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Coolness Helps

Maintaining a state of inner calmness protects me from becoming a slave to my emotions. It also helps me to keep a cool head when I see others becoming heated or angry. Coolness is not to be distant or uncaring; rather it requires that I develop the deeply caring nature of a peacemaker and serve others in the best possible way.

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Wise Quotes from the book "Lift me Up" by Ron Kaufman
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Worry Creates More Problems
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You Are The Results Of Yourself
Your Guide to Never Feeling Tired Again
Your Life is Your Balance Sheet
The Ultimate Guide to Stress Management

The Role of Fathers

Quote of the Lifetime:

"My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person;
he believed in me."—


I admire fathers greatly.
Those men who become fathers take on a huge responsibility​​ to set their children on the path to a successful, well-balanced life.

Fathers often have far more of an effect on their children than they will ever truly realize.

They face the challenge of teaching good character and values to their children through modeling the traits of fatherly love, kindness, firmness, and forgiveness, and living the principles that they teach, from honesty to hard work.

Fathers have a responsibility to help their children learn work ethic, responsibility, initiative, and everything that they may need for whatever career path their children may pursue.

A father provides the first role model for their sons of how to treat a woman, how to provide for one's family, how to be a good leader and communicator.

They are also the first example to their daughters of a man who protects them, who gives them good advice and a listening ear, which gives them confidence and teaches them to respect themselves and others.

And one of the greatest gifts they can give is like the quote says, believing in their children.

It's not easy to be a dad !!!

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Strength Through Awareness

Strength Through Awareness
Kyudo Archery
An archer, dressed in elegant, traditional Japanese garb, holds a bow and arrow at a perfectly calculated angle. Gracefully, she moves her arm backwards, her stance as poised as a dancer, her gaze completely centered and secure. Calm and yet powerful, she represents the spirit of Kyudo, the Japanese practice of archery which means "the way of the bow." A martial art form that combines athleticism, technical skill and a spiritual path, Kyudo trains practitioners to put the analytic mind to rest and enter a state of consciousness known as mushin - literally, no mind. There the ego is stripped away and the true nature is revealed. It is through achieving this state that you can begin to balance your character, crafting a spirit that is potent and precise.

Archery has been a part of Japanese culture since ancient times; but it was not until a period of civil peace in the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries that Kyudo evolved into a spiritual practice, highly informed by Zen Buddhist and Shinto traditions. Practitioners wear elegant costumes, derived from Shinto tradition and are committed to maintaining composure even in times of great stress. Kyudo Master Hideharu Onuma, a late Kyudo master who together with Dan and Jackie DeProspero wrote Kyudo: The Essence and Practice of Japanese Archery, emphasized the role of building a strong spirit in the practice of Kyudo. He taught that if the spirit is strong, one will appear like a deep-flowing river, calm at the surface but with stores of hidden power.

According to the practice of Kyudo, a strong spirit is nurtured through diligent attention to your own movements and the environment that surrounds you. You must be aware of each action, concentrating not on the arrow ultimately hitting its target, but on remaining focused in each present moment. Being aware of your gaze, your posture and your stride will help engender the kind of effortless grace that leads to fluidity of mind and body.
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The Ten Rules For Being Human

Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott's Rules of Life

Rule One - You will receive a body.

You may love it or hate it, but it will be yours for
the duration of your life on Earth.

Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons.

You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "life".
Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons.
You may like the lessons or hate them, but you have designed them as
part of your curriculum.

Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons.

Growth is a process of experimentation, a series of trials,
errors and occasional victories. The failed experiments are
as much as a part of the process as the experiments that work.

Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned.

Lessons will be repeated to you in various forms until you
have learned them. When you have learned them, you can
go on to the next lesson.

Rule Five - Learning does not end.

There is no part of life that does not contain lessons.
If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here".

When your "there" has become "here" you will simply
obtain another "there" that will look better to you than
your present "here".

Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you.

You cannot love or hate something about another person
unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.

Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you.

You have all the tools and resources you need.
What you do with them is
up to you.

Rule Nine - Your answers lie inside of you.

All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth.

You can remember it if you want by unraveling the double
helix of inner-knowing.

