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22 Things to Keep

You are what you eat -and what you don't eat. Similarly, life depends on
what you keep and what you don't keep. There are many things in life
that people may keep, but only a few are truly worth keeping. Here is a
list of what to keep (and how) for a brighter, happier and more
fulfilling life.

1) Keep calm. Life
can be unnerving and if you don't make an effort to keep collected and
focused, you could easily lose your cool. Take regular, conscious deep
breaths to calm and center yourself.

2) Keep your chin up.
Not only is it good for your posture and diminishes your double chin,
it also helps you maintain an "I can handle it" attitude. By keeping
your chin up, you can keep your head above water.

3) Keep your spirits high.
Always maintain a positive and joyful attitude. Remember that no one
can perk you up like yourself. Keep your spirits high when the going
gets rough by focusing on your dreams and counting your blessings.

4) Keep your word.
The true measure of a man is if he keeps his word.
Honorable and trustworthy is the man who stands by what he says and
promises. It is important to think well before speaking because once a
word is uttered and released into the universe, its vibrations could no
longer be erased.

5) Keep in time with your inner drummer.
Don't be swayed by others into following the confusing beat of their
drums. Although it is sometimes necessary to adjust to the pace of
others, it is best to keep in step with your personal rhythm and to
dance to your own music.

6) Keep in touch with the child in you. The
source of creativity in your life is that little child within you. He
questions, he marvels, he imagines and invents. Stay in touch with him,
and be young and creative for life!

7) Keep abreast of the times.
The world is moving so fast. Know what's happening, what's in style,
what's au courant, what's relevant, what's important. Learn the hottest
trends and the latest in technology. Don't be caught in a time warp or
you'll be left behind.

8) Keep in shape.
Your shape shows your state of health. Your body is the vessel that you
journey through life in. Keep it healthy and strong. Don't be one of
those people who say, "I'm in shape; round is a shape!"

9) Keep your mouth shut.
People talk too much. We language ourselves to our own destruction and
defeat. Know when to talk and when to shut up. Avoid being too verbose.
Oftentimes, silence speaks more eloquently than words.

10) Keep good friends.
Good friends are hard to find. Nurture friendships that make your
plight through life easier, more wonderful and meaningful. Truly poor is
the man who has no good friends.

11) Keep great memories, not heavy objects.
In the very end, good memories of life are what we will be left with,
not jewels and riches that we can't bring when we finally go. Live each
moment beautifully. Linked together, these magical moments create
a magnificent life.

12) Keep a diary.
Writing a journal is therapeutic. Record the important events in your
life, your dreams and aspirations, even your failures and
disappointments. When you trace back events in your life, you are bound
to learn lessons from them as well as find great inspiration and

13) Keep saying grace and thanks.
Blessed is he who says grace before he eats and gives thanks for all
the gifts he receives daily. Maintain a thankful attitude and focus on
your blessings instead of disappointments.

14) Keep on moving forward.
The universe moves forward in time. Don't get stuck in yesterday; make
an effort to move
ahead to a
better life. Drop those unnecessary pieces of material and emotional
baggage that weigh you down and keep you from flying to your loftiest

15) Keep out of danger.
He who exposes himself to danger finds it. Don't court danger; avoid
it. As they say, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Look
out for number one (that's you!), and always stay safe and sound.

16) Keep up the good work.
Success is built upon success. The more you do, the more you achieve;
the more you achieve, the better you get at doing it. Make success a
habit by keeping up the good work.

17) Keep young.
Do everything in your power to stay strong, supple
and youthful.
Think young; feel young. A wise man once said "It is never too late to
be what you might have been." Remember that age is a number and that
youth is an attitude.

18) Keep on Enjoying.
Life is a dance through space and time. Embellish whatever  life
plays for you with your own fresh orchestration and creative
choreography. Be excited in your heart and keep your feet light with

19) Keep on loving.
Love is the reason we were created. Love diminishes when hoarded but
multiplies when shared. Give it and feel it overflow in your heart. Love
cures all sadness, pain and sorrow. Lonely is he who does not give love
away and therefore gets none in return.

