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10 Ways to Tell if Someone is Lying!


Honesty is the best policy, but as we know, not everyone uses it. People often tell lies for their own personal gain, to cheat somebody, or to prank a friend. The problem for these type of people is that they often give away small signs that when read by a knowledgeable person can stick out like a sore thumb. Once you know how to spot these signs, you can become a living lie detector.
1. Lack Of Or Too Much Eye Contact
The biggest indicator that someone is telling a lie is lack of or too much eye contact. It’s a common belief that when people lie they avoid eye contact and look elsewhere, but, while this is often true, some liars make too much eye contact just to try to make you believe that they are speaking the truth.
2. Foot Movement
When people are lying, they often exhibit signs of nervousness or anxiety. Foot movement is a huge indicator of anxiety and nervousness. Liars often shake their legs or make regular leg movements to avoid tension.  This is a clear-cut clue to catch a liar.
3. Shorter Responses
When lying, people often stay silent during the conversation or give shorter responses. They also tend to use more ahhs, errs, and umms to fill the gaps. If a person is making more speech errors than usual, it’s a clear indication that they are lying.
4. Too Much Sweating
Some people sweat excessively when they lie. This abnormal sweating happens because of an adrenaline rush from anxiety and nervousness.
5. Change in Pitch
If you observe someone communicating in a higher pitch than normal it can be a sign of lying. Some people also tend to maintain a lower than normal pitch. A high or low pitch indicates that there is something off.
6. Changing the Subject
The thought process required to support a lie should be fast. Not everyone has a fast-enough thought process so they change the subject to something completely different.
7. Fidgeting
When people are lying, they often touch objects around them to relieve stress. Some people might act as if they are more interested in the object than the conversation to avoid confrontation.
8. Face Touching
Studies have found that when people lie, they often rub their nose. Experts believe that the adrenaline rush opens the capillaries of the nose, making it itchy. Some people also cover their mouth and eyes while lying.
9. Excessive Lip Licking
Lying puts stress on our body, and the biggest indicator of body stress is a dry mouth. In order to rectify this, liars are often observed licking their lips often.
10. The Shoulder Shrug
The shoulder shrug is another unconscious move people sometimes do when they're not actually agreeing to something. If they shrug their shoulders while speaking it could be they're not really believing what they're saying, or do not agree with you to the degree you think. This is usually a lie but may sometimes indicate just a lack of openness and an inability to express their true feelings.
People often shrug their shoulders when they don’t know or agree to something. If someone is shrugging while speaking it may indicate they don’t agree with what is coming out of their own mouth.

God is Great - Read This and Get Inspired




When GOD solves our problems,
we have faith in HIS abilities.
When GOD doesn't solve our problems,
HE has faith in our abilities.

One may observe God's accuracy in the hatching of eggs…
those of the Canary in 14 days;
those of the Barnyard Hen in 21 days;
Eggs of Ducks and Geese in 28 days;
those of the Mallard in 35 days;
Eggs of the Parrot and the Ostrich hatch in 42 days.

(Notice, they are all divisible by seven,
the number of days in a week!)

See God's Wisdom in the making of an Elephant…
The four legs of this great beast
all bend forward in the same direction.
No other quadruped is so made.
God planned that this animal would have a huge body…
too large to live on two legs.
For this reason He gave it four fulcrums
so that it can rise from the ground easily.
The Horse rises from the ground on its two front legs first.
A Cow rises from the ground with its two hind legs first.

How wise the Lord is in all His works of Creation!

Each Watermelon has an even number of stripes on the Rind.
Each Orange has an even number of segments
Each ear of Corn has an even number of rows.
Each stalk of Wheat has an even number of grains.

Every bunch of Bananas has on its lowest row
an even number of Bananas,
and each row decreases by one,
so that one row has an even number
and the next row an odd number

Amazing!
There's more…

The Waves of the Sea roll in on shore
Twenty-six to the Minute in all kinds of weather.

All Grains are found in even numbers on the stalks.
God has caused the Flowers to Blossom
at certain specified times during the day.
Linnaeus, the Great Botanist,
once said that if he had a Conservatory
containing the right kind of Soil,
Moisture,
and Temperature,
he could tell the Time of Day or Night
by the Flowers that were Open
and those that were Closed.

