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7 Steps for Successful Speaking On The Spot




by Darlene Price, author of Well Said: Presentations and Conversations that Get Results To get ahead, you need to be able to speak confidently when you're put on the spot. Here are seven steps to follow so you keep your composure and respond well when you're under pressure.


1. Relax.
You want your voice to sound confident and your brain to think clearly, so you have to be as relaxed as possible. This is of course is the opposite of how you are feeling so you must intentionally take steps to 'manufacture' relaxing affects. Take a few slow deep breaths – this relaxes the body and the mind. Be sure to avoid a pensive scowl or furrowed brow by consciously keeping your facial expressions neutral to positive.  Silently affirm yourself by thinking, "I can do this." "I'm confident and in control." "I'm the expert on this subject." Remember, your audience can only see how you look and act on the outside; they never see how you feel on the inside.

2. Listen.

Often when we are in a high pressure situation and the adrenalin is pumping, we don't stop to hear the actual question or concern of the speaker due to the static in our own minds. To make sure we understand the question and give the appropriate answer, focus intently on the other person.  Look at him or her directly in the eyes. Hear exactly what is being spoken. Observe the speaker's body language.  This shows attentiveness, prevents distraction and increases comprehension. Try to interpret what is being said 'between the lines.' Is this a legitimate objection or an attack? Is it a simple request for more information or a test? Why is this person asking this question and what is it they really want? 

Especially in a large meeting or public setting, restate the question loudly enough for everyone to hear. This gives the questioner the opportunity to clarify the question, or more clearly articulate it the second time. In the process, you gain more time to think and formulate your answer. Also, restating allows you to take control of the question and re-phrase or neutralize it if needed.

4. Ask a clarifying question.
If the question is too broad and you want to narrow the focus before you can effectively answer, ask them a question first before you respond. This ensures you reply with a more meaningful helpful answer, plus it shows you care and are listening. For example, in the above scenario, Karen could have asked, "Which aspects of the Detroit migration concern you the most about this project?"

5. Pause and Think.

Silence, used appropriately, communicates you are in charge of the situation and comfortable in the setting. When you pause you look and sound poised and confident. Avoid the temptation to answer too quickly – even though you may have the perfect reply.  This often results in speaking too fast and saying too much. A well-timed pause to collect your thoughts tells your brain to slow down. It also helps you organize and prioritize the content of your answer.

6. Use an organized structure.

In addition to anxiety, another key reason we freeze or go blank when placed on the spot is because so many ideas begin to stream through our minds at once. Avoid verbalizing that stream of consciousness (also known as rambling, or winging it). Remember, the questioner does not want or expect you to give a speech on the subject. What they do want is a clear concise answer with just enough supporting information to satisfy their concern. This requires on-the-spot structure. Limit yourself to two, no more than three key points with a statement of evidence under each. For example, here's how Karen could have responded to her CEO:

"Yes, Bob, I do recommend we migrate our current systems to the new platform. There are three main reasons why this transition will successfully avoid your Detroit concerns: First, the new platform features 99% defect free software…" (give one or two statements of supporting evidence).
"Second, it integrates seamlessly with all our systems…
And third, our migration strategy ensures no downtime for our customers…"
By focusing on two or three main points, and giving just the right amount of supporting evidence, you sound confident, clear and concise.

7. Summarize and Stop.
Conclude your response with a quick summary statement and stop. Most likely, a brief period of silence will follow as listeners are absorbing your message. Resist the common error of filling this silence with more information. If you ramble on with more details, you may end up causing confusion, belaboring the point, or opening up a can of worms. Here's how Karen could have summarized:  "So Bob, in summary, I do hear and appreciate your concerns; however, my team and I have thoroughly reviewed the challenges of the Detroit migration, and we're confident the plan for our division will succeed. With the new bug-free software, seamless integration, and customer uptime, our strategy will deliver all the benefits outlined in the proposal and ensure the success of our company and customers."
Thinking on your feet means staying in control of the situation. Remember to relax your body and breathe deeply. Listen actively to the questioner. Repeat their question if necessary, and ask them a question if necessary to narrow the focus. Use the reflective pause to aid clear calm thinking. Then, when you're ready to speak on the spot, be sure to apply a solid structure – limit your answer to three key points with brief supporting evidence under each. Summarize your points and stop. By practicing these simple steps, you will come across as a confident, credible, and trustworthy expert who knows how to think on her feet and speak on the spot.