20) Keep on dreaming.
Most men, even if they are young, are dead - that is, if they can no
longer dream. Our dreams are what keep us young and alive; they give us
that sparkle in our eyes. Our dreams keep us going even while everything
around us says, "Stop."

21) Keep on hoping.
Never lose hope. Tomorrow will be another day that will bring new hope
and greater blessings. Keep faith in the abundance of the universe and
the mystery and perfection of life. Hope for nothing but the best and
that's what you will be granted.

22) Keep on believing. Belief is the mother of reality. What you believe becomes your truth. Believe in yourself, believe in the magic of the
universe, believe in the power of your
dreams. And most of all, believe you can do it, so you can have all your heart's desires!
These You Must Not Keep

1) Don't keep up with the Joneses.
Just because your neighbor bought a red Ferrari, you, too, must get
one. Don't join the bandwagon and keep away from the "herd mentality."
Too much unhappiness in this world is caused by comparisons - comparing
yourself and trying to measure up to other people. There is really no
need to live up to others' expectations if it would just bring you
inconvenience and misery.

2) Don't keep issues and grudges.
The reason most of us stay miserable is because we keep issues,
grudges, and problems. Detox yourself of complaints and issues that keep
you from being the best that you could be. Try to solve all problems
that beset you; never leave anything unresolved. The questions and
puzzles of life are what make it challenging and exciting.

3) Don't keep resentments and memories of painful experiences.
Life is not a bed of roses so you must learn to let go of negative
feelings and memories of painful experiences. It's hard to go on living
with a heavy heart. Pardon, forgive, forget

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10 Things That Define A True Professional

You may be a brilliant developer, a highly skilled net admin, or a crackerjack DBA — but if you're unprofessional, your career is likely to fall short. Alan Norton offers some attributes to strive for.

The term professional is thrown around quite a bit these days, perhaps too much. I do it myself. But what exactly does it mean to be a professional? As you read through the items below, consider how you compare with each trait.

Note: This article is also available as a PDF download.

1: Put customer satisfaction first

Understanding and satisfying your customer's needs are the cornerstones of a successful business. Do what is necessary to meet those needs. After all, without the customer, there is no professional.

You may not view those you work with as your customers, but in many cases, they are. I remember when one of my managers perceived that I was overly stressed. He pulled me aside and sat me down in his office where he told me stories and jokes for the better part of half an hour. He recognized my needs and acted accordingly.

Professionals identify and satisfy their customer's needs.

2: Make expertise your specialty

The very word professional implies that you are an expert. Technical competence is essential in IT.

Become an expert in the skills and tools necessary to do your job.
Always perform to the best of your abilities.
Keep your knowledge up to date.

Professionals know their trade.

3: Do more than expected

Professionals aren't bound by a time clock. They are given wide latitude in their daily self-management. They are expected to manage their time and work habits. Don't abuse the privilege. If you take an hour for personal needs, give back two hours.

The reality is that professionals are expected to exceed the standard 40-hour workweek. There are times when you may be asked to work weekends. You may have to forego a vacation or work 12-hour days to complete an important project. All are part of the job description of most professional positions.

Professionals are expected to produce results. Strive to complete deliverables before their due dates and under budget.

Professionals meet or exceed expectations whenever possible.

But this does not mean that you sacrifice your family life. The idea is that you must manage your work as much as you and produce desirable results.

4: Do what you say and say what you can do

This is one of my favorite sayings especially in view of the fact that talking the talk is so prevalent and walking the walk so rare in this age of sound bites. You should "engage brain" before speaking — can you really do what you are about to say? If you can't, the wizard behind the curtain will eventually be revealed and hard-earned trust can be lost.

Professionals deliver on promises made.

5: Communicate effectively

I go out of my way to patronize a dentist who has excellent communication skills. He takes the time to explain the available options, make recommendations, state the total costs, and promise a date when the work can be completed. I then feel empowered to make the right decisions.