'If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules' is essential reading if you are
interested in behaviour, relationships, communications, and human personality.

'If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules' is also commonly referenced book
in the life-coaching industry. If you are interested in making the most of your
life, and helping others do the same, buy 'If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules'.


The Hurting Of The Ego

Almost everyday or every second day we come across a situation when someone says something to us which is not very pleasurable or we chose to perceive it to be so. In either case, we feel insulted and get upset as a result. In some cases we react and display our feelings. In some, we don't. In either case, the result is a depreciation (decrease) in our happiness index.

Why does this happen? It's because you have created, attached to and identified with an image of yourself in your mind that does not match with how the other sees or perceives you, as a result of which you believe you have been insulted and you get upset.

As long as people's perception of you matches the image that you have created inside your mind of yourself, you are content with them, but as soon as the opposite happens, even if it is to a very small extent, you become disturbed, because you are attached to that image. The more the attachment, the greater the hurt, the disturbance or reaction. You could examine this phenomenon very closely, taking place inside yourself everyday. This kind of attachment mentioned above is called ego. That's why the phenomenon explained above is called in common language 'the hurting of the ego'. 

Factors That Bring Us Closer to Success

Given below are some factors that bring us closer to success:

• High self-esteem.
• Consistency.
• Courage and determination.
• Integrity and honesty.
• Self-acceptance and acceptance of others.
• Believing in what you do, regardless of external factors.
• Responsibility.
• Dedication, determination and tranquility.
• Being positive in the face of adversities (negative circumstances).
• Being consistent with your values.
• Precision in decisions and choices.
• Focus.
• Performing all tasks with love and happiness.
• Giving the maximum of yourself in everything you do.
• Creativity.
• Thoughts and actions in tune with each other.
• Appreciation and blessings (good wishes) from others.
• Gratitude toward oneself and others.

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Story: Old Parents

After his father's death, the Son decided to leave his mother at an old age home and visited her on and off.


Once he received a call from the old age home. Your mom is very serious please come and visit her.


So the son went and saw that his mom was very critical and on her dying bed.


He asked: Mom what can I do for you.


Mom replied : "Please install fans in the old age home, as there are none. Also put a fridge for betterment of food because many times I slept without food".


The son was surprised and asked : Mom, while you were here you never complained, but now you have few hours left and you are telling me all this, why?


Mom replied : "It's OK dear, I've managed with the heat, hunger pain, but when your children will send you here, I am afraid you will not be able to manage.!

Worth Pondering!!!

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Conscience - Your Great Companion

Conscience is the sense of Right and Wrong !

Nature has awarded us
with such a great tool called conscience. 
It generates positive and negative signals for the actions you perform. 

When you buy food for the hungry with sincerity,
when you give some money to an orphan with love,
when you pay the education fee for a poor student, 
when you give some money to a free services hospital,
your conscience sends you a thank you signal and you feel good about yourself which gives birth to your 'inner' satisfaction.

It is said that you don't really achieve deep happiness by spending on yourself; you get it when you spend on others !!! And even you achieve greater degree of contentment when you spare your time from your busy life, visit any orphans or widows place, hospitals and other deserving people of society and then spend your money on them.

From religious perspective, I believe that almost all of the religions have defined the principle of spending on humanity in order to get tranquility, serenity and prosperity. However, we the unfortunate people, the materialistic minds, keep calculating our money and assets several times a day which increases our greed level and eventually deprives us from peace of mind. It won't be wrong if I say that our extreme love for money and being materialistic is the real killer of our happiness.
To cope up with this, the wise people highly recommended to allocate a little portion (5% of your earnings) for the genuine causes.

While the conscience claps for our good acts, it must generate red signals for our bad acts too. And if that is not happening then something is seriously wrong in our roots of faith. Considering the fact that a clean and active conscience is the best pillow, we must empower it by more positive acts as well as with daily self audits when our head is on the pillow at the end of each day.

​ Look Inwards

We all have three eyes. Two for looking out and one for looking in. Why would we want to look in when everything is happening 'out there'? Because the treasure we seek is inside, not outside. What is treasure? Beauty, truth, peace, happiness. You already have what you seek. You already are stunningly beautiful. You are already peaceful and loving. How come you don't know this? Simple, you never look inwards, beyond superficial memories or recent experiences, so you never see your own riches. Take a moment to stop, look in and see. Don't rush. Don't search. Just look. And be aware.