Darlene Price
is the president and cofounder of Well Said!, Inc., a training and consulting company specializing in high-impact presentations and effective communication. She has coached thousands of executives and professionals at companies such as AT&T, IBM, Macy's, Microsoft, Motorola, UPS, and Xerox, among others and is the author of Well Said: Presentations and Conversations that Get Results. www.wellsaid.com


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How to improve your eyesight naturally


  • Antioxidants such as Vitamin A, Vitamin E and C have been proven to reduce the risk of eye diseases.  Particularly, lutein and zeaxanthin are natural antioxidants which play the role of natural sunglasses. They are concentrated in the macula region of your eye and they protect you from damaging UV light and oxidative damage. The best food sources of lutein and zeaxanthin arekale, spinach, chard, parsley, chicory, collards and other leafy green vegetables. You can also find them in pumpkin, squash, broccoli, brussel sprouts, and peas.
  • Vitamin D can drastically Improve Your Eyesight. Consequently, Vitamin D deficiency leads to vision problems. Studies on  laboratory mice have revealed that six weeks of vitamin D supplementation led to reduced inflammation of the retina and drastically improved vision. Besides getting Vitamin D from the Sun, you need to consume foods rich in fat soluble vitamins such as organ meats. This might shock you, but wearing sunglasses can prevent you from getting proper sunlight which effects different processes in the body (just saying).
  • Omega-3 Fatty Acids help protect optic nerve disorders such as glaucoma. Did you know that Eskimos have a much lower rate of glaucoma than any other people because of their high intake ofOmega-S Fatty Acids. After all, they eat a lot of fish. Omega-3 is a tricky one: it’s called essential fatty acid because your body can not produce it on its own, it has to be acquired through food. By the way, this is one of the reasons to breastfeed because Omega-3 fatty acids are found in breast milk.  The best sources of Omega-3 food are salmon, sardines, herring, and tuna.
These are just a few examples of natural alternatives that will improve your eyesight. As I said earlier, glasses and contact lenses will worsen your eyesight overtime, which your doctor has never probably told you (they are in the money making business too). But you can address the problem yourself because it starts with food, real food!

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Story: Mr. Educated and Mr. Wisdom



by Junaid Tahir
Several years back Mr. Taleem Yafta (The Educated Person) was very famous for his knowledge and good speech. Once he was requested to deliver a lecture in a rural area. Mr. Taleem-Yafta went to his teacher Mr. Siana (Mr. Wisdom) and informed him that he will be visiting this village for the sermon.
"How will you go the Village"
"I shall take the bus and then I shall have to walk for 15 minutes in the fields to reach the village where some people will be waiting for me to take me to the rest home"
" In the fields there might be guard dogs taking care of sheep flock so they might harm you"
"Then I shall keep a stone with me to scare"
"You won't be able to control them with a stone; only one dog will run away when you throw the stone but rest of the dogs will attack you"
"Then I shall take a big wood or tree branches to scare them"
" They might be 4-5 dogs and it will be hard for you to control all of them"


Now Mr. Taleem Yafta started pondering to find another solution. Since this was his first such experience so he had no idea about the solution however he didn't want to feel insulted or ashamed in front of his teacher so he kept thinking for quite some time desperately. Then finally he asked Siana to advice him.
The teacher replied: "without disturbing any dog just go to the sheep flock boy and ask him that you want to cross the fields and he will assist you with assurance of no harm to you from any of his dogs"

For most of our problems we, the educated people, start making our own assumptions and logics to find the solutions. Sometimes we find good solution but in reality better solutions also exist for the same problem but we are not aware of those because of less knowledge or experience. Also we do not consider the real root of the issue, nor we consider taking advice from the relevant people. So in summary:

1-    
Asking questions or taking advice is not a bad thing at all as long as you are asking from your well wisher or from a stranger who is harmless.
2-    For a decision having big impact in life, it is recommended to seek advice from multiple people. This will increase your horizon and expose you to wider angle of the situation and would give you more vision to consider multiple options for better decisions.
3-    Developing Analytical Skills helps a lot. You can breakdown the big problem into smaller problems and then address them one by one, although this comment not applicable to this story)
4-    Sometimes it wise to behave like Mr. Siana to give advice to someone if you have good one. Mr. Siana empathic approach explored the mind of Mr. Taleem-Yafta first and then gave him advice. He didn't impose his comments all of a sudden instead he followed slow approach to understand the perspective of Taleem-Yafta and then shared his knowledge.
5-    Gaining knowledge is equally good but without experience, the knowledge may not be helpful. The wise approach will be to learn things (knowledge) and then analyze from multiple angles in order to have an insightful understanding of things (wisdom).

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Teamwork - The Essence Of Workplace Productivity


Can you imagine yourself working on a project all alone in the office and no one to support and assist you? The first reaction would always be, definitely not! This is because we are all bound to be a part of a cooperative group to accomplish our daily tasks at the workplace, and this is what we call 'teamwork'. Teamwork is defined as an activity or a set of inter-related activities undertaken by a number of people, in order to achieve a common objective. Whether it is a cricket ground, a movie production or the corporate world, working in teams is inevitable because the productivity ratio of multiple people, working on the same task, is always greater than one person, and the ROI is always higher.
A widely understood and interesting concept in the management jargon, extended form of the word TEAM, is:
T – Together
E – Everyone
A – Achieves
M – More
The concept of Together Everyone Achieves More itself conveys the importance of teamwork at the workplace and other places. For years now, organizational leaders have recognized the added value that comes from having employees work in formal or informal teams. However, over the last two decades, even greater emphasis has been placed on working together in a team. Team-building and team-work skills are essential in the workplace and highly desirable skills to possess when seeking a new job or promotion. Teams working at their potential generate more productivity and offer better solutions than if all of them work independently.
Significance Of Teamwork At The Workplace
Teamwork in a company or organization has great importance for more than one reasons. Companies, who have adopted this concept, have reported increased performance in work production. This group project approach has improved employee morale and increased input when managed correctly. The benefits of teamwork can make a positive effect on the company that incorporates this type of teamwork approach. Let us discuss the significance of teamwork in the workplace, which can benefit the employees in a number of different ways:
Sharing Workload
Working in a team has the biggest advantage of the workload getting shared amongst all the team members involved in a certain project. With work properly distributed among the employees, all dealing with their own particular task, no member of the team can feel over-burdened or extra pressurized in the overall project. A fair work distribution ensures that every person or every working unit executes the task at hand, with the best possible efficiency. The division of work, also, ensures that the work is done on time and deadlines are not extended.
Building Mutual Associations
Continuous interaction among the team members, and working in a group for the whole day, helps in building a mutual association or bond of friendship and unity among the employees. In some employees, this bond of friendship lasts for a life time. The effects of mutual associations make the work easier and goals more attainable.
Increased Work Pace
It is a fact that when people or professionals work in teams with mutual cooperation, the tasks get accomplished at a faster pace. Teamwork is one of the best ways to ensure the timely completion of any work, with the maximum possible efficiency. With many people handling a single project and doing the assigned work properly, the overall work speed increases, and the team is able to complete the project well, within the given time frame.
Learning Opportunities
While working in a team, the employees tend to learn things at a faster pace. The exposure to a team of diverse members and the knowledge of the older team members help you to grasp the new concepts quickly. At the same time, being working in a team enables the team-members to avoid mistakes and proves to be a bonus for the overall image of the team.
Lessening Risks
One of the best advantages of team-work at workplace is that the burden of responsibility is borne by all the members of the team, and it does not fall on the shoulders of just one person.
When a certain project is executed with the maximum possible efficiency of a number of professionals working together, there is a reduction in risk or committing a mistake.
First-rate Output
Most of the time, team-work ensures high quality output of an assignment or a project. The tasks carried out by a group of employees produce far greater and high quality results as opposed to the efforts of a single professional. No matter how efficient and competent an employee is, the results of his efforts are no match for the performance given out by a variety of professionals, working with similar efficiency.