I recently ordered Internet and phone service from the cable company. I told the salesman that the existing cable had been ripped out during a landscaping project. Perhaps I wasn't clear or perhaps the salesman wasn't listening — it doesn't really matter. The message didn't get through and the wrong person was sent to do the installation. As a result, Qwest, not the cable company, got my business. Not only did the commissioned salesman lose his sale, he and his company both looked unprofessional in my eyes.

Resist the urge to blame the customer when communication goes awry. Effective communication is ultimately your responsibility — not your customer's.

Whether verbal or written, professionals communicate clearly, concisely, thoroughly, and accurately.

6: Follow exceptional guiding principles

Appreciate and support those you work with. Practice good manners and proper etiquette. Have high ethical and moral standards. Be honest and fair in all of your dealings with others. Obey the law. These may sound like the attributes of a Boy Scout, but they are basic values that all professionals should follow. Many companies have a document that outlines their operating principles. Have you read yours?

Professionals adhere to high values and principles.

7: Praise your peers not yourself

Respect and acknowledge the talents of your peers. There is nothing more unprofessional and self-serving than telling others how wonderful you are.

Professionals are humble and generous in their praise of others.

8: Share your knowledge

When I was hired at Hughes Aircraft, a second person with similar skills was hired with me. It didn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that one of us wasn't going to survive. The competitive nature of the situation was palpable. I am no stranger to the belief that it is not in your best interest to share your knowledge with your associates, AKA the competition.

It is easy to find yourself in that comfortable place with "unique" knowledge. If you are a hoarder of information and are of the opinion that all of the nuts you have squirreled away grant you immutable job security, think again. The harsh reality is that nobody is irreplaceable.

Information isn't a limited resource. Contrary to what some might think, your mind won't be emptied by giving away kernels of wisdom or experience. Think of knowledge as an ocean of facts and not a stream of data. It is possible to share what you know and still keep one step ahead of the competition — simply apply yourself and learn something new daily.

Professionals help their peers and are respected for doing so.

9: Say thank you

I always tried to find a way to thank others for their help. When their help was above and beyond the call of duty, I would buy them a Coke - a testament to the marketing power of Madison Avenue and Mean Joe Greene.

The items I value the most in my personnel file from Hughes Aircraft are two AVOs (Avoid Verbal Orders memos) to my manager from frontline employees. The AVOs thanked me for the support I provided that helped them do their job better.

Silly me — what was I thinking? I was sharing a Coke when I should have been sharing my thanks in a printed internal document to the employee's manager.

Professionals thank others in a meaningful way that most benefits the recipient.

10: Keep a smile on your face and the right attitude in your heart

This has been the hardest item for me to do consistently over my working years. I believed I was lying to myself and the world by smiling when I was miserable or unhappy with an ongoing issue at work.

I now realize it's not dishonest to be pleasant when you are having one of those lousy days. It is in fact thoughtful to care about how your attitude affects those you interact with. Share your unhappiness with your manager only. "Share the misery" is not the mark of a professional.

Professionals are pleasant even during trying times.

The final word

Working with professionals is a pleasure, and I have been fortunate to work with some truly exemplary ones. There have been a few who liked to be treated as professionals without having to work and act like one.

You don't have to look any further than the medical profession to see examples of true professionals. Think back upon those doctors you've liked the most and model your professionalism after theirs.

So, how do you measure up? Don't feel bad if you need some work in one or more areas. Demeanor that is less than professional can lead to an image problem for you and your company. Negative images are hard to shake. Recognize any shortcomings you might have and begin working on your professional image today.

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10 Conflict Resolution Tips

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One of the most common and frustrating impediments to worker productivity is conflict between employees. Unresolved conflict can strain relationships, create tension and negativity, and dampen morale. Whether engaged in a heated debate, a disagreement, or an outright feud, take a strategic approach to resolving the problem. You'll be most effective if you avoid making these common mistakes.

1. Don't make assumptions about the situation or the other person's perceptions, motivations, or reactions. You'll get a much clearer and more accurate picture by asking the other person directly.

2. Don't take it personally - it rarely is!

3. Don't look for blame. Instead, try to identify cause.

4. Don't avoid the problem. It'll only get worse, breed resentment, and resurface at a later date. You've simply got to deal directly with the issue at hand.

