Dealing with Emotionally Hyper Minds







By Junaid Tahir

Usama Rauf is a nice friend of mine. He is known as Foodopedia (Food Wikipedia) amongst us as he is the most authentic source for Dubai restaurants reviews J.  Recently we went for lunch at Gazebo restaurant upon Usama's recommendation. This was overall a very nice experience because of the great food quality, lavish taste and restaurant environment. The table mat was a noticeable thing on which several quotations and one-liner-jokes were printed for the amusements of restaurant customers. One quote was "Never argue with an idiot as he would bring you down to his level and beat you with his experience J". Later in the evening, I thought that if at any time I am stuck in a situation where I have to deal with an idiot then how would I handle him. Before I share my thoughts on this, here is the Wikipedia definition of an idiot "An idiot, dolt, or dullard is a mentally deficient person, or someone who acts in a self-defeating or significantly counterproductive way".

Well, when you are stuck in a situation when you don't like the person you are talking to, please carefully analyze the person whether he is really a mentally/emotionally hyper person? May be your judgment about the person is not correct and he is Mr. Nice in someone else's opinion. Read my article on "How to judge others". If your judgment is correct, here are some suggestions you can consider:

1-      Try to avoid sensitive subjects such as politics, casts, religion etc.
2-      If you don't like any comment from such person, no need to be explosive. An explosive person is the one who immediately reacts at any situation or violation he/she observes whereas an Implosive person is the one who is patient and strives for peace. Read my detailed article on the concept of "Explosive and Implosive Personalities"
3-      Avoid any kind of criticism on anything as this will add fuel to fire.
4-      If the debate gets heated and the person starts shouting, don't react to that. Remember if you throw a stone in mud, your clothes will be dirty as well. Be calm. Walk away silently and don't take it personally. Consider the concept of Law of Garbage Truck. When you stop taking things personally you gain a great amount of freedom because you become immune to these peace stealers. 

Develop the skill of effective communication as this is the de-facto key to success. Your real communication skills come in to play more when you deal with emotionally/mentally hyper people. Your ethics are your real wealth, don't lose your wealth at any cost.
By the way, if you happen to visit Dubai, please do try "The Legendary Dum Biryani" and "Raan-e-Sikandari" at Gazebo restaurant J

Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management at his personal blog. . He is reachable at mjunaidtahir@gmail.com for any kind of suggestions and comments.

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