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​Dealing with Angry person!

The proverb says not to make friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man: The warning is very poignant. Angry people are exceptionally difficult to deal with.
 
However at the same time you cannot avoid an angry person. Perhaps you're married to a person who has a short temper. Maybe one of your children has a short fuse.

Dealing with an angry person is problematic at best. You need to be aware of several things.
 

YOU CAN NOT RATIONALIZE WITH AN ANGRY PERSON

Even don't even try. When someone is angry, you won't be able to rationalize with them. It is not something you can do when they are angry.

Angry people don't listen. In most cases they didn't even listen to what the other person had to say. It is with little regard to what the other person was saying.

BE CAREFUL ABOUT TRAPPING OR EMBARRASSING AN ANGRY PERSON

Anger is a defensive measure that people retreat towards when some fear, conscious or subconscious, is evoked. People will defend an indefensible position out of anger.

MAKE AN EFFORT TO CALM AN ANGRY PERSON DOWN

Saying nothing may irritate them. Walking away may frustrate them. Trying to calm them down may only make them feel that you are patronizing them.

So how do you calm someone down?

If you can make a person feel that the problem is being addressed, they may calm down. For many people, it takes time to calm down. For others the sudden shock of how irresponsible or embarrassing they must appear to others will help calm them down. It takes a bit of skill, imagination, and ingenuity, but it can work.

NEVER GET ANGRY YOURSELF

Two angry people are like hand grenades threatening each other. Anger only fuels anger. You can't win a fight if you get angry.

Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Try to understand the source of their anger. Shove it aside and try to focus on solutions. Trying to out 'rage' each other is like adding oil to fire. It doesn't put out the fire