5. Don't attack the other person's character. That's just playing dirty. It will not help you work things out and it will almost certainly have a lasting, negative impact.

6. Don't gossip about the problem or about the other person involved. It's unprofessional and will only make matters worse.

7. Don't bring it up in public. This is a private matter to be resolved between you and the other party.

8. Don't bring it up when there's not enough time to address it. Instead, leave adequate time for a thorough discussion - or introduce the issue and schedule a time to resume talks in the immediate future.

9. Don't bring it up when you're angry, stressed, or feeling ill.That's a disservice to you and the other person involved. Wait until you're calm.

10. Don't address the situation in an email. Email leaves far too much room for misinterpretation. While we're on the subject, don't copy others on a personal matter. This will almost certainly make the other party feel defensive, angry, or humiliated. It won't, however, help resolve the problem.

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18 Ways to Improve Your Body Language

by Henrik Edberg 

Continuing from the previous post 6 reasons to improve your body language, here is just a few of many pointers on how to improve your body
language. Improving your body language can make a big difference in your people skills, attractiveness and general mood.

There is no specific advice on how to use your body language. What you do might be interpreted in several ways, depending on the setting and who you are talking to. You'll probably want to use your body language differently when talking to your boss compared to when you talk to a girl/guy you're interested in. These are some common interpretations of body language and often more effective ways to communicate with your body.

First, to change your body language you must be aware of your body language. Notice how you sit, how you stand, how you use you hands and legs, what you do while talking to someone.
You might want to practice in front of a mirror. Yeah, it might seem silly but no one is watching you. This will give you good feedback on how you look to other people and give you an opportunity to practise a bit before going out into the world.
Another tip is to close your eyes and visualize how you would stand and sit to feel confident, open and relaxed or whatever you want to communicate. See yourself move like that version of yourself. Then try it out.

You might also want observe friends, role models, movie stars or other people you think has good body language. Observe what they do and you don't. Take bits and pieces you like from different people. Try using what you can learn from them.

Some of these tips might seem like you are faking something. But fake it til you make it is a useful way to learn something new. And remember, feelings work backwards too. If you smile a bit more you will feel happier. If you sit up straight you will feel more energetic and in control. If you slow down your movements you'll feel calmer. Your feelings will actually reinforce your new behaviours and feelings of weirdness will dissipate.
In the beginning easy it's to exaggerate your body language. You might sit with your legs almost ridiculously far apart or sit up straight in a tense pose all the time. That's ok. And people aren't looking as much as you think, they are worrying about their own problems. Just play around a bit, practice and monitor yourself to find a comfortable balance.

1. Don't cross your arms or legs – You have probably already heard you shouldn't cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or guarded. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.

2. Have eye contact, but don't stare – If there are several people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and you'll get used to it.

3. Don't be afraid to take up some space – Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin.

4. Relax your shoulders – When you feel tense it's easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly.

5. Nod when they are talking – nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don't overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker.

6. Don't slouch, sit up straight – but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner.

7. Lean, but not too much – If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you're confident in yourself and relaxed lean back a bit. But don't lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant.

8. Smile and laugh – lighten up, don't take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don't be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don't keep a smile plastered on your face, you'll seem insincere.

9. Don't touch your face – it might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation.

10. Keep you head up – Don't keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon.

11. Slow down a bit – this goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don't snap you're neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead.

12. Don't fidget – try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table rapidly. You'll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across. Declutter your movements if you are all over the place. Try to relax, slow down and focus your movements.

13. Use your hands more confidently – instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. But don't use them to much or it might become distracting. And don't let your hands flail around, use them with some control.

14. Lower your drink – don't hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don't hold anything in front of your heart as it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead.

15. Realise where you spine ends – many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore crane the neck forward in a Montgomery Burns-poseYour spine ends in the back of your head. Keep you whole spine straight and aligned for better posture.

16. Don't stand too close –one of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, don't invade it.

17. Mirror – Often when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person's body language a bit. To make the connection better you can try a bit of proactive mirroring. If he leans forward, you might lean forward. If he puts hands in pocket, you might do the same. But don't react instantly and don't mirror every change in body language. Then weirdness will ensue.

