than 99.

16 Ways to Motivate Your People Without Spending Money

Nobody is willing to work for free, at least not forever. But money itself won't motivate your employees to consistently deliver high-quality work and go above and beyond for your business.

Sure, you need to pay your people, and pay them fairly—you're not going to accomplish much if your staff feel like their compensation doesn't reflect the fair market value of their work. But while lack of money can be a de-motivator, cash alone won't make employees do their best.

Don't take my word for it. Frederick Herzberg's classic study on employee motivation showed that being content at work isn't the opposite of being discontent. Instead, the opposite of job satisfaction is no job satisfaction, and the opposite of job dissatisfaction is no job dissatisfaction.

Herzberg identified a distinct set of intrinsic factors that led to contentedness, and extrinsic ones that influenced unhappiness. Motivators include achievement, recognition for achievement, the work itself, responsibility, opportunities for growth and advancement. De-motivators include company policy and administration, supervision, interpersonal relationships, working conditions, salary, status, and security. Notice that compensation is an extrinsic factor—per Herzberg's research, poor wages will result in job dissatisfaction, but the best a fair salary can achieve is no job dissatisfaction. 
 
If you want happy employees, you need to focus on Herzberg's intrinsic factors. Your motivation strategy should also take into account two other verifiable truths: Employees will copy behaviour that they see rewarded in others, and different employees have different needs, desires and goals.
Many of the leaders I work with assume that rewarding employees means an endless drain on their budgets. That doesn't have to be true. Be creative and flexible, and it's not hard to come up with inexpensive ways to motivate your people. In fact, it's possible to push people from average to exceptional performance without spending a penny.

Here are sixteen zero- or low-cost ideas to motivate your people on a shoestring budget.
  1. Set goals: Everyone wants to feel like they've achieved something. If you don't mark your destination on your roadmap, how will you know when you get there? Hitting collective, company-wide objectives will make your employees feel like they're part of something bigger.
  2. Offer specific and sincere praise: There's no such thing as too much recognition, as long as you're acknowledging tangible accomplishments.
  3. Get to know them as people: What are their hobbies and their interests? Do they have children or pets? Build personal relationships with your staff, and they'll do their all not to let you down.
  4. Listen intently when they're talking: Remember that your staff are your eyes and ears with customers. By asking questions of your employees and paying attention to what they have to say, you might learn something that will help you run a more profitable business.
  5. Tell people why: Explaining the thinking or reasons behind a task you're assigning to someone builds their understanding of what they're being asked to do, and will help them do it better.
  6. Facilitate regular lively and informational meetings: Your employees want to know what is happening at the company where they work, and appreciate it when you fill them in.
  7. Offer timely and constructive feedback: Your employees want to know how they're doing, good or bad. If you offer critiques constructively, they will listen and work to improve.
  8. Celebrate successes
  9. Treat them with respect: Respect begets respect, for you as a manager and for what you're trying to achieve with your business
  10. Offer flexibility: Don't get caught up with quibbling rules. Think about your purpose and the bigger picture, and modify the rules where it makes sense to.
  11. Eat together: Food is a great motivator. You don't have to cater a fancy lunch every day—the occasional potluck works just as well.
  12. Play games: It's easy to get carried away with office-wide extracurricular activities, but the occasional break for fun can produce big results. If it's feasible, offer small prizes—a little competition can up the entertainment.
  13. Volunteer together: Nothing brings a group closer than spending an afternoon together sorting canned goods at the local food bank.
  14. Declare dress-up and dress-down days: Why restrict jeans to casual Fridays? If your business environment and customer base allows, changing up the dress code can be a lot of fun.
  15. Allow for creativity in decorating the workspace. People like making things their "own," so don't insist on clutter-free desks unless you're working in a hospital operating room. A sports team poster or vacation photos can make a cubicle feel more like home.
  16. Establish a stress-free zone: Sometimes even the best jobs can get a little crazy. Give people a space in which they can relax and unwind, even if it's just a 10–15 minute daily break.
Merge Gupta-Sunderji is a speaker, author and consultant.

6 most important rules of an expert negotiator

BY: ROB HOFFMAN

**This article is the second instalment in a weekly column that explores effective techniques of communication, persuasion, and self-help using a background of NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) to understand and influence the subconscious language patterns of the people around you, as well as your own mind. In a nut-shell, if you want to become a powerhouse of social skills, this column is for you.**

Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is an approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder

Effective negotiation is not as difficult as it may at first seem. When you really break it down, strong negotiation skills come down to logic and tact. Remember, nobody likes having disagreements—they're uncomfortable and emotionally taxing if not handled with care. Everybody has positive intentions, but in the wrong setting it's easy for a negotiation to escalate into an ugly pissing-match. But getting what you want and winning an argument are often two very different things. And though it may feel good in the moment to "be right" or "prove the other person wrong," getting what you want requires a decision to be made between a short term "I told you so" and long term success.
Here are the six most important rules of an expert negotiator:

1. Framing the negotiation as a collaboration to solve a common problem:
The most important thing to keep in mind when negotiating is that the problem itself is your opponent—not the person standing across from you. If you adopt a "me vs. them" mentality, your body language, choice of words and the tone that expresses them will unconsciously project an air of competitiveness. But negotiations aren't a winner-and-loser situation—conversely, the purpose is to establish a win-win situation.
Your first step will be to establish your goals, starting from the most immediate objective and working your way up to the more general purpose(s). This is referred to in Joseph O'Connor and John Seymour's book, Introducing NLP, as "stepping up."

