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Steps to Help You Minimize Fear

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"When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
What is holding you back from trying new things and improving your life in big or small ways in your daily life?
When you boil it down it is most often not about anything outside of you. Or that is at least not the biggest reason why you feel paralyzed. It's the fear that gets to you.
It holds you back from trying something new for lunch, a new place for the evening out or a new hobby because you feel somewhat afraid that you'll have a bad experience. So you stick to your usual routine.
It holds you back from asking someone for a date or number because you don't want to risk being rejected or looking like a fool in front of people. So you don't take the next step.
You stay where you are and new directions in your life remain unexplored.
This is of course very human. But fear doesn't have to stop you from exploring life.
Now, let me share what I do to minimize my fear and to be able to move from feeling overwhelmed or paralyzed into taking action and moving forward.
1. What is the worst that could happen?

I like this very practical exercise as step number one.
So ask yourself this question. Really think about. Don't just think about it for a few seconds. Sit down with a pen and piece of paper, your laptop or cellphone. Write it all out and think about what the realistic worst-case scenario would be.
Then write down a plan for how you can come back from such a scenario.
This step brings clarity, defuses fuzzy fears and helps you realize that you can most often bounce back pretty quickly even if the worst-case scenario somehow becomes reality.

If that only works to a degree move on to the next step…
2. Share your fear with someone.

By sharing your fear you can relieve inner pressure. By just keeping it on the inside it's easy to build it up into this massive nightmare and extremely dangerous thing.
By sharing and by getting some input from a levelheaded friend or family member he or she can help you to alleviate the fear and inner pressure. And you can gain a much healthier perspective on things again.
If you don't have someone to share it with or if that only works partly too then move on to…
3. Accept the fear.

It is a natural impulse to try to deny the fear when shows up in your life. Perhaps you try to not think about, you try to push it away. Or you tell yourself that you need to focus like a laser beam on the positive.
I have found that in many cases it is actually better to just accept that fear – or whatever is left of it after having worked through step #1 and #2 – is here right now (although it can be hard to sometimes convince your brain that this is a good option as it wants to deny or reject what is).
By accepting that you feel this way you stop feeding more energy into the fear and you stop making it strong. After a few minutes of fully taking in this uncomfortable feeling and accepting it then it starts to lose steam. It just seems to float away and you feel more open and relieved feelings bubbling up within.
4. Tap into curiosity and focus on the upsides.

By now, most of those fearful feelings are often pretty small and they tend come and go. You have processed much of that inner tension and resistance.
So you are now at a good point to start focusing on why you want to move towards what you have feared and to open your mind to what you can find out there.
Take out the pen and paper and ask yourself:
  • What is the opportunity in this situation?
  • What are the potential upsides I want and can have by taking these actions?
  • What are the potential upsides in one year if I start moving on this path? And in five years?
  • And how will life be in five years if I continue on the path I am now?
The answer when it comes to what you eat for lunch or if you want to have a new hobby may simply be that life becomes more fun, healthy, fulfilling and filled with newness and more surprises.
The answer when it comes to taking action to make a date happen, to get a new job or to take another direction in college could be that your life changes completely.
5. Take a small step forward. Take it slowly if you like.

You don't have to go all in at once in many cases. Think about how you can move in small steps and slowly towards what you want. Just dip your toes in at first if that feels more comfortable. The most important thing is that you start moving and that you take action, not how fast or how much action you take at first.
If you for example want to start your own business work on that in the evening while still working at your day job or staying in school. Don't let thinking like "I have to go all in and take huge risks" hold you back.
Or if you want to try something new today just tell yourself that:
Just for today I will try [insert something you want to try]!
You just have to do it today. Not ever again after today. You are not signing up for some huge commitment.
Tomorrow you may continue on that new path. Or you may not.
By not making this into a huge thing you have do but instead just a small step, that you can take and get done as slowly as you like, it becomes so much easier to do what is most important at first: to put yourself in motion.
Then, along the way, you can take bigger leaps if you like and speed things up. You will learn through successes and failures (and realize that you won't die if things don't go your way all the time). You will quit some things and continue doing other things.
But first, make it easy on yourself to take the first step.
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Story: Know your Value

!!! Know your Value !!!

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a Rupee 500 note. In the room of 200,
He asked, "Who would like this Rupee 500 note?"

Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this."

He proceeded to crumple the note up.

He then asked, "Who still wants it?"

Still the hands were up in the air.

"Well," he replied, "What if I do this?"

And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty.

"Now who still wants it?"

Still the hands went into the air.

"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson.

No matter what I did to the money.

You still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth Rupee 500/-.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen.

