All About Relationships - 28 Practical Quotes



1.   In life you'll realize there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

2.   Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy.  If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.

3.   Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring – all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

4.   The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling.  And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it.

5.   Choose your relationships wisely.  It's better to be alone than to be in bad company.

6.   Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.

7.   Lies help no one in the long run.  So… 1) Don't say "I love you" if you don't mean it. 2) Don't say "I understand" if you have no clue. 3) Don't say "I'm sorry" if you're not. 4) Be honest with yourself and your loved ones.

8.   Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you.

9.   You know you've found true love when you catch yourself falling in love with the same person over and over again.

10.   Don't wait for the right person to come into your life.  Rather, be the right person to come to someone's life.

11.   The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.

12.   Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.

13.  Some relationships are like glass.  It's better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.

14.  Just because one person doesn't seem to care for you, doesn't mean you should forget about everyone else who does.

15.  Someone else doesn't have to be wrong for you to be right.

16.   It is okay to be angry.  It is never okay to be cruel.

17.  Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.

18.  Silence is often the loudest cry.  Pay attention to those you care about.

19.  We don't always need advice.  Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.

20.   It's not so much what you say that counts, it' how you make people feel.

21.  A silent hug means a thousand words to the unhappy heart.

22.  Don't mess with someone's feelings just because you're unsure of yours.

23.  True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don't make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.

24.  Don't choose the one who is beautiful to the world, choose the one who makes your world beautiful.

25.  If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that's been weighing it down

26.  Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.

27.   Just because it didn't last forever, doesn't mean it wasn't worth your while.

28.  Say what you mean and mean what you say.  Don't expect others to read your mind, and don't play games with their heads and hearts.  Don't tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out.  Half-truths are no better than lies.  And don't ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.



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9 Tips To Make Effective Decisions


By Junaid Tahir
Its true that you are the product of your own thoughts and decisions. Whatever you decide on daily basis, whatever you do in your routine life is directly or indirectly linked to your future. That means you are making the foundation of your destiny with your decision and actions in your routine life. So by looking at the bigger picture, it is right to conclude that decision making is critically important for your success and achievements of lifetime goals.  Given below is the list of insightful factors which you need to considere while making decisions.  Article written by Junaid.Tahir

1.     Consider the short term and long term consequences: Whether the decision is materialistic or a sensitive family matter.  You have to consider short terms and long terms benefits.

2.    Cost Vs quality if applicable. If you intend to purchase something, consider cost, quality, warranty perspectives. Usually cheep products have less life and bad quality but is not the case always. To cope up with this, define your budget and then carefully analyze all the options which are falling within your budget.
3.    Need Vs wants analysis: Are you purchasing for pleasure or it is your long term need. Remember this is a difference between pleasure and happiness. Sometimes pleasure dost not last long so you don't want to spend a lot for the sake of short time pleasure. If you are in Need of something then consider point-1 and point-2. Article written by Junaid.Tahir
4.    Consider emotions: This is quite sensitive aspect. You have to put yourself in everyone's shoes to understand his/her emotions. You don't want to hurt someone with your decision,  instead you want to keep your stake holders emotionally satisfied. Emotional Intelligence is an art; learn it by reading on internet. To understand people you have to have true sense of judging people
5.    Consider Win-Win:  A balanced approach in which everyone gains is always recommended.  
6.    Consider all options: Don't stop your brain on one idea or approach. Think about more options. Seek advice from others on different possible solutions of the given situation/problem. to the problems which need decisions.
7.    Ask for criticism: If possible ask for criticism before implementing the decision. Although it's never too late to ask for criticism even after your decision. Feedback always helps in your future.
8.    Learn to differentiate between Urgent and Important tasks. Sometimes important tasks can be delayed if they are not urgent. 
9.    Closely observe others: Think about what your friend/colleague/acquaintance did under a specific condition. A wise man always learns from the mistakes of others. Article written by Junaid.Tahir

Good decisions require good analytical skills. Read some tips here to improve your analytical skills.

Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management at his personal blog. His personal Google Group can be joined here. He is reachable at mjunaidtahir@gmail.com for any kind of suggestions and comments

Let your failures be your stepping stones!!!

​Let your failures be your stepping stones!!!​






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9 Rules for Staying Positive




By Junaid Tahir
Straight to the point, below are my 9 self-created rules in order to stray positive and live a stress free life:

1-      I must develop the power of not looking back in the past to read the old chapters of life again and again because I cannot go back to my past to fix things. Whatever has happened has happened. Now is the time to review the lessons learnt once and then focus on to improve my present and future.