The Lives of each of us
may be ordered by the Lord
in a Beautiful Way for His Glory,
if we will only Entrust Him with our Lives.
If we try to Regulate our own Lives,
we will have only Mess and Failure.

Only God,
who made our Brains and Hearts,
can Successfully Guide them to a Profitable End.

When you Refresh this Message,
Satan has a Headache;
when you Re-read it,
he Collapses.

When he sees you Refreshing it,
he loses his Strength,
and when you Stand on the Word of God,
Satan can't Hurt you!
And did you also know…

that when you are about to Forward this Email to others,
the Devil will probably try to Discourage you,
but do it anyway.

Life without God is like an Unsharpened pencil - it has no Point.

I pray God bless you in ways you never even Dreamed.
I didn't think twice about forwarding this one.

Mental Health - Are you Healthy?

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Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.

Over the course of your life, if you experience mental health problems, your thinking, mood, and behaviour could be affected.

 Many factors contribute to mental health problems, including:
Biological factors, such as genes or brain chemistry
Life experiences, such as trauma or abuse
Family history of mental health problems

Mental health problems are common but help is available.
 People with mental health problems can get better 
and many recover completely.

Early Warning Signs

Not sure if you or someone you know is living with mental health problems? 

Experiencing one or more of the following feelings or behaviours can be an early warning sign of a problem:

Eating or sleeping too much or too little
Pulling away from people and usual activities
Having low or no energy
Feeling numb or like nothing matters
Having unexplained aches and pains
Feeling helpless or hopeless
Smoking, drinking, or using drugs more than usual
Feeling unusually confused, forgetful, on edge, 
        angry, upset, worried, or scared
Yelling or fighting with family and friends
Experiencing severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships
Having persistent thoughts and memories you can't get out of your head
Hearing voices or believing things that are not true
Thinking of harming yourself or others
Inability to perform daily tasks like taking care of 
        your kids or getting to work or school

Learn more about specific mental health problems and where to find help.

Positive mental health allows people to:
Realize their full potential
Cope with the stresses of life
Work productively
Make meaningful contributions to their communities

Ways to maintain positive mental health include:
Getting professional help if you need it
Connecting with others
Staying positive
Getting physically active
Helping others
Getting enough sleep
Developing coping skills

Learn More About Mental Health

The importance of prevention and wellness
What communities can do to promote wellness
The importance of mental health and wellness for individuals with mental health problems.

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Mental Health - Are you Healthy?


Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.

Over the course of your life, if you experience mental health problems, your thinking, mood, and behaviour could be affected.

 Many factors contribute to mental health problems, including:
Biological factors, such as genes or brain chemistry
Life experiences, such as trauma or abuse
Family history of mental health problems

Mental health problems are common but help is available.
 People with mental health problems can get better 
and many recover completely.

Early Warning Signs

Not sure if you or someone you know is living with mental health problems? 

Experiencing one or more of the following feelings or behaviours can be an early warning sign of a problem:

Eating or sleeping too much or too little
Pulling away from people and usual activities
Having low or no energy
Feeling numb or like nothing matters
Having unexplained aches and pains
Feeling helpless or hopeless
Smoking, drinking, or using drugs more than usual
Feeling unusually confused, forgetful, on edge, 
        angry, upset, worried, or scared
Yelling or fighting with family and friends
Experiencing severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships
Having persistent thoughts and memories you can’t get out of your head
Hearing voices or believing things that are not true
Thinking of harming yourself or others
Inability to perform daily tasks like taking care of 
        your kids or getting to work or school

Learn more about specific mental health problems and where to find help.

Positive mental health allows people to:
Realize their full potential
Cope with the stresses of life
Work productively
Make meaningful contributions to their communities

Ways to maintain positive mental health include:
Getting professional help if you need it
Connecting with others
Staying positive
Getting physically active
Helping others
Getting enough sleep
Developing coping skills

Learn More About Mental Health

The importance of prevention and wellness
What communities can do to promote wellness
The importance of mental health and wellness for individuals with mental health problems.

Please click on the link given below for more info.