Never lose your value.

You are special. Don't ever forget it! Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams.


Contradictory words combined :)

(1) Clearly Misunderstood

(2) Exact Estimate

(3) Small Crowd

(4) Act Naturally

(5) Found Missing

(6) Fully Empty

(7) Pretty Ugly

(8) Seriously Funny

(9) Only Choice

(10) Original Copies

(11) Happily Married

If You Want To be Strong

If you want to be strong, be patient, thoughtful and understanding. Anyone can be rude, but it takes real strength to be kind and polite.

If you want to be strong, be persistent. Enduring strength does not come in an instant, but is steadily built over time.
If you want to be strong, get in the habit of taking action. The strongest people are those who act while others only talk or wish.
If you want to be strong, be humble. Put your focus on doing, rather than worrying about getting credit.
If you want to be strong, be joyful. When you enjoy what you're doing, you are far more effective.
If you want to be strong, be yourself. The real strength you have is in the authentic person you are.

Importance of Communication in Life

New born cannot communicate verbally but the mother can always understand what's the new born wants to communicate, this shows what? If you have luv towards the person or wants to understand what other person wants to convey, you can always understand.

As small kids we always communicate in different way, but every way of communicating is only to show to parents that we kids need your attention.

As we move to school, we communicate to our friends, always in different moods or ways, just to show that we care, even in our mischievous moods we kids tell our frnds we care for them .some fights, some verbal, all way to communicate to show that I am not going to compromise with you if you are going to behave with me like this. NEXT DAY AGAIN WE KIDS BECOME FRNDS,THIS ATTITUDE WE GROWNUP MUST NOT LEAVE TILL WE THE END OF LIFE, BECAUSE IT'S THE ESSENCE OF LIFE AND ESSENCE OF COMMUNICATION PROTOCOL.

In adolescence we people mostly don't have a aim what we are going to achive in life, so here, communicating with parents and teachers are important.( see everyone of us cannot become doctor ,engineer or a national level player) but proper guidance from parents and teachers can lead us to a good career choice as they are the one who had seen us growing.

Then we get the job, most people work hard and enjoy hard too nowadays, its my life attitude's firmly believe that people who takes its my life attitude have firm faith on themselves and their parents, and if you have not ,then take out some time to communicate to seniors and parents to have a good future sure shot.( see everyone cannot become a captain of national team or can become a CEO of a company- but planning can lead to good future sure shot). Some fall in love and some give importance to career, even falling in love requires lots of communicating skill,one should not lead a life where he or she dint find someone interesting .that makes life more comfortable & pleasant.

We get married, some people have a blissful married life. some people don't ,but even we should not let our hopes down about our counter parts, communicate till all issues settle down or when the issues have no solution, lead life for your kids and occupy yourselves to your work or any another hobbies which gives some peace of mind to you. also communicate with yourself as much as possible, so that every frustration just peeps out from mind. Don't take any step which will further aggravate the situation. life is to live and thus live even partially though not fully.

As we become father or mother, we wants to give our kids every possible things which we felt deprived in our kids days, now in the process we push our kids too hard to achieve something which even the kids didn't like, so have a proper communication to kids, what's likes and dislikes ,then we must push them for something.

In the mid career level, we sometimes frustrate as things in our career .married life r social circle dint move as per our wishes. now this is time to talk to ourselves, communicate much to urself .

As we grow old ,we must communicate to everyone whomsoever comes into our arena about the life experience .so that everyone get benefit from our life long experience.

See we all cannot be great people, we will always have a life full with ups and down but small acts from ourselves can give us fruitful things in life. At least some good sleep and a peace of mind. Work hard and strive for a better life not for yourself but also for others. Serve the needy; enjoy the mother earths beauty and communicate with people or with yourself for some moments in a day;
And above all remember God at SEVERAL times a day.


Top Most Expensive Phones

11. Ulysse Nardin's The Chairman – up to $49,500

The Chairman by Ulysse Nardin is the world's most expensive Android smartphone, and includes both a touch screen and a physical number pad. The Ulysse Nardin name is most often associated with luxury watches and that fact shows in the Chairman's sophisticated design. The volume controls look like watch buttons and the crown between them can actually be wound to generate power for the device. In fact, the phone features a kinetic rotor power system visible through the backplate.
10. Nokia 8800 Arte with pink diamonds – $134,000

Designed by Peter Aloisson, this solid 18k white gold phone features over 680 pink and white brilliant cut diamonds totaling over 21.5 carats. Some of the phone's features are a 3.15 MP camera with autofocus and video, a music player, Bluetooth and voice memo.
9. Peter Aloisson's iPhone Princess Plus – $176,400

