When
you go for any interview, the most basic thing you have to remember is
that the interviewer also feels that he is interviewed by you. He also
wants your good opinion like you who wants his good opinion. So think
very positively within you about the interviewer, feel admiration for
him and then that face of yours will perform the task of getting the
positive atmosphere. What any employer today wants most is whether you
bring the needed positive atmosphere into the organization; whether you
contribute to the team energy or synergy. Your
expertise is one of the plus points. But your positive presence is the
most important point. Your presence must help the creativity of the
colleagues. The habit of assuming mainly positive things about the
person is the road to your and your team’s success.
But
suppose the other person is totally negative. Then if possible avoid
him. But suppose you cannot avoid him. Then remember Skinner’s theory of
reinforcement. A person repeats what he has done only when he gets what
he aims at. If he sees success, then he will persist. So, open your
fangs and simply dissect him till any idea of success and reinforcement
vanishes from him. Never give reinforcement to a negative person. Never,
never, never underestimate your fighting capacity. Become the ant that
never gives up. An ant was Bismarck’s guru.
SO
ALWAYS SMILE, WHETHER YOU ARE CONVERSING OR QUARRELING OR FIGHTING.
Remember that any bitter person who succeeds temporarily ultimately
cowers, because bitterness corrodes one’s personality. A person who
gives biting statements is wasting his life in cultivating bitterness
only and he will be the ugliest person ultimately to everyone. Never
admire a man with a scowl on his face. You lose your own self esteem as a
result.
But
when you go for an interview or meet new people or friends or
relatives, always assume that the other person is good and noble. Then
your body language takes over. After all 67 per cent of
communication is by body language and the remaining is a mixture of good
and bad feelings in editing, censorship etc—the realm of words. Your
body cannot tell a lie. But you also cannot tell truth completely by
means of words—you censor, edit, control, and speak less or too much.
The best method of communication is just smiling after deliberately
thinking that the other person is noble. Silence with a positive smile is most successful communication.
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