This Is How to Properly Introduce Yourself in an Email

This Is How to Properly Introduce Yourself in an Email
Meeting someone in person is pretty straightforward. You smile, shake their hand, tell them your name. But what if you’re not meeting face to face? What if you’re introducing yourself via email?
Maybe you’re reaching out to create a new connection, to ask for advice, or a collaboration, or a job. How do you compete with the other 700 emails in their inbox and convince them a response to you is worthwhile? Writing an introductory email can be nerve racking when there’s so much pressure to get the wording just right.
Grammar lovers, get ready to breathe a sigh of relief! Now is a perfect time to share with you our step-by-step cheat sheet for exactly how to introduce yourself in an email and ensure the best results.

Step 1: The Subject

It won’t matter how brilliant an introduction you’ve written if your message is never opened.
Keep your subject line short (under thirty characters) so it’s legible on mobile devices. Be specific and intriguing. Never write in all caps or use a generic line such as “Hi” (this may be mistaken for spam).
To create a great subject line you can…
Mention a mutual acquaintance “Aisha Mussad suggested I contact you”
Mention what you have in common “Hello from a fellow blogger!”
Mention your company “Hello from Grammarly”
Suggest meeting up “Lunch is on me”
Show you admire their work “Loved your article in Wired”
Be clear what job you’re applying for “Job Application: Elizabeth Chen for Content Strategist position” “Referred by Shaun Williams for Copywriter position”

Step 2: The Greeting

Your goal is to create a connection with an individual, so you want your greeting to be personal.
Always use their name. Make sure it’s spelled correctly, and avoid using nicknames.
You can use “Dear” for formal situations such as applying for a job or writing to someone with more senior status.
Leading with “Hello” and “Hi” are appropriate for more casual situations, like contacting a friend of a friend or someone in a less formal industry.
Never use generic phrases like “To Whom It May Concern” or “Dear Sir or Madam.”

Step 3: The Intro

It’s time to introduce yourself! Be clear and concise about who you are, and remember to include details that will be relevant to the recipient.
For instance, the fact that you’re a crazy cat lady is not important to the hiring manager for that content strategy job you’re applying for. However, it would be relevant to a fellow cat blogger you’d like to interview for your podcast.
“My name is Tina, I’m a Senior Content Strategist at Hooli.”
“My name is Tina, and I have a popular blog called ‘Purrfection’ chronicling my life as a crazy cat lady.”
“My name is Tina, I’m a fellow Stanford alum working in content creation.”

Step 4: The Connection

Show them your motivation for reaching out. Mentioning a mutual connection is a huge plus, as people are much more receptive if you’ve been referred by someone they know and respect.
“I recently had lunch with Aisha Mussad, who shared some of your marketing ideas. I was blown away! I think your approach would be a perfect fit for my company.”
“I’ve been following your blog since March and I loved your article on grooming ornery cats. You had some wonderful insights that have been super helpful in my work at the shelter.”
“I’ve been very impressed by the work your company is doing with at-risk youth, and I’d love to be a part of furthering your mission!”

Step 5: The Ask

Let them know what you want. Be explicit, and include a clear call to action.
The greater the benefit for them, the greater chance you’ll have of getting what you want. Messages with too big an ask or that come off as needy will likely end up in the trash.
“I’d love to buy you lunch and hear more about your ideas as I think there’s potential for our companies to collaborate. Would Tuesday or Thursday work for you?”
“I would love to interview you for my podcast, ‘Taming the Tiger,’ which has over 10,000 listeners. Please let me know if you’re interested and have any questions. I have several interview slots available next week.”
“I’m applying for the Content Strategist position you listed on Indeed. I have five years of experience in content creation and think I would be a great fit for your company. My portfolio and resume are attached, please let me know if you’d like additional information.”

Step 6: The Close

End the email by thanking them and signing off with your name. Emails that end in gratitude receive the highest response rates.
Here are some great options:
“Thanks in advance”
“Thanks”
“Thank you”
“Thank you so much for your time”

What does this look like all together?