The Princess Plus got its name from the Princess cut used on 138 of the 318 diamonds on its surface. The other 180 diamonds on the phone were brilliant-cut. In total, the phone has 17.75 carats of diamonds set in 18k white gold around its rim. The iPhone Princess Plus is worth $176,400 while the somewhat more pedestrian "Brilliants only" version sold for $66,150.
8. Sony Ericsson Black Diamond – $300,000

The price of this phone comes from actual state of the art technology instead of a bunch of shiny rocks—but that doesn't mean it lacks visual appeal. OLED technology underneath the polycarbonate skin that covers the phones entire face gives the 4 megapixel screen a borderless look. The mirror finish gives the phone a sleek, futuristic look.
7. Vertu Signature Cobra – $310,000

This gaudy phone is so exclusive that only eight will ever be made. Designed by French jeweler Boucheron, the Signature Cobra is made with two diamonds, two emeralds and 439 rubies. For buyers who are only filthy rich, rather than obscenely rich, twenty-six of the less flashy (read: no rubies) Signature Python phones will be available for a mere $115,000. Both phones will feature the real draw—they have frikkin' snakes on them. Awesome.
6. Gresso Luxor Las Vegas Jackpot – $1 million

This ultra-exclusive phone, limited to only three units, truly lives up to its name. Not only is it extraordinarily expensive, but its Egypt-inspired design will look right at home in the hands of a Vegas high-roller. The phone features 45.5 carats of black diamonds decorating the bezel and a back panel made from 200-year-old African blackwood—the most expensive wood in the world. As if that weren't enough to ensure the Jackpot a place among the world's most expensive mobile phones, each key is cut from a hand-polished sapphire crystal. All of these luxurious materials are set in a 180-gram solid gold frame.
5. The Diamond Crypto Smartphone – $1.3 million

Created by luxury accessory producer Peter Aloisson of Moscow-based JSC Ancort, this luxury smartphone's price stems from the platinum body, the cover adorned with 50 diamonds—including eight that are rare blue diamonds. Additionally, the Ancort logo and the navigation key are made of 18k rose gold. Built on the Windows CE, this expensive cell also features a high-resolution color TFT display and a 256 bit cryptographic algorithm. This expensive mobile phone features SMS, MMS, E-mail and Internet capability, WAP, JAVA support and even a media player.
4. GoldVish 'Le Million' Piece Unique – $1.3 million

Guinness World Records certified GoldVish SA's 'Le Million' Piece Unique on January 29th, 2008. The Geneva-based luxury communications company's expensive mobile phone was designed by Emmanuel Gueit as an addition to the Illusion Collection. The phone is made of 18k white gold and set with 20 carats of VVS1 (only microscopically flawed) diamonds. The phone also features Bluetooth, 2 GB of storage, FM radio, a digital camera and MP3 playback. This expensive cell phone is available only by special order.
3. Peter Aloisson's Kings Button iPhone – $2.4 million

The Kings Button iPhone is, surprisingly, a jewel-bedecked iPhone. This time, however, Aloisson had the iPhone 3G to play with—and, apparently, a bit of a bigger budget. One hundred and thirty-eight brilliant-cut diamonds line the sides of the phone, but the real prize is the home button—a rare 6.6 carat white diamond.
2. Goldstriker iPhone 3GS Supreme – $3.2 million

Stuart Hughes of Goldstriker International is known for giving luxury devices such as phones and video game consoles the "Supreme" treatment—covering them with gold and diamonds—and the iPhone is no exception. The iPhone 3GS Supreme features a casing made from 271 grams of solid 22k gold and a screen trimmed with fifty-three 1-carat diamonds. The home button is covered with a single rare 7.1-carat diamond. That's not all, though—the iPhone 3GS Supreme comes in a chest carved from a single block of granite and sports Kashmir gold and an interior lining made with Nubuck top grain leather.
1. Stuart Hughes iPhone 4 Diamond Rose Edition – $8 million

If you thought his iPhone 3GS Supreme was impressive, check out the latest iPhone from Stuart Hughes–the iPhone 4 Diamond Rose Edition. Hughes has recreated the infamous antenna band that wraps around the sides of the latest iPhone, as well as the backplate, using rose gold. The band is adorned with 100 carats of flawless diamonds, and the Apple logo is formed with fifty-three more diamonds. Once again, the home button gets the most love–it's made of platinum and features a rare 7.4-carat pink diamond.
The phone comes in an imperial pink 7-kilogram chest cut from a single block of granite and lined with nubuck top-grain leather. It also comes with an 8-carat flawless diamond that can be used in place of the pink one.