A Healthy Competition
While working in teams, professionals compete with each other and try to excel in every way. At the same time, they help and assist each other in work-related as well as personal difficulties and problems. The signs of great productivity and maximum efficiency are achieved only through team-work and mutual work practices.
Mutual Creativity
While working in a team, you will never be alone while coming up with an idea; you will always have some other professionals thinking on the same lines, who might suggest  a better idea. Suggestions, advices and mutual brainstorming can help employees in generating novel ideas and bringing out the creativity in their projects.
Job Satisfaction
Team-work can be an important source of job satisfaction and professional fulfillment for employees. The reason behind it is that working in a team improves employee performance as well as makes the work enjoyable for them. This is also favorable for employee motivation and workplace enthusiasm.
Mutual Organizational Interests
When employees work in team, they automatically work for mutual organizational interests; their personal interest is subordinate to the organizational interests. This ensures that all the team members put in the maximum possible efforts, focusing on the same goal, thereby ensuring a high quality and timely output.
Overall Reputation Of The Organization
Teamwork also increases the goodwill and reputation of a company or an organization. The goodwill created by mutual cooperation of professionals in an organization, in fact, plays a highly instrumental role in bringing in more business and public trust.

Concluding Ideas
You must have noticed that the list of advantages points out to two basic facts that work, when distributed, reduces workload, and a reduced amount of work ensures optimization and efficiency. Effective teamwork in the workplace benefits the organization by increasing the individual productivity, which is important in order to achieve the targets and fulfill commitments. Also, teamwork decreases the non-productive hours, which therefore increases productivity and ensures maximum utilization of manpower. This is the reason why companies are promoting teamwork at workplaces.
For some professionals, it might be a bit difficult to adjust to a group environment, but I am sure, they will gradually start loving to work as a team as they will see themselves developing as productive employees as well as better human beings!
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Story: The House of 1000 Mirrors





There was place known as the House of 1000 Mirrors.

A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house.

He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles just as warm and friendly. As he left the House, he thought to himself, "This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it often."

In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to visit the house. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door.

When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was horrified to see 1000 little dogs growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, "That is a horrible place, and I will never go back there again."

All the faces in the world are mirrors. What kind of reflections do you see in the faces of the people you meet?

Health: Treatments for Swollen Gums




Swollen gums are often one of the first signs of periodontal or gum disease. More commonly known as gingivitis, periodontal disease is one of the leading infections suffered by Americans. According to data released by the National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research, not brushing and flossing enough is the number one cause of gum disease of which swollen gums is an early symptom. The good news is that in most cases, swollen gums are preventable

Causes

  • Swollen gums can be caused by a number of different factors, but an infection resulting from plaque build up on the teeth is the most common cause. The bacteria in the plaque trigger the accumulation of fluids and white blood cells in the area, causing the gums, or gingiva, to swell. Pregnant women, postmenopausal women, and adolescents going through puberty often experience swelling of the gums, likely due to changes in the body's hormone levels. Vitamin C, calcium, niacin and vitamin B deficiencies can also cause the gums to swell. Supplements, including vitamin D, and eating a nutritious diet that includes plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables may be all that is needed to treat gingivitis caused by nutrient deficiency.

Prevention/Solution

  • Gums can become swollen as the result of inflammation due to poor oral hygiene. Since sticky plaque at the base of the teeth is what causes the gums to swell, brushing and flossing your teeth regularly, particularly at bedtime, can help prevent plaque from forming. Proper tooth brushing technique involves moving the brush in small, circular motions. Eating and drinking from dishes, glasses and eating utensils, which have not been properly washed and sterilized also transmit the bacteria that can cause gum disease.

