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Helping Your Child with a Bully

Helping Your Child with a Bully
Bullying among children has always been common. While it was once largely tolerated as a part of childhood, experts now consider it to be a serious problem. The challenge is determining how much to involve yourself. Too little or too much involvement can have negative repercussions.
Ideally, you'll involve yourself just enough to get your child through it. Overreacting can create even more challenges at school and waste an opportunity to teach your child to be more self-reliant.

Bullying can take several forms:

1. Physical. Physical bullying includes behaviors such as hitting, kicking, pushing, and tripping.
2. Psychological. This type of bullying centers around embarrassing the child socially.
3. Verbal. Verbal bullying involves teasing and taunting.
The effects of bullying can be serious and result in violent behavior, poor grades, drug abuse and mental health issues.
There are many signs to suggest a child might be bullied. These include a change in behavior, ripped clothes or bruises, a change in school performance, and a change in the willingness to go to school.

Consider these steps to help your child deal effectively with a bully:

1. Get the whole story. Most kids are reluctant to share things with their parents. It might take some time. Let your child know that you want to help.
2. Encourage your child to tell the bully to stop. Whether bullying occurs in a school setting or in the workplace, the first thing that will be asked is, "Have you told them to stop?" It might seem like a moot point, but it's an important first step.
3. Contact the child's teacher and principal. Schools are frequently burdened with long processes that must be followed in these situations. The sooner you can get the ball rolling, the sooner real action can take place.
4. Request a copy of the school's bullying policy. By knowing the rules, you can make the best possible choices about how to move forward.
5. If your child is being physically bullied, consider contacting the local police. This is probably more appropriate for high school-aged children than for those in elementary school. But it's not a bad idea to generate some paperwork and a pattern of behavior if the school isn't cooperating. You can be sure the school will take things seriously if the police show up.
6. Encourage your child to seek assistance at the time of the bullying. If the bully is able to get away with the behavior, it's likely to continue.
7. Strengthen your child's self-esteem and self-confidence. Many children suffer from confidence and self-esteem issues that attract bullies. Most bullies are looking for a victim. Helping your child feel better about himself will repel many bullies.
8. Create some rules around your child's use of technology. Ensure your child is using the internet and cell phone in an appropriate manner. If your child is being bullied online, your immediate reaction might be to take away their internet access. This can be a mistake. Your child will be much less likely to share any future incidents with you.
9. If your child is being cyber-bullied, report it to the appropriate cell phone, internet provider, and websites. These companies are far more likely to respond to your concerns that at any other time in the past.
Avoid under or overreacting and be sure to get the entire story. Seek out the assistance of your child's teacher and principal to get the school administration involved in a timely manner.

Helping your child with a bully is practically a rite of passage for parents. No matter how wonderful your child might be, there's always that one kid that seems to take pleasure in making their life miserable. View it as an opportunity to help your child grow and develop.
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Positive thoughts are the best nutrition for the mind.

Positive thoughts are the best nutrition for the mind. 

While we know that positive thoughts are the best nutrition for the mind, we need to recognize the source of these thoughts. One good way is to spend quality time with something that acts like a good company- a person, a book or an environment. As is our company, so are our thoughts. Also, it is good to avoid bad company- company that has a subtle influence on our thinking. 

Point to Practice: Today I will spend some quality time with someone or something that will generate positive thoughts. I will spend at least 15 minutes today, which will help me to be positive and help me re-energize, because only the one who has power within is able to maintain positivity even in negative situations.
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Enjoy Everything You Do

Enjoy Everything You Do

Most of our time goes into pleasing others and making them happy. Often despite our best efforts we find that people do not appreciate what we have done. When we have tried hard to please someone we feel disheartened and upset.
Whatever I do is for myself. When I recognise this fact, I will never do anything just to please others. When I am content with the effort I put in, I will never be dependent on others' recognition of what I have done. When I enjoy everything I do, I will be truly happy. The more content I am, the more others will start appreciating my effort.

13 executive CV-writing tips

Writing an executive CV? Here are some tips to help you produce this vital document.

