Behavioral Contradiction

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.


He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."


We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.


But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.


Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.


When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.


He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.


While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,


"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.


Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.


Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.


He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."


By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.


I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.


"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.


I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."


I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway."


I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."


FAMI LY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.


And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?

Top 10 Largest Shoping Malls in the World


10: Siam Paragon (3.22 million sq ft)
Large shopping malls provide a one-stop shopping for anything imaginable. Our list of largest malls in the world is based on the amount of "Gross Leasable Area�€�.

This is the number of squar feet the property has for revenue-generating activities like retail, dining and amusements. The building boom in Asia, where land is cheap and labor costs are low has produced the largest shopping malls. Only two shopping malls on this list are located outside Asia.

Siam Paragon in Bangkok is one of the largest shopping malls in Thailand. Only the nearby CentralWorld is larger. It includes a wide range of specialty stores and restaurants as well as a multiplex movie theater, the Siam Ocean World aquarium, the Thai Art Gallery and an opera concert hall. It also has a large bowling alley and karaoke center.

9: Berjaya Times Square (3.44 million sq ft)



Located in Kuala Lumpur, Berjaya Times Square is a twin tower complex containing a shopping centre and two five star hotels. With 7.5 million square feet (700,000 m²) of built up floor area it is currently the fifth largest building in the world.

It includes more than 1,000 retail shops, 65 food outlets and several entertainment attractions such as Asia's largest indoor theme park, Cosmo's World and Malaysia's first-ever IMAX 2D & 3D theatre which is located on the 10th Floor.

8: Istanbul Cevahir (3.47 million sq ft)



Located on the European side of Istanbul, the Cevahir Shopping and Entertainment Centre opened its doors in 2005. It is the largest shopping mall in Europe.

There are 343 shops, 34 fast food restaurants and 14 exclusive restaurants in the shopping centre. Other facilities include a large stage for events, 12 cinemas, a bowling hall, a small roller coaster and several other entertainment facilities.

7: SM Megamall (3.6 million sq ft)



Opened in 1991, SM Megamall in Metro Manila is one of the largest shopping malls in the Philippines. The mall attracts a daily foot traffic of 800,000 people with a maximum capacity of 4 million people.

The mall has two main buildings. Building A features cinemas, a bowling alley, food courts and the Toy Kingdom. Building B features the retail shops. The bridgeway connecting the two main buildings of the mall contains several eateries.

SM Megamall is currently under major renovation and expansion. When finished, it will be able to claim the ultimate title of largest shopping mall in the Philippines.

6: West Edmonton Mall (3.77 million sq ft)



The West Edmonton Mall in Alberta was the largest shopping mall from 1981 until 2004 and is currently the largest mall in the Americas.

Beside 800 stores and services the mall includes the largest indoor amusement park in the world, the largest indoor waterpark in the world and Ice Palace (a scaled down version of a NHL regulation sized ice rink, so not the largest in the world). Other attractions include an 18-hole miniature golf course, a movie theatre and a bowling alley.

5: Dubai Mall (3.77 million sq ft)



The Dubai Mall is part of the Burj Khalifa complex, the tallest man-made structure ever built. At over 12 million square feet (equivalent in size to more than 50 soccer fields), the Dubai Mall is the largest shopping mall in the world based on total area but about the same size as the West Edmonton Mall if based on leasable space.

The mall contains more than 1,200 shops including the world's largest candy store, an ice rink, a SEGA game center (featuring a 3D bowling game), a 5 star luxury hotel, 22 cinema screens plus 120 restaurants and cafes. The mall also contains one of the largest aquariums in the world.

4: SM Mall of Asia (4.2 million sq ft)



The SM Mall of Asia in Metro Manila, opened in 2006, consists of four buildings interconnected by walkways. It features a 20-seater tram which takes shoppers around the mall grounds.

One of the mall's main attractions is an IMAX theater with one of the world's biggest 3D screens. The mall also features an Olympic-sized ice skating rink. It can accommodate both recreational and competitive figure skating, as well as ice hockey.

3: Central World (4.62 million sq ft)



Opened in 1990, the eight-story CentralWorld is the largest shopping mall in Thailand. It marketed itself as a middle class shopping center, opposed to the upper class-marketed Siam Paragon.

On 19th May of this year, CentralWorld was one of the many properties set on fire by antigovernment protestors. The fire raged for two days and the Zen department store collapsed in the fire.

After months of repair works, the shopping complex reopened on 28th September with 80% of its retail space open for business.

2: Golden Resources Mall (6.0 million sq ft)



At 1.5 times the size of the Mall of America, Golden Resources Mall was the world's largest shopping mall from 2004 to 2005. Although the developer of the mall initially estimated that the mall would have 50,000 shoppers a day, as of 2004 the actual number was far smaller, as few as 20 in an hour.

One problem was that prices of most items sold were far beyond the purchasing ability of most ordinary Chinese. Another barrier was the inaccessibility of Golden Resources Shopping Mall to foreign consumers due to its location outside the heart of Beijing.

