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Three Components Of Change

Three Components Of Change


In order to bring about a fundamental (major) change, three elements need to exist simultaneously:
 
Focus: A clear sense of purpose in life and clear goals to guide your life's activities.

Will: The motivation and enthusiasm to introduce and sustain the actions.

Capabilities: The skills and abilities to fulfill your purpose and goals.

But where do you start? There is definitely a right place to begin and that is with your focus. Why? Because if your focus is powerful and based on a very deep sense of your inner most purpose in life, then that will provide you with the will power you need to keep going. Then if you have a clear driving focus in life and lots of will power to back it up, you will soon develop the skills and capabilities you need to make it happen. You may not have them yourself, but your enthusiasm and passion will certainly inspire others who do have them to join you.

Will You Be In Your Children's Memories Tomorrow?

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To be in your
children’s Memories Tomorrow,
You have to be
In their life TODAY
So
Spend as much time with them
As much as you
Spend staring at this screen daily…

Story: Two Truck Drivers



There was an older more experienced truck driver who had been all over the country in his career.

One day, he had to train a new, much younger, inexperienced driver. The old one allowed the younger one to drive for awhile. The young one drove the big 18-wheeler for about five hours and became very tired and asked the trainer to take over for a while.

The trainer drove for 10 hours and was not even tired as he had done this for years. The young man was flabbergasted and asked the old man how he could drive for hours and not get tired.

The old man asked him, "What do you do in the morning just before you leave your house?"

The young man replied, "I kiss my wife good-bye and tell her I am going to work."

The old one said, "That is your problem."

The young man asked, "What do you mean, problem?"

The old man said, "When I leave in the morning, I kiss my wife good-bye, but I don't tell her I am going to work, I tell her I am going for a drive in the country."

Everything is a matter of attitude.

Gossips- Passing Along Secrets



 

Passing along secrets, in today's media-rich society, feels natural. We are so bombarded by celebrity news, political rumors, and unsubstantiated insider information that gossip, on large and small scales, has become culturally acceptable. Personal information about others is often regarded as "too good not to share." Gossip, however, is far from harmless. Repeating something heard through the grapevine, telling a story full of unconfirmed information, or betraying a confidence can ruin reputations, destroy friendships, and cause deep emotional wounds. Many times, the gossiper has no hurtful intent and doesn't realize that their actions could have negative consequences.

Gossip is perpetuated for many reasons. Some people use gossip to turn attention away from their own inadequacies, while others use it to grow closer to their chosen group by excluding outsiders. And for many it is simply a form of cruelty that holds few ramifications. But gossip has never helped a victim, solved a problem, or lifted someone's spirit. More often, it is an assault on an individual's character and an invasion of privacy. Words become distorted as they travel from person to person. Luckily, we each have the power to thwart gossip by not believing the rumors we hear and by not passing discrediting information along. If you hear something negative about someone who is not present to defend themselves, ask yourself if what you're hearing is true or based on false information. Instead of accepting the truth of the statement, ask the subject directly. And, if you feel tempted to share the information, ask yourself what purpose sharing the information would serve.

Talking about someone or an occurrence does not always mean you are engaging in gossip. Sometimes, sharing positive information can help a person or build up their reputation. Most gossip is easy to identify because the information involved is hurtful or assumes a great deal. It is an unfortunate fact of life that people tend to spread information, but that information can stop with you. As with most things in life, it may take some practice to get out of the gossip habit. If you feel yourself slipping into gossip, stop, and try to say something nice instead.

How to Develop Kids' Self Control Without Scolding Them

If you were sitting in a room with a 5 layer chocolate cake and told not to touch it, could you resist the temptation? Would you sniff it? Maybe even skim some of the icing off with your finger? According to Laura Markham Ph.D. of Psychology Today1, "Only 30% of 4 year olds can manage their emotions, anxiety and impulses to resist temptation." Why should that matter? How you deal with self-control when you are four will determine whether or not the adult you can resist the urge to taste that chocolate cake.
Self-control is also known as self-restraint, or "the ability to regulate one's thoughts and behavior in the face of temptation and impulses," according Wikipedia2. Self-control mastered in childhood prevents problems arising in adulthood.

Why it's difficult to learn self-control

In today's instant-gratification society, anything you need is at the touch of a finger. You switch on the television with a remote. You don't have to wait for your favorite program, you stream it. You buy passes to by-pass the long lines at amusement parks. Microwaves heat your food up instantly, and when your out and hungry, you grab some fast food. Fast, convenient and no waiting, but at what cost?
Kids enter a world where waiting is minimal and tempers in these volatile times run high. People scream at each other on television, from their cars- and even in public. They rage at their governments by destroying other people's property. Kids grasp concepts by example and society provides a poor one. However, scolding your child for their lack of self-control will do no one any favors, as this necessary soft skill needs to be learned.