2-      I have to stay away from negative souls which means I have to avoid spending time with people doing backbiting, criticising, cursing, complaining, conspiring, corrupting and complicating. (More about the 6 Cs can be read at this link).
3-      I have to stop judging others for their actions. I must mind my own business instead of interpreting their actions and commenting in negative way. Thinking and speaking about others pollutes my thoughts and steals my peace of mind.
4-      I must develop the habit of gratitude. Which means that at the end of each day I must refresh the fact that I am better than billions of the people of the world. Being healthy, not in debt, sleeping on the bed, eating 3 times a day and using internet are the great blessings billions of people don't enjoy. (Some pictures here). People possessing high level of gratitude strengthen positive powerful thoughts.   
5-      I must spend time in reading good books, visiting websites on positivity, liking Facebook pages containing quotes and reading inspirational stories on daily basis. This will help remove negative impurities from my personality and empower my positive personality trait.

6-      I must stop being explosive and reactive to people and situations. I must stay positive about other's feelings and respect their opinions because every soul is unique in thinking so I should avoid imposing my thoughts to others. I must confess the fact that I can be wrong at times so understanding other's perspective be being empathic is very important for me to avoid building stress reducing my self-positivity-index.
7-      I must be positive about my circumstances even if they are not so good. I have to understand the fact that time does not stop so I have to start taking the necessary actions to expedite the change process. One thousand plans cannot be equal to the power of one great step taken right now!!!
8-      I must of focus on spiritual awakening acts such as a) frequent attacks of smiling, loss of ability in conflicts, loss of ability to judging others, ability to react to things as they happen instead of living in fears and so on.   

9-      I must focus on improving the quality of my thoughts because quality of thoughts determine the level of peace of mind. (Reasons for Negative thoughts can be read here)


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About Author, Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management at his personal blog. His personal Google Group can be joined here. He is reachable at mjunaidtahir@gmail.com for any kind of suggestions and comments.

Feel Good Factors Technique of Stress Management

Feel Good Factors (FGF) is a mental therapy which you can use in order to overcome your stress levels up to some extent. This is a technique in which you talk to yourself about the positive things which have happened in your past or currently happening.  You trigger the sense of "feeling good" about these blessings and achievements and train your brain to divert your focus towards the positive aspects of life instead of only thinking about crisis. You remind yourself that the more you do this self talk, the higher are the chances of reducing your stress levels because FGF and peace of mind are directly proportional to each other. 

When you are in stress, you might think that you don't have anything nice to feel good about. Wrong! In fact, you can use your positive mindset and easily find good things around you to feel good about regardless of your circumstances. Remember the fact that blessings in your life fall in several categories (Social, Professional, Financial, Mental, Physical, relational, educational, technical, vocal, recreational, possession of home/car/bike and so on). So, in case you lack in one category, does not mean you are in deep crisis. There are billions of people on earth living on a lower scale than you.

While you analyze your current problems and thinking about the possibilities to resolve them, you must spare some dedicated time for FGF therapy on daily basis. Remember the fact that when you are in stress, your thought process gets impacted and does not produce the best results hence the germs of negativity need to be killed by FGF technique. The more you practice FGF, higher degree of gratitude starts developing in your brain which will result in immediate positive impact on your mental, physical and spiritual health.


 

Check out the below beautiful stanza which you can start practicing starting today:

When your head is on the pillow 
and the day is almost done
Count God's blessings
Count them one by one.


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Analytical Thinking - How to Analyze Thoughts




By Junaid Tahir


Why Should I Analyze My Thoughts:
Quality of thoughts determines the level of peace of mind. Negative thoughts result in negative acts which in turn causes distraction in emotions, unstable behavior, frequent mood swings, family complications, lack of trustworthiness, financial mistakes, professional brawls and so on. Healthy thoughts result in more positive outcomes, high happiness index, better health and so on. So all in all your thoughts are defining your present and your future.

There are several reasons for negative thoughts including but not limited to your circumstances, your brought up, financial situations, family conflicts, job and family complications. While you may not be able to fix these reasons, it is highly recommended to analyze your thoughts and mitigate the negative impact as much as possible. If you remove the impurities from your thoughts you would be able to have a positive, focused and prosperous mind.