1: New South China Mall (6.46 million sq ft)



New South China Mall in Dongguan is the largest mall in the world based on gross leasable area. The mall features seven zones modeled on international cities including a replica of the Arc de Triomphe and a canal with gondolas.

It also has an indoor-outdoor roller coaster. What is doesn't have is customers. Since its opening in 2005, the mall has suffered from a severe lack of occupants.

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Which Are You? Carrot, Egg, and Coffee


A daughter complained to her father about life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of struggling. It seemed that as soon as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In one he placed carrots, in the second he placed eggs, and the last he placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

Carrot Egg Coffee
The daughter sucked her teeth and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. In about twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them a bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a
bowl.Turning to her he asked. "What do you see?" "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Steaming Cup of Coffee
Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. She smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. She said, "What's the point?" He explained that each of the items had faced the same adversity -
boiling water - but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong and hard. But after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" he asked his daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Source: wisdom.mondocolorado.org
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Be careful who you give your passport copy to




Be careful who you give your passport copy to. Sree Raj Adiyodi, 34, an unemployed clerk, says his copies were used to open a bank account in his name without his knowledge. 
Now Sree Raj has been languishing in a Sharjah jail for the past five months as part of an ongoing investigation into fraudulent withdrawal of Dh500,000 from another company's account in 'his'
account. He claims he had nothing to do with it. The money has long since vanished. 
Sree Raj used to earn between Dh 2,000 to Dh3,000 a month. 
"He was arrested and detained by the Sharjah Immigration Department on June 5, 2011, while he was going to India through Sharjah airport. He was taken to the Al Buhaira police station and was shocked to know that a bank account in his name was misused to withdraw Dh500,000 from the bank account of a printing press in Sharjah," said legal sources familiar with the case.   
His cousin, Santhosh Kumar, says the man cannot even get bail because of the huge amount involved. 

A case was filed by the printing press owner who lost Dh216,000 from his account in a day. 
"While he was sitting in the police station to complain about the unauthorised transaction, he received an SMS alert from his bank saying another Dh300,000 had been withdrawn," said the source. 
With the help of the two banks' anti-fraud wings and Sharjah police, more than Dh300,000 was retrieved. The printing press owner eventually lost only Dh 216000," he added. 
Sharjah Police investigation started in the first week of May. They led to Sree Raj's bank account and the cheque book obtained from the bank by another Indian, who is also in jail now. 
Legal experts warned the public from giving out their passport or visa copy to strangers because it can be misused to conduct illegal bank transactions. 

The money was withdranw using the cheque book of the printing press. "Several cheques worth Dh70,000 and Dh65,000 were sent for collection through Sree Raj's account. Only two cheques could be cashed. A chque book of 50 leaves was fraudulently obtained from the bank to write these illegal cheques," said sources. These transactions happened in May 2011. 
According to the case filed by the Sharjah Public Prosecution, (Case No: 9828/2011) Sreeraj has an account in Mashreq Bank where the fraudulent funds were transferred. "We know that he did not open any account in Mashreq Bank. He had only a salary account in Emirates NBD. 
Sreeraj was looking for job. He had sent his CV to many offices and a representative of a petrochemical company called him for a telephone interview and asked to email his passport copy with visa page and a copy of  his labour card."   

He was told that it was to crosscheck with labour department for easy visa transfer. 
Sreeraj and his relatives believe that his passport copy was misused to open the Mashreq bank account. After sending his passport copy and other documents, he never heard from the petrochemical company representative.

http://www.emirates247.com/crime/local/be-careful-who-you-give-your-passport-copy-to-2011-10-18-1.424172

Story: Pencil and Eraser

Pencil: I'm sorry....

Eraser: For what? You didn't do anything wrong.


Pencil: I'm sorry cos you get hurt bcos of me. Whenever I made a mistake, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each time.




Eraser: That's true. But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though one day, I know I'll be gone and you'll replace me with a new one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad.
 

I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very inspirational. Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are the pencil. They're always there for their children, cleaning up their mistakes. Sometimes along the way... they get hurt, and become smaller (older, and eventually pass on). Though their children will eventually find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they do for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones worrying, or sad.

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Five Tips For Motivating Employees

While expecting employees to perform at a high level is definitely not an unreasonable expectation, it still is not always going to be the case in most businesses. There are a number of cases where employees let up in their job performance a bit or other circumstances arise that make the level of productivity tail off some. During these and other times, often what is missing is proper motivation. Here are five tips designed to motivate employees to continue performing at the level they are expected to.




Positive Attitude
Employees who regularly work in a workplace that either has an overall negative attitude or for a manager that has a negative attitude will at some point let it affect their job performance. A manager canmotivate the employeesbeneath them very efficiently by simply instituting a positive attitude in the workplace and also exhibiting that positive attitude regularly. Employees naturally want to work in a workplace with a positive attitude.

Encouragement
In the same department as positive attitude, getting the proper 
encouragement from a manager or supervisor is necessary for some employees to operate at a high level. Many times employees who are merely informed of their job responsibilities and then are given no feedback until a project is complete feel that they are not given enough encouragement along the way. While it may not be a necessity, if a few simple words can make an office or workplace more productive, then it is definitely something that should be done.