Hi Marcus, My name is Tina, and I have a popular blog called ‘Purrfection’ chronicling my life as a crazy cat lady.
I’ve been following your blog since March and I loved your article on grooming ornery cats. You had some wonderful insights that have been super helpful in my work at the shelter.
I would love to interview you for my podcast, ‘Taming the Tiger,’ which has over 10,000 listeners. Please let me know if you’re interested and have any questions. I have several interview slots available next week.
Thank you,
Tina

Final Tips

Keep your paragraphs short and your message brief, so you don’t overwhelm your reader.
Always check your spelling and grammar before sending your email to make sure it’s error free.
Be polite!
Source: Grammarly

The 8 Ps of Vision and Strategy

By Junaid Tahir

The young boy asked the old man, "why a fast running horse is better than the slow running horse"? The old man said, "it has developed the habit to produce more power so that it can run up to ten times faster than the slow horse" The youngster said, "and what if the horse is running in the wrong direction"? The old man smiled and said, "then definitely it has the proportionate factor for wasting the efforts ten times quicker than the slower horse" The young man said, " and what if other horses are following him too" The older man said, "off course it will mislead all those horses too!" "Then why all other horses follow the faster horse" "Because that attracts them but all that glitters is not gold sometimes"



Vision is one of the most critical traits of current and emerging leaders because strong vision results establishing better strategy to ensure success.
In its basic definition, the vision is to see (visualize) the future at present moment and then aligning the strategies including but not limited to policies, procedures and action plans in order to ensure success without any setbacks.


Below 8 Ps elaborate the concept of Vision and Strategy altogether:  

1.     Picking the Right Battle: Effective leaders ponder well enough to chose the right course of direction (the mission) which can lead them towards success with higher success probability and greater efficiency. This does not means that they select easy targets instead sometimes they select more challenging grounds with their gut feeling of success. However they are careful in making their choices because of being the captain of the boat. If the leader succeeds, the boat sails; if leader drowns the whole boat gets collapsed. 
2.    Perspective: How a leader sees the future is very sensitive matter. No matter how genius team members he/she possesses; his own vision is highly important. It is said that an army of dears lead by a lion is far better than any army of lions lead by a dear. The leader's vision depends on the level of mental comprehension of industry, current statistics, near future and long term forecasts/trends, overall knowledge and experience of associated domains, a lot of study and observation about market and expectation of stake holders. More articles on leadership can be read at www. DailyTenMinutes dot com
3.    Present Position: The leader must define the baseline because this will be the reference to be compared when measuring performance and progress at later stage. The visionary leader must clearly define the Key Performance Indicators (KPIs); the current values of KPIs, bench marking in line with industry standards, the measurement criteria and measurement frequency.
4.    Policies and Procedures: The review of current and finalization of policies for concrete results should be done prior to kick off the execution phase. Yet a leader should be smart enough to closely monitor and tweak the policies and procedures in case something is putting the projects/programs in jeopardy. The market dynamics demands consistent focus and a lot of iterations in companies' strategies.
5.    Plans: Failing to plan is planning to fail. The leader would define high level goals; the goals which are SMART (Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Realistic, Time bound)  Once defined, the leader assigns these to the team of managers which in turn use the RACI model for further low level implementation. (RACI tool is used for defining Responsibility Matrix; RACI stands for Responsible, Accountable, Consulted, Informed respectively)
6.    Pattern: Although Low level micro tasks is not a specific leaders' responsibility but it becomes very effective if leaders take active part few times during the life cycle of the project; especially when WBS (work breakdown structures) are prepared by the associated Project Managers. Sometimes his/her vision and experience can make big difference when reviewing WBS with the PM.
7.    Progress & Performance: Consistent progress and performance measurement against the baseline must be ensured by the leaders. This also requires risk identification, risk analysis and risk mitigation. The project becomes orphans if the leader does not review its performance periodically.
8.    Power Plug: Last but not the least, he becomes the consistent source of inspiration, fuel and energy for his team members. By this act he ensure that the 'batteries' (employee's working potential) are charged throughout the life cycle of the project.


Do you have another P constituting this article?

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The odds of success

If you desire to achieve success, the odds are against you. Outstanding success is so celebrated and admired precisely because it is so exceptional and difficult to achieve.

In terms of sheer numbers, the odds are against you. But the odds don't matter. Because success does not result from blind chance. There really are no odds, as such. There are only results.

You have every opportunity to make your own results. Your results are not determined by statistical percentages. They are determined by your own action and commitment. The fact that only a small number of people in your position ever make it to the top, has nothing to do with the opportunities available to you. In fact, the more the odds are against you, the more special it makes your achievement.