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Harness Your Positive Power

A negative outlook usually leads to negative experiences, but taking an optimistic approach to life, 
and everything it throws your way, can reap dividends and lead to positive experiences. 
Some evidence suggests that being positive makes us happier, and happier people generally live longer!

Be in control of yourself
The biggest difference between people is their attitudes. 
We can be positive or negative, and this is reflected in our enthusiasm for doing things, 
or our response to certain situations. Although you can't necessarily control the things 
that happen to you, you can control how you react to them. 
For example, if an accident holds you up on your way to work, you are likely to be late 
and quite possibly very angry — but getting angry is wasted energy. 
Have a coping mechanism or strategy — just accept you are going to be late and deal with it.

Don't dwell on the past
What is gone is gone, and how you deal with the aftermath is the most important thing. 
There is no point apportioning blame, either on yourself or others. You have the power to 
change a situation and move on. It is so easy to say 'I should have done things differently' 
with the benefit of hindsight. However, if bad things have happened, look at tomorrow 
at exactly what it is — a new day — in which good things can happen, if you let them.

Get off to the right start
On waking, take some time to lie there and think about the day ahead and your feelings about it. 
Think about your attitude to each aspect of the day and consider if there is any part that you feel 
particularly negative about. If so, think about the best way to deal with the event in this situation, 
but more importantly, where possible, think about how you will manage in the future — is there a way 
of not putting yourself in this situation again in the future?

Enlist help
If there is any particular task that you really can't face alone, then enlist some help. 
There is nothing like getting someone else on board to help out to make you feel more positive 
about tackling a job — be it at home or at work. 
You could even try enlisting the help of your family — don't be a martyr and end up feeling 
miserable about your chores and responsibilities.

Be pro-active
If there are things in your day that you are truly going to struggle to be positive about, 
try and work out what is it about them that makes you feel that way. Is there anything 
you could do that could change your attitude towards it? 
If you regularly dread your commute to work, then perhaps you could consider 
a different mode of transport. 
If it is your job that is the problem, then is it perhaps time to start looking for work elsewhere.

Carry happy memories
If you are ever feeling negative, nothing quite perks you up like a happy thought. 
Think of the positive times in your life and when you were at your happiest. 
You might be able to prompt your memory and happy feelings by carrying a cherished item 
or photograph, or even by listening to a favourite song with positive associations.

Tomorrow is another day
Aside from famously being the last line in Gone with the Wind, this truism should be used in your daily approach. 
However bad your previous day may have been (and you might be feeling your previous optimism didn't pay off), 
it is worth persisting rather than letting yourself turn towards your dark side.

Thinking positively is about making a commitment to yourself to get the most out of your day. 
It is about being enthusiastic, keeping your mind focused on important things and developing 
strategies for dealing with problems. 
The best advice is to do your best each day and try not to look back at things that 
happen to you along the way — just reflect on them in a positive learning way.

Of a person's mood, Abraham Lincoln once said, 'Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be'. 
It's up to you as to how you feel, and how you act. In turn, this will affect the way in which others react towards you. 
Remember, if you always do what you've always done, then you'll always have what you've always had.

​ Story: The Shoe Box

A man and woman had been  married for more than 60 years. They had shared  everything. They had talked about everything. They  had kept no secrets from each other except that the little Old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had ​c​cautioned her husband never to  open or ask her about. 

For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but One day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said  that she would not recover. In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoe box and took it to his wife's bedside.  She agreed that it was time that he should know what was in the box.  When he opened it, he found two knitted dolls  and a stack of money totaling $95,000.
He asked her about the contents. 

'When we were to be married,' she said, 'my grandmother told me  that the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and knit a doll.' 

The little old man was so moved; he had to fight back tears. Only two  Precious dolls were in the box. She had only been angry with him two times in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with Happiness. 

'Honey,' he said, 'that explains the dolls, but what about all of this money? Where did it come from?'
'Oh,' she said, 'that's the money I made from selling the dolls.' ....