Why learning self-control is essential for kids

Kids need to start learning self-control when they are young. The prefrontal cortex of the brain, the part used to regulate self-control3, develops slowly in children and they, in turn, have the ability to take in this soft skill in stages in accordance to their growth.
A toddler, though unable to understand complex issues to them like waiting for cookies to finish baking in an oven, can be distracted, setting a foundation for building self-distraction as a coping mechanism for self-control. However, a five year old can sit in a time out to calm down and know why they are in that time out, and a teen can be taught to think twice about a reaction if the consequences mean losing that Friday night at a friend's house.4

How to help your kids learn self-control

1. Be a Good Role Model

You are the best model for your child to learn self-control. They will take their cues from how you act and react to situations. Do you lose your temper in the car and shout at other drivers? Keep calm and your child will learn to do the same.

2. Develop Trust Bonds

In order for kids to learn self-control, they need to know you have their back. If they already know they have dinner at home at 6, they will feel less compelled to grab that candy at 5:30. They trust you will feed them at 6, and having that sense of trust is essential in developing self-control. Provide a safe, warm, loving environment in which they can learn and thrive.

3. Teach Through Games

Younger kids learn self-control techniques best through play5. Games like Red-Light Green-Light or musical chairs teach them that have to control themselves. They have to stop themselves from grabbing that chair while the music is still going, or stop and freeze when they hear that "red-light" command. They are playing yet learning vital impulse control at the same time.

4. Use Delayed Gratification

Waiting is essential for self-control. Bake with your kids. With a timer to set- they have anticipation. The cake/cookies/brownies will be done by X amount of time. This helps them practice delayed gratification. You can use this too by not buying them something they badly want and tell them they must wait for their birthday or Christmas.

5. Tell Them About Consequences for Actions

Teaching kids they have consequences for their actions is essential in self-control. Instead of scolding them for their bad behavior, tell them you are taking away their electronics/favorite toy/ for X amount of time because of the behavior. Yelling does no one favors and only escalates the situation, but losing television privileges for a week will make them think twice next time.

6. Use Meditation

Recently, some schools have adopted the practice of using meditation to help with lack of behavior issues, instead of suspension and detention and their successes are astounding6. Much like a time-out, but focused, meditation helps children to master self control, gain inner calmness, and alleviate anxiety. Regular meditation also teaches the practitioner not to react impulsively to situations.
You can start your kids mediating- a minute a day to begin with. There are audios available for mindful meditation- guided with a voice to help kids think about their life, or just use soft music or silence. Have them focus on their breath- breathing in and out. And set a timer. Sometimes using an object to direct their focus on helps as well, like a candle or a rock.
Save your larynx, and stop yelling at the kids for their lack of self-control. Instead teach them this essential soft skill, by incorporating lessons of impulse control, delayed gratification, consequences into your daily life. Be a good role model and develop a trust bond and begin meditating. It will make your life easier and less stressful and help build a stronger foundation for your kids and their future- and maybe even help them resist the temptation to eat that chocolate cake!

References

[1]Psychology Today: 8 Steps to Help Your Child Develop Self Control [2]Wikipedia: Self Control [3]Standford.edu: Self Control and The Developing Brain [4]KidsHealth.org : Teaching Your Child Self-Control [5]Parentingscience.org: Teaching Self Control [6] Newsweek.com: The Movement of Meditation Replacing Detention in Schools

Stop Complaining Start Achieving

By Junaid Tahir

Your complaining attitude takes you away from your success. In fact it won't be wrong if I co-relate this with Newton's law that complaining and achieving success are equal in magnitude but opposite in direction. This means that the more you complain about your circumstances the more you move away from your destination and vice versa.

On top of that, if you keep complaining, you will give birth to two more mental diseases which are 'blaming' and 'criticizing'. When you don't like your circumstances you start finding faults in people around you and then you start blaming and criticizing them for your failures. Hence all three diseases, complaining, blaming and criticizing strengthen their roots in your brain and eventually this negative attitude becomes your personality trait.
When you complain you waste your precious time. You build negative energy which piles up in your brain stealing your peace of mind leading to chronic psychological disorders hence it's a concrete physical, mental and emotional loss which is no way closer to any kind of benefit.
On the contrary, if you are a hard working soul, you believe in your skills instead of luck. You believe in the  power of Now. You believe in power of making things happen instead of waiting for things to happen. Your analytical skills give you the luxury to break down the bigger problem into smaller problems and then you start fixing each problem one by one, moving near to your ultimate goal slowly and steadily. 