18. Keep a good attitude – last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major difference. For information on how make yourself feel better read 10 ways to change how you feel and for relaxation try A very simple way to feel relaxed for 24 hours.

You can change your body language but as all new habits it takes a while. Especially things like keeping you head up might take time to correct if you have spent thousands of days looking at your feet. And if you try and change to many things at once it might become confusing and feel overwhelming.
Take a couple of these body language bits to work on every day for three to four weeks. By then they should have developed into new habits and something you'll do without even thinking about it. If not, keep on until it sticks. Then take another couple of things you'd like to change and work on them.
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Helping Your Kids Making Choices

Imagine that your 12-year old wants to buy a new pair of headphones. You might take the child to the nearest mall, go to a couple of shops and then buy one that the salesperson convinces you is "the best of 'em all". Now sample this: instead of going straight to the mall, you ask your child to do online research- narrow down on a couple depending on the budget and sound quality and then let him make a choice. And never mind if he ends up making the wrong choice.

Because even if he hasn't got the best money could buy, he would have used the necessary life skill of making a choice and taking responsibility for it. We don't encourage our kids to make as many choices as we ideally should. Either we take it away from them completely: "You have to study in the evening" or we let them have their way: "Mom, I cannot study in the evening!" Suppose we gave them choices: "You have the option of studying after returning from school, in the evening or before dinner.

What would you choose?" I'm sure it's quite obvious which approach will be most effective. Why? Because just the knowledge that we have choices fosters independence and a sense of empowerment. Research shows that children who are given choices from a very early age start taking ownership of their life earlier. On the other hand, children who are not given many choices end up blaming and holding others responsible for problems they face.

Building Response-ability in your Children
Know what is negotiable and non-negotiable. We do not need to give children choices in areas which are a given. For example, you might give your child healthy choices for the meal planning for the week but you can't give her a choice about whether she goes to school or not.

Elicit rather than impose. Suppose your child resists homework time. If you impose that homework would be at 4 pm every day it might turn out to be a battleground. On the other hand, if you have a chat with him and then work out a time that is convenient for both, you might get him to cooperate. So questions like, "Out of these three time slots, which one works best for you?"; "Where would you like to sit and do it?"; "Which part would you like to start with?" might get him to make responsible choices and stick by them.

Help them visualise. Children can be shortsighted. So there may be times when you may like to help them visualise the possible implications of their choice. For example, if your child is trying to cut corners in a school project, say, "So if you do skip this bit of the project, what do you think it would look like? What would your teacher say/think? Would you be alright with that?"
Support. Be there to guide him. If your child has done abysmally in an examination, for example, instead of getting angry, ask questions that may turn wrong choices into learning opportunities. "What do you think went wrong?" "Do you think you might want to prepare differently?" "How would you like me to help you?" As wise old Dumbledore put it, "It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities."
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David in Depression - Dialogue

With around 1500 daily visitors on DailyTenMinutes, some people approach us for counselling regarding stress, anxiety and depression. Below is one of the most recent dialogues with a visitor named David (name changed due to privacy) which might help other visitors answering the most frequently asked questions on stress management subject.

Dear Junaid, 
I have been suffering from Mental illness since 1993. but from 1993 to 2003 i was taking medicines for Gastro (Digestion) ,then from 2003 onwards till today i take medicines prescribed by Psychiatrist but i am confused weather it is mental or Gastro(Indigestion). The point is i start getting stressed and nervous quite often. So i am under constant stress. 
I also get suicidal thoughts frequently but somehow i am afraid to commit suicide. 
Please Junaid, help me as i am just living simply hopeless life and even my family remains disturbed.