How to Analyze My Thoughts:
If you have seen a big aquarium, you must have noticed that the fish keep wandering here and there continuously. From right to left, bottom to up, here and there; all day long. They don't seem to be getting any specific advantage while doing so. Same is the case with human mind. When your head is on the pillow, your brain starts wandering here and there. Several times it is processing the thoughts which shouldn't be the point of concern at all. Though fish do not know this but you can control your wandering of brain by picking up a specific thought/subject and ask these questions:
a)    Why am I thinking about this subject? Is this subject related to others? Why am I thinking negative about someone? I should mind my own business.  
b)    What exactly is the issue? Is this something impacting (or going to impact) me or my family? Can I define my issue/question in one sentence clearly so that I can focus on the solution?
c)    How: can I resolve this issues? Is this doable? If not, can I take advice from others?. If I have the solution then what are the steps which needs to be taken?



How Can I Improve the standard of my Thoughts:
a)    Avoid thinking about unnecessary things specially related to others. Mind your own business. Posses a focused mind.
b)    Stop comparing yourself to others. It's an insult to yourself. You are a unique soul and you are independent on your living, your decisions and your destiny.
c)    Don't think of monetary gains too much. Excessive love for money and assets is the root of most of stresses. Work on your real wealth.
d)    Develop the habit of forgiving and letting things go off. If you are keeping the grudge in your brains for longer durations, you are killing yourself. Stress is a slow poison which deepens its roots your brain and destroy your physical and mental health.
e)    Read quality quotes or articles on positivity and try to absorb the message. This will kill the germs of negativity.
f)    Practice the habit of gratitude. Stop complaining, criticizing and blaming. When a negative thought comes in, convert it to positive by looking at the positive side of the issue.
g)    Instead of thinking about your 'wants' too much, think about your needs. This will reduce the magnitude of your focus because usually needs are limited but wants are too many. Adapt simple life style as it reduces unnecessary socio-economical issues.  

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6 Cs to Avoid in Life


By Junaid Tahir:

Everyone one wants to stay happy in life but only small fraction of people put efforts on the factors which can bring happiness. Some factors are required to work on and some factors to be avoided... In this article 6 factors are discussed which are recommended to be avoided in order to achieve extreme heights of happiness and peace of mind.

Conspiring
This is one of the extreme ethical crimes I can think of. You conspire when you plan secretly (alone or with others) against someone to do something which is harmful and unlawful. In the court of humanity this is a punishable act and nature always takes revenge form you for the things you do against humanity. 

Criticizing:
While healthy criticism helps improve things but most of the time you criticize with no clear positive intention. The more you criticize this way, the more you pollute your own mind and build up negative powers which back fires in terms of added stress due to negativity. Also criticizing is an indication that you are not part of solutions instead  you are part of problems. So if you would like to live a happy life then no negative criticism please. 
Cursing:
Cursing is opposite of blessing which means the one who curses is away from blessing.  Both cursing and blessing are indirectly proportional to each other. The more you curse people the more you make yourself away from them and also from the blessings of Almighty. Control your thoughts to control your tongue. Daily audit at the end of each day will help improve your habit of cursing. This will improve your mental health and strengthen your inner powers. 
Complaining:
Your complaining attitude reduces your social circle. When you start complaining about circumstances, about people around you and so on, you give up your energies to strive and eventually you weaken your relations with others and also lose your grip on your goals. This act degrades you in your social group and eventually you lose respect. Try speaking positive or stay silent. 
  
Complicating
Mind your own business. If you can't help don't complicate their problems. Don't confuse people by raising complicated questions.  Speak up only if you have a positive advice and neat intention. Remember, giving advice is a matter of honesty so put yourself in others' shoes; listen empathically and then advice in the best interest of your companion.   

Corrupting:
Corruption is a phenomenon of moral or economical deviation from the ideal. Corruption is a world-wide social disease which has spread like jungle fire and impacting millions of lives every day consequently polluting every society. May it be financial corruption, Ethical corruption or Relationship corruption, it is consistently polluting societies aDnd families. The more you earn with illicit acts the more you push yourself away from the state of contentment. Illegal acts always have reaction exactly equal or more than the magnitude of the actions you do. 

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Effective Documentation Management System


By Junaid Tahir

I have observed in several organizations I interact with that respective management overlook one of the critical aspects of management that how their employees are managing data and how employees are performing day to day activities logging. I have observed that instead of centralized data management, each individual updates his/her own self-created excel file with poor formatting which prevents him for any kind of collaboration, version control, or advanced report generation. The issue becomes more prominent when the data becomes bigger and bigger over the course of time. Due to disorganized data management approach, the managers of these companies are under consistent crisis. This is where Documentation Management System plays vital role.  So let's understand this in more detail:

document management system (DMS) is a controlled system used to track and store electronic documents, records and other activities of the organization. It is usually also capable of keeping track of the different versions modified by different users (history tracking).