So now is the time to decide whether you would like to live as a loser by complaining, blaming and criticizing OR live like a successful chap, the one who doesn't waste the time by looking in the past, the one who does not have a negative thought process, the one who is visionary and the one who once make a commitment then focuses on it all the way till the task is accomplished.  
Complaining causes draining of energies and you are in position to lose your powers in this world of competition. 

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About Author: Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a passionate blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness, stress management and life enhancement subjects. His articles can be read Here

Hard to Achieve Success? Here is the Answer.

Why is it so hard to achieve any success in life?

Here's the answer: Because your HABITS are a thousand times more powerful than your PLANS. And if your plans are not coming to fruition, it simply means you have certain ingrained habits that actually KEEP you from reaching your goals.

That means just one thing:
If you want to achieve your goals, don't work on your PLANS. Instead, spend time and effort to re-wire your HABITS. If you don't change your habits, then you won't change your future!

Microsoft Launches the $1000 Surface Laptop for Students

Following up on the announcement of the Windows 10 S, Microsoft revealed an all new Surface Laptop to go along with it.

It's hard to tell what folks at Microsoft were thinking when working on the Surface Laptop. The $999 device is marketed as a "for school" laptop competing against Chromebooks; which is ironic considering that Chromebooks go for around $200.
What's more, it runs on Windows 10 S only, further limiting its use case and target audience.
This isn't the first time Microsoft tried something like this, the first Surface tablets ran Windows RT, a barebones version of Windows 8. There are major limitations in Windows 10 S. You won't be able to download and run any program on your $1000 Surface Laptop for example.
The Redmond company is adapting the Surface strategy with the Laptop as well.
What Microsoft does is that it releases an in-house device with top of the line specifications and features. The OEMs then follow suit with their own take on the device (HP Spectre x360, Acer Switch for example). This seems to be the case with the Surface Laptop as partner OEMs already have laptops starting at $189 made for students.

Specifications and Features

On the spec sheet, the Surface Laptop features a 3:2, 2,256 x 1,504px resolution and 13.5-inch touchscreen display. The keyboard (and most of the area around the keyboard) is covered in Alcantara, a suede-like material (also found on the Surface Pro 4).
You get a conventional USB 3.0 port, a mini DisplayPort, and a Surface power connector. There is no USB type-C slot on the Surface Laptop. It weighs in at 1.25 KG.
The $999 version will get you an i5 (7200U), 4GB of RAM and a 128GB SSD. Top of the line model of the Laptop will come with an i7, 16GB RAM, 512GB SSD and will cost $2,200.

Compared With MacBooks

According to the head of the Surface department at Microsoft, Panos Panay, the Surface Laptop is faster than a MacBook Pro and lighter than a MacBook Air.
Pre-orders are open, the Surface Laptop starts shipping from June 15th.
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Today's Inspiration: The Diamond

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A Diamond

Is just a piece of Coal

That’s done well under Pressure..

So

if you are experiencing Pressure in your life

Don’t worry

It’s just a process

To turn you to a DIAMOND..

Whatsapp Adds New Feature to Pin Your Favorite Chats



Every day, billions of people use Whatsapp. Unfortunately, being part of Whatsapp also means dealing with those annoying groups where you get a million notifications if you are busy and aren't keeping up. Finding out chats that are important takes a bit of scrolling if you're part of a lot of groups but thankfully, this problem is solved now, at least in the the upcoming Whatsapp beta.
The latest version of WhatsApp beta now includes a new chat pinning feature. As the name suggests, it allows you to pin individual chats or groups at the top of the chats tab. If you have certain groups or chats that you frequently use, you can pin them at the top. For now, you can only pin 3 different chats in the latest beta version. It's still better than nothing.

How To Pin Chats

To pin a chat, tap and hold it and you will see a 'pin' option next to archive and mute options at the top of your screen. If you try pinning more than 3 chats you will get a message from WhatsApp telling you that you can't pin any more chats.

WhatsApp Stories

Earlier Facebook added the popular SnapChat Stories feature to WhatsApp. Instagram got the feature a while ago.
 
It works the same way in that you can add a caption (the story) to an image which sticks on your profile for up to 24 hours.
You can try out the new feature for yourself by downloading the beta APK here (for Android users only). Proceed with caution as beta versions of any app are prone to having bugs, glitches and other issues.