Dear David,

Based on your email, below are the problems you are experiencing Frequent Mood Swings, Depression, Anxiety, Tension and Gastro. 
Generally speaking stress, mood swings and getting irritated are interlinked which means, a person gets easily irritated and disturbed who is under stress. So I believe that you need some major changes in your life style in order to overcome your stress. Below are some questions which can help us analyze the situation in detail and then we can plan necessary measures to improve things out. 
Below is the dialogue via email correspondence between Junaid and David:

SECTION-1: Answer these questions to find the root of your problems:

Junaid: Do you have financial problems? Are you in debt?         
David: Not at all
Junaid: This is a good sign that you don't have financial issues. A lot of people increase their stress levels due to financial problems. You must be thankful to the Lord about it. You must spend some time daily thinking about the fact that millions of people don't have food to eat 3 times daily. This practice will improve your mental peace and give you a great feeling of contentment. Trust me, it works !!!

Junaid: Do you think too much to make others happy?                 
David- Yes, Extremely and i am afraid to say no.
Junaid: So, we found one of the reasons for your worries and possibly this is the root cause of several other problems you are giving birth to.
David, keeping everyone happy is not possible. Because every soul on earth is unique having completely different way of comprehension of things. You cannot  control other's brain however you can definitely control yours.  So be honest, fair and truthful with others and try to have a clear conscience, a synced body-mind-soul and then don't really think too much about your acts and making others happy. Having said that you must start ignoring thoughts of keeping others happy, you would start improving your mental peace tremendously.  

Junaid: Do you think too much about past?                              
David- YES 
Junaid: So this is your second problem (First being thinking too much about others). There are two things which you need to work on. First, develop the power of not looking back. Read my article byclicking here. Second is to control your wandering thoughts. You must have noticed fish in aquarium. All of the fish, keep wandering here and there with no clear purpose. Human mind does the same act exactly. However humans can control this unnecessary mind wandering. There are several approaches to control and improve the purity of your negative thoughts. For example, surrounding yourself in good people, reading great books, subscribing to good Facebook Pages, visiting self improvement websites such as DailyTenMinutes .com  etc.

Junaid: Do you think too much about future?                              
David- Not more but only for my single SON
Junaid: This is a natural thing. Everyone is concerned about his kids. A general advice would be not to think more than 2-3 years (except some major concerns like studies etc) because, now a days, things get changed quite often. You never know what is going to happen in next 6 months. I know some people who planned too much and one sudden event changed everything and their whole planning exercise became void. So my advice is to live in today. Enjoy what the life is offering you today. Go to market, hang out with friends, enjoy some nice dinner out side home, read some good book, visit a distant relative, explore a new city or country, visit a hill place etc. 

Junaid: Do you have good relations with your spouse and kids?    
David: No and totally shattered after my extra martial relationship was exposed to my wife and son both. 
Junaid: This is your third problem and requires your real focus. 
David, anyone can be wrong, it's human nature. But confessing being wrong and apologize is something only brave people do. And these are the real happy people. So you must approach your wife and son for the same. You must redevelop your family's trust in you. Read the article by clicking here. Further, another 10 points program for happy family is a highly recommended article. 

Junaid: Do you have a healthy professional circumstances?          
David- No but due to my mental illness  almost daily I struggle to go to my job. 
Junaid: Since the reason for bad professional circumstances is stress so it would improve automatically once you overcome your stress and anxiety issues. Hence my prime suggestion is to focus on resolving your stress. However if you specifically want to work on improving your professional life. You mustavoid office politics, must improve your corporate image and develop healthy relationships with your peers.

SECTION-2: Answer these questions to see if you have a healthy approach to life:

Junaid: Do you read good books?
David- No 
Junaid: A highly recommended step !!! Book reading improves your vocabulary, concentration, focus, discipline, memory, creativity and reasoning skills. It builds your self-esteem, expertise, and deceases mistakes and boredom. It also improves general knowledge. Its stops your brain from getting distracted. So do visit your nearest book store and buy yourself a book on positivity, inspirational stories. humor or on a great leader of your country.

Junaid: Do you walk for 15 minutes daily or go to the park on weekend?-      
David: Not at all
Junaid: This is one of the brain and body damaging habits. Walking have several advantages such as reducing blood pressure, improved digestion, cholesterol control, fresh brain, better sleep and so on. So start doing this as soon as possible; in morning or in evening. If you don't want to go alone, try finding a partner who can convince you when you are lazy. 