2. "Stepping up":
Stepping up simply means to establish the larger goal within a smaller, more immediate desire or objective.
Say your spouse asks you to attend a gym class tonight, but you had your heart set on watching the game. By "stepping up" you may learn that your spouse's intention is really to relieve stress, in which case, a long back-rub may be just as effective and will allow you to watch the game at the same time.
O'Connor and Seymour use a great example where an employee is seeking a raise—however their core intention isn't to make more money, but rather to elevate their quality of life. In this case, the employer has many other options if a raise doesn't fit in the budget, like extending vacation time or re-structuring the employee's schedule to better suit their work-flow. By "stepping up"—establishing the more general purpose behind the action—new options become available, and a healthy negotiation can unfold where both parties leave happy.
A major benefit of stepping up is to remind each party that their ambition is not necessarily to gain the object of a negotiation, but is rather tied to a broader goal that they believe the object will help them achieve. Moreover, there is almost always a broader goal that both parties have in common—however they get lost in the heat of the immediate disagreement. If a negotiation begins to escalate into a quarrel, it's important to ground the conversation by stepping up, and establishing the larger common goal.

3. No immediate retort:
This is one of the most important skills to develop for effective negotiation: when someone proposes their idea(s), do not, ever, bring up an immediate counter argument. Sharing your ideas takes courage, and immediately responding with an opposing view is a sure-fire way to put them on the defense.
When somebody makes a proposal, it means that—consciously or subconsciously—they have a vested interest in seeing their ideas play out. Therefore, immediately after making the proposal, this is where nearly 100% of their attention will be dedicated. For this reason, this is the timeframe when they will be least receptive to your ideas, and if you try to pipe in with your ideas too soon, you may as well be talking to thin air.
Instead, give their idea the attention it deserves—ask questions and explore their proposal. Not only is it more respectful, but this will also leave them open to reciprocate and explore your ideas at depth. Finally, if you disagree, use the show not tell principle. Flat out saying "I disagree" will irritate them and put up a wall that will prevent them from listening to your reasoning. Instead, explain your position and concerns first. Or better yet, ask questions that will force them to address your concerns and any potential holes in their proposal.

4. Asking questions:
Asking questions can be an invaluable skill of negotiation, that allows you to respectfully challenge someone else's positions—however, the emphasis here is on "respectfully." It is important to maintain rapport, and moreover, to eliminate any hint of venom in your voice before you ask a question. If you ask questions with a sarcastic tone in your voice, you can bet that they will pull something out of their ass that might not make complete sense, or that they do not even fully stand behind, but will nevertheless add invisible bricks to the foundation of their argument.
Instead, your questions should calmly allude to the cracks that exist within these bricks. The right questions will allow your opposite to dismantle their own argument, instead of trying to do it for them, which will only result in bitterness.
It is also useful to ask permission, before you ask a question. For example, "Do you think I could ask you a question about _____?" This will magnify the importance of the question, and moreover, prevent them from dodging the answer.

5. Proposing a hypothetical situation:
Proposing a hypothetical situation where your idea could be employed is an easy way to lower the defensive guard of a negotiation. It gently persuades your opposite to step away from the ring of negotiation, and use their creativity to establish a scenario where they could, in fact, see from your point of view. It may be hypothetical, but it brings them one step closer to your side of the negotiation. If you hit a wall in the conversation, O'Connor and Seymour suggest phrases like, "under what circumstances would you be prepared to give way on this?" However this is only a base-line phrase, which is best modified for your particular situation. If you're trying to negotiate a raise, but your employer isn't budging, a good question might be "under what circumstances would you be willing to give me a raise?" This will force your employer to spell out the criteria necessary to giving you a raise. In the earlier example of a couple, where one wants to spend the night doing gym and the other wants to watch the game, the question might read "under what circumstances would you be willing to go to gym with me?" To which their spouse might reply, "I'd go just about any time so long as the game isn't on!"

6. Beware of intimidation tactics:
Some people like to use intimidation tactics in negotiation, and will use challenging phrases like "Really? That's your reasoning?" "That's it? That's what you're going with?" These types of phrases can be used to make almost any reasoning sound stupid. The worst thing you can do in this situation is scramble to provide additional reasoning. Doing so will make it seem as though you are not confident in your previous points, and will ultimately replace what may have been a strong initial argument with flimsy new points that, in all likelihood, you just came up with on the spot.
Instead, the best thing to do here is to stand strong in the position you have already asserted. Calmly use phrases like "Of course that's my reasoning." or "Yup—that's the only reason I need." If someone explicitly challenges your reasoning, instead of providing a reasonable counter argument, chances are they've resorted to grasping at straws with loose questions designed to intimidate. The trick here, is to make it seem silly that they even asked.

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