Home Remedies

  • Massaging swollen gums with a mixture of table salt or baking soda and a pinch of turmeric can help to relieve soreness often associated with swollen gums. Use your finger or a clean cotton swab to massage the gums at least twice each day to increase blood circulation to the area. Gargling with a solution of warm water and about ¼ teaspoon of salt is probably one of the most common home remedies for treating swollen gums. You should gargle several times throughout the day for temporary relief. Some dentists recommend gargling with a solution of half water and half 3 percent hydrogen peroxide to kill harmful bacteria in the mouth and reduce swelling. Always rinse your mouth thoroughly after gargling. You can also rub the rind of a lime on the gums or add 1 tsp. of sea salt to an 8-oz. glass of freshly squeezed lime juice diluted in water and drink. Another popular remedy is to apply a few drops of clove oil to the gums with a clean cotton swab.

Other Treatments

  • Soothe swollen, aching gums by rinsing with a mouthwash that contains essential oils in the ingredients. Echinacea, peppermint oil and chamomile tincture have anti-inflammatory properties that prevent the growth of bacteria in the mouth. One more option is to purchase toothpaste with zinc and the herb bloodroot. The alkaloids in the bloodroot help to decrease plaque formation, thereby fighting the bacteria that cause gum disease. You can also brush your teeth with baking soda, which is easier on gum tissue than the chemicals found in most commercial toothpastes. Drinking green tea is another soothing remedy for swollen gums. Compounds found in the herb may lead to less plaque formation.

Risk Factors

  • Taking certain medications can cause the gums to swell. Drugs used to treat cancer, arthritis and other conditions that affect a person's autoimmune system affect the pH of saliva in the mouth, encouraging bacteria to grow. Anticonvulsant medications, antidepressants and drugs used to treat some heart conditions can increase the risk of gum disease as well. Once these drugs are discontinued, the swelling usually diminishes. Smokers and individuals who use other tobacco products are also more likely to develop gum disease, as are people with diabetes who have a greater chance of developing any type of infection. Treatment of underlying medical conditions should prevent or slow the progression of related gum disease.

Warning

  • The same bacteria responsible for the infection that causes the gums to swell can travel from the mouth to the lining of the heart by way of the bloodstream. If an inflammation known as endocarditis results, the condition can be life-threatening. Some studies also suggest a link between gum disease and an increased risk of heart attack and stroke.
Source: ehow

Junaid Tahir 

What You Say is What You Get



Your words, your dreams, and your thoughts have power to create conditions in your life.

 

What you speak about, you can bring about.

 

If you keep saying you can't stand your job, you might lose your job.

 

If you keep saying you can't stand your body, your body can become sick.

 

If you keep saying that you are sick or ill, guess what you will stay sick or ill.

 

If you keep saying you can't stand your car, your car could be stolen or just stop operating.

 

If you keep saying you're broke, guess what? You'll always be broke.

 

If you keep saying you can't trust a man or trust a woman, you will always find someone in your life to hurt and betray you. If you keep saying you can't find a job, you will remain unemployed.

 

If you keep saying you can't find someone to love you or believe in you. Your very thought will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs

 

QUOTE OF THE DAY:
"If you look at what you have in life,
You'll always have more. 

If you look at what you don't have in life,
You'll never have enough."






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Convert PDF files to Excel, PowerPoint, Images and More from Google Drive



Google Drive is an excellent  multifunctional tool which offers a wide set of document editing possibilities, as well as cloud storage and sharing. Another unique Google Drive feature is document conversion. You can convert text from PDF files of up to 50mb in size, including scanned PDFs. To use this feature to convert your PDF file into an editable format, simply right click on the PDF and select Open with – Google Docs format.
However, if you have tabular data inside your PDF file, this is not the best option. In this case, a great solution would be to use the Google Drive converter app developed by Cometdocs.
The app is called Cometdocs PDF converter and it enables users to convert PDF files from PDF to various different formats like Excel, PowerPoint, Images, Text and more.
After you have installed the app, all you need to do is, right click on the document, choose Cometdocs PDF converter, and then choose the desired conversion format.
Your newly converted file will be waiting for you in the same folder as the original. There is no need to leave the Google Drive interface. There is a limit of five, free conversions per week, but if you need more then you can opt to upgrade.
Sign up for your free account today and give this a try!