Survive or Thrive?

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Life is just not to Survive
But to Thrive with
Some Passion ,Some Compassion; Some Humor..
Weed the Unpleasant
Experience and Memories
By planting
Positivity and Love of today..

Wisdom: No Solutions? No Problem

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When you find no solution
to a problem ,
It’s probably not a problem
But
A truth to be accepted.
So
Accept the truth and plan your moves
to resolve the problem
in your own way..

HACKS FOR A HEALTHIER LIVING

Healthy life is more important than a healthy economic life. Here are few hacks for a healthier living.
 
1) Keep hydrated
Water makes up two-thirds of the body, acts as a solvent, a carrier of nutrients, temperature regulator and a body detoxifier. Maintain hydration to maintain the vitality and energy levels, including mental alertness. Consume enough water to keep your urine a pale yellow colour throughout the day.
2) Have home-cooked mealsOutside food makes our diet very unhealthy. Home-cooked food is way better and will help in maintaining a healthy diet.
3) ExerciseThe best exercise and fitness advice is that you need to find something you love doing. Whether it’s boxing, swimming, or playing a sport. Pick an activity you really like and start making it a part of your daily routine or at least a few times per week.
4) Get enough sleepSleep has great effects on our lifestyle and health. It optimizes mental and physical energy, and optimal levels of sleep are linked with reduced risk of chronic disease and improved longevity. You could start going to bed early for achieving optimal levels of sleep.

 Try These and Stay Healthy.

Source: MyHealthTipss
 

Never Say You Have Failed

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Never say you have failed
Until
You have reached your last attempt,
And Never say
it’s your last attempt
until you have succeeded..

Hashtags 101: How to Create Your Own


Many new Twitter users have a love/hate relationship with hashtags. Usually, when you start out on Twitter, you hate them – they’re confusing, overused, and they look funny. But as you become more comfortable with tweeting, you begin to realize that they are actually quite useful – they connect you to vast and varied communities you would otherwise never have discovered.
If you’re interested in creating your own hashtag, whether for your business, your personal brand or your celebrity fan club, this quick how-to guide will get you started.

Hashtags are a community-created way of organizing information on Twitter. And because of their grassroots origin, they are still a very open, egalitarian tool: anyone can create and use any hashtag.
If you’re brand new to hashtags, take a look at this hashtag etiquette guide before venturing out into Twitter’s Wild West.
Why create your own hashtag?
Businesses can use hashtags for a variety of reasons. If the hashtag is already in use by a community, it’s can be a great tool for networking, lead generation and more. But businesses may choose to create their hashtag for a number of reasons, including:
  • Encouraging event participants to live tweet
  • Hosting a Twitter chat
  • Hosting an online Q&A
  • To promote a product launch
  • To show support for a charity or cause
The list is as long as there are reasons for using Twitter itself. Be sure that you understand what purpose your hashtag will serve before your create it.
4 steps to creating your own hashtag
Ready to jump in and create your own branded hashtag? It’s not overly complicated. Here’s how:
  1. Brainstorm. You want this hashtag to represent your brand and the way you will be using it – but you also want it to be short and sweet. Come up with a list of several potential hashtags that could be used based on your business name, event, etc. Including the year works for hashtags that will be reused yearly (for annual events, for instance), and including “chat” somewhere in the hashtag is common for weekly or monthly Twitter chats.
  2. Research. Next, check to see that your ideal hashtag isn’t already in use. Since you’re looking to create a community around your hashtag, you want to start fresh – you don’t want to encroach on another community’s space. Use Twitter’s search to see if and when your hashtag has ever been used, and go down the list you created in the brainstorm until you find a suitable, quiet hashtag.
  3. Promote. Your hashtag is going to be pretty quiet if no one knows about it! Tell your ideal community – your followers, your business connections – that the hashtag exists, and let them know how you will be using it. You can send an email blast, write a blog post, put up signage in your store… use whatever promotional tools are available to you to get the word out.
  4. Monitor. Once people know about your hashtag, it’s time to use it! Make sure you monitor the chatter, and chime in whenever it makes sense. If you’re hosting a weekly chat, monitor and use the hashtag during that hour or so each week. If it’s an event hashtag, be sure to monitor it in the days and hours leading up to the event, during the event itself, and post-event for photos and feedback. Your community is looking to you to be the central pillar, so make sure no tweet goes unnoticed!
(Hashtag image via Shutterstock) Article Source: adWeek