Put the odds in your favor by refusing to let them limit your possibilities.

Copyright Ralph S. Marston, Jr. Used by permission. From The Daily Motivator® at www.dailymotivator.com 

​Dealing with Angry person!

The proverb says not to make friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man: The warning is very poignant. Angry people are exceptionally difficult to deal with.
 
However at the same time you cannot avoid an angry person. Perhaps you're married to a person who has a short temper. Maybe one of your children has a short fuse.

Dealing with an angry person is problematic at best. You need to be aware of several things.
 

YOU CAN NOT RATIONALIZE WITH AN ANGRY PERSON

Even don't even try. When someone is angry, you won't be able to rationalize with them. It is not something you can do when they are angry.

Angry people don't listen. In most cases they didn't even listen to what the other person had to say. It is with little regard to what the other person was saying.

BE CAREFUL ABOUT TRAPPING OR EMBARRASSING AN ANGRY PERSON

Anger is a defensive measure that people retreat towards when some fear, conscious or subconscious, is evoked. People will defend an indefensible position out of anger.

MAKE AN EFFORT TO CALM AN ANGRY PERSON DOWN

Saying nothing may irritate them. Walking away may frustrate them. Trying to calm them down may only make them feel that you are patronizing them.

So how do you calm someone down?

If you can make a person feel that the problem is being addressed, they may calm down. For many people, it takes time to calm down. For others the sudden shock of how irresponsible or embarrassing they must appear to others will help calm them down. It takes a bit of skill, imagination, and ingenuity, but it can work.

NEVER GET ANGRY YOURSELF

Two angry people are like hand grenades threatening each other. Anger only fuels anger. You can't win a fight if you get angry.

Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Try to understand the source of their anger. Shove it aside and try to focus on solutions. Trying to out 'rage' each other is like adding oil to fire. It doesn't put out the fire

6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

Unfortunately, there aren’t many classes in high school or college that teach us how to be successful in long-term relationships and divorce is common. That’s regrettable, because a fulfilling relationship can contribute so much toward enjoying a happy and successful life.
There are many things you can do to strengthen your marriage and help make it last until death do you part. If you want to have the best chance of marital success, it’s a wise idea to learn some of these strategies.

Researchers have shared these tips on how to strengthen marriages and make them last:

1. Have realistic expectations. It’s easy to make it through the early stages of a relationship when everything is new and exciting. But those annoying little habits aren’t quite as cute and endearing ten years into the future. A relationship requires work and energy to grow and thrive.
2. Become good at saying “I’m sorry.” Despite your best efforts, you’ll make mistakes in your marriage. Studies have shown that the people slowest to apologize are the ones most likely to stay single or get divorced.
  • Sometimes you have to decide if you’d rather be correct or happy. Be strong enough to say you’re sorry and move on.
3. It’s okay to argue in a respectful way. The presence of arguing in a relationship doesn’t affect its success as much as how a couple argues. One psychologist claims a 95% success rate for predicting which relationships would fail just by listening to an argument for five minutes!
  • The four factors that make all the difference when you argue are: contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and withdrawing. Avoid these behaviors and your marriage is more likely to survive.
4. Laugh together. Remember the good times you’ve shared. Talk about and relive them. Reminiscing about fun times helps keep couples together.
  • Consider creating some happy, new memories and remind your partner about the great times you’ve already enjoyed. Laughing together strengthens your marriage!
5. You need five good times for each bad one. Research has shown that marriages require at least five positive interactions for each negative one. What is a good interaction? A fun afternoon, a positive conversation, or a good hug. You know what a negative interaction is.
6. You can complain, but avoid criticizing. If your partner’s behavior is bothering you, it’s okay to point it out and ask them to stop. But, avoid attacking your partner. You can say, “It drives me crazy when you throw your dirty socks all over the floor.” But avoid saying, “You’re such a slob. What’s your problem?”
  • Most people can accept that they might be doing something bothersome. However, that’s different from being personally attacked.
A happy marriage is important for you and your children. There are times when we all have to put our own needs aside and do whatever we can to strengthen our relationships. These tips will help you work toward a happy partnership as you give your marriage the time and attention it deserves.

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