Junaid: Do you laugh often?  By watching funny programs or sharing jokes?
David- Yes but only in with some friends but not watching funny programmes but I enjoy listening jokes.
Junaid: This is good. Keep it up. Laughing and Smiling improves your mental health and a good way of taking you away from your problems for some time.  Remember, any small time spent away from worries is good for your physical and mental health. 

Junaid: Do you have a best friend with whom you can share your feelings and discuss your problems?          
David - NOT at all
Junaid: Having friends is very important in today's stressful life style. You can share your problems with them, take advice from them, hang out with them and so on. So try to make friends at work or near your home. If nothing works, try finding on internet. However refrain from extra marital relations as you have already suffered due to this. 

Junaid: when was the last time you gave something in charity?                      
David:  I cannot recall 
Junaid: People attain good spiritual and mental satisfaction when they give money in charity. Try to visit some orphan place, buy toys or clothes for the orphans or poor people near your place, buy food for a needy family, give small tips to the restaurant boy etc. I am sure the blessings of Almighty will increase in your life. 

Junaid: when was the last time you rewarded yourself by buying something good for you?  
David- I don't like buying for me 
Junaid: I personally believe that rewarding oneself is a good idea. You don't need to buy a costly thing for you. You can buy nice coffee cup, a new mobile phone, a nice book, a tuxedo etc. This gives you inner happiness; try.

David, I believe that with the above recommendations in both sections you will attain better life style, a higher mental peace and improved health. I highly recommend you to visit the "Stress Management" section of my website and spend 10 minutes daily to learn new tools and techniques. Stay blessed.

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10 Analogies for a Great Leader

By Junaid Tahir

Leaders of required to posses several supreme personality traits such as competence, commitment,courage, focus, generosity, passion, responsibility, vision, problem solving attitude and self-discipline. Below analogies are given for the leaders for their self audits which constitute for the transformation from 'effectiveness to greatness' as per Stephen R Covey's book "The 8th Habit®":

1-     The Great Leader is like the Lion: He does not fear in any kind of tragic circumstances and grabs the 'Lion's share' (market share for his company) and also gives us the protection from other dangers. He faces the difficulties with courage, meets them, treats them and defeats them. 

2-    The Great Leader is like the Foundation of a Building: He penetrates enough in the roots in order to strengthen the foundation of the company. By penetrating means he has strong grip on the policies, procedures, products and services. This helps company grow more and more. 

3-    The Great Leader is like the Rocket: When in action, he focuses on the target with full zeal and zest. He does not get distracted by any other disturbances and challenges in his path. 

4-    The Great Leader is like the Doctor: Who knows the real root cause of the diseases (issues). He isanalytical in his approach. He not only take corrective actions in order to fix the issues but also takes preventive actions in order to overcome the diseases/problems so as to eliminate them permanently. 

5-    The Great Leader is like the Train Engine: He has a clear destination in his mind. He makes sure that all of the passengers (employees) reach their destination. The passengers (employees) belong to so many categories (low/high performing, active/inactive, sick/healthy, poor/rich etc) however he takes all of them along with him towards the target destination and steadily reaches there. He keeps the engine up and running to ensure that target is achieved by all means. 

6-    The Great Leader is like the Professor: He teaches his followers with theoretical, practical, pictorial, verbal, friendly and/or commanding ways of trainings. He is effective in communication and clearly elaborates his requirements/targets so that every single member clearly understands the target and his/her role.

7-    The Great Leader is like the Servant: He facilitates the tasks and paves the way for his clients (team members), eventually the clients focus on their major responsibilities.

8-    The Great Leader is like the Newspaper: He highlights and summarizes the critical happenings so that the readers (followers) are up-to-date about surroundings and adjust their work related strategies accordingly.  

9-    The Great Leader is like the Water: He cleanse the system by removing the dirt, by reducing the impurities. 

10-   The Great Leader is like a Cricket Captain: He organizes the players/resources based on the demand. He performs for his team and not for his personal achievements. For him, team comes first so his intentions from his team and company's perspective are WIN-WIN.
What other analogies you have in your mind for Great Leaders?

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