Story: Good People Bad People




City Gate
An old man sat outside the walls of a great city. When travelers approached, they would ask the old man, "What kind of people live in this city?" The old man would answer, "What kind of people live in the place where you came from?" If the travelers answered, "Only bad people live in the place where we came from," the old man would reply, "Continue on; you will find only bad people here."

But if the travelers answered, "Good people live in the place where we came from," then the old man would say, "Enter, for here too, you will find only good people."

Reflection:

Color of this world is based on the color of your eyes, color of your glasses. The way you perceive the things; your understand, your thoughts and your experiences. Good and Bad people you will find everywhere in the world, in every country, in every society it is up to us, what we are looking for.



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Story: The Red light



Two men were in a car when they had to stop at a red signal light. The man at the steering did not say anything.
The other man said, "The time we waste at these red lights - why, a man could write a book!"
The driver still said nothing.
Finally the man beside him said, "Didn't you hear what I said?"
"No."
"How come you did not hear? I was talking".
"Whom were you talking to?"
"I was talking to God," he said. "I've been making it a practice every time I get to a red light to pray for one of my friends. It is wonderful how many folks I have on my prayer list and how many I have time to pray for in this way."




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How to Make an Awesome First Impression: 6 Powerful Tips







First impressions are important.
 
Everyone stereotypes everyone on first impression, even if we are reluctant to do it.
We all get a first impression of a new person that creates a mental image of his or her personality in our minds.
 
That image of you often lasts and can affect the relationship that follows.
 
Another thing is that we often play different roles in relationships. With our parents we play one role, with friends another, with someone we are interested in/in love with a third, when shopping for clothes in a store a fourth. And so on.
 
A good or great first impression can create a positive role in the minds of the new people we meet. When we meet them again, we are often drawn back into this role. Sometimes it happens almost unconsciously until you after a few minutes notice that you have fallen into your old role - like when you meet friends you haven't seen in years - in that dynamic once again. You may not always be drawn into that role. But if you do it sure is better to have a positive than a negative role saved for you.
 
Here are some of the things I've learned about improving first impressions. Of course, different environments like business meetings with suits and ties or parties with colourful drinks come with different goals and expectations. So figure out what's appropriate and useful in each meeting.
1. Don't think too much.
 
First, perhaps the most important tip: don't think too much. This will help you let the conversation flow easily and you won't become self conscious and nervous. Try, as much as possible, to stay focused on the people you are talking to rather than focusing on yourself.
2. Act as if you are meeting a good friend.
 
If you just imagine that the person you will met/have just met and are talking to is one of your best friends you'll probably adjust unconsciously and start to smile, open up your body language to a very friendly and warm position and reduce any nervousness or weirdness in your tone of voice and body language. This technique is also a great help to stop over-thinking and it puts you in the present moment again. Don't overdo it though, you might not want to hug and kiss right away.
The nice thing about this is that you may also start to feel positive feelings towards this new person, just as you do with your friend when you meet him/her. This is a pretty good starting point for getting them to reciprocate and for developing a good relationship.
 
 
3. Stand and sit up straight.
 
Keeping a good but relaxed posture certainly improves on the impression one makes. Don't slouch. Sit or stand up straight.
 
4. Be positive.
 
Sometimes you can go in all positive in a first meeting. Sometimes it may not be the best approach to go in too positive as it can be seen as bit abrasive or feel like a bit too much for the other person. A better way to convey a positive attitude in a first meeting can then be to read the mood of person(s) before you start talking - by just watching them - and then match it for a short while. Then - when you have an emotional connection - you can let your positivity arise a bit more.
 
Regardless if you start out positive from the get-go or a short while into the meeting, be sure to positive. If you, for instance, start a first meeting by complaining, there's a big chance the people you meet will mentally label you as a complainer or a negative person.
 