1/ Keep it short: the purpose of a CV is to present you to potential employers (and headhunters) to secure interviews. A CV should not be an exhaustive list of every responsibility you've ever held and you should not aim for a complete forensic record - this will make the CV overlong and lacking in focus. Think about the kind of roles you are aiming for and edit the CV down to concentrate on key marketable skills/experiences in your career that are aligned with your current search. Two pages are usually enough for most job-seekers - three pages are OK if you are really senior. Remember that many recruiters – both in-house and agency – will spend seconds rather than minutes reviewing your CV. 

2/ Ensure the CV communicates a clear message; can the reader identify what you can offer after a few seconds? Does it highlight your key selling points? I favour a "Profile and Objective" section at the top of page one that describes your professional offering. You should see this profile section as synonymous with an elevator speech that summarises your professional experience and what you can bring to the table in just a few lines. It should describe and sell you in a straightforward and convincing way. 

3/ The Profile and Objective section should focus on telling prospective employers what you can do for them and not what they can do for your career.

4/ Use a simple design: overuse of colour/fonts and over-fussy design can distract the reader. 

5/ Professional achievements: don't just list your duties in each role. Focus on what you brought to each position. How did you add value? I recommend the inclusion of achievements to support your job responsibilities. If possible they should be supported by hard data; money generated or saved, time saved by process improvements and so on. Also include awards and commendations. 

6/ Leave it out: mug shots, race, marital status, age, religion – in most territories these details are not required and their inclusion may be off-putting. 

7/ Use a simple format: a reverse chronological CV is best. "Functional" or skills-based CVs can confuse and irritate the reader. 

8/ Write in simple language; don't over-complicate. Avoid clichés. I prefer the opening profile section to be written in the first person ("I am a senior IT professional...) and the rest of the CV in the third person.

9/ Leave out the jargon: company-specific and obscure jargon is best avoided. Why confuse the reader? 

10/ Check and check again: spelling errors and typos must be avoided! 

11/Tailor the CV to each type of vacancy: if you are applying for different categories of role you will need different versions of your CV. It may be enough to slightly change the "Profile and Objective" section for each different kind of application.

12/Key words and electronic sifting: be aware that this takes place. Think what key words and phrases recruiters might use to sift CVs in your discipline. Include them throughout your CV. 

13/ Do include: interests (unless mad or bad), languages, education (unless hopeless), your full contact details (landline/mobile/Skype/email and maybe a hyperlink to your LinkedIn profile) and address. 

There are many issues to consider when writing a CV. That's why many people call on a professional CV-writer to help them with this crucial document. I offer a senior, professional, executive CV-writing service. See my LinkedIn profile and for more info.

 I also offer CV and career services specifically aimed at senior ICT executives – see 

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Critical Things Smart People Never Say

There are some things you simply never want to say at work.
These phrases carry special power: they have an uncanny ability to make you look bad even when the words are true.

Worst of all, there's no taking them back once they slip out.
I'm not talking about shocking slips of the tongue, off-color jokes, or politically incorrect faux pas. These aren't the only ways to make yourself look bad.
Often it's the subtle remarks—the ones that paint us as incompetent and unconfident—that do the most damage.

No matter how talented you are or what you've accomplished, there are certain phrases that instantly change the way people see you and can forever cast you in a negative light. These phrases are so loaded with negative implications that they undermine careers in short order.

"This is the way it's always been done." Technology-fueled change is happening so fast that even a six-month-old process could be outdated. Saying this is the way it's always been done not only makes you sound lazy and resistant to change, but it could make your boss wonder why you haven't tried to improve things on your own. If you really are doing things the way they've always been done, there's almost certainly a better way.

"It's not my fault." It's never a good idea to cast blame. Be accountable. If you had any role—no matter how small—in whatever went wrong, own it. If not, offer an objective, dispassionate explanation of what happened. Stick to the facts, and let your boss and colleagues draw their own conclusions about who's to blame. The moment you start pointing fingers is the moment people start seeing you as someone who lacks accountability for their actions. This makes people nervous. Some will avoid working with you altogether, and others will strike first and blame you when something goes wrong.

"I can't." I can't is it's not my fault's twisted sister. People don't like to hear I can't because they think it means I won't. Saying I can't suggests that you're not willing to do what it takes to get the job done. If you really can't do something because you truly lack the necessary skills, you need to offer an alternative solution. Instead of saying what you can't do, say what you can do. For example, instead of saying "I can't stay late tonight," say "I can come in early tomorrow morning. Will that work?" Instead of "I can't run those numbers," say "I don't yet know how to run that type of analysis. Is there someone who can show me so that I can do it on my own next time?"

"It's not fair." Everyone knows that life isn't fair. Saying it's not fair suggests that you think life is supposed to be fair, which makes you look immature and naïve. If you don't want to make yourself look bad, you need to stick to the facts, stay constructive, and leave your interpretation out of it. For instance, you could say, "I noticed that you assigned Ann that big project I was hoping for. Would you mind telling me what went into that decision? I'd like to know why you thought I wasn't a good fit, so that I can work on improving those skills."

"That's not in my job description." This often sarcastic phrase makes you sound as though you're only willing to do the bare minimum required to keep getting a paycheck, which is a bad thing if you like job security. If your boss asks you to do something that you feel is inappropriate for your position (as opposed to morally or ethically inappropriate), the best move is to complete the task eagerly. Later, schedule a conversation with your boss to discuss your role in the company and whether your job description needs an update. This ensures that you avoid looking petty. It also enables you and your boss to develop a long-term understanding of what you should and shouldn't be doing.

"This may be a silly idea …/I'm going to ask a stupid question." These overly passive phrases instantly erode your credibility. Even if you follow these phrases with a great idea, they suggest that you lack confidence, which makes the people you're speaking to lose confidence in you. Don't be your own worst critic. If you're not confident in what you're saying, no one else will be either. And, if you really don't know something, say, "I don't have that information right now, but I'll find out and get right back to you."

"I'll try." Just like the word think, try sounds tentative and suggests that you lack confidence in your ability to execute the task. Take full ownership of your capabilities. If you're asked to do something, either commit to doing it or offer an alternative, but don't say that you'll try because it sounds like you won't try all that hard.

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"This will only take a minute." Saying that something only takes a minute undermines your skills and gives the impression that you rush through tasks. Unless you're literally going to complete the task in 60 seconds, feel free to say that it won't take long, but don't make it sound as though the task can be completed any sooner than it can actually be finished.

"I hate this job." The last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. Doing so labels you as a negative person and brings down the morale of the group. Bosses are quick to catch on to naysayers who drag down morale, and they know that there are always enthusiastic replacements waiting just around the corner.

"He's lazy/incompetent/a jerk." There is no upside to making a disparaging remark about a colleague. If your remark is accurate, everybody already knows it, so there's no need to point it out. If your remark is inaccurate, you're the one who ends up looking like a jerk. There will always be rude or incompetent people in any workplace, and chances are that everyone knows who they are. If you don't have the power to help them improve or to fire them, then you have nothing to gain by broadcasting their ineptitude. Announcing your colleague's incompetence comes across as an insecure attempt to make you look better. Your callousness will inevitably come back to haunt you in the form of your coworkers' negative opinions of you.

Bringing It All Together

These phrases have a tendency to sneak up on you, so you're going to have to catch yourself until you've solidified the habit of not saying them.
What other phrases should be on this list? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.


Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and the cofounder of TalentSmart

World’s First Smartphone that Floats on Water

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Comet Core Inc, a Palo Alto-based company, has introduced the world's first smartphone to float on water. The smartphone, called Comet, runs on Android OS.

The phone, designed by Bengaluru-based Prashanth Raj Urs, has a 4.7-inch screen and 16 megapixel camera. The phone comes with a 4GB RAM, a Qualcomm Snapdragon 810, and 2GHZ octa-core processor and has a 2800 mAh battery.

The phone also has a 'mood recogniser' that uses biometric sensors to detect the user's body temperature and displays colours to suit those moods.

According to the crowdfunding platform Indigogo, more than 82 million smartphones are damaged by water every year. Although many other companies have launched phones that are water resistant, Comet phones are buoyant and designed to float on water.

Prashant ran an Indiegogo campaign to crowdfund production of the device, and has raised over $250,000 for the same. Early bird prices for the phone start at $249 for a 32GB handset, while a 64GB model is available for $289.
Source: yourstory

Habits of Highly Happy

Excerpts from an interview which I happened to copy from an uncles post on Facebook. Janakiraman Vellur Kumarswamy - I owe this to you.
Smart people aren't always happier: Raj Raghunathan
Being better educated, rich and successful should make you happier. But too often, it doesn't. The business school professor on what it takes to be happy
If happy people are more successful at work, as research would suggest, why aren't successful people always happy? A new book by Texas, US, based business school professor Raj Raghunathan explores this paradox. Prof. Raghunathan teaches marketing at the McCombs School of Business in Texas and is a visiting faculty member at the Indian School of Business in Hyderabad.
In an email interview, he talks about his book, the definition of happiness, and what it takes to be happy.
Edited excerpts:
You are a professor of marketing at a business school. What drew you to teaching MBA students about the pursuit of happiness?
People do a double take when they realize that I am a business school professor teaching a course on happiness. I had been teaching regular business school courses, like Consumer Behaviour and Customer Insights, but was growing increasingly sceptical of whether these courses—or, for that matter, the courses being offered in business schools—were helping students lead happier lives. I wanted to do something about it; my responsibility as an educator is to give students the skill sets and tools to lead happier, more fulfilling lives. I thought that a course specifically devoted to the question, "What are the determinants of a happy and fulfilling life", would nicely complement the other courses being offered at B-schools.

How would you define happiness?
Most people would agree that happiness is a positive emotional state. Beyond that, it's a little difficult to get everyone to agree on what exactly it is. I define it as a state of "being joyful and lighthearted—but not at the cost of compassion or rationality. The feeling that comes from a sense of reassurance that I am completely and fully taken care of, and that life is perfect with its imperfections".
Is it true that happy people tend to be more successful and better at their jobs?

Yes, there are lots of studies on this. Just to give you an idea, here's what research shows:
- Happy employees are likely to perform better objectively in tasks (including tasks that involve leadership and creativity)
- Happy employees earn more
- Happier (optimistic) CEOs (chief executive officers) foster a more positive work climate, which in turn improves organizational productivity
- Happier CEOs receive higher performance ratings from chairpersons of their boards and head companies with greater returns on investment.

So why are smart people less happy than others? And do they actually "sabotage" their own happiness?

I wouldn't say that the smart are necessarily less happy than their not-so-smart counterparts: it's just that they aren't any happier. This is surprising because you would think that the smart (and successful) would be better at achieving their most important goals. And given that happiness is one of our most important goals, you would think that the smart (and successful) would be happier. But it turns out that they aren't.

There seem to be two main reasons for this. One reason is that the very things that make us smart or successful come in the way of happiness. For example, smart people are very good at thinking through problems and challenges. But it turns out that if taken too far, such "mind addiction" can come at a cost to happiness. Similarly, successful people often wish to be in control, but this desire for control, if taken too far, is counterproductive to happiness.

Another reason the smart (and successful) aren't that much happier than the rest of us is because they are just as clueless about what it takes to lead a happy and fulfilling life. For this, I hold our educational system accountable: As I mentioned earlier, we haven't given people the knowledge and skills to lead a happier, more fulfilling life.
What are the "seven deadly happiness sins"?
They are: devaluing happiness, chasing superiority, desperation for love, being overly controlling, distrusting others, indifferent/obsessive pursuit of passion and mind addiction.

A common theme underlying all of these sins is the "scarcity mindset"—the feeling that "my win is going to come at someone else's loss" or that "life is a zero-sum game".

You make the point that some vestiges of our evolutionary tendencies hold us back from being happy. Could you explain these tendencies?
Yes, there are several evolutionary tendencies that hold us back from being as happy as we could be. One of these tendencies is adaptation—the tendency to get used to a certain level of a stimulus. This is what prevents us from being able to sustain happiness from a boost—say, an increase in pay, or from becoming healthy after an illness. But adaptation is also necessary for survival. Otherwise, we would find the 100th bite from a candy to be just as tasty as the first and never stop eating!
A second tendency is "default negativity"—the tendency to pay more attention to negative things and to get more emotionally affected by negative (versus positive) events. It is this tendency that's responsible for distrusting others more than we should. Paying more attention to negative things aids the goal of survival, but isn't very helpful for happiness.
A third tendency is partly hardwired and partly socially conditioned: mind addiction, which is the inability to stop the mind from chattering and churning out one thought after another.

What are some of the techniques to avoid the seven deadly happiness sins and increase happiness levels?
There are several practices or exercises that can help not only mitigate the seven deadly happiness sins, but also nurture what I call the "seven habits of the highly happy". The seven core exercises include: defining and incorporating happiness, expressing gratitude, creative altruism (basically, random acts of kindness), leading a healthy lifestyle (eating right, moving more, sleeping better), exercising "smart trust", forgiveness and mindfulness.linkedin.pulse


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  • A rich man looked through his window and saw a poor man picking something from his dustbin ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not poor.
  • The poor man looked around and saw a half covered man misbehaving on the street ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not mad.
  • The mad man looked ahead and saw an ambulance carrying a patient ... He said, Thank GOD I am not sick.
  • Then a sick person in hospital saw a trolley taking a dead body to the mortuary ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not dead.

Only a dead person cannot thank God.


Why don't you thank GOD today for all your blessings and for the gift of life ... for another beautiful day. Have you ever visited these locations?

1. Hospital
2. Prison
3. Cemetery
At the Hospital, you will understand that nothing is more beautiful than HEALTH.
In the Prison, you'll see that FREEDOM is the most precious thing.
At the Cemetery, you will realize that life is worth nothing. The ground that we walk today will be our roof tomorrow.

We all come with *nothing* and we will go with *nothing* ... Let us, therefore, remain humble and be thankful grateful to God at all times for everything.

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Quotes to Follow in Life

Don't insult the alligator until you've crossed the river.
Don't throw away the old bucket until you know whether the new one holds water.
Dress the monkey in silk and it is still a monkey.
He who has done evil, expects evil.
He who knows nothing, doubts nothing.
If you want to gather a lot of knowledge, act as if you are ignorant.
It's not enough to know how to ride - you must also know how to fall.
It's not shameful not to know, but it's shameful not to ask.
Keep quiet and people will think you a philosopher.
Lower your voice, strengthen your argument.
Never strike your wife, even with a flower.
Only when you have eaten a lemon do you appreciate what sugar is.
Speak the truth, but leave immediately after.
Success and rest don't sleep together.
The cobra will bite you whether you call it cobra or Sir. Cobra.
The more you ask how much longer it will take, the longer the journey will seem.
What you see in yourself is what you see in the world.
When you go to a donkey's house, don't talk about ears.
You are as many a person as the number of languages you know.
​​Don't approach a goat from the front, a horse from the back, or a fool from any side.
A fool is like the big drum that beats fast but does not realize its hollowness.
A rumor goes in one ear and out many mouths.
Beware of a man that does not talk and a dog that does not bark.
Better to ask twice than to lose your way once.
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7 Ways of Staying Organized

By Junaid Tahir

Why Staying organized helps?

Staying organized has many advantages in terms of having more time for yourself and family; in terms of saving money; peace of mind, better health, balanced life and improved professional/Social life.

Below are some considerations on how to be more Organized and consequently get the benefits mentioned above.

How to stay organized?

1.     Use files or folders to place all your Personal documents. Segregate your documents and place different kind of documents in different files. For example utility bills, educational documents and purchase receipts to be placed in three different files. If you want you can scan (or take a picture from your mobile) and put it in your email for quick reference. Make sure your password is safe! Advantage: Saves time and avoid stress to find the relevant document.

2.    Differentiate between urgent and important tasks. Important tasks sooner or later will come out to be either very fruitful (if you have given them proper attention) or would be a complete disaster (if you have avoided them). Advantage: Attending Urgent tasks in timely manner will ensure healthy outcome in terms of family, personal, financial or professional life. You may want to read my article at

3.    You need to closely observe your Time stealers. the routine tasks which takes away a lot of time but do not produce real good results should be optimized. Advantage: You will have more control on your time and arrange it for family & self matters.

4.    Place your things at right locations. Allocate proper drawers, boxes, cabinets, Files, balcony for accessories. Advantage: you don't have to waste your time when you need something.

5.    Google Calendar is a great service which sends you email and SMS for any event which you store in your online Calendar. You can set reminders for next car service, tires replacement, remembering birthdays & anniversaries and so on. Advantage: you will save money by avoiding disasters (car malfunctioning etc), you will have healthy family relations (birthdays etc)

6.    Make a to-do list. Maintain it on daily/weekly basis. Use 'post-it' notes for shopping list. Advantage: Critical tasks will not be missed. Unnecessary market revisits will be avoided.

7.    If you are Muslim, your Prayers timings can make you punctual and give you the convenience to organize a lot of events in-between two prayers. You can become a role model for others by being organized this way.

Stay organized for a concrete grip on your life starting today.