Why Documentation Quality is important:

o             Correct, Complete, Current and Consistent Information is critical to business success.
o             Team Collaboration so that all teams can work in sync with each other.
o             Reference for Management: Sr Managers can see high level reports at any point.
o             Error Reduction: Multiple people can identify possible typo mistakes.
o             Risk Identification. High End Analysis with support of Micro Level Records.
o             Seamless handover to new team or when any employee goes on vacation.

Key Features of DMS:

o             Always up-to-date: All team members to keep it up-to-date to ensure fresh data.
o             Transparent & Clear.
o             Professional Naming Convention to identify the purpose of the database/document.
o             Version Control (Approve, Review and Update Control
o             Dynamic Summary Generation (General & Specific Reporting)
o             Symmetric & Uniform (All teams should follow same pattern/format) for off-line
o             Automatic Work Flow.
o             Control on Multiple Record.
o             Control on Missing Record (Base Line Reference)
o             Change Control (What was changed, when, why, how and by whom?)
o             Risk Management Report Automation (Risk Assessment and Risk Control) – Automatic Pivots and graphs to highlight critical risks, delayed milestones etc.

With these points I believe you can develop a concrete database management system for your organization. If you would like to seek advice, feel free to drop me a line and I shall be glad to help you with J

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Awakening Yourself From Within



In human history we  have never been richer, had more, created more or inspired greater technological advances. And yet, we have never been so unhappy.
The World Happiness Report (2) shows people in developed continents such as Europe, North America, Australia, and New Zealand are less happy than they were in 2005. This is despite increased economic benefit. The Happy Planet index 2014 (3) shows that countries such as Indonesia are happier than any 'developed' nation.
It is all too obvious from these studies that wealth and riches do not bring happiness or fulfillment. There needs to be a change in how we perceive life and what we want from it. If following our current path of ongoing economic development in a bid to achieve personal and national happiness is not working, then what would work? What path can we follow? And how do we find it?
Throughout human history, there have been teachers of consciousness who have led many to a higher level of happiness than most of us will ever experience, because most of what we seek is transitory. It does not last.

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Success in business is temporary and disappears when we die. A triumph on the sporting field lasts just a moment, the focus turning quickly to the next game or the next season. A relationship can be wonderful one moment and disastrous the next. Children grow and leave their childhood home. A beautiful sunset fades. A blooming flower dies.
To find a higher level of consciousness requires you to step away from what you think you know and allow yourself to experience what is not available in the normal world of consciousness.

Yet, when you truly open your eyes, you will find the majority of the world is asleep, their consciousness running on auto-pilot.
Some people rise, have a shower, eat breakfast, dress and fall out the door, into the car, or onto the bus and go through the day with no thought of what they are doing or why. They are unaware and asleep. This is the sad reality.
If you wish to seek true happiness there is only one part of the universe that is constant. That is the spirit inside you.
This may seem strange to some but if you are ready, the idea of rediscovering your spirit will ring true for you. You will know you want to awaken. If you do not, you are still under the influence of the one thing that creates the unhappiness that you experience around you everyday.
You do not know this thing that influences you because it casts a mirror that makes it appear as if it is the external world that is at fault.
If only that job would be less busy, if your son or daughter would obey you, if that beloved person would return your love, if only problems would stop, if only money would start to flow… then you would be happy.
It appears certain to you that the root of your unhappiness is caused by factors outside of yourself. This is the delusion.
The true cause of your unhappiness and your suffering is within the part of you that makes the choices that puts you in these situations to begin with. This part of you does not want you to awaken or know the joy that every moment of life can bring.
Learning to discover, understand, and know this part of you is the first step to awaken.
So, to begin with, you must find and recognise your ego.
Your journey demands that you know your ego, so you can recognise it and become free of it. Many of us do not even know it exists and have never really experienced freedom from it.
Likewise attempting to describe your true spirit to the unconscious is like describing a beautiful desert island with sparkling turquoise waters and plentiful fish to a nomadic desert dweller. It may sound wonderful but they have no concept of what it is really like.

Living without the ego is pure joy.  No matter what happens, your life can be one that holds no stress or fear or anxiety.
This is not controlled by will, it simply does not arise.