5. Mentally rehearse before you even enter the room.
 
Visualize how great the events will unfold - see and hear it - and also how great will you feel at this meeting.
 
See yourself smiling, being positive, open and having a great time. See the excellent outcome in your mind. Then release by visualizing that it has already happened, that the meeting is over with the desired result. This is surprisingly effective and will get you into a great and relaxed mood before even stepping into the first, second or twentieth meeting.
You may want to not think much at all (tip #1) or act as if you are meeting a good friend (tip #2) or use a positive mental rehearsal before a meeting. Try them all and see which one - or combination - that works best for you.
 
6. The words you use to start the conversation with aren't always that important.
 
As long as you use some of the tips above it will usually not really matter too much what word or phrase you use to start the conversation. The words are only 7 percent of your communication. 93 percent is in your tone of voice and your body language. Sure, those numbers - that comes from a study that psychologist Albert Mehrabian did - may not always be completely accurate in a conversation.
 
But the point is; don't over-think things. A simple "Hi!" backed up by a relaxed and confident smile may do just fine.
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10 Characteristics of A Good Plan


"A good plan of today is better that a great plan of tomorrow. Look backward with satisfaction and look forward with confidence."


The following 10 characteristics will help you determine if it is a good plan or a not.

  1. Action Oriented - If people are expected to follow and execute plan activities, it must be action oriented with activities and deliverable clearly defined.  
  2. Assigned Roles & Responsibilities - If specific actions are to be taken by someone, then it should state who is responsible for it – and if they  are not available, who the alternate/backup person is.
  3. Comprehension -   When a disaster strikes, peoples thoughts can run away from them, so any instruction shave to be short simple and right to the point. 
  4. Minimal Background Material - Any background material should be kept in a single over-arching
  5. Not Everything to Everyone - It should not contain duplicate information that already exists in another plan.  Too much information is just as bad as not enough information in a disaster; people become overloaded with information and they cannot process it correctly or in a timely manner.
  6. Maintained - If the plan is years old and has not been maintained, reviewed or updated it probably doesn’t contain the best information you need. 
  7. Available - A plan can sometimes be used by someone who didn’t write or contribute to it but they’re still going to have to know where it is and have it available to them if they need it.
  8. Indexed and Cross-Referenced - The plans must be indexed and cross-reference to ensure there are  no contradictions in activity execution.     
  9. Accessible - It’s one thing to distribute plans and have them located on systems but if no one can get at them, what good are they going to do. 
  10. Recently Tested and Audited - You can add all sorts of bells and whistles to make a plan work but if the basics are not tested and do not meet compliance requirements then it is of little use. source unknown. 
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What you think of me is none of my business








"What you think of me is none of my business." – Wayne Dyer
What would your life look like if you were literally unable to worry about other people's opinions?
What a freedom that would be! You would live according to what you thought was beneficial for you and make decisions without second-guessing, over-analyzing, and shoulda-coulda-woulda-ing. You would no longer have any need for approval nor fear of disapproval.
The truth is, we don't have any need for approval. Not truly. It is our egos that crave approval and fear disapproval. The mind loves to take things very personally and attempts to gain power through approval and disapproval games. When we separate ourselves from our ego, approval and disapproval have no value whatsoever. And nothing is taken personally.
In reality, another person's thought or opinion about you is never personal, because it is never really about you in the first place. It's about them. Our thoughts about anything and everything are only about ourselves. As Byron Katie points out, what I think and what I feel is my business. What you think and what you feel is your business. When I'm worried about how you feel about me, I'm in your business. And if I'm busy living in your business, how am I present for my own business?
 

When we let go of worrying over other people's opinions, we are free to reflect on our own opinions of ourselves. Am I happy with myself? Did I make the right decision for me? Am I happy with how I treated you? Am I living in healthy and positive ways, for the highest good of everyone involved?

Living according to our own truth is one of the highest acts of self-love and self-care. And when you live according to your truth and stay in your own mental business, others will honor you and the truth you live, too, whether they agree with you or not. 



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