Listening Skills
One of the easiest ways for a manager to motivate their employees is to simply improve and utilize their listening skills. When an employee feels like their thoughts and ideas are being listened to, they will feel they are more apart of a project or overall business process and work harder. An employee who knows that their views are valued and sought out is a more motivated employee as they know they have another avenue for impressing their manager and possibly influencing the career path.

Utilize Everyone
Another easy way for a manager or business owner to motivate employees is to make sure that everyone is utilized to their fullest abilities. When one or two employees are not brought in on a project or process, they feel like they are not valued as highly and this may demotivate them in terms of how much effort they put into the projects or responsibilities they do have. By utilizing everyone, a manager not only motivates their employees by showing they are all valued to some degree, but he also maximizes the work output by having everyone possible involved in some way or another.
When Possible, Provide Incentives
Though it may not always be possible, and it may not be feasible on every project, it can sometimes pay off to have incentives that an employee can take advantage of if a certain amount of work is done or a certain level is accomplished. Incentives can be anything from a higher commission and cash bonuses to something smaller like a catered lunch for the employees or even a gift card to a local restaurant. Incentives can sometimes be announced ahead of time and can also be presented to the employees afterwards as a thank you for their hard work. Presenting incentives as a thank you actually has the effect of motivating employees towards the next project or process.

While motivating employees is not always easy, it is a very useful thing to do when done right. There are a number of reasons why an employee or even an entire department may need to be motivated from time to time. They could be feeling overworked, they could have recently undergone personnel changes or questionable disciplinary actions, or they could just be suffering from burnout. Motivating these employees in a realistic and acceptable way is a great way that a manager can improve the productivity of their department and each employee in particular.



Courtesy: www.authoritydirectory.com

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Four quadrants of Personal and professional Life



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Calculate to convince you are genius

This is the question from Year 2001 Harvard's Science Research
Use of calculator is prohibited The question is....If

1 = 5

2 = 25

3= 125

4 = 625

5 =?












Answer at the bottom




















Answer is =1

Have u forgotten
1=5

Got it wrong?
No wonder MOST of us did not do it right!


Tips to Increase Your Leadership Skills

Being a leader is one of the most effective, and a responsible job that a highly skilled person can have. A leader is the one who is always on the top, representing a group of people or a person. He must have the vision to take their company or institution to a respectable position. A leader must develop the quality of solving any given crisis in an effective way.

Here are some guidelines to increase your leadership quality:

Develop the quality of suggesting and planning:


For a leader, it is very important to have the quality of suggesting and plan according to a strategy. And the leader has to make sure that he can suggest their employers a better way to complete their task more effectively.

Represent and control your team:


Representing the group is one of the most essential tasks a leader has to make. It is the duty of a leader to voice his and his team's ideas. If a leader can represent his team more effectively, definitely he can positively influence his teammates and motivate them to work even more dynamically. A leader must include the quality of controlling the group, by observing their teams performance, instructing them to go in a right way, so that their work can be successfully presented.

Be open minded:


A good leader should be open minded to his employees, and he must listen to what his co-workers say and must value their ideas, and try to modify their ideas in a better way at the initial stage without rejecting their ideas. It may be helpful for the leaders too, as they may get new ideas for solving any crisis.

Define your goals:


Being a leader you must always describe your goal or your aim to the employees. This is a must because, for an employee it is very necessary for them to know their company's goal and vision. When they know their goal they put more effort on their work and they take it as a challenge to reach that goal. It will help them to complete their work successfully and they can benefit their company with their performance.

Be fair with your employees:


It is the duty of the leaders to be fair with all the workers in a company. Respect the employees feeling without being impartial. Know the interests of your employees and treat every worker equally without being biased.

Learning Positive Thinking



Instead of giving in to negative self-talk, weed out misconceptions and irrational thinking and then challenge them with rational, positive thoughts. When you do this, your self-talk will gradually become realistic and self-affirming — you engage in positive thinking.
You can learn to turn negative thinking into positive thinking. The process is simple, but it takes time and practice — you are creating a new habit, after all.
Periodically during the day, stop and evaluate what you're thinking. If you find that your thoughts are mainly negative, try to find a way to put a positive spin on them.

Start by following one simple rule: Don't say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to anyone else. Examples of typical negative self-talk and how you might apply a positive thinking twist include:

Negative self-talk
Positive spin
I've never done it before. It's an opportunity to learn something new.
It's too complicated. I'll tackle it from a different angle.
I don't have the resources. Necessity is the mother of invention.
There's not enough time. Let's re-evaluate some priorities.
There's no way it will work. I can try to make it work.
It's too radical a change. Let's take a chance.
No one bothers to communicate with me. I'll see if I can open the channels of communication.
I'm not going to get any better at this. I'll give it another try.

Practicing positive thinking every day
If you tend to have a negative outlook, don't expect to become an optimist overnight. But with practice, eventually your self-talk will automatically contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance. You may also become less critical of the world around you.
Practicing positive self-talk will improve your outlook. When your state of mind is generally optimistic, you're able to handle everyday stress in a constructive way. That ability may contribute to the widely observed